December 2, 2024 • 28 mins
In this episode of the Self-Realized Podcast, join me, Linton Bergsen, as I explain how mastering the art of engagement, response, and follow-through can be the key to a fulfilling life. You'll discover the transformative power of being fully present in various situations and learn about a simple five-star evaluation process to illuminate your level of commitment. I’ll guide you through enhancing your ability to respond meaningfully rather than react impulsively, fostering self-realization and deeper understanding.
You'll uncover the often-overlooked importance of follow-through in your quest for a more enriched life.
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Linton Bergsen (00:01):
Welcome to the Self-Realized Podcast with
Linton Bergsen, where you willshatter your limits.
I am not much into theself-help industry as much as
I'm into the self-realizedindividual, which is you, what
matters most to you, how you getthere and the obstacles that
may be in your way.
If you would like to be part ofthis podcast and part of that
(00:22):
discussion, I welcome you herewith an open heart, open mind
and open arms.
So, without further ado, let'sget on with the podcast.
I would like to thank you verymuch for taking the time out of
(00:46):
your very busy day to join me ontoday's episode, number 86
Three Unexpected Keys toUnlocking a Fulfilling Life,
which obviously something thatwe all want to have.
But how do you actually achievethat?
What are the three keys thatwould allow you to move forward
(01:08):
in this life in a much morefulfilling way, which is
obviously something that we allwant?
One of the things we don'talways understand about life
certainly I've learned it in myown life is that when we go
forward step by step, every day,into this life and anticipate
the positive energies that wewant to have manifest in our
(01:31):
lives, the first key tounderstanding what can help you
toward living a more fulfillinglife is the power of engagement.
Why would I suggest that to you?
A lot of times we are not fullyengaged in life and if you are
not fully engaged in what youare doing and committed to what
(01:53):
you are doing, it is going toaffect your life on so many
different levels.
Contemplate on this for amoment.
Is it possible for you to befulfilled in anything that you
are not fully engaged in?
Sometimes we don't even realizethat we are not fully engaged.
We are half-heartedly doingsomething.
We are not engaging ourselvesin our work, in our commitments
(02:16):
to what we have set out to do.
So it is a very self-awareprocess of being aware whether
you're pursuing spiritual goals,religious goals, professional
goals, whether you're looking toincrease your workout or look
at your diet.
You could look at all thesedifferent areas that you have
set goals in and you can beginto make a very comprehensive
(02:39):
list and reflect on that listand use a five-star process.
That is what I do sometimes formyself.
I use a five-star process tosay, well, am I fully engaged in
all of these areas?
And if I'm not fully engaged,then where do I need to improve?
For example, if you werelooking at your spiritual life
(03:01):
and you don't feel that you arespending enough time in
meditation or you are notgetting enough alone time.
You may rate that two out offive stars, because I use five
as the highest and then you wantto begin to look at how would
you create more time formeditation and you simply
continue going through each areaof your life and create the
(03:26):
changes that you need to tocreate what it is that you would
like to have, and you do thatperiodically.
You could do it weekly, youcould do it monthly, whatever
works for you.
But I strongly suggest that youtrack yourself regularly so you
don't allow yourself to get toofar off track and keep yourself
(03:50):
in the mindset and in the spacethat you need to to keep
yourself fully engagedeffectively in each area of your
life to get the ongoing resultsthat you would like to have.
I am a firm believer that youneed to track what you're doing
in life so you can measure yourresults.
That is a very strongsuggestion that I would give you
(04:12):
, because I know that when Ibegin to look at my life in
detail and I begin to measure byengagement and that process
that I've just given you, it isseriously a very strong
eye-opener and I have adjustedmy goals and the way that I've
just given you.
It is seriously a very strongeye-opener and I have adjusted
my goals and the way that I'veapproached my life by using this
engagement process.
(04:32):
That's what I call it.
Once you understand whatengagement really means to you
personally, you will understandhow that contributes to leading
a very fulfilling life.
For example, if you go out intothe world and you don't really
engage people or you don't beginto have an engagement with the
(04:53):
surroundings around youespecially if you're in nature
walking around you are missing alot of the interactions that
you can have with those people,with nature, with just life in
general, because you are notengaged in the energy that is
being provided when you are inthose environments.
(05:14):
People have energy, nature hasenergy, food has energy, life
has energy.
So being self-aware and beingengaged simply means this you
are not absentmindedly going outinto the world on a day-to-day
basis.
If you engage an individual,you are present, you are
(05:36):
listening and you are veryinterested in what they have to
say as well as your contribution.
When you are engaged, you arepresent, you're not drifting,
your mind is not thinking aboutsomething else or what you're
going to say.
You are present in the moment,engaged fully with what is going
(05:56):
on.
If you're talking with someoneand you're listening intently
and you're not thinking aboutwhat you're going to say next,
you are engaged in their energy.
They will feel that they willbe aware of you.
That helps you on so manydifferent levels.
If you're involved in sales, ifyou're involved in wanting to
build a relationship with people, personal or professional, that
(06:18):
is a magnetic force withinitself.
Engagement allows you to bemagnetic.
It allows you to have a solidconnection, whether you're
dealing with an email or you'redealing with text messages, or
you're dealing with people inperson.
Engaging people, reading thingscarefully before you send out a
(06:38):
text and respond not reactrespond is all part of
engagement.
Looking at an email, reading itcarefully, absorbing the
content of what that person mayhave written to you that is an
engagement in the email processas well as when you are
personally in front of people.
So you have a one, two, threepunch going on here.
(07:00):
In today's world that we live in, with social media and personal
engagement, as well as Zoom andevery other video format that
we have now, what's the mostimportant thing that you are
aware of is that in everyprocess that you are involved in
, when you're dealing withpeople, you are engaged.
Doesn't make any differencewhether it's on Zoom, whether
(07:23):
it's text messaging, whether itis email.
People know when you haven'tread that email or that text
message with as much attentionto the detail and the tone of
the message because, forwhatever reason you may have
been distracted, you weren'tengaged fully.
But people know when you arejust reacting to what was
(07:46):
written.
People know when you arereacting to what was said
because you're not fully engagedin what has been presented to
you.
If you take that one stepfurther and you look at your
life whether it's in meditationor whether it is walking in
nature, your spiritual food,your religious sustenance, so to
speak, whatever you find theGod force or the conscious
(08:08):
living experience that you wantto have at a different level of
everyday life and what I mean bythat is your spiritual
practices you have to be fullyengaged in what you're doing.
Meditation is not anabsent-minded process is not an
absent-minded process.
It is a process that allows youto be fully engaged in the
presence of what it is thatyou're trying to accomplish.
(08:32):
So let me ask you this If yougo into meditation
absent-mindedly, if you go intomeditation without an idea of
what you're trying to engagewith, what do you think the
results will be?
Ask yourself that aboutanything.
If you go into any process inlife without knowing what is the
(08:56):
result that you're looking for,how engaged can you possibly be
?
Let's take an example of walkingin nature.
That requires you to be engagedin the environment that you're
in to understand that whenyou're walking in nature, are
you just seeing a tree or areyou engaged?
Are you engaged in the processof experiencing the tree?
(09:19):
What I mean by that is do youunderstand and can you begin to
look at the tree as more thanjust that?
It is more than just a tree.
It has different subtleties toit.
It has different hues andcolors to the bark, to the
leaves, to the veins in theleaves, to the shape of each
leaf.
(09:40):
If you begin to look at the treein nature, or look at anything
around you in nature, whetherit's mountains or ocean, there
is an engagement in that process, in that particular moment,
that allows you to have a deeperexperience.
That's what engagement allowsyou to do.
It allows you to have a muchdeeper experience than most
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people, who are not alwaysengaging life at the deepest
level, so they're missing out ona large part of the information
that is available to them.
But once you've engagedsomething and you've looked at
the details of it whether it's aperson, whether it's a tree,
whether it's just a casualconversation, whether it's a
(10:23):
tree, whether it's just a casualconversation you are now in the
position to apply key numbertwo for living a fulfilling life
, which is to respondeffectively to what you have
engaged.
Initially, because you have gotthe right details and
information, and responding tosomething is different than
(10:48):
reacting to it.
A response allows you to followup on the engagement that you
made, because when you're fullyengaged you can have a
meaningful response.
You can have a meaningfulresponse If it's nature be very
aware of how your spirit hasresponded to the experience.
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You've had your internalawareness.
If you're speaking with aperson and you understood what
they were saying, you're engagedin a conversation.
You had a two-way conversation.
Your response will be totallydifferent than if you were
absentmindedly, half-heartedly,listening to what they were
saying.
(11:30):
Looking at your life from theperspective of engagement and
response changes the dynamic ofyour life and how fulfilled your
life will be.
Having a fulfilled life meansyou are present and that you are
able to focus in the moment onwhat is going on.
Engagement and response requirefull focus.
(11:51):
For a meaningful engagement andresponse, essentially, what
you're trying to do is to bepresent in the moment without a
wandering mind.
That allows you to havefulfillment in life because,
energetically, you begin to feelfulfilled within yourself as
you engage in the right way withthe right process.
(12:12):
What that means to you is thatyou are participating in life at
a much deeper level than if youwere just participating at a
mundane surface level.
Look at engagement and responsefrom this perspective and I
strongly suggest that you thinkabout this and do so because it
will change the course of yourlife.
(12:32):
It's changed the course of mylife because it's not about what
it is that I want.
That's always the mostimportant thing.
It's what other people want andwhat I want, which comes
together to make a synergisticapproach to life which then
creates a reality of fulfillment.
It can never be a one-waystreet.
(12:53):
So engagement and response arecritical factors for you getting
what you want, because peopledo things for their own reasons
and when you engage people, youhave to find out what their
reasons are for doing somethingand your response is what your
reasons are, given that you aretaking into account their
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reasons as well.
That is fulfillment.
That is key one and two,because without those two
synergistically working togetheras an effective approach in
your life, what can you reallyaccomplish?
Ultimately, we all want to be ina space that we feel fulfilled.
We have to look at it.
(13:34):
You have to look at it in myopinion, perspective of how
effectively are you and I,moving through this world, aware
of the environments and thepeople and the circumstances
that we are engaging andresponding with?
(13:56):
It is a profound awareness,because engagement and response
are 95% of our existence.
When you look at working withanimals and I say this because
animals are very aware of howyou engage and how they respond,
(14:16):
because both of those areenergies If you have a pet, a
cat, a dog, you will understandthis very profoundly engagement
and response.
Trust is engagement andresponse, love is engagement and
response.
Everything we do is pivoting offhow we understand those
(14:38):
concepts deeply within ourspirit, within our psyche,
within our mind and as aself-realized individual,
because ultimately, theself-realized individual is
always on that premise, on thatpoint within themselves that
says how is this operatinginternally?
(14:58):
So it affects my lifeexternally?
That is self-realization at itscore.
It means that you understand,as I've mentioned in many
previous episodes, that yourintuition, your internal compass
, your spiritual awareness, yourGod-given gifts, your ability
to understand who and what youtruly are, which is pure spirit,
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allows you to engage andrespond in life in a very
different way.
The self-realized individual isalways going internally, first
to ask the deeper questionsabout life and then, from a
self-realized perspective, isunderstanding within themselves?
Okay, everything that I need tomanifest outwardly comes from
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me internally.
So ask yourself this questionare you being self-realized
enough to question yourengagement and question your
response and then question howit is that those two are
interacting and interplaying andinterfacing in your life to get
the results that you would like.
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If you're not seeing the resultsyou would like, you might want
to change key number one andthen key number two, obviously
engagement and response, whichleads me into key number three
for a very fulfilling life.
If you have the engagement andthe response process down
effectively, with meaning andwith your compass pointing true
(16:32):
north, then you are ready tomove into the third stage, the
third key for your fulfillinglife, which is follow through.
Most people in my experiencefail Not because they didn't
engage hopefully correctly andnot because they didn't respond
(16:55):
once again, hopefully correctly.
It's because there was nofollow through.
And let me explain how followthrough works and how I have
applied it in my life, so thatyou can begin to understand
where I'm coming from, as I giveyou the final key to this
process.
Follow through is difficultbecause when you begin to follow
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through on key number one andkey number two engagement and
response you might find out thatyou receive rejection.
There's not a response back toyou immediately because we have
followed through with people andthat can be, as I'm sure you're
aware of, very difficult to getthe responses that we would
(17:43):
like.
You are aware of very difficultto get the responses that we
would like.
Sometimes, in this life that welive, the response that we get
when we follow through isrejection.
Sometimes we don't always getthe response that we thought we
would like and in this world ofsocial media, you know, you can
have 5,000 likes and one dislikeand you're focusing on the
(18:04):
dislike rather than all thepositive likes that you have.
This is just the state that welive in, sometimes within our
own psyche, but theself-realized individual is not
interested in that.
They're not really interestedfor themselves about what the
response is going to be to theirfollow-through.
And that has to be you.
You have to follow through fromyour own authenticity and your
(18:26):
own integrity, because you'vegathered the correct information
from the initial two keys,which was engagement, and you
responded, and then you listenedto the responses and you were
aware of what was going on.
So you are now followingthrough from all of this very
powerful positive energy thatyou have engaged.
(18:48):
How people respond to you whenyou follow through is not going
to deter you from moving forwardcontinually with positive
expectancy.
If you fail once, then you tryagain and you follow through and
you follow through, becausefailure is lack of follow
(19:10):
through.
95% of the time.
You may have to follow throughtwo, three, four, five times in
anything you do in order to getthe response, positive or
negative, that you're looking toachieve and accomplish.
You, me, everyone, is dealingwith different personalities,
(19:32):
different people who havedifferent objectives than you do
, different places they'recoming from in life, different
childhood experiences, differentfeelings they have about the
way you may look, the way youmay sound, the way you may
present yourself so manydifferent parameters going on.
I understand that.
You understand that as aself-realized individual, you
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are aware of that and honestly,it is basic common sense.
Lack of follow-through,consistent follow-through with
information that you havereceived is going to be the
major reason why you don'tsucceed in life.
Do not give up if you don't getthe responses from the
engagements that you madeimmediately and do not be
(20:18):
concerned about what otherpeople are thinking of you.
I cover that in episode number83,.
Why Do you Fail your Setbacksto Success?
One of the important things tounderstand about responding.
A lot of people will saythey're going to text you back.
They may say they're going tocall you back, email you,
(20:41):
whatever their preference is toengage with you again.
A lot of times people don'tgoing to call you back, email
you whatever their preference isto engage with you again.
A lot of times people don't.
They don't text, they don'tfollow up, they don't follow
through.
Understand this the power of you, the power of a really truly
fulfilling life, really lies inthe power of your follow through
.
People say I have a very strongfollow-through.
(21:05):
That's okay.
I would rather be known forhaving a strong follow-through
than having none at all.
At least, I know that.
I follow through as far as Icould go.
You have to know when to stop.
You have to know when you'rebeing a nuisance.
You have to know all of thesethings, but that is the reason.
You are self-realized, that'sthe self-realized individual
(21:26):
operating at the optimalcapacity within themselves.
Because they are, you are, I am, we are designed to be
intuitively receptive to what weneed to do, for how long and
what intensity.
Learning how to use thisinformation correctly is part of
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all of our journeys mine, yoursIn applying the three keys that
I've mentioned in this episodeengagement, response and
follow-up and follow-through.
Those two go together on aconsistent basis, running the
experiments on each one of thoseevery day, seeing how each one
(22:13):
interplays and affects the other.
Learning to really practiceengagement and response and
follow through.
It's habits, basically, thatyou are establishing, that you
are going to apply and hone,ongoing every day.
(22:34):
Start out small in aconversation with one of your
friends or people that you trustfamily members Really practice
engagement and response andfollow-up and follow-through,
but don't tell them you're doingthat.
They will realize forthemselves the difference in you
, in how you are approachingthem, and if you do this long
(22:59):
enough and often enough, peoplewill mention to you you know you
seem to be a different person,you seem to be doing something
differently in your life.
They will feel differentlyabout you.
Much more importantly, you willfeel differently about you.
You will feel more fulfilled inyour life.
(23:29):
Fulfilled in your life becauseexchanging energy at a mutual
level and being interested inother people as well as yourself
makes you feel fulfilled,because you are participating in
life, actively participating byengaging at a mutual level, and
this includes you being innature, you closing your eyes in
(23:52):
meditation.
It's about a shared experiencebetween you and nature and, in
meditation, between you andyourself or spirit or whatever
it is that you choose to believe.
Isn't that true?
It's about participation.
It's about understanding thatyou are not an island, that
(24:19):
everything and everyone isengaging with you 24-7, whether
you understand it consciously ornot.
The self-realized individual isalways consciously aware of
what is going on, and you are aself-realized, conscious, aware
(24:43):
individual.
One thing that I suggest verystrongly that you become very
aware of is what you engage infirst thing in the morning.
If you engage in social mediafirst thing in the morning and
there's any negative socialmedia.
There's anything there that youare involving yourself with and
(25:07):
in that would cause you to givea negative response and thereby
start the flow of negativefollow-through, a negative
follow-up, anything that'scausing negativity that you are
engaging in first thing in themorning.
Remove it.
Whatever you engage in firstthing when you wake up, make
(25:29):
sure it's positive, positiveengagement, positive response,
positive follow-up first thing.
That may mean that you don'treach for your phone or social
media first thing in the morning.
Engage with yourself, engagewith the spirit within yourself.
(25:51):
Give yourself a positiveaffirmation.
Spend some time in thatself-reflective engagement mode
that is singly the mostimportant engagement that you
can have with yourself every day.
Put it on your calendar andschedule that the first five
minutes of your day is all aboutyou and what makes you feel
(26:13):
good.
The most important person youwill ever engage with on an
ongoing, everyday basis is you.
Everyday basis is you.
You, me, all of us are in aconstant state of engagement
with something, someone, socialmedia, life in general.
(26:38):
All the time.
Be careful of how and what youengage with, how you respond and
how you follow through, becauseunderstanding the complexities
(27:00):
and the range of those threekeys that I've given you today
is going to be the outcome ofyour life and everything that
happens to you.
And when you understand that atits deepest core level, you
begin to understand the power ofunlocking the three unexpected
keys to your fulfilling life.
(27:21):
To your fulfilling life Becauseonce you've unlocked them and
you are aware of them, can youpossibly imagine all the doors
that now will be open to youthat were never there before?
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(27:43):
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I look forward to connectingwith you very soon and take good
care of yourself.
Welcome to the Self-Realized Podcast with
Linton Bergsen, where you willshatter your limits.
I am not much into theself-help industry as much as
I'm into the self-realizedindividual, which is you, what
matters most to you, how you getthere and the obstacles that
may be in your way.
If you would like to be part ofthis podcast and part of that
(00:22):
discussion, I welcome you herewith an open heart, open mind
and open arms.
So, without further ado, let'sget on with the podcast.
I would like to thank you verymuch for taking the time out of
(00:46):
your very busy day to join me ontoday's episode, number 86
Three Unexpected Keys toUnlocking a Fulfilling Life,
which obviously something thatwe all want to have.
But how do you actually achievethat?
What are the three keys thatwould allow you to move forward
(01:08):
in this life in a much morefulfilling way, which is
obviously something that we allwant?
One of the things we don'talways understand about life
certainly I've learned it in myown life is that when we go
forward step by step, every day,into this life and anticipate
the positive energies that wewant to have manifest in our
(01:31):
lives, the first key tounderstanding what can help you
toward living a more fulfillinglife is the power of engagement.
Why would I suggest that to you?
A lot of times we are not fullyengaged in life and if you are
not fully engaged in what youare doing and committed to what
(01:53):
you are doing, it is going toaffect your life on so many
different levels.
Contemplate on this for amoment.
Is it possible for you to befulfilled in anything that you
are not fully engaged in?
Sometimes we don't even realizethat we are not fully engaged.
We are half-heartedly doingsomething.
We are not engaging ourselvesin our work, in our commitments
(02:16):
to what we have set out to do.
So it is a very self-awareprocess of being aware whether
you're pursuing spiritual goals,religious goals, professional
goals, whether you're looking toincrease your workout or look
at your diet.
You could look at all thesedifferent areas that you have
set goals in and you can beginto make a very comprehensive
(02:39):
list and reflect on that listand use a five-star process.
That is what I do sometimes formyself.
I use a five-star process tosay, well, am I fully engaged in
all of these areas?
And if I'm not fully engaged,then where do I need to improve?
For example, if you werelooking at your spiritual life
(03:01):
and you don't feel that you arespending enough time in
meditation or you are notgetting enough alone time.
You may rate that two out offive stars, because I use five
as the highest and then you wantto begin to look at how would
you create more time formeditation and you simply
continue going through each areaof your life and create the
(03:26):
changes that you need to tocreate what it is that you would
like to have, and you do thatperiodically.
You could do it weekly, youcould do it monthly, whatever
works for you.
But I strongly suggest that youtrack yourself regularly so you
don't allow yourself to get toofar off track and keep yourself
(03:50):
in the mindset and in the spacethat you need to to keep
yourself fully engagedeffectively in each area of your
life to get the ongoing resultsthat you would like to have.
I am a firm believer that youneed to track what you're doing
in life so you can measure yourresults.
That is a very strongsuggestion that I would give you
(04:12):
, because I know that when Ibegin to look at my life in
detail and I begin to measure byengagement and that process
that I've just given you, it isseriously a very strong
eye-opener and I have adjustedmy goals and the way that I've
just given you.
It is seriously a very strongeye-opener and I have adjusted
my goals and the way that I'veapproached my life by using this
engagement process.
(04:32):
That's what I call it.
Once you understand whatengagement really means to you
personally, you will understandhow that contributes to leading
a very fulfilling life.
For example, if you go out intothe world and you don't really
engage people or you don't beginto have an engagement with the
(04:53):
surroundings around youespecially if you're in nature
walking around you are missing alot of the interactions that
you can have with those people,with nature, with just life in
general, because you are notengaged in the energy that is
being provided when you are inthose environments.
(05:14):
People have energy, nature hasenergy, food has energy, life
has energy.
So being self-aware and beingengaged simply means this you
are not absentmindedly going outinto the world on a day-to-day
basis.
If you engage an individual,you are present, you are
(05:36):
listening and you are veryinterested in what they have to
say as well as your contribution.
When you are engaged, you arepresent, you're not drifting,
your mind is not thinking aboutsomething else or what you're
going to say.
You are present in the moment,engaged fully with what is going
(05:56):
on.
If you're talking with someoneand you're listening intently
and you're not thinking aboutwhat you're going to say next,
you are engaged in their energy.
They will feel that they willbe aware of you.
That helps you on so manydifferent levels.
If you're involved in sales, ifyou're involved in wanting to
build a relationship with people, personal or professional, that
(06:18):
is a magnetic force withinitself.
Engagement allows you to bemagnetic.
It allows you to have a solidconnection, whether you're
dealing with an email or you'redealing with text messages, or
you're dealing with people inperson.
Engaging people, reading thingscarefully before you send out a
(06:38):
text and respond not reactrespond is all part of
engagement.
Looking at an email, reading itcarefully, absorbing the
content of what that person mayhave written to you that is an
engagement in the email processas well as when you are
personally in front of people.
So you have a one, two, threepunch going on here.
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In today's world that we live in, with social media and personal
engagement, as well as Zoom andevery other video format that
we have now, what's the mostimportant thing that you are
aware of is that in everyprocess that you are involved in
, when you're dealing withpeople, you are engaged.
Doesn't make any differencewhether it's on Zoom, whether
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it's text messaging, whether itis email.
People know when you haven'tread that email or that text
message with as much attentionto the detail and the tone of
the message because, forwhatever reason you may have
been distracted, you weren'tengaged fully.
But people know when you arejust reacting to what was
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written.
People know when you arereacting to what was said
because you're not fully engagedin what has been presented to
you.
If you take that one stepfurther and you look at your
life whether it's in meditationor whether it is walking in
nature, your spiritual food,your religious sustenance, so to
speak, whatever you find theGod force or the conscious
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living experience that you wantto have at a different level of
everyday life and what I mean bythat is your spiritual
practices you have to be fullyengaged in what you're doing.
Meditation is not anabsent-minded process is not an
absent-minded process.
It is a process that allows youto be fully engaged in the
presence of what it is thatyou're trying to accomplish.
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So let me ask you this If yougo into meditation
absent-mindedly, if you go intomeditation without an idea of
what you're trying to engagewith, what do you think the
results will be?
Ask yourself that aboutanything.
If you go into any process inlife without knowing what is the
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result that you're looking for,how engaged can you possibly be
?
Let's take an example of walkingin nature.
That requires you to be engagedin the environment that you're
in to understand that whenyou're walking in nature, are
you just seeing a tree or areyou engaged?
Are you engaged in the processof experiencing the tree?
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What I mean by that is do youunderstand and can you begin to
look at the tree as more thanjust that?
It is more than just a tree.
It has different subtleties toit.
It has different hues andcolors to the bark, to the
leaves, to the veins in theleaves, to the shape of each
leaf.
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If you begin to look at the treein nature, or look at anything
around you in nature, whetherit's mountains or ocean, there
is an engagement in that process, in that particular moment,
that allows you to have a deeperexperience.
That's what engagement allowsyou to do.
It allows you to have a muchdeeper experience than most
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people, who are not alwaysengaging life at the deepest
level, so they're missing out ona large part of the information
that is available to them.
But once you've engagedsomething and you've looked at
the details of it whether it's aperson, whether it's a tree,
whether it's just a casualconversation, whether it's a
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tree, whether it's just a casualconversation you are now in the
position to apply key numbertwo for living a fulfilling life
, which is to respondeffectively to what you have
engaged.
Initially, because you have gotthe right details and
information, and responding tosomething is different than
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reacting to it.
A response allows you to followup on the engagement that you
made, because when you're fullyengaged you can have a
meaningful response.
You can have a meaningfulresponse If it's nature be very
aware of how your spirit hasresponded to the experience.
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You've had your internalawareness.
If you're speaking with aperson and you understood what
they were saying, you're engagedin a conversation.
You had a two-way conversation.
Your response will be totallydifferent than if you were
absentmindedly, half-heartedly,listening to what they were
saying.
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Looking at your life from theperspective of engagement and
response changes the dynamic ofyour life and how fulfilled your
life will be.
Having a fulfilled life meansyou are present and that you are
able to focus in the moment onwhat is going on.
Engagement and response requirefull focus.
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For a meaningful engagement andresponse, essentially, what
you're trying to do is to bepresent in the moment without a
wandering mind.
That allows you to havefulfillment in life because,
energetically, you begin to feelfulfilled within yourself as
you engage in the right way withthe right process.
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What that means to you is thatyou are participating in life at
a much deeper level than if youwere just participating at a
mundane surface level.
Look at engagement and responsefrom this perspective and I
strongly suggest that you thinkabout this and do so because it
will change the course of yourlife.
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It's changed the course of mylife because it's not about what
it is that I want.
That's always the mostimportant thing.
It's what other people want andwhat I want, which comes
together to make a synergisticapproach to life which then
creates a reality of fulfillment.
It can never be a one-waystreet.
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So engagement and response arecritical factors for you getting
what you want, because peopledo things for their own reasons
and when you engage people, youhave to find out what their
reasons are for doing somethingand your response is what your
reasons are, given that you aretaking into account their
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reasons as well.
That is fulfillment.
That is key one and two,because without those two
synergistically working togetheras an effective approach in
your life, what can you reallyaccomplish?
Ultimately, we all want to be ina space that we feel fulfilled.
We have to look at it.
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You have to look at it in myopinion, perspective of how
effectively are you and I,moving through this world, aware
of the environments and thepeople and the circumstances
that we are engaging andresponding with?
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It is a profound awareness,because engagement and response
are 95% of our existence.
When you look at working withanimals and I say this because
animals are very aware of howyou engage and how they respond,
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because both of those areenergies If you have a pet, a
cat, a dog, you will understandthis very profoundly engagement
and response.
Trust is engagement andresponse, love is engagement and
response.
Everything we do is pivoting offhow we understand those
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concepts deeply within ourspirit, within our psyche,
within our mind and as aself-realized individual,
because ultimately, theself-realized individual is
always on that premise, on thatpoint within themselves that
says how is this operatinginternally?
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So it affects my lifeexternally?
That is self-realization at itscore.
It means that you understand,as I've mentioned in many
previous episodes, that yourintuition, your internal compass
, your spiritual awareness, yourGod-given gifts, your ability
to understand who and what youtruly are, which is pure spirit,
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allows you to engage andrespond in life in a very
different way.
The self-realized individual isalways going internally, first
to ask the deeper questionsabout life and then, from a
self-realized perspective, isunderstanding within themselves?
Okay, everything that I need tomanifest outwardly comes from
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me internally.
So ask yourself this questionare you being self-realized
enough to question yourengagement and question your
response and then question howit is that those two are
interacting and interplaying andinterfacing in your life to get
the results that you would like.
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If you're not seeing the resultsyou would like, you might want
to change key number one andthen key number two, obviously
engagement and response, whichleads me into key number three
for a very fulfilling life.
If you have the engagement andthe response process down
effectively, with meaning andwith your compass pointing true
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north, then you are ready tomove into the third stage, the
third key for your fulfillinglife, which is follow through.
Most people in my experiencefail Not because they didn't
engage hopefully correctly andnot because they didn't respond
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once again, hopefully correctly.
It's because there was nofollow through.
And let me explain how followthrough works and how I have
applied it in my life, so thatyou can begin to understand
where I'm coming from, as I giveyou the final key to this
process.
Follow through is difficultbecause when you begin to follow
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through on key number one andkey number two engagement and
response you might find out thatyou receive rejection.
There's not a response back toyou immediately because we have
followed through with people andthat can be, as I'm sure you're
aware of, very difficult to getthe responses that we would
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like.
You are aware of very difficultto get the responses that we
would like.
Sometimes, in this life that welive, the response that we get
when we follow through isrejection.
Sometimes we don't always getthe response that we thought we
would like and in this world ofsocial media, you know, you can
have 5,000 likes and one dislikeand you're focusing on the
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dislike rather than all thepositive likes that you have.
This is just the state that welive in, sometimes within our
own psyche, but theself-realized individual is not
interested in that.
They're not really interestedfor themselves about what the
response is going to be to theirfollow-through.
And that has to be you.
You have to follow through fromyour own authenticity and your
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own integrity, because you'vegathered the correct information
from the initial two keys,which was engagement, and you
responded, and then you listenedto the responses and you were
aware of what was going on.
So you are now followingthrough from all of this very
powerful positive energy thatyou have engaged.
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How people respond to you whenyou follow through is not going
to deter you from moving forwardcontinually with positive
expectancy.
If you fail once, then you tryagain and you follow through and
you follow through, becausefailure is lack of follow
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through.
95% of the time.
You may have to follow throughtwo, three, four, five times in
anything you do in order to getthe response, positive or
negative, that you're looking toachieve and accomplish.
You, me, everyone, is dealingwith different personalities,
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different people who havedifferent objectives than you do
, different places they'recoming from in life, different
childhood experiences, differentfeelings they have about the
way you may look, the way youmay sound, the way you may
present yourself so manydifferent parameters going on.
I understand that.
You understand that as aself-realized individual, you
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are aware of that and honestly,it is basic common sense.
Lack of follow-through,consistent follow-through with
information that you havereceived is going to be the
major reason why you don'tsucceed in life.
Do not give up if you don't getthe responses from the
engagements that you madeimmediately and do not be
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concerned about what otherpeople are thinking of you.
I cover that in episode number83,.
Why Do you Fail your Setbacksto Success?
One of the important things tounderstand about responding.
A lot of people will saythey're going to text you back.
They may say they're going tocall you back, email you,
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whatever their preference is toengage with you again.
A lot of times people don'tgoing to call you back, email
you whatever their preference isto engage with you again.
A lot of times people don't.
They don't text, they don'tfollow up, they don't follow
through.
Understand this the power of you, the power of a really truly
fulfilling life, really lies inthe power of your follow through
.
People say I have a very strongfollow-through.
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That's okay.
I would rather be known forhaving a strong follow-through
than having none at all.
At least, I know that.
I follow through as far as Icould go.
You have to know when to stop.
You have to know when you'rebeing a nuisance.
You have to know all of thesethings, but that is the reason.
You are self-realized, that'sthe self-realized individual
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operating at the optimalcapacity within themselves.
Because they are, you are, I am, we are designed to be
intuitively receptive to what weneed to do, for how long and
what intensity.
Learning how to use thisinformation correctly is part of
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all of our journeys mine, yoursIn applying the three keys that
I've mentioned in this episodeengagement, response and
follow-up and follow-through.
Those two go together on aconsistent basis, running the
experiments on each one of thoseevery day, seeing how each one
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interplays and affects the other.
Learning to really practiceengagement and response and
follow through.
It's habits, basically, thatyou are establishing, that you
are going to apply and hone,ongoing every day.
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Start out small in aconversation with one of your
friends or people that you trustfamily members Really practice
engagement and response andfollow-up and follow-through,
but don't tell them you're doingthat.
They will realize forthemselves the difference in you
, in how you are approachingthem, and if you do this long
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enough and often enough, peoplewill mention to you you know you
seem to be a different person,you seem to be doing something
differently in your life.
They will feel differentlyabout you.
Much more importantly, you willfeel differently about you.
You will feel more fulfilled inyour life.
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Fulfilled in your life becauseexchanging energy at a mutual
level and being interested inother people as well as yourself
makes you feel fulfilled,because you are participating in
life, actively participating byengaging at a mutual level, and
this includes you being innature, you closing your eyes in
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meditation.
It's about a shared experiencebetween you and nature and, in
meditation, between you andyourself or spirit or whatever
it is that you choose to believe.
Isn't that true?
It's about participation.
It's about understanding thatyou are not an island, that
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everything and everyone isengaging with you 24-7, whether
you understand it consciously ornot.
The self-realized individual isalways consciously aware of
what is going on, and you are aself-realized, conscious, aware
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individual.
One thing that I suggest verystrongly that you become very
aware of is what you engage infirst thing in the morning.
If you engage in social mediafirst thing in the morning and
there's any negative socialmedia.
There's anything there that youare involving yourself with and
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in that would cause you to givea negative response and thereby
start the flow of negativefollow-through, a negative
follow-up, anything that'scausing negativity that you are
engaging in first thing in themorning.
Remove it.
Whatever you engage in firstthing when you wake up, make
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sure it's positive, positiveengagement, positive response,
positive follow-up first thing.
That may mean that you don'treach for your phone or social
media first thing in the morning.
Engage with yourself, engagewith the spirit within yourself.
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Give yourself a positiveaffirmation.
Spend some time in thatself-reflective engagement mode
that is singly the mostimportant engagement that you
can have with yourself every day.
Put it on your calendar andschedule that the first five
minutes of your day is all aboutyou and what makes you feel
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good.
The most important person youwill ever engage with on an
ongoing, everyday basis is you.
Everyday basis is you.
You, me, all of us are in aconstant state of engagement
with something, someone, socialmedia, life in general.
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All the time.
Be careful of how and what youengage with, how you respond and
how you follow through, becauseunderstanding the complexities
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and the range of those threekeys that I've given you today
is going to be the outcome ofyour life and everything that
happens to you.
And when you understand that atits deepest core level, you
begin to understand the power ofunlocking the three unexpected
keys to your fulfilling life.
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To your fulfilling life Becauseonce you've unlocked them and
you are aware of them, can youpossibly imagine all the doors
that now will be open to youthat were never there before?
I sincerely appreciate youlistening to the podcast.
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Please subscribe so you do notmiss any upcoming episodes.
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I would greatly appreciate it.
Any additional information onme, Linton Bergsen and my
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I look forward to connectingwith you very soon and take good
care of yourself.
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