Building Your Foundation of Self—Evolving the Underdeveloped Ego

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In this episode, we explore the underdeveloped ego—the "small s self" that keeps us playing small, doubting our worth, and resisting change. You’ll learn what the underdeveloped ego is, how it shows up as negative self-talk and impostor syndrome, and why it fears your awakening.

We'll talk about how the ego’s resistance isn’t the enemy—it’s a sign that growth is happening. Through understanding, compassion, and conscious evolution, the underdeveloped ego can mature into a developed one: a balanced, integrated self that serves your Highest purpose rather than fighting against it.

Transformation isn’t about killing the ego—it’s about teaching it to grow with you.

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Timeline:
0:00:00 – Introduction

• Rachel Astarte opens the episode, introduces the season’s theme of building a foundation of self, and presents the topic: the underdeveloped ego.

0:01:00 – What is the Underdeveloped Ego?

• Explanation of the ego’s role, referencing Carol S. Pearson.
• Introduction of the “small s self” or primitive ego and its need for validation and safety.

0:03:00 – How the Underdeveloped Ego Manifests

• Discussion of negative self-talk, imposter syndrome, anxiety, and depression as signs of the underdeveloped ego.
• Examples of how the ego tries to protect us but keeps us small.

0:06:23 – The Ego’s Deepest Fear

• The primitive ego’s fear of “obliteration” or ego death.
• How this fear leads to resistance against personal growth and awakening.

0:08:00 – Differentiating the Small Self and Highest Self

• How to recognize the voice of the underdeveloped ego versus the higher self.
• Physical and emotional cues for each.

0:09:39 – Transforming the Ego

• The goal is not to destroy the ego but to help it evolve into a balanced, developed ego.
• The developed ego as a bridge between human identity and pure consciousness.

0:10:30 – Practical Steps for Ego Development

• Awareness: noticing when the small self is speaking.
• Dialog: compassionate conversation with the ego.
• Compassionate reframing: seeing fear as a sign of growth.
• Integration: bringing moments of higher self-awareness into daily

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