February 7, 2024 • 8 mins
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Do you know your expertise?
This session dives into the art of becoming a relevant expert in your field while remaining authentically yourself.
Uncover why it's vital not to wait until everything is figured out and how discovering your niche and authenticity paves the way to success in becoming a relevant expert.
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(00:00):
Be that relevant expert to thosepeople, but also see who am I?
(00:04):
Don't try to be someone else.
Don't try to besomeone we're not.
Just find strategies and findthings that works for you.
'cause when we are being thatrelevant expert, we can take
away that imposter syndrome.
We can take away thatfeeling of not enoughness
and we can don't promisethings that you can't hold.
(00:27):
Welcome to the SensitiveSuccess Podcast, where
we explore the uniquechallenges and opportunities.
That comes with beinga sensitive changemaker
in today's world.
I'm your host, Frida Kabo,and I have spent the last
decade recreating my life.
I moved from Sweden to NewZealand and now live in the
beautiful bush with my husbandand two kids, homeschooling
(00:47):
and creating a life andbusiness that works for me with
the help of my sensitivity.
And support othersto do the same.
I'm excited to shareconversations with experts,
thought leaders, and fellowsensitive people who also
see the world throughthe lens of sensitivity.
Thank you so much forbeing here, because it
means that you're creatingsensitive success too.
(01:07):
which is preciselywhat the world needs.
Let's get started.
Hello, it's Rilakkuma here.
And today I want to talkabout a phrase that I've
heard, be a relevant expert.
And I think it's brilliant.
And I think it's so helpful.
So I wanted to shareit with you as well.
You probably heard it already,but I wanted to talk around
(01:30):
this and just give you myperspective on it and see.
Explore it a bit andsee what comes up.
So one thing that I seethat can hold people back
is that they feel likethey need to read more.
They need to learn more.
They need to be more.
They need to change.
They need to heal.
They need to like all ofthese different things they
(01:52):
need to do first beforethey can help others.
When we are looking, whenwe're tuning into that
relevant expert, we seethat, well, you've come a
bit on the road already.
You learned some things already.
You know, a lot of thingsprobably, and you can
help people right now.
So not by saying, Oh, I cansolve all your problems.
(02:16):
I can help you withthis, this fast.
But really tune into, okay,be, if I were the relevant
expert, who would I be?
So that's why I'm workingwith highly sensitive business
owners and changemakers,because I know a lot about that.
I am a highly sensitivein business and I
(02:38):
have my education.
I have done courses andI've learned a lot around
that and I know that Ican help people with it.
So that is reallyrelevant to me.
If I were to become and saythat, yeah, I'm the world's
best, uh, best guitar playerand I will help you with that.
(02:59):
Uh, that would not be reallyrelevant because yeah,
I can play the guitar alittle bit, but no, I can't
do that on that level.
So we wouldn't say that,but to say that, yeah, I
can help highly sensitivepeople because I can.
Because I know how that feels.
I know.
the struggles in business.
(03:20):
And I know that we needsupport and I know how
I would want support.
And I know that when Icreate that for others,
it really helps them too.
Yeah.
There's always more to learn.
And at the same timewe can help people.
So not everyone is going towant to have the top coach
and not everyone is going tofeel comfortable with that.
(03:43):
And not everyone isgoing to feel like.
Yeah, I'm gonna have the bestand I'm gonna have a number one
But we feel more comfortablewith having someone who's maybe
more on the same level just afew steps ahead and have figured
something Out that we feel likewe want to to figure out as well
and get some support with thatSo really be a relevant expert.
(04:05):
What would you be?
What relevantexpert would you be?
Yeah, one thing I see,especially with coaches and
when we learn a new tool,like, yeah, I'm gonna help
everyone with everything I know.
Like, I can coach anyone.
I mean, I can coach anyone.
But the more I learn, themore I know that I don't know.
(04:26):
And I don't know if you'veseen that care, but the more
we learn, the more we know,like learn about the subject,
the more we understand that wedon't know all about it because
there's so much more to learn.
And I feel like that'sthe same with tools that
we learn and same withourselves like, yeah, we can
help everyone, but we can.
be even more powerfulin specific situations.
(04:50):
And that, I feel like that'swhat niching down means.
So yeah, there's a lot oftalk about niching down
and we've been talkingabout it here as well.
But really finding Finding ourown, like, niche and finding,
be that relevant expert to thosepeople, but also see who am I.
Don't try to be someone else.
(05:10):
Don't try to besomeone we're not.
Just find strategies and findthings that works for you.
Because when we are beingthat relevant expert, we
can take away that impostersyndrome, we can take away
that feeling of not enoughnessand we can, don't promise
things that you can't hold.
If you don't feel comfortablein saying like, I can take
(05:33):
you to this number andthis amount of money, I
will help you earn that.
Don't say that.
Don't have to say that.
And you don't have tomake those promises.
You can just be upfrontand real and say, Yeah, I
have this wonderful tool.
And it's really supportive.
And it's really helping people.
And here are some examples ofwhat it has done for my clients
(05:55):
or other what it has done, like,will it be that Relevant expert,
because when we tune into that,we don't have to make things up.
We don't have to feel likewe need to catch up to
someone else because we'vechosen our area and we,
we know what we stand for.
We are ourselves.
So that is what I think ofwhen I hear relevant expert.
(06:18):
I would love to hear whatyou think of when you
explore that subject.
So let me know if you'reon YouTube, let me
know in the comments.
And if you're not on YouTube,go over there and let me
know in the comments or.
Send me a message onInstagram at Frida Kabo.
I'm over there as well.
I would love to hear from you.
I would love to hear whatyou think about this subject.
And I would love to hear whatyou are a relevant expert in.
(06:42):
Because yeah, there'sso many things.
We're like, we'rehuman, we're complex.
We, we have so many aspectsof ourselves that we can
take into our business.
And we have so many aspectsthat we don't have to
take into our business.
So yeah, it's so interesting.
And just.
Don't wait until youhave it all figured out.
I've been saying thisover and over again,
I'm gonna say it again.
(07:02):
Don't wait until youhave it all figured out.
It's while you're takingthose steps, while you're
starting to help people,and especially with knitting
down, like you have to explorethat quite a lot, I think.
You can't just, Sitand figure it out.
If it's not something thatcomes, comes to you, and
sometimes usually it comesto you and then you say,
nah, I couldn't do that.
(07:24):
And then after, after you'vegone through the rounds, it's
like, yeah, I'm coming backto, to what I started with.
And now I'm ready toacknowledge and accept that.
So it's really interesting,but we have to learn and,
and explore and, and.
allow ourselves to play withit and see, okay, when I take
action, I learn something new.
I get some more information.
(07:46):
I get wiser on how I canhelp people, but also what
language to use, so theyunderstand what I'm doing.
And there's so manythings to this, but
yeah, yeah, let me know.
What are you arelevant expert in?
I'm looking forwardto hear from you.
I hope this conversationwas helpful and have
a beautiful day.
(08:10):
Thank you for listeningto Sensitive Success.
If you enjoyed this episode,please leave a review and
share it with someone who couldbenefit from this message.
And come over and connect withme on Instagram at Frida Kabo.
And remember, sensitivityis neither good or bad.
It's what we make of it.
Embrace your sensitivityand use it to create
sensitive success your way.
Be that relevant expert to thosepeople, but also see who am I?
(00:04):
Don't try to be someone else.
Don't try to besomeone we're not.
Just find strategies and findthings that works for you.
'cause when we are being thatrelevant expert, we can take
away that imposter syndrome.
We can take away thatfeeling of not enoughness
and we can don't promisethings that you can't hold.
(00:27):
Welcome to the SensitiveSuccess Podcast, where
we explore the uniquechallenges and opportunities.
That comes with beinga sensitive changemaker
in today's world.
I'm your host, Frida Kabo,and I have spent the last
decade recreating my life.
I moved from Sweden to NewZealand and now live in the
beautiful bush with my husbandand two kids, homeschooling
(00:47):
and creating a life andbusiness that works for me with
the help of my sensitivity.
And support othersto do the same.
I'm excited to shareconversations with experts,
thought leaders, and fellowsensitive people who also
see the world throughthe lens of sensitivity.
Thank you so much forbeing here, because it
means that you're creatingsensitive success too.
(01:07):
which is preciselywhat the world needs.
Let's get started.
Hello, it's Rilakkuma here.
And today I want to talkabout a phrase that I've
heard, be a relevant expert.
And I think it's brilliant.
And I think it's so helpful.
So I wanted to shareit with you as well.
You probably heard it already,but I wanted to talk around
(01:30):
this and just give you myperspective on it and see.
Explore it a bit andsee what comes up.
So one thing that I seethat can hold people back
is that they feel likethey need to read more.
They need to learn more.
They need to be more.
They need to change.
They need to heal.
They need to like all ofthese different things they
(01:52):
need to do first beforethey can help others.
When we are looking, whenwe're tuning into that
relevant expert, we seethat, well, you've come a
bit on the road already.
You learned some things already.
You know, a lot of thingsprobably, and you can
help people right now.
So not by saying, Oh, I cansolve all your problems.
(02:16):
I can help you withthis, this fast.
But really tune into, okay,be, if I were the relevant
expert, who would I be?
So that's why I'm workingwith highly sensitive business
owners and changemakers,because I know a lot about that.
I am a highly sensitivein business and I
(02:38):
have my education.
I have done courses andI've learned a lot around
that and I know that Ican help people with it.
So that is reallyrelevant to me.
If I were to become and saythat, yeah, I'm the world's
best, uh, best guitar playerand I will help you with that.
(02:59):
Uh, that would not be reallyrelevant because yeah,
I can play the guitar alittle bit, but no, I can't
do that on that level.
So we wouldn't say that,but to say that, yeah, I
can help highly sensitivepeople because I can.
Because I know how that feels.
I know.
the struggles in business.
(03:20):
And I know that we needsupport and I know how
I would want support.
And I know that when Icreate that for others,
it really helps them too.
Yeah.
There's always more to learn.
And at the same timewe can help people.
So not everyone is going towant to have the top coach
and not everyone is going tofeel comfortable with that.
(03:43):
And not everyone isgoing to feel like.
Yeah, I'm gonna have the bestand I'm gonna have a number one
But we feel more comfortablewith having someone who's maybe
more on the same level just afew steps ahead and have figured
something Out that we feel likewe want to to figure out as well
and get some support with thatSo really be a relevant expert.
(04:05):
What would you be?
What relevantexpert would you be?
Yeah, one thing I see,especially with coaches and
when we learn a new tool,like, yeah, I'm gonna help
everyone with everything I know.
Like, I can coach anyone.
I mean, I can coach anyone.
But the more I learn, themore I know that I don't know.
(04:26):
And I don't know if you'veseen that care, but the more
we learn, the more we know,like learn about the subject,
the more we understand that wedon't know all about it because
there's so much more to learn.
And I feel like that'sthe same with tools that
we learn and same withourselves like, yeah, we can
help everyone, but we can.
be even more powerfulin specific situations.
(04:50):
And that, I feel like that'swhat niching down means.
So yeah, there's a lot oftalk about niching down
and we've been talkingabout it here as well.
But really finding Finding ourown, like, niche and finding,
be that relevant expert to thosepeople, but also see who am I.
Don't try to be someone else.
(05:10):
Don't try to besomeone we're not.
Just find strategies and findthings that works for you.
Because when we are beingthat relevant expert, we
can take away that impostersyndrome, we can take away
that feeling of not enoughnessand we can, don't promise
things that you can't hold.
If you don't feel comfortablein saying like, I can take
(05:33):
you to this number andthis amount of money, I
will help you earn that.
Don't say that.
Don't have to say that.
And you don't have tomake those promises.
You can just be upfrontand real and say, Yeah, I
have this wonderful tool.
And it's really supportive.
And it's really helping people.
And here are some examples ofwhat it has done for my clients
(05:55):
or other what it has done, like,will it be that Relevant expert,
because when we tune into that,we don't have to make things up.
We don't have to feel likewe need to catch up to
someone else because we'vechosen our area and we,
we know what we stand for.
We are ourselves.
So that is what I think ofwhen I hear relevant expert.
(06:18):
I would love to hear whatyou think of when you
explore that subject.
So let me know if you'reon YouTube, let me
know in the comments.
And if you're not on YouTube,go over there and let me
know in the comments or.
Send me a message onInstagram at Frida Kabo.
I'm over there as well.
I would love to hear from you.
I would love to hear whatyou think about this subject.
And I would love to hear whatyou are a relevant expert in.
(06:42):
Because yeah, there'sso many things.
We're like, we'rehuman, we're complex.
We, we have so many aspectsof ourselves that we can
take into our business.
And we have so many aspectsthat we don't have to
take into our business.
So yeah, it's so interesting.
And just.
Don't wait until youhave it all figured out.
I've been saying thisover and over again,
I'm gonna say it again.
(07:02):
Don't wait until youhave it all figured out.
It's while you're takingthose steps, while you're
starting to help people,and especially with knitting
down, like you have to explorethat quite a lot, I think.
You can't just, Sitand figure it out.
If it's not something thatcomes, comes to you, and
sometimes usually it comesto you and then you say,
nah, I couldn't do that.
(07:24):
And then after, after you'vegone through the rounds, it's
like, yeah, I'm coming backto, to what I started with.
And now I'm ready toacknowledge and accept that.
So it's really interesting,but we have to learn and,
and explore and, and.
allow ourselves to play withit and see, okay, when I take
action, I learn something new.
I get some more information.
(07:46):
I get wiser on how I canhelp people, but also what
language to use, so theyunderstand what I'm doing.
And there's so manythings to this, but
yeah, yeah, let me know.
What are you arelevant expert in?
I'm looking forwardto hear from you.
I hope this conversationwas helpful and have
a beautiful day.
(08:10):
Thank you for listeningto Sensitive Success.
If you enjoyed this episode,please leave a review and
share it with someone who couldbenefit from this message.
And come over and connect withme on Instagram at Frida Kabo.
And remember, sensitivityis neither good or bad.
It's what we make of it.
Embrace your sensitivityand use it to create
sensitive success your way.
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