114. What to do when you don't know?

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In a world where we often crave clear answers and defined paths, it's normal to feel overwhelmed by the unknown. But what if uncertainty could be a doorway to self-discovery and growth?

Join me as we explore how embracing uncertainty can lead to positive change. I'll share insights from my coaching sessions, where clients have found hidden truths by asking themselves: "What if I did know?"

Together, we'll challenge the idea that uncertainty is a weakness and discover how it can be a catalyst for progress. From overcoming self-doubt to embracing the adventure of not having all the answers, this episode will empower you to take that first step forward, even when the path seems unclear.

Chapters

00:00 - Intro
01:50 - What's the first thing we need to do if we don't know?
04:08 - What if clarity is only a decision away?
05:20 - If you have several options and you don't know what to choose, do this...
07:56 - You don't need to have all the answers to start
09:16 - Outro

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Episode Transcript

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I'm confused, I'm overwhelmed,like all of those things that
are stopping you from takingaction, that are stopping
you from going forward.
What if clarity isonly a decision away?
What if you decided rightnow that you have the
clarity, that you do know?
What would you know then?

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If you did know,what would that be?
Welcome to the SensitiveSuccess Podcast, where we
explore the unique challengesand opportunities that
comes with being a sensitivechangemaker in today's world.
I'm your host, Frida Kabo,and I have spent the last
decade recreating my life.
I moved from Sweden to NewZealand and now live in the

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beautiful bush with my husbandand two kids, homeschooling
and creating a life andbusiness that works for me with
the help of my sensitivity.
And support othersto do the same.
I'm excited to shareconversations with experts,
thought leaders, and fellowsensitive people who also
see the world throughthe lens of sensitivity.
Thank you so much for beinghere because it means that

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you are creating sensitivesuccess too, which is
precisely what the world needs.
Let's get started.
Hello, it's Frida Kabo here,and today I want to talk about
what to do when you don't know.
So what do I mean by that?
Well, many of those who come tome for coaching and guidance,

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they are looking for clarityand are looking to become
certain of what their nextstep and what their path is.
What is the right answer?
And yeah, as humans, we wantto know right away, like
what's the, what's the rightanswer, what's the right path,
uh, what am I doing wrong?

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This notion of thatthere is black and white.
So what do we dowhen we don't know?
Well, first of all, I want tosay we don't know anything.
We really don't know where wecome from or why we're here or
not or why anything really whenwe start to think about it.
So it's not surprising thatwe feel confused or we feel

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like we don't know anything.
And at the same time, we know.
Like when we tune into ourknowing, when we tune into
the energy of ourselves, whatwe want to do, where we want
to go, like we know insidewhat is right for us, what
is the right path for us.
So when we don't know anything,that's kind of Well, if someone

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says that in a coaching session,I ask them, well, if you did
know, what would that be?
And usually I get like anuncomfortable kind of smile
thing and, and an answer.
It's surprisingly how manytimes we actually know.
But we don't want to, like, Idon't know, it's a defense to

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really saying that out loud,to really acknowledging what we
want, what we know, and yeah,so it's a defense and sometimes
a self saboteur that we don'tacknowledge that we, like,
it's trying to keep us safe.
And it's closely related,uh, don't know with vagueness

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and lack of confidence andit's all about not allowing
ourselves to step into thatplace where we do know, where
we are taking the steps andwhere we are going forward.
And sometimes it's abouthistory, like, yeah, I've tried
that, didn't work, uh, try that,it didn't work, like, and then

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we build up this, these proofs.
That we don't know.
So what is it that you want todo, but you don't know, right?
So, it can be, it, it closelyrelinked to confusion, I'm
confused, I'm overwhelmed,like all of those things
where, that are stopping youfrom taking action, that are

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stopping you from going forward.
What if clarity isonly a decision away?
What if you decided rightnow that you have the
clarity, that you do know.
What would you know then?
If you did know,what would that be?
Like, play with it, exploreit, and see what comes up.

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Well, uh, I don't knowwhat to do with my life.
Well, if you did know,what would you do then?
I don't know if this is theright path for my business.
Well, if you did know,how would that look like?
And also know that, They onlyhave to know the next step.
You don't have to have thewhole picture, to, you don't

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have to know everything.
You just have to know,okay, is this the the
path that I want to go?
And how do we know?
This is a question thatcomes up quite a lot and
a question that I've beenexploring quite a lot too.
How do we know if it's theright path for us or if it's
just because someone else istelling us or we feel like we

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should and all of those things.
Like, feel into your body.
Your body is wiseand it will tell you.
So if you feel into thedifferent options, if you
have different options and youdon't know which one to choose.
feel into your body andsee, okay, if I choose this
option, how does that feel?

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If I don't do that,how does that feel?
Or if I do that,how does that feel?
And also, one other thingyou can do is look at
yourself in five years.
Okay.
If I do this, wherewould I be in five years?
How would that feel?
And the opposite, if I don'tdo this, if I stay here and in
five years, how would that feel?

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And that's something thatyou can see quite a lot,
like building the, the dreamand saying, okay, do you
want to stay where you areor do you want to go here?
Right?
So really think about what youwant and what you want to do.
And sure we can use tools andcoaches and, uh, to get more
clarity and it's, it's reallypowerful to have someone

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mirror back to you becausethat's what I'm seeing.
I'm seeing people that have suchan amazing clarity and really
know what they want to do, butthey, there's something stopping
them from stepping into that.
And stopping them from seeingthat, yeah, I actually do
know, I, I do have clarity.
And that's in a sessionwhere, especially at the

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vision workshop that I did awhile ago, is really seeing
that, yeah, I actually doknow what I want to do.
And get it on paper and,and get it mirrored back to
you and see, oh, I see youhave clarity around this.
It's like, yeah, Yeah,I actually do have
clarity around this.
So yeah, I'm doing the VisionWorkshop again, so if you

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want to join us, jump on thereand, and really see that you
have clarity, and explore theanswers that want to come up.
So why is something stopping usfrom stepping into that clarity
or stepping into the knowing?
Well, then we have todo something, right?
We're not, the self saboteurscan't keep us safe if we're

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stepping up or stepping out inthe world and doing something
and taking responsibility forwho we are, what we're here to
do, and what we want to create,taking responsibility for
what is on our hearts, takingthose next steps, not knowing.
It can also be anadventure, right?
Yeah, you might not havethe whole, all the steps,

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but what if you take thefirst one, and then the next
one, and then the next one?
So you don't have to know thewhole thing before you start.
I've said that many timeson here, and I'm saying it
again, you don't have to haveall the answers to start.
What is your next step?
And yeah, as I said, just feelinto what's on your heart.

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If there was one thing thatyou could change in the
world, what would that be?
And then, C, okay, this thingthat I want to create, how
does that relate to that?
Because it's so powerful also tosee like, yeah, I'm contributing
to that thing by doing this.
It's on my heart andit's for me to do this.

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So make the decision.
Make the decision to beclear on what you want to do.
Give yourself the acceptance ofyes, I have this on my heart.
It is a callingand I have clarity.
I do know what I want to do.
I'm just a bit afraidand that's okay too.
Right?
I would love to hear whatyou have just given yourself

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the decision or permissionto create or go ahead with
or get clarity around.
Let me know in the commentsif this was helpful and let
me know what you're creating.
I would love to hear that.
So yeah, clarity.
What if it's just a decisionto say yeah, I'm clear on this.
And see what is theclarity that you arrive to.

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Hope this was helpful to you.
Looking forward to hearfrom you in the comments.
Have a beautiful day.
Thank you for listeningto Sensitive Success.
If you enjoyed this episode,please leave a review and
share it with someone who couldbenefit from this message.
And come over and connect withme on Instagram at Frida Kabo.

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And remember, sensitivityis neither good or bad.
It's what we make of it.
Embrace your sensitivityand use it to create
Sensitive Success your way.