October 13, 2024 • 32 mins
How often do we stop to consider the true power our words hold? Join me, Stephanie, as we walk through the profound impact that speech can have on our lives and communities. Drawing inspiration from James 3:8-10, we reflect on the dual nature of our words, capable of both uplifting and tearing down. This episode brings exciting updates about our ministry's growth, including a new partnership with Panera Bread to support local nonprofits and daycares, focusing on empowering youth, young adults, and families. Discover how your purchase of our customized items and candles directly contributes to these efforts.
The conversation takes a serious turn as we explore the real-world consequences of harmful speech, from wrongful convictions based on false testimonies to the damage caused by reckless social media posts. We emphasize the critical need for mindfulness in our communication, urging a reevaluation of past associations that may no longer align with our evolved values. Remembering the guidance of elders, we advocate for a return to community accountability and support, encouraging us to speak up against wrongs and foster a more caring environment.
In the final segment, we focus on healing and blessings through the power of prayer. A heartfelt appeal is made for divine intervention and peace for those feeling overwhelmed, underscoring the necessity of thoughtful communication, especially with the youth. By being beacons of light for others, we can actively counteract negativity in our relationships and communities. Let’s continue to spread positivity and understanding, standing together in gratitude and reverence until we meet again.
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Hello one and all.
It is me, stephanie.
And before we start to set oursoul free, I want to remind you
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As always, I know we won'talways agree, and that's OK.
Man wasn't meant to alwaysagree with one another.
That's what makes our worldthat God created, unique.
Because everyone has adifference of opinion, and I'm
OK with that.
Leave your comments so we cankeep the conversation going.
Remember, it's not about me,it's about you, it's about our
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youth, it's about setting oursouls free with me, stephanie.
So let's get into it.
Good morning, good afternoon,good evening, good night.
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Wherever you are in, whateverpart of the country you may be
living in, I greet you and saythank you for blessing me with
your presence.
It is time to set your soulfree with me, stephanie.
So let's see what we can beblessed with today.
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Hello, hello, hello.
Long time, no see, no hear from.
When the Lord has work for youto do, you do what he asks you
to do.
And now I am back, pr, praying,things are going well with you
all.
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A lot of stuff has been going on.
The ministry is growing, um, wenow have partnered with panera
bread for their dough nationd-o-u-g-h donation program that
they have for non.
So now every Sunday we go pickup their leftover bread for the
day.
Instead of throwing it out,they donate it to nonprofits.
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So now we were selected and wepick it up and we take it to a
daycare, a local daycare, andwhat I found out is, whatever
the daycare doesn't use, theydonate it to a church in Madison
who has people that live at thebottom of the church when
they're like in transition,where they're getting them their
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whatever they need so they canmove out on their own.
So when God works and you'reblessed in one place and you
don't know that that place isblessing yet another place, that
says a lot, because that iswhat the ministry is about.
It's about helping youth, youngadults and their families, but
also adults as well.
But the target audience isyouth, young adults and their
families, because if thefamilies are taken care of, the
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adults can do what they need todo, because they know the
children are OK.
And I say that not because ofwhat I've seen, but because that
was a part of my life, growingup with the, with the kiddos in
the house, and me and Bearcouldn't focus on what we needed
to do because we had to makesure the kids were taken care of
, and once the Lord sentblessings our way to watch, to
make sure they were taken careof, we could focus on what we
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needed to do, and that's howwe're blessed to where we live
today.
I'm still shouting glory.
Never thought I'd get to apoint where I am now, but it was
all because of doing what I wasasked to do, stepping out on
faith, and because of that it'sopened up other doors to where
now we're trying to look for abuilding because we have so much
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that we do to help the ministry.
I have a relative who says I'mworse than our island brothers
and sisters because every monthI'm doing something different.
Who says I'm worse than ourisland brothers and sisters
because every month I'm doingsomething different Customized
rugs, blankets, masks, hats,shirts.
I do sanitizing lotion, whichis not gel like the sanitizing
gel.
You use a sanitizing lotionthat leaves your hands soft, but
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they come in so many differentscents.
And now I'm doing candles,dessert candles.
I'm a baker, so of course it'sdessert candles.
So now we're starting to docandles that are taking off like
lightning, and I'm loving itall because it all goes towards
the ministry.
Everything that is so goestowards that ministry because at
the same time we thought we'vealso been helping families and
single parents already this yearwith things that they needed.
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So, from the benevolent fundthat we get from selling the
merchandise, that's what it goesto to help youth, young adults,
families in need.
We help some college studentsget into college this year.
Bought fund that we get fromselling the merchandise, that's
what it goes to to help youth,young adults, families in need.
We help some college studentsget into college this year,
bought them some little thingsfor them to do and we do stuff
with them throughout the year.
That is what the whole purposeof the ministry is, and I am so
glad to God that we've gotten toa point to where the donations
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that we get are being used forwhat they were supposed to be
used for.
So that is what is going on.
But today we're going to talkabout watch what you say.
We're coming from James 3,verses 8 and 10.
Verse 8 says but the tongue canno maintain.
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It is unruly evil, full ofdeadly poison.
Verse 10, out of the same mouthproceedeth blessing and cursing
my brethren.
These things ought not so to be, which means you can't sit up
there and bless somebody andpray for them and call out on
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the name of Jesus, and you takeone short breath and then you
cussing them out in the samebreath, or you're cussing out
somebody else in the same breath.
What the word is saying?
You can't do that.
You can't say.
You can't use your mouth forblessing and then turn around
and use your tongue for evil atthe same time.
You can't do it.
Our tongue has killed many,ruined careers of others and
we're still really doing it andsent many to jail for crimes
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they did not commit.
One day, a punishment will bein place for those who
intentionally cause harm toothers for no reason, for just
being mean.
Verse 8 tells us that thetongue of man cannot be tamed.
It is unruly, evil and full ofpoison.
You don't think so?
Go through all the past courtcases where some of these people
have been exonerated because ofDNA, because they were
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convicted on what an eyewitnesssaid and the eyewitness lied.
Let's talk about these men andwomen who are in jail because
their domestic partner put themthere, because they said enough
to make it believable.
And a lot of these people aregoing to jail without the
evidence part.
They're going by what someonesaid and eyewitness said, and a
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detective once said that herelies on evidence more than he
relies on an eyewitness, becauseeyewitness is always wrong and
if that person made that otherperson mad, well, now your
secrets are going to come out.
You know that's what bringsback into your character.
It doesn't matter what somebodysays about you.
If your character sayssomething different, somebody is
going to take another lookbefore just accusing you of
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something.
But this is telling you ourtongues have killed and you go
back in history to some of theleaders, even now, some of the
people who have died becausesomebody has said something that
was wrong and it ended upkilling somebody what there was
during a time where young peoplewere dying because their
girlfriends or boyfriends are onthe phone and they were already
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at a vulnerable moment and thegirlfriend or boyfriend is
sitting up and telling him whydon't you just go ahead and kill
yourself?
And they did.
That's the evil part of thetongue, because you knew they
were at a vulnerable point and,instead of being there blessing
them with something to keep themout of what they were getting
ready to do, you went ahead andpushed them over the edge.
A lot of many.
How many people have lost theirjobs because of something they
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said?
You said one thing to one groupof people, but another thing
was said to another group ofpeople, and now you're behind,
out of a job because that mouthgot you into trouble.
This is so true on so manylevels.
How many people are stillsuffering of what someone has
said about them, depending onwhat was said and the manner in
which it was said?
Some have lost their lives ortheir freedom.
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And for what?
What does evil have to gainfrom destroying someone's life,
taking away their freedom ordestroying their career and or
family?
When we figured that out, thenwe can put a stop to the
foolishness.
Sometimes people just do stuffjust to do it.
One of the things I'm alwaysministering to my mentees and
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adults is just because they'reyour friends today don't mean
they're going to be your friendstomorrow, or just because they
say you're your friends, they'renot.
My biggest advice I giveanybody is be careful of whom
you hang around and who you lethang around you.
Not everybody is happy for you.
Not everybody is happy for you,and that's stuff that I've seen
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, where a group of girls or agroup of guys are together but
then the group is still stuck inthe high school childish ways
where other parts of the groupare.
Now they're growing up, they'vegone to college, they've got a
job, they've done this and thisand the and their old group is
not liking it.
So then they start bringing outtheir old dirt and in some
cases it gets the new people introuble, because that's not the
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life they live anymore, butbecause somebody was jealous,
because you're moving on andthey're still stuck.
They didn't want to be stuck bythemselves, so they do
something to bring you down.
Facebook is the reign supreme onpeople losing their job because
you think on Facebook you cansay what you want to say.
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No, you can't, because jobs arenow looking into people's
Facebook accounts and when theysee what you're saying and
you're supposed to berepresenting that company, we
can't count how many people havelost their job because of
something that was on socialmedia.
And they had to.
They had to be let go.
You have to watch what you say.
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Yeah, we all know about thefreedom of speech and yakety
smackety and blabbity, blabbity.
But then there's also thefreedom to be foolish.
You know things that you'regoing to say are going to
probably come back on you andfreedom of speech is not going
to save you because your job hasto think about them.
They're thinking about clients,you know, who may come into the
, to the office and they haveheard about you and seeing your
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posts and stuff like, andthey're not going to want to do
business with that company.
Well then, that company ain'tgoing to last very long, which
means the people that areworking there are going to
probably be out of a job soon.
So companies are thinking aboutthem and you know what you say
is I was going to come back.
That's why I tell my youngpeople, I tell adults be mindful
of what you say and be mindfulof who you do stuff with.
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How many people now have lostjobs or lost their minds or even
lost their lives because ofsomething that happened when
they were younger?
You know, when you were younger, you didn't know nobody, you
didn't care.
You was invincible.
You hung with this person.
This was going to be your girlgirl, your dude, your rodo, your
buddy for life.
But then, as you got older,things started to happen and you
started to see that this is notthe way I need to live.
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I need to change what I'm doing.
But your friend still wanted tolive a high life, still wanted
to have the fun, still wanted tocause the ruckus.
And when you really put yourfoot down and start to say, no,
I, I can't be a part of thatlife anymore, they did
everything they could to destroyyou by telling all your little
secrets, all of them, and youcouldn't deny them because, yeah
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, you did them, but that's whenyou were young.
Watch what you say, not onlythat, watch who you say it to.
A lot of people have been setup because people know how to
push your buttons and theworkplace, woo Is reign supreme.
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Number two everybody's job atsome point makes them want to
choke the Holy ghost intosomebody, but you can't because
of you know the laws against.
That's called assault.
But a lot of people's workplacehas stressed them out to no
relief.
When you came there, you washealthy as a horse.
Six months in now, you got highblood pressure, high
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cholesterol.
You got so many health issuesthat shouldn't be because of the
workplace.
Watch what you say because,even though you may change who
you are, the world already knowswhat you are.
The world knows how to pushthose buttons and the world
knows who to send to get you togo back to what you used to do.
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Be mindful of what you saybecause, even though you may say
it to one particular person,somebody is hearing it, somebody
is watching you, somebody iskeeping stock of everything you
say and do, waiting for themoment for you to get too big in
your britches and bring youright back down.
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I hope someday we will figureout how to put a stop to the
foolishness.
How many I know.
There's laws now about theperjury and I think they're
trying to do some things nowthat if a person lies and they
come back on it and we find outthat it was a lie, well that's
perjury for one.
But how do you give somebodytheir life back Because you sat
there and lied and produceevidence that really wasn't
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evidence and if it was doneright the first time, they would
have saw that it wasn't true.
But how do you give somebody 10, 12, even a year of their life
back?
They're in jail, even if theytake it off their record,
depending on how big the casewas.
Everybody knows they were injail.
Now they can no longer get ajob If they had a family.
Now they're gone because ofwhat you said and what you did
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and their lives are ruined.
And now here they go, going upshooting up the place Because in
their minds, what they got tolive for, everything was taken
from them.
So, yes, things should be inplace to stop people at the door
from doing that kind of stuff.
But there are people who that'swhat they feed off of.
They feed off of knowing whatticks you off and doing
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everything they can to make yousay something and then be like,
well, you can't be serving nogod because you sitting up here
cussing up a storm, or you saidthat you was changed.
I said one little thing and nowyou off, cussing like a sailor
again.
It's all.
They're just trying to set youup.
That's why I'm a big stickleron.
I mean what I say, and I saywhat I mean how you see me in
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the church house is how you seeme outside of it.
There ain't gonna be no twodifferent sides.
There ain't gonna be no, I'mtalking holier than thou here,
but I'm cussing somebody outthere.
You're not gonna see that fromme, because that's not me.
Are you gonna see me upset?
Probably, but I got too manypeople in my boardroom up in my
head to make me stay that way.
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My job will tell you I'm thegift, I'm the queen of gifts and
memes.
You're not supposed to botherme, because I know how to step
back.
I know how to slow it down.
I know how to talk to to uppermanagement and be like know how
to slow it down.
I know how to talk to to openmanagement and be like we've got
to slow this down Cause I canonly do so much.
There's only one man that canturn water into wine, and it's
not me.
So I can only do so much, andthat's sometimes what you have
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to do.
Politely.
Be mindful of how you say ittoo.
But all of this starts with us.
We all have a group of peoplethat we can say stuff to that we
know ain't gonna say nothingand we know they not.
But there's ears that areprobably four or five rows over,
probably in the next building,that heard word for word what
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you said and are waiting forthat moment.
Look in your celebrities,celebrities.
Look at your celebrities.
Once they get to a certainstatus, all of a sudden, old
YouTube videos, old Instagramvideos, old Facebook posts pop
up from 20, 30 years ago.
And now they sitting up herelike, okay, and you want me to
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apologize for what I said, butthat was back then, when
everybody wasn't so soft, andthat's just the best way I can
put it.
You know, growing up, you cansay what you want, it ain't
going to hurt me.
Do you know the kind of thingswe had to grow up looking at on
TV, the kind of things we had tohear growing up, where you had
to have that thick skin that itdoesn't bother you.
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Where today, oh my gosh, yousay something wrong.
They falling out on the floorlike you whipped them with a
belt, oh my gosh, but that's theworld that we live in.
But again, it starts with us,with what we say, how we carry
ourselves.
Verse 10 says the mouth canproduce both a blessing and a
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curse, and again that is so true.
You can pray somebody up underan altar and then turn around
and you cussing out the personright behind you.
The tongue can do both.
It doesn't have no on and offswitch, it doesn't have no hours
of operation.
It can do it in a heartbeat.
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Our words can not only cursesomeone, but it can bless them
as well.
When you ask people to pray foryou, be mindful who you're
asking, because when you'reasking them to pray for you,
they may be, but they may bepraying for you to lose
everything you got.
They may be praying for you toget sicker than you are.
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Whatever it is that you'reasking them, that you're asking
people to pray for, they couldbe praying for against it, but
be mindful of who you ask topray.
But see, that's the point wherewe shouldn't have to do that
With this ministry that I havethat because of my youth and
young adults it's a social mediaministry that, yeah, on the
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email list that I have, yeah,we'll send out a post that says
you know, pray for such and suchon the loss of a parent.
I don't know what them peopleactually praying for, because I
don't know what's going on intheir lives right at that minute
.
You know, if I'm saying prayfor these people because they
were blessed with yada, yada,yada, yada, well, the person who
may be reading at thatparticular time may have lost
something, and so they'repraying against you.
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They're still praying, butthey're not praying for what you
think they're praying for, butas children of God that's.
That's not our call to make.
You ask for prayer, you receivethe prayer, like you've heard
me say before.
A friend once told me a closedmouth can't get fed, can't
nobody know you need help if youdon't say anything.
And in this world I'm still afirm believer.
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There's still more good than itis evil.
It's just time for the goodnessto stand up again.
Don't get me wrong.
I'm sure evil was always there,but growing up there was more
people that were doing more goodin the world.
There were more elders in thevillage.
They didn't care if you didn'tlike them.
They didn't care what yourparents said.
If you weren't supposed to dosomething that you weren't
supposed to do, your parentsknew about it Because they were
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watching out for you, and that'show a lot of us stayed safe,
doing stupid stuff.
We know we shouldn't have done,but at the same time we had an
adult watching out for us.
So if our parents weren'taround and somebody was trying
to mess with us, those adultsstepped in and took care of it
and handled the situation.
We don't do that anymore becauseeverybody wants to get upset.
You can't talk to my child thatway.
You can't do this.
Who you talking?
And then you wonder why youthand young adults don't talk to
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us anymore.
Because you got one time to tosay something to embarrass them.
That's it.
That door is shut for goodbecause you made the situation
worse, which goes back to watchwhat you say.
Youth and young adults are canhear anything anywhere.
Anything goes back to what Isaid.
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You said one thing in thechurch house, or you said one
thing in front of a group, oryou said one thing in front of
house, or you said one thing infront of a group, or you said
one thing in front of them.
Then you're out somewhere,don't know that they're there,
and then they see how you actwhen you're away out of their
presence.
They're going to hold you tothat, because now they're like
well, why should I listen toanything you say when you don't
even listen to your own words?
The youth are getting tired andenough is enough.
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Think of how much evil we couldsend back to hell If we bless
one another with our mouthsinstead of curse them.
Hell is only on earth becausewe allowed it to be.
And let's just call it what itis.
Hell is only up here on earthhaving a Mardi Gras party
because we allowed it to be.
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We may say something, but wedon't really say something.
We put the word in somebodyelse's ear for them to do it
when we should have done it,because we know what needs to be
done and that other person'sprobably just as scared as we
are and won't say anything.
That's not me.
If I see it, I'm going to dosomething.
I don't care.
You can say what you want tosay about me later on.
You can call me a snitch, youcan call me a stool pigeon.
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I'm going to sing WhitneyHouston in the highest octave.
I can possibly sing, doesn'tmatter, because what should be
should not be, and you're notonly putting that person's life
and person's life in danger.
You put in mind, because ifnothing is said, then who's to
say they won't turn around anddo something else?
Or who's to say that somebodysees that they got away with it
and decides OK, well, today I'mmad at this person, let me go
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take it out, because ain'tnobody going to do nothing.
No, it needs to stop before itstarts.
We are the reason why the worldis like this.
When people say why would Godallow this to happen?
He didn't.
He put things in place toprevent it.
But you're the ones that aretoo scared to say something,
afraid of what your friends maysay, afraid of what your group
people may say, because they maythink this way, but you know
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that that's immorally andmindfully wrong.
But you won't say anything.
He didn't allow nothing tohappen.
You did.
And because we allowed it tohappen, we're the ones that have
to fix it.
Just like you tell kids whenthey grow up, when they make a
mistake and they do somethingwrong, okay, well, you need to
go back and apologize becauseyou hurt that person's feelings.
You need to go and apologize.
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Why come adults are not takingtheir own advice?
You say something, it hurtssomebody.
They go off and do somethingfoolish and it comes back to the
reason.
Why is because of what you say.
Now everybody's looking at youFirst of all like why did you
even say that?
And now you try to.
Well, they said who's the adult?
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Just because they saidsomething, you don't mean you
got to turn around and saysomething right back.
Everybody is not as strong aseverybody else People like me.
You can say what you want tosay and I'm just going to look
at you like you stayed up allnight and that's the best you
can come up with.
Or you can say what you want tosay about me and I'm gonna look
at you like, okay, now you knowdoggone, good and well, ain't
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nothing.
You just said true, but if thatmakes you feel better, keep on
saying it.
But the next person may not bethat strong.
It may cut them down evenfurther than they already were.
That we didn't know about,because some people do not know
how to express how they feel,but that's going to be a topic
for another day.
But think of how much evil wecould send back to hell if we
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just blessed each other insteadof tearing each other down, if
we uplift the falling instead ofwalking on top of them, if we
help the helpless instead ofrobbing them of what possessions
they're trying to keep.
Think of how blessed the worldwould be if we spent more time
doing the word of God instead offighting against it.
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A lot of us, when you seesomebody that's falling, you get
in there and you say somethingWell, if you've done what I told
you to do, you beat them downlower first, then you pick them
back up.
Now I'm going to say that, tosay this Y'all heard me say once
or twice before that peoplewould come to me for stuff and
then, when they turn around anddo something anyway, I sit there
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and tell them now, you knewbetter.
Did I tear them down even lower?
No, why?
Because I know who they are andthey know me.
It's totally different from meknowing a person and they know
that.
That's what I'm going to saybecause they knew what.
They knew what was going tohappen when they did what they
did, as opposed to someone notknowing who I am giving them the
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advice.
They went against it anyway.
And then they come back andtell me I would not say that to
them.
I would skip already to steptwo.
Let's try to make it right.
So there's a difference in how Isaid I talked to people.
Like I said, those are thepeople I know.
People know me.
20 or 30 years, always come tome for advice.
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Why?
Because they know that I'mgoing to tell them the truth.
I'm not going to sit up thereand sugarcoat it.
Now, you knew better when youdid that.
Now they know I'm going to sitthere and say now, I told you
that that was going to happen,so why did you do it anyway?
Yeah, I'm going to talk to themthat way, cause that's that
friend group that you talk about.
That's that friend.
But even then, I still know whoto say that to and who not to,
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because just because I could sayit to him one time, the next
time they come back with me andthey went against the advice
that they asked me for, I canlook at him and tell, no, we're
not going to go that way, we'rejust going to go straight to
what's going on.
So there's a difference betweensaying something because it's
something that you know, thatthey're used to, to knowing when
it's appropriate to say it.
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Like I said, anybody whodoesn't know me I would never
say that, nope, you did it.
Okay.
Well, why did you felt like youneeded to do that?
Cause that would be my question.
That'd be my first question.
This is what you asked me, thisis what I told you, plus, I
told you what would happen ifyou did it anyway.
You did it anyway, and what Isaid happened, happened.
So what was going on that youfelt that that would be the
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better answer to the question,to the problem.
What was going on that day thatyou decided that this?
I know what the advice was, butI think this will work.
What was going on that youthought that would work?
Because we have to work throughthat first, so the next time
the problem comes up you canremember what happened the last
time.
But it goes back to watch whatyou say.
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People come to people for help.
The minute they get berated,the minute they get belittled,
the minute they get talked about, they probably won't open up to
nobody else.
And now they're walking aroundwith all this pent up pressure
ready to explode, all becausesomeone that should have been
helping hurt them.
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And I'm not telling you what Iheard.
I'm telling you what I've beenthrough.
One of the reasons why Icouldn't be humble because every
time I did I got belittled, Igot berated first, before the
help came that after a while Ijust stopped asking for it.
I'm like you know what.
That's okay, I'll do without,I'll find something.
I can have a bologna and cracka sandwich.
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I'm good, I'm.
It's not worth it.
It's not worth it Cause most ofthe times when people are
coming to you, they're alreadyhurting, they're already
embarrassed, they're alreadyashamed, and half the time it's
not even their fault why theyended up the situation that they
ended up in.
It wasn't their fault, but theyalready feel ashamed and humbled
and they wanted to reach outthat one time and then that one
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time destroyed them for the restof the rest of their life.
Now you got family fightingwithin family because they're so
pent up with the burdens that'sbeen going on, because they
don't want to ask nobody,because a lot of people can't
keep their mouth shut for one.
Let's just call it what it is Alot of people can't keep their
mouth shut and they don't wantto go through that, those that
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are helpless needing help.
Instead of you helping them,you're trying to take what
little they have left.
Well, I need to borrow $250until payday.
Well, what you need the $250for, give it to me so I can pay
it.
That's defeating the purpose.
And don't get me wrong, Iunderstand why people do that,
because you had so many peopleyou know say they needed it for
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one thing and then they use itfor something else.
Well, that was between that's,between them and the Lord.
The Lord sent them to youbecause you had what they needed
.
What they do with it, that'snot our concern.
If we have it, we should giveit.
If they don't do what they'resupposed to do with it, the Lord
will take care of them for that.
But we need to mind what we say, especially when it comes to
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those youth and young adults.
You have to be careful with howyou talk to them.
They are so wound up, tangledup, bound up as it is right now.
Just trying to make it througha school day, cause you don't
know how you send them out, ishow they're going to come back.
Trying to make it through aschool day because you don't
know how you send them out ishow they're going to come back.
You don't know what they seethat they're so confused and
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heartbroken and angry and mad.
You don't know.
And then you come home and youstart talking like you done,
lost your rabid mind.
Now your child is on the newsbecause they almost beat you
into another century, notbecause they wanted to, but
because it was already goingthrough something and you just
went in on them and that justwasn't the time to do it.
Watch what you say.
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A lot of people are living thelives that they're living, that
they shouldn't have or theywouldn't have.
If they just watch what theysay, what's that thing?
They always tell us there's atime and a place for everything,
that's including your mouth.
There's a time and a place foryour mouth, and most of the
times it needs to be in the car,where it's just you and the
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Lord, where nobody can hear whatyou say.
Or even if they do, if they saysomething like well, that one
that was in the car fussing withmyself, why are you
eavesdropping?
But there's a time and a placeto get things off your chest.
And what I pray is that peoplehave someone that they can talk
to.
If we had more people that wecould trust and that's another
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topic we're going to have foranother day, because that's
another issue that's going onthe problem, while we're facing
the anger anger that we havetoday if there was somebody that
we could trust trust meaningnot only will they keep what we
said, but they're not feedinginto the anger that we already
have.
You know, growing up back inthe day, if one of your friends
got into a fight or one of yourfriends got to an argument and
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they come in to tell you whatyou brought up and now both of
you gone off to go get theperson again Can't do that in
this day and age.
You need to calm that down.
So not only do we have somebodythat we know that we can trust,
you know that, whatever we say,no matter how juicy, no matter
how New York bestseller it maybe, if you was to publish it
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we'll keep it to themselves, noteven tell nobody none of it.
But we also need to trustsomeone to know that if I'm
coming there fired up, hot,ready to take someone out, then,
no matter how much they agreewith the anger, how much they
dislike the person anyway whosaid what they said to get me
upset, they're not going to feedinto that.
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They're going to calm me downbefore I do do something that I
can't take back.
Trust works for more than justsomebody keeping their mouth
shut.
It also works with peoplethat's going to actually be
there for you to calm thesituation down, to make you
think about what you're about todo.
It goes both ways.
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About what you're about to do.
It goes both ways, but at theend of the day it all goes back
to watch what you say.
Amen, let us pray, father.
God, we come here today to saythank you, father.
I pray that the people under myvoice hear what you have to say
, father, and that they are moremindful of what they say and
they're more mindful of what iseven being told to them.
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That when they see that thereis a problem, when they see that
someone is going throughsomething, and when they hear
someone is going throughsomething, father, that they
step up and they step out andthey calm the situation, father,
before it gets worse.
Evil is on every hand.
Evil has never ceased to work.
Right now, father, god, evildoesn't even have to do anything
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, because man is doing it forhim.
Evil is sitting back theretaking notes.
Father, we ask that you justbless over everyone.
Father, we ask that you healthose who are going through
something that they don't knowhow to express what is going on,
so they don't say anything.
Father, we pray for those whoare in their jobs, who are at
their wits end, who are stilltrying, but the world is still
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trying them.
Father, I ask you to give themthe comfort of peace, the
comfort of understanding, thecomfort of clearness, so they
can see clearly what needs to bedone and to keep their mouth
shut.
Father, we pray that peopleLearn to watch what they say,
because not only can it blesssomeone's soul, father, but can
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it also kill it.
Father, we thank you, we praiseyou, we give you all the honor
and praise in your son Jesus'name.
Amen, and you know I can neverleave you without telling you to
be that light in someone else'sdarkness.
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Stay blessed until we talkagain.
Hello one and all.
It is me, stephanie.
And before we start to set oursoul free, I want to remind you
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As always, I know we won'talways agree, and that's OK.
Man wasn't meant to alwaysagree with one another.
That's what makes our worldthat God created, unique.
Because everyone has adifference of opinion, and I'm
OK with that.
Leave your comments so we cankeep the conversation going.
Remember, it's not about me,it's about you, it's about our
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youth, it's about setting oursouls free with me, stephanie.
So let's get into it.
Good morning, good afternoon,good evening, good night.
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Wherever you are in, whateverpart of the country you may be
living in, I greet you and saythank you for blessing me with
your presence.
It is time to set your soulfree with me, stephanie.
So let's see what we can beblessed with today.
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Hello, hello, hello.
Long time, no see, no hear from.
When the Lord has work for youto do, you do what he asks you
to do.
And now I am back, pr, praying,things are going well with you
all.
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A lot of stuff has been going on.
The ministry is growing, um, wenow have partnered with panera
bread for their dough nationd-o-u-g-h donation program that
they have for non.
So now every Sunday we go pickup their leftover bread for the
day.
Instead of throwing it out,they donate it to nonprofits.
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So now we were selected and wepick it up and we take it to a
daycare, a local daycare, andwhat I found out is, whatever
the daycare doesn't use, theydonate it to a church in Madison
who has people that live at thebottom of the church when
they're like in transition,where they're getting them their
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whatever they need so they canmove out on their own.
So when God works and you'reblessed in one place and you
don't know that that place isblessing yet another place, that
says a lot, because that iswhat the ministry is about.
It's about helping youth, youngadults and their families, but
also adults as well.
But the target audience isyouth, young adults and their
families, because if thefamilies are taken care of, the
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adults can do what they need todo, because they know the
children are OK.
And I say that not because ofwhat I've seen, but because that
was a part of my life, growingup with the, with the kiddos in
the house, and me and Bearcouldn't focus on what we needed
to do because we had to makesure the kids were taken care of
, and once the Lord sentblessings our way to watch, to
make sure they were taken careof, we could focus on what we
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needed to do, and that's howwe're blessed to where we live
today.
I'm still shouting glory.
Never thought I'd get to apoint where I am now, but it was
all because of doing what I wasasked to do, stepping out on
faith, and because of that it'sopened up other doors to where
now we're trying to look for abuilding because we have so much
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that we do to help the ministry.
I have a relative who says I'mworse than our island brothers
and sisters because every monthI'm doing something different.
Who says I'm worse than ourisland brothers and sisters
because every month I'm doingsomething different Customized
rugs, blankets, masks, hats,shirts.
I do sanitizing lotion, whichis not gel like the sanitizing
gel.
You use a sanitizing lotionthat leaves your hands soft, but
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they come in so many differentscents.
And now I'm doing candles,dessert candles.
I'm a baker, so of course it'sdessert candles.
So now we're starting to docandles that are taking off like
lightning, and I'm loving itall because it all goes towards
the ministry.
Everything that is so goestowards that ministry because at
the same time we thought we'vealso been helping families and
single parents already this yearwith things that they needed.
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So, from the benevolent fundthat we get from selling the
merchandise, that's what it goesto to help youth, young adults,
families in need.
We help some college studentsget into college this year.
Bought fund that we get fromselling the merchandise, that's
what it goes to to help youth,young adults, families in need.
We help some college studentsget into college this year,
bought them some little thingsfor them to do and we do stuff
with them throughout the year.
That is what the whole purposeof the ministry is, and I am so
glad to God that we've gotten toa point to where the donations
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that we get are being used forwhat they were supposed to be
used for.
So that is what is going on.
But today we're going to talkabout watch what you say.
We're coming from James 3,verses 8 and 10.
Verse 8 says but the tongue canno maintain.
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It is unruly evil, full ofdeadly poison.
Verse 10, out of the same mouthproceedeth blessing and cursing
my brethren.
These things ought not so to be, which means you can't sit up
there and bless somebody andpray for them and call out on
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the name of Jesus, and you takeone short breath and then you
cussing them out in the samebreath, or you're cussing out
somebody else in the same breath.
What the word is saying?
You can't do that.
You can't say.
You can't use your mouth forblessing and then turn around
and use your tongue for evil atthe same time.
You can't do it.
Our tongue has killed many,ruined careers of others and
we're still really doing it andsent many to jail for crimes
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they did not commit.
One day, a punishment will bein place for those who
intentionally cause harm toothers for no reason, for just
being mean.
Verse 8 tells us that thetongue of man cannot be tamed.
It is unruly, evil and full ofpoison.
You don't think so?
Go through all the past courtcases where some of these people
have been exonerated because ofDNA, because they were
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convicted on what an eyewitnesssaid and the eyewitness lied.
Let's talk about these men andwomen who are in jail because
their domestic partner put themthere, because they said enough
to make it believable.
And a lot of these people aregoing to jail without the
evidence part.
They're going by what someonesaid and eyewitness said, and a
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detective once said that herelies on evidence more than he
relies on an eyewitness, becauseeyewitness is always wrong and
if that person made that otherperson mad, well, now your
secrets are going to come out.
You know that's what bringsback into your character.
It doesn't matter what somebodysays about you.
If your character sayssomething different, somebody is
going to take another lookbefore just accusing you of
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something.
But this is telling you ourtongues have killed and you go
back in history to some of theleaders, even now, some of the
people who have died becausesomebody has said something that
was wrong and it ended upkilling somebody what there was
during a time where young peoplewere dying because their
girlfriends or boyfriends are onthe phone and they were already
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at a vulnerable moment and thegirlfriend or boyfriend is
sitting up and telling him whydon't you just go ahead and kill
yourself?
And they did.
That's the evil part of thetongue, because you knew they
were at a vulnerable point and,instead of being there blessing
them with something to keep themout of what they were getting
ready to do, you went ahead andpushed them over the edge.
A lot of many.
How many people have lost theirjobs because of something they
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said?
You said one thing to one groupof people, but another thing
was said to another group ofpeople, and now you're behind,
out of a job because that mouthgot you into trouble.
This is so true on so manylevels.
How many people are stillsuffering of what someone has
said about them, depending onwhat was said and the manner in
which it was said?
Some have lost their lives ortheir freedom.
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And for what?
What does evil have to gainfrom destroying someone's life,
taking away their freedom ordestroying their career and or
family?
When we figured that out, thenwe can put a stop to the
foolishness.
Sometimes people just do stuffjust to do it.
One of the things I'm alwaysministering to my mentees and
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adults is just because they'reyour friends today don't mean
they're going to be your friendstomorrow, or just because they
say you're your friends, they'renot.
My biggest advice I giveanybody is be careful of whom
you hang around and who you lethang around you.
Not everybody is happy for you.
Not everybody is happy for you,and that's stuff that I've seen
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, where a group of girls or agroup of guys are together but
then the group is still stuck inthe high school childish ways
where other parts of the groupare.
Now they're growing up, they'vegone to college, they've got a
job, they've done this and thisand the and their old group is
not liking it.
So then they start bringing outtheir old dirt and in some
cases it gets the new people introuble, because that's not the
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life they live anymore, butbecause somebody was jealous,
because you're moving on andthey're still stuck.
They didn't want to be stuck bythemselves, so they do
something to bring you down.
Facebook is the reign supreme onpeople losing their job because
you think on Facebook you cansay what you want to say.
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No, you can't, because jobs arenow looking into people's
Facebook accounts and when theysee what you're saying and
you're supposed to berepresenting that company, we
can't count how many people havelost their job because of
something that was on socialmedia.
And they had to.
They had to be let go.
You have to watch what you say.
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Yeah, we all know about thefreedom of speech and yakety
smackety and blabbity, blabbity.
But then there's also thefreedom to be foolish.
You know things that you'regoing to say are going to
probably come back on you andfreedom of speech is not going
to save you because your job hasto think about them.
They're thinking about clients,you know, who may come into the
, to the office and they haveheard about you and seeing your
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posts and stuff like, andthey're not going to want to do
business with that company.
Well then, that company ain'tgoing to last very long, which
means the people that areworking there are going to
probably be out of a job soon.
So companies are thinking aboutthem and you know what you say
is I was going to come back.
That's why I tell my youngpeople, I tell adults be mindful
of what you say and be mindfulof who you do stuff with.
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How many people now have lostjobs or lost their minds or even
lost their lives because ofsomething that happened when
they were younger?
You know, when you were younger, you didn't know nobody, you
didn't care.
You was invincible.
You hung with this person.
This was going to be your girlgirl, your dude, your rodo, your
buddy for life.
But then, as you got older,things started to happen and you
started to see that this is notthe way I need to live.
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I need to change what I'm doing.
But your friend still wanted tolive a high life, still wanted
to have the fun, still wanted tocause the ruckus.
And when you really put yourfoot down and start to say, no,
I, I can't be a part of thatlife anymore, they did
everything they could to destroyyou by telling all your little
secrets, all of them, and youcouldn't deny them because, yeah
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, you did them, but that's whenyou were young.
Watch what you say, not onlythat, watch who you say it to.
A lot of people have been setup because people know how to
push your buttons and theworkplace, woo Is reign supreme.
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Number two everybody's job atsome point makes them want to
choke the Holy ghost intosomebody, but you can't because
of you know the laws against.
That's called assault.
But a lot of people's workplacehas stressed them out to no
relief.
When you came there, you washealthy as a horse.
Six months in now, you got highblood pressure, high
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cholesterol.
You got so many health issuesthat shouldn't be because of the
workplace.
Watch what you say because,even though you may change who
you are, the world already knowswhat you are.
The world knows how to pushthose buttons and the world
knows who to send to get you togo back to what you used to do.
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Be mindful of what you saybecause, even though you may say
it to one particular person,somebody is hearing it, somebody
is watching you, somebody iskeeping stock of everything you
say and do, waiting for themoment for you to get too big in
your britches and bring youright back down.
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I hope someday we will figureout how to put a stop to the
foolishness.
How many I know.
There's laws now about theperjury and I think they're
trying to do some things nowthat if a person lies and they
come back on it and we find outthat it was a lie, well that's
perjury for one.
But how do you give somebodytheir life back Because you sat
there and lied and produceevidence that really wasn't
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evidence and if it was doneright the first time, they would
have saw that it wasn't true.
But how do you give somebody 10, 12, even a year of their life
back?
They're in jail, even if theytake it off their record,
depending on how big the casewas.
Everybody knows they were injail.
Now they can no longer get ajob If they had a family.
Now they're gone because ofwhat you said and what you did
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and their lives are ruined.
And now here they go, going upshooting up the place Because in
their minds, what they got tolive for, everything was taken
from them.
So, yes, things should be inplace to stop people at the door
from doing that kind of stuff.
But there are people who that'swhat they feed off of.
They feed off of knowing whatticks you off and doing
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everything they can to make yousay something and then be like,
well, you can't be serving nogod because you sitting up here
cussing up a storm, or you saidthat you was changed.
I said one little thing and nowyou off, cussing like a sailor
again.
It's all.
They're just trying to set youup.
That's why I'm a big stickleron.
I mean what I say, and I saywhat I mean how you see me in
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the church house is how you seeme outside of it.
There ain't gonna be no twodifferent sides.
There ain't gonna be no, I'mtalking holier than thou here,
but I'm cussing somebody outthere.
You're not gonna see that fromme, because that's not me.
Are you gonna see me upset?
Probably, but I got too manypeople in my boardroom up in my
head to make me stay that way.
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My job will tell you I'm thegift, I'm the queen of gifts and
memes.
You're not supposed to botherme, because I know how to step
back.
I know how to slow it down.
I know how to talk to to uppermanagement and be like know how
to slow it down.
I know how to talk to to openmanagement and be like we've got
to slow this down Cause I canonly do so much.
There's only one man that canturn water into wine, and it's
not me.
So I can only do so much, andthat's sometimes what you have
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to do.
Politely.
Be mindful of how you say ittoo.
But all of this starts with us.
We all have a group of peoplethat we can say stuff to that we
know ain't gonna say nothingand we know they not.
But there's ears that areprobably four or five rows over,
probably in the next building,that heard word for word what
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you said and are waiting forthat moment.
Look in your celebrities,celebrities.
Look at your celebrities.
Once they get to a certainstatus, all of a sudden, old
YouTube videos, old Instagramvideos, old Facebook posts pop
up from 20, 30 years ago.
And now they sitting up herelike, okay, and you want me to
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apologize for what I said, butthat was back then, when
everybody wasn't so soft, andthat's just the best way I can
put it.
You know, growing up, you cansay what you want, it ain't
going to hurt me.
Do you know the kind of thingswe had to grow up looking at on
TV, the kind of things we had tohear growing up, where you had
to have that thick skin that itdoesn't bother you.
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Where today, oh my gosh, yousay something wrong.
They falling out on the floorlike you whipped them with a
belt, oh my gosh, but that's theworld that we live in.
But again, it starts with us,with what we say, how we carry
ourselves.
Verse 10 says the mouth canproduce both a blessing and a
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curse, and again that is so true.
You can pray somebody up underan altar and then turn around
and you cussing out the personright behind you.
The tongue can do both.
It doesn't have no on and offswitch, it doesn't have no hours
of operation.
It can do it in a heartbeat.
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Our words can not only cursesomeone, but it can bless them
as well.
When you ask people to pray foryou, be mindful who you're
asking, because when you'reasking them to pray for you,
they may be, but they may bepraying for you to lose
everything you got.
They may be praying for you toget sicker than you are.
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Whatever it is that you'reasking them, that you're asking
people to pray for, they couldbe praying for against it, but
be mindful of who you ask topray.
But see, that's the point wherewe shouldn't have to do that
With this ministry that I havethat because of my youth and
young adults it's a social mediaministry that, yeah, on the
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email list that I have, yeah,we'll send out a post that says
you know, pray for such and suchon the loss of a parent.
I don't know what them peopleactually praying for, because I
don't know what's going on intheir lives right at that minute
.
You know, if I'm saying prayfor these people because they
were blessed with yada, yada,yada, yada, well, the person who
may be reading at thatparticular time may have lost
something, and so they'repraying against you.
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They're still praying, butthey're not praying for what you
think they're praying for, butas children of God that's.
That's not our call to make.
You ask for prayer, you receivethe prayer, like you've heard
me say before.
A friend once told me a closedmouth can't get fed, can't
nobody know you need help if youdon't say anything.
And in this world I'm still afirm believer.
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There's still more good than itis evil.
It's just time for the goodnessto stand up again.
Don't get me wrong.
I'm sure evil was always there,but growing up there was more
people that were doing more goodin the world.
There were more elders in thevillage.
They didn't care if you didn'tlike them.
They didn't care what yourparents said.
If you weren't supposed to dosomething that you weren't
supposed to do, your parentsknew about it Because they were
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watching out for you, and that'show a lot of us stayed safe,
doing stupid stuff.
We know we shouldn't have done,but at the same time we had an
adult watching out for us.
So if our parents weren'taround and somebody was trying
to mess with us, those adultsstepped in and took care of it
and handled the situation.
We don't do that anymore becauseeverybody wants to get upset.
You can't talk to my child thatway.
You can't do this.
Who you talking?
And then you wonder why youthand young adults don't talk to
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us anymore.
Because you got one time to tosay something to embarrass them.
That's it.
That door is shut for goodbecause you made the situation
worse, which goes back to watchwhat you say.
Youth and young adults are canhear anything anywhere.
Anything goes back to what Isaid.
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You said one thing in thechurch house, or you said one
thing in front of a group, oryou said one thing in front of
house, or you said one thing infront of a group, or you said
one thing in front of them.
Then you're out somewhere,don't know that they're there,
and then they see how you actwhen you're away out of their
presence.
They're going to hold you tothat, because now they're like
well, why should I listen toanything you say when you don't
even listen to your own words?
The youth are getting tired andenough is enough.
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Think of how much evil we couldsend back to hell If we bless
one another with our mouthsinstead of curse them.
Hell is only on earth becausewe allowed it to be.
And let's just call it what itis.
Hell is only up here on earthhaving a Mardi Gras party
because we allowed it to be.
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We may say something, but wedon't really say something.
We put the word in somebodyelse's ear for them to do it
when we should have done it,because we know what needs to be
done and that other person'sprobably just as scared as we
are and won't say anything.
That's not me.
If I see it, I'm going to dosomething.
I don't care.
You can say what you want tosay about me later on.
You can call me a snitch, youcan call me a stool pigeon.
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I'm going to sing WhitneyHouston in the highest octave.
I can possibly sing, doesn'tmatter, because what should be
should not be, and you're notonly putting that person's life
and person's life in danger.
You put in mind, because ifnothing is said, then who's to
say they won't turn around anddo something else?
Or who's to say that somebodysees that they got away with it
and decides OK, well, today I'mmad at this person, let me go
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take it out, because ain'tnobody going to do nothing.
No, it needs to stop before itstarts.
We are the reason why the worldis like this.
When people say why would Godallow this to happen?
He didn't.
He put things in place toprevent it.
But you're the ones that aretoo scared to say something,
afraid of what your friends maysay, afraid of what your group
people may say, because they maythink this way, but you know
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that that's immorally andmindfully wrong.
But you won't say anything.
He didn't allow nothing tohappen.
You did.
And because we allowed it tohappen, we're the ones that have
to fix it.
Just like you tell kids whenthey grow up, when they make a
mistake and they do somethingwrong, okay, well, you need to
go back and apologize becauseyou hurt that person's feelings.
You need to go and apologize.
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Why come adults are not takingtheir own advice?
You say something, it hurtssomebody.
They go off and do somethingfoolish and it comes back to the
reason.
Why is because of what you say.
Now everybody's looking at youFirst of all like why did you
even say that?
And now you try to.
Well, they said who's the adult?
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Just because they saidsomething, you don't mean you
got to turn around and saysomething right back.
Everybody is not as strong aseverybody else People like me.
You can say what you want tosay and I'm just going to look
at you like you stayed up allnight and that's the best you
can come up with.
Or you can say what you want tosay about me and I'm gonna look
at you like, okay, now you knowdoggone, good and well, ain't
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nothing.
You just said true, but if thatmakes you feel better, keep on
saying it.
But the next person may not bethat strong.
It may cut them down evenfurther than they already were.
That we didn't know about,because some people do not know
how to express how they feel,but that's going to be a topic
for another day.
But think of how much evil wecould send back to hell if we
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just blessed each other insteadof tearing each other down, if
we uplift the falling instead ofwalking on top of them, if we
help the helpless instead ofrobbing them of what possessions
they're trying to keep.
Think of how blessed the worldwould be if we spent more time
doing the word of God instead offighting against it.
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A lot of us, when you seesomebody that's falling, you get
in there and you say somethingWell, if you've done what I told
you to do, you beat them downlower first, then you pick them
back up.
Now I'm going to say that, tosay this Y'all heard me say once
or twice before that peoplewould come to me for stuff and
then, when they turn around anddo something anyway, I sit there
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and tell them now, you knewbetter.
Did I tear them down even lower?
No, why?
Because I know who they are andthey know me.
It's totally different from meknowing a person and they know
that.
That's what I'm going to saybecause they knew what.
They knew what was going tohappen when they did what they
did, as opposed to someone notknowing who I am giving them the
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advice.
They went against it anyway.
And then they come back andtell me I would not say that to
them.
I would skip already to steptwo.
Let's try to make it right.
So there's a difference in how Isaid I talked to people.
Like I said, those are thepeople I know.
People know me.
20 or 30 years, always come tome for advice.
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Why?
Because they know that I'mgoing to tell them the truth.
I'm not going to sit up thereand sugarcoat it.
Now, you knew better when youdid that.
Now they know I'm going to sitthere and say now, I told you
that that was going to happen,so why did you do it anyway?
Yeah, I'm going to talk to themthat way, cause that's that
friend group that you talk about.
That's that friend.
But even then, I still know whoto say that to and who not to,
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because just because I could sayit to him one time, the next
time they come back with me andthey went against the advice
that they asked me for, I canlook at him and tell, no, we're
not going to go that way, we'rejust going to go straight to
what's going on.
So there's a difference betweensaying something because it's
something that you know, thatthey're used to, to knowing when
it's appropriate to say it.
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Like I said, anybody whodoesn't know me I would never
say that, nope, you did it.
Okay.
Well, why did you felt like youneeded to do that?
Cause that would be my question.
That'd be my first question.
This is what you asked me, thisis what I told you, plus, I
told you what would happen ifyou did it anyway.
You did it anyway, and what Isaid happened, happened.
So what was going on that youfelt that that would be the
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better answer to the question,to the problem.
What was going on that day thatyou decided that this?
I know what the advice was, butI think this will work.
What was going on that youthought that would work?
Because we have to work throughthat first, so the next time
the problem comes up you canremember what happened the last
time.
But it goes back to watch whatyou say.
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People come to people for help.
The minute they get berated,the minute they get belittled,
the minute they get talked about, they probably won't open up to
nobody else.
And now they're walking aroundwith all this pent up pressure
ready to explode, all becausesomeone that should have been
helping hurt them.
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And I'm not telling you what Iheard.
I'm telling you what I've beenthrough.
One of the reasons why Icouldn't be humble because every
time I did I got belittled, Igot berated first, before the
help came that after a while Ijust stopped asking for it.
I'm like you know what.
That's okay, I'll do without,I'll find something.
I can have a bologna and cracka sandwich.
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I'm good, I'm.
It's not worth it.
It's not worth it Cause most ofthe times when people are
coming to you, they're alreadyhurting, they're already
embarrassed, they're alreadyashamed, and half the time it's
not even their fault why theyended up the situation that they
ended up in.
It wasn't their fault, but theyalready feel ashamed and humbled
and they wanted to reach outthat one time and then that one
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time destroyed them for the restof the rest of their life.
Now you got family fightingwithin family because they're so
pent up with the burdens that'sbeen going on, because they
don't want to ask nobody,because a lot of people can't
keep their mouth shut for one.
Let's just call it what it is Alot of people can't keep their
mouth shut and they don't wantto go through that, those that
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are helpless needing help.
Instead of you helping them,you're trying to take what
little they have left.
Well, I need to borrow $250until payday.
Well, what you need the $250for, give it to me so I can pay
it.
That's defeating the purpose.
And don't get me wrong, Iunderstand why people do that,
because you had so many peopleyou know say they needed it for
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one thing and then they use itfor something else.
Well, that was between that's,between them and the Lord.
The Lord sent them to youbecause you had what they needed
.
What they do with it, that'snot our concern.
If we have it, we should giveit.
If they don't do what they'resupposed to do with it, the Lord
will take care of them for that.
But we need to mind what we say, especially when it comes to
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those youth and young adults.
You have to be careful with howyou talk to them.
They are so wound up, tangledup, bound up as it is right now.
Just trying to make it througha school day, cause you don't
know how you send them out, ishow they're going to come back.
Trying to make it through aschool day because you don't
know how you send them out ishow they're going to come back.
You don't know what they seethat they're so confused and
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heartbroken and angry and mad.
You don't know.
And then you come home and youstart talking like you done,
lost your rabid mind.
Now your child is on the newsbecause they almost beat you
into another century, notbecause they wanted to, but
because it was already goingthrough something and you just
went in on them and that justwasn't the time to do it.
Watch what you say.
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A lot of people are living thelives that they're living, that
they shouldn't have or theywouldn't have.
If they just watch what theysay, what's that thing?
They always tell us there's atime and a place for everything,
that's including your mouth.
There's a time and a place foryour mouth, and most of the
times it needs to be in the car,where it's just you and the
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Lord, where nobody can hear whatyou say.
Or even if they do, if they saysomething like well, that one
that was in the car fussing withmyself, why are you
eavesdropping?
But there's a time and a placeto get things off your chest.
And what I pray is that peoplehave someone that they can talk
to.
If we had more people that wecould trust and that's another
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topic we're going to have foranother day, because that's
another issue that's going onthe problem, while we're facing
the anger anger that we havetoday if there was somebody that
we could trust trust meaningnot only will they keep what we
said, but they're not feedinginto the anger that we already
have.
You know, growing up back inthe day, if one of your friends
got into a fight or one of yourfriends got to an argument and
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they come in to tell you whatyou brought up and now both of
you gone off to go get theperson again Can't do that in
this day and age.
You need to calm that down.
So not only do we have somebodythat we know that we can trust,
you know that, whatever we say,no matter how juicy, no matter
how New York bestseller it maybe, if you was to publish it
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we'll keep it to themselves, noteven tell nobody none of it.
But we also need to trustsomeone to know that if I'm
coming there fired up, hot,ready to take someone out, then,
no matter how much they agreewith the anger, how much they
dislike the person anyway whosaid what they said to get me
upset, they're not going to feedinto that.
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They're going to calm me downbefore I do do something that I
can't take back.
Trust works for more than justsomebody keeping their mouth
shut.
It also works with peoplethat's going to actually be
there for you to calm thesituation down, to make you
think about what you're about todo.
It goes both ways.
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About what you're about to do.
It goes both ways, but at theend of the day it all goes back
to watch what you say.
Amen, let us pray, father.
God, we come here today to saythank you, father.
I pray that the people under myvoice hear what you have to say
, father, and that they are moremindful of what they say and
they're more mindful of what iseven being told to them.
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That when they see that thereis a problem, when they see that
someone is going throughsomething, and when they hear
someone is going throughsomething, father, that they
step up and they step out andthey calm the situation, father,
before it gets worse.
Evil is on every hand.
Evil has never ceased to work.
Right now, father, god, evildoesn't even have to do anything
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, because man is doing it forhim.
Evil is sitting back theretaking notes.
Father, we ask that you justbless over everyone.
Father, we ask that you healthose who are going through
something that they don't knowhow to express what is going on,
so they don't say anything.
Father, we pray for those whoare in their jobs, who are at
their wits end, who are stilltrying, but the world is still
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trying them.
Father, I ask you to give themthe comfort of peace, the
comfort of understanding, thecomfort of clearness, so they
can see clearly what needs to bedone and to keep their mouth
shut.
Father, we pray that peopleLearn to watch what they say,
because not only can it blesssomeone's soul, father, but can
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it also kill it.
Father, we thank you, we praiseyou, we give you all the honor
and praise in your son Jesus'name.
Amen, and you know I can neverleave you without telling you to
be that light in someone else'sdarkness.
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Stay blessed until we talkagain.
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