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January 23, 2025 15 mins

Reconnecting with an old circle of friends during a challenging time led to a transformative journey I didn't see coming. By joining a Bible study group, my perspective on personal and professional development shifted dramatically, highlighting the immense power your social circle holds over your growth. This episode of the newly rebranded Seth Said It Show explores my personal story and emphasizes the importance of choosing your companions carefully. Through anecdotes and reflections, I underline how the right friendships can propel you forward while toxic ones may hold you back. It's a journey of setting boundaries, rediscovering faith, and valuing quality over quantity in relationships.

As we broaden the scope of our discussions, expect candid conversations on often neglected topics that need more spotlight. I'm eager to engage with our community on social media, encouraging you to join me on Instagram, TikTok, and Facebook for ongoing insights and interactions. With new episodes dropping every Thursday, make sure you have notifications turned on so you never miss out. This journey is not just about listening—it's about being part of an evolving dialogue that challenges norms and fosters growth. Thank you for tuning in, and here's to forging connections that truly matter.

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Good afternoon, good evening, good morning depending
on when and where you arewatching this from.
My name is Seth Mills, and thisis now being rebranded the Seth
Said it Show.
It used to be the AstroCraftGrow, influence, invest Show.
However, in 2025, rebrandingand picking back up where we
left off is where I want tostart, and so, with that being

(00:22):
said, I don't only want to betalking about business and
entrepreneurship.
That will still be a very largepart of this show.
However, I also want to getinto the personal growth and
business growth and just thingsthat are going on in the world
around us today.
I want to be able to talk aboutthose separate from business,

(00:46):
and, in order to do that, Ithought what the best way was
going to be and I came up withthe Set it Show.
So, with that being said, youguys can go back on previous
episodes.
Take a look at what I've posted.
Those will always still be abig part of this show and they
still will be reoccurringthroughout the show.
However, I just wanted to getanother broad look at the world

(01:11):
we have going on right now.
So, with that being said, todaywe are going to be talking
about something that can make orbreak you, and that is your
circle.
The people you surroundyourself with.
Do they lift you up, Do theydrag you down?
Is your circle.
The people you surroundyourself with Do they lift you
up, do they drag you down?
It's all a huge factor in yourpersonal and professional growth
.
If you are an entrepreneur, youdon't want to be hanging around

(01:35):
people that are going tocontinuously drag you down or
they are not in a position towhere they are going to be
beneficial for your life.
And I'm not saying get greedy,I'm not saying to get mean
towards people in your life, buttake a broad look around, see
if those people are trying tothrive, like you are.
Because, let's be honest, 2025,2026, 2027, it's not going to

(01:56):
be any time to be carrying deadweight.
So we want to rid these peoplefrom our circle.
I'm not saying don't hang outwith them, rid these people from
our circle.
I'm not saying don't hang outwith them, damn.
But if you want to still havethem in your circle, do it in
moderation.
So, with that being said, alittle bit of a personal story.
I had this group of friendsthat I was very close with I'd

(02:20):
say like the 2020-2021 timeframe and we were all hanging
out.
We were hanging out every day.
Some things happened and westopped hanging out, we stopped.
It was pretty much a no contact.
Things happened and it was nocontact and then back, I'd say
so we stopped hanging out likemiddle to end of 2021, maybe

(02:44):
even the beginning of 22, butI'm pretty sure it was like the
end of 2021.
However, back about, I'd say,almost a year ago today, or a
year ago, and maybe two weeksonce this episode is published,
I wasn't in a great place.
So I reached out to one ofthese people who it was my very
close friend, and I'm not goingto be saying names just because

(03:06):
I don't want them to think thatI'm sharing anything, or not
even just sharing anything.
I just don't want them to thinkthat I'm using this for the
podcast, using their names.
But anyway, I reached out toone of my friends, just said hey
, I think that I can go backinto the text, but it was
something along the lines of hey, are you working a day or can

(03:27):
we hang out?
Can we catch up?
I'm not doing it that great.
And so I got a response and itwas yeah, I am working today.
However, we're doing Biblestudy at my house tonight.
If you know me and I'm not aproud to admit it that I'm not a
very big go to church pray, orI wasn't.

(03:50):
I believe in God, love God, andI fully believe that he has
every part of our lives alreadyplanned out and we're just
working towards that, towardsHis vision planned out, and
we're just working towards that,towards His vision.
But she asked me if I'd like togo to this Bible study with her
and a group of friends.

(04:10):
Some of them I knew, some ofthem I did not, and so I
immediately, within seconds,absolutely I'll be there, and so
I went and it became a prettybig part of my life.
I started going every week ortrying to go as much as possible
, and then life happened.
There's always going to be timeto make up excuses.

(04:32):
There's always going to bethings that happen that are out
of our control, that we use toget out of certain
responsibilities and certainthings that we have planned, and
I think that I used the whatwas going on to distance myself

(04:53):
from these people.
However, I also think that indoing so, I was able to grow,
and we all grew the reason I'mtelling you about us having our
little two, three year hiatus iseverybody grew Not me, not just
me, but everybody in the groupwas able to grow and then when
we first reconnected, it wasjust.
It was as if there was astronger bond.
It also went back to in myopinion, it went back to how we

(05:17):
were back then, but more mature,professional, more more minded
and round-minded people.
I ended up going and then Istopped going.
I think it was around August orSeptember of last year and then
I get a call I'm looking back onmy calendar, so sorry if the
mic cut out I got a call onJanuary 15th of 2025, this year

(05:50):
of 2025, this year, about a weekago, and it was just hey, seth,
like where are you?
We want you back.
Start coming to Bible studyagain.
And that was a wake-up callbecause I didn't realize, but it
had been almost six months.
It had been like four or fivemonths since I had been and
since I had been and bringingGod into this, I could notice
that I was drifting away.
And again, I'm not the mostgodly person in the world.

(06:13):
I'm far from it.
However, with that being said,I do still try to pray.
I try to keep Him in my life.
But anyway, I got invited to golast week and it was just.
It was really nice to get thatphone call.
And again, these people, likethe people in our Bible study,

(06:36):
they have no idea how much of abig part of my life it is,
despite me not going the lastfour or five months up until
last week.
But, with that being said,they're trying to lift people,
they're trying to bring you in,they're trying to lift you up.
They're trying to lift people.
They're trying to bring you in.
They're trying to lift you up.
They're trying to support you.
They're trying to listen toyour problems and help you deal
with them.
So in 2025, I just I stronglysuggest that you take a look at

(07:03):
your friendships.
There's going to be people whowant to drink.
There's people who are going towant to go gamble.
There's people that are goingto want to do all sorts of
things and, believe me, lastyear I was one of them.
I was at the casino probablyonce a month.
I was drinking almost everyweek.
I'd be willing to say three tofour times a week, but then
again, I am 23.
And a lot of people are goingto say that it's oh, you're just

(07:23):
going, you're having fun.
But also it was the people thatI was with and I was blowing
money left and right, not proudof it, especially doing my taxes
right now, but, with that beingsaid, it helped me realize who
was good for me, who was therefor me.
And there's a few other people,a very limited few, three people

(07:44):
outside of this that I canthink of off the top of my head,
and I'm probably going to getin some trouble with other
people, with friends, but one ofthem starts with an N, one of
them starts with an H and myother, like very close friend,
starts with a T.
So y'all know who y'alls are.
But, with that being said, thefriends you keep around, the
support system you keep around,plays a huge part in personal

(08:06):
and mental health, personalgrowth and even in achieving
your goals, because the peoplein your life are either building
you up or tearing you down.
There's no neutral inrelationships and, with that
being said, it's reallyimportant that you start looking
at the people in your life andasking yourself do they

(08:27):
genuinely want to see me when,or are they there for me, or are
they just there for me when itbenefits them?
So, with that being said, in2025, you really have to
identify the toxic people inyour life.
As far as the toxicrelationships go, you can start
asking yourself who's constantlynegative, who's very

(08:48):
manipulative and who's jealous,because all three of these
things and I'm not saying to bejealous, or really just the
jealous one, like people arealways going to be jealous it's
always keeping up with theJoneses who has the best car,
who has the nicest house, whohas all of these fancy things.
And I know one for me achildhood friend of mine very I

(09:11):
used to think of him as a veryclose friend constantly held me
back, drained my energy.
I even employed him for a shortamount of time, just some
freelance work, but he wasalways griping and showing up
late and he was always coming upwith an excuse.
And just all of these things,constantly on on top of each

(09:33):
other, started draining myenergy, which was not healthy
for me.
It wasn't helping me succeed,it wasn't doing anything.
It wasn't adding any value tomy life.
If anything, it was taking frommy life because I had to put in
energy to that and it drainedmy personal energy that I could
have used to fuel my goals andmy ambitions because I was
trying to help him, but all hewas doing is take.
There was never any kind ofmutual give and take

(09:58):
relationship, and cutting tieswith people can be difficult,
right?
Especially if they've been inyour life for a long time.
That's why I chose this story,chose this story.
I've known this guy since wewere five years old.
I'm 23, so that's roughly 18years.
We met in Boy Scouts, movedabout five years, six years
after knowing him, and then wereconnected back in 2019, I

(10:20):
believe, or 2020.
I believe it was 2020 becauseit was right before COVID hit.
But sometimes we hold onto thepeople out of guilt, comfort or
even fear of being alone, evenwith friendships.
Like you have to understand,it's not just relationships
where we're fearing being alone,it's also the friendship side
of things, and that's also theexact same thing that's keeping

(10:41):
us stuck to where we can'tthrive.
So I just I really want toencourage you guys to evaluate
your relationships and takesmall steps to distance yourself
from toxic people in this year.
And so, with that being said, Imean, like me, it doesn't have

(11:01):
to be dramatic, right?
Sometimes you just have to setboundaries, focus your energy
elsewhere and things will unfoldthe way they do.
There's been several peoplelast year that I did this to and
it just ended up distancing anddistancing and now we don't
talk anymore, which obviously Iwant the best for everybody.
I really do.
However, you also have to wantthe best for yourself, and so,

(11:25):
like when you're building yourdream circle of friends, and so
like when you're building yourdream circle of friends, you're
going to want to look for peoplewho are mentors, people who are
trustworthy, encourage you,honest with you, and the people
in my Bible study.
They are not fake.
They will tell you like it isand like they are.
They always they've been theclosest friends that I've ever

(11:48):
had, or some of the closestfriends that I've ever had,
because they're always honest,and that's part of why we had a
little bit of a disagreementback in 2021 and we stopped
talking there for a while, butnow we're back and we've all
worked on ourselves and I thinkthat's what has built the
friendships even further Like.

(12:09):
They are truly the closestpeople in my life right now, and
I do not show them the lovethat they desire or not desire
deserve.
Look for the good qualities inpeople.
Look for the people that arelike that in your life, and I
know I keep talking about Biblestudy.
It is something that I'm goingto talk about in this podcast

(12:30):
because, quite honestly, it's mypodcast Probably going to lose
followers, probably going tolose business and, honestly, in
this small town, I highly doubtit.
However, if I do, it's just oneof those things.
This podcast is in no wayaffiliated with my business.
However, I am sharing it on thesame platform, which is my
personal pages on every socialmedia.

(12:50):
Speaking of which, you shouldbe able to find those also
somewhere down below, dependingon what platform you're watching
it from.
But, with that being said, I'mover here.
I'm trying to surround myselfwith people who are ambitious,
people who are positive andpeople who are helping me, in my
personal mindset as well asfocused on helping me, and

(13:12):
that's the thing is.
You want a friend circle whereyou are all building each other
up.
You're all trying to help eachother succeed.
It's not about quantity.
Quality over quantity alwayswins.
You do not need a big circle,right?
I just, this is just somethingthat's helped me, so I'm sharing
it with you all and, likenetwork, join groups that like

(13:36):
if you see a group that alignswith your goal, join that group,
try and connect with people and, like that, also circles around
reconnecting with people you'vedrifted away from.
Like my example from thebeginning, the people that you
surround yourself with can makeor break your 2025.
I have financial goals, I havepersonal goals, I have life

(13:57):
goals.
All that I want to complete in2025.
And in order to do that, I haveto cut out the takers, build
with the givers and I have to beintentional about my
relationships with friends andfamily.
So this week, I'd like to askyou guys to take some time to
really evaluate your circle.
Write down or put in your noteson your phone the people who
lift you up and the ones whodrain you, and then start
thinking about how to take sometime to really evaluate your

(14:18):
circle.
Write down or put in your noteson your phone the people who
lift you up and the ones whodrain you, and then start
thinking about how to spend moretime with the former and less
with the latter.
This is your year.
You should be acting like it.
Thank you guys for tuning in.
I would really appreciate it ifyou guys follow or subscribe for

(14:38):
some more unfilteredconversations because, trust me,
this podcast will be gettingdeep into things that a lot of
people are not going to be happywith, things that will be
controversial, and I'm notnecessarily talking politics,
but like, just there's a lot ofstuff going on in the world and
we it's about time somebodytalks about it.

(14:59):
So you guys can connect with meon Instagram, tiktok, I believe
that I have my Facebook open asa public profile so you can find
me on all platforms, I believemy Facebook and Instagram
Facebook.
Seth Mills.
Instagram is, I believe, sethSeth Mills, tx, or Seth Mills

(15:20):
underscore TX, and then TikTokis going to be TheWidow150, as
in the Black Widow, thewidow150.
So, with that being said, guys,I do appreciate you guys tuning
in and I will be uploading oncea week, on Thursdays.
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notification, hit the automaticdownloads.
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Do.
Appreciate you guys forlistening.
I will see you guys nextThursday with a brand new
episode.
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