January 30, 2025 • 14 mins
Not everyone clapping for you is on your team. Some people will pray for your success, while others will prey on your dreams—and sometimes, it’s the people closest to you. In this episode, I’m breaking down why you need to be careful about who you share your goals with, how to spot the difference between true supporters and hidden doubters, and why protecting your vision is crucial in 2025.
I’ve made the mistake of trusting the wrong people more times than I can count, but I’ve learned some hard lessons along the way. Whether it’s fake friends, unsupportive family, or people secretly hoping you fail, this episode is all about recognizing the signs and keeping your circle tight.
Drop a comment below: Have you ever had someone prey on your goals? How did you handle it? Let’s talk about it.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome back to the Seth Sedditt Show.
I am your host, seth Mills, andin today's episode, we're going
to be talking about how somepeople will prey on you and some
people will prey on you, heyguys.
So what I want to get into intoday's episode is that some
people will prey for yoursuccess, while others are going
to be wanting to prey on yourdreams, and the scariest part
(00:22):
about it is that sometimes youdon't know the difference until
it's too late.
Sometimes you won't see it.
Sometimes people will act likeyour friend, act like a mentor
even and I'll get into that aswell and sometimes it's not even
acting.
Sometimes it's just thesepeople don't know what they're
doing or they do and they don'tthink ahead, right?
(00:43):
So I'll be getting into thathere in a little bit, and I'm
not going to be sharing names,not going to be sharing company
names.
However, I do and I will say,if you are listening to this,
you know who you are and I'm nottrying to spread drama.
I'm just simply trying to usethis personal story for this
podcast as a way to for thispodcast, as a way to make other
(01:04):
people aware of the differences,right?
So today we are going to bediving into why you need to
protect your goals, and even howthe people closest to you, like
friends and family, may notalways have your best interests
at heart.
And don't fault them, right?
Some people they just theydon't know what they're doing
and they don't realize how it'sdamaging the mindset of people,
(01:27):
right?
So what it means to pray on youis some people are genuinely
praying for your success,whether literally or
figuratively, whether they'reactually praying to God at night
that you succeed, or whetherthey're just wanting to support
you.
These are the people who aregoing to want the best for you,
the people who root for you andthe people who genuinely care
(01:47):
about seeing you succeed, thepeople that want to see you, in
five years, become the personthat you want to be.
They'll encourage you, they'llhold you accountable and they'll
even celebrate your wins likethey're their own right.
So these people are going to bethe people who want to see you
succeed.
They want to see you thrive inyour goals and they also want to
(02:09):
see that you are pushingyourself.
When we talk about peoplepreying on you, these are the
ones who smile to your face.
They secretly hope you fail.
They're the ones who getjealous and talk behind your
back or even try to sabotage you, right?
Whether they realize it or not,it could be insecurities, it
(02:31):
could be people who just don'tsee the big picture, and it
could be the people in your lifethat are closest to you, that
you share your goals with, andthey get, like I said, jealous
and they want to take thosegoals from you.
Sometimes they're driven byinsecurity, jealousy or even
their own fear of being leftbehind if you succeed.
(02:51):
So they see you succeeding andthey're like no, I don't want to
be left out, right.
And so with this, I will gointo my personal story, and this
is going to be when somebodyprayed on me.
I got into the industry that Iam in the pressure washing and
(03:13):
exterior cleaning industry and Ididn't really know what I was
doing.
That's with any industry, right.
If you get into an industry andyou don't know what you're
doing, you're going to look forpeople who will help you, and
some of these people that aregoing to help you are also going
to end up hurting you in thelong term, right?
So I started in the industryand I met a guy and it was
(03:40):
fairly new.
It was fairly quick whenever Igot into the industry because I
had a lot of different thingsgoing for me as far as a lot of
different quotes coming in and Ididn't know how to estimate
them.
I didn't know the pricing.
When you first get into anindustry, you're not going to
know these things.
You're going to need to adaptand learn right.
(04:00):
So at the time I didn't see itfor what it was.
But looking back it's clearthat they weren't necessarily
rooting for me and they may nothave been rooting against me,
but that's just how it feelsafter looking back on the events
that happened.
So I met this guy and he helpedme with my pricing.
He helped me quote a fairlylarge commercial bid and they
(04:24):
were not expecting the estimateto be that high.
They were wanting pennies onthe dollar, that kind of
estimate.
And so all of this happened.
And then, fast forward, a yearafter he had started helping me,
we did a lot of work togetheror subcontracting.
I would subcontract things tohim.
He'd help me out.
(04:45):
He would help me out, right,I'd call him and he'd be my
go-to person to ask questions.
And so fast forward a year anda half.
I had this idea.
In the pressure washingindustry there are pressure
washing supply stores and theysupply us with their chemicals.
They build trailers, they buildskids for the bed of trucks.
You're not going to be usinglike a Home Depot pressure
(05:08):
washer when you're in thisindustry not for a while anyway.
You might use one just to getinto it and be like oh, this is
something I want to do.
And that's what I did.
I pressure washed a drivewayand I'm like this sucks, so I'm
sure people will pay people todo this for them.
And so we, like I said, fastforward a year.
I went and I told him hey, look, I think that I would like to
(05:32):
open up a pressure washingsupply store.
You're in a better positionthan me.
Like I'd love to open it withyou.
Is this something you'reinterested in?
And right off the bat he saidno, I really don't want to go
into business against thesupplier that we use.
And I was like no, that'stotally understandable, and it
wasn't that I was looking for ahandout.
(05:53):
Like no, I was going to investmy own money in it.
I was going to investeverything into it.
I just needed the.
I guess I needed the knowledge.
He had been in the industry afew years, or at least I believe
, a year or two longer than Ihad.
So he already had a lot ofstuff down, pat contacts, and
then I started getting my owncontacts afterward.
(06:15):
But I asked him if he'd want todo it.
He said no, I don't want to gointo business against this other
company.
And then I dropped it and Istarted looking elsewhere.
But then I guess I'd say a yearand a half after we had that
conversation and again, thingshappen, right, people change
their minds but it just feelslike he was preying on me
(06:39):
because it was my idea that Ibrought up to him and he may
have had that idea before andjust not said anything about it,
but it just felt that way.
And so a year and a half later,after he says no, a new
pressure washing store opens upin my area and it's yours truly
running it.
So it felt like he took my ideaand ran with it a little bit
(07:02):
and he was in a partnership withanother company and a very
close friend of mine, a veryclose business friend of mine.
We don't hang out much outsideof work but we do a lot of work
or did a lot of work together.
But everybody goes their ownways, right.
However, I just felt as thoughthis was kind of target right,
(07:24):
because it was my idea.
I brought it to him.
He said no.
Then he ultimately opened up apressure washing store, not even
a BB's distance from the store.
He said no.
Then he ultimately opened up apressure washing store, not even
a BB's distance from the store.
He said he didn't want tocompete with.
I mean, we're talking if it's astraight shot, you could throw
a water balloon almost Notreally but you could shoot like
(07:45):
an airsoft gun BB and hit theother store.
So it's a tough lesson that Ihad to learn here, but it showed
me that not everybody isclapping for you, or not
everybody clapping for you is onyour team, right.
So, with that in mind, you alsohave occasionally a close
(08:08):
friend that might secretly envyyour ambition or success and
they'll say things like and thiscould be family too.
Are you sure that's a good idea?
Or I wouldn't do that if I wereyou.
And it's not because they care,it's because they're projecting
their own fears onto you.
It's because they see youtaking a risk that they would
not take and they are fearfulfor themselves, like if they
(08:31):
were to take the risk.
It's not necessarily that theycare right and, like I said,
family can do it too.
Even with good intentions, theycan sometimes be dream killers.
They might think that they'reprotecting you, but in reality,
their doubts can plant seeds ofself-doubt in your mind and it
can just have you go down aspiral right.
And so this doesn't meancutting family off, but it means
(08:54):
setting boundaries, becauseboundaries are not a bad thing,
and so when we talk about peoplewho pray on you and people who
pray on you the people who willpray on you and wish your
success comes down to you theylisten and they encourage you,
and normally this is or not,normally this is without
(09:16):
judgment.
They also offer constructiveadvice.
They don't criticize you rootedin negativity.
They will criticize you in apositive way, say hey, what
about this?
And they'll get theconversation started to start
talking about things that youcan do better.
They're not trying to bringnegativity to you, and they'll
(09:38):
also celebrate your wins withouthaving jealousy or comparing
their life to your life.
Then you have the people againwho will prey on you and try and
sabotage you.
Potentially.
They're the ones that areconstantly doubting your goals
or making you feel like you'reaiming too high, and let me tell
you this as an entrepreneur,you can never aim too high.
(09:59):
Always aim beyond your goals.
I have goals that I know areextremely far-fetched for me to
reach, but they are still goalsnonetheless that I am trying to
aim at.
And so aim high.
These people will also competewith you instead of supporting
you, and I'm not talking aboutindustry competitors Half the
(10:20):
competitors of mine in myindustry, in my area we're very
close friends.
Hell, I sub a lot of work toone of my biggest competitors,
and by sub.
If you don't know what submeans, I give work to him and I
put a markup on it.
These people are also quick togossip about your plans to other
people or downplay your success.
So if they're talking about youbehind your back and saying, oh
(10:42):
, this person's not going tosucceed, this person doesn't
know what he's doing, all this,they're just downplaying your
success.
And so pay attention to how youfeel after you're sharing your
dreams with somebody, or yourgoals or your ambitions.
Do you feel inspired or do youfeel like you're drained?
Your intuition is often right.
I cannot make this any moreclear, I cannot.
(11:04):
And so, in the early stages,your goals like mine.
They're like and to put thisinto like a nature term they're
like seedlings they need to benurtured and they need to be
protected and they can'tnecessarily be exposed to
negativity and doubt.
So you have to be careful withwho you're sharing your goals
with, because if you share themwith the wrong people, like I
(11:26):
said, you can lead to self-doubt, fear or even abandoning the
goal altogether.
If there's so many people inyour life telling you you cannot
do it, chances are you're goingto abandon the goal.
So be careful who you'resharing your goals with.
If you share them with anybody,truthfully write them on a
piece of paper, stick them inyour desk, put them on your wall
, put them by your nightstand, Idon't care.
(11:49):
Keep them protected.
Only share them with the peoplewho uplift you and not the
people who secretly hope youfail.
Again, I made this mistake withthe pressure washing store.
And just remember you don't oweanyone an explanation for your
dreams.
You don't owe anybody anexplanation on what your dreams
(12:09):
are or why your dreams are whatthey are.
It's 2025.
You got to protect your vision,you got to protect your goals
and you got to protect yourambitions.
Some people will pray for yoursuccess, but others will pray on
it, and it's up to you to knowthe difference.
You have to figure out whichway to go individuals are
(12:30):
leaning.
You can't let fear or doubtfrom others hold you back.
You have to stay focused.
You have to keep your circletight, like we talked about in
this previous episode, and youalso have to remember the only
validation you need is your ownbelief in yourself.
That's all you need.
If you believe it, you canachieve it.
I'm a firm believer on this.
I don't know where you'relistening from.
(12:54):
If you're listening on ApplePodcasts or a major podcast
platform, have you ever had yourgoals preyed on by somebody?
Has anybody ever tried tointerrupt your goals or get in
between you and your goals, andhow did you handle it right?
Drop your story in the comments.
(13:14):
If you're on YouTube, if you'relistening from a major platform
, just think about it.
I really would love to hear howyou dealt with this.
And if you're on YouTube,please subscribe for more real
and relatable content.
If you're on Apple Podcasts ora major platform, please turn on
automatic downloads.
It greatly helps me get infront of more viewers, it helps
(13:35):
me get more exposure and ithelps us push this platform a
little bit bigger on eachepisode.
In the event that you guys arelistening and you guys love what
I say, please go ahead and dothat.
I will see you guys in the nextepisode next Thursday.
I believe that I'm gonna startreleasing these around 6 am in
(13:58):
the morning, just becausesometimes podcast platforms take
a little bit of time, a fewhours, to actually release.
So if you see that it'sreleased and you don't see an
announcement until give or take9 or 10 in the morning, then
that is why.
But still go ahead and listento the previous episode, because
it ties well into this episodeand I will see you guys next
(14:21):
week.
Thanks for listening.
Welcome back to the Seth Sedditt Show.
I am your host, seth Mills, andin today's episode, we're going
to be talking about how somepeople will prey on you and some
people will prey on you, heyguys.
So what I want to get into intoday's episode is that some
people will prey for yoursuccess, while others are going
to be wanting to prey on yourdreams, and the scariest part
(00:22):
about it is that sometimes youdon't know the difference until
it's too late.
Sometimes you won't see it.
Sometimes people will act likeyour friend, act like a mentor
even and I'll get into that aswell and sometimes it's not even
acting.
Sometimes it's just thesepeople don't know what they're
doing or they do and they don'tthink ahead, right?
(00:43):
So I'll be getting into thathere in a little bit, and I'm
not going to be sharing names,not going to be sharing company
names.
However, I do and I will say,if you are listening to this,
you know who you are and I'm nottrying to spread drama.
I'm just simply trying to usethis personal story for this
podcast as a way to for thispodcast, as a way to make other
(01:04):
people aware of the differences,right?
So today we are going to bediving into why you need to
protect your goals, and even howthe people closest to you, like
friends and family, may notalways have your best interests
at heart.
And don't fault them, right?
Some people they just theydon't know what they're doing
and they don't realize how it'sdamaging the mindset of people,
(01:27):
right?
So what it means to pray on youis some people are genuinely
praying for your success,whether literally or
figuratively, whether they'reactually praying to God at night
that you succeed, or whetherthey're just wanting to support
you.
These are the people who aregoing to want the best for you,
the people who root for you andthe people who genuinely care
(01:47):
about seeing you succeed, thepeople that want to see you, in
five years, become the personthat you want to be.
They'll encourage you, they'llhold you accountable and they'll
even celebrate your wins likethey're their own right.
So these people are going to bethe people who want to see you
succeed.
They want to see you thrive inyour goals and they also want to
(02:09):
see that you are pushingyourself.
When we talk about peoplepreying on you, these are the
ones who smile to your face.
They secretly hope you fail.
They're the ones who getjealous and talk behind your
back or even try to sabotage you, right?
Whether they realize it or not,it could be insecurities, it
(02:31):
could be people who just don'tsee the big picture, and it
could be the people in your lifethat are closest to you, that
you share your goals with, andthey get, like I said, jealous
and they want to take thosegoals from you.
Sometimes they're driven byinsecurity, jealousy or even
their own fear of being leftbehind if you succeed.
(02:51):
So they see you succeeding andthey're like no, I don't want to
be left out, right.
And so with this, I will gointo my personal story, and this
is going to be when somebodyprayed on me.
I got into the industry that Iam in the pressure washing and
(03:13):
exterior cleaning industry and Ididn't really know what I was
doing.
That's with any industry, right.
If you get into an industry andyou don't know what you're
doing, you're going to look forpeople who will help you, and
some of these people that aregoing to help you are also going
to end up hurting you in thelong term, right?
So I started in the industryand I met a guy and it was
(03:40):
fairly new.
It was fairly quick whenever Igot into the industry because I
had a lot of different thingsgoing for me as far as a lot of
different quotes coming in and Ididn't know how to estimate
them.
I didn't know the pricing.
When you first get into anindustry, you're not going to
know these things.
You're going to need to adaptand learn right.
(04:00):
So at the time I didn't see itfor what it was.
But looking back it's clearthat they weren't necessarily
rooting for me and they may nothave been rooting against me,
but that's just how it feelsafter looking back on the events
that happened.
So I met this guy and he helpedme with my pricing.
He helped me quote a fairlylarge commercial bid and they
(04:24):
were not expecting the estimateto be that high.
They were wanting pennies onthe dollar, that kind of
estimate.
And so all of this happened.
And then, fast forward, a yearafter he had started helping me,
we did a lot of work togetheror subcontracting.
I would subcontract things tohim.
He'd help me out.
(04:45):
He would help me out, right,I'd call him and he'd be my
go-to person to ask questions.
And so fast forward a year anda half.
I had this idea.
In the pressure washingindustry there are pressure
washing supply stores and theysupply us with their chemicals.
They build trailers, they buildskids for the bed of trucks.
You're not going to be usinglike a Home Depot pressure
(05:08):
washer when you're in thisindustry not for a while anyway.
You might use one just to getinto it and be like oh, this is
something I want to do.
And that's what I did.
I pressure washed a drivewayand I'm like this sucks, so I'm
sure people will pay people todo this for them.
And so we, like I said, fastforward a year.
I went and I told him hey, look, I think that I would like to
(05:32):
open up a pressure washingsupply store.
You're in a better positionthan me.
Like I'd love to open it withyou.
Is this something you'reinterested in?
And right off the bat he saidno, I really don't want to go
into business against thesupplier that we use.
And I was like no, that'stotally understandable, and it
wasn't that I was looking for ahandout.
(05:53):
Like no, I was going to investmy own money in it.
I was going to investeverything into it.
I just needed the.
I guess I needed the knowledge.
He had been in the industry afew years, or at least I believe
, a year or two longer than Ihad.
So he already had a lot ofstuff down, pat contacts, and
then I started getting my owncontacts afterward.
(06:15):
But I asked him if he'd want todo it.
He said no, I don't want to gointo business against this other
company.
And then I dropped it and Istarted looking elsewhere.
But then I guess I'd say a yearand a half after we had that
conversation and again, thingshappen, right, people change
their minds but it just feelslike he was preying on me
(06:39):
because it was my idea that Ibrought up to him and he may
have had that idea before andjust not said anything about it,
but it just felt that way.
And so a year and a half later,after he says no, a new
pressure washing store opens upin my area and it's yours truly
running it.
So it felt like he took my ideaand ran with it a little bit
(07:02):
and he was in a partnership withanother company and a very
close friend of mine, a veryclose business friend of mine.
We don't hang out much outsideof work but we do a lot of work
or did a lot of work together.
But everybody goes their ownways, right.
However, I just felt as thoughthis was kind of target right,
(07:24):
because it was my idea.
I brought it to him.
He said no.
Then he ultimately opened up apressure washing store, not even
a BB's distance from the store.
He said no.
Then he ultimately opened up apressure washing store, not even
a BB's distance from the store.
He said he didn't want tocompete with.
I mean, we're talking if it's astraight shot, you could throw
a water balloon almost Notreally but you could shoot like
(07:45):
an airsoft gun BB and hit theother store.
So it's a tough lesson that Ihad to learn here, but it showed
me that not everybody isclapping for you, or not
everybody clapping for you is onyour team, right.
So, with that in mind, you alsohave occasionally a close
(08:08):
friend that might secretly envyyour ambition or success and
they'll say things like and thiscould be family too.
Are you sure that's a good idea?
Or I wouldn't do that if I wereyou.
And it's not because they care,it's because they're projecting
their own fears onto you.
It's because they see youtaking a risk that they would
not take and they are fearfulfor themselves, like if they
(08:31):
were to take the risk.
It's not necessarily that theycare right and, like I said,
family can do it too.
Even with good intentions, theycan sometimes be dream killers.
They might think that they'reprotecting you, but in reality,
their doubts can plant seeds ofself-doubt in your mind and it
can just have you go down aspiral right.
And so this doesn't meancutting family off, but it means
(08:54):
setting boundaries, becauseboundaries are not a bad thing,
and so when we talk about peoplewho pray on you and people who
pray on you the people who willpray on you and wish your
success comes down to you theylisten and they encourage you,
and normally this is or not,normally this is without
(09:16):
judgment.
They also offer constructiveadvice.
They don't criticize you rootedin negativity.
They will criticize you in apositive way, say hey, what
about this?
And they'll get theconversation started to start
talking about things that youcan do better.
They're not trying to bringnegativity to you, and they'll
(09:38):
also celebrate your wins withouthaving jealousy or comparing
their life to your life.
Then you have the people againwho will prey on you and try and
sabotage you.
Potentially.
They're the ones that areconstantly doubting your goals
or making you feel like you'reaiming too high, and let me tell
you this as an entrepreneur,you can never aim too high.
(09:59):
Always aim beyond your goals.
I have goals that I know areextremely far-fetched for me to
reach, but they are still goalsnonetheless that I am trying to
aim at.
And so aim high.
These people will also competewith you instead of supporting
you, and I'm not talking aboutindustry competitors Half the
(10:20):
competitors of mine in myindustry, in my area we're very
close friends.
Hell, I sub a lot of work toone of my biggest competitors,
and by sub.
If you don't know what submeans, I give work to him and I
put a markup on it.
These people are also quick togossip about your plans to other
people or downplay your success.
So if they're talking about youbehind your back and saying, oh
(10:42):
, this person's not going tosucceed, this person doesn't
know what he's doing, all this,they're just downplaying your
success.
And so pay attention to how youfeel after you're sharing your
dreams with somebody, or yourgoals or your ambitions.
Do you feel inspired or do youfeel like you're drained?
Your intuition is often right.
I cannot make this any moreclear, I cannot.
(11:04):
And so, in the early stages,your goals like mine.
They're like and to put thisinto like a nature term they're
like seedlings they need to benurtured and they need to be
protected and they can'tnecessarily be exposed to
negativity and doubt.
So you have to be careful withwho you're sharing your goals
with, because if you share themwith the wrong people, like I
(11:26):
said, you can lead to self-doubt, fear or even abandoning the
goal altogether.
If there's so many people inyour life telling you you cannot
do it, chances are you're goingto abandon the goal.
So be careful who you'resharing your goals with.
If you share them with anybody,truthfully write them on a
piece of paper, stick them inyour desk, put them on your wall
, put them by your nightstand, Idon't care.
(11:49):
Keep them protected.
Only share them with the peoplewho uplift you and not the
people who secretly hope youfail.
Again, I made this mistake withthe pressure washing store.
And just remember you don't oweanyone an explanation for your
dreams.
You don't owe anybody anexplanation on what your dreams
(12:09):
are or why your dreams are whatthey are.
It's 2025.
You got to protect your vision,you got to protect your goals
and you got to protect yourambitions.
Some people will pray for yoursuccess, but others will pray on
it, and it's up to you to knowthe difference.
You have to figure out whichway to go individuals are
(12:30):
leaning.
You can't let fear or doubtfrom others hold you back.
You have to stay focused.
You have to keep your circletight, like we talked about in
this previous episode, and youalso have to remember the only
validation you need is your ownbelief in yourself.
That's all you need.
If you believe it, you canachieve it.
I'm a firm believer on this.
I don't know where you'relistening from.
(12:54):
If you're listening on ApplePodcasts or a major podcast
platform, have you ever had yourgoals preyed on by somebody?
Has anybody ever tried tointerrupt your goals or get in
between you and your goals, andhow did you handle it right?
Drop your story in the comments.
(13:14):
If you're on YouTube, if you'relistening from a major platform
, just think about it.
I really would love to hear howyou dealt with this.
And if you're on YouTube,please subscribe for more real
and relatable content.
If you're on Apple Podcasts ora major platform, please turn on
automatic downloads.
It greatly helps me get infront of more viewers, it helps
(13:35):
me get more exposure and ithelps us push this platform a
little bit bigger on eachepisode.
In the event that you guys arelistening and you guys love what
I say, please go ahead and dothat.
I will see you guys in the nextepisode next Thursday.
I believe that I'm gonna startreleasing these around 6 am in
(13:58):
the morning, just becausesometimes podcast platforms take
a little bit of time, a fewhours, to actually release.
So if you see that it'sreleased and you don't see an
announcement until give or take9 or 10 in the morning, then
that is why.
But still go ahead and listento the previous episode, because
it ties well into this episodeand I will see you guys next
(14:21):
week.
Thanks for listening.
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