“Sex isn’t everything, but it’s part of everything.”
What happens when a virgin bride raised in purity culture becomes a pleasure preacher?
In this raw conversation, I sit down with Lauren Elise Rogers, sexuality educator, intimacy coach, and founder of SexEdForYou.com. From growing up in the confines of religious purity culture to reclaiming her voice and becoming a sexuality educator, Lauren embodies the journey of the wounded healer by turning pain into wisdom and shame into possibility.
Together, we dive into:
- Growing up in purity culture and reclaiming sexual autonomy
- Divorce, loss, and the messy middle of healing
- Rage as a sacred force for healing and transformation
- Navigating grief, divorce, and the power of reconciliation in relationships
- Indigenous attachment styles and a more expansive view of intimacy
- Theater and play as revolutionary tools to renegotiate trauma
- Vulnerability, choice, and aftercare as foundations for deeper connection
- The power of play, embodiment, & rewriting trauma through somatic practices
- Building relationships rooted in choice, freedom, and joy
This episode is for you if you’ve ever questioned the stories you were handed about sex, struggled with loss, or longed to step into a fuller, freer version of yourself.
02:25 | Growing up in purity culture, Liberty University, & courtship model
06:30 | Dreams, divorce, & losing everything in the church fallout
09:00 | Basement floor epiphany: from shame to “what’s missing?”
11:20 | Mary Magdalene, Council of Nicaea, & reclaiming faith
15:20 | Attachment theory, ancestors, & the “cloud of witnesses”
19:20 | “Sex is not everything, it’s just part of everything”
22:40 | Rage, repair, & renegotiation with her ex
27:50 | Play, theater roots, & rewriting trauma through somatics
34:00 | Client story: pushing back & reclaiming her voice
42:40 | Dating apps & divine timing
46:30 | Lobby sparks, suitcase moment, & the first kiss
48:14 | The 8-second kiss & body chemistry magic
51:07 | From “don’ts” to hell-yes choices
Connect with Lauren:
Website: https://sexedforyou.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sex_ed_for_you/
Connect with Kristin:
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Kristin's Best-Selling Book:
Sex, Drugs, & Soul on Amazon
Spotify Audiobook Link
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