Sex, Scars & Sovereignty: Narcissistic Abuse, Trauma & Sacred Reclamation

“What if healing is slower than I thought?”

If you've ever looked at your own healing timeline… and whispered, “I should be further along by now…”

This episode is for you.

Healing doesn’t happen on a timeline.

It happens in spirals. In pauses. In pieces.

Especially when you've lived through emotional abuse, gaslighting, or trauma, your nervous system isn’t broken… it’s tender. It’s cautious. And wise.

Some days, you’ll feel like fire. An...

 “I don’t trust myself anymore.”

If you’ve said this—I get it.

When someone has twisted your intuition into insecurity… When you’ve been told again and again that your feelings are wrong…

Self-trust becomes the first casualty of manipulation.

But let me tell you something revolutionary:

Your intuition never left you.

It was overridden. Not erased.

You doubted yourself because you were trained to. Conditioned to believe your gut was drama…...

“I feel guilty for going no-contact.”

Guilt.

That ache in your chest when you block their number. That whisper in your mind saying, “You’re being cruel.”

If you've gone no-contact… and guilt showed up like an uninvited guest… this message is for you.

You didn’t go no-contact to punish them.

You did it to protect you.

And here’s the hard truth most people won’t say:

When you’re trauma-bonded, love and danger get tangled. So choosing safety...

“What if I attract another narcissist?”

That fear? It’s sacred. It means you’re aware. Awake. No longer walking with blindfolds made of red flags.

But let’s shift the question.

Instead of “What if I attract another narcissist?”—

Ask, “What if I’ve changed so much that narcissists can’t hook me anymore?”

Because the truth is, we don’t attract what we want. We attract what we tolerate. And you, my wild one, no longer tolerate confusion ma...

“Why can’t I stop thinking about him?”

I used to ask myself that every day—while brushing my teeth, while driving, while trying to sleep. He was everywhere in my mind, even after I blocked him.

But here's what I want you to know:

Your brain isn’t obsessed. It’s injured.

What you're experiencing is trauma looping, not longing.

When you’ve been trauma-bonded, your nervous system links “love” with danger, inconsistency, and adrenaline. It’...

This one’s for you, the woman replaying memories like a courtroom in her mind, trying to prove her pain was real.

Maybe today you wondered, “Was it really that bad?”

That question is not your voice. It’s the echo of manipulation, gaslighting, still rattling around in your nervous system like it has squatters’ rights.

Here’s the truth: If your body still flinches, if your heart races when his name comes up, if you doubt your memory eve...