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July 14, 2022 32 mins

These past few weeks have been tough on our nervous systems. Many people are hurting and bewildered. I wondered how I could best help through the podcast, and what came to me was that this popular episode, recorded with my friend Jessica Pullins, PhD, is the best set of tools I can give you to help you pull yourself and others through when your heart and mind are reeling. 

If you have a nervous system, you need this episode.   

And particularly if you ever:

  • Rreact strongly to your partner and want to fight or flee or both
  • Feel exhausted, at an emotional or energetic level, by your day
  • Freeze up and find yourself unable to speak, move forward, or interact

This intro to what's REALLY going on, and what you can do about it, can be life-changing.  It's self-care, it's relationship elevating, it's survival skills. It's good.

As you listen to this episode, you'll learn about:

  • The nervous system state we must be in for connection to work, and the three other states we’re always moving in and out.
  • Why stonewalling, withdrawal, or non-responsiveness in relationship aren’t always a partner being unloving or deliberately withdrawn and what’s sometimes REALLY going on instead.
  • How, sometimes, what looks like depression is just a nervous system state of “freeze” and what you can do about it.

And more. 

E.g. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.

"
If you can find strategies to get back into your body via the senses, that will get you grounded and calm. THAT'S WHAT GROUNDING IS."

- Dr. Jessica Pullins


Hot Moments in This Episode:

  • Recognizing when its a state vs when it’s a trait (11:24)
  • When otherwise articulate people lose the ability to speak (13:33)
  • Common triggers of freeze states (16:03)
  • Learning to notice freeze response by noticing it in your partner and others (27:27)


I hope you find this episode helps you see some of your own and your partner’s experiences in a refreshing new light.  I hope it helps you remember your exquisite beauty, divinity, and intrinsic aliveness.  And may the light within you illuminate the world around you.


6. RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:

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