Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them

Sex.Love.Power.: The intimacy podcast for powerful women & those who love them

If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are passion and desire just doomed to fade over years together?” you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast devoted to helping powerful women create deeply satisfying love & sex in committed long-term relationships. I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-four years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s reignite your spark!

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May 10, 2022 36 min

I want to devote a whole episode to the topic of defensiveness: how we engender it in each other, and why we get defensive ourselves. This is one of the biggest things I see stopping couples from communicating effectively, from connecting more deeply, and from experiencing more turn-on and erotic charge in their relationships. So if you've had defensiveness on either side of the conversation, this episode is for you.

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This week, I'm bringing back the most popular episode of the podcast for your listening pleasure.

The 12 Elements of Power framework is more relevant now than ever for for us as feminists who don't want to think about power in an essentialist sense, don't want to think that there are particular qualities that we don't have access to because that hasn't been our lived experience. What we know is that we have withi...

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This is a different kind of episode. Often, I record podcast episodes about things that have come up with clients recently or I initiate out of conversations that I feel like we need to have in the culture that we haven't been having. Today's episode is about a topic that is blowing my mind right now, because I didn't think of it this way until I was reading this amazing book, "The Audacity to Be You" by Brad Re...

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March 24, 2022 20 min

You've tried therapy before, and it didn't get you where you wanted to go. Maybe it helped. Many people report to me that it got them on the right path, but not really to their goals. My goal is to help couples not just reduce the “itching, burning and swelling”- the immediate pains that they're facing when they come to me- but truly create a great relationship. And, truly, what many of the couples that come to me want ...

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March 10, 2022 31 min

There are some serious ways that our partners can be stuck. Many clients and members of my audience have approached me with concerns like, "I just need him to get a job and nothing I've tried has worked" or "Her drinking is really concerning to me, but it's not concerning to her so she's not about to get into recovery.” It's very reasonable that your partner might feel terrified to make a particular chan...

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February 24, 2022 28 min

Think for a moment about what conditions you thrive under, what sets you up to be your happiest, your healthiest, most balanced, joyful self. When that thing is missing it functions like a rock in your shoe. You're not unable to keep walking is just a little bit more painful. That’s how an unmet need can feel and how it can create tension and unhappiness in your life. Today, I want to address what needs are and what they aren&#...

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February 10, 2022 21 min

This topic is very close to my heart and it is one of the central beliefs that informs all the work I do with my clients. Today,  I'm here to tell you that you deserve and are capable of experiencing pleasure no matter where you are in life. In my latest episode, we talk about how you can bring more of that pleasure and aliveness into your marriage.

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  • The five beliefs that you n...
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    January 27, 2022 11 min

    Let me ask you a personal question (or a few). Do you have fantasies about sex with other people? Do you have sometimes active desires to consummate those fantasies? Do you wonder what that means about you or about your partner? I’m going to guess you answered “yes” to at least one of these questions. And you know what? That is all totally okay. Today we're going to talk about your desire for sex with other people and start to ...

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    January 13, 2022 32 min

    Money is a hot topic, especially in relationship to love and sex in long-term relationships. Money is energy, and it's power. How you handle money together shapes so much of the rest of your experience of your partnership and how you feel about yourself. So, today, I thought I'd dive into it in an episode about my money, our money, your money, and look at the relationship side and the erotic side of what happens with couple...

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    December 30, 2021 18 min

    I am a nerd for planning. I love to envision the future. I love to review the past. And New Year's time is totally a time when I want to look over the past year and see the themes and then set intentions for the new year with my husband. But pretty early in our relationship, I got the picture that Kurt was not a planner in the same way that I was. And perhaps you can relate. I find that in most couples, there's one person w...

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    "If I'm such a visionary about relationship, and my partner doesn't think that way, isn't that a problem?" This is a question I have heard many times and one I asked myself in my relationship, too.  It’s a big responsibility and can feel like a burden. But what I have come to see is that I am someone who has been gifted with the opportunity to hold vision. So in this episode, I'm going to share with you what...

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    December 2, 2021 24 min

    Every year for the holidays, you make it a priority to spend time with your extended family or focus on making magic for your kids, but your relationship becomes an afterthought. Over the last 24 years together, Kurt and I have really focused on this and learned a lot about how to make sure that our holidays are a magical time for us as a couple as well. Together, we outlined the seven paths to hotter, more loving holidays, so that...

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    November 18, 2021 22 min

    In today's episode, we're gonna follow up our last conversation which was all about the core qualities that make a great lover in a long-term relationship with the other side of that same coin. There are four categories of obstacles to great passionate sex that just gets better for a lifetime. And the results I get with clients all trace back to my devotion to pinpointing and addressing these obstacles in a systematic way. ...

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    November 4, 2021 25 min

    Would you like to have the kind of sex that surprises you and makes your partner surprised by the emergence of that facet of you? The sort of lovemaking that keeps you both coming back for more? Sex that allows you to call up the energy at the end of the day when you're both tired, but you cannot resist the adventure because you have no idea where it will lead? This episode is for you! I will share four qualities of a great lov...

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    October 21, 2021 16 min

    When we own our turn on, it lets us really own the truth of our erotic nature that it is ours and ours alone. If you've been looking for that formula on creating turn on and what we should and shouldn't do, tune in to this week's episode!

    This week, we're going to talk about creating turn on. Often, couples come to me wanting to feel more turned on in their relationship. I’m going to say something you might find unex...

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    October 7, 2021 14 min

    We need to talk. One of the conversations I think we need to have is about how to get out of your head during sex. If this applies to you, you’re not alone: so many of my clients get stuck in their heads in bed. And there's a number of reasons for this. 

    In this episode, I will talk you through the traps that many people get stuck in that take the enjoyment out of sex and how you can start getting out of your head and into the m...

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    September 23, 2021 37 min

    Do you crave an intimate getaway with your partner? You can make your desire a reality. Many people always feel like having a trip with their partners is impossible, especially if children are involved.

    In this episode, I will be sharing how Kurt and I planned and actualized our intimate getaway. I will teach you the three core stages of creating an intimate getaway and creative ways of ensuring your children are well taken care of ...

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    September 9, 2021 25 min

    My husband, Kurt, and I just got home from our latest adventure to Croatia. It sparked so many thoughts I can’t wait to share with you about why I think it's so important that couples carve out the time to be together, to get a completely different environment, and to have some novelty and adventure. I'm going to share with you over two episodes what we've done, why, and how you can do it, too. In this episode, we'r...

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    August 20, 2021 21 min

    Today, we're going to talk about why I think couples counseling and therapy didn't really do the trick for me and Kurt, and why it may not for you either. To be clear: I’m not here to talk trash about couples counseling at all. I want to explain why I'm evolving a way of working with couples that is very different from anything that we were ever given. And why I think that that's more powerful.

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    If you listened to my last episode you know I went through the 5 losing communication strategies people often resort to in their relationships.  I promised then to detail the antidotes - the 5 winning relationship strategies that really help us overcome our learned dysfunctional patterns of relating and create healthy, adult connections with our partners.  It’s a practice.  Nobody’s perfect at it, least of all me, but these 5 strat...

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