In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:
1) Is it wrong to fantasize about another person when you are in bed with your partner? I’ve been married for a very long time and—as you both talk about often—we feel more like friends than lovers. To make sex more arousing, I often fantasize about a woman at work who I mildly flirt with. I sometimes feel a little guilty. Should I? Is this something everyone does?
2) For years, I was in a sexless marriage with a husband who didn’t see me. I got friendly with a man I work with and ended up having an affair. It had more to do with loneliness than lust, even though I did care for him. My husband found out and all hell broke loose. We nearly split up, but therapy saved us. The thing is, I see the affair as something that saved our marriage. He sees it as a humiliating betrayal, even though he understands why I did it. I think it’s because he’s the big boss at work and isn’t used to not getting his way. He wants to pretend it never happened, whereas I would like to talk more about it because I see it as a positive thing.
3) Does every couple look each other in the eyes when having sex? Or does that just happen in the movies? I can look at my husband for a moment, but usually I want to focus on all the other senses. Plus, I worry my face looks weird. We have great sex, and although my husband looks at me a lot, it doesn’t bother him if I keep my eyes closed. Any tips on how to have longer eye contact and enjoy it? Is there any science related to eye contact during sex?
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