Money Conversations in Romantic Relationships

In this episode, Dr. Shay Harris-Pierre interviews Tairsa Mathews and Ed Coambs about money in relationships. Tairsa shares her money story and how her parents' hard work and creative problem-solving shaped her attitude towards money. She also discusses the challenges of navigating a varied income based on commissions with her husband. Ed provides insights into common dynamics that can arise in couples related to money and emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, emotional regulation, and clear communication in these conversations. The episode highlights the intersection of money and attachment styles, and the impact of childhood experiences on financial behaviors in adulthood.

 

Takeaways

• Parents' money lessons and behaviors can shape our attitudes towards money.
• Having different financial perspectives in a relationship is possible, but it requires open communication and collaboration.
• Self-awareness, emotional regulation, and clear communication are essential in money conversations with partners.
• Attachment styles and childhood experiences can influence how we approach money in relationships.
• Understanding the intersection of money and emotions is crucial for building healthy financial dynamics.

Resources

Learn more about Ed Coambs’ work here: www.healthyloveandmoney.com

Check out Ed’s podcast here: https://www.healthyloveandmoney.com/podcasts/healthy-love-and-money

 

Here are the citations for the articles I mentioned:

Ross, D. B., Coambs, E., & Johnson, E. (2022). Trauma of the past: The impact of adverse childhood experiences on adult attachment, money beliefs and behaviors, and financial transparency. Journal of Financial Therapy, 13(1), 4.

 

Pollmann, M. M. (2021). Let’s Talk about Money: The Role of Attachment Styles in Couples’ Financial Communication, Financial Management, and Financial Conflict. Journal of Financial Therapy, 12(2), 6.