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June 29, 2021 • 23 mins

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Unknown (00:03):
Hey everyone, welcome to Share Your Sparkle and I'm
your host, Dr. Darline Berrios.
This is season two, Episode 12Untamed.
Hey people, it's the last weekof June.
What are you doing for vacationfor summer vacations? You need
to take a little break. I don'tcare if it's just like one day,
you need a break.

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But actually, the message I havetoday has nothing to do with
breaks. Oh, many times. Maybebreakthroughs. How about that.
Butfor my French listener, because
I have to keep you engaged,right? I just feel like I need
to. My sister gave me a puzzle.
In cold raining in Paris. It'scute. I think I remember an

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Eiffel Tower in the background.
There's a couple walking on thestreet and you know, the flower
shop andI think like a fruit and
vegetable stand. And you if youbuy puzzles, you have to buy the
buffalo ones because it comeswith a poster. So that's what I
recommend. Remember, I said itbefore, but you have to do that.

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Because I don't know if anyother ones come with posters.
But anyway, Paris. I think Imentioned this before. But a
little funny story about that isthe time when I went and there
was like we were on a tour bus,like one that takes you around
the city.
Next time I'll just take thecity bus

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because the city bus is waycheaper. And you see just as
many things but it was goingthrough where Moulin Rouge rouge
is and the funny thing is theywere these nuns standing in
front of like this like sex toyshop and it was like the
juxtaposition of the nuns in theshop was hilarious. I think I

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mentioned it before like if Ihad a camera, or if I was quick
enough with my phone to snap apicture.
It was just a really funnyscene. And I love this the
church over there in I can'tremember that part of town Mont
Mar. I don't know I'm saying itwrong. But anyway, Sacred Heart.
When you walk in, and that imageof Jesus above is phenomenal. I

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think if you've never even ifyou just if you're not
religious, you should just gowalking in the church for that
experience itself. It's a it's amassive painting in the ceiling,
with his hands held out wide,right in the front, overseeing
the whole Cathedral and it'sreally beautiful. It's It's
really beautiful. So when wetravel again, definitely make a

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stop there. I know. Even ifyou're not
Catholic, I think there are somereally beautiful things in
religiouswhether it's a temple, you know,
synagogue, there's some reallybeautiful things to see. And
that's my recommendation there.

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And my funny story aboutthe Moulin Rouge area.
What I want to talk about isa thought I had this morning, I
think it was this morning.
And I think, you know, I've beenthinking a lot about flow, you
know, the flow of energy, or theflow of water, the flow of our

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blood, whatever it is, thatflows right or moves like a
current.
And that time where I was onthat raft, whitewater rafting,
and think that I paid attentionto that
snippet. For a snippet of time,I paid attention to the people

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talking at the beginning aboutwhat you should do. If your raft
capsizes. In na.
They said, Don't try to fightthe current, you know, like,
don't do it. Go let the watertake you. Let the current take
you. I mean, we all had lifejackets on.

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Let it take you until eventuallyyou get to a raft or to the
shoreline, you know, whatevercomes first so that you can get
to safety. And when our boatcapsized. I was like, Oh my god,
first of all was underneath, notboth the raft I was underneath.
The rafts are trying to get outfrom underneath was one whole

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different experience. But thencoming up, I realized I was
like, boom, like, instantly, thethought came, I just need to and
they said try to face thedirection you're going in here
like because if you'rebackwards, you can't see if
you're gonna hit a rock orsomething like that. So I turned
Luckily, it was already facingthe direction of the flow of the
water.
And I just let the water take meand it was like I said the

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rapids were four out of five,which I guess is pretty intense.
And I was thinking about thatexperience and what if I had
triedTo fight the flow, how much
energy I would have expended?
And what progress would I havemade? Right? If I had tried to

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go against those rapids andfigure out how to
save myself by I don't know,swimming somewhere on my own and
not like with the flow ofthings. I don't know, I honestly
don't know what would havehappened. Because when I did go
with the flow, and finally didreach the raft that we were on

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the tour guide, like literallythrew me back on the raft,
grabbed like the, the shoulderpart of my
life jacket, and just flipped meup on the boat, or the raft. I
was so exhausted, I was soexhausted that I couldn't even
get up like I tried. In my mind,I was like, I need to stand up
because other people are stillin the water. And I need to like

(05:55):
kind of help at least a pointwhere they are pointing out
where they are. And I reallylike I just, I just couldn't
move. He threw me on the raft.
And I just stayed down. Icouldn't move until I think
everybody else was on the raft,and I needed to move, but
flow and energy andbeing tamed, or untamed. And

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what does that mean? And Ithought about how in life, we do
that a lot, we blockthe flow of energy, or we block
things, thinking that that'sgoing to keep us safe in in some
cases, that is true.

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But in other cases, it's not,you know, the resistance
that you put up, or the wall orthe boundaries that you
put around things.
AndI think in the end hurting you
instead of helping you. And whenwe ourselves

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aren't in flow with or in syncwith who we are.
That we're really, you know,taming our source or taming God.
Think about that for a second,when you are something that
you're not, and you can only bewho you are, you can't be

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something that you're not. AndI'm not saying like Oh, if, if
you're like, I don't know,think of something. If you're a
teacher right now, you can't bean astronaut. Maybe you can, you
know, like, I truly think thatlike, I have a growth mindset
that if there's something that Iwant to do, I take the necessary
steps to do them. Like rightnow, I'm not a marathon runner.

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But if I wanted to, I couldtrain myself to be
I could do that. Right? So butI'm talking about like our
essence, you know, our essenceof who we are. It is who we are.
AndI think a lot of times we block
that we block who we are, maybebecause we don't truly know how

(08:12):
to be who we are. And we teamourselves and our energy. Maybe
it's because that's what we seelike in think about society and
think about socially significantidentities and think about
gender like women are supposedto be like this. Men are
supposed to be like this.

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But I think when we do that,we tamed God or if God is a
term that doesn't feel right, wetame our source, we tame our
essence.
And I think it's time to beuntamed. I think it's time to
let things flow.
Be who you are supposed to be inthis world, right? Because it is

(08:57):
there's that quote, likeeverybody else is taken,
for you to be who you are to bein this world. And for those of
you if you go to the beach inthe summer,
or you have some time. And evenif I carve out,
or I have historically not somuch lately, but at least like

(09:18):
2030 minutes before I go tosleep for reading. That's where
I get my reading in.
And one of the books I read lastsummer is called untamed by
Glennon Doyle.
And I'm just gonna read the bookjacket.

(09:38):
And I love that it's also astory about not just herself but
about love. And she falls inlove with a woman. So I love
that aspect of it.
Ellen, who's a soccer player.
So this is what the book jacketsays. Where it says this is how
you find yourself.

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There, there is a voice oflonging inside each of us. We
strive so mightily to be good,good partners, daughters,
mothers, employees and friends.
We hope all this striving willmake us feel alive. instead. It
leaves us feeling wary, stuckoverwhelmed and underwhelmed. We
look at our lives and wonderwasn't an all supposed to be

(10:22):
more beautiful than this? Wequickly saw silence that
question, telling ourselves tobe grateful hiding our
discontent even from ourselves.
For many years Glennon Doyledenied her own discontent than
while speaking at a conference.
She looked at a woman across theroom and fell instantly in love.

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And this is me talking now likeI'm interjecting my own voice.
Yes, gay people do fall in love.
They have love at first sighttoo.
Okay, going back to the bookjacket, three words flooded her
mind.
There she is. At first blendingassume these words came to her
from on high, but she soonrealized they had come to her

(11:08):
from within. This was her ownvoice, the one she had buried
beneath decades of numbingaddictions, cultural
conditioning, and institutioninstitutional life, allegiances.
This was the voice of a girl shehad been before the world told
her who to beGlenn and decided to quit

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abandoning abandoning herselfand to instead abandon the
world's expectations of her. Shequit being good, so she could be
free. She quit pleasing andstarted living. soulful in a
perverse, forceful and tender,untamed is both an intimate
memoir and a galvanizing wake upcall. It is the story of how one

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woman learned that a responsiblemother is not one who slowly
dies for her children, but onewho shows them how to fully
live. It is the story ofnavigating divorce, forming a
new blended family anddiscovering that the brokenness
of wholeness of a family dependsnot on its structure.

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But on each member's ability tobring her full self to the
table.
And it is the story of how eachof us can begin to trust
ourselves enough to setboundaries.
make peace with our bodies,honor our anger and heartache
and unleash our truest whilethis instinct so that we become

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a woman who can finally look atherself and say, there she is.
untamed shows us how to be braveas Glennon insists the braver We
are the luckier we get.
And then about the author hereGlennon Doyle is the author of
the number one New York Timesbestseller love warrior on

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Oprah's book club selection, aswell as the New York Times
bestseller carry on warrior andactivist speaker and thought
leader. She is also the founderand president of together
rising, an all woman lednonprofit organization that has
revolutionized grassrootsphilanthropy, raising over 20
million for women, families andchildren in crisis. With a most

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frequent donation of just $25Glennon was named among the
Oprah Winfrey Network, supersoul, super soul 100 and our
girl group, as one of 100 awakento leaders who are using their
voices and talent to elevatehumanity. She lives in Florida
with her wife and threechildren. I love that last

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sentence. Okay. Now, it isinteresting.
Because I think most of thecouples I know, in general, just
like even,like through my teaching career,
and even outside of it, Idon't know.

(14:09):
To dads, that's kind of sad. Idon't know a family structure
that has I know that there areobviously
but in I was a part of a two momone.
And I love it. I'm sure like ourexperience was completely
different like to annex womenwho have a completely different
experience from two white women.
I mean, besides the fact thatlove is love, right? As compared

(14:31):
to even like to brown males.
But the book is really good. Istrongly recommend it. And if
you have young girls or girls,it's also it's there's a lot in
there about gender andexpectations. And she was

(14:53):
married before. So she talkedabout, you know, that experience
as well.
Andcheck it out. It's a good book.
I haven't read her other ones.
But it made me think of beinguntamed, and how that relates to

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our source and who we are. Andwhen we do things
that go against who we are whatwe're supposed to be here, we're
really boxing in our source,we're boxing in God, because if
we are here, to do something andbe a certain way, you're

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blocking that flow that energy.
That is the whole reason of yourexistence. That is the whole
purpose of, of what it is, andwhy you're here.
So it's time to like untainpart, it's time to
be you. Like the authentic you,not the you that you think you

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should be, or that your parentsthink you should be, or that
your partner thinks you shouldbe or that your kids think you
should be or that your employerthinks you should be.
It's time to untamed GodI dare you.

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God is not team.
You shouldn't be tamed. And alot of the readings that I'm
coming across talk abouteven words that we think of, we
think of like a divine, thedivine source like prayer.

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Faithin the people that I'm reading,
okay, so the stuff that I'mreading like, Reverend Deborah
Johnson, I haven't read fromher. Lately, I'm giving you all
a break. But Carolyn meese ayanmar. You know, those people
that have been like listening tolately.

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Mark, you know, Bateson, drawthe circle.
Prayer, faith.
Those are activewords, they're not passive, like
they require action. And whenyou entertain something, there
is an act happening. There's arelease happening.

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Prayer,being divine, and faith, all
those are active.
Not passive, and what action youknow, what actions are you
doing? To help untainGod, or your source?

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Or if you those words, you don'tlike? Like try to you know, even
release yourself, releaseyourself from yourself.
See how that goes. I'm workingon that.
I'm working ona good movie too, if you haven't
seen it,just because I'm thinking about

(18:13):
like, I was looking at a fewthings this summer. The shack
it's abouta family who use it loses a
young girl. It's really sad tosomeone like she was murdered
likeand kidnapped from a camping
trip and something happens tothe dad where he ends up

(18:38):
in a car accident but it goesthrough this journey of him
basically meeting God and indifferent forms in the house or
the cabin in the woods that theygo to his beautiful one that I
really do.
So if you haven't seen that yet,the shack
I recommend it and it basicallygoes through his journey of

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healing and forgiveness.
So check that out if you get achance.
AndI think a quote I'm gonna leave
you with isbecause I've been doing like
what everybody else has beendoing right bingeing on Netflix.

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I literally for about a year,tried not to but that's
something that I've been doinglately. And
Lou Luis Miguel, he's a Latinnext artist, mostly like
ballads, you know, romancesongs. And there's a series on
his life about his life and Iwatched season one a few years

(19:46):
ago, and I didn't realize SeasonTwo had just come out. So that's
actually how I ended up my mynights in p town watching Luis
Miguel'sseries on Netflix and I finished
it off season two anyway and hismain
Manager, his beloved manager,because when he was young, his
manager was his dad. And thatwas a very tense or intense

(20:10):
relationship and he was pushed alot and issues with like
his father and then thedisappearance of his mother and
does she dad or just ran away inthis whole drama there but
he finally finds a manager thathe feels like Louise, Miko feels

(20:31):
like it takes care of him. Likeas he should have almost like a
father figure. Because hisfather wasn't as
you know, he felt like thefather cared more about the
courier than him as a person andthe manager
in this season, and one of thelines was he was telling Luis

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Miguel, he said, it's Spanishand I can't remember how it goes
in Spanish. She said, basically,no one ever regretted being
brave.
No one ever regretted beingbrave.
And I think when we untamedourselves and we unleash who was
supposed to beI mean, I don't know I talk

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about it as being brave becauseit's really just
our own nature coming out. But Iguess, in the world we live in
sometimes seen as brave. So noone ever regretted being brave.
All right, people, make planstake a little break.

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Happy, almost end of June.
I will see you on either Tuesdayor Friday.
Be well. Until then,accept your sparkle, surrender
to it and allow it to be so keepshining
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