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April 20, 2022 72 mins

In this interview, I talk with Dr. Melissa Hankins, a 17-year Harvard-trained psychiatrist and certified executive coach. We had a very open conversation about what trauma is, how it affects our lives, and what we can do to heal ourselves. 

We have all experienced some form of trauma, and many times that trauma plays out in our adult lives. It might affect how we react to our spouse, how we parent our children, and how we navigate our work lives. As Dr. Hankins explained, trauma can affect us in big ways, such as anger, violence, or yelling, but also in not so obvious ways, such as perfectionism, workaholism, and lack of boundaries. Many times it’s the root of our very deep wounds, but we can work to heal ourselves and become better for ourselves. 

What’s in the episode: 
  • What is trauma, and how does it affect our lives?
  • The difference between Big T and Little T trauma.
  • What is a trauma response, and why would someone have one? 
  • What is the key to reshaping our lives?
  • How can we approach trauma, understand its effect, and move beyond to heal?

 

“Even though we are not responsible for the traumas that happened to us as children, as adults, we are responsible for healing them.” Dr. Melissa Hankins

 

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About Dr. Melissa Hankins

Dr. Melissa Hankins is the founder and CEO of Melissa Hankins Coaching. She is a Mindset and Success Coach for physicians and other high-performers who may “look great on the outside” but are struggling on the inside. Her clients typically struggle with burnout, perfectionism, workaholism, “trying to do all the things” and feeling completely overwhelmed in the process while doing their best not to show it. 

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