Feed Drop: Hype Women with Emily Tisch Sussman

This week, we’re thrilled to drop an episode from one of our very favorite podcasts, Hype Woman, featuring our own host Emily Tisch Sussman! Emily sits down with friend and certified hype woman Erin Gallagher to talk about her own pivots and what she’s learned from the highs and lows of it all. She recounts a conversation with a college advisor, where she was told that she was aiming too high; reflects on her desire at a young age to step out from behind the limelight of her family name and have a serious DC political career; and shares how having three kids in three years made her reevaluate what was important. You won’t want to miss this very personal, energizing conversation between Emily and Erin! 

 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:05):
Welcome back to She Pivots. I'm your host, Emily Tish Sussman.
This week, we're doing things a little differently. It's spring
break for many of us parents, so as I'm currently
juggling entertaining three children, I wanted to share my episode
on a hype Woman, a podcast hosted by the magnificent
original hype Woman Aaron Gallagher. I'm dropping in the full

(00:26):
episode here, but you can also listen to it over
on her Hype Woman podcast feed, where you can listen
to more inspiring women like White House Press Secretary Karine
John Pierre and of course she Pivots Daves Daisy London.
In full transparency, I'm both a little excited and a
little nervous to share this episode. I've become so comfortable
on the other side of the aisle as the interviewer,

(00:48):
it feels vulnerable to share me as the guest. But
I hope you truly enjoyed this episode as much as
I enjoyed doing it. Aarin has an amazing ability to
allow her guests to speak honestly and truly hypes them up.
Be sure to follow Aaron at we Underscore Hype Women
on Instagram and check out her prolific LinkedIn enjoy. I

(01:21):
think that one of the real framing mindsets for me
and why I go so hard into everything that I do,
It's because I do still always feel like I have
to prove myself. I feel like I had to prove
myself for a long time. I come from a very
prominent New York family, and so people had a lot
of presumptions about me. Now, I think we'd call it
nepo babies, but they presumed that I didn't earn what

(01:43):
I achieved, and for a long time, I didn't feel
like I deserved most of it. That you know, I
had a hard time in school. I had very little
impulse control in talking in particular what was a big surprise,
But so I didn't do that well, Like I didn't
fit in, and so therefore I felt like I wasn't
living up to the expectations of my family. I wasn't

(02:04):
living up to the expectations of the city around me
and everyone I came in contact with, and so I
was really rebellious because if I couldn't fit in, then
I had to rebel against it.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Well, well, well, here we are episode number Lucky thirteen,
and this one My Friends is a real gem. I
always listen to our episodes three or more times before
I write the intros, and on this one, I was
cackling out loud each and every time I listened. There

(02:38):
is no one like Emily Tish Sussman, no one. She
is brilliant in all the ways street smart, book smart, style, smart,
whip smart. Every time I'm in her presence, I learn
more about the world and about myself, and I hope
you experience the same as you listen to this conversation today.

(03:02):
Emm and I talk a lot about her journey navigating
her identity as a woman, as a political commentator, as
a lawyer, as a mother of three, as a podcast host,
a media mogul, an owner of professional women's soccer team,
the New York New Jersey Gotham FC, as a member
of a prominent New York family have you heard of

(03:24):
the New York Giants. Emma has been underestimated at different
points throughout her life, and her response to this she
committed herself to being serious and taken seriously. So I
want to talk about the definition of serious. It's defined
in multiple ways. First, it's demanding careful consideration or application next,

(03:52):
acting or speaking sincerely and in earnest rather than in
a joking or half hearted manner, Significant or worrying because
of possible danger or risk. And lastly, substantial in terms
of size, number, and quality.

Speaker 3 (04:10):
But when you think about how.

Speaker 2 (04:12):
So many of us shapeshift to fit inside of a serious.

Speaker 3 (04:15):
Box, it's limiting.

Speaker 2 (04:19):
And for em that box could not contain her light.
So as she made herself smaller, more serious, and took
away the beauty that is who Emma is, she began
to lose herself. And it got me thinking, are being
serious and being taken seriously the same thing?

Speaker 3 (04:45):
Let's find out. I mean, it's gonna be It's gonna
be one for the books today, Isn't that right? Isn't
that right? Miss Emily Tish Susman.

Speaker 1 (04:57):
I can I feel like I have no idea where
this is going to go, but it's we're going to
make magic, that is.

Speaker 4 (05:03):
I think that's kind of the story of our friendship
is we don't know what's going to happen. Neither one
of us have the gene of embarrassment or overthinking behavior
before doing it, and so it is always entertaining. Sometimes
a cleanup that needs to happen. But like, but if
nothing else, the most authentic and vulnerable.

Speaker 1 (05:24):
Right, one hundred percent. Like I feel like it didn't
necessarily serve me that well early in life, but now
I'm thriving.

Speaker 4 (05:32):
I mean, and I think that's this is the journey
that we really want to we want to uncover and
sort of go on with you today. And I'm just
I'm deeply grateful that we're here together. And as em
and I just said before we started, we wanted to
just get going because we would probably shoot the shit
for too long and we would maybe miss some of

(05:53):
what the hilarity that will ensue over the course of
this conversation.

Speaker 1 (05:57):
Like we could literally never stop talking between the two
of us week, we could.

Speaker 3 (06:00):
Luckily never stop talking, right. And you know, we have
this really.

Speaker 4 (06:04):
Interesting background that we didn't know was in common until
we were on a panel together for International Women's Day
last year, where afterwards you came up to me and said,
you know, my team pulled together the bios of the
other panelists just so I could have a little bit
of framework of what they were all about. And I
thought they had incorrectly copied my bio into yours.

Speaker 3 (06:27):
And the reason for that is one.

Speaker 1 (06:30):
And I was like, I was like, pull it together, ladies, sloppy,
you put my bio in for the game. Clappy, sloppy ladies.

Speaker 4 (06:37):
Because never ever have I ever come across another person
without it being at an event or at our former
workplace that has also worked at SLDN. And for anyone
who doesn't know what SLDN is, it is Service Members
Legal Defense Network. Entire mission was to lift the ban
on gays in the military, which we ultimately did, and

(06:58):
EM and I were both there at different times but
truly formative years of our career.

Speaker 1 (07:04):
Yeah. Absolutely, I mean it was my first job after
law school. It was my first job after the Obama campaign.
It was my first job in Washington working in policy advocacy.
And I knew at the time like I'd never have
a better job, and I still feel that way that,
like I'll never have a better job, like to be able.
Rarely can you be both the direct services, like the
actual attorneys of people who are impacted, and also be

(07:27):
working on policy change, like it often doesn't happen in
the same organization, just the way that organizations are set up.
And we really did it there, like we were so
close to the service members who were discharged, and we
really made impact in the law. So I like for
that reason, like I could have never had a better
job and never had a better experience.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
It is so true.

Speaker 4 (07:46):
Is it is such a small, scrappy organization that did
it all. And you know, you came in past law school.
And so we're serving as legal aid for service members
who are either currently still inside of the military and
were seeking counsel because they were worried about their safety,
they were worried about their career, or they had already.

Speaker 3 (08:07):
Exited and they needed to get some counsel on what was.

Speaker 4 (08:09):
Best, the best way forward. I this was my first
job after college. I thought I wanted to be a lawyer,
and all of my friends there were a year ahead
said work at a law firm for at least a
year instead of going straight to law school.

Speaker 3 (08:21):
So I was so lucky to land this gig.

Speaker 4 (08:24):
A connection because my mom was in the Coast Guard
for twenty five years and so we had a connection
to a board member who was there, and.

Speaker 3 (08:30):
They gave me a shot.

Speaker 4 (08:32):
I was the intake person, so I was the first
sort of line of receiving the call from the service
member and getting an understanding of what was happening for them,
and then I passed them off to your brilliance and
the brilliance of other lawyers there who could really help
them navigate the system.

Speaker 3 (08:49):
But you're right, it's.

Speaker 4 (08:50):
Never like I have up on my wall like the
sort of going away note that they gave me and
like never never a better job. So I just I
love that we have that in common.

Speaker 1 (09:02):
Yeah, it was so scrappy. I feel like I didn't
know that that organizations and offices could actually be that scrappy.
And like all of our furniture had been donated, so
I don't. Do you remember the conference room? This was
my favorite thing that the conference The table in the
conference room was as big that we said like one
hundred times a day it had been sawed in half
to get through the door. Yes, and so it was

(09:23):
just like an open conference table with like a big
saw in the middle and like from the bottom, yes.

Speaker 4 (09:30):
Right, and it's like and and it was so big
that you almost like had to slide in to just
get into the room. Because again, this wasn't this isn't
like in a space where a designer comes in and
goes okay, what's the ideal you know, size table for
this room. It's like, no, no, here's the table and
the room and they both have to work. And so
if it means cutting it off in the middle, we
do it. That is what it is to be an entrepreneur.

(09:53):
It is what it is to be sort of scrappy
and to have a mission that you don't let anything
get in the way of. Yeah, so what I would
love to do to start off is to read.

Speaker 3 (10:03):
Your Hype Women headline.

Speaker 4 (10:05):
And this is my attempt to synopsize in two sentences,
which is really difficult because of the impact that you've
had over the course of your career in life, who
you are, what you're about, what the world knows you as,
and what I want you to do, because I think
it's really difficult when you are a person like you are,
who is involved in so much, who cares so deeply,

(10:26):
who is ambitious, You're constantly moving, You're constantly onto the
next thing. I want you to really use the thirty
seconds of me reading this to hear what you've done,
to take it in, and then we're going to talk
about the subtext.

Speaker 3 (10:43):
Okay, okay, all right, here we go.

Speaker 4 (10:46):
Emily Tish Susman is a purple haired unicorn, the creator
and host of the award winning podcast She Pivots. A
Tony nominated producer, a Marie Claire contributor, a Democratic political strategist,
member of the New York Bar and co owner of
Gotham FC, the twenty twenty three National Women's Soccer League champions.

(11:08):
End of Sentence one, Sentence two. A mother of three,
and former VP of Campaigns at the largest Democratic think
tank in Washington, d C. Emily has produced Broadway hits,
including Shucked and How To Dance in Ohio. Is a
founding member of her local Mom's Demand Action Chapter. Has
served on the board of the Ethical Culture Fieldstone School

(11:29):
and the Raw School. Is a member of the Artist
Council at the Whitney Museum of American Art.

Speaker 3 (11:35):
And the Director Circle at the Church.

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (11:40):
If I looked at this, I would have been like,
why'd you put six people's bios into one?

Speaker 3 (11:44):
And is like, no, no, no, that's all accurate. M
What is happening here? What's happening here?

Speaker 1 (11:53):
Yeah, when you read all like that, it does feel
overwhelming a little, Yeah, it does feel overwhelming, but yeah,
I mean I think it's because I kind of go
all in when I do something, like it's just I
drink a lot of coffee, that is for sure, yep.
But you know, when I do something, I go really
really hard on it, and I feel like I can't

(12:14):
do it halfway. So if we're going to do it
like we're fucking doing it, We're fucking doing it. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (12:21):
It is such an interesting mix though, right that your interests,
your skill set.

Speaker 3 (12:28):
Your true brilliance.

Speaker 4 (12:31):
It really spans very different sectors that most people would
pick a lane and kind of stay in that one,
whereas I, like I wrote down, I was like, maybe
this is your memoir women.

Speaker 3 (12:43):
Aren't politics and purple hair?

Speaker 4 (12:45):
You know, because like, and the reason I'm talking about
the purple hair is because you want do.

Speaker 1 (12:48):
You want to know what my Real Housewives tagline would be?

Speaker 3 (12:51):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (12:52):
I do? Wait wait is it? Oh okay, I might
be left, but I'm always right.

Speaker 3 (13:02):
Oh yeah, yeah, so good.

Speaker 1 (13:05):
That'll be my replacement.

Speaker 3 (13:06):
Now okay, that's good.

Speaker 4 (13:08):
And also I will make that sure and have it
up by the end of day, so incredible. We can
make sure, we can make sure that that is in
the hands of people. No, that's that is that is
so good and so right that but again, when you
think about those categories, right, politics, women aren't just true
media you are, You're crossing all of them and you're

(13:29):
but you also continue to participate in them. How do
you show up as m in each of those spaces
that many times have a very specific way that they
expect people to be.

Speaker 1 (13:41):
That's a I really like the way that you. I
think it's a really good question. That's a really good question,
and I think that it's been like a big evolution
for me. I think that one of the real framing
mindsets for me and why I go so hard into
everything that I do, it's because I do still always
feel like I have to prove myself. I feel like
I had to prove myself for a long time. Come
from a very prominent New York family, and so people

(14:02):
had a lot of presumptions about me. Now, I think
we'd call it nepo babies, but they presumed that I
didn't earn what I achieved, and for a long time
I didn't feel like I deserved most of it. That
you know, I had a hard time in school. I
had very little impulse control in talking. In particular, what

(14:23):
was a big surprise. But so I didn't do that well,
Like I didn't fit in, and so therefore I felt
like I wasn't living up to the expectations of my family,
I wasn't living up to the expectations of the city
around me and everyone I came in contact with, and
so I was really rebellious because if I couldn't fit in,
then I had to rebel against it. And then that
kind of got flipped when I worked on a political

(14:44):
campaign right after college and I thought, oh my god,
I'm really good at this. This is the first time
ever in my life I've believed that I was good
at anything, and I had to really prove every minute
of every day that I earned the right to be there,
earned the right to be in my position. And that
led me to law school right after. Like I had
my college advisor. My college degree was in social work,

(15:07):
and my college advisor pulled me aside senior year and
I said, you know, I was meeting with her and
I said, you know, I'm thinking about going to law
school and she said, well, that's really for the smart
people like this girl, lindsay, like, you're really never going
to amount to anything. You're always going to have to
buy your way in and she she hit me where
it hurt like she hit I'm looking to cry it
out like it still sings, because so.

Speaker 3 (15:26):
Can we can we find her?

Speaker 4 (15:28):
Because I have something I would like to say to that,
to the like that is a horrific I know that's
a horrific thing to say to anyone. So I'm sorry
that she said that, because you never deserved that.

Speaker 1 (15:39):
It's not true, but you know what she said what
I was most afraid that people were saying about me,
and so it really hurt, but it also gave me
a real drive. I was like, you know, I'm I
was on the next ten year, fifteen year drive. That
was always in the back of my mind that people
always thought that about me, and yet I had this
passion to be changing the world. I felt like if

(16:01):
I was given so much, then much was expected of me.
And I felt a real burning passion for people who
didn't have a seat at the table, people who didn't
know how to have their voices heard, which is why
I started my career at SLDN after working at Campaigns,
and continued to do that at the Center for American
Progress and other organizations. But it was always nagging, and
so I felt that I needed to pick a lane

(16:23):
when I was in politics because I had to prove
that I was serious. Like that was a big thing
for me, that I had to prove that I earned
it and I was serious and I was smart enough
to be in the room. And then it all kind
of blew up for me after I had three kids
in three and a half years. All three kids were mistakes.

Speaker 3 (16:40):
I'm sorry, what's happening. What's happening right now?

Speaker 1 (16:43):
I am like the most fertile person on the planet. Like,
literally all three kids were mistakes. I cried every time
I found I was pregnant, and I was like, not.

Speaker 3 (16:51):
Again, again, not again, No.

Speaker 1 (16:54):
We can't go back here. And part of it was
that I didn't really feel any connection to my kids,
because I didn't feel connections to babies. I do now
that they're a little bit older. But the biggest part
is that I felt like I really, I had really
earned my career, like I really had felt for the
first time that I had sacrificed a lot for it,
like I had sacrificed physically, emotionally, time wise. I had

(17:16):
moved out of New York because I felt like I
couldn't prove myself as an individual in New York and
it was and I was going to lose it. Like
I knew that working at the intersection of politics and media,
it's always about like the last thing you were relevant for, Yeah,
and I couldn't be relevant and I couldn't do it.
And then three weeks after I had my third baby,
we went into a lockdown for the pandemic and I

(17:38):
was like, well, now now I'm truly fucked, truly, Like
now there's no like I have no child's care. There's
just like babies crying everywhere, so.

Speaker 3 (17:47):
Many babies, so many babies crying.

Speaker 1 (17:50):
Just like everywhere, and I can't use my brain. And
that is the one way that I have defined myself
that made me feel confident, and that made me feel
like I was my own person and not necessarily part
of my family, and like I love my family. It's
not a bad thing, but but it's it's hard to
feel like your feelings are legitimate and like your feelings

(18:12):
are valid when everything external says well, really nobody's interested
in the things that you're feeling. And that is something
that I still feel like I have to balance, like
putting out there, like, you know, I have a lot
of advantages for sure, and only as I've become more
confident I can say and I still feel these things

(18:34):
and it's okay for me to talk about them.

Speaker 4 (18:37):
That's exactly right, you know, I think this piece of
coming from a prominent family. Everyone has their idea of
what that is then, and everyone thinks they know you,
which means that no one actually knows you because they
haven't given you an opportunity and a chance to show
up because they're like, no, no, no, we already get it.

Speaker 3 (18:55):
We know what you're about.

Speaker 1 (18:57):
And so you know when you I mean the amount
of people over my lifetime that have come up to
me and said, oh, I'm very close with the Tishes,
and I'm like, well, I literally don't, like this is
our first head meeting. Oh like, am I close to you?

Speaker 3 (19:09):
Do?

Speaker 1 (19:09):
I feel close?

Speaker 4 (19:10):
Like I don't write feel right exactly. It's that's it's
a good point. It's sort of like how we define
different words and what they mean. Sometimes it is based
on what our ambition is, what we're really there for.
So when you talk about this idea of being smart,
right and what that counselor told you and that struggle
that you had with feeling that you know, I think

(19:31):
I think we are in a really complicated time with
our kids who are growing up in a very old
school system of schooling and teaching that has expectations that
just don't meet the moment where it is. And we
keep saying, if you don't do these three things, then
we're putting you in this lane and you're never going
to be like someone who can get yourself out of it.

(19:53):
And so it's it's a dangerous time where we assume
that traditional schooling and going straight to college and all
these things are the way, and anything else outside of
that means that you're worthless. So utally, you know, like
you say that politics gave you a chance to feel
serious and to be taken seriously.

Speaker 3 (20:12):
Who were you proving yourself to with that?

Speaker 1 (20:16):
Everyone? Like I really did care about that. My colleagues
felt that I had earned the right to be in
the room. I cared that, you know, politics is like
it's not really about money, it's about like access to
power and if people think that you deserve to be
in a conversation and in a decision making capacity, and
everyone around me, I was trying to prove that I

(20:36):
was serious too, Like I didn't totally feel serious myself,
but in parts of me knew that I did. Like
I did exceptionally well in law school. I graduated in
the top of my class, and that was the first
time that I had felt smart, and so I was
constantly trying to prove to everyone that, like I did
deserve to be there. But then I also knew there

(20:57):
were these very silly, whimsical, theater loving parts of me
that don't really fit into a culture of politics where
everyone is trying to be the smartest in the room.
And so I was afraid that if I let that
out to the extent to which I feel it, then
I would be like cutting against everything else I'd proven

(21:17):
about being serious. So I did kind of pick a lane,
and I was like, this is my serious lane. And
so I started going on TV as a political commentator
in twenty twelve for Obama's reelection, and I did Fox
News like almost every day, like all the time. I
did Fox News, CNN, MSNBCCB as across the board, And
so much of that for me was that nobody could

(21:39):
say that somebody else got me in the room like
I was on live TV doing the hardest thing somebody
in my job could be doing, like I was on
like Bill O'Reilly, you know, like right, or I'm.

Speaker 4 (21:49):
Like sweating as you're saying that because we know that
that's a hot seat, right.

Speaker 1 (21:53):
Yeah, totally. And so that was a big piece of
it for me that like I didn't need everybody to
watch every segment I had ever done, but I knew
I had gotten through it, and I had this external
validator to show that I had the right to be
in my job.

Speaker 4 (22:08):
So like you had this period of time where you
were so publicly visible your skill set, your expertise, and
then when did you say, I'm going to let this
other part of me out.

Speaker 1 (22:24):
I had to hit a real bottom, Like I really
had to hit a low. And it was when it
was during the pandemic, when I was locked in with
these three kids and my whole career had evaporated, and
I like, I mean, I couldn't work, I couldn't work
in my field, and I didn't know if I could
do anything else, Like I didn't know not only I
didn't know if anyone would hire me for anything else,
Like I actually didn't know if I was capable of
doing anything else because I had doubled down so hard

(22:47):
in political strategy and I didn't know who I was
without it, and that was really hard for me because
I had taken that as my identity to replace being
part of my prominent family, right, right, it was.

Speaker 3 (23:01):
Like, yeah, you were, you were like this.

Speaker 4 (23:03):
It's not that you necessarily fixed that need, you just
replaced it.

Speaker 1 (23:10):
Right.

Speaker 4 (23:11):
So it's like the same idea as like addiction, where
it's like, well, I'm not a smoke er.

Speaker 3 (23:14):
Anymore, but man, I'm an alcoholic.

Speaker 4 (23:16):
And I'm not saying that this is exactly like addiction,
but it's I probably.

Speaker 1 (23:19):
Have a personality of an addict. That's a fair assessment.

Speaker 4 (23:22):
Well, but what I think it is is like when
we have when we have these expectations of us, especially
that are about our lineage, which is truly our identity,
and we are trying to figure our way through them.
Relevance is always the top sort of need, right. The
desire is like am I relevant?

Speaker 3 (23:43):
Am I relevant? Do people care?

Speaker 1 (23:45):
Right?

Speaker 4 (23:45):
And so so much of your work up until that
point had been about being relevant to whatever you were
throwing yourself into. Being behind the scenes feels real scary
because it's like everyone's going to forget about me.

Speaker 3 (23:58):
What happens then.

Speaker 1 (23:59):
So so, And I couldn't even work behind the scenes.
Like the way that I worked meant that I had
to be up on, like have the latest information at
all the time, at all times. And I couldn't get
the latest information because I wasn't working in a way
that would give me access to it.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
No.

Speaker 4 (24:16):
No, And I think when we think about what it
was to be a parent of small children in a pandemic,
and you have a really almost amplified example of having
three children under the age of three during that time,
you can't function. There is no functioning that occurs for
a parent that is living at home without childcare with
three small, very needy people.

Speaker 3 (24:38):
How the hell did you get through that time?

Speaker 1 (24:40):
A lot of crying, a lot of jumping in mud puddles.
We did that about twice a day. We buried a
dead bird for a little while. That was one activity.
But I just, you know, I just kind of like
kept one piece, Like for a little while, I kept
my political podcast going, even though it was like I
was doing a really shady job of it. No cared anymore,

(25:00):
Like I just kind of like kept one piece, just
to keep my brain involved. And then I actually gave
myself a pause. I gave myself six months, and I said,
I'm going to take this six months to just I
had been keeping myself busy, like I've been keeping the
political podpast, going to like give me something to hold on.

Speaker 4 (25:18):
To, yeah, keep you tethered, right, yeah, right, Like keep
me the teathered to myself that was outside of child's care.

Speaker 1 (25:25):
Yeah, taking care of my children and figuring out I
mean we moved eight times in eighteen months, Like where
do they go to school? You know, like give me
something that still felt like myself. And then I actually
gave myself a really dedicated time to say, let's just
do a lot of coffees. And they're probably virtual at
that point, but like, let me just have a lot
of conversations because I actually don't know who I am anymore.

(25:46):
Like I'm not ready to go out and say I'm
looking for this kind of job or I want to
create this kind of thing or be part of this
kind of system because I actually don't know what I
have to offer and I don't know who I am anymore. Yeah,
it was a big so it let.

Speaker 4 (25:59):
Me like yes, like you like yes, I mean that
is I think that so many women felt that during
that time.

Speaker 1 (26:08):
I really do and and I just started to like
make like build roots where we were and just start
one thing at a time, Like what do I want
to do? Well? I need advice, Like I need to
know that like I'm not dead, Like there's no parenting
advice out there that resonates with me right now, there's
no work advice that resonates for me, because everything was
about work life balance, which implied that you chose and

(26:29):
I was like, well, believe me, I would have never
chose this. Nope. So I needed to know that I
did it. I did create such high expectations for myself
and everything that I did that like if it can't
be this political career that I've spent fifteen years working
my ass off, Like I'm not going to have the
bandwidth to work in that way towards something else right now?

(26:51):
I just don't. Yeah, So, like, am I gonna be okay?
And is everything that I'm going to have done not
just have been a total waste? And so I started
thinking about who can give me advice in this way
and in the most selfish way possible. I was like
I want to talk to my idols, and I want
to talk to women who have gone through the shittiest
thing I can possibly imagine, and that makes my things

(27:11):
seem not that bad.

Speaker 4 (27:12):
I mean, listen, it's there's perspective there. There's huge perspective there.
And so how did you embark on that? What was
sort of like what was the beginning like? And then
let's talk about how that evolved into something really powerful.

Speaker 1 (27:27):
Well, I put a structure together of what I wanted
the content to be like, and the structure has even
evolved that. At the beginning, I was like, ten episodes,
feels like something I can manage. Let me see if
I can create it. I had worked with a production
company when I'd done the political podcast and had a
not good ending with them, so I was like, if
I build something, I'm building it from scratch.

Speaker 4 (27:46):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (27:46):
But hello, I'm just sitting at the desk in my bedroom, like,
you know, like this is all new for me. So
you know, it was a lot of just like walking
around and like making notes on my note app figuring
it out, and the structure did change, you know. At
one point I met someone who was used to doing
or who had had an experience doing sales for big events,
you know, sort of like Women of the World's kind

(28:07):
of events. So I partnered with her to make it
an in person award and the podcast would be the
side side offering. And then she told me that she's
going to grad school full time and I had to
rethink it. At that point when I was ready to launch,
I was like, I came up with this thing. Oh,
I pitched every media company I could think of. My
friend Michelle Juwanda said, Emily, you are the media company.

(28:29):
Do not give your idea away to them. So then
I created the media company and pitched it to existing
legacy brands to partner with me on and then I
launched it so like I had this email list it
was created made up of all of my contacts, and
I was like, this is really scary. I'm really scary
of launching that I'm going to launch this podcast talking
about things that are personal and the way that I feel.

(28:50):
And I actually don't think that anybody wants to hear
the way that I feel. And I'm not even sure
that I want to hear the way that I feel.
But I'm trying it, and I'm nervous that people aren't
going to see me serious anymore, and then I'm not
going to see myself a serious But I'm launching it.
So I sent out this email to every person i'd
ever emailed with that said, here's my new podcast. It's
called Pivot. And within about ten days I got a

(29:13):
cease and desist order from Vice Media. Oh said, you
have violated the trademark we hold on Pivot in the
podcast category.

Speaker 3 (29:22):
You're like, I'm excellent. Well at least someone's paying attention.

Speaker 1 (29:27):
That is literally how I kept trying to reframe it.
I was like, Okay, I'm totally fucked and I totally
botched this roll out like the new me. And they're like,
just kidding, it's not listen.

Speaker 3 (29:38):
I think a season assists, like you aren't. You haven't
made it until you've gotten a season assist. So like
so like slow clap for you girl.

Speaker 4 (29:45):
Okay, yeah so you So you were like, I got
a Pivot my name right now.

Speaker 1 (29:54):
And and Edna, who worked for me at the time,
and the lawyers kept coming up with like fifty different
names that I could use, and I was like, but
here's the problem with that name. It's not Pivot.

Speaker 3 (30:04):
It's not pivot.

Speaker 1 (30:05):
Yeah, so that's the problem with it. Yeah, once again,
let me refer back to the season Asis daughter.

Speaker 4 (30:11):
Yep.

Speaker 1 (30:12):
And then my mom came up with she pivots. Actually,
I had initially wanted to keep it just as pivot,
which they wouldn't let me because I wanted to be
able to include men. And then and I thought that
she pivots just made it too narrow. And then when
I thought about who I wanted to interview, I was like,
I actually don't really care about interviewing men.

Speaker 4 (30:27):
So it's fine, and it's like and again it's like, well,
turns out also fifty one percent of the population, half
of the labor force is not narrow, and there's going
to be tons and tons of opportunity here and.

Speaker 3 (30:39):
I think a lot.

Speaker 4 (30:40):
Listen, the corporate world wants us to be afraid to
say we're just focusing on women, right.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
We are continue we continue to be told.

Speaker 4 (30:49):
Wah, I don't know if that's a category we can
publicly state we are going all in on. And when
you look at the numbers, it just doesn't make any sense,
especially when we know that eighty five percent of consumer
buying power is in the hands of women.

Speaker 3 (31:01):
So so I'm so thrilled. I'm I'm thrilled you got
that seasoned assist.

Speaker 4 (31:06):
I'm thrilled you decided to focus I wouldn't even say
narrow in Yeah, to focus on women and to make
this about what you really were intending to do from
the get go, which is to explore and examine your
own journey through the journeys of other women who have
dealt with what any of us who have had a

(31:28):
career and children know to be, which is those two
things coming up against one another and forcing us to
make some kind of choice.

Speaker 1 (31:37):
Yep, yeah, yes. And and the thing that was very
specific for me as I was putting together kind of
the thesis of the show is that my story was
that my kids killed my career. And by the way,
I have a tote bag because my kids killed my career,
and if I haven't sent it to yet, I'm going
to yep.

Speaker 3 (31:53):
But need it, need it?

Speaker 1 (31:54):
Yeah, Yeah, you're gonna need that one. But I actually
was really specific not to book other women with the
same story as me, because there's so many things that
happen outside of us that change our perspective that then
lead us to something different. And again, very selfishly, I
needed to know what they were, like, I needed to
know how people got through them. So in the first season,

(32:17):
we had someone who came out of trans and was
kicked out of the military. We had a Holocaust survivor. Like,
we had a huge variety of stories, and that maintains
the most important piece of it for me, is having
the biggest variety of stories possible because we're all working
within the same frame. Is that, like, I didn't anticipate
this thing. It was going to rock me so much.

(32:39):
I kind of got gutted out, and then I was
better because of it, not in spite of it. Because
of it, I was better.

Speaker 3 (32:47):
Yes, do you.

Speaker 4 (32:49):
Feel like your biggest pivot moment was what happened in
the pandemic or was it something else?

Speaker 1 (32:54):
No, without question, it definitely was. But I think that
even in the three years that I've been doing this show,
I've broadened. You know, I went all in on building
the media company, went all in on building the show.
And as my team has gotten more efficient and they've
gotten and we've gotten professionalized and we've been able to grow,

(33:15):
it's opened me up to be able to say, well, actually,
I can do other things and I want to, and
I started investing in Broadway shows, which, by the way,
producing is just investing.

Speaker 4 (33:25):
I don't like lead produce, But guess what synonyms are
there for a reason, and so producing.

Speaker 1 (33:31):
Is what we say.

Speaker 4 (33:32):
I know.

Speaker 1 (33:32):
I still have like a real insecurity about that too.
I'm like, I'm not like creatively putting a show together.

Speaker 4 (33:37):
But you know what, you know, it's funny. I don't
agree with that, because here's what you do. By investing,
you are creating the space for creativity. You are creating
room for those on stage and writing behind the scenes
to go there. So it is a different form of
that idea of being a creative influence, and it matters.

Speaker 3 (33:59):
So I own that shit.

Speaker 1 (34:01):
You're right, I will own it. Well, So I've done
two shows now, and is there a thesis to why
I do it?

Speaker 4 (34:07):
No?

Speaker 1 (34:08):
I love it like I love it. That's that's that's
the answer, is that I love it. And I've seen
a lot of theater in my life, and I think
that I maybe have an opinion about it. So a
friend of mine presented this opportunity to invest in the
first show to me, for us to do it together,
and I said, well, I feel like if I go
into a new category, it needs to be on brand,
like is there a female director?

Speaker 2 (34:26):
No?

Speaker 1 (34:26):
Is there a female writer? No? Is there a female
lead producer? No? I was like, does it know women?
I don't like.

Speaker 3 (34:34):
You're like, You're like, is there a woman bringing people water?
Like anything?

Speaker 1 (34:39):
Just please give me something that I can hold on to,
and it ended up it ended up. It did end
up being groundbreaking in the sense that Alex Knew a
one best supporting actress for the first time as a
non binary actor, which is very exciting. But I felt like,
even going into this category of theater that it had
to be so on brand for me. And then I
was like, actually I like it, and also I think

(35:03):
it's going to be profitable, so that's good enough. So
I feel that's good enough. But I say, oh, this
is the example, like how did I get to this
point where I just like, give no Fox and do
exactly what I want to do. I think it's evolving,
and I think it also feels to me like I
have to establish myself, like this is my own insecurities
and I'm not going to project this on anybody else.

(35:24):
But I still hold this insecurity that if I do something,
I have to do at ten thousand percent. And so
I have to be established enough in the thing that
I am doing to be able to add.

Speaker 4 (35:37):
That is so interesting, right, because that what that will
do is it will stop you in a lot of
cases from being a part of something that you deserve
to be a part of and that they deserve to
have you involved in. And it also means that we
have to fight this notion that we're not learners and
that we have to be experts in the field of
everything that we are participating in. You will get to

(35:59):
a point in some of these spaces that you are
entering and you are learning about where you do become
more established and have more expertise, but you're sure as
hell can't get there on day one. Yea, And so right,
And so like, I think there is so much merit
to women in particular saying when they're involved in something,
I'm here to learn and to be an observer and

(36:21):
to witness this as much as I'm here to contribute,
because my inherent value is not just in my service
to others. And if I view it that way, I
won't do things just because I love them. I'll do
them because I feel like I'm serving and like extricating
ourselves from that definition is confusing because it's all about

(36:41):
our value and our worth and our own mind.

Speaker 1 (36:43):
Yeah, totally. I mean even you know, I served on
you know, we mentioned that I've been on school boards before.
I served on one board as an alum when I
was on it, and it wasn't a very gratifying experience
for me, Like I lived in a different city, it
was hard for me to really participate. I felt like
I was they are, quite frankly, as a stand in
for my family, so they could keep a connection to
my family, which I think is probably why I was there,

(37:05):
And I still did the full term, like I did
nine years. Sometimes I was than other I did it.
I did it for a long time. But then when
it came time for me to enter into a school
for my kids, I did have nine years of experience.
And so even though the first school board was it
kind of made me feel shitty, like it didn't really
feel like I was there for my own expertise. It's

(37:28):
made me feel a hell of a lot better about
my engagement on my kids' school board. Yeah, because I
have a point of comparison and I have experience that
quite frankly, nobody else has.

Speaker 3 (37:38):
It's true. It's true.

Speaker 4 (37:39):
And so sometimes like these these initial experiences that we
are sort of judging about whether or not we should
be doing them, it's actually it's a it's a stepping
stone to the other thing.

Speaker 3 (37:49):
The thing that's really going to matter.

Speaker 1 (37:50):
It definitely does, and it's actually given me a different
context to look back on that time that I spent
on that school board and think it really wasn't a waste,
that it built me up to this moment that now
I can be a much better contributing member because I
do care about you know, yes, I will enter a
space and say it's okay for me to learn, but
I do really care that I'm not just a placeholder.
Like I care that I actually contribute something and then

(38:12):
there it's the only way that I get something out
of it. It's how they get the best out of me,
and I do care about that. But I think a
lot of it just depends on like reframing the skills
as opposed to the specifics of something I've done before,
Like school board to school board is like a pretty
clear transferable set of skills, yes, but it could be
something different, you know, the school. The school board that

(38:35):
I'm on right now has spent the last ten years
trying to get a turning lane because it's dangerous to
take a left out of the school. And I basically
spent the fall running the school's government affairs getting this
turning lane in with a county.

Speaker 4 (38:47):
Yeah, you're like, you're like, I have a background in this, right,
Like I can pull from some of that, you know,
And again, even even when you look at something that
is not as easy of a leap to make, where
it's like politics too broadway, Well, yeah, it's about community building,
it's about making people feel seen, it's about creating space
for diversity.

Speaker 3 (39:07):
Then then we start to see the connection in the
through line.

Speaker 1 (39:10):
Yeah, one hundred percent of Actually, there's a lot of
people similar to me that worked either in the Obama
administration or with the Obama administration where we felt like
we moved policy very quickly. Before we had moved hearts
and minds. And now we're in a storytelling space because
we're so committed to hearts and minds and feel like
other people can do the policy moving right now.

Speaker 3 (39:32):
Other people can do the policy moving.

Speaker 1 (39:34):
Yeah, but we moved it. We moved it too fast.

Speaker 3 (39:35):
Yeah.

Speaker 4 (39:36):
Now, I love that, I think And again, I think
so much of that is like when we feel like
everything has to have such incredible meaning, that's it's just
it's a lot of pressure.

Speaker 3 (39:45):
It's a lot of pressure.

Speaker 4 (39:46):
Sometimes we just have to to get up and go
and do it and see what happens with it and
not have always this end game in mind. And like again,
when you're a person who has the background that you've had,
it's it's always about like, am I going to package
this all up and sort of serve it up and
deliver it? And so that can get in the way
of actually being present in the process.

Speaker 3 (40:07):
Yeah, because because we're just like, what's the output? What's
the output here?

Speaker 1 (40:11):
Yeah, totally. And I try to reframe things to think
about that I'm here to be in this and at
the at the back end of it, I'll get out
of it what I get or guess the front end
of it, like, I'll get out of it when I
get out of it, like, and then I'll figure out
how what skills I get out of it. But not
to try to be framing it. And this is something
I've had to work on for myself. But not framing
it in that moment of like what am I getting

(40:32):
out of this? Is it a name? Is it a connection?
Is it like a bullet you know, resume bullet point,
But like to take take myself out of that kind
of mindset and go into I'm going to be here
and present with it, and I know that everything will
build to the next thing, but like I actually will
legitimately get the most out of it if I show
up very authentically with the skill set that I have

(40:54):
for better or worse, like whatever it is, with the
like I now can recognize. I think this is the
biggest thing that working on it campaign taught me right
after college is that I'm great for vibes, Like I'm
great for enthusiasm. You know you are you are?

Speaker 3 (41:08):
You are you really?

Speaker 1 (41:10):
You know, Like the first thing on a campaign, I
was like, oh my god, I'm not smart the way
that they are. I don't have the skills that they are.
And I was like, oh, but actually I can keep
my team working for long hours and like people want
to work with my team, and I can attract people
with honey or you know, like.

Speaker 3 (41:24):
Whatever the phrase is, that's right, And so.

Speaker 1 (41:27):
Just knowing that that can be enough, Like that can
be it. That's okay, I can I can live with that.
That's good for me.

Speaker 4 (41:33):
Now, when did that shift happen for you, that you
that you felt that that was that was acceptable, that
that was actually what you were bringing to the table
in some of these environments where you didn't feel like
you were numero uno.

Speaker 1 (41:47):
It really was on that first campaign that I worked
on after college, like everything I had gotten in college
had been so reinforcing to me that I was not
smart and that I would not be professionally successful, and
then I may have to try to nepo maybe myself
into the world if I was going to, you know,
be working in any serious capacity. You know, my advisor
told me I would never amount to anything, so like

(42:08):
it was actually told me quite directly. But it was
on that first campaign where I think campaigns are such
a good way to start in a career because it
really is a meritocracy. Like there's no time, there's no
time to consider, oh did they work hard? Like did
they make it into the room? Like right right, Like
by the time you have figured out who's sitting at

(42:29):
the table with you, you've moved on to the next thing, correct,
So you can work your way up very if you
work hard on a campaign, you will get that in return,
you will see that reflected. And so they gave me
a lot of responsibility very quickly on that campaign because
I could keep the enthusiasm up and I could keep
the trains moving because people wanted to work with me.

(42:50):
And so I was like, oh, actually, is this a
workplace skill? Like I think this is I think this
is a skill. Perhaps it was not a skill in
law school, which was my.

Speaker 4 (43:01):
Next right right, which is like very again so old school,
so so regimented, and it's like it's literally like by
the book where it doesn't exist. So you were you
were again coming in as like a hurricane sort of saying,
I don't know, why do we have.

Speaker 2 (43:15):
To do it like this?

Speaker 1 (43:17):
Well, well I didn't at all in law school, by
the way, I went like heads down. I was like,
I'm terrified. I cried every day of the first year,
for sure. I cried every day. And I was like,
I just need to buck up this part of me
that I'm insecure about. But I'm going to go headfirst
into it because I've had this little bit of confirmation
for working on a campaign that I think that I
might be smart enough to do this, and I had

(43:39):
that glimmer. So I need to overcompensate in the academic
part of it now to prove to myself that I'm
allowed to be here, to prove to everyone else that
I'm allowed to be here, Like I'm not I'm supposed
to be here. But so I had to really overcompensate
in that. It's the time that I felt the least
like myself, But I'm also incredibly happy that I did it.
Like my mom's always like, why are you going to

(43:59):
be a lawyer? And like that ship is sailed.

Speaker 4 (44:01):
It's like it's like, listen, that was just background info
that just like helps me know when I should try
to maybe see someone.

Speaker 1 (44:07):
That's it. I'm literally I like badly read my own contracts.
It's pretty much when it comes down to now, right,
But I do think it led me to be able
to have the confidence to be in a room where
serious things are being discussed and serious things are happening.
When we worked at SLDN, I had to represent their interests,

(44:27):
and when I was in that room representing our clients,
they didn't care if I was insecure in my childhood.
What mattered is that I showed up for our clients,
and so it was the law school training that gave
me the confidence to be able to do it. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (44:41):
Absolutely, it was a framework for you, and like you said,
it was a confidence builder because you were like, it
turns out I can do this. It doesn't mean I
necessarily want to or that I'm enjoying it, but like
it was a flex that you needed to do for yourself.
That meant, Okay, that part of me has been exploring,
But now what am I really here to do?

Speaker 1 (45:02):
Do you think.

Speaker 4 (45:05):
That being serious and being taken seriously are the same thing?

Speaker 1 (45:13):
Ooh, that's so deep. I mean, I guess I would
be case in point that it's not, because I do
like to think that I'm taken seriously at this point
in my life. But I definitely show up not serious,
Like I do have bright purple hair, I do dress
the way I want to dress, and I bring all
of it with me. I mean, you know, I'm on

(45:34):
the school board. And I also performed Poor Unfortunate Souls
in a drag outfit at the school talent show. So
with my children getting around, my children ran around me
as the eels.

Speaker 4 (45:46):
Yeah, that feels exactly on brand. For what you would
be doing in January. I'm twenty twenty four, so no,
I think. I mean, my point of that question is
you are showing yourself, the world and other people that
you don't have to be stereotypically serious to be taken seriously,

(46:09):
and that we do actually have to push that definition
in those spaces that tend to be much more old
school and like historically a certain way because it's not working.

Speaker 3 (46:21):
It's not working.

Speaker 4 (46:22):
Yeah, So I am I just deeply admire that you
are showing up in the way that feels right to
you now because it is being taken fucking seriously.

Speaker 1 (46:32):
Yeah, well, I appreciate that. I mean, I think that
I also think I had to let go a little
bit of meeting other people's expectations, even though like it's
very ingrained in me, it's hard for me not to.
But also the thing that took me to my lowest
during COVID and even a little bit preceding that, was
that my greatest fear was realized. Like my greatest fear

(46:55):
was that people would think that I had nepoed my
way into a room and that I hadn't earned it it. Yeah,
and when I found out that people were saying it
about me anyway, no matter how much I had sacrificed
and how hard I had worked, it was actually really freeing.

Speaker 4 (47:08):
Yeah right, because it's like, well, guess what, it doesn't
actually matter what I do, because people are gonna have
their own narrative. So all we can decide is who
has access to us, who we give that attention and
time to, and and who we just walk the fuck
away from.

Speaker 1 (47:24):
Yeah, totally, Like once I had, I had done so much,
like such a personal sacrifice to myself to make sure
that other people thought that I had earned my place,
and they still didn't believe it. So then I just
started saying, well then fuck em, fuck em Like then
I'm real, like for real, like I'm actually just gonna

(47:45):
do what makes me happy, and people can think that
it's serious or not serious, but I'll just keep showing
up in the way that I want to show up,
and you'll know to take me seriously by what I bring,
and if you don't, it's your loss, honestly, because I'm happy.

Speaker 3 (48:05):
It is absolutely their loss.

Speaker 4 (48:07):
And it turns out that like your joy and happiness
should be really from center in your life, right, that
should be not something that you work really hard to earn,
but it should be the way the way through.

Speaker 3 (48:20):
So keep doing that, sister.

Speaker 4 (48:22):
Okay, I want us to wrap with this little exercise
that I do where I'm going to say three sentences
and I want you to fill in the blank with
what feels most right to you right now in describing
kind of where you've been, where you are, and where
you're going. So the three sentences are, I was, I am.

Speaker 1 (48:44):
I will be Okay, I was insecure, I am truly
comfortable in my skin. I will be owner of the
reigning championship team for a long time. Got them FC.

Speaker 4 (49:07):
Yeah you will, maybe, yes you will. I was so
honored to be with you a few weeks ago in
New York when you announced your four newest players, and
it was such an incredible day for women's sports, for
women in general, for where we're all headed and what
you all are doing to shine a light on this
important sort of just grounding experience that so many of

(49:31):
us have had that have built our confidence and helped
us see and feel who we are, and that you're
also telling these stories across other mediums in your Sheep
Pivots podcast, and am really in every room that you enter, and.

Speaker 1 (49:45):
So we will talk about Can I talk about got
Them for a second? Is that okay? Okay, you can.
I'm like, we haven't talked about got them yet? Know
we here.

Speaker 3 (49:53):
We are here to hype you and everything that you
care about.

Speaker 1 (49:55):
Okay, Well, first of all, thank you so much for
coming to the announcement. I thought it was a great day.

Speaker 3 (49:58):
It was such a great day.

Speaker 4 (49:59):
I mean again, like I wrote about like my you know,
twenty six soccer year playing heart like the little girl
and me being like I can't believe I am near
real live professional soccer players.

Speaker 3 (50:12):
This is insanity.

Speaker 1 (50:13):
So yeah, I like keep asking them questions. I'm like,
what do you lift? Like like I just want to
know how strong they are? Right, what do you lift?
I'm like so impressed.

Speaker 3 (50:23):
It's so fun.

Speaker 1 (50:24):
I'm so psyched about it. So this came about. This
is really, this is like really my sister's thing. So
and I actually didn't play sports, like I was so
admiring of your posts that you played sports forever. I didn't.
I was like a nerdy theater kid who actually couldn't
even make it onto the stage because I wasn't even
talented enough to do that so I was a side player.
But I love it because because.

Speaker 4 (50:44):
Your talent wasn't recognized. That's how I'd like to reframe that,
because that's not fucking true.

Speaker 3 (50:50):
Well I don't.

Speaker 1 (50:53):
That is so wonderful and generous of you. But I
also think we can know where our strengths and Okay,
I like I like to say in karaoke, what I
lack in talent, I make up for an enthusiasm.

Speaker 3 (51:02):
That's the damn truth.

Speaker 1 (51:03):
Okay, I keep going, We're reframing our Okay, So my
sister has a background in sports. My family has been
in sports for a long time, but my sister really
has a substantive experience. She ran, She built the brand
for Peloton in marketing, so she built the global brand. Yes,
this opportunity came up to say. She started doing some
sports investing on behalf of our family and seeing that

(51:24):
women's soccer in particular is like the investment right now,
like this is this is what is busting. Yep, this
is what is bumping. And she started meeting with more
people and they're like, you're in New York, Like you
guys should be the New York team. And so it
all came about in some ways kind of quickly and
in some ways it didn't really intend to do it.
But again, this is like my sister is leading an
ownership group on behalf of our family, and so I'm

(51:47):
just there to support her. I'm very excited about it.
I kind of like the idea of women's soccer, but
I don't know a ton and I'm kind of just
there to support her. From the minute we hit the
ground and I mean literally hit the ground because this
never happens. That we signed the deal on Wednesday, our
team was in the championship game. We landed on Friday
and won the championship on Saturday. I can't.

Speaker 3 (52:07):
I mean, like, what a week?

Speaker 1 (52:10):
Like what a week?

Speaker 4 (52:11):
Girl?

Speaker 3 (52:11):
You're like, I am really glad I bought this bomber
jacket because I'm repping this.

Speaker 1 (52:16):
Oh oh by the way, that bomber jacket came from
one of the staff members. I was like, I don't
have enough gear.

Speaker 3 (52:21):
Oh my god.

Speaker 1 (52:22):
I was like, where's our box of these? Yes, I
mean I almost didn't even go to the championship game
because I just felt kind of disconnected from it, like
it was my I was. So I was there to
support my sister and from the minute we got there,
it was so clear that this league has just been
so underinvested in and the players deserve so much better.
Like I was emotionally invested from the second we got there.

(52:44):
We stayed in this like two star hotel with the players,
which I'm so glad that we did, yeah, because we
really got to see them and see how much they
love and support each other, how hard they work, like
they are world class athletes and our country has not
invested him in them in that way and the league
has not now. And so I was again like I

(53:05):
had no expectation of being involved in the team until
I arrived and they were like, oh, could you help
with this? Can you help with this? And I was
like sure, And it did make me realize that the
things that I had done, Like you look at my resume,
it would not say she'd be doing a great job
helping the championship team in their championship weekend, right, Like
I don't say I didn't play sports, but you know,
it's I do realize that everything in my background has

(53:27):
led me to where they are weak, and therefore I
can be of service to them. So like, for example,
this women's soccer league every single league when they're champion wins,
goes to the White House for a ceremony with the President,
including Little League. Do you know who's never been invited
women's soccer?

Speaker 3 (53:47):
Are you kidding me?

Speaker 1 (53:48):
Never? The US team went as part of the World Cup,
but the US Women's World Soccer has never been invited
to the White House for the championship.

Speaker 4 (54:00):
You're like, You're like, hold on, let me text someone. No,
that's literally what I did.

Speaker 3 (54:05):
Let me text the beep. Okay, Like excuse me.

Speaker 1 (54:08):
For a minute. Like by the time we landed back
on Sunday evening, I had like eight parts of the
White House working on this. They were like, they're absolutely right,
this is an oversight. We will get it. Like I
actually know now that the White House Political Meetings flags
this every week and it's like, do we have this
on our schedule yet because we have to have it. Yes,
and they're going to fix it. But like, this is

(54:29):
this is just an example of how like these are
my friends who work in the White House. I've worked
with them for twenty years. That's right. They know that
when I text them this, this is important, correct, and
then I'm gonna And also they know I have credibility,
Like they know that I'm not going to do something
that is not aligned with them because I will tell
the truth and I come from a place of credibility

(54:50):
and I don't take short term wins for long term detriment, correct.
So it was in this moment that I did feel like, Okay,
the things that I have done did build me to
be substantively be able to contribute here. So that's my
Gotham thing.

Speaker 3 (55:04):
So girl, it's absolutely true.

Speaker 4 (55:06):
And I think I think the lesson here and the
lesson that you keep learning as you let your intuition
guide you to sort of what's next, is that it's
not always going to look like a very clear line
connecting something. But who you are not what you've necessarily
even done or what you are known for. Who you

(55:27):
are is what you are bringing to that organization, that mission,
that group, that conference, that.

Speaker 1 (55:36):
Event.

Speaker 4 (55:38):
People follow will follow you through fire, right, and people
trust you and they believe in what you're doing and
they want to be around you.

Speaker 1 (55:47):
And by the way, that is true for every one
of your listeners, Like all of that is true, Like
be who you are and people will follow and work
with you.

Speaker 4 (55:56):
Absolutely, And I think the thing to as we get older.
You know, I definitely had that pivot moment when I
turned forty, when I just there's this phrase that.

Speaker 3 (56:04):
Kept coming into my head.

Speaker 4 (56:06):
I will no longer abandon myself in service to others,
because I had spent my entire career and even my
personal life really feeling like my value, my worth came
for my service and whatever I had to do to
shape shift to meet that demand.

Speaker 3 (56:20):
Is how I was supposed to live.

Speaker 4 (56:22):
But when you figure out that that is not the truth,
all of the haters, just like you said that, like,
regardless of what you do, will always have their view
of what you are. Their voice is just fade away, right,
And so it is all about doing what you feel
is right, like living your truth and surrounding yourself with
people that are there for you.

Speaker 3 (56:43):
And that is clearly what you're doing.

Speaker 4 (56:45):
It's what you've done. It's why I was there, Listen.
I know Carolyn, but I wasn't there because of Carolyn.
I was there because of you, right, And so I
think that's what's important to note is that so many
of the people in that room were there because of you,
And it doesn't matter that you didn't fucking play soccer.

Speaker 3 (56:59):
That's not what it's about, right, It's it's your.

Speaker 4 (57:02):
It's your like, your enthusiasm, your light, and also your
perspective that is like, okay, we got to follow that.
If em thinks this is important, something's up.

Speaker 3 (57:15):
Something's up. And so I hope that you continue to
feel that.

Speaker 1 (57:19):
I love you, Erin, I love you too. I love you.

Speaker 4 (57:22):
I'm so proud of you. I can't wait to be
at a Gotham game. I can't wait to continue to listen,
to support and hype your podcast and show up in
all the spaces where you are because you are doing
such incredibly important work, not because of the family that
you were born into, but because of the human that
you have become.

Speaker 1 (57:44):
Well now I'm going to cry. Thank you.

Speaker 4 (57:46):
Crying is good, It's a it's a cathartic exercise.

Speaker 1 (57:50):
Thank you. You are the best, and you truly are you.
You truly are the hype woman that you put out
into the world. Like I just I really feel that
from you on so many levels. No. Remember you grabbed
me middle of the podcast party and you said, are
you feeling it? Are you feeling it? And I was like, okay, yes,
I guess I'm feeling it right.

Speaker 4 (58:08):
Right, It's like it's like, look around, everyone is here
for you. Like it's so easy in those moments to
just be like, oh, I got to take this picture,
gotta do this thing. It's like no, no, no, you
had an idea, you took the risk, you put your
heart out into the world to be received and have
commentary on, and then it led to this moment.

Speaker 3 (58:28):
These are the things, right.

Speaker 4 (58:29):
I say this all the time because I think it's
really important, especially for people that dare to tell the
world what they think. People with ideas are dreamers, right,
and if they do People with ideas who do nothing
are dreamers. People with ideas who do something are entrepreneurs. Right.
They are founders, They are builders, they are creators.

Speaker 1 (58:49):
That is a much.

Speaker 3 (58:50):
Harder place to play.

Speaker 4 (58:51):
We can think of amazing stuff all the time, and
then we are super safe and telling no one and
doing nothing. When you put it out there, that's when
the rubber me the road.

Speaker 1 (59:01):
Yeah, totally keep putting your shit out there, you too, lady,
put it out Thanks.

Speaker 3 (59:07):
Am love you, thank you, love you.

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