In this eye-opening episode, Dr. Sherrie sits down with Chantal Contorines to unpack the hidden realities of parenting with or after a relationship with a narcissist. Chantal brings deep wisdom, compassion, and clarity to one of the most complicated and painful dynamics families face today.
What we cover:
๐ What led Chantal to specialize in narcissistic abuse and parenting after trauma
๐ Why โco-parentingโ with a narcissist isnโt actually co-parentingโand what to do instead
๐ How humor and sarcasm can be used as tools of cruelty and control
๐ The biggest myths society pushes about healing, forgiveness, and staying in toxic family dynamics
๐ What someone should do when they first realize they might be dealing with a narcissist
๐ Why narcissists care more about looking like good parents than actually being good parents
๐ How Chantal balances her role as both educator and emotional support for survivors online
๐ Subtle red flags of narcissistic behavior in early parenting dynamics
๐ How to rebuild trust in yourself after long-term gaslighting and emotional abuse
๐ A message of hope for any parent feeling guilt or self-doubt after leaving an abusive situation
Chantal Contorines is a coercive control "co-parenting" coach who helps protective parents learn to navigate the post separation abuse that they and their children experience.
She works privately with clients, has monthly masterclasses, "The Coercive Control Co-Parenting Collective" and a podcast, The Survivor's Playbook.
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CONNECT WITH CHANTAL:
๐ Website: https://chantalcontorinescoaching.com/
๐ Email: chantal@chantalcontorines.com
๐ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chantal.contorines.coaching/
๐ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/chantal.contorines.coaching/
๐ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chantal-contorines-311b3346/
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