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SPEAKER_01 (00:04):
Well, hello Princess
Really.
I'm so happy you are here.
Today we're talking about atopic that is near and dear to
my heart.
SPEAKER_00 (00:12):
Heart goes out to
all of you starting and building
your businesses.
I know though that the hardestpart is how you treat yourself.
Did you know that?
It's how you treat yourselfwhile you're building your
business.
Many of you have a lot ofnegative self-talk.
You criticize yourself, you'rethe world's biggest critic of
what you're doing.
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And you actually hurt yourself-confidence and you hurt
your business.
Today we're going to talk aboutgiving yourself grace.
You're going to have to.
God gives us grace.
Why can't we give ourselvesgrace?
We give other people in ourlives grace.
Why can't we give ourselvesgrace?
It's one of the hardest thingsyou will ever do because you
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don't want to let yourselfslide.
And a lot of you hold yourselfto a very high standard.
That's why you're here.
Okay?
That's why you're here.
So today we're going to talkabout giving yourself grace.
I think it's so, so important.
And I will tell you this ifyou're a longtime listener, I'm
actually replaying an olderepisode.
This is from a few years ago,but I just thought I was going
to re-record and I thought, youknow what?
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No, this topic is very importantand this episode was great.
So we're going to do it.
If I do say so myself, I thoughtit was good.
It was, it was me speaking fromthe heart to you.
It's really what it is amotivational speech to you.
And I thought, you know what?
I've already got it.
Let's just play it again.
Because a lot of you are newhere.
And, you know, we've got so manyepisodes that you haven't gone
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all through them.
And if you have heard thisepisode, it's good that you hear
it again.
Because you can never giveyourself enough grace because
you've got to keep going, right?
You've got to keep going.
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So, anyways, that is it.
On to the episode.
Y'all enjoy.
Well, hello everyone.
How are you?
I hope y'all are having a greatday.
I just came off one of our Zoomsessions with my grow getters,
and I just, I'm always smilingso big after those calls because
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I get to see the beautiful,shining, happy, courageous,
awesome women that are in thegroup that are pursuing their
business dreams.
They're working hard, trying tobalance it all and do everything
and figure out all the rightthings that they should be doing
to grow their business.
And it's just such an amazingtime.
So I'm like on a high from ourZoom call today, and I just love
it.
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Love seeing all of y'all.
So shout out to my Grogetterswho were on the Zoom call today.
Anyways, I am here today to giveyou a talk into about giving
yourself grace.
In fact, this came up today inour Zoom call, in our grow
getters Zoom call, which I willtalk about in a minute.
But it's an important issue.
It's an important thing.
It's something that you need togive yourself.
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You need to give yourself thegift of grace.
Did you know that?
Did you ever think about that?
So I think in life we go arounda lot and we give other people
grace, which I hope you do.
I do, because a lot of times youunderstand the situation they're
in, you empathize with them, yousympathize with them, and you
give them grace because youdon't want to be that mean
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person that isn't giving grace.
I mean, we give grace all thetime.
Think about it.
You maybe you're out and about,somebody does something, you
know, at a restaurant, theybring you the wrong thing, or
you get a wrong order, orsomeone falls, or someone makes
you stall, or someone, you know,does something that maybe is
putting you out a little bit, orthey do something wrong, right?
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And you give them grace, don'tyou?
I mean, we give grace to apoint.
You know, after a while, you'relike, okay, listen, you need to
change things, right?
But I'm talking about ingeneral.
We give people grace that we wegive our kids grace, we give our
family grace, we give peoplegrace, we we allow them to make
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a mistake without beating uh,you know, a pan over their head
about it.
We just don't do that, right?
We give people grace, at least Ihope you do, right?
I try to give people gracebecause I need it so badly.
You know, I make mistakes,things happen.
You do too.
Admit it.
You make mistakes, you do thingswrong, but it's okay.
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You give yourself grace.
But with our businesses for somereason, a lot of you have a
very, very hard time giftingyourself grace.
unknown (05:51):
Okay.
SPEAKER_00 (05:51):
And I want you to
think about this today.
I want you to think about howmuch pressure you've probably
put on yourself as you'vestarted and grown this business
of yours.
Or even for those of you thatmaybe haven't started a business
yet, you're in the idea stageand you're working part-time or
full-time, or you're a mom orwhatever it is, or you're a
caretaker, and you put a lot ofpressure and you may stay up at
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night like thinking about it,laying in your bed, like, oh my
gosh, worried, or trying tothink things through and figure
things out.
And I think that a lot of timesy'all don't give yourself grace.
And it's putting so much morepressure on you and it's not
making this as fun as it couldbe.
Right.
This should be an exhilaratingjourney.
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Now, this is not to say thebusiness isn't stressful, the
business isn't hard, thatbusiness isn't challenging.
It's all of those things.
Okay.
So it is imperative that yougive yourself grace.
Today I want to talk to youabout three of those areas where
you need to give yourself graceand where you need to stop being
so hard on yourself and startallowing yourself space to deal
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with things.
Okay.
So let me just go ahead and gointo the first one so I can
explain what I'm trying toexplain to you.
You need to give yourself grace,number one, as you start your
business.
Okay, let's face it.
If this is your first timestarting a business, you don't
know how to start a business.
Am I right?
Like you don't really know whatyou're doing.
You are fumbling, you are justtrying to piece this together.
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You are working when you havetime, you are trying to get
everything together, a logo, awebsite, or an Etsy store, your
product or your service, and youare struggling with starting and
you need to give yourself grace.
Because what is happening is ifyou are not saying, okay, it's
okay, I don't have to start thisso fast or so perfectly or so
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efficiently.
Like I need to give myself somegrace.
You may have a family, you maybe, as I said, a caretaker,
maybe you have elderly parentsor family members, maybe you
have a part-time or a full-timejob.
Okay, think about all thethings.
Maybe you have just gone througha divorce.
Maybe you've just gottenmarried.
Who knows what your situationis?
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But as you are starting thisbusiness, give yourself some
grace because it's not going tobe perfect.
The whole time, it's not goingto be perfect.
Here's a funny example.
So I have been wanting to sellmerch for this podcast.
I have a really cute coffee mugthat I use all the time that I
design myself.
It says I'm just getting startedand it's super cute.
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Y'all have to see it.
I'll put the link below to themerch.
But for the past three years,three since I started this
podcast, I've been saying Iwanted to get this mug up for
sale and the tablet and the penfor sale because people have
asked me how they can get theirhands on one.
Because they see me with it,especially people in my groups,
because they see me on the livecalls and I hold the mug a lot.
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And sometimes on the lives, ifyou're in the Facebook group and
I've done any trainings oranything like that, you've
probably seen me hold the mug.
Anyways, I finally decidedearlier this week, I'm gonna get
the merch shop up.
And so I signed up with Wix.
I'm using Wix as the platform,and I just created a basic
little website for the merch.
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Now, my heart goes out to all ofyou who are building a website
because I hadn't built aproduct-based website.
There's two products on it.
It's not like I've got someextensive library of products,
but I just haven't done that ina long time.
Now I've created my website thatI have that's hosted on Kajabi.
I use Kajabi and it's expensive.
And I don't recommend it foreveryone, but I do recommend it
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for people like me that arecoaches, consultants, and have
digital products and want theemail and everything all in one.
Anyways, my point is that I feelyour pain.
The struggle is real when you'retrying to get a website
together.
And I did it in a morning.
It took me a few hours because Iwas trying to decide how do I
want it set up.
And I just have the mug as alisting and the tablet and the
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pen and the mug as anotherlisting, like a little gift set.
Super cute, right?
I had to give myself grace as Imade that.
Okay, I've built many a websitesin my day using different
platforms, Squarespace, Wix, allthat.
I have been wanting to do thisfor a long time and I want the
image to be good, right?
Because this is me.
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This is my business.
I am my business, right?
But I had to give myself somegrace and say, you know what?
Just get this up, just like youtell all your just getting
started members and all yourgrowhetters, tell them, just you
get to keep it simple and justdo it.
So I got it up.
Is it perfect?
No, there's probably a spellingerror on something.
But I got it up, already gotorders, so excited.
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And it's up.
And I gave myself grace becauseI think what would happen is if
I hadn't given myself grace, thesite still wouldn't be up.
The site still wouldn't be upbecause I'd be like, should I
hire someone to make it reallyperfect?
Like, what are these things?
This is not a high-end luxurybrand where this has to be
perfect.
I think if you open a Tiffany ora really high-end restaurant or
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something that's super high-endluxury expensive, okay, things
do need to look really pristineand high-end, right?
Because that's a market you'reappealing to.
And those people expect closerto perfection, right?
I'm selling mugs and merch frommy podcast.
Okay.
This does not have to beperfect.
This does not warrant a wholebunch of money poured into it or
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anything like that.
People just want the darn merchalready.
They don't need everything to besuper fancy.
And they don't even know whatsuper fancy would be because
it's all in my head.
It's all in my head.
They have no idea.
They just look at it and go,okay, how can I buy?
Where's a button?
Let me enter my name, address,and credit card, right?
I had to give myself grace as Iwas doing that.
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And I felt really, it was funnybecause I posted this in the
Women's Starting BusinessesFacebook group.
Like, I actually feel a littlemore connected to y'all right
now because I just went throughbuilding my own website and the
struggle is real, right?
You'll probably saw my posts onthat.
But it's true.
Like, just give yourself grace.
You're so busy.
I have I've had coaching callsand stuff going on this whole
week, like, super busy.
I'm trying to get trainingstogether for my programs.
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As I said, we had live Zoomcalls, like stuff is going on,
recording the podcast, gettingthe other one out this week and
released and the email sent andall this stuff.
Like, give myself some grace.
I have a lot going on.
And y'all know I've had healthissues.
I've had this crazy autoimmunegoing on, and like I've had
crazy stuff.
And so I have to look at myselfin the mirror and go, okay, give
yourself some grace.
You're doing the best you can.
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So I want you to look in themirror today.
If you're starting yourbusiness, you're trying to get
everything together and go, youknow what?
I'm gonna give myself somegrace.
Look at yourself and say, I'mgiving you grace because you
have a lot going on and you'redealing with a lot.
Okay.
Give yourself some grace asyou're starting and building
your business.
Okay.
Number two, give yourself somegrace in terms of all the things
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that you think you need to getdone in your business.
And again, today on the Zoomcall with the rogetters, they
were talking about their list ofthings that they want to do for
their business.
They want to do there thathasn't happened yet.
It's the same with me, y'all.
I have a list of stuff.
I need to be getting moreFacebook ads out there.
I'm trying to hire someonethat's a Kajabi specialist so
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they can help me with some salespages so I can get more ads up.
Y'all, I literally have arunning list.
I wanted to have all this doneweeks ago, if not months ago, it
hasn't gotten done.
Okay.
There's all these things thatyou want to get done.
You want to start your emaillist, you want to start a new
product in your business, youwant to, you know, get on social
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more and start doing morevideos.
Like there's all these thingsthat I'm sure you literally have
a wish list of the things thatyou want to get done in your
business that you know willactually help you grow your
business.
And that's the hard part, isbecause you know that it can
actually turn into income atsome point, but you can't get it
all done.
And you have to look in themirror and say, I give you
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grace.
You have a million things goingon.
One of my grow getters wastalking about how she now needs
to homeschool one of herchildren.
Okay, she wasn't expecting that.
She has got her business fulltime.
Okay.
She has to give herself graceand say, you know what?
My child is most important, butI'm going to work hard in my
business.
And I told her now the time thatyou have in your business will
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be so focused and you'll begetting so much done because you
will be on limited time and youwill do the important things.
Okay.
And that's the same for youlistening.
There's all these things.
Y'all, I literally have a listthat would be bringing more
revenue.
And I'm working on hiring helpand working through these
things, but stuff comes up.
Personal stuff comes up in mylife and in your life, and it
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stalls things.
And that's the way it is.
We all want to think that we'regoing to get through our to-do
list.
Have you ever had a personalto-do list that you actually got
through that nothing ever knewgot added to the to-do list?
No, you did not.
You might have gotten throughthat one list, but more got
added the next week.
Am I right?
Right.
You constantly have more to-do.
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It's the same with yourbusiness.
It is a just a constant struggleto go.
I'm not even going to lie.
It's a struggle to go throughthese things and watch that list
sit there waiting because you'relike, oh, wait, I could maybe be
getting more money or more leadsor whatever if I got all this
done.
We can, but we have to look inthe mirror and say, I give you
grace.
I'm gifting you grace so thatyou don't feel like this is such
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a pressure, that this has becomea burden instead of a joy.
This business should be a joyand not a burden.
You're the only one who ismaking it a burden.
Do you realize that?
By you not giving yourselfgrace.
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You are making it become aburden.
Don't do that.
And if you've never let yourbusiness be a burden, good for
you.
Don't ever let it.
Give yourself grace and say, I'mgonna get there.
I'm gonna get to that.
I've got my running list.
I'm gonna do the most importantthings first.
And if there are things that canbring in more revenue that you
know you need to get done, youneed to prioritize those.
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I'm working on my stuff rightnow.
I was working on some adsearlier.
Y'all may see ads from me,right?
I'm working on it.
I'm tweaking them.
They're not gonna be perfect.
They are not going to beperfect.
If you see an ad from me that isnot perfect or the most
beautiful ad you've ever seen,or just the perfect text, it's
because I'm starting ads.
And I'm like you, I'm startingsomething new and I've given
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myself grace.
I've said, you know what?
You've got to just start it.
Give yourself some grace.
You've had a million thingsgoing on.
You've got to just start it sothat you have a starting point.
And then you can keep refiningand getting better, and it will
totally improve, right?
So again, let's review.
Number one, as you start yourbusiness, because you've never
probably built a business for,give yourself some grace
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already.
You're doing something reallyawesome and it's difficult and
it can be hard, but giveyourself some grace, okay?
Because your business isn't youronly thing in your life.
You got a lot of other thingsgoing on that are important too.
Number two, things that you needto do for your business, like
all your to-dos, like your majorprojects that you want to work
on.
Like, you know, my grow gettersare like, okay, I'm trying to
get my email marketing going andthey're trying to do all these
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things.
And I can just see it on theirface.
They've got a lot going on andthey have that list that almost
feels like a burden.
Don't let it be a burden.
Give yourself some grace andsay, you know what?
This is life.
My business isn't the mostimportant thing in my life.
My family is the people that Ilove.
And I'm going to work throughall my commitments and things.
And I'm going to work on mybusiness because I know my
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family needs the income and I'mgoing to prioritize what is most
important.
But I'm going to rest with thefact and be okay with the fact
that there will always besomething else I need to do.
And I'm going to be okay withthat.
I'm going to give myself grace.
Look what I'm doing.
Gift yourself grace.
Number three.
And I've kind of already alludedto this before, but you have
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other priorities in your life.
Yes, I said it.
Your business is not your firstpriority.
Look in the mirror and say, mybusiness is not my first
priority.
It is a very important part ofmy life.
I love it.
I'm so excited.
I'm proud of me.
But I have other things in mylife too.
So I think once you realize thatit doesn't have to be the most
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important thing in your life, itcan be an enhancement to your
life, an enhancement becauseyou're getting to use your
God-given gifts.
You're getting to make adifference.
You are getting to make money.
You're going to get to providefor your family, but it
shouldn't feel like a burdenbecause you've got so many other
commitments.
You have so many other thingsgoing on.
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You have important things goingon in your life right now,
whether it be your health,whether it be a money situation,
a marriage situation, if you'recaretaking, if you've got a
child that is, you know,suffering something emotional or
physical, or y'all, there's amillion things going on.
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Okay, there's, but there's moreimportant things in your life.
So give yourself grace when youdon't get stuff done in your
business to say, well, I'm gonnagive myself grace because this
isn't the most important thing.
Here's what is the mostimportant thing.
And if you know what the mostimportant things are in your
life, you will be working harddoing things for that, but also
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for your business.
Does that make sense?
I think a business too canbecome an obsession.
Do you ever feel like you'vebeen obsessively thinking about
your business and dreaming aboutthings, but then also worrying
about things and all of that?
I think that's probably kind ofnormal because you're starting
something new and you kind ofget obsessed with it and you're
thinking about all these ideasand great things that can come
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of it and what ifs.
But I want to help you giveyourself some grace to say, I'm
not superwoman.
I can't do everything amazing.
But here are the people that Ilove that I want to be amazing
to.
What's the legacy that I want toleave?
What is important to me?
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That's what's important.
Your business is superimportant.
Don't get me wrong.
But are you hearing me on this?
Like, give yourself some grace.
You have other important thingsin your life.
Stop putting this above thosethings.
Realize that you're needed inother ways too, that are even
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more important than yourbusiness.
Does that make sense?
And y'all may think I'm weird.
Like, why is she saying thiswhen all she promotes is how
awesome a business is and howimportant it is?
I agree with all of it.
I think we lose sight.
I think we put so much pressureand we want to just keep doing
and doing and doing andachieving and achieving and
achieving and making money andall these things that we're not
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giving ourselves grace to say,you know what, this is a part of
my life, but this isn't my life.
Does that make sense?
And then it's fun when you go toit.
Oh, I get to go to this part ofmy life.
Like I was talking to my sontoday.
He's off at college and, youknow, he's talking about, oh
gosh, I wish I had more time.
He loves to read and learn.
And it's crazy.
Like he didn't love to read inhigh school.
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I've told y'all this before.
He's so mad that he didn't payattention and really soak in
like the books that he read andall that.
And he's like, all I want isfree time so I can like read and
then maybe go outdoors and workout and all this stuff.
And it's hard because you got toprioritize school and things you
got to get done.
He wants to go study abroad.
So he's been having to wrap upall getting his visa and all
this stuff for that.
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It's just making me realizelike, we're we're all in this,
all of us.
It doesn't matter if you're astudent in college, if you are
you, a mom, a wife, a caretaker,a daughter, a friend, a
volunteer, you're also abusiness owner.
You're doing a lot, you have alot of important things going
on.
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Give yourself some grace.
Take the pressure off.
When you give yourself grace,you actually lift the burden off
your shoulders and say, you knowwhat?
It's okay.
Because here's the deal.
If you and I were talking, likewe were sitting down and we were
friends and we're like havingcoffee, we are friends though,
right?
Right.
Okay, so if we were havingcoffee, blah, blah, blah, and
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you were like, I just feelreally stressed out.
Like, I just like I need to dothis and I need to get my social
media up and I need to get myvideos up and I need to update
my listing on my website.
I need to get email marketinggoing.
I'd be like, oh my gosh, sister,give yourself a little grace.
You've got a lot going on.
Think about it.
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You would say the same thing tome if I said, oh my gosh, my
coaching business.
Like, I just know I could bemaking more money if I could
really get the ads up and if Icould just be on reels more, and
if I could just be promotingthis and doing this and blah,
blah, blah, and get them morepodcasts and do all this.
I have to look in the mirror,y'all, and tell myself, give
yourself grace.
You would tell me that.
You would say, give yourselfsome grace.
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You're doing a podcast everyweek, you're doing all that.
I have to tell myself this allthe time because y'all, I have
my list.
Just like I said, I have a listof things and stuff has come up
in my life outside of work thathave slowed me down.
But I don't get mad.
I'm not over here going, I'mterrible.
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This is terrible.
I'm never getting it all done.
I'm saying, okay, here's mylist.
What's most important for me tobe working on right now?
And as I have free time, I'mgonna work through these
priorities and I'm gonna do it.
But I'm giving myself gracealong the way so that I don't
feel that burden and thatheaviness and that stress so I
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can sleep well at night.
We have to know that the listwill never be done.
And it's hard, but the list willnever be done.
But then I can also be takingmeasures to get people to help
me, which I'm doing right now aswe speak.
Okay, it's taken me a littlewhile to figure out exactly what
I need help with, like exactlywhat I can hand off.
And that's been a biggerstruggle than actually hiring
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someone.
It's been more like, what arethe needs?
And I'm getting down to it now,but it's like, what are really
my needs that I can hand off?
And you can do that too as yourbusiness grows.
But some of you are brand new,you don't need to hand off
anything just yet, but youprobably will down the line.
I have to give myself grace inthis business.
I'm not doing everything rightnow that I know that I need to
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be doing to grow this businesseven more, but I have more
important things going on in mylife right now.
And so I have to take care ofthat and I have to give myself
grace.
So today, for you listening, youknow I love you.
You know that I'm so excited foryou and I want to support you
every step of the way as youstart and build this business.
But I want you to promise methat if you're starting and
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building, you give yourselfgrace.
That if you've got a laundrylist of things that you need to
be doing in your business, thatyou give yourself grace.
And if you have other importantthings going on in your life,
whether it be health, family,whatever, that you give yourself
grace.
Today, look in the mirror, lookat yourself and say, I give you
grace.
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Okay, God gives us grace everyday, all the time.
We know this.
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Now, this episode
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