🔥 Emotional Literacy Isn’t Just for Actors—It’s the Tool You’ve Been Missing
In this mind-bending, soul-stretching episode of SHIFT Talking, Davina sits down with Jim Rojas Taylor—former Marine, actor, author, and emotional literacy evangelist—who flips the script on how we teach regulation, empathy, and confidence. His message is simple but revolutionary: Why are we working so hard to build imaginary people (actors)... and doing so little to build real ones?
Jim breaks down how the same emotional and mental tools used in acting (like the Stanislavski system) are powerful, practical frameworks for real-life regulation, perspective-taking, and identity work. From creating “suits and bubbles” as a child, to transforming classrooms with acting tools, to writing his book All Your Best Selves, Jim is leading the charge in giving people the language and literacy to feel, know, and choose who they are—on and off the stage.
This isn’t woo. It’s wisdom with a workout plan—and it’s the emotional regulation RX the world (and our kids) desperately need.
⏱️ In This Episode, We Talk SHIFT About:
04:00 – “My Suits and Bubbles”: Jim’s inner world at age 4
06:00 – From Marine to musicals: the strange road to emotional mastery
12:30 – Psychodrama, trauma drama, Sense Theatre, and emotional rewiring
15:05 – The 7 Stanislavski Questions and why they’re sonar for your soul
18:00 – “Spiritual shapeshifting” and choosing the best self for the moment
25:00 – Why people fear self-awareness (and how to handle the answers)
28:00 – Emotions are muscles: you get stronger by using them daily
33:00 – Emotional congruence, gendered pain, and raising non-predatory boys
39:00 – How to reach resistant adults without pushing them away
47:30 – The “It Factor” is made, not born—how to build your own
50:00 – Parenting, pressure, and why your kid’s not emotionally behind—they’re overwhelmed
57:00 – How to start when the transformation feels too big
1:05:00 – Dopamine, discipline, and ditching the Reese’s egg (sometimes)
1:20:00 – Stage fright, fourth wall tricks, and helping kids feel safe being seen
🎭 Connect with Jim Rojas Taylor
📘 All Your Best Selves is available on Amazon now
📲 Follow Jim everywhere: @soycandie on YouTube, TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and BlueSky
🌐 soycandie.com (coming soon!)
💥 Want to Build Emotional Literacy at Home?
🧠 Join The SHIFT to rewire your nervous system, break generational cycles, and stop operating from burnout
📅 Book a 90-minute SHIFT Session to build your emotional gym routine
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