September 15, 2025 • 36 mins
Terry Tadiosian shares her journey of losing 80 pounds in her mid-40s and how she transformed her life by addressing both the physical and mental aspects of health and wellness. We dive into how strength training becomes essential for women in perimenopause and beyond, debunking myths about "bulking up" while emphasizing the importance of compound movements for bone density and longevity.
• Personal transformation story - shedding 80 pounds and rebuilding life in mid-40s
• Fear and self-sabotage as breadcrumbs that guide you to root causes of recurring patterns
• Overcoming reverse body dysmorphia - the delusion about weight gain until health issues arise
• Starting with awareness - auditing your habits, nutrition, and movement patterns
• Why women need compound movements (squats, deadlifts, hip thrusts) for long-term health
• Addressing the misconception that women will "get too muscly" from strength training
• How joint pain and "crunchy knees" often improve with regular strength training
• Cardio isn't the enemy - it's about using it intelligently alongside strength training
• The importance of personalized approaches to supplements based on blood work
• Embracing the urge to quit as part of the journey and having strategies to push through
For free resources on macro nutrition and personalized guidance, email Terry at terry@thehouseofrose.com or find her on Instagram @howgoodcanitget.
https://www.thehouseofrose.com/womens-wellness-retreats/
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Shanna Star (00:08):
Welcome back to another episode of the Shine
Podcast.
I'm your host, shana Starr.
Today I have guest TerryTadiosian here with me and I
can't wait for you to hear ourconversation.
We're going to go over a lot ofthings, mostly the later
hormone changes in life forwomen that perimenopause,
menopause and postmenopausalespecially and specifically
getting into strength trainingand what that looks like and how
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important it is for you, which,if you know me at all, you know
this is close to my heart.
I'm all about it and I'm goingto shout it from the rooftop.
So now Tara gets to do thatwith me.
Let's jump right to theconversation.
Tara, I'm so excited to haveyou here today.
Terry (00:47):
Thank you for having me, Shauna.
I'm excited to be here.
Shanna Star (00:50):
Yes, and while I was researching all the things
you do, I do have to share thatyou are a powerhouse in personal
transformation.
You shed over 80 pounds in yourmid-40s and that also didn't
host just like a physical change, but it also helped you rebuild
your entire life.
You're a certified trainer,nutritionist and hormone
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specialist, and you also builtmultiple seven figure companies.
So now what you're doing ishelping women in their later
hormone changing phases, whichis perimenopause, menopause,
postmenopausal, and now you havea wellness brand on longevity
and holistic health, and you'rethe co-founder of Thor and the
host of how Good Can it Get?
(01:31):
Podcast.
That's quite the list ofamazing things you've been doing
.
Terry (01:36):
Thank you so much, I appreciate it.
Shanna Star (01:39):
Yeah.
So, with all of that, the firstquestion I want to ask you is
so, with all of that, the firstquestion I want to ask you is
what is the final straw thatmade you make this big jump, the
first big change that youwanted to make in life, and what
was the last?
Terry (01:55):
thing that made you go.
Yes, I have to change, andchange for good.
It was so many things, I can'teven pinpoint it to one
particular thing.
It was just I got tired ofconstantly failing and starting
from scratch.
So I did that for many, manyyears, trying to figure out my
own wellbeing right, my ownmindset, my own emotional health
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, where a lot of these thingsactually stemmed from, and I was
just tired of constantlystarting from scratch.
I said to myself okay, you know, you got hospitalized twice,
you're pre-diabetic, you're 80pounds overweight.
Something's got to give.
You have to figure this out.
And yeah, it just I got tiredof myself.
Shanna Star (02:43):
Yes, yeah, and I know you talk a lot about why
fear and self-sabotage areactually a form of teaching, and
will you go into that a littlebit more?
And how did you learn from themand then also teach others to
learn from those as well?
Terry (02:59):
Fear and self-sabotage.
They are usually thebreadcrumbs that can guide you
to finding the root cause,potentially, of why there's a
particular pattern in your lifethat keeps repeating over and
over.
And I believe that it appliesto a lot of different things.
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Right, it's not just aboutweight loss or fitness or
nutrition.
It applies to relationships.
It applies to the relationshipwith ourselves, with other
people, our personalrelationships, or with our
children, our partners, ourpersonal relationships with our
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children, our partners.
It applies to just about anytype of pattern that we see,
where we start something andthen we either stop, quit,
believe that we failed, and thenrevert completely in the
opposite direction.
And so they provide clues ifwe're willing to pay attention
and to really be radicallyhonest about what it is that
we're doing.
Now, a lot of times, we haveblind spots as human beings,
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right, we can't constantly be in, you know, 100% awareness mode,
which is where, a lot of times,therapists and coaches and
friends and family may be ableto point us in a direction if
we're ready to hear it.
Shanna Star (04:32):
It immediately popped something up for me, and
it's hard to see ourselves thatway.
I was in bodybuilding, I wasalways active, I was doing power
lifting and then within just acouple of years I actually
gained 50 pounds while stilllifting, while eating healthy,
and it almost was hard to evenfathom the amount of weight I
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put on.
And I could see there wasalmost a opposite body
dysmorphia, where I was like,well, I know I'm bigger, but I
don't know if I'm that muchbigger.
And then I would see myself ina picture and be like, oh no,
this is awful.
This is not where I feel good,and not just because of physical
difference, which you know, theclothes change.
I could tell I wasn't liftingas heavy, I wasn't doing as well
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, but it also I was tired andfatigued and I mean I couldn't
sleep.
All these other things startedhappening, and so I actually
just started seeing a functionaldoctor last year as well.
That have helped me start tolose that weight as well.
And it's just like you said,it's hard to see yourself that
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way and hold that mirror up andreally see what's happening and
then to get help for it.
Yeah, so what was maybe foryour start?
I know that there is also amindset change, along with body,
but when you did first start tochange, what habits did you
first implement that you suggestwhen people are like, okay,
great, I want to change my wholelife, but that's a lot.
So what are some?
Maybe small steps and somebite-sized things.
Terry (05:59):
Yes, so you, you, you actually brought up something
for me as well that I'm going toshare.
So what's really interesting?
What you just said earlier, thereverse body dysmorphia.
So I had that.
I was in complete delusionabout the fact that I had
ballooned up to 210 poundsbecause I was not overweight
before that.
So in my childhood, adolescenceand my 20s I wasn't overweight,
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and when weight startedcreeping up, I was like, oh,
whatever, it's fine, I look fine.
And I would think that I lookedone way, because I guess it's
like a residual body image thatyou have right, growing up, it's
kind of that's how you perceiveyourself.
But then I would see a pictureand I would be like, holy smokes
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, what happened?
Right, because that wasn't whatwas being projected in my own
mind when I was looking atmyself.
And the only time I wouldactually realize how heavy I had
gotten is especially when thepicture was from the back.
There's a lot of weight I wascarrying was on my back and you
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know it was hard.
That was hard, that was hard tosee, that was very hard to see,
and the reaction usually waswell, I don't want to see it, I
don't want to look at it, Idon't.
I don't want any pictures of me.
Do not take photos, I'm.
I'm going to just stay in mybubble of delusion, right?
For as long as possible.
Until it wasn't possibleanymore, uh, until diabetes
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started showing up, untilextreme anxiety started showing
up, to the point where I thoughtit was having a heart attack,
and then I couldn't ignore itany longer.
So the delusion bubble had topop and so, yeah, so what are
some of the habits that womencan implement in order to start
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making changes?
So one of the habits is tobecome more aware of your habits
, right?
So really take an audit, audityour day, or maybe even your
entire week, and see where isthe extra coming in and at what
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point is the extra stuff comingin in terms of nutrition.
You know, where are you feelinglike you're grazing or you're
emotionally hungry, or wheremaybe you're not getting enough
protein.
And just do an honest,transparent audit.
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Yes, some people say, oh, that'sdisordered eating, to track
things and whatever.
How is that Right?
So if you were to start abusiness, you would be running a
spreadsheet for your cash incash out.
Is that disordered business?
No, right, so it could.
You know, look at yourself asthe CEO of your own body.
What's coming in, what's goingout.
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Take a good look at it I knowaccounting is painful for a lot
of people.
It's the same thing, right andthen become a little bit more
aware of your movement pattern,right?
So are you sitting down most ofthe day?
Are you intentionally movingyour body?
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Are you walking?
Are you maybe doing yoga,pilates and maybe work up the
courage to go to the gym andpick up a few weights?
I know that that is anintimidating thing for a lot of
women.
At my retreats, most of the time, that's where I get the most
resistance is when I say, allright, we're going to go lift
some weights and everybody'slike, uh no, you know, I don't,
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I'm, I can't do it, I can't doit.
You know, I have a knee injury.
I hear this all the time.
So there's a lot of ways aroundall these things.
And that's self-sabotage, rightthere, right, saying I can't do
something because I have aninjury, and all all those
thoughts that you have.
Write them down, yeah, all thereasons why you can't do
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something, why you can't, um,move your body right, in
whatever feel, in whatever wayfeels comfortable at this stage
that you're in.
All the reasons why you'reresisting, maybe getting a
trainer or coach who's aprofessional in helping people
move their body in the way thatis, um, the right, uh amount for
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the level of fitness thatthey're at.
You know all those things.
Write them all down and audityourself, because there's uh
it's very hard to catch thethoughts in the moment.
Yeah Right, they kind of getall jumbled up with all kinds of
other thoughts and then youmove on to other things.
But when you write them down,they're right there, black and
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white.
You can revisit them at anytime.
So that would be my first step.
Shanna Star (11:09):
Yes.
So as a lover of musclebuilding, and especially women
who have never lifted, which Iknow, there's less and less it's
becoming more the norm to atleast lift a little bit in
between, maybe other exercisesthey love.
But there's been people in myear being like, well, I don't
want to get too big, you know,too muscly, and I'm like I've
been trying to get too musclyfor 15 years and it still hasn't
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happened.
So you know that's the firstthing that I always tell people.
And they're going to lift.
And I really got into musclebuilding and, like I said,
bodybuilding in my twenties andI saw how important it was then,
and not just to look better,but it also helped then carry my
body through cardio, do simplemovements.
It also triggered something inmy brain that was like I'm
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working on my body, I want towork on my mind and I want to
work on my heart, and it notonly builds muscle but it helps
protect parts of our bodies likeour bones.
I think of women who are maybepost-metaposal, where they're
losing bone mass and muscle massand as I'm creeping into my
forties to my forties, my muscleor my working out might look a
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little different.
I don't spend two and a halfhours lifting anymore.
That hour does the job, butit's the first thing I tell
women as well is just do alittle lifting and, of course,
up your protein, because theyalways go a hundred grams is way
too much or you know whatever Isuggest to them.
So let's talk about ways womencan build that strength who
aren't 20 anymore.
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I know you love compoundmovements.
Will you talk about those alittle bit?
Terry (12:43):
Absolutely so.
I always tell women when theyfirst started working with me is
you're not going to get trainedany differently than a man,
right, you're going to do thesame moves as a man, because
that's what works.
You're just not going to looklike one, but you're going to
look like one, but you're goingto have like, um, it's almost
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impossible to look like a man.
Yeah, you have to be on someheavy steroids and really be
trying for sure it's not byaccident.
Okay, For anybody listening outthere you're not going to.
You're not going to go to thegym, lift a 10 pound dumbbell,
do a couple of squats, go to bed, wake up and you're going to
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look like a man.
Shanna Star (13:26):
It's not going to happen, Especially with women
who you're carrying kids who areway heavier than that.
You don't look like a man now,so you know yes, so yeah,
absolutely.
Terry (13:37):
And you know, women are afraid of compound moves.
So I see this constantly.
You know deadlift, squats, hipthrust I consider a compound and
bench press.
They're afraid of it, they'reintimidated.
One because we're made tobelieve that they are dangerous.
Right, oh, I'm going to hurtmyself.
Oh, I have back issues.
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Oh, my knees are crunchy, myshoulders crunchy, you know.
Oh, you know, I'm achy here andthere, my shoulders crunchy,
you know.
Oh, you know, I'm achy here andthere.
I cannot do these things Right.
So that's almost like aninstant barrier.
And the question is well, whynot Right?
And are your knees crunchybecause you're not doing these
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things right?
Because, yes, absolutely, andI've noticed that that's exactly
what happens.
So if I have a block here andthere where I don't have squats,
they get crunchy and it's it'skind of normal.
I think knees are just crunchyperiod, but they get less
crunchy the more you strengthtrain, the more you do squats,
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the more you do these things.
Um, so, in terms of compoundmoves, the reason why I like
them is because they're a fullbody activation type of exercise
and they build brute, rawstrength Right.
And, of course, we do needaccessory work, we do need
targeted, isolated muscles, um,uh exercises, because you know,
if you're doing it foraesthetics, I think that that's
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great, right, that's what we'relooking for.
We want to see results.
But if you're looking to, uh,increase bone density to avoid
osteoporosis, to develop rawstrength, you want to be doing
compound moves, and they arereally, I mean, that's, there's
no replacing them okay, youcannot do a gazillion leg
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extensions and expect the sameresult to you know,
aesthetically to your body aswell as strength wise, compared
to doing squats, right, and I'mnot saying skip leg extensions.
I love leg extensions, for ustoo.
But there's a rhyme and areason to having a really
intelligent program created foryou where you are doing one
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compound move here and there perweek, right.
So spread them out, or maybehave a different focus in each
block, where maybe one blockyou're focusing on your squad,
another block you're focusing onyour deadlift and so forth and
so forth, so you're notoverwhelmed and overloaded.
But I don't like to skip them.
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I think that they are uh, theybuild long, they give you
longevity, they build strength,uh, they shape your body in just
the right ways and you feelreally good.
Right, feel good.
Shanna Star (16:25):
Yes, yeah, uh.
Going back to crunchy knees,the first thing I thought of is
when I'm not in the gym doinglegs as regularly, like, let's
say, sometimes in the summer Itend to paddle more or bike more
, you know, do other activities,and when I haven't been to the
gym as much, I noticed my kneesare a little like that doesn't
feel great.
So I'm like, oh, it's because Ihaven't been doing lunges or
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squats as much and that muscleisn't built around the knee, and
so that's exactly what I say towomen as well.
It's like, of course they hurtbecause you don't have anything
protecting them.
But if we build that muscle alittle bit, it'll help protect
all those things that feelcreaky and crackly and all the
other things we don't want tohear.
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If 20 year olds are listening, Idon't mean my age, I mean, you
know, when you're 70s and 80s,do you want to be able to bend
over and pick up the groceriesyou put on the ground, or tie
your shoe, and some of thosecompound movements are exactly
what your body's doing.
So if you practice them with alittle bit heavier weight, then
you're going to be using them indaily life.
Those things, those dailythings that you want to do are
going to be doable for longer,so I love that.
How about sitting down on thepotty?
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Yeah, I said that to my momyesterday.
It was on Grace and Frankiethat show where she got stuck on
the toilet and I was like, see,I don't want you stuck on the
toilet, do some squats, you know.
Terry (17:47):
There's a reason why they call it pop a squat.
Shanna Star (17:51):
I love that a squat , and I know also you've talked
about and I mentioned earlierlike in your twenties, when it's
a different season of life.
I was in the gym for way longerand now I don't have not just
that time, but my energy looksdifferent and so I can give it a
really good go and about anhour I'm like I'm done and I
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know you have done the same wayas far as you're in there about
an hour ish.
Will you talk a little bitabout that, as far as, like, how
you feel about that time in anhour is more than enough.
Terry (18:25):
I think an hour is more than enough.
Um, you know, personally,though, I personally can spend
all day at the gym.
Yeah, personally, though, Ipersonally can spend all day at
the gym.
It's not really an energy thingfor me.
I just really enjoy beingactive and I love the weight
room and sometimes I will lingeraround, sometimes I will take
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longer rest periods, sometimes Iwill experiment with different
things.
Like I'll see a new machine andI want to figure out, like, how
do I use it?
You know, I'm very curiousabout all the different
innovations that are going on.
There's so many different glutemachines, for example, right
now, and I've just I find it tobe fun, right, and so let's like
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Disney world to me.
I don't go to Disney, but Ilove gyms that feel like Disney
to me, so I like that.
But I understand a lot of womendon't have the time it's not
their job to spend all day atthe gym.
They don't want to, right, theywant to get in and get out.
Personally, I think 50 minutesto 60 minutes of strength
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training is more than enough.
Especially if you do it threeor four times a week, I think
you're you will get really greatresults.
Now, mind being mindful of yournutrition at the same time,
right, but you will see a lot ofstrength gains Now.
If you're looking to go to beinto a fat loss state, then you
know you got to look at yournutrition as well.
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But I think that's plenty oftime.
Shanna Star (19:54):
Yes, yeah, and I think I mean I feel like this is
more well-known now but themore muscle you have, the more
fat you are and are capable ofburning.
And so women are like I want todo cardio, cardio, cardio.
And what's interesting is thislast year I found out that I was
like insulin resistant, so likeyou know that pre pre diabetes
things that you talked about itas well and she was like you
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cannot run, you need to be doing.
I can do all the otheractivities we've talked about,
and especially weight training.
But sometimes women are like Ijust want to be lean or I just
want to lose fat.
It's like if you have moremuscle, you will be burning more
fat, and I think that'simportant that women realize
like your body will workfunctionally better with a
little bit of muscle on you.
(20:36):
Um, and I love that, you saidthat you go on the gym to
experiment because, okay, maybesome back squats do hurt some
women, but there are variations.
So will you talk a little bitabout that as well?
Terry (20:48):
Yes, I love this question , but I also want to go back to
cardio.
Yep, so I personally, I don'tfeel that cardio is the enemy.
I think that only doing youknow cardio excessively, for you
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know, two hours a day every daywill eventually your body will
become adapted to that right, soit's no longer going to give
you that same effect that it did.
Let's say, for example, youwere sedentary for a really long
time and then you started doingcardio and of course, yes,
you're going to lose weight.
But if you continue that for1020 years, your body is now
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going to respond in the same way, and that's where a lot of
women find themselves in theirforties and fifties, because
that's what we learned back inthe day.
So you had to do a lot ofcardio and you had to restrict
your calories.
And then they find themselves20 years later doing that same
thing that used to work in theirtwenties they had more natural
muscle back then Happensovernight, I swear Right.
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And so they continue doing that.
But our body has completelychanged.
We're not in the same body.
Our hormones are different, ourbone density is declining, Our
muscle mass is declining andwe're still continuing to do
cardio, and so cardio has gottena bad rap?
I think for no reason Becausecardio is great.
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It's great when you use itintelligently, with variations
on exercises for compound liftsthat cause discomfort, pain, or
maybe there's a reason, afunctional reason, why somebody
cannot do it.
So I'll give you an example.
Let's say and this is a truestory I have a client who has
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had back fusion surgery, mm-hmm,and a lot of the compound moves
and squats that we do are,let's say, for example, on a
horizontal leg press, like akind of like a Pilates reformer.
You can still do a lot of thesame movements using a different
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machine.
A hack squat, for example, isgreat compared to a free barbell
, right, because the freebarbell has a lot of room for
mistakes.
You need a lot of balance, youneed to learn how to use it and
when you're a beginner, thatmight not be the right exercise,
right?
So hack squats, horizontal legpresses, vertical leg presses
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there's Pilates reformers lovethose for any type of recovery
work or PT work, to continue todevelop muscle, all kinds of
things like that.
So there's tons of variationsand alternatives, which is why a
good trainer or coach is greatto have, because then you don't
put it on yourself.
Shanna Star (23:54):
Yeah, I agree.
And back to that cardio is.
I totally agree.
Running is not for me anymore,I said by my doctor, not mad
about it, but I still implementcardio and movement almost daily
and that could be walks andwalking incline or hiking or
biking or paddling or you knowall the things that I still love
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.
It's still activities I enjoy.
So I totally agree that cardiohas gotten a bad rap when for me
it's just running is no longera great choice.
But I agree with you and I knowthat with like all the things
that you do.
I would love your take too,because I was trying, for
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probably it was almost threeyears on my own where I'm like
well, I know how my body works,I know what should be working.
I keep gaining weight, I'meating well, I know how to eat,
I've competed, you know.
You know all the things andthere's a time hormonally, where
your body changes or somethinghappened.
You know it doesn't have to bejust perimenopause, it could be
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anything else or atrauma-induced change,
autoimmune stuff.
And it finally got to the point.
For me it was like I can't doit on my own and I need to see
somebody.
And that was a huge change.
And I added in differentnutrition.
I've changed that.
I even changed where I buy mymeat.
Now I buy it from like a localranch.
And I also changed my vitamins.
And what I loved about hormonedoctors and I'm sure you do this
as well, I didn't peek intothis about you is I had a lot of
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blood work done and a lot ofwomen are like oh well, what
vitamins do I need to take?
And I'm like I don't knowbecause it's different for every
person, just like thoseexercises I found out I have
zero zinc in my body.
So as soon as I put zinc I waslike, oh, I'm alive, I'm awake
again, and so will you talkabout maybe even doing some of
those blood work things beforeyou start seeing issues.
(25:51):
So there's a baseline and whenyou talk about how you feel
about those things in general, Iwould love to hear your take.
Terry (25:56):
Yeah.
So I always wonder, when youknow people say I'm taking these
supplements to balance out myhormones, I'm like well,
hormones, I'm like well, how doyou know where the balance is?
(26:16):
Did you have blood work done,let's say, 10 years ago, five
years ago, two years ago,whatever last year?
(26:37):
No, this was just something Isaw an influencer on Instagram
recommend, and then, little bylittle, the supplement stack.
Okay, I saw a supplementcompany selling GLP one
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supplements the natural GLPpeptide, why you need this for
fast weight loss and fat burnand more energy, and I was like,
wow, like they're piggybackingon these buzzwords.
Right now, millions of peopleare buying these things.
Who knows what's in it?
Because it's not regulated andwhat in the world is happening
(27:25):
right.
So we're so desperate for thenext, latest and greatest pill
we can pop and thing we can dowithout really knowing how it's
going to affect us, becauseevery person has very different
bio-individual needs, and maybeyou don't need that supplement.
Maybe that taking thatsupplement is actually going to
make you feel worse for thestate that you're in.
(27:47):
So my recommendation is usuallyno supplements, unless your
doctor says you need one becauseyour blood work showed a
deficiency in XYZ.
Now the other thing, though, isthat I prefer that clients get
that supplementation from realfood.
So if you are deficient, let'ssay, in iron, then let's look at
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what kinds of foods can weincorporate.
What does your nutrition looklike?
What do you eat on a regularbasis, and why are we deficient?
Right?
If you're deficient in vitaminD and you live in a in Alaska,
then I understand why youwouldn't need supplements, right
?
Shanna Star (28:26):
Right, so it's yeah , I totally agree with that.
It just it's so interestinghearing like anytime, and
especially that GLP one.
I see it on even TikTok all thetime now.
They're like oh yeah, thispatch, and I'm like I understand
that they're in themoney-making business, but those
GLP is for specific people withspecific needs and work for
(28:49):
those, but not everybody needsto be on them.
But just because it's a hottopic, they're like great, it'll
work, great for me, and that'snot always the case, for sure.
So ooh.
Terry (29:01):
Mind blowing, like there's companies and brands
that are jumping on this trendright, but it's not an actually
real, a real GLP.
They're just calling it a GLPand it's a bunch of different
supplements and herbs andthey're making claims that may
or may not be true.
Who knows?
It's not regulated.
We have no idea.
Literally.
Shanna Star (29:20):
Yeah, what's in that Awful?
I would love to know.
Is there anything that's maybebeen on your heart lately, or
maybe something that keepscoming up for you time and time
again that you would love toshare with everyone listening?
Maybe that we haven't talkedabout yet today?
Terry (29:32):
Yeah, oh, what a great question.
So a lot of times people wantto start a health journey.
They feel called to do so andthen two months into it they
decide to quit, and what I havefound through my own trials and
(29:59):
errors is that that's just partof the journey.
That's just part of the process, because it is difficult, it
will bring up a lot of thingsthat are just kind of stagnating
in your body that you need toclear out, and it takes time to
(30:22):
do it.
And so when you keep startingand stopping, starting and
stopping, it's just delaying theprocess.
So expect the urge to want toquit and be ready when that
happens, when that feeling comes, and soothe yourself through it
, right, soothe and calm yournervous system through it.
(30:44):
Maybe go take a yoga class,maybe go take a Pilates class,
maybe try meditation, breathwork, you know.
Maybe talk to a friend, talk toa therapist, you know, maybe
talk to a friend, talk to atherapist.
But whatever it is that you do,do it with love and
understanding that we all gothrough.
(31:05):
That it's not, it's not unusual, it's very normal because it is
very difficult.
And so just give yourself graceto give yourself a little bit
of time, take a breath and goright back into it, because
that's what's going to make yousuccessful.
Shanna Star (31:21):
Yes, yeah, I love that too, and especially it
brings up where you're not goingto be doing habits out of
motivation, because you hardlyever feel motivated to do any of
the great habits for yourself.
But it's really about justdedication and doing it.
And there was something I hearda while ago I don't remember
what bodybuilder said this, butit was years ago where he said
(31:42):
okay, just go to the gym and sit, tell yourself you're going to
go, sit on the bench, you don'teven have to work out that day.
And he said odds are, once youget there you're going to start.
But it's just the going and thegetting.
(32:03):
And I do that to myself.
When I'm going to work out athome, in my home gym, rather
than go to the gym, depending ontraffic, I tell myself that I
said just do this one compoundmovement to start.
If you want to be done, you can.
And 99% of the time I continuegoing.
Um, and it's just, it's makingyourself do that first step, it
feels good.
Yeah, and I still want thosecurves as I'm losing the weight,
so I don't want to lose booty.
You know we got to keep workingon the glutes, ah the booty yes
(32:24):
.
Oh, I love that.
I also want to know how caneveryone find you and follow you
, and I know you have a placethat we can get a free guide as
well.
Terry (32:36):
Will you talk about that?
Yes, absolutely so.
You can find me on my website,the house of rosecom.
So T H E house O F rose R O SEcom.
You can also find me onInstagram.
My username is how good can itget?
Because it can always keepgetting better.
(32:56):
No matter what age, no matterhow much weight we gain, it can
get better, and I do have a freemacro guide where you can
figure out your own macros.
You can get that by emailing meat terry T-E-R-R-Y at the house
of rosecom.
Shanna Star (33:17):
Perfect.
I'm putting that all down inthe notes so that in case
they're busy working out rightnow, they can click on that in a
little bit and contact you aswell.
So I appreciate you so much,terry, and all of your knowledge
, and congratulations on all thethings you've done and the
weight loss and also thetransformation of the mind,
because that's really thebiggest part I feel in weight
(33:38):
loss as well.
Terry (33:39):
So thank you for your time today.
Thank you, Shanna.
I'm rooting for you.
Shanna Star (33:43):
Thank you, I'm down 30.
I've only got 15 to go, sowe're good.
Yeah, Look great, Thank you,Thank you.
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Welcome back to another episode of the Shine
Podcast.
I'm your host, shana Starr.
Today I have guest TerryTadiosian here with me and I
can't wait for you to hear ourconversation.
We're going to go over a lot ofthings, mostly the later
hormone changes in life forwomen that perimenopause,
menopause and postmenopausalespecially and specifically
getting into strength trainingand what that looks like and how
(00:31):
important it is for you, which,if you know me at all, you know
this is close to my heart.
I'm all about it and I'm goingto shout it from the rooftop.
So now Tara gets to do thatwith me.
Let's jump right to theconversation.
Tara, I'm so excited to haveyou here today.
Terry (00:47):
Thank you for having me, Shauna.
I'm excited to be here.
Shanna Star (00:50):
Yes, and while I was researching all the things
you do, I do have to share thatyou are a powerhouse in personal
transformation.
You shed over 80 pounds in yourmid-40s and that also didn't
host just like a physical change, but it also helped you rebuild
your entire life.
You're a certified trainer,nutritionist and hormone
(01:10):
specialist, and you also builtmultiple seven figure companies.
So now what you're doing ishelping women in their later
hormone changing phases, whichis perimenopause, menopause,
postmenopausal, and now you havea wellness brand on longevity
and holistic health, and you'rethe co-founder of Thor and the
host of how Good Can it Get?
(01:31):
Podcast.
That's quite the list ofamazing things you've been doing
.
Terry (01:36):
Thank you so much, I appreciate it.
Shanna Star (01:39):
Yeah.
So, with all of that, the firstquestion I want to ask you is
so, with all of that, the firstquestion I want to ask you is
what is the final straw thatmade you make this big jump, the
first big change that youwanted to make in life, and what
was the last?
Terry (01:55):
thing that made you go.
Yes, I have to change, andchange for good.
It was so many things, I can'teven pinpoint it to one
particular thing.
It was just I got tired ofconstantly failing and starting
from scratch.
So I did that for many, manyyears, trying to figure out my
own wellbeing right, my ownmindset, my own emotional health
(02:19):
, where a lot of these thingsactually stemmed from, and I was
just tired of constantlystarting from scratch.
I said to myself okay, you know, you got hospitalized twice,
you're pre-diabetic, you're 80pounds overweight.
Something's got to give.
You have to figure this out.
And yeah, it just I got tiredof myself.
Shanna Star (02:43):
Yes, yeah, and I know you talk a lot about why
fear and self-sabotage areactually a form of teaching, and
will you go into that a littlebit more?
And how did you learn from themand then also teach others to
learn from those as well?
Terry (02:59):
Fear and self-sabotage.
They are usually thebreadcrumbs that can guide you
to finding the root cause,potentially, of why there's a
particular pattern in your lifethat keeps repeating over and
over.
And I believe that it appliesto a lot of different things.
(03:25):
Right, it's not just aboutweight loss or fitness or
nutrition.
It applies to relationships.
It applies to the relationshipwith ourselves, with other
people, our personalrelationships, or with our
children, our partners, ourpersonal relationships with our
(03:49):
children, our partners.
It applies to just about anytype of pattern that we see,
where we start something andthen we either stop, quit,
believe that we failed, and thenrevert completely in the
opposite direction.
And so they provide clues ifwe're willing to pay attention
and to really be radicallyhonest about what it is that
we're doing.
Now, a lot of times, we haveblind spots as human beings,
(04:12):
right, we can't constantly be in, you know, 100% awareness mode,
which is where, a lot of times,therapists and coaches and
friends and family may be ableto point us in a direction if
we're ready to hear it.
Shanna Star (04:32):
It immediately popped something up for me, and
it's hard to see ourselves thatway.
I was in bodybuilding, I wasalways active, I was doing power
lifting and then within just acouple of years I actually
gained 50 pounds while stilllifting, while eating healthy,
and it almost was hard to evenfathom the amount of weight I
(04:53):
put on.
And I could see there wasalmost a opposite body
dysmorphia, where I was like,well, I know I'm bigger, but I
don't know if I'm that muchbigger.
And then I would see myself ina picture and be like, oh no,
this is awful.
This is not where I feel good,and not just because of physical
difference, which you know, theclothes change.
I could tell I wasn't liftingas heavy, I wasn't doing as well
(05:15):
, but it also I was tired andfatigued and I mean I couldn't
sleep.
All these other things startedhappening, and so I actually
just started seeing a functionaldoctor last year as well.
That have helped me start tolose that weight as well.
And it's just like you said,it's hard to see yourself that
(05:37):
way and hold that mirror up andreally see what's happening and
then to get help for it.
Yeah, so what was maybe foryour start?
I know that there is also amindset change, along with body,
but when you did first start tochange, what habits did you
first implement that you suggestwhen people are like, okay,
great, I want to change my wholelife, but that's a lot.
So what are some?
Maybe small steps and somebite-sized things.
Terry (05:59):
Yes, so you, you, you actually brought up something
for me as well that I'm going toshare.
So what's really interesting?
What you just said earlier, thereverse body dysmorphia.
So I had that.
I was in complete delusionabout the fact that I had
ballooned up to 210 poundsbecause I was not overweight
before that.
So in my childhood, adolescenceand my 20s I wasn't overweight,
(06:25):
and when weight startedcreeping up, I was like, oh,
whatever, it's fine, I look fine.
And I would think that I lookedone way, because I guess it's
like a residual body image thatyou have right, growing up, it's
kind of that's how you perceiveyourself.
But then I would see a pictureand I would be like, holy smokes
(06:47):
, what happened?
Right, because that wasn't whatwas being projected in my own
mind when I was looking atmyself.
And the only time I wouldactually realize how heavy I had
gotten is especially when thepicture was from the back.
There's a lot of weight I wascarrying was on my back and you
(07:09):
know it was hard.
That was hard, that was hard tosee, that was very hard to see,
and the reaction usually waswell, I don't want to see it, I
don't want to look at it, Idon't.
I don't want any pictures of me.
Do not take photos, I'm.
I'm going to just stay in mybubble of delusion, right?
For as long as possible.
Until it wasn't possibleanymore, uh, until diabetes
(07:33):
started showing up, untilextreme anxiety started showing
up, to the point where I thoughtit was having a heart attack,
and then I couldn't ignore itany longer.
So the delusion bubble had topop and so, yeah, so what are
some of the habits that womencan implement in order to start
(07:55):
making changes?
So one of the habits is tobecome more aware of your habits
, right?
So really take an audit, audityour day, or maybe even your
entire week, and see where isthe extra coming in and at what
(08:19):
point is the extra stuff comingin in terms of nutrition.
You know, where are you feelinglike you're grazing or you're
emotionally hungry, or wheremaybe you're not getting enough
protein.
And just do an honest,transparent audit.
(08:41):
Yes, some people say, oh, that'sdisordered eating, to track
things and whatever.
How is that Right?
So if you were to start abusiness, you would be running a
spreadsheet for your cash incash out.
Is that disordered business?
No, right, so it could.
You know, look at yourself asthe CEO of your own body.
What's coming in, what's goingout.
(09:03):
Take a good look at it I knowaccounting is painful for a lot
of people.
It's the same thing, right andthen become a little bit more
aware of your movement pattern,right?
So are you sitting down most ofthe day?
Are you intentionally movingyour body?
(09:26):
Are you walking?
Are you maybe doing yoga,pilates and maybe work up the
courage to go to the gym andpick up a few weights?
I know that that is anintimidating thing for a lot of
women.
At my retreats, most of the time, that's where I get the most
resistance is when I say, allright, we're going to go lift
some weights and everybody'slike, uh no, you know, I don't,
(09:51):
I'm, I can't do it, I can't doit.
You know, I have a knee injury.
I hear this all the time.
So there's a lot of ways aroundall these things.
And that's self-sabotage, rightthere, right, saying I can't do
something because I have aninjury, and all all those
thoughts that you have.
Write them down, yeah, all thereasons why you can't do
(10:15):
something, why you can't, um,move your body right, in
whatever feel, in whatever wayfeels comfortable at this stage
that you're in.
All the reasons why you'reresisting, maybe getting a
trainer or coach who's aprofessional in helping people
move their body in the way thatis, um, the right, uh amount for
(10:41):
the level of fitness thatthey're at.
You know all those things.
Write them all down and audityourself, because there's uh
it's very hard to catch thethoughts in the moment.
Yeah Right, they kind of getall jumbled up with all kinds of
other thoughts and then youmove on to other things.
But when you write them down,they're right there, black and
(11:02):
white.
You can revisit them at anytime.
So that would be my first step.
Shanna Star (11:09):
Yes.
So as a lover of musclebuilding, and especially women
who have never lifted, which Iknow, there's less and less it's
becoming more the norm to atleast lift a little bit in
between, maybe other exercisesthey love.
But there's been people in myear being like, well, I don't
want to get too big, you know,too muscly, and I'm like I've
been trying to get too musclyfor 15 years and it still hasn't
(11:31):
happened.
So you know that's the firstthing that I always tell people.
And they're going to lift.
And I really got into musclebuilding and, like I said,
bodybuilding in my twenties andI saw how important it was then,
and not just to look better,but it also helped then carry my
body through cardio, do simplemovements.
It also triggered something inmy brain that was like I'm
(11:52):
working on my body, I want towork on my mind and I want to
work on my heart, and it notonly builds muscle but it helps
protect parts of our bodies likeour bones.
I think of women who are maybepost-metaposal, where they're
losing bone mass and muscle massand as I'm creeping into my
forties to my forties, my muscleor my working out might look a
(12:18):
little different.
I don't spend two and a halfhours lifting anymore.
That hour does the job, butit's the first thing I tell
women as well is just do alittle lifting and, of course,
up your protein, because theyalways go a hundred grams is way
too much or you know whatever Isuggest to them.
So let's talk about ways womencan build that strength who
aren't 20 anymore.
(12:39):
I know you love compoundmovements.
Will you talk about those alittle bit?
Terry (12:43):
Absolutely so.
I always tell women when theyfirst started working with me is
you're not going to get trainedany differently than a man,
right, you're going to do thesame moves as a man, because
that's what works.
You're just not going to looklike one, but you're going to
look like one, but you're goingto have like, um, it's almost
(13:05):
impossible to look like a man.
Yeah, you have to be on someheavy steroids and really be
trying for sure it's not byaccident.
Okay, For anybody listening outthere you're not going to.
You're not going to go to thegym, lift a 10 pound dumbbell,
do a couple of squats, go to bed, wake up and you're going to
(13:25):
look like a man.
Shanna Star (13:26):
It's not going to happen, Especially with women
who you're carrying kids who areway heavier than that.
You don't look like a man now,so you know yes, so yeah,
absolutely.
Terry (13:37):
And you know, women are afraid of compound moves.
So I see this constantly.
You know deadlift, squats, hipthrust I consider a compound and
bench press.
They're afraid of it, they'reintimidated.
One because we're made tobelieve that they are dangerous.
Right, oh, I'm going to hurtmyself.
Oh, I have back issues.
(13:58):
Oh, my knees are crunchy, myshoulders crunchy, you know.
Oh, you know, I'm achy here andthere, my shoulders crunchy,
you know.
Oh, you know, I'm achy here andthere.
I cannot do these things Right.
So that's almost like aninstant barrier.
And the question is well, whynot Right?
And are your knees crunchybecause you're not doing these
(14:18):
things right?
Because, yes, absolutely, andI've noticed that that's exactly
what happens.
So if I have a block here andthere where I don't have squats,
they get crunchy and it's it'skind of normal.
I think knees are just crunchyperiod, but they get less
crunchy the more you strengthtrain, the more you do squats,
(14:42):
the more you do these things.
Um, so, in terms of compoundmoves, the reason why I like
them is because they're a fullbody activation type of exercise
and they build brute, rawstrength Right.
And, of course, we do needaccessory work, we do need
targeted, isolated muscles, um,uh exercises, because you know,
if you're doing it foraesthetics, I think that that's
(15:05):
great, right, that's what we'relooking for.
We want to see results.
But if you're looking to, uh,increase bone density to avoid
osteoporosis, to develop rawstrength, you want to be doing
compound moves, and they arereally, I mean, that's, there's
no replacing them okay, youcannot do a gazillion leg
(15:28):
extensions and expect the sameresult to you know,
aesthetically to your body aswell as strength wise, compared
to doing squats, right, and I'mnot saying skip leg extensions.
I love leg extensions, for ustoo.
But there's a rhyme and areason to having a really
intelligent program created foryou where you are doing one
(15:52):
compound move here and there perweek, right.
So spread them out, or maybehave a different focus in each
block, where maybe one blockyou're focusing on your squad,
another block you're focusing onyour deadlift and so forth and
so forth, so you're notoverwhelmed and overloaded.
But I don't like to skip them.
(16:13):
I think that they are uh, theybuild long, they give you
longevity, they build strength,uh, they shape your body in just
the right ways and you feelreally good.
Right, feel good.
Shanna Star (16:25):
Yes, yeah, uh.
Going back to crunchy knees,the first thing I thought of is
when I'm not in the gym doinglegs as regularly, like, let's
say, sometimes in the summer Itend to paddle more or bike more
, you know, do other activities,and when I haven't been to the
gym as much, I noticed my kneesare a little like that doesn't
feel great.
So I'm like, oh, it's because Ihaven't been doing lunges or
(16:46):
squats as much and that muscleisn't built around the knee, and
so that's exactly what I say towomen as well.
It's like, of course they hurtbecause you don't have anything
protecting them.
But if we build that muscle alittle bit, it'll help protect
all those things that feelcreaky and crackly and all the
other things we don't want tohear.
(17:14):
If 20 year olds are listening, Idon't mean my age, I mean, you
know, when you're 70s and 80s,do you want to be able to bend
over and pick up the groceriesyou put on the ground, or tie
your shoe, and some of thosecompound movements are exactly
what your body's doing.
So if you practice them with alittle bit heavier weight, then
you're going to be using them indaily life.
Those things, those dailythings that you want to do are
going to be doable for longer,so I love that.
How about sitting down on thepotty?
(17:35):
Yeah, I said that to my momyesterday.
It was on Grace and Frankiethat show where she got stuck on
the toilet and I was like, see,I don't want you stuck on the
toilet, do some squats, you know.
Terry (17:47):
There's a reason why they call it pop a squat.
Shanna Star (17:51):
I love that a squat , and I know also you've talked
about and I mentioned earlierlike in your twenties, when it's
a different season of life.
I was in the gym for way longerand now I don't have not just
that time, but my energy looksdifferent and so I can give it a
really good go and about anhour I'm like I'm done and I
(18:14):
know you have done the same wayas far as you're in there about
an hour ish.
Will you talk a little bitabout that, as far as, like, how
you feel about that time in anhour is more than enough.
Terry (18:25):
I think an hour is more than enough.
Um, you know, personally,though, I personally can spend
all day at the gym.
Yeah, personally, though, Ipersonally can spend all day at
the gym.
It's not really an energy thingfor me.
I just really enjoy beingactive and I love the weight
room and sometimes I will lingeraround, sometimes I will take
(18:48):
longer rest periods, sometimes Iwill experiment with different
things.
Like I'll see a new machine andI want to figure out, like, how
do I use it?
You know, I'm very curiousabout all the different
innovations that are going on.
There's so many different glutemachines, for example, right
now, and I've just I find it tobe fun, right, and so let's like
(19:10):
Disney world to me.
I don't go to Disney, but Ilove gyms that feel like Disney
to me, so I like that.
But I understand a lot of womendon't have the time it's not
their job to spend all day atthe gym.
They don't want to, right, theywant to get in and get out.
Personally, I think 50 minutesto 60 minutes of strength
(19:30):
training is more than enough.
Especially if you do it threeor four times a week, I think
you're you will get really greatresults.
Now, mind being mindful of yournutrition at the same time,
right, but you will see a lot ofstrength gains Now.
If you're looking to go to beinto a fat loss state, then you
know you got to look at yournutrition as well.
(19:51):
But I think that's plenty oftime.
Shanna Star (19:54):
Yes, yeah, and I think I mean I feel like this is
more well-known now but themore muscle you have, the more
fat you are and are capable ofburning.
And so women are like I want todo cardio, cardio, cardio.
And what's interesting is thislast year I found out that I was
like insulin resistant, so likeyou know that pre pre diabetes
things that you talked about itas well and she was like you
(20:16):
cannot run, you need to be doing.
I can do all the otheractivities we've talked about,
and especially weight training.
But sometimes women are like Ijust want to be lean or I just
want to lose fat.
It's like if you have moremuscle, you will be burning more
fat, and I think that'simportant that women realize
like your body will workfunctionally better with a
little bit of muscle on you.
(20:36):
Um, and I love that, you saidthat you go on the gym to
experiment because, okay, maybesome back squats do hurt some
women, but there are variations.
So will you talk a little bitabout that as well?
Terry (20:48):
Yes, I love this question , but I also want to go back to
cardio.
Yep, so I personally, I don'tfeel that cardio is the enemy.
I think that only doing youknow cardio excessively, for you
(21:09):
know, two hours a day every daywill eventually your body will
become adapted to that right, soit's no longer going to give
you that same effect that it did.
Let's say, for example, youwere sedentary for a really long
time and then you started doingcardio and of course, yes,
you're going to lose weight.
But if you continue that for1020 years, your body is now
(21:32):
going to respond in the same way, and that's where a lot of
women find themselves in theirforties and fifties, because
that's what we learned back inthe day.
So you had to do a lot ofcardio and you had to restrict
your calories.
And then they find themselves20 years later doing that same
thing that used to work in theirtwenties they had more natural
muscle back then Happensovernight, I swear Right.
(21:54):
And so they continue doing that.
But our body has completelychanged.
We're not in the same body.
Our hormones are different, ourbone density is declining, Our
muscle mass is declining andwe're still continuing to do
cardio, and so cardio has gottena bad rap?
I think for no reason Becausecardio is great.
(22:17):
It's great when you use itintelligently, with variations
on exercises for compound liftsthat cause discomfort, pain, or
maybe there's a reason, afunctional reason, why somebody
cannot do it.
So I'll give you an example.
Let's say and this is a truestory I have a client who has
(22:41):
had back fusion surgery, mm-hmm,and a lot of the compound moves
and squats that we do are,let's say, for example, on a
horizontal leg press, like akind of like a Pilates reformer.
You can still do a lot of thesame movements using a different
(23:07):
machine.
A hack squat, for example, isgreat compared to a free barbell
, right, because the freebarbell has a lot of room for
mistakes.
You need a lot of balance, youneed to learn how to use it and
when you're a beginner, thatmight not be the right exercise,
right?
So hack squats, horizontal legpresses, vertical leg presses
(23:32):
there's Pilates reformers lovethose for any type of recovery
work or PT work, to continue todevelop muscle, all kinds of
things like that.
So there's tons of variationsand alternatives, which is why a
good trainer or coach is greatto have, because then you don't
put it on yourself.
Shanna Star (23:54):
Yeah, I agree.
And back to that cardio is.
I totally agree.
Running is not for me anymore,I said by my doctor, not mad
about it, but I still implementcardio and movement almost daily
and that could be walks andwalking incline or hiking or
biking or paddling or you knowall the things that I still love
(24:15):
.
It's still activities I enjoy.
So I totally agree that cardiohas gotten a bad rap when for me
it's just running is no longera great choice.
But I agree with you and I knowthat with like all the things
that you do.
I would love your take too,because I was trying, for
(24:36):
probably it was almost threeyears on my own where I'm like
well, I know how my body works,I know what should be working.
I keep gaining weight, I'meating well, I know how to eat,
I've competed, you know.
You know all the things andthere's a time hormonally, where
your body changes or somethinghappened.
You know it doesn't have to bejust perimenopause, it could be
(25:06):
anything else or atrauma-induced change,
autoimmune stuff.
And it finally got to the point.
For me it was like I can't doit on my own and I need to see
somebody.
And that was a huge change.
And I added in differentnutrition.
I've changed that.
I even changed where I buy mymeat.
Now I buy it from like a localranch.
And I also changed my vitamins.
And what I loved about hormonedoctors and I'm sure you do this
as well, I didn't peek intothis about you is I had a lot of
(25:28):
blood work done and a lot ofwomen are like oh well, what
vitamins do I need to take?
And I'm like I don't knowbecause it's different for every
person, just like thoseexercises I found out I have
zero zinc in my body.
So as soon as I put zinc I waslike, oh, I'm alive, I'm awake
again, and so will you talkabout maybe even doing some of
those blood work things beforeyou start seeing issues.
(25:51):
So there's a baseline and whenyou talk about how you feel
about those things in general, Iwould love to hear your take.
Terry (25:56):
Yeah.
So I always wonder, when youknow people say I'm taking these
supplements to balance out myhormones, I'm like well,
hormones, I'm like well, how doyou know where the balance is?
(26:16):
Did you have blood work done,let's say, 10 years ago, five
years ago, two years ago,whatever last year?
(26:37):
No, this was just something Isaw an influencer on Instagram
recommend, and then, little bylittle, the supplement stack.
Okay, I saw a supplementcompany selling GLP one
(27:00):
supplements the natural GLPpeptide, why you need this for
fast weight loss and fat burnand more energy, and I was like,
wow, like they're piggybackingon these buzzwords.
Right now, millions of peopleare buying these things.
Who knows what's in it?
Because it's not regulated andwhat in the world is happening
(27:25):
right.
So we're so desperate for thenext, latest and greatest pill
we can pop and thing we can dowithout really knowing how it's
going to affect us, becauseevery person has very different
bio-individual needs, and maybeyou don't need that supplement.
Maybe that taking thatsupplement is actually going to
make you feel worse for thestate that you're in.
(27:47):
So my recommendation is usuallyno supplements, unless your
doctor says you need one becauseyour blood work showed a
deficiency in XYZ.
Now the other thing, though, isthat I prefer that clients get
that supplementation from realfood.
So if you are deficient, let'ssay, in iron, then let's look at
(28:11):
what kinds of foods can weincorporate.
What does your nutrition looklike?
What do you eat on a regularbasis, and why are we deficient?
Right?
If you're deficient in vitaminD and you live in a in Alaska,
then I understand why youwouldn't need supplements, right
?
Shanna Star (28:26):
Right, so it's yeah , I totally agree with that.
It just it's so interestinghearing like anytime, and
especially that GLP one.
I see it on even TikTok all thetime now.
They're like oh yeah, thispatch, and I'm like I understand
that they're in themoney-making business, but those
GLP is for specific people withspecific needs and work for
(28:49):
those, but not everybody needsto be on them.
But just because it's a hottopic, they're like great, it'll
work, great for me, and that'snot always the case, for sure.
So ooh.
Terry (29:01):
Mind blowing, like there's companies and brands
that are jumping on this trendright, but it's not an actually
real, a real GLP.
They're just calling it a GLPand it's a bunch of different
supplements and herbs andthey're making claims that may
or may not be true.
Who knows?
It's not regulated.
We have no idea.
Literally.
Shanna Star (29:20):
Yeah, what's in that Awful?
I would love to know.
Is there anything that's maybebeen on your heart lately, or
maybe something that keepscoming up for you time and time
again that you would love toshare with everyone listening?
Maybe that we haven't talkedabout yet today?
Terry (29:32):
Yeah, oh, what a great question.
So a lot of times people wantto start a health journey.
They feel called to do so andthen two months into it they
decide to quit, and what I havefound through my own trials and
(29:59):
errors is that that's just partof the journey.
That's just part of the process, because it is difficult, it
will bring up a lot of thingsthat are just kind of stagnating
in your body that you need toclear out, and it takes time to
(30:22):
do it.
And so when you keep startingand stopping, starting and
stopping, it's just delaying theprocess.
So expect the urge to want toquit and be ready when that
happens, when that feeling comes, and soothe yourself through it
, right, soothe and calm yournervous system through it.
(30:44):
Maybe go take a yoga class,maybe go take a Pilates class,
maybe try meditation, breathwork, you know.
Maybe talk to a friend, talk toa therapist, you know, maybe
talk to a friend, talk to atherapist.
But whatever it is that you do,do it with love and
understanding that we all gothrough.
(31:05):
That it's not, it's not unusual, it's very normal because it is
very difficult.
And so just give yourself graceto give yourself a little bit
of time, take a breath and goright back into it, because
that's what's going to make yousuccessful.
Shanna Star (31:21):
Yes, yeah, I love that too, and especially it
brings up where you're not goingto be doing habits out of
motivation, because you hardlyever feel motivated to do any of
the great habits for yourself.
But it's really about justdedication and doing it.
And there was something I hearda while ago I don't remember
what bodybuilder said this, butit was years ago where he said
(31:42):
okay, just go to the gym and sit, tell yourself you're going to
go, sit on the bench, you don'teven have to work out that day.
And he said odds are, once youget there you're going to start.
But it's just the going and thegetting.
(32:03):
And I do that to myself.
When I'm going to work out athome, in my home gym, rather
than go to the gym, depending ontraffic, I tell myself that I
said just do this one compoundmovement to start.
If you want to be done, you can.
And 99% of the time I continuegoing.
Um, and it's just, it's makingyourself do that first step, it
feels good.
Yeah, and I still want thosecurves as I'm losing the weight,
so I don't want to lose booty.
You know we got to keep workingon the glutes, ah the booty yes
(32:24):
.
Oh, I love that.
I also want to know how caneveryone find you and follow you
, and I know you have a placethat we can get a free guide as
well.
Terry (32:36):
Will you talk about that?
Yes, absolutely so.
You can find me on my website,the house of rosecom.
So T H E house O F rose R O SEcom.
You can also find me onInstagram.
My username is how good can itget?
Because it can always keepgetting better.
(32:56):
No matter what age, no matterhow much weight we gain, it can
get better, and I do have a freemacro guide where you can
figure out your own macros.
You can get that by emailing meat terry T-E-R-R-Y at the house
of rosecom.
Shanna Star (33:17):
Perfect.
I'm putting that all down inthe notes so that in case
they're busy working out rightnow, they can click on that in a
little bit and contact you aswell.
So I appreciate you so much,terry, and all of your knowledge
, and congratulations on all thethings you've done and the
weight loss and also thetransformation of the mind,
because that's really thebiggest part I feel in weight
(33:38):
loss as well.
Terry (33:39):
So thank you for your time today.
Thank you, Shanna.
I'm rooting for you.
Shanna Star (33:43):
Thank you, I'm down 30.
I've only got 15 to go, sowe're good.
Yeah, Look great, Thank you,Thank you.
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