November 12, 2025 • 26 mins
The extra 25 pounds you call “no big deal” might be costing you far more than you realize. We get brutally honest about how weight can quietly shrink your world—tugging at your confidence, narrowing your relationships, draining your energy, and numbing your joy—long before it shows up on a medical bill. No scare tactics, no gimmicks, just a clear path out: one small, smart choice at a time that rebuilds integrity and self-trust.
We share the mindset shift that changed everything: confidence doesn’t come from a number on a scale; it comes from keeping promises to yourself. That pivot—from diets and punishment to integrity and presence—reframes food, movement, and daily routines as aligned choices instead of battles. You’ll hear real talk on avoidance, how “fine” becomes a cage, and why saying yes to the photo, the dinner, or the pool is not vanity; it’s practice for living fully again.
If you’ve been shielding yourself with humor, busyness, or “I’ll start Monday,” this conversation offers a way through: hydrate before coffee, walk for ten minutes, choose real food once today, and watch your energy compound. As you show up for yourself, relationships warm, focus returns, and joy stops being a future prize and becomes the fuel that makes momentum stick. No pills, no perfection—just daily decisions that align with who you say you are.
Ready to reclaim your time, energy, and confidence without another rigid plan? Listen now, then subscribe, share with a friend who needs the push, and leave a quick review so more people can choose better and live lighter.
Stop Dieting. Start Choosing.
I’m Jonathan Ressler, Transformation Guide and author of Shut Up and Choose. I lost 140 pounds and built a movement the diet industry hopes you never find. No starvation. No obsession. No gym marathons. Real transformation starts when you stop outsourcing discipline and start leading yourself.
The truth is simple: weight loss isn’t about willpower—it’s about integrity. Every time you keep a promise to yourself, you rebuild confidence. Every smart choice strengthens self-trust. That’s the foundation of lasting change. My mission is to help busy, high-performing people take back control of their health, energy, and mindset—without diets, shots, or shame.
Each episode of the Shut Up and Choose Podcast cuts through the noise with real talk, proven strategies, and small, smart steps that actually last. No gimmicks. No hype. Just truth that works in real life.
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Announcer (00:02):
If you're a whiny snowflake that can't handle the
truth, is offended by the wordfuck and about 37 uses of it in
different forms, gets ass hurtwhen you hear someone speak the
absolute real and raw truth, youshould leave.
Like right now.
This is Shulp and Shoes.
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The podcast where we cutthrough the shit and get real
about weight loss, life, andeverything in between, we get
into the nitty-gritty of makingsmall, smart choices that add up
to big results.
From what's on your plate andhow you approach life's
challenges, we'll explore howthe simple act of choosing
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differently can transform yourhealth, your mindset, and your
entire freaking life.
So, if you're ready to cutthrough the bullshit and start
making some real changes, thenbuckle up and shut it up.
Because we're about to chooseour way to a healthier, happier
life.
This is Shuluffin Choose.
(01:04):
Let's do this.
Now your host, JonathanRussler.
Jonathan Ressler (01:13):
Hey, welcome back to Shun Up and Choose the
podcast.
Influencing Instagram, allthose idiots are throwing you
away, telling you how to loseweight, telling you all these
different things when theyhaven't lost an ounce on their
own.
So, you've probably heard metalk about how big pharma and
the diet industry profit fromkeeping you stuck.
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But today I want to talk aboutsomething I want to get real and
something even more personal.
Because if you're justlistening, sitting a thing, it's
just 25 pounds, it's not a bigdeal.
This episode is definitely foryou.
Like I said, you might thinkthat being 25 pounds overweight
isn't a big deal.
You can still work, you stillsocialize, you still function.
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You tell yourself, it's just afew extra pounds.
But here's the truth those 25pounds are costing you more than
you realize.
And I'm not talking aboutmedical bills or doctor visits
or even your cholesterolnumbers.
I'm talking about what itquietly is stealing from your
life.
Because the real cost of beingoverweight doesn't show up on a
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scale.
It shows up in the mirror whenyou avoid your own reflection.
It shows up when you tug atyour shirt to hide your stomach
before walking into a room.
It shows up when you cancelplants because you don't like
how you look at anything youown.
It's the hesitation, theself-doubt, the quiet shrinking
of your own life.
Those 25 pounds is a differencebetween saying yes to an
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invitation and making an excuse.
Between showing up confidentlyin a photo and hiding behind the
group, between living boldlyand merely existing.
You might still be functioning,but you're not thriving.
Let's be clear.
This isn't about shame.
This isn't about hating yourbody.
Because when you understand thereal cost, you realize that
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weight isn't just physical.
It's emotional, it's mental,it's spiritual.
It's the heaviness that youcarry into every conversation,
every interaction, every momentwhere you hold yourself back.
Being overweight costs youconnection to yourself and to
others.
You smile less, you flirt less,you withdraw a little, you stop
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taking up space.
Not because anyone told you youhad to, but because somewhere
along the way you decided youdidn't deserve to.
And that decision, that's themost expensive one of all.
The weight also costs you yourenergy.
Not just the kind you used toclimb stairs or chase your kids
around, the kind that fuels yourdrive and your creativity, your
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honestly, your presence.
You wake up tired, you moveslower, you lose the spark that
used to make you feel alive.
And then one day you realizeyou're living a smaller version
of your life because you settledfor feeling fine.
I know I sure as hell did, butI was 150 pounds overweight.
But even if you're 25 poundsoverweight, being fine, that's
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not living.
Fine is surviving.
This episode isn't about guilt,it's about choice.
Because the same way you chooseto settle, you can choose to
rise.
You can choose to stop numbing,to stop hiding, and stop
pretending it's, you know, hey,it's not that bad.
The truth is every pound youcarry that doesn't belong to you
represents a decision you'vebeen avoiding.
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And if you can choose to staystuck, you can choose to change.
This is about taking your lifeback, one small, smart choice at
a time.
Not through diet, not throughwillpower, not through
punishment, not throughrestriction, through choosing
differently.
Because real transformationdoesn't start on the scale, it
starts in your mind.
So those 25 pounds or beingoverweight is the subtle thief
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of confidence.
Confidence doesn't vanish allat once, it slips away quietly.
One moment, one missedopportunity, one self-criticism
at a time.
You don't wake up one day andsay, I feel like shit about
myself.
It happens slowly.
You stop wearing the clothesyou love because they're a
little tight.
You dodge cameras, or worse,you take the picture and then
zoom in on every angle you hate.
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You start to live your lifemanaging perception, hoping that
no one else notices what youcan't stop noticing.
That's what those 25 pounds do.
They don't just sit on yourbody, they sit on your
confidence.
They whisper in your ear at theexact moment you need courage.
They tell you to stay quietwhen you want to speak up.
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They tell you to blend in whenyou were meant to stand out.
And that's it's not vanity,it's not ego.
It's the very human need tofeel like the best version of
yourself, to walk into a roomwithout your mind calculating
how you look from behind.
To smile in a photo withoutthinking about your chin or your
many chins.
It's to move through the worldwithout feeling like you need to
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apologize for taking up space.
And the irony of all that ismost people don't even notice.
The judgment isn't coming fromthem, it's coming from you.
You've become your own worstcritic, and those 25 extra
pounds are the weapon you useagainst yourself.
But here's the truth confidencedoesn't come from how much you
weigh, it comes from the choicesyou make that align with who
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you say you are.
When you say I want to feelgood again, and you actually
start doing something about it,that's confidence.
When you choose real food overmindless comfort, when you
choose to move, even for 10minutes, when you choose to be
honest with yourself instead ofhiding behind I'll start Monday,
that's confidence.
That's the stuff that rebuildsyou.
See, people think losing weightis about food or workouts, but
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it's not.
It's about integrity.
Keeping the promises you maketo yourself.
When you stop keeping thosepromises, you stop trusting
yourself.
And when you stop trustingyourself, you lose confidence.
Not because of the weightitself, but because of the
broken word behind it.
Confidence is the quietcertainty you're doing what you
said you'd do, that you're inmotion, not denial.
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Every time you follow through,every time you choose
differently, you strengthen thatmuscle.
So let me tell you somethingpersonal.
When I was 140 pounds heavier,I didn't just feel physically
heavy, I felt emotionally small.
I'd walk into a room andimmediately scan for who looked
better than me, which was prettymuch everybody.
Granted, I probably didn't evenrealize it at the time, but I
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did it.
I cracked jokes about my sizebefore anybody else could, just
to beat them to it.
I was loud, but inside I washiding.
I had built an entirepersonality around covering up
my insecurity.
But the real turning pointwasn't when I started losing
weight.
It was when I started keepingpromises to myself again.
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I stopped making excuses, Istopped waiting for motivation,
I just started choosing small,smart choices over and over
again.
And that's when everythingshifted.
The weight didn't define meanymore.
My choices did.
And those choices startedrebuilding the confidence I'd
lost, and they startedrebuilding it one day at a time.
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So if you're listening rightnow, thinking, I lost myself
somewhere along the way, no, youhaven't.
You've just buried yourconfidence under a pile of
broken promises and self-doubt.
It's still there, just waitingfor you to dig it out.
So start small, choose onething today that proves you
still mean what you say.
Drink the water, skip the mindof the stack, go for a walk.
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Not because you're punishingyourself, but because you're
reminding yourself that youstill can.
Confidence doesn't return whenthe number on the scale changes.
It returns the moment you startshowing up for yourself again.
That's what the diet industrywon't tell you.
They sell you plans andproducts and powders, but what
they can't package is personalintegrity.
You can't buy confidence, youbuild it, choice by choice.
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And the best part, it's notreserved for people with perfect
bodies or endless discipline.
It's available to anyonewilling to stop lying to
themselves and start choosingbetter.
Because confidence isn't aboutbeing perfect, it's about being
honest.
So now let's talk about thepart nobody wants to admit how
being overweight changes yourrelationships.
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Not just romantic ones, but allof them.
Because the truth is, when youdon't feel good in your own
body, it doesn't just stayinside your head.
It leaks into how you show upfor the people around you.
You start holding backphysically, emotionally, and
you're just less affectionate.
You dodge intimacy, you avoidthe mirror, then slowly avoid
the person sharing the spacewith you.
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You stop making eye contact,you start sleeping with a
t-shirt on, you convinceyourself your partner doesn't
notice, but they do.
They might not notice theweight, but they notice the
distance.
See, it's never really aboutthe pounds, it's about what
those pounds represent.
The quiet self-rejection thatbuilds up over time.
You can't fully give love whenyou're withholding it from
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yourself.
You can't be fully present whenevery interaction is filtered
through your own insecurity.
When you're overweight, youstart protecting yourself
emotionally the same way yourbody protects itself physically
by building a layer, a barrierof sorts, something between you
and the world.
And it's not just in yourromantic life, it's in your
friendships, your family, evenyour professional connections.
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You laugh, but not too loud.
You join the conversation, butnot too long.
You become the version ofyourself that feels safe, not
the one that feels real.
And the saddest part, mostpeople in your life have no idea
what's actually happening.
They just feel you fading.
They sense something's off thatyou're there, but not really
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there.
You tell yourself you're tired,you tell yourself you're busy,
but deep down you know you'redisconnected, not from them, but
from yourself.
I remember when I was at myheaviest, I thought I was
protecting myself by beingfunny.
I made jokes about my size, I'dplayed the role of the
self-aware guy, the one whodidn't take it too seriously.
But humor was just armor.
It was a way to deflectattention, to stay in control of
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the narrative.
But the truth is, I was lonely,even in a crowded room.
I had people around me, but Iwasn't really letting anyone in
because how could I when Ididn't even like the person
behind the mask?
That's the hidden cost of beingoverweight that no one talks
about.
It's not just health, it'sabout connection.
It's about how many hugs youcut short because you feel
uncomfortable in your skin.
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It's how many moments you missbecause you're too busy thinking
about how you look instead ofbeing in the moment.
Love doesn't disappear when yougain weight, but how you
receive it changes.
You stop believing compliments.
You know how many times peoplesay, Oh, you look good.
And I was like, You're so fullof shit.
You brush off that affection,you question sincerity, you
become suspicious of kindnessbecause deep down you stop being
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kind yourself.
And that creates distance, notbecause the other person wants
it, but because you do.
It's safer that way, safer thanbeing seen, safer than being
vulnerable.
But here's what I've learnedlove thrives in truth, not
protection.
The moment you stop hiding, themoment you start being honest,
not just with your partner, butwith yourself, connection floods
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back in.
And it doesn't happen when youlose the weight.
It happens when you startchoosing yourself again.
When you start taking care ofyour body, not just because you
hate it, but because you'refinally ready to stop abandoning
it.
When you begin to show updifferently with energy and
presence, with confidence,everything around you shifts.
Your partner feels it, yourkids feel it, your friends feel
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it.
People respond differently whenyou start respecting yourself.
The real transformation isn'tin the reflection, it's in the
relationships that heal when youdo.
So if you've been feelingdisconnected, if you've been
pulling away or hiding behindhumor or busyness or just
fucking indifference, it's timeto get real.
You don't need a newrelationship, you need a new
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relationship with you.
Start there.
Start with one small choicethat reconnects you to yourself.
Because when you chooseyourself, you automatically show
up better for everyone else.
Love isn't something you earnby losing weight.
Believe me, I learned that.
It's something you reclaim bychoosing the truth.
Again, here's the thing that noone tells you being overweight
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steals your energy long beforeit steals your health.
And I don't just mean you'retired, I mean bone deep fucking
drain, the kind of exhaustionthat seeps into your mornings,
you focus, you drive, andhonestly, your joy.
You wake up already behind.
You drag through the day, youtell yourself you're just busy,
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but the truth is your body'sworking overtime just to carry
the extra weight of the choicesthat don't serve you.
And that exhaustion doesn'tjust slow you down physically,
it fogs your mind.
It makes decision makingharder, it dulls motivation, it
shrinks your world into a loopof I'm too tired right now, but
maybe later.
The hidden cost isn't the extracalories, it's in all the
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movement you lose to fatigue.
The walks you don't take,guilty.
The trips you turn down,guilty.
The hobbies you stop doing,guilty, guilty, guilty.
The evenings you spendscrolling instead of living,
guilty.
That's where the timedisappears, not in giant chunks,
but in small, quiet surrenders.
You see, energy isn't just aphysical resource, it's
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emotional currency.
Every day you're eitherinvesting in growth or wasting
it on regret.
And your body is constantlyweighed down by food, by stress,
by guilt.
You spend most of your energyjust trying to feel normal.
You know how many fucking timesI said, I just wish I felt
normal.
I lived that way for years.
I told myself I was too busy totake care of myself.
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I thought exhaustion was justthe price of being successful.
But it wasn't success that wasdraining me.
It was avoidance.
It was all the energy I burnedlying to myself that I was fine.
When I finally started to loseweight, I realized something
shocking.
I didn't just feel lighter.
I had time again.
I stopped crashing in theafternoon.
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I started showing up withfocus, with creativity, with
more patience.
I was more productive, morepresent, and at the end, in the
final analysis, more alive.
And that's the part nobodytells you.
The real benefit of gettinghealthy isn't about looking
better.
It's about getting your energyback.
Because when you have energy,you stop existing and start
engaging.
You show up for the people youlove, you build momentum, and
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you make shit happens.
And that starts with one thing: choosing differently. (15:18):
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Not massive changes, notpunishment, just one small,
smart choice that gives youenergy instead of stealing it.
Drink water before you drinkyour coffee.
Get outside for fun.
Eat food that makes you feelalive instead of feeling
bloated.
Every choice is a vote for howyou want to feel.
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If you want your time andenergy back, it's not hiding in
a gym or supplement.
It's hiding in the choices thatyou make every single day.
There's a price that you payfor being over with that you'll
never see on a medical bill or acredit card statement.
It's the price of avoidance.
And that bill comes throughevery single day.
It shows up in the things youdon't do, the places you don't
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go, and the moments you quietlyopt out because you don't feel
comfortable in your own skin.
You don't realize how muchyou've been avoiding until you
start adding it up.
The beach days you skipped, thevacations you weren't ready
for, the dinners where youshowed up and weren't really
there, all that shit.
Every time you tell yourselfnext time when I lose the
weight, or once I get back ontrack, you're postponing your
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own life.
You're saying, I'll live fullywhen I look different.
But the truth is, most peoplenever get to that mythical when.
Because the more you wait, themore comfortable you get with
waiting.
The more you avoid, the smalleryour life becomes.
I said that a million times.
My life had become the bigger Igot, the smaller my life got.
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And nothing, no truth could bemore true than that.
Avoidance doesn't feel likesome big decision.
It feels like a tiny one.
You say no to one invitation oryou turn off your camera and
one Zoom call, you skip a dateor an event or something that
mattered.
But avoidance also compoundslike interest.
Before you know it, you'vebuilt an entire life around what
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feels safe.
You tell yourself you'recontent, but what you really are
is contained.
You've traded possibility forpredictability and freedom for
familiarity.
And here's the worst part theworld just moves on without you.
Your friends keep makingmemories, your kids keep growing
up, your partner keeps hopingyou'll rejoin them in the life
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you want to live together, andyou're stuck on the sidelines
watching life happen from adistance.
Not because you can'tparticipate, but because you
convince yourself that you don'tbelong there until you're
ready.
I've been there when I was 140pounds heavier.
I said no to everything thatmade me feel vulnerable.
I turned down pool parties,photographs, business events,
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anything that might make meconfront my body.
I lived in this half version ofmyself where I was visible but
disconnected.
People saw me, but they didn'treally see me.
And honestly, I didn't wantthem to.
The truth was, I wasn't afraidof judgment.
I was afraid of exposure.
I didn't want anyone to seethat I'd lost control of myself.
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That's what being overweightfelt like to me, being out of
control.
So I controlled everythingelse.
What I showed, what I shared,where I went, who I let in,
pretty much everything else.
That's what avoidance reallyis.
Control disguised asprotection.
You think you're keepingyourself safe, but what you're
really doing is building wallsto keep out joy and love and
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possibility.
Every no is a brick in thatwall.
Every excuse, another brick.
Until one day the wall is sohigh that you can't even see
what's on the other sideanymore.
But here's the truth (18:40):
the only way out of avoidance is through
choice.
You don't need to wait untilyou're ready.
You just need to start sayingyes again.
One small, uncomfortable,imperfect yes at a time.
Say yes to the photo, even ifyou fucking hate how you look.
Say yes to dinner with friends,even if you feel like a fat
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tubish shit.
Say yes to the trip, to thedate, to the pool, because those
are the moments that remind youwhat you're fighting for.
When you stop avoiding, lifestarts expanding again.
You reconnect with people, yourediscover experience, you
remember that joy doesn't waitfor the perfect body, it shows
up when you do.
And here's the kicker when youstart saying yes, weight loss
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actually gets easier because youstop trying to escape your life
and start wanting to live it.
Avoidance is a cage that'sbuilt by fear.
Choice is your key to open thatcage.
So if you've been hiding behindexcuses, behind clothing,
behind the I'll start next weekbullshit, I get it.
But hiding is costing youeverything that actually
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matters.
You don't need to be perfect,you just need to participate.
So stop waiting for life tostart looking the way you want
and start living it like italready is.
Because the real cost, the realcost of being overweight, the
cost of all that is missed joy.
That hurts the most.
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That's the thing that hurts themost, the joy that you've lost.
Because when you carry extraweight, you're not just carrying
it on your body, you'recarrying it into every
experience that used to lightyou up.
You stop laughing as much, youstop dancing, you stop doing the
things that make you feel free.
Not because you can't, butbecause somewhere along the way
you started believing you didn'tdeserve to feel that way
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anymore.
The real cost of beingoverweight isn't the food, it's
not the gym membership, it's notthe doctor visits, it's the
moments that you don't fullylive.
It's sitting at the pool in at-shirt instead of jumping in.
It's deleting 10 picturesbefore finding one that you can
actually deal with, that you cantolerate.
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It's pretending you don't careabout being seen when in truth,
you just stop believing you canbe seen and loved exactly as you
are.
That's the hidden tax you payfor every pound you carry.
The joy you forfeit piece bypiece.
And the crazy part is, like Isaid earlier, nobody around you
even knows it's happening.
They see you smiling, working,functioning.
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They don't even realize thatbehind the smile, you're keeping
score.
You're constantly calculatinghow much of your life you can
safely participate in withoutexposing your insecurity.
Again, you laugh, but not tooloud.
You celebrate, but not too big,and you you live, but only
halfway.
I used to think that happinesswould come after I lost the
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weight.
I had this vision, this futurevision of myself fit, confident,
free, and I think, oh, once Iget there, I'll start living.
But that was the trap.
Because there never comes ifyou don't start choosing here.
You don't get joy by reachingthe finish line.
You get it by showing up foryour life today, by making
choices that give you a reasonto feel proud before the scale
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ever even moves.
When I started losing weight,it wasn't the number that
changed first.
It was how I felt about myself.
It was the decision to stopsitting it out.
I started saying yes again, yesto photos, yes to dinner, yes
to living.
And guess what?
The joy came back before thesix pack ever did.
Well, the six-pack actuallynever came.
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But the joy came back waybefore I started feeling better
about my body.
See, joy isn't the reward forweight loss, it's the fuel for
it.
When you start experiencing joyagain, real, unfiltered,
unearned, just joy, younaturally start making better
choices.
You eat better because you wantto feel good, not because
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you're trying to fix something.
You move your body becauseyou're grateful for it, not
ashamed of it.
Joy changes everything.
And here's the part that's hardto hear.
Being overweight doesn't justrob you of joy, it numbs you to
it.
You stop feeling the highs andfeeling the lows.
You live in this muted middlespace when nothing feels that
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bad, but nothing feels that goodeither.
You call it comfort, but it'sreally just disconnection.
If you've been living in thatgray zone where every day feels
fine, but you can't remember thelast time you felt alive, this
is your wake-up call because youdeserve more than just fine.
You deserve to wake upenergized.
You deserve to feel comfortablein your own skin.
You deserve to laugh and flirtand swim and dance and live
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without needing the permissionfrom a scale.
But that won't happen throughguilt or punishment or another
diet.
It only happens through choice.
One small, smart choice to stopletting food, fatigue, and fear
dictate your life.
Choose joy, choose movement,choose connection, most
importantly, choose you.
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Because the real cost of beingoverweight isn't your body, it's
your life.
And you can reclaim it rightnow.
So here's the final truth.
Being 25 pounds overweightisn't just about weight, it's
about the life you lose whileyou're carrying it, the
confidence you give up, theconnections you avoid, the
energy that you burn pretendingeverything's fine.
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It's about the opportunitiesyou pass on because you don't
feel ready, and the joy that youstop letting yourself feel.
That's the hidden cost.
And most people never add it upbecause it's a lot easier not
to look.
But if you've been listening tothis and something inside of
you is nodding, if you recognizeyourself in these words, then
you already know it's time.
Not for another diet, not for apromise that you'll break by
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Friday, but for a different kindof decision, a choice.
Because you don't need anotherplan.
You need power.
The kind that comes fromsaying, I'm done waiting, I'm
done hiding, I'm done settlingfor less than my best life.
And the best part, you don'thave to overhaul your life to
change it.
You just have to start choosingdifferently.
One small, smart choice at atime.
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That's how I did it.
That's how I lost 140 poundsand kept it off.
No magic, no pills, noshortcuts, just daily decisions
that align with who I wanted tobecome instead of who I was
pretending to be.
If you take one thing away fromthis today, let it be this.
You don't have to earn theright to feel good about
yourself.
You just have to choose itbecause the life you want, the
energy, the joy, the freedom,it's already waiting for you.
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You just have to stop sendingit out.
If you want help gettingstarted, grab a copy of my
Amazon bestseller, Shut Up andChoose.
It's not a diet book, it's aguide to taking back control of
your life one decision at atime.
And while you're at it, headover to jonathanwrestler.com and
sign up for my free weekly tipsthat are just real practical
advice to help you startchoosing better and living
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lighter starting now.
Because this isn't about losingweight, it's about losing the
limits that have kept you fromliving.
So stop dieting and startchoosing.
The only thing standing betweenyou and your best life is a
choice.
All you need to do now is toshut up and choose.
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Until next time, shut up andchoose.
If you're a whiny snowflake that can't handle the
truth, is offended by the wordfuck and about 37 uses of it in
different forms, gets ass hurtwhen you hear someone speak the
absolute real and raw truth, youshould leave.
Like right now.
This is Shulp and Shoes.
(00:23):
The podcast where we cutthrough the shit and get real
about weight loss, life, andeverything in between, we get
into the nitty-gritty of makingsmall, smart choices that add up
to big results.
From what's on your plate andhow you approach life's
challenges, we'll explore howthe simple act of choosing
(00:43):
differently can transform yourhealth, your mindset, and your
entire freaking life.
So, if you're ready to cutthrough the bullshit and start
making some real changes, thenbuckle up and shut it up.
Because we're about to chooseour way to a healthier, happier
life.
This is Shuluffin Choose.
(01:04):
Let's do this.
Now your host, JonathanRussler.
Jonathan Ressler (01:13):
Hey, welcome back to Shun Up and Choose the
podcast.
Influencing Instagram, allthose idiots are throwing you
away, telling you how to loseweight, telling you all these
different things when theyhaven't lost an ounce on their
own.
So, you've probably heard metalk about how big pharma and
the diet industry profit fromkeeping you stuck.
(01:35):
But today I want to talk aboutsomething I want to get real and
something even more personal.
Because if you're justlistening, sitting a thing, it's
just 25 pounds, it's not a bigdeal.
This episode is definitely foryou.
Like I said, you might thinkthat being 25 pounds overweight
isn't a big deal.
You can still work, you stillsocialize, you still function.
(01:56):
You tell yourself, it's just afew extra pounds.
But here's the truth those 25pounds are costing you more than
you realize.
And I'm not talking aboutmedical bills or doctor visits
or even your cholesterolnumbers.
I'm talking about what itquietly is stealing from your
life.
Because the real cost of beingoverweight doesn't show up on a
(02:18):
scale.
It shows up in the mirror whenyou avoid your own reflection.
It shows up when you tug atyour shirt to hide your stomach
before walking into a room.
It shows up when you cancelplants because you don't like
how you look at anything youown.
It's the hesitation, theself-doubt, the quiet shrinking
of your own life.
Those 25 pounds is a differencebetween saying yes to an
(02:39):
invitation and making an excuse.
Between showing up confidentlyin a photo and hiding behind the
group, between living boldlyand merely existing.
You might still be functioning,but you're not thriving.
Let's be clear.
This isn't about shame.
This isn't about hating yourbody.
Because when you understand thereal cost, you realize that
(03:00):
weight isn't just physical.
It's emotional, it's mental,it's spiritual.
It's the heaviness that youcarry into every conversation,
every interaction, every momentwhere you hold yourself back.
Being overweight costs youconnection to yourself and to
others.
You smile less, you flirt less,you withdraw a little, you stop
(03:21):
taking up space.
Not because anyone told you youhad to, but because somewhere
along the way you decided youdidn't deserve to.
And that decision, that's themost expensive one of all.
The weight also costs you yourenergy.
Not just the kind you used toclimb stairs or chase your kids
around, the kind that fuels yourdrive and your creativity, your
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honestly, your presence.
You wake up tired, you moveslower, you lose the spark that
used to make you feel alive.
And then one day you realizeyou're living a smaller version
of your life because you settledfor feeling fine.
I know I sure as hell did, butI was 150 pounds overweight.
But even if you're 25 poundsoverweight, being fine, that's
(04:06):
not living.
Fine is surviving.
This episode isn't about guilt,it's about choice.
Because the same way you chooseto settle, you can choose to
rise.
You can choose to stop numbing,to stop hiding, and stop
pretending it's, you know, hey,it's not that bad.
The truth is every pound youcarry that doesn't belong to you
represents a decision you'vebeen avoiding.
(04:26):
And if you can choose to staystuck, you can choose to change.
This is about taking your lifeback, one small, smart choice at
a time.
Not through diet, not throughwillpower, not through
punishment, not throughrestriction, through choosing
differently.
Because real transformationdoesn't start on the scale, it
starts in your mind.
So those 25 pounds or beingoverweight is the subtle thief
(04:50):
of confidence.
Confidence doesn't vanish allat once, it slips away quietly.
One moment, one missedopportunity, one self-criticism
at a time.
You don't wake up one day andsay, I feel like shit about
myself.
It happens slowly.
You stop wearing the clothesyou love because they're a
little tight.
You dodge cameras, or worse,you take the picture and then
zoom in on every angle you hate.
(05:12):
You start to live your lifemanaging perception, hoping that
no one else notices what youcan't stop noticing.
That's what those 25 pounds do.
They don't just sit on yourbody, they sit on your
confidence.
They whisper in your ear at theexact moment you need courage.
They tell you to stay quietwhen you want to speak up.
(05:32):
They tell you to blend in whenyou were meant to stand out.
And that's it's not vanity,it's not ego.
It's the very human need tofeel like the best version of
yourself, to walk into a roomwithout your mind calculating
how you look from behind.
To smile in a photo withoutthinking about your chin or your
many chins.
It's to move through the worldwithout feeling like you need to
(05:55):
apologize for taking up space.
And the irony of all that ismost people don't even notice.
The judgment isn't coming fromthem, it's coming from you.
You've become your own worstcritic, and those 25 extra
pounds are the weapon you useagainst yourself.
But here's the truth confidencedoesn't come from how much you
weigh, it comes from the choicesyou make that align with who
(06:18):
you say you are.
When you say I want to feelgood again, and you actually
start doing something about it,that's confidence.
When you choose real food overmindless comfort, when you
choose to move, even for 10minutes, when you choose to be
honest with yourself instead ofhiding behind I'll start Monday,
that's confidence.
That's the stuff that rebuildsyou.
See, people think losing weightis about food or workouts, but
(06:40):
it's not.
It's about integrity.
Keeping the promises you maketo yourself.
When you stop keeping thosepromises, you stop trusting
yourself.
And when you stop trustingyourself, you lose confidence.
Not because of the weightitself, but because of the
broken word behind it.
Confidence is the quietcertainty you're doing what you
said you'd do, that you're inmotion, not denial.
(07:01):
Every time you follow through,every time you choose
differently, you strengthen thatmuscle.
So let me tell you somethingpersonal.
When I was 140 pounds heavier,I didn't just feel physically
heavy, I felt emotionally small.
I'd walk into a room andimmediately scan for who looked
better than me, which was prettymuch everybody.
Granted, I probably didn't evenrealize it at the time, but I
(07:21):
did it.
I cracked jokes about my sizebefore anybody else could, just
to beat them to it.
I was loud, but inside I washiding.
I had built an entirepersonality around covering up
my insecurity.
But the real turning pointwasn't when I started losing
weight.
It was when I started keepingpromises to myself again.
(07:41):
I stopped making excuses, Istopped waiting for motivation,
I just started choosing small,smart choices over and over
again.
And that's when everythingshifted.
The weight didn't define meanymore.
My choices did.
And those choices startedrebuilding the confidence I'd
lost, and they startedrebuilding it one day at a time.
(08:02):
So if you're listening rightnow, thinking, I lost myself
somewhere along the way, no, youhaven't.
You've just buried yourconfidence under a pile of
broken promises and self-doubt.
It's still there, just waitingfor you to dig it out.
So start small, choose onething today that proves you
still mean what you say.
Drink the water, skip the mindof the stack, go for a walk.
(08:23):
Not because you're punishingyourself, but because you're
reminding yourself that youstill can.
Confidence doesn't return whenthe number on the scale changes.
It returns the moment you startshowing up for yourself again.
That's what the diet industrywon't tell you.
They sell you plans andproducts and powders, but what
they can't package is personalintegrity.
You can't buy confidence, youbuild it, choice by choice.
(08:47):
And the best part, it's notreserved for people with perfect
bodies or endless discipline.
It's available to anyonewilling to stop lying to
themselves and start choosingbetter.
Because confidence isn't aboutbeing perfect, it's about being
honest.
So now let's talk about thepart nobody wants to admit how
being overweight changes yourrelationships.
(09:08):
Not just romantic ones, but allof them.
Because the truth is, when youdon't feel good in your own
body, it doesn't just stayinside your head.
It leaks into how you show upfor the people around you.
You start holding backphysically, emotionally, and
you're just less affectionate.
You dodge intimacy, you avoidthe mirror, then slowly avoid
the person sharing the spacewith you.
(09:30):
You stop making eye contact,you start sleeping with a
t-shirt on, you convinceyourself your partner doesn't
notice, but they do.
They might not notice theweight, but they notice the
distance.
See, it's never really aboutthe pounds, it's about what
those pounds represent.
The quiet self-rejection thatbuilds up over time.
You can't fully give love whenyou're withholding it from
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yourself.
You can't be fully present whenevery interaction is filtered
through your own insecurity.
When you're overweight, youstart protecting yourself
emotionally the same way yourbody protects itself physically
by building a layer, a barrierof sorts, something between you
and the world.
And it's not just in yourromantic life, it's in your
friendships, your family, evenyour professional connections.
(10:13):
You laugh, but not too loud.
You join the conversation, butnot too long.
You become the version ofyourself that feels safe, not
the one that feels real.
And the saddest part, mostpeople in your life have no idea
what's actually happening.
They just feel you fading.
They sense something's off thatyou're there, but not really
(10:33):
there.
You tell yourself you're tired,you tell yourself you're busy,
but deep down you know you'redisconnected, not from them, but
from yourself.
I remember when I was at myheaviest, I thought I was
protecting myself by beingfunny.
I made jokes about my size, I'dplayed the role of the
self-aware guy, the one whodidn't take it too seriously.
But humor was just armor.
It was a way to deflectattention, to stay in control of
(10:55):
the narrative.
But the truth is, I was lonely,even in a crowded room.
I had people around me, but Iwasn't really letting anyone in
because how could I when Ididn't even like the person
behind the mask?
That's the hidden cost of beingoverweight that no one talks
about.
It's not just health, it'sabout connection.
It's about how many hugs youcut short because you feel
uncomfortable in your skin.
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It's how many moments you missbecause you're too busy thinking
about how you look instead ofbeing in the moment.
Love doesn't disappear when yougain weight, but how you
receive it changes.
You stop believing compliments.
You know how many times peoplesay, Oh, you look good.
And I was like, You're so fullof shit.
You brush off that affection,you question sincerity, you
become suspicious of kindnessbecause deep down you stop being
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kind yourself.
And that creates distance, notbecause the other person wants
it, but because you do.
It's safer that way, safer thanbeing seen, safer than being
vulnerable.
But here's what I've learnedlove thrives in truth, not
protection.
The moment you stop hiding, themoment you start being honest,
not just with your partner, butwith yourself, connection floods
(12:01):
back in.
And it doesn't happen when youlose the weight.
It happens when you startchoosing yourself again.
When you start taking care ofyour body, not just because you
hate it, but because you'refinally ready to stop abandoning
it.
When you begin to show updifferently with energy and
presence, with confidence,everything around you shifts.
Your partner feels it, yourkids feel it, your friends feel
(12:22):
it.
People respond differently whenyou start respecting yourself.
The real transformation isn'tin the reflection, it's in the
relationships that heal when youdo.
So if you've been feelingdisconnected, if you've been
pulling away or hiding behindhumor or busyness or just
fucking indifference, it's timeto get real.
You don't need a newrelationship, you need a new
(12:44):
relationship with you.
Start there.
Start with one small choicethat reconnects you to yourself.
Because when you chooseyourself, you automatically show
up better for everyone else.
Love isn't something you earnby losing weight.
Believe me, I learned that.
It's something you reclaim bychoosing the truth.
Again, here's the thing that noone tells you being overweight
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steals your energy long beforeit steals your health.
And I don't just mean you'retired, I mean bone deep fucking
drain, the kind of exhaustionthat seeps into your mornings,
you focus, you drive, andhonestly, your joy.
You wake up already behind.
You drag through the day, youtell yourself you're just busy,
(13:26):
but the truth is your body'sworking overtime just to carry
the extra weight of the choicesthat don't serve you.
And that exhaustion doesn'tjust slow you down physically,
it fogs your mind.
It makes decision makingharder, it dulls motivation, it
shrinks your world into a loopof I'm too tired right now, but
maybe later.
The hidden cost isn't the extracalories, it's in all the
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movement you lose to fatigue.
The walks you don't take,guilty.
The trips you turn down,guilty.
The hobbies you stop doing,guilty, guilty, guilty.
The evenings you spendscrolling instead of living,
guilty.
That's where the timedisappears, not in giant chunks,
but in small, quiet surrenders.
You see, energy isn't just aphysical resource, it's
(14:11):
emotional currency.
Every day you're eitherinvesting in growth or wasting
it on regret.
And your body is constantlyweighed down by food, by stress,
by guilt.
You spend most of your energyjust trying to feel normal.
You know how many fucking timesI said, I just wish I felt
normal.
I lived that way for years.
I told myself I was too busy totake care of myself.
(14:33):
I thought exhaustion was justthe price of being successful.
But it wasn't success that wasdraining me.
It was avoidance.
It was all the energy I burnedlying to myself that I was fine.
When I finally started to loseweight, I realized something
shocking.
I didn't just feel lighter.
I had time again.
I stopped crashing in theafternoon.
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I started showing up withfocus, with creativity, with
more patience.
I was more productive, morepresent, and at the end, in the
final analysis, more alive.
And that's the part nobodytells you.
The real benefit of gettinghealthy isn't about looking
better.
It's about getting your energyback.
Because when you have energy,you stop existing and start
engaging.
You show up for the people youlove, you build momentum, and
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you make shit happens.
And that starts with one thing: choosing differently. (15:18):
undefined
Not massive changes, notpunishment, just one small,
smart choice that gives youenergy instead of stealing it.
Drink water before you drinkyour coffee.
Get outside for fun.
Eat food that makes you feelalive instead of feeling
bloated.
Every choice is a vote for howyou want to feel.
(15:39):
If you want your time andenergy back, it's not hiding in
a gym or supplement.
It's hiding in the choices thatyou make every single day.
There's a price that you payfor being over with that you'll
never see on a medical bill or acredit card statement.
It's the price of avoidance.
And that bill comes throughevery single day.
It shows up in the things youdon't do, the places you don't
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go, and the moments you quietlyopt out because you don't feel
comfortable in your own skin.
You don't realize how muchyou've been avoiding until you
start adding it up.
The beach days you skipped, thevacations you weren't ready
for, the dinners where youshowed up and weren't really
there, all that shit.
Every time you tell yourselfnext time when I lose the
weight, or once I get back ontrack, you're postponing your
(16:21):
own life.
You're saying, I'll live fullywhen I look different.
But the truth is, most peoplenever get to that mythical when.
Because the more you wait, themore comfortable you get with
waiting.
The more you avoid, the smalleryour life becomes.
I said that a million times.
My life had become the bigger Igot, the smaller my life got.
(16:42):
And nothing, no truth could bemore true than that.
Avoidance doesn't feel likesome big decision.
It feels like a tiny one.
You say no to one invitation oryou turn off your camera and
one Zoom call, you skip a dateor an event or something that
mattered.
But avoidance also compoundslike interest.
Before you know it, you'vebuilt an entire life around what
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feels safe.
You tell yourself you'recontent, but what you really are
is contained.
You've traded possibility forpredictability and freedom for
familiarity.
And here's the worst part theworld just moves on without you.
Your friends keep makingmemories, your kids keep growing
up, your partner keeps hopingyou'll rejoin them in the life
(17:24):
you want to live together, andyou're stuck on the sidelines
watching life happen from adistance.
Not because you can'tparticipate, but because you
convince yourself that you don'tbelong there until you're
ready.
I've been there when I was 140pounds heavier.
I said no to everything thatmade me feel vulnerable.
I turned down pool parties,photographs, business events,
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anything that might make meconfront my body.
I lived in this half version ofmyself where I was visible but
disconnected.
People saw me, but they didn'treally see me.
And honestly, I didn't wantthem to.
The truth was, I wasn't afraidof judgment.
I was afraid of exposure.
I didn't want anyone to seethat I'd lost control of myself.
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That's what being overweightfelt like to me, being out of
control.
So I controlled everythingelse.
What I showed, what I shared,where I went, who I let in,
pretty much everything else.
That's what avoidance reallyis.
Control disguised asprotection.
You think you're keepingyourself safe, but what you're
really doing is building wallsto keep out joy and love and
(18:30):
possibility.
Every no is a brick in thatwall.
Every excuse, another brick.
Until one day the wall is sohigh that you can't even see
what's on the other sideanymore.
But here's the truth (18:40):
the only way out of avoidance is through
choice.
You don't need to wait untilyou're ready.
You just need to start sayingyes again.
One small, uncomfortable,imperfect yes at a time.
Say yes to the photo, even ifyou fucking hate how you look.
Say yes to dinner with friends,even if you feel like a fat
(19:01):
tubish shit.
Say yes to the trip, to thedate, to the pool, because those
are the moments that remind youwhat you're fighting for.
When you stop avoiding, lifestarts expanding again.
You reconnect with people, yourediscover experience, you
remember that joy doesn't waitfor the perfect body, it shows
up when you do.
And here's the kicker when youstart saying yes, weight loss
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actually gets easier because youstop trying to escape your life
and start wanting to live it.
Avoidance is a cage that'sbuilt by fear.
Choice is your key to open thatcage.
So if you've been hiding behindexcuses, behind clothing,
behind the I'll start next weekbullshit, I get it.
But hiding is costing youeverything that actually
(19:43):
matters.
You don't need to be perfect,you just need to participate.
So stop waiting for life tostart looking the way you want
and start living it like italready is.
Because the real cost, the realcost of being overweight, the
cost of all that is missed joy.
That hurts the most.
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That's the thing that hurts themost, the joy that you've lost.
Because when you carry extraweight, you're not just carrying
it on your body, you'recarrying it into every
experience that used to lightyou up.
You stop laughing as much, youstop dancing, you stop doing the
things that make you feel free.
Not because you can't, butbecause somewhere along the way
you started believing you didn'tdeserve to feel that way
(20:25):
anymore.
The real cost of beingoverweight isn't the food, it's
not the gym membership, it's notthe doctor visits, it's the
moments that you don't fullylive.
It's sitting at the pool in at-shirt instead of jumping in.
It's deleting 10 picturesbefore finding one that you can
actually deal with, that you cantolerate.
(20:47):
It's pretending you don't careabout being seen when in truth,
you just stop believing you canbe seen and loved exactly as you
are.
That's the hidden tax you payfor every pound you carry.
The joy you forfeit piece bypiece.
And the crazy part is, like Isaid earlier, nobody around you
even knows it's happening.
They see you smiling, working,functioning.
(21:07):
They don't even realize thatbehind the smile, you're keeping
score.
You're constantly calculatinghow much of your life you can
safely participate in withoutexposing your insecurity.
Again, you laugh, but not tooloud.
You celebrate, but not too big,and you you live, but only
halfway.
I used to think that happinesswould come after I lost the
(21:30):
weight.
I had this vision, this futurevision of myself fit, confident,
free, and I think, oh, once Iget there, I'll start living.
But that was the trap.
Because there never comes ifyou don't start choosing here.
You don't get joy by reachingthe finish line.
You get it by showing up foryour life today, by making
choices that give you a reasonto feel proud before the scale
(21:52):
ever even moves.
When I started losing weight,it wasn't the number that
changed first.
It was how I felt about myself.
It was the decision to stopsitting it out.
I started saying yes again, yesto photos, yes to dinner, yes
to living.
And guess what?
The joy came back before thesix pack ever did.
Well, the six-pack actuallynever came.
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But the joy came back waybefore I started feeling better
about my body.
See, joy isn't the reward forweight loss, it's the fuel for
it.
When you start experiencing joyagain, real, unfiltered,
unearned, just joy, younaturally start making better
choices.
You eat better because you wantto feel good, not because
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you're trying to fix something.
You move your body becauseyou're grateful for it, not
ashamed of it.
Joy changes everything.
And here's the part that's hardto hear.
Being overweight doesn't justrob you of joy, it numbs you to
it.
You stop feeling the highs andfeeling the lows.
You live in this muted middlespace when nothing feels that
(22:56):
bad, but nothing feels that goodeither.
You call it comfort, but it'sreally just disconnection.
If you've been living in thatgray zone where every day feels
fine, but you can't remember thelast time you felt alive, this
is your wake-up call because youdeserve more than just fine.
You deserve to wake upenergized.
You deserve to feel comfortablein your own skin.
You deserve to laugh and flirtand swim and dance and live
(23:20):
without needing the permissionfrom a scale.
But that won't happen throughguilt or punishment or another
diet.
It only happens through choice.
One small, smart choice to stopletting food, fatigue, and fear
dictate your life.
Choose joy, choose movement,choose connection, most
importantly, choose you.
(23:41):
Because the real cost of beingoverweight isn't your body, it's
your life.
And you can reclaim it rightnow.
So here's the final truth.
Being 25 pounds overweightisn't just about weight, it's
about the life you lose whileyou're carrying it, the
confidence you give up, theconnections you avoid, the
energy that you burn pretendingeverything's fine.
(24:01):
It's about the opportunitiesyou pass on because you don't
feel ready, and the joy that youstop letting yourself feel.
That's the hidden cost.
And most people never add it upbecause it's a lot easier not
to look.
But if you've been listening tothis and something inside of
you is nodding, if you recognizeyourself in these words, then
you already know it's time.
Not for another diet, not for apromise that you'll break by
(24:24):
Friday, but for a different kindof decision, a choice.
Because you don't need anotherplan.
You need power.
The kind that comes fromsaying, I'm done waiting, I'm
done hiding, I'm done settlingfor less than my best life.
And the best part, you don'thave to overhaul your life to
change it.
You just have to start choosingdifferently.
One small, smart choice at atime.
(24:45):
That's how I did it.
That's how I lost 140 poundsand kept it off.
No magic, no pills, noshortcuts, just daily decisions
that align with who I wanted tobecome instead of who I was
pretending to be.
If you take one thing away fromthis today, let it be this.
You don't have to earn theright to feel good about
yourself.
You just have to choose itbecause the life you want, the
energy, the joy, the freedom,it's already waiting for you.
(25:08):
You just have to stop sendingit out.
If you want help gettingstarted, grab a copy of my
Amazon bestseller, Shut Up andChoose.
It's not a diet book, it's aguide to taking back control of
your life one decision at atime.
And while you're at it, headover to jonathanwrestler.com and
sign up for my free weekly tipsthat are just real practical
advice to help you startchoosing better and living
(25:29):
lighter starting now.
Because this isn't about losingweight, it's about losing the
limits that have kept you fromliving.
So stop dieting and startchoosing.
The only thing standing betweenyou and your best life is a
choice.
All you need to do now is toshut up and choose.
Announcer (25:45):
You've been listening to the Shut Up and Choose.
Jonathan's passion is to sharehis journey of shedding 130
pounds in less than a yearwithout any of the usual
gimmicks.
No diets, no pills, and we'lllet you in on a little secret.
No fucking gem.
And guess what?
(26:06):
You can do it too! We hope youenjoyed the show.
We had a fucking blast.
If you did, make sure to like,rate, and review.
We'll be back soon.
But in the meantime, findJonathan on Instagram at
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Until next time, shut up andchoose.
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