Join me in a fabulous interview with Catherine Borgman-Arboleda, Founder of Collaborative-Insights Coaching, as we cover the vital importance of self-work. We hear that term everywhere, this Episode digs in to what self-work comprises of and how Catherine's insights can lead to a tremendous amount of healing, letting go false expectations and developing a deep connection with our loved ones, no matter where they are at in the walk of Recovery. I hope you gain as much knowledge as I did in this insightful dialogue. Please visit to Catherine's website for resources at https://www.collaborative-insights.com/.
2:15 - Introduction to Catherine's Global work on Policy and the work 'on ourselves'.
3:00 - Catherine's daughter's journey
3:30 - How it's easier to change a law than change our children
4:45 - Her daughter's journey through depression, self-harm, identity-issues
5:15 - The 'Fixing' journey
6:00 - Buddhism and discovering Dr. Shefali Tsabary , the concept of our children being sovereign beings and deconstructing the story that only we are the only teachers in our relationship with our Children
7:15 - Shifting the definition of 'Success' in the defined story of raising children
8:15 - Being aware of our own Agenda and feeling, instead of managing, our fears
10:00 - How we cannot orchestrate someone's healing
11:00 - Grieving the false expectations we've been fed in the Recovery process
12:15 - Father's and Mother's 'Letting Go' and the differences
13:30 - Thanking God that the Child is not buying INTO the concept of Expectations (or The Matrix)
14:15 - Conquering the Fear
15:15 - Trying to Control
15:30 - How fear blocks Connection
16:30 - Changing the External verses the Internal Environment
18:30 - How Culture can prioritize the "Wrong" traits
18:45 - Dr. Gabor Mate's training and Genetic transference of Addiction
18:55 - Dr. Gabor Mate's book, The Myth of Normal
20:50 - Going inward to heal, Wisdom Traditions, allowing the uncomfortable emotions
22:50 - The Efficient Parent, Rescuing, Solving the Problems and how that may not benefit your Child
24:35 - NARM Therapy identifying fear, sadness, anger and which emotions are the 'true' feeling we are experiencing
25:10 - Conscious Coaching and Catherine's resources to finding more self-awareness and shifting into greater Wisdom
28:30 - Our Children's self-blame and how our words are not magic to heal that shame
29: 45 - Can our Face be a Trigger to past strong emotions?
31:20 - The Energy you bring to engagements with our Children: holding the image of possibility
33:15 - The falseness of 'The Vision Board'
34:30 - How our efficiency counters our Children's Agency
36:45 - The Concept of 'Coming Home Contracts' and Catherine's Blog
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