Silver Bullet Survivor
When going through a custody battle, a "silver bullet" is when someone makes false allegations of domestic violence against their spouse to immediately remove them from the home and to start alienating the children against them. I went through this ordeal in 2022 and now have 50% custody of my children and, more importantly, an extremely strong bond with them. This podcast contains stories of resilience and shared wisdom learned through my journey as a father in navigating an abusive marriage, false allegations of domestic violence, parental alienation, and post-separation abuse.
Episodes
In this episode, I describe the psychology of Flying Monkeys (people who enable your ex) and the strategy for how to deal with them.
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In this episode, I talk about finding humor in life as a way to heal.
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In this episode, I talk about why I prefer having 50/50 with a high-conflict coparenting as opposed to having full custody or primary custody.
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In this episode, I discuss the concept of "supply" and outline why gray rocking (or being emotionally inert) is the way to go when dealing with our co-parents.
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In the episode, I discuss the unsavory aspects of healing. I also read and respond to a listener's letter about going through a similar situation.
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In this episode, I outline the documentation strategy that helped me get custody of my kids. In summary:
- Take lots of pictures.
- Get a voice recorder and record visitations.
- Get a dash cam and record exchanges.
- After visitations, send yourself an email with a summary of the visit.
- Hire professionals to monitor you and write a report.
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In this episode, I talk about the mindset of overcoming obstacles vs removing obstacles.
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In this episode, I talk about how people may weaponize therapy against you.
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In this episode, I talk about my Christmas holiday and the coparenting issues that arose.
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In this episode, I talk about the concepts behind Gentle Parenting.
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In this episode, I talk about the things I'm thankful for.
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In this episode, I discuss how I overcame the stigma of false allegations.
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In this episode, I talk about the importance of self-care through your emotional recovery.
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In this episode, I talk about the process of overcoming trauma from your ex and your kids.
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In this episode, I discuss all the ways I was able to counter my ex's attempts at counter-parenting.
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In this episode, I talk about how to navigate co-parenting conflict and avoiding traps. In summary:
1. Avoid verbal communications.
2. Stick to written communications like emails. There are co-parenting apps like TalkingParents and OurFamilyWizard that works great for this.
3. Respond with a canned response.
4. Disengage.
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In this episode, I talk about ways of getting over your ex.
1. Take off the rose-colored glasses.
2. Respect and love yourself.
3. Realize your ex is not who you think they are.
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In this episode, I discuss ways to think about and talk to your kids when they are angry.
The coach I reference in this episode is Dr. Amy J.L. Baker. Her website is https://www.amyjlbaker.com.
The book I reference in this episode is called "The Whole-Brain Child", by authors Daniel J. Siegel M.D. and Tina Payne Bryson.
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In this episode, I talk about how to talk to your kids regarding the divorce and the situation in a way that makes sense to them and to establish yourself as the strong and stable parent.
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In this episode, I talk about CPS investigations and how to prepare for one.
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