#83 Peter Anderson - Why Do Couples Really Argue?

Couples seek help to be heard without causing conflict, often needing assistance with relationship tools. Emotionally focused therapy can be a great way to resolve conflict in marriage and build stronger communication skills. Explore the nuances of emotionally focused therapy for couples. Discover the powerful love story behind The Playful Couple—a journey rooted in movement, healing, and authentic connection.

Before founding The Playful Couple, Peter Anderson spent over 25 years as a professional contemporary dancer and choreographer, mastering the language of movement to foster presence, emotional expression, and deep relational connection. His journey then led him to the vibrant world of comedy improvisation in New York City, where he explored how play, spontaneity, and trust can transform both performance and relationships. Alongside his artistic work, Peter immersed himself in personal growth and healing. He became certified in NLP, Timeline Therapy, Thai Massage, and Craniosacral Therapy, and pursued advanced studies in Polyvagal Theory, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Nonviolent Communication (NVC), and mindfulness. Each modality provided deeper insight into emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and conscious connection. After years of navigating disconnection and loneliness in long-term relationships, Peter's turning point came through honouring his own nervous system, understanding his emotional needs, and following what truly resonated. That journey led to a secure, joyful, and playful partnership—one that inspired The Playful Couple. This platform is now a living embodiment of that transformation—proof that love, healing, and play can co-exist in a deeply connected relationship.

 

Whether you're seeking a conscious relationship, more playfulness, or deeper nervous system awareness in love, The Playful Couple invites you to join the journey.

 

00:00 – Communication breakdown, disconnection & growing apart

06:10 – Shifting love, unclear signals & emotional cues

21:22 – Body awareness reveals hidden emotional issues

31:33 – Trust, vulnerability & emotional safety

42:29 – Arguing to deepen connection & build trust

52:08 – Losing playfulness & getting stuck in routine

01:03:42 – Stress pulling couples from their true selves

01:18:32 – Changing dynamics & building stronger foundations