July 22, 2025 • 21 mins
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Romanticize your life. Romanticize your life.
But how? But how do you actually do it?
Not in theory, but like technically in an actionable
way. Like when you show up to your
everyday life, how do you actually romanticize it?
Because everybody's telling you to romanticize your life, but
nobody is telling you how the fuck to actually do it.
(00:20):
What is up, guys? I'm Kayla Rose, your host of
Skinny Dipping, the podcast where we strip down and we dive
in. Metaphorically, Yes,
Metaphorically get your head outof your ass.
No, but also literally, like if you want to actually go skinny
dipping, like I'm your girl, like I'm down, I want to be in a
lake butt naked. I want to be in the ocean and
just casually take my bathing suit off when nobody sees.
(00:41):
Like I want to be a free mermaidfairy.
What's so wrong about that? Skinny dipping is for the
girlies who love being creative,who they love inner exploration,
who are really just on their path to being their most aligned
self, who has the most integritywith what they want.
If you guys are watching on Spotify right now, you'll see
(01:02):
that I'm outside underneath the tree, truly in my element.
It was windy before, but now it's just sunny.
I'm beautiful and amazing. You're going to hear the birds
in the back. And I just want to take you into
this world as we talk about romanticizing our motherfucking
life and how to actually do it because I have this episode that
I've done in the past. So this is a follow up episode.
I want to go over the last romanticize your life episode a
(01:25):
little bit because a lot of people have found me from that
TikTok that I made or from that podcast that I made.
And whenever the universe or Godor source or my spirit guides or
my ancestors, whoever it is on my spirit team helping me out,
whenever they push a video forthand show the world, for example,
(01:45):
the romanticize your life video or they, you know, that video
literally led to somebody sampling it and making a house
song to it. I wanna actually play it in here
at the end because I say in it, I'm like, romanticize your life,
tap into your five senses, your touch, your taste, your smell.
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And it's like building up to this moment.
And then it drops. I go, my life is fucking
beautiful. Boom drops.
And I feel like God or the universe or source, whatever you
believe in, I believe in it all.I definitely feel like it pushed
that topic, that piece of content, because it's something
(02:26):
that I'm supposed to talk about.And I just feel like I begin to
notice those synchronicities andthose little nudges from the
universe like keep doing this, keep going this way.
And I feel like romanticizing your life is something that I am
meant to talk about because I think before I got into healing
and really going through the dark night of the soul and
really exploring the tower moments of life and the more
(02:47):
sticky stuck parts that I've talked a lot about in my
podcast. I feel like before I was that
person, like I feel like my giftsince I was born was kind of
being a sunshine, like a light. And now that I've unlearned how
to be the performative version of that, like I, I'm not really
the performative sunshine anymore.
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Like I do still resonate that I feel like I have this spark in
the soul and this light within me that really makes others feel
like their life is beautiful too.
And I think a lot of my friends have said this to me that when
they're around me, they really just do feel uplifted and seen
and like life is romantic. Everything is romantic, in the
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words of Charli XCX. Like everything is romantic,
everything is beautiful, like everything is art.
And I feel like every time I talk about that, everyone really
resonates and I really resonate.So I'm going to keep talking
about it because why the fuck not?
Before we get into stripping down and diving in today, make
sure to go ahead and just followor subscribe on Spotify.
And if you want to share this episode on Instagram, tag me at
(03:54):
Sundays KK at Skinny Dipping Diaries.
It's all going to be linked below.
But you know, when you share or you copy the link and you send
it to a friend, it really does help the Spotify algorithm say,
hey, people like this more people want to see it.
And I think my goal for skinny dipping summer is just like more
new homies in the community. So sharing really helps them.
You know, I really appreciate you guys and love you guys.
(04:16):
And you guys are my girls. You guys are my sisters, and I
appreciate everything that we get to talk about together.
Look at that wind confirmation. Do you hear that?
OK, so let's get into it. The old episode of Romanticize
your Life. I talked about how romanticizing
your life for me was all about tapping into my senses and
(04:39):
really getting grounded in my body because I'm the type of
person. I'm a Gemini moon.
If you know anything about astrology, I can be in my mind a
lot. And the truth is, when we're
really in our mind, when we're really in these upper chakras,
when we have a lot of energetic energy bouncing around up here
in our mind, you can literally feel that your energy is more
(04:59):
concentrated and more gathered at the top of your head.
And you may feel a lack of clarity.
You may feel confused, you may feel overwhelmed, you may feel
anxious. And that's just because the mind
is really running the show. And I think to romanticize our
life, we have to tap into the present moment.
And in order to tap into the present moment, what we have to
do is we have to tap into our body.
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We have to ground into our physical body.
Because the truth is when you ground down into your physical
body and you feel dropped in, you feel connected to your
senses, you feel connected to your physical body, you feel
present in your body. Because what happens, honestly,
that I found is if people grew up with a lot of anxiety or they
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have certain types of trauma or,you know, they're just
perfectionists or people pleasers, they're in their head
a lot. And I feel like they develop, if
you relate to this at all, people develop this trait of
being in their head a lot because it wasn't safe to be in
their body, maybe physically or maybe emotionally.
People were mean in their households.
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There was, you know, verbal abuse going on.
So they had to like hide in their head or also if they're
just a really anxious person andmaybe got a lot of social
anxiety in school when they wereyounger, in elementary school,
they may have created this worldin their head that they always
go to because of that anxiety and to escape it.
And our brain, our monkey mind, you know, is really just always
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trying to protect us from discomfort.
And because of that, we escape to our minds.
So by dropping into our body, that's when we get to be
present. And when we're present with the
moment in front of us, that's when we can romanticize our
life. So it's all connected, you see.
So I think the quickest way to tap into your body is by tuning
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into your senses, right? Like what do you see around you?
Can you name three things that you see, five things that you
hear? You know, you've all heard that,
but really, can you tap into your senses?
Can you tap into, you know, you're drinking your morning
matcha and you're just like saying a physical after it.
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You're like physically in your body and tasting and smelling
how good it is. And you love this matcha because
this matcha creates energy in your body and it connects to
your energy body and just boostsyour mood.
It feels so good. And sitting in that presence
with something so simple, tapping into your senses and
having gratitude for something so mundane and so simple.
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This is the key to romanticizingyour life, tapping into your
taste when you're eating, you know that really yummy like like
maybe you're having my go to right now is Mcconnelly's ice
cream. That was like my go to in
college like 8 years ago, but I'm bringing it back and every
time I eat it, I'm like, this isso creamy.
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This is so good. Like and just actually
appreciating it versus like ignoring what I'm eating and
just watching TV and zoning out like that is unconscious.
But I think to romanticize your life, it's to truly be conscious
and be present with the exact moment in front of you and have
this almost like endearing feeling towards whatever is in
front of you, the person, the place, the object, the moment.
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By basically having this like, aw, this is so sweet and
endearing and I may never get this moment back again.
Like that energy is gonna createsuch a deep gratitude that is
going to romanticize the most mundane things in your life.
I really wanted to talk about how to get specific, right?
Like what are actually specific things that you can do to
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romanticize your life? I'm going to tell you about the
ways that I romanticize my life.And they're not, they're not the
ways that you think because I'vetraveled the world.
I've gone to South America, I'vegone to Bali, I've gone to
Europe. I love traveling because I feel
like it makes the present momentso spectacular and so new.
I think doing new things makes us really present.
And when we're really present, we can romanticize in an easier
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way. But the truth is, I found that
the deepest romantic connection I've had to my life where I look
around and I'm like, everything is beautiful, everything is
romantic. I'm so lucky.
I'm so grateful. Those moments actually come from
the most simplistic things. And I think traveling helped me
practice loving the simplistic moments because in Europe, it's
like, you know, your your cappuccino in the morning on the
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deck is just like the most perfect moment of the day.
And I think traveling has taughtme how other countries view life
and how they see it as somethingas precious, and they should see
the current moment as something they should be present with
rather than just like scrolling on their phones or dissociating.
So these are the specific ways Ipersonally romanticize my life.
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I never feel like I romanticize my life more than when I'm on a
walk with my dog. I'm born and raised in Maui and
so whenever I walk outside, it is so green, so many plants, so
many trees, so many butterflies,dragonflies, chickens, cats,
deer, so many animals on my Rd. It's literally crazy.
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And I go on a walk with my dog and I just, you know, we'll
start to notice maybe a certain color or maybe just start naming
things I'm grateful for. And these are the moments that I
feel so fucking in love with my life.
It's the simplest moment of taking my dog on a walk that I
feel like everything is romanticand magical.
Another way that I love love to romanticize my life is I get
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this drink. I think they like use the Kin
Euphorics drink and then add a couple things to it.
But for the most part, I think it's the Kin Euphorics drink.
I'm not sure which one, but I goto this coffee shop and I get
their drink called Actual Sunshine and it's like a health
tonic and it has like a bunch ofvitamins in it and just a bunch
of healthy stuff, but it has saffron in it.
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And saffron, people have said, is this like miracle plant for
joy and happiness. And I swear to God, I feel it.
Like saffron makes me feel so joyful, so happy, so lit up in
my body. And I absolutely fucking love
it. So I go to this coffee shop
about 15, ten, 15 minutes away and I get my drink.
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I sit down, I journal my thoughts or I take it to go and
come back home and work. And I'm like romanticizing my
life because I'm getting my favorite drink ever.
And I get my favorite sandwich too.
Right next door. There's this chicken focaus,
chicken focaus sandwich where the woman makes this like
homemade focaution. It's just amazing.
Like when I take a bite of out of that foca, I am truly
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romanticizing my life. And I get this combo of this
saffron drink and this sandwich like multiple times a week.
And for me, it feels like the greatest joy, but it's so
simple, but it's so amazing. And that's how easy
romanticizing your life can be. It's just like when you look at
something, you're like, lucky me, like I get to do this right
now. I went to Pilates with my
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friends and I was like, life is about going to Pilates with your
girlfriends. It's true.
Another thing that I love is farmers markets.
Farmers markets just to remind me how cute life is.
Like you see all the vendors selling their local products.
You see the the thrift girlies like selling their thrift
clothes like you see, like, you know, you got the like the
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sourdough girl like I love goingto the farmers market.
My boyfriend bought me the most beautiful smelling roses from
the farmers market and I've beensmelling them all week and just
romanticizing my life, looking out the window smelling these
roses and just thinking about how lucky I am to like have real
roses that actually smell good. Because I think like homegrown
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roses actually have the most beautiful, amazing scent
compared to like ones that you get from like Safeway or Whole
Foods even. Like I don't think those smell
good at all. But these roses are so
incredible. And I'm like, how lucky am I
that I'm in a community where I get to, like, have locally
sourced ingredients and local flowers.
And yeah, that just makes me romanticize my life so much when
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I tune into the simplicity of community and really connecting
to my community. And farmers markets are one of
the ways that I romanticize my life weekly.
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Dipping wine and pasta is the easiest way to romanticize your
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life if you are not a sober queen.
I feel like wine and pasta is just the perfect combo where I'm
like, life is good live music. Going somewhere where there's
live music is the ultimate romanticize your life.
Yes, I want to dance in public with strangers.
Like, yes, I want to pretend I'mthe main character.
Like, yes, I'm gonna like I was stumbling on the streets in
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Europe by myself when I was solotraveling last year and there
was this band on the street and I'm dancing and taking videos
and just enjoying myself and romanticizing my life and live
music. Great way to romanticize your
life. I think that's why people love
live music is because it puts you into the present moment.
It's activating your senses, which is, you know, parts of the
components that I've been talking about on how to
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romanticize your life. What else?
Listening to your favorite song while like putting the window
down and putting your hands out the car and having this
cinematic moment with yourself. Like I love playing the same
song on repeat, like the entire week.
I love it. I love listening to like my
girly pop songs and driving. It just makes me so in love with
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life. I was listening to Addison's Ray
Song, Money's everything pocketball, the sunshine, but
and she's like, girls just want to have fun.
And I'm like driving down the street being like I'm a girl.
I just want to have fun and that's romanticizing your life
and I love it. I think that's what we need
right now. Like everything can feel so
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bleak if if we let it. And it's like we just got to be
a little silly, a little playful, a little joyful.
So those are specific things that I personally do, but I'm
going to say that it's not aboutthe actual act itself.
Do you know what I mean? It's more about the feeling that
you create. And that's what it really means
to romanticize your life. I think when I think of the
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feelings, I think of whimsy. The feeling of whimsy where you
just look around. I think of cinematic when you
look and everything feels like amovie.
I think about joy. I think about things feeling
like glimmers. I feel like everything feels
like I wrote. That's literally what I wrote.
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My best friend, his grandma Janie, who's like my favorite
person in the world, Like she every time she takes a sip of
water, sip of tea, a bite of food, she's like, and she's, you
can tell she's truly present in that moment with her drink, with
her food. She's having so much gratitude
for it. And it reflects in who she is.
She's like one of the most beautiful women I've ever met in
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my entire life. And yeah, just that feeling of
like, and my best advice for romanticizing your life is treat
it like a bit like if it doesn'tfeel natural to you and it feels
like a little cringe, like, trust me.
Like, I'm out here dancing, talking to myself, being in my
own movie. I don't give a fuck if anybody's
judging me. But I get that it can feel weird
at first, but it is so freeing. Like, remember when you were a
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kid and you used to just like, run, run to the field and like,
have a little acting moment or dance moment by yourself and
you're in your own world? Like, I think we still crave
that whimsy, that joy, that play.
And I feel like if you can treatit like a bit, it's gonna be
easier for you to get in this vibe of romanticizing your life.
Like almost make it over the top, make it silly.
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Treat it like a fucking comedy bit and you will actually feel
the effects. So I hope you guys liked this.
I encourage you this week to do something that romanticizes your
life. And if you want to post about it
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And yeah, show me this week how you romanticize your life on the
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community or tag me on Instagram.
What else? Anything else?
I think the one thing that I would say before we leave, when
I'm tuning in and listening to myself, is like romanticizing
your life is a practice. And the more you practice, it's
like a muscle. The more you strengthen that
muscle, it's going to get easierand easier.
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And you're creating this new neural pathway where you see the
world from not rose colored glasses in like a negative way,
but rose colored glasses in a positive way where you still
acknowledge like, yeah, the world's fucking scary.
Like there's a lot of fucking shit going on.
There's so much injustice and there's so much change that
needs to happen. And at the same time, I'm going
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to fight for those things and I'm going to also fight for my
joy and I'm going to fight for my peace.
And I'm also going to like literally be so grateful for
this present moment and romanticize it and love it and
have gratitude for this moment in front of me because actually
a lot of people can't do that. A lot of people don't have the
privilege to do that. So I actually probably should.
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And through the liberation of yourself, through joy, through
whimsy, you are actually freeingeverybody around you for the
systems that make us feel like we need to be miserable in order
to. Be interesting or cool or
whatever. And the truth is, the people who
are my favorite people are the people who are just like willing
to have fun and put themselves out there and do the damn thing
and be silly. And those people are much
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happier than the people who are judging them.
So romanticize your fucking life.
Tap into your senses. Tap into the specific moment in
front of you. Ground into your body.
You want the quickest way to ground into your body Also
because like I said, if you're in your head before, you want to
be in your body to romanticize your life.
It's like a prerequisite. What I really want you to do is
close your eyes and bring all your attention into your feet.
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Bring your awareness to your feet and actually moving the
awareness to your lower body andalmost imagining that there's a
white light around your feet andnow you have groots growing into
the center of the earth. And physically imagine.
Your imagination is your connection to your spiritual
source. So by imagining if you see
visuals, great. If you don't, that's OK.
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Just feel that's OK too. Have sensations in your body,
have your awareness shift. That's OK if you don't visually
see. But if you do visually see,
imagine roots growing to the center of the earth.
The more you ground in, the moreyou recharge your battery to
actually exist in these higher upper chakras of intellectualism
and spiritual exploration. Like grounding in first is the
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key to getting to that zone. So do that first and romanticize
your fucking life and listen to this song.
I'm going to play a little snippet and then tag the rest
below. Yeah, literally.
This French EDM artist, I think he's French, made the song for
my tick tock and I'm obsessed with it.
Okay, love you guys, bye.
Romanticize your life. Romanticize your life.
But how? But how do you actually do it?
Not in theory, but like technically in an actionable
way. Like when you show up to your
everyday life, how do you actually romanticize it?
Because everybody's telling you to romanticize your life, but
nobody is telling you how the fuck to actually do it.
(00:20):
What is up, guys? I'm Kayla Rose, your host of
Skinny Dipping, the podcast where we strip down and we dive
in. Metaphorically, Yes,
Metaphorically get your head outof your ass.
No, but also literally, like if you want to actually go skinny
dipping, like I'm your girl, like I'm down, I want to be in a
lake butt naked. I want to be in the ocean and
just casually take my bathing suit off when nobody sees.
(00:41):
Like I want to be a free mermaidfairy.
What's so wrong about that? Skinny dipping is for the
girlies who love being creative,who they love inner exploration,
who are really just on their path to being their most aligned
self, who has the most integritywith what they want.
If you guys are watching on Spotify right now, you'll see
(01:02):
that I'm outside underneath the tree, truly in my element.
It was windy before, but now it's just sunny.
I'm beautiful and amazing. You're going to hear the birds
in the back. And I just want to take you into
this world as we talk about romanticizing our motherfucking
life and how to actually do it because I have this episode that
I've done in the past. So this is a follow up episode.
I want to go over the last romanticize your life episode a
(01:25):
little bit because a lot of people have found me from that
TikTok that I made or from that podcast that I made.
And whenever the universe or Godor source or my spirit guides or
my ancestors, whoever it is on my spirit team helping me out,
whenever they push a video forthand show the world, for example,
(01:45):
the romanticize your life video or they, you know, that video
literally led to somebody sampling it and making a house
song to it. I wanna actually play it in here
at the end because I say in it, I'm like, romanticize your life,
tap into your five senses, your touch, your taste, your smell.
(02:06):
And it's like building up to this moment.
And then it drops. I go, my life is fucking
beautiful. Boom drops.
And I feel like God or the universe or source, whatever you
believe in, I believe in it all.I definitely feel like it pushed
that topic, that piece of content, because it's something
(02:26):
that I'm supposed to talk about.And I just feel like I begin to
notice those synchronicities andthose little nudges from the
universe like keep doing this, keep going this way.
And I feel like romanticizing your life is something that I am
meant to talk about because I think before I got into healing
and really going through the dark night of the soul and
really exploring the tower moments of life and the more
(02:47):
sticky stuck parts that I've talked a lot about in my
podcast. I feel like before I was that
person, like I feel like my giftsince I was born was kind of
being a sunshine, like a light. And now that I've unlearned how
to be the performative version of that, like I, I'm not really
the performative sunshine anymore.
(03:09):
Like I do still resonate that I feel like I have this spark in
the soul and this light within me that really makes others feel
like their life is beautiful too.
And I think a lot of my friends have said this to me that when
they're around me, they really just do feel uplifted and seen
and like life is romantic. Everything is romantic, in the
(03:33):
words of Charli XCX. Like everything is romantic,
everything is beautiful, like everything is art.
And I feel like every time I talk about that, everyone really
resonates and I really resonate.So I'm going to keep talking
about it because why the fuck not?
Before we get into stripping down and diving in today, make
sure to go ahead and just followor subscribe on Spotify.
And if you want to share this episode on Instagram, tag me at
(03:54):
Sundays KK at Skinny Dipping Diaries.
It's all going to be linked below.
But you know, when you share or you copy the link and you send
it to a friend, it really does help the Spotify algorithm say,
hey, people like this more people want to see it.
And I think my goal for skinny dipping summer is just like more
new homies in the community. So sharing really helps them.
You know, I really appreciate you guys and love you guys.
(04:16):
And you guys are my girls. You guys are my sisters, and I
appreciate everything that we get to talk about together.
Look at that wind confirmation. Do you hear that?
OK, so let's get into it. The old episode of Romanticize
your Life. I talked about how romanticizing
your life for me was all about tapping into my senses and
(04:39):
really getting grounded in my body because I'm the type of
person. I'm a Gemini moon.
If you know anything about astrology, I can be in my mind a
lot. And the truth is, when we're
really in our mind, when we're really in these upper chakras,
when we have a lot of energetic energy bouncing around up here
in our mind, you can literally feel that your energy is more
(04:59):
concentrated and more gathered at the top of your head.
And you may feel a lack of clarity.
You may feel confused, you may feel overwhelmed, you may feel
anxious. And that's just because the mind
is really running the show. And I think to romanticize our
life, we have to tap into the present moment.
And in order to tap into the present moment, what we have to
do is we have to tap into our body.
(05:20):
We have to ground into our physical body.
Because the truth is when you ground down into your physical
body and you feel dropped in, you feel connected to your
senses, you feel connected to your physical body, you feel
present in your body. Because what happens, honestly,
that I found is if people grew up with a lot of anxiety or they
(05:42):
have certain types of trauma or,you know, they're just
perfectionists or people pleasers, they're in their head
a lot. And I feel like they develop, if
you relate to this at all, people develop this trait of
being in their head a lot because it wasn't safe to be in
their body, maybe physically or maybe emotionally.
People were mean in their households.
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There was, you know, verbal abuse going on.
So they had to like hide in their head or also if they're
just a really anxious person andmaybe got a lot of social
anxiety in school when they wereyounger, in elementary school,
they may have created this worldin their head that they always
go to because of that anxiety and to escape it.
And our brain, our monkey mind, you know, is really just always
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trying to protect us from discomfort.
And because of that, we escape to our minds.
So by dropping into our body, that's when we get to be
present. And when we're present with the
moment in front of us, that's when we can romanticize our
life. So it's all connected, you see.
So I think the quickest way to tap into your body is by tuning
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into your senses, right? Like what do you see around you?
Can you name three things that you see, five things that you
hear? You know, you've all heard that,
but really, can you tap into your senses?
Can you tap into, you know, you're drinking your morning
matcha and you're just like saying a physical after it.
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You're like physically in your body and tasting and smelling
how good it is. And you love this matcha because
this matcha creates energy in your body and it connects to
your energy body and just boostsyour mood.
It feels so good. And sitting in that presence
with something so simple, tapping into your senses and
having gratitude for something so mundane and so simple.
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This is the key to romanticizingyour life, tapping into your
taste when you're eating, you know that really yummy like like
maybe you're having my go to right now is Mcconnelly's ice
cream. That was like my go to in
college like 8 years ago, but I'm bringing it back and every
time I eat it, I'm like, this isso creamy.
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This is so good. Like and just actually
appreciating it versus like ignoring what I'm eating and
just watching TV and zoning out like that is unconscious.
But I think to romanticize your life, it's to truly be conscious
and be present with the exact moment in front of you and have
this almost like endearing feeling towards whatever is in
front of you, the person, the place, the object, the moment.
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By basically having this like, aw, this is so sweet and
endearing and I may never get this moment back again.
Like that energy is gonna createsuch a deep gratitude that is
going to romanticize the most mundane things in your life.
I really wanted to talk about how to get specific, right?
Like what are actually specific things that you can do to
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romanticize your life? I'm going to tell you about the
ways that I romanticize my life.And they're not, they're not the
ways that you think because I'vetraveled the world.
I've gone to South America, I'vegone to Bali, I've gone to
Europe. I love traveling because I feel
like it makes the present momentso spectacular and so new.
I think doing new things makes us really present.
And when we're really present, we can romanticize in an easier
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way. But the truth is, I found that
the deepest romantic connection I've had to my life where I look
around and I'm like, everything is beautiful, everything is
romantic. I'm so lucky.
I'm so grateful. Those moments actually come from
the most simplistic things. And I think traveling helped me
practice loving the simplistic moments because in Europe, it's
like, you know, your your cappuccino in the morning on the
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deck is just like the most perfect moment of the day.
And I think traveling has taughtme how other countries view life
and how they see it as somethingas precious, and they should see
the current moment as something they should be present with
rather than just like scrolling on their phones or dissociating.
So these are the specific ways Ipersonally romanticize my life.
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I never feel like I romanticize my life more than when I'm on a
walk with my dog. I'm born and raised in Maui and
so whenever I walk outside, it is so green, so many plants, so
many trees, so many butterflies,dragonflies, chickens, cats,
deer, so many animals on my Rd. It's literally crazy.
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And I go on a walk with my dog and I just, you know, we'll
start to notice maybe a certain color or maybe just start naming
things I'm grateful for. And these are the moments that I
feel so fucking in love with my life.
It's the simplest moment of taking my dog on a walk that I
feel like everything is romanticand magical.
Another way that I love love to romanticize my life is I get
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this drink. I think they like use the Kin
Euphorics drink and then add a couple things to it.
But for the most part, I think it's the Kin Euphorics drink.
I'm not sure which one, but I goto this coffee shop and I get
their drink called Actual Sunshine and it's like a health
tonic and it has like a bunch ofvitamins in it and just a bunch
of healthy stuff, but it has saffron in it.
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And saffron, people have said, is this like miracle plant for
joy and happiness. And I swear to God, I feel it.
Like saffron makes me feel so joyful, so happy, so lit up in
my body. And I absolutely fucking love
it. So I go to this coffee shop
about 15, ten, 15 minutes away and I get my drink.
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I sit down, I journal my thoughts or I take it to go and
come back home and work. And I'm like romanticizing my
life because I'm getting my favorite drink ever.
And I get my favorite sandwich too.
Right next door. There's this chicken focaus,
chicken focaus sandwich where the woman makes this like
homemade focaution. It's just amazing.
Like when I take a bite of out of that foca, I am truly
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romanticizing my life. And I get this combo of this
saffron drink and this sandwich like multiple times a week.
And for me, it feels like the greatest joy, but it's so
simple, but it's so amazing. And that's how easy
romanticizing your life can be. It's just like when you look at
something, you're like, lucky me, like I get to do this right
now. I went to Pilates with my
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friends and I was like, life is about going to Pilates with your
girlfriends. It's true.
Another thing that I love is farmers markets.
Farmers markets just to remind me how cute life is.
Like you see all the vendors selling their local products.
You see the the thrift girlies like selling their thrift
clothes like you see, like, you know, you got the like the
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sourdough girl like I love goingto the farmers market.
My boyfriend bought me the most beautiful smelling roses from
the farmers market and I've beensmelling them all week and just
romanticizing my life, looking out the window smelling these
roses and just thinking about how lucky I am to like have real
roses that actually smell good. Because I think like homegrown
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roses actually have the most beautiful, amazing scent
compared to like ones that you get from like Safeway or Whole
Foods even. Like I don't think those smell
good at all. But these roses are so
incredible. And I'm like, how lucky am I
that I'm in a community where I get to, like, have locally
sourced ingredients and local flowers.
And yeah, that just makes me romanticize my life so much when
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I tune into the simplicity of community and really connecting
to my community. And farmers markets are one of
the ways that I romanticize my life weekly.
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Dipping wine and pasta is the easiest way to romanticize your
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life if you are not a sober queen.
I feel like wine and pasta is just the perfect combo where I'm
like, life is good live music. Going somewhere where there's
live music is the ultimate romanticize your life.
Yes, I want to dance in public with strangers.
Like, yes, I want to pretend I'mthe main character.
Like, yes, I'm gonna like I was stumbling on the streets in
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Europe by myself when I was solotraveling last year and there
was this band on the street and I'm dancing and taking videos
and just enjoying myself and romanticizing my life and live
music. Great way to romanticize your
life. I think that's why people love
live music is because it puts you into the present moment.
It's activating your senses, which is, you know, parts of the
components that I've been talking about on how to
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romanticize your life. What else?
Listening to your favorite song while like putting the window
down and putting your hands out the car and having this
cinematic moment with yourself. Like I love playing the same
song on repeat, like the entire week.
I love it. I love listening to like my
girly pop songs and driving. It just makes me so in love with
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life. I was listening to Addison's Ray
Song, Money's everything pocketball, the sunshine, but
and she's like, girls just want to have fun.
And I'm like driving down the street being like I'm a girl.
I just want to have fun and that's romanticizing your life
and I love it. I think that's what we need
right now. Like everything can feel so
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bleak if if we let it. And it's like we just got to be
a little silly, a little playful, a little joyful.
So those are specific things that I personally do, but I'm
going to say that it's not aboutthe actual act itself.
Do you know what I mean? It's more about the feeling that
you create. And that's what it really means
to romanticize your life. I think when I think of the
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feelings, I think of whimsy. The feeling of whimsy where you
just look around. I think of cinematic when you
look and everything feels like amovie.
I think about joy. I think about things feeling
like glimmers. I feel like everything feels
like I wrote. That's literally what I wrote.
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My best friend, his grandma Janie, who's like my favorite
person in the world, Like she every time she takes a sip of
water, sip of tea, a bite of food, she's like, and she's, you
can tell she's truly present in that moment with her drink, with
her food. She's having so much gratitude
for it. And it reflects in who she is.
She's like one of the most beautiful women I've ever met in
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my entire life. And yeah, just that feeling of
like, and my best advice for romanticizing your life is treat
it like a bit like if it doesn'tfeel natural to you and it feels
like a little cringe, like, trust me.
Like, I'm out here dancing, talking to myself, being in my
own movie. I don't give a fuck if anybody's
judging me. But I get that it can feel weird
at first, but it is so freeing. Like, remember when you were a
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kid and you used to just like, run, run to the field and like,
have a little acting moment or dance moment by yourself and
you're in your own world? Like, I think we still crave
that whimsy, that joy, that play.
And I feel like if you can treatit like a bit, it's gonna be
easier for you to get in this vibe of romanticizing your life.
Like almost make it over the top, make it silly.
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Treat it like a fucking comedy bit and you will actually feel
the effects. So I hope you guys liked this.
I encourage you this week to do something that romanticizes your
life. And if you want to post about it
on the soul and progress community, that's a great place
to just share about what it is you're doing to apply this
knowledge from the episodes. There's the studio where we have
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breath work, meditations, EFT tapping.
But I think my favorite part of the Soul and Progress app is
literally like getting to see your guys's thoughts, your
photos, your art, your sub stackarticles.
Like I love seeing what you guyscreate and your thoughts and
your knowledge and your downloads that you received
during the episode. So go ahead, join the Soul and
Progress community. There's a 10 day free trial.
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Yeah. And also I used to have it that
there are different tiers. There was like Tier 1, Tier 2,
tier 3. Now it's just one tier because I
want all the girlies to have access to the health reports,
the astrology reports. We have everything in this
community. And I just want it to be like
one big sisterhood. So I dropped it down where it's
$10 a month for literally everyone.
And yeah, show me this week how you romanticize your life on the
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community or tag me on Instagram.
What else? Anything else?
I think the one thing that I would say before we leave, when
I'm tuning in and listening to myself, is like romanticizing
your life is a practice. And the more you practice, it's
like a muscle. The more you strengthen that
muscle, it's going to get easierand easier.
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And you're creating this new neural pathway where you see the
world from not rose colored glasses in like a negative way,
but rose colored glasses in a positive way where you still
acknowledge like, yeah, the world's fucking scary.
Like there's a lot of fucking shit going on.
There's so much injustice and there's so much change that
needs to happen. And at the same time, I'm going
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to fight for those things and I'm going to also fight for my
joy and I'm going to fight for my peace.
And I'm also going to like literally be so grateful for
this present moment and romanticize it and love it and
have gratitude for this moment in front of me because actually
a lot of people can't do that. A lot of people don't have the
privilege to do that. So I actually probably should.
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And through the liberation of yourself, through joy, through
whimsy, you are actually freeingeverybody around you for the
systems that make us feel like we need to be miserable in order
to. Be interesting or cool or
whatever. And the truth is, the people who
are my favorite people are the people who are just like willing
to have fun and put themselves out there and do the damn thing
and be silly. And those people are much
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happier than the people who are judging them.
So romanticize your fucking life.
Tap into your senses. Tap into the specific moment in
front of you. Ground into your body.
You want the quickest way to ground into your body Also
because like I said, if you're in your head before, you want to
be in your body to romanticize your life.
It's like a prerequisite. What I really want you to do is
close your eyes and bring all your attention into your feet.
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Bring your awareness to your feet and actually moving the
awareness to your lower body andalmost imagining that there's a
white light around your feet andnow you have groots growing into
the center of the earth. And physically imagine.
Your imagination is your connection to your spiritual
source. So by imagining if you see
visuals, great. If you don't, that's OK.
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Just feel that's OK too. Have sensations in your body,
have your awareness shift. That's OK if you don't visually
see. But if you do visually see,
imagine roots growing to the center of the earth.
The more you ground in, the moreyou recharge your battery to
actually exist in these higher upper chakras of intellectualism
and spiritual exploration. Like grounding in first is the
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key to getting to that zone. So do that first and romanticize
your fucking life and listen to this song.
I'm going to play a little snippet and then tag the rest
below. Yeah, literally.
This French EDM artist, I think he's French, made the song for
my tick tock and I'm obsessed with it.
Okay, love you guys, bye.
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