May 16, 2023 • 17 mins
The one where Dylan and LTMH Host Sydnei and Morgan continue discussing dating and Dylan is overwhelmed!
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Dylan Sellers (00:00):
So I said, I'm mad confused, right? Yes, we're
starting right there. If youdidn't hear the past podcast,
like, you know, go back to theprevious episode, because I'm
here with letter to myhomegirls. Her host, Sydnei and
Morgan and outside is is trash,apparently. Yeah. Like they
don't know which way is up andneither do I bad. Okay. So the
(00:25):
last episode, we talked a littlebit about, like consistency,
right? And the importance andthe things that you can know
from a person based on theirlevel of communication and how
consistent that level ofcommunication is, even in a
short window, is what I'munderstanding. Okay, let's say I
concede this point. Okay, Idon't want to, but let's say I
(00:46):
concede this point. All right,that somehow, you can tell how
interested a person is if theystart off hot and go cold in
like a week. And when we saycold, it just means not as hot
as the first week. Right? And soit trailed off. Okay. Yeah, it
goes from jalapeno to bellpepper real quick Is what you're
(01:08):
saying? Yeah. All right. bigbet. We still have pepper, but
like, we were not spicy. We'renot really sure.
Morgan Adrine (01:16):
Apple in a minute, you just hear for color.
Just hear from color. Okay,
Dylan Sellers (01:19):
so what part does your like? Because the
consistent question that I hadis like, where you're meeting
these people? Like what part ofyour like, how, what role does
your community play? Andsomething like this? So like,
you're talking to this guy? Whoknows that you're talking to
this guy? Is this a? Becausewe're only in the talking stage
(01:40):
when he got to boyfriendgirlfriend like, we only two
weeks we met this guy, and we'retalking to him, right? So like,
what role does your communitiesplay in this? Are we having
conversations with yourcommunity about
Morgan Adrine (01:53):
I do my community is big, because even though it's
only been, what a week, twoweeks, three weeks, however
long, I know if you're somebodythat I want to continue to put
my invest my time into. Sobecause I know that you're
someone I want to continuethings with my closest friends,
no, I'm probably starting tohave conversations with my mom
like it is it's guy that imfeelin. And we've been a couple
days, blah, blah. So mycommunity does play a role. Now,
(02:15):
they might not necessarily havemet you yet. But they may know
small things about you.
Sydeni Sellers (02:22):
For me, the first week, maybe two people
know because I'm still trying tofigure it out where I may not
even like you like that, orwhatever. And we just tried to
test the waters, I'll see whereit's gonna go. But towards like
the second or third week, ifeverything is going well, then
(02:45):
I'll probably still rely on myclosest closest friends, right.
But I don't really involve awhole lot of people or community
with my dating.
Dylan Sellers (02:57):
I' m following that. I think that like that's,
it's interesting, because whileyou're talking about marriage,
right, marriage is like thefirst building block to
community. Right? It's one ofthose things that make people
family. Right, right, like andso like, you build families
based on that, and you buildcommunities based on families,
(03:18):
that kind of thing. And so like,we have talked about, like, love
and relationships as like a veryprivate thing when parts of it
is but it is essential tocommunity. Right. That makes
sense. Yeah. And so like, I'm,I'm confused about like, so let
(03:39):
me ask this question. Right. Sobecause you're in a baked me,
let me Yeah, I don't know. I'msure by the end of this episode,
I will be right. But like, I'mdefinitely baked. I'm on my way.
So let's say scenario, startedout hot. Right? And I go,
(04:04):
coldish. I go from texting youevery day. Right? Once you give
me your phone number I'm textingor calling, checking in every
day, then I gotta like threedays, two days, that week, and I
don't schedule a date. Right?
But then the following week, Ipick back up again. What does
that say?
Morgan Adrine (04:28):
I don't really base too much off of it.
Dylan Sellers (04:30):
Do we not even get to that third week because
my second week was too cold when
Morgan Adrine (04:34):
you get to that third week with me but I'm
already on the hot seat withyou. You already see me you
Sydnei your head is gone
Dylan Sellers (04:44):
I'm already on the hot seat so you skeptical no
I will
Morgan Adrine (04:47):
give you grace now you ain't got to pull out no
tricks. But I the when I do talkto you that every other day I'm
gonna ask you like so how's yourday? What's been going on? Like
I'm adding you. I'm asking youthese leading questions to kind
of see what's going on. Oh, noone in your life and why you
kind of fell off your chair?
Sydeni Sellers (05:04):
I think you know what, for me? Oh, no, I think to
be to be completely honest, itreally goes off of how I feel
about this person. Okay, I'mjust gonna be honest. Okay.
Dylan Sellers (05:15):
Um, so if so, so let's say I'm cute and God
fearing. And I like, you no,kids.
Morgan Adrine (05:21):
Listen, we don't even molding? Um,
Dylan Sellers (05:26):
so it depends on the package that I show up in.
Sydeni Sellers (05:29):
No. So no, for me, I think it because all of
that would have been establishedbefore you went cold right
there. So if this was notestablished before you went
cold? Are you out of here?
Because I mean, I don't see it.
There's no value in me waitinguntil you get back warm to know.
But I think if that wasestablished and identify and I
(05:52):
find a level of interest in you,then I will consider a another
opportunity.
Morgan Adrine (06:00):
And that's why I appreciate what you said about
discernment. Because that's howit is for me, like I'm big on
discernment. I'm gonna use myintuition and my gut like, how
do you make me feel right? Andthat week? Have you kind of do I
get a good feeling off you? Ordo I feel like oh, maybe he
might be a little sneaky. Youknow what
Dylan Sellers (06:14):
that was Carry, you texting? And he's not
responding. So like, is the isthe temperature of the
relationship completelydependent on the guy?
Morgan Adrine (06:24):
No, it's dependent on me also, but I can
say that if I'm texting
Dylan Sellers (06:27):
Sydnei's face said, No, Sydnei, you know, yall
in completely
Morgan Adrine (06:33):
different places.
But let me say this, if I'mtexting you, and you're not
responding for hours, but I lookon Instagram, and I see that you
just posted something.
Dylan Sellers (06:43):
I have to think about what to text you back.
Morgan Adrine (06:46):
I feel like if the connection is there, you
should not think like, I don'tknow. Okay,
Dylan Sellers (06:50):
so you don't know how men's minds work?
Sydeni Sellers (06:53):
And you know, what, if you
Morgan Adrine (06:54):
could be on Instagram, but you can't text me
back? That's a problem.
Dylan Sellers (06:57):
Why? No, I don't have to think it's hard to be on
Instagram.
Sydeni Sellers (06:59):
But that's one thing that I'm accepting, okay,
that you guys operate on adifferent? Well, I will say is
that no, the burden is not onthe guy to Text. I'm working
through something. This is atransparent space. So I'm going
to share a safe space. It'ssafe, and it's a transparent
(07:22):
space. So I am working throughthe idea of double texting. I
know. I know. I know. I know. Iam not a double text. I
Dylan Sellers (07:31):
don't like wait, what is double texting? Oh,
Sydeni Sellers (07:33):
if I send a message,
Morgan Adrine (07:35):
obviously you don't double text males because
girl, we'd be double, triplequadruple. Okay.
Sydeni Sellers (07:39):
Well, in this scenario, we don't
Dylan Sellers (07:41):
know what is double text. Okay, so
Sydeni Sellers (07:43):
if I text you, and you don't text me back, I'm
going to wait until you respondto my text. I'm not going to
text you and actually want torespond. Or like, I'm not going
to text you after I didn't knowthat receiver. But in some
cases, like that's partially
Morgan Adrine (07:57):
an ego thing.
Unknown (08:00):
Could be people, people do double tax and some people is
like, Well, why don't you wantto? But that's something that I
just I feel like if you had timeto answer the first day, he was
gonna answer that Text. Text.
He's saying the first thing youknow, so I'm not necessarily a
double texter. But I won't putthe burden of conversation on
(08:22):
the other person. So if it goesdays or a day, and I'm
interested, obviously, I'mthinking about this person. If
you're on my mind, I'm gonnareach out. Now you don't text me
back. I thought I reached out,you know, where you go. You
know, yeah, and
Morgan Adrine (08:39):
no sort of allocation plays involved.
Because again, if I see it,okay, you could be busy. And I
don't hear from you for fourhours. But that's where you
should be grown enough tocommunicate. Say, Hey, I'm
sorry. I've been busy. What areyou?
Dylan Sellers (08:50):
I don't owe you that after a week. Not at all
that you do. No, no, absolutelynot. Absolutely not on all you
got to tell you my question. Oh,I've been busy. So. Okay.
Sydeni Sellers (09:03):
At what point my question is, at what point do
you owe Do you owe explanationfor your absence? Or your
presence? Not
Dylan Sellers (09:11):
after two weeks?
No, I'm saying at what pointafter we've gotten serious
there's been some like, do wehave titles? Well, we're only
dating. You know me. So like, ifyou're telling me that the
relationship is such that we'rejust getting to know each other?
I don't owe you anything at thatpoint. But
Morgan Adrine (09:28):
it should be a common courtesy that if I heard
no since nine o'clock in themorning, and it's 730 at night,
that's something
Dylan Sellers (09:35):
that's something that my wife can say to me. You
can't say that to me. I heardfrom you since I don't
Morgan Adrine (09:41):
know I say it now but I feel like it should be a
human courtesy my bed I've beenbusy What do you
Dylan Sellers (09:47):
you don't expect that from your friend? But I do
Sydeni Sellers (09:49):
but you know, but you know sometimes it's hard
to see you know something that'sinteresting
Dylan Sellers (09:53):
if you that you have texted me right and I hear
you I'm let you get it rightbecause like this topic Yeah,
like Hatake if you have a likeit, we're friends. And you have
been texting me, right? And wewere in the middle of a text
conversation, right? And then Idropped off because we were in
the middle of a textconversation. The next time I
come in, Oh, my bad XYZ washappening, but this was going on
(10:15):
like, or I'm replying to hermessage. That's common courtesy,
right? But if me, you text goodmorning And the conversation is
over. And then you don't hearfrom me again, till like six, I
don't owe you an explanation onwhy you hear from me. If you
don't hear from me until thenext day, I don't owe you an
explanation. There's nothingtying us there.
Morgan Adrine (10:33):
But what you just said is if we have no
conversation, and all of asudden, I don't know, hear from
you for a couple of days.
Dylan Sellers (10:39):
Right. So like, this is the level of
responsibility that exists inthis space is bonkers.
Sydeni Sellers (10:51):
So I have a question. Okay. My question
would be, does the level ofinterest matter and consistency
of communication when it comesto guys? Yes. So would you?
Dylan Sellers (11:08):
Yes. Would you?
Go ahead.
Sydeni Sellers (11:11):
If you were interested in someone, you would
be interested in them enough tosee how they were throughout
their day? Not throughout theday?
Dylan Sellers (11:23):
And no point?
Sometimes like it would, itwould honestly depend on what
was going on. But I don't oweyou that. Right. Like the
implication here. Is that like,I owe that to prove my interest.
Right. But the truth is, is notgoing the other way. Right? So
like, you're not I don't know ifyou're interested in me, either.
(11:47):
And so like my interest for youcould be at a place, but you're
waiting for me to prove thatinterest to you. Before you feel
safe enough to prove it to me.
Let's see. I'm not glad
Sydeni Sellers (12:00):
no. Yeah, so I don't this not this. So the
responsibility of the here.
Dylan Sellers (12:06):
This isn't such a different conference.
Sydeni Sellers (12:10):
We're not just waiting for somebody to say Oh,
I like you right before I say Ilike you know if I like you
before you tell me you like me.
I'm gonna tell you that I likeyou. Right, yeah. Okay, so if we
have
Dylan Sellers (12:23):
all of this happening in like, week one or
two,
Morgan Adrine (12:26):
because we're very intentional with our time
Sydeni Sellers (12:28):
you can so my thing is, you know, you can know
youand uh, you also have to, you
have to one thing I always sayis know your audience, men and
women alike. You know very wellif you are approaching a woman
who is a serial dater, and sheout here kicking it, you know
the vibes you know very well foryou approaching to dude who's a
(12:50):
serial dater, and he just outhere kicking it, you know, the
vibes. So if you know, I'm awoman, that I don't go on a
whole lot of dates, and I don'tentertain a whole lot of people,
when you get over here actsaccordingly. When you get your
legs over here. You know whatthe expectation is? You got to
know your audience, you can'tcome over here and just assume
(13:11):
that you ought to just be inkiddie land where you know we at
Cedar Point because we coasters,them, okay. Yeah, so I think
it's a it's a level of like amaturity, you know what I'm
saying? Like, I'm always verytransparent with the fact that
everybody doesn't have my samementality as it relates to
dating. There are women out herewho have very short tolerances,
(13:33):
they accept and respect the factthat you probably got three or
four girls and I probably gotthree or four dudes and I'm
texting and talking to, I'm veryhonest with that's not the case
with me. If I like you, I likeyou. Also, with respect, that's
something I have to identifymyself. Dating is just dating.
So if my emotions supersedewhat's really going on, that yo
(13:55):
fault sis so now I gotta havesome talks with myself, you
know, like you put you put intoo many expectations on this
young man, right? Let's go havea conversation. And
Dylan Sellers (14:05):
this is no, I'm saying this is all I'm saying.
Sydeni Sellers (14:09):
We do. So we're not I'm not out here. Just
saying. This. This this like Iself correct. So I've checked
all the time. If I feel like I'mgetting a little too hot, I
double back and I'm a personthat does not vocally harass
people. Okay, I won't say Whyweren't you texting me? So what
happened? Are you okay? Did youbump your head? Where have you
been? No, wait, he want to comearound. He'll come around. If
(14:32):
I'm available, I'll beaccessible. If not, then I
won't. And I just operate likethat.
Morgan Adrine (14:36):
I don't know if he's the last part where
everything is she helped me.
What was that? If I'm available?
I'm accessible, but
Sydeni Sellers (14:42):
Well, yeah, no, I'm saying to him if if if he
comes back and I'm available, orI'm accessible, then we can
rekindle if not, then I won't.
Like if the opportunity presentsitself then here we are. If not,
Dylan Sellers (14:54):
then it's I'm very excited about your podcast.
Yes, because I This is the typeof energy whether I'm there or
not, because clearly y'all ontwo different so the
conversation between the two ofy'all is, is what I'm so excited
about, like sharing with theworld, which is why we put the
kinds of resources that we canto help make this happen.
(15:17):
Because like, this is wild, bro.
Like this is and you know, I, Iwatch Instagram too. And like, I
stay out of the relationshipconversations on purpose.
Because like, none of it makessense. Because like, there's so
many expectations and underlyingconversations and things that
like people are saying, butthey're not saying yeah, so
puzzle that you got to puttogether. And it shouldn't be in
(15:41):
relation. But it's, it is but itain't right like because a lot
of that falls apart when it'sjust you and that individual
right, you know what I'm saying?
Like there's there's very fewhard and fast rules that like
exist as a principle. Right, andI'm saying I think that this is
(16:01):
a good place to wrap it. I'mvery excited all here with
letter to my home girl hostSydnei and Morgan. It's gonna be
a very hot summer as you cansee. podcast is dropping this
summer. Let the people know howthey can connect with you.
Morgan Adrine (16:19):
You can find me on Instagram at msmo. Marie or
go to live to be more.com toread my blog.
Sydeni Sellers (16:26):
Yep, yep. And you can find me on Instagram at
Sydnei. Jazmaire.
Unknown (16:30):
Well, this has been so i said with Dylan. I just did
what they just did completelybake my noodle. We I know. I'm
fine now.
So I said, I'm mad confused, right? Yes, we're
starting right there. If youdidn't hear the past podcast,
like, you know, go back to theprevious episode, because I'm
here with letter to myhomegirls. Her host, Sydnei and
Morgan and outside is is trash,apparently. Yeah. Like they
don't know which way is up andneither do I bad. Okay. So the
(00:25):
last episode, we talked a littlebit about, like consistency,
right? And the importance andthe things that you can know
from a person based on theirlevel of communication and how
consistent that level ofcommunication is, even in a
short window, is what I'munderstanding. Okay, let's say I
concede this point. Okay, Idon't want to, but let's say I
(00:46):
concede this point. All right,that somehow, you can tell how
interested a person is if theystart off hot and go cold in
like a week. And when we saycold, it just means not as hot
as the first week. Right? And soit trailed off. Okay. Yeah, it
goes from jalapeno to bellpepper real quick Is what you're
(01:08):
saying? Yeah. All right. bigbet. We still have pepper, but
like, we were not spicy. We'renot really sure.
Morgan Adrine (01:16):
Apple in a minute, you just hear for color.
Just hear from color. Okay,
Dylan Sellers (01:19):
so what part does your like? Because the
consistent question that I hadis like, where you're meeting
these people? Like what part ofyour like, how, what role does
your community play? Andsomething like this? So like,
you're talking to this guy? Whoknows that you're talking to
this guy? Is this a? Becausewe're only in the talking stage
(01:40):
when he got to boyfriendgirlfriend like, we only two
weeks we met this guy, and we'retalking to him, right? So like,
what role does your communitiesplay in this? Are we having
conversations with yourcommunity about
Morgan Adrine (01:53):
I do my community is big, because even though it's
only been, what a week, twoweeks, three weeks, however
long, I know if you're somebodythat I want to continue to put
my invest my time into. Sobecause I know that you're
someone I want to continuethings with my closest friends,
no, I'm probably starting tohave conversations with my mom
like it is it's guy that imfeelin. And we've been a couple
days, blah, blah. So mycommunity does play a role. Now,
(02:15):
they might not necessarily havemet you yet. But they may know
small things about you.
Sydeni Sellers (02:22):
For me, the first week, maybe two people
know because I'm still trying tofigure it out where I may not
even like you like that, orwhatever. And we just tried to
test the waters, I'll see whereit's gonna go. But towards like
the second or third week, ifeverything is going well, then
(02:45):
I'll probably still rely on myclosest closest friends, right.
But I don't really involve awhole lot of people or community
with my dating.
Dylan Sellers (02:57):
I' m following that. I think that like that's,
it's interesting, because whileyou're talking about marriage,
right, marriage is like thefirst building block to
community. Right? It's one ofthose things that make people
family. Right, right, like andso like, you build families
based on that, and you buildcommunities based on families,
(03:18):
that kind of thing. And so like,we have talked about, like, love
and relationships as like a veryprivate thing when parts of it
is but it is essential tocommunity. Right. That makes
sense. Yeah. And so like, I'm,I'm confused about like, so let
(03:39):
me ask this question. Right. Sobecause you're in a baked me,
let me Yeah, I don't know. I'msure by the end of this episode,
I will be right. But like, I'mdefinitely baked. I'm on my way.
So let's say scenario, startedout hot. Right? And I go,
(04:04):
coldish. I go from texting youevery day. Right? Once you give
me your phone number I'm textingor calling, checking in every
day, then I gotta like threedays, two days, that week, and I
don't schedule a date. Right?
But then the following week, Ipick back up again. What does
that say?
Morgan Adrine (04:28):
I don't really base too much off of it.
Dylan Sellers (04:30):
Do we not even get to that third week because
my second week was too cold when
Morgan Adrine (04:34):
you get to that third week with me but I'm
already on the hot seat withyou. You already see me you
Sydnei your head is gone
Dylan Sellers (04:44):
I'm already on the hot seat so you skeptical no
I will
Morgan Adrine (04:47):
give you grace now you ain't got to pull out no
tricks. But I the when I do talkto you that every other day I'm
gonna ask you like so how's yourday? What's been going on? Like
I'm adding you. I'm asking youthese leading questions to kind
of see what's going on. Oh, noone in your life and why you
kind of fell off your chair?
Sydeni Sellers (05:04):
I think you know what, for me? Oh, no, I think to
be to be completely honest, itreally goes off of how I feel
about this person. Okay, I'mjust gonna be honest. Okay.
Dylan Sellers (05:15):
Um, so if so, so let's say I'm cute and God
fearing. And I like, you no,kids.
Morgan Adrine (05:21):
Listen, we don't even molding? Um,
Dylan Sellers (05:26):
so it depends on the package that I show up in.
Sydeni Sellers (05:29):
No. So no, for me, I think it because all of
that would have been establishedbefore you went cold right
there. So if this was notestablished before you went
cold? Are you out of here?
Because I mean, I don't see it.
There's no value in me waitinguntil you get back warm to know.
But I think if that wasestablished and identify and I
(05:52):
find a level of interest in you,then I will consider a another
opportunity.
Morgan Adrine (06:00):
And that's why I appreciate what you said about
discernment. Because that's howit is for me, like I'm big on
discernment. I'm gonna use myintuition and my gut like, how
do you make me feel right? Andthat week? Have you kind of do I
get a good feeling off you? Ordo I feel like oh, maybe he
might be a little sneaky. Youknow what
Dylan Sellers (06:14):
that was Carry, you texting? And he's not
responding. So like, is the isthe temperature of the
relationship completelydependent on the guy?
Morgan Adrine (06:24):
No, it's dependent on me also, but I can
say that if I'm texting
Dylan Sellers (06:27):
Sydnei's face said, No, Sydnei, you know, yall
in completely
Morgan Adrine (06:33):
different places.
But let me say this, if I'mtexting you, and you're not
responding for hours, but I lookon Instagram, and I see that you
just posted something.
Dylan Sellers (06:43):
I have to think about what to text you back.
Morgan Adrine (06:46):
I feel like if the connection is there, you
should not think like, I don'tknow. Okay,
Dylan Sellers (06:50):
so you don't know how men's minds work?
Sydeni Sellers (06:53):
And you know, what, if you
Morgan Adrine (06:54):
could be on Instagram, but you can't text me
back? That's a problem.
Dylan Sellers (06:57):
Why? No, I don't have to think it's hard to be on
Instagram.
Sydeni Sellers (06:59):
But that's one thing that I'm accepting, okay,
that you guys operate on adifferent? Well, I will say is
that no, the burden is not onthe guy to Text. I'm working
through something. This is atransparent space. So I'm going
to share a safe space. It'ssafe, and it's a transparent
(07:22):
space. So I am working throughthe idea of double texting. I
know. I know. I know. I know. Iam not a double text. I
Dylan Sellers (07:31):
don't like wait, what is double texting? Oh,
Sydeni Sellers (07:33):
if I send a message,
Morgan Adrine (07:35):
obviously you don't double text males because
girl, we'd be double, triplequadruple. Okay.
Sydeni Sellers (07:39):
Well, in this scenario, we don't
Dylan Sellers (07:41):
know what is double text. Okay, so
Sydeni Sellers (07:43):
if I text you, and you don't text me back, I'm
going to wait until you respondto my text. I'm not going to
text you and actually want torespond. Or like, I'm not going
to text you after I didn't knowthat receiver. But in some
cases, like that's partially
Morgan Adrine (07:57):
an ego thing.
Unknown (08:00):
Could be people, people do double tax and some people is
like, Well, why don't you wantto? But that's something that I
just I feel like if you had timeto answer the first day, he was
gonna answer that Text. Text.
He's saying the first thing youknow, so I'm not necessarily a
double texter. But I won't putthe burden of conversation on
(08:22):
the other person. So if it goesdays or a day, and I'm
interested, obviously, I'mthinking about this person. If
you're on my mind, I'm gonnareach out. Now you don't text me
back. I thought I reached out,you know, where you go. You
know, yeah, and
Morgan Adrine (08:39):
no sort of allocation plays involved.
Because again, if I see it,okay, you could be busy. And I
don't hear from you for fourhours. But that's where you
should be grown enough tocommunicate. Say, Hey, I'm
sorry. I've been busy. What areyou?
Dylan Sellers (08:50):
I don't owe you that after a week. Not at all
that you do. No, no, absolutelynot. Absolutely not on all you
got to tell you my question. Oh,I've been busy. So. Okay.
Sydeni Sellers (09:03):
At what point my question is, at what point do
you owe Do you owe explanationfor your absence? Or your
presence? Not
Dylan Sellers (09:11):
after two weeks?
No, I'm saying at what pointafter we've gotten serious
there's been some like, do wehave titles? Well, we're only
dating. You know me. So like, ifyou're telling me that the
relationship is such that we'rejust getting to know each other?
I don't owe you anything at thatpoint. But
Morgan Adrine (09:28):
it should be a common courtesy that if I heard
no since nine o'clock in themorning, and it's 730 at night,
that's something
Dylan Sellers (09:35):
that's something that my wife can say to me. You
can't say that to me. I heardfrom you since I don't
Morgan Adrine (09:41):
know I say it now but I feel like it should be a
human courtesy my bed I've beenbusy What do you
Dylan Sellers (09:47):
you don't expect that from your friend? But I do
Sydeni Sellers (09:49):
but you know, but you know sometimes it's hard
to see you know something that'sinteresting
Dylan Sellers (09:53):
if you that you have texted me right and I hear
you I'm let you get it rightbecause like this topic Yeah,
like Hatake if you have a likeit, we're friends. And you have
been texting me, right? And wewere in the middle of a text
conversation, right? And then Idropped off because we were in
the middle of a textconversation. The next time I
come in, Oh, my bad XYZ washappening, but this was going on
(10:15):
like, or I'm replying to hermessage. That's common courtesy,
right? But if me, you text goodmorning And the conversation is
over. And then you don't hearfrom me again, till like six, I
don't owe you an explanation onwhy you hear from me. If you
don't hear from me until thenext day, I don't owe you an
explanation. There's nothingtying us there.
Morgan Adrine (10:33):
But what you just said is if we have no
conversation, and all of asudden, I don't know, hear from
you for a couple of days.
Dylan Sellers (10:39):
Right. So like, this is the level of
responsibility that exists inthis space is bonkers.
Sydeni Sellers (10:51):
So I have a question. Okay. My question
would be, does the level ofinterest matter and consistency
of communication when it comesto guys? Yes. So would you?
Dylan Sellers (11:08):
Yes. Would you?
Go ahead.
Sydeni Sellers (11:11):
If you were interested in someone, you would
be interested in them enough tosee how they were throughout
their day? Not throughout theday?
Dylan Sellers (11:23):
And no point?
Sometimes like it would, itwould honestly depend on what
was going on. But I don't oweyou that. Right. Like the
implication here. Is that like,I owe that to prove my interest.
Right. But the truth is, is notgoing the other way. Right? So
like, you're not I don't know ifyou're interested in me, either.
(11:47):
And so like my interest for youcould be at a place, but you're
waiting for me to prove thatinterest to you. Before you feel
safe enough to prove it to me.
Let's see. I'm not glad
Sydeni Sellers (12:00):
no. Yeah, so I don't this not this. So the
responsibility of the here.
Dylan Sellers (12:06):
This isn't such a different conference.
Sydeni Sellers (12:10):
We're not just waiting for somebody to say Oh,
I like you right before I say Ilike you know if I like you
before you tell me you like me.
I'm gonna tell you that I likeyou. Right, yeah. Okay, so if we
have
Dylan Sellers (12:23):
all of this happening in like, week one or
two,
Morgan Adrine (12:26):
because we're very intentional with our time
Sydeni Sellers (12:28):
you can so my thing is, you know, you can know
youand uh, you also have to, you
have to one thing I always sayis know your audience, men and
women alike. You know very wellif you are approaching a woman
who is a serial dater, and sheout here kicking it, you know
the vibes you know very well foryou approaching to dude who's a
(12:50):
serial dater, and he just outhere kicking it, you know, the
vibes. So if you know, I'm awoman, that I don't go on a
whole lot of dates, and I don'tentertain a whole lot of people,
when you get over here actsaccordingly. When you get your
legs over here. You know whatthe expectation is? You got to
know your audience, you can'tcome over here and just assume
(13:11):
that you ought to just be inkiddie land where you know we at
Cedar Point because we coasters,them, okay. Yeah, so I think
it's a it's a level of like amaturity, you know what I'm
saying? Like, I'm always verytransparent with the fact that
everybody doesn't have my samementality as it relates to
dating. There are women out herewho have very short tolerances,
(13:33):
they accept and respect the factthat you probably got three or
four girls and I probably gotthree or four dudes and I'm
texting and talking to, I'm veryhonest with that's not the case
with me. If I like you, I likeyou. Also, with respect, that's
something I have to identifymyself. Dating is just dating.
So if my emotions supersedewhat's really going on, that yo
(13:55):
fault sis so now I gotta havesome talks with myself, you
know, like you put you put intoo many expectations on this
young man, right? Let's go havea conversation. And
Dylan Sellers (14:05):
this is no, I'm saying this is all I'm saying.
Sydeni Sellers (14:09):
We do. So we're not I'm not out here. Just
saying. This. This this like Iself correct. So I've checked
all the time. If I feel like I'mgetting a little too hot, I
double back and I'm a personthat does not vocally harass
people. Okay, I won't say Whyweren't you texting me? So what
happened? Are you okay? Did youbump your head? Where have you
been? No, wait, he want to comearound. He'll come around. If
(14:32):
I'm available, I'll beaccessible. If not, then I
won't. And I just operate likethat.
Morgan Adrine (14:36):
I don't know if he's the last part where
everything is she helped me.
What was that? If I'm available?
I'm accessible, but
Sydeni Sellers (14:42):
Well, yeah, no, I'm saying to him if if if he
comes back and I'm available, orI'm accessible, then we can
rekindle if not, then I won't.
Like if the opportunity presentsitself then here we are. If not,
Dylan Sellers (14:54):
then it's I'm very excited about your podcast.
Yes, because I This is the typeof energy whether I'm there or
not, because clearly y'all ontwo different so the
conversation between the two ofy'all is, is what I'm so excited
about, like sharing with theworld, which is why we put the
kinds of resources that we canto help make this happen.
(15:17):
Because like, this is wild, bro.
Like this is and you know, I, Iwatch Instagram too. And like, I
stay out of the relationshipconversations on purpose.
Because like, none of it makessense. Because like, there's so
many expectations and underlyingconversations and things that
like people are saying, butthey're not saying yeah, so
puzzle that you got to puttogether. And it shouldn't be in
(15:41):
relation. But it's, it is but itain't right like because a lot
of that falls apart when it'sjust you and that individual
right, you know what I'm saying?
Like there's there's very fewhard and fast rules that like
exist as a principle. Right, andI'm saying I think that this is
(16:01):
a good place to wrap it. I'mvery excited all here with
letter to my home girl hostSydnei and Morgan. It's gonna be
a very hot summer as you cansee. podcast is dropping this
summer. Let the people know howthey can connect with you.
Morgan Adrine (16:19):
You can find me on Instagram at msmo. Marie or
go to live to be more.com toread my blog.
Sydeni Sellers (16:26):
Yep, yep. And you can find me on Instagram at
Sydnei. Jazmaire.
Unknown (16:30):
Well, this has been so i said with Dylan. I just did
what they just did completelybake my noodle. We I know. I'm
fine now.
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