33% of adults report feeling lonely most or all of the time. So why does it still feel so hard to talk about friendship in an honest way? In this episode, we sit down to unpack the relationships that often go unchecked—our friendships. From the people who light us up to the ones who subtly drain us, we’re doing a full-blown Friendship Audit.
We ask the real questions: Are your friends truly pouring into you, or are you stuck in a cycle of obligation and one-sided connections? We explore the power of reciprocity, what genuine support actually looks like, and how to make peace with evolving dynamics. Whether you're navigating longtime friendships that feel... off, or you're craving deeper connections, this episode is your permission slip to reflect, reevaluate, and realign.
PLUS, we play a spicy round of “Friendship Red or Green Flag?”—a game that’ll have you rethinking some of your own group chats.
Key Discussion Points:
- What makes a friendship truly reciprocal vs. one-sided
- Red flags we often ignore because of history, guilt, or routine
- The role of boundaries, communication, and personal growth in adult friendships
- What it means to “audit” your inner circle with compassion, not judgment
- Our personal experiences navigating shifting friendships in adulthood
- Why maintaining surface-level friendships can still leave you feeling lonely
- Recognizing green flags and celebrating healthy, supportive friendships
Takeaways:
- A real friendship should feel mutual—not like a job interview you didn’t sign up for.
- It's okay (and healthy!) to reassess who has access to your energy.
- Boundaries aren’t punishments—they’re invitations for clarity and care.
- Growth means some friendships will shift, and that doesn’t have to mean failure.
- Look for the green flags: people who root for you, show up consistently, and hold space without competition.
- Auditing your friendships also means auditing yourself—Are you pouring into others? Are you showing up with the same love, presence, and reciprocity you desire?
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