June 10, 2025 • 23 mins
Would opening your relationship save it or destroy it? In this provocative episode, we tackle the increasingly popular relationship trend known as "hot wifing"—where couples consensually invite a third person into their sexual experiences while participating together.
Far from a simple discussion about sex, our conversation explores how this practice fundamentally differs from both traditional open relationships and cuckolding. While many might dismiss it as taboo, we unpack how it potentially creates unprecedented levels of trust, honesty, and communication between partners.
"The longer the leash you give them, the closer they stay," becomes our surprising insight into why this practice might actually strengthen rather than weaken relationship bonds. We candidly discuss how untapped desires and unspoken needs often lead couples into communication deadlocks, and why addressing these taboos head-on could transform relationships even if partners never act on the fantasies.
The conversation doesn't shy away from potential pitfalls. We acknowledge that pressure, unequal enthusiasm, or poor communication could turn this experience into a relationship-ender rather than a relationship-saver. And we tackle the uncomfortable truth that many relationships need serious communication renovation before even considering such adventures.
Through our honest dialogue, we challenge conventional wisdom about relationships, questioning whether traditional monogamy serves everyone equally well, and whether modern couples might benefit from more courageous conversations about their needs and desires. We also explore fascinating gender differences in attraction and how these influence relationship dynamics.
Whether you're curious about alternative relationship models, looking to improve communication with your partner, or simply interested in understanding evolving social trends, this episode offers valuable insights into human connection, vulnerability, and the ever-changing landscape of modern relationships.
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Speaker 2 (00:12):
hey everybody, welcome to sake to me.
Hey, everybody, welcome back tosake to me, where we connect
people to people, even if itincludes hot wifing.
Hey it, it's me Detto.
I'm back here with Casey, hieveryone, and we are going to
get into that whole new trendthat seems to be taking the
country by storm, at least inporn.
(00:33):
Oh boy, hot wifing is a thingthat's up and coming.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Hot wifing.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Yeah, tell me about it.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I've seen it.
I did not see it on the pornthing, that's not where it
popped up for me.
But yeah, apparently guys lettheir wives do things with other
guys.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I don't think that's really it.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Well, I mean, that's the start of it, I guess, right.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, I think it's more than that.
I think it's an intimate thingwith couples.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
I agree, I think you have to obviously have a very
strong agreement relationship,commitment to it.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Yeah, obviously yeah, but I think it's got the
possibility to work wonders.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
I agree, I could see how that could work.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
I mean it's like it's opening up the ability to be as
free as you can, not feelingtrapped in a line of
communication that has neverreally been open before.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Right Together, right Together, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Yeah, it's not like you're going around cheating,
but you get a sense of thatfreedom a little bit, right, and
you guys get to talk about it,yeah, which will open up other
things.
Because the trust gets built,yes, thing is, because the trust
gets built, yes, right, Ididn't even realize it was a
trend like it is I didn't eitheruntil you said it to me and I'm
like yeah, I know what it is.
Do you know what?
Speaker 1 (01:51):
how hot wifing is?
Yeah, hot wifing.
You called it house wifing.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I know not house wifing it's a whole different
thing, whole different thing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
That's what trad yeah , those are the people I like,
the whole gender.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Oh, I'm gonna cook clean, do all that, yeah we'll
touch on that a little bit later, but uh, what are your thoughts
on this?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
I don't know.
I mean I can see if you're inthe relationship that you've
talked about all of it, you'reopen and you're honest and you
can commit to that and that'swhat you both want.
I mean I can see how it couldbe a good thing.
It's not a terrible thing ifyou're all in agreement,
obviously, which I think youhave to be right well, yeah it's
.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
It's hard to say.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I guess if you go into it, you at least your first
time you have no idea how it'sgoing to become well, true, I
mean, I guess but even thatyou've talked about it before
you've gone into it and agreedthat maybe it won't go as well
as you think it's going to goexactly, but you'll at least
both know at that point, correct, because this is completely
different than having an openrelationship yeah, because you
do.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
you do this together Exactly.
It's like the other person isjust a live sex toy.
Really, that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I know it's funny to think about it that way, but yes
, yeah, the open relationship isprobably even harder.
I would think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
The open relationship was a bad version of this.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, because you're doing it on your own.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Yeah, it kept secrets and started things You're doing
it on your own?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, it kept secrets and started things.
It's like if you don't tellsomebody, they don't know, so
who knows if they're reallytelling you everything, right?
So, yeah, this at least theother person's involved in.
It seems like it's somethingyou're doing together as a
couple as opposed to separately,right?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
So I'm not against it and even if you guys talked
about it and decided not to doit Right, married talked about
it and decided not to do itright, married couple decides
not to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, that line of communication will still open up
other types of communicationand trust yeah, absolutely so I
think it's a fucking great thingyeah, I mean, it's hard to see
that it could well.
I mean, I guess you could seethat it could be a bad thing,
but obviously these are thingsthat people are both in
agreement to, where the openrelationship.
There is definitely more of arisk of misinterpretation.
Oh, you should have done this,you should have done that.
(03:48):
You were supposed to tell meall those things where this,
you're doing it together.
How do you argue that?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
you can't, because you did it together exactly and
then nobody's so nobody's atfault yeah, right, yeah, but I
guess, like you said, it couldgo bad.
It could be like you didn'tthink it was like you thought it
was going to be, absolutely.
And your partner thought it wasbetter than they thought it was
going to be.
Yeah, and now you can argue forit, because now you're like,
well, I don't want to do it, ohman, but if you can work through
(04:16):
that, there's one more thingthat you can work through.
So who knows?
I just find it funny becauseevery time I ever look at a porn
site, it's always hot wife, hotwife, hot, really yeah, and I
never understood.
I thought it was just a thingin porn yeah, the article popped
up randomly the other day sonof a gun.
Huh, yeah, it's, I don't know.
(04:38):
I personally think it's a greatthing.
I've already said that I thinkand it's it's much better than
cuckolding, which is the newer,more modern form of cuckolding,
because it was more like adominance thing for cuckolds
okay the guy would have to sitin a corner right tied up like
he just came from a bakery oh mygod didn't get to do anything
(05:00):
so bad.
He looked like Hannibal Lecterwith a mask on and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
It is a little odd.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, it's just like what the hell.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
What does it go the other way?
Wives watch their husbands.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I don't see why it can't or shouldn't, but dudes
are ugly.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Yeah, I mean, but so are some women, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Well, that's true, that's a good point.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
But it popped up like one thing that said you know
hot husbanding?
And it said it's not asfrequent because because it's
hard to find guys that are uglyor that attractive we're all fat
and hairy, which is awful tothink of I also don't think men
and women actually view sex inthe same way.
(05:47):
It's definitely vieweddifferently, I think, on each
perspective, and I don't knowthat that means that you can't
agree on things, but I don'tknow.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I don't know how to say this.
I don't think women look at menthe way men look at women, Like
we're talking about hot wifing.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
And then we said hot husbands, there aren't any.
I don look at women like we'retalking about hot, wifing right.
And then we said hot husbands,there aren't any.
I don't think you guys are, Idon't think I don't think
females look at males likethey're oh, they're hot.
They don't.
They look at him like he'sfunny, he works he does this,
that's what you're attracted to,right, not so.
Men are superficial.
Basically is what I'm saying Idon't know.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
There's definitely an attraction with looks and
things like that as well.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Of course there is, or else we wouldn't have the Ben
Afflecks and Brad Pitts of theworld.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Right, right.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yeah, there are.
I get it, but when you go lookat any magazine, there's usually
women all over it.
Beautiful women, true.
How many gorgeous men do yousee anywhere?
I'm like there's no maleswimsuit issue you know what I
mean.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
You're right, there's no male swimsuit.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Swimsuit issue yeah, there's no, mr america is there?
Speaker 1 (06:48):
there might be.
I feel like there is like a mruniverse or something so they
might not want to go that farthey don't broadcast it.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Now there is beach volleyball for men, but it's not
nearly as popular as women,women's beach, because they're
in bikinis.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
That's my point to this I get it, I hear you.
Yeah, I don't, I don't know.
I think there's stilldefinitely that attraction.
I think you just don't see itas frequently, don't they have,
like the fire calendars, thefireman calendars?
Speaker 2 (07:12):
that's a solid point.
Yes, but that's with aprofession.
I'm not.
I'm not looking at secretarycalendars.
Do you know what I mean?
I'm done good.
Oh, when's the new femaleattorney calendar come out?
Never know it's coming out.
When is it?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
what's the new female attorney calendar come out.
Never know, it's coming out.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
When's the new bank lady, the new librarian calendar
?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
True, okay, I get you ?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
That's what I'm saying.
Women are more attracted to notnecessarily physical looks and
features, but more intelligence,true Security, right Stuff like
that.
Now there are features you'regoing to, but more intelligence,
true Security, right Stuff likethat.
Now there are features you'regoing to be attracted to.
Yeah, but I could be a big, fat, chubby guy, which I am.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Oh God.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
With a sense of humor and generally just a nice
overall, affable appearance, andyou might be attracted to me.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Possibly.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
But you're not looking at me because I'm like
chiseled from stone.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Unfortunately, you are not chiseled from stone at
this point.
So yeah, you can pretend that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, I'm chiseled from a pear, a pear, I'm pear-shaped
, pear-shaped, oh my God.
Anyway, yeah, it's crazybecause I feel like this should
have happened a very long timeago.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Well, who knows, maybe it did, we just aren't
aware of it.
It wasn't a talked about thing.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I will go out on a limb and I'll say, if it did and
it was a trend like this and itwas up and coming as fast as it
is divorce would have dropped.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I don't know.
I mean, do you really thinkthat would save a marriage?
I don't think that saves things, makes things a little spicier,
you know whatever, but I don'tknow that it's going to save
something.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
If you were ever put in that situation, would you do
that?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
No, Possibly, but I don't think that would save or
ruin something.
You already have to be on thatlevel of trust and be okay with
things in agreement in order tobe at that point, and I don't
see how that would save amarriage.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Well, let's face it, marriage is stuck in a rut
sometimes.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I save a marriage.
Well, let's face it, marriageis stuck in a rut.
Sometimes I hate using thatterm, yeah, but it's not only
sex that's the issue.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Usually yes.
There's a lot of things goingon and that's why this is
becoming.
Anybody that has beeninterviewed or asked about it or
you know willingly enough toreply to it, has said it's
helped and saved their marriages.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Actually saved, like helped, okay, because everybody
has, changes things up and givesyou something new, and it's
definitely something you coulddo together, which is nice but,
like we were talking aboutearlier, it changes your way you
speak to each other correct,which will start to change
everything else around you.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Yeah, right, yeah, so basically it becomes a
different way of looking atsomething where it was always
supposed to be taboo to havemultiple sexual partners, now
you're doing this together, soit opens up different avenues
and different things and you candiscuss things differently
because now you're both lookingat it more in the same direction
, right, which is like givingsomebody the longer the leash
you give them, the closer theystay.
(10:01):
True.
So people a lot of times peoplein relationships have wants and
needs that they don't say.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And because of that, that's when you end up getting
stuck in a rut.
You just do the same thing overand over becomes routine.
This is a little spark plug forboth of you to do.
I'm not saying you have to doit.
You could just decide to go outand take art classes together
too.
Right, probably the same thing,right maybe a little bit
different, but yes but all inall, we all know that we're
checking out other people, nomatter what you can say.
You don't do it, but you do, Ido it.
I do it all the time right uh,and then you wonder sometimes
(10:35):
about different stuff, and thenyou're like and then you talk to
people and they're talkingabout things they do and you're
like, why don't we do thosethings and all that stuff?
Because you don't speak to eachother in a manner which is
going to help you get to thosepoints Right.
This is one of those thingsthat breaks down a massive
barrier in relationships.
It allows you to be able totalk to each other more openly,
(10:55):
more honestly, more frankly, andthen you can realize they can
begin to realize that you can dothat with other things also, so
everything begins to improvenow.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
It can also cause issues.
It can also cause issues, soBecause one may not be as open
and they may even go along withit to try and make the other
person happy.
But that's you see that, oh,I'll do it, I'll do it, I'll do
it, and then you get to thatpoint, and are they really going
to do it?
And then it turns into adisaster.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
So You're in a rut, you're in a routine, you're both
like tired of everything,you're not really getting along.
It could be heading for divorceanyway.
Most likely is, given thestatistics that have been put
out there, right, and it andpeople begin to start looking
elsewhere for excitement and funand stuff like that, right.
So you're headed for a divorce,most likely anyway, given the
(11:44):
nature of the statistics.
Only right, you're gonna getdivorced anyway.
What do you got to get divorcedanyway?
What do you get to lose at thatpoint?
What do you have to lose by notdoing this?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Listen, I don't think bringing it up or talking about
it is a terrible thing foranything.
If it's something somebodyreally wants especially like if
that's something you're lookingto think about and do and it's a
fantasy, you have, great.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
First of all, if you really want it, if you're really
trying to push this, push yourpartner into it, right, you're
going to fail.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
True.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
You're going to fail at it because you obviously
already want it way more thanyou have the wrong intentions of
this Agree, right, yeah.
You have to have delicateconversations with your
significant other about it for alittle bit to feel them out and
just get those lines ofcommunication open and going.
Yeah, it's like building ariver.
It'll start as a trickle andthen turn into a massive
Mississippi and if you do itwrong you'll ruin it all anyway.
(12:34):
That's a lot of times where itcomes from.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I mean, I don't know the statistics on who's open to
things, who's not.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Oh, I don't have any of that Exactly, so who?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
knows, I mean your partner may be very.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Against it.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Totally horrified that you even brought it up.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Right, which means, and if you want it, you have to
start thinking about whether ornot you've made the right person
your partner for life.
Yeah, these are some of thethings that were never able to
be talked about because they'reso taboo.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Right, no, I know yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
And now I would go out on a limb and say that if
you're in a marriage and it'snot going all that well, if your
option was to cheat, go out andcheat on your spouse, right,
you should do this first if yourpartner's willing no, bring it
up oh, bring it up, not go outand fulfill the act but bring
this up.
You should bring this up firstand then find out.
I, because instead of justgoing out there and doing it,
you've you're going to ruin themarriage anyway.
(13:31):
But if you bring it up, atleast you have the opportunity
to maybe not do that and stillget some satisfaction for
yourself out of this.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Yeah, I see what you're saying.
I just think that a lot ofpeople are not going to be as
open to it and would be offendedby it and maybe just take it as
a and going and cheating.
And doing something on your ownis again different than doing
what we discussed, this hotwifing thing.
That is totally different thancheating.
I know it is.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
But if you're leaning toward that way in your
relationship, this would be abetter avenue to bring up first.
Then at least if your spousewas not into it, did not want to
do that.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Now you can make a decision.
You obviously know that thisisn't going in a direction you
would like it to.
The responsible thing to do isfile for divorce, get out and go
find somebody else.
But you would be able to say toyourself, well, cheating, it's
my only option now, right,because you brought it up.
And then you say, well, youdon't want to do this, I'm going
to go out there and do itmyself.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
No, that's not the same thing, though that's bad
advice.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
No, that was bad advice, it was a joke.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Like no.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I don't see the harm in it.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
I don't see the harm if it's something, Especially if
it's something you Listen.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's not something every single couple is ever
going to discuss.
I think it's something thatevery single couple should
entertain, at least Really.
Yes, absolutely All right.
In fact, when you go to getmarried in a church, the priest
should ask you about this stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
The priest should ask you huh.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
He knows more than anybody else, it might be
against the priest's beliefs.
Yeah, I mean, I think if it'ssomething you guys want to talk
about and get into, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I mean, everybody has their own thing In this day and
age, right, we were talkingabout it and you and I are both
divorced, right?
Yes, if we were married and wehad to go to a picnic and your
ex-husband was there, right?
It's basically the same thingas what would go on here.
This is for recreation.
You do this.
You don't have to look at thisguy weird, but it's just.
It happened.
(15:30):
It was a decision between thethree of us.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Well, isn't it about the other person?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
watching Listen, I'm confusing the two stories.
I want to make sure I'm clearon this, because I'm not saying
that we would do that with yourex-husband.
I'm saying you already had arelationship with your
ex-husband?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Right.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Right, and I had to go to picnic with him.
Sit there at the table and eatcheeseburgers.
It wouldn't be weird.
Well, no, right, right.
So that would basically be whathot wifing would be.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
It's a little bit of a downplay on that, I think, but
I mean, this is basically thehusband watching the wife do
this right.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
A lot of times.
Yes, which is a different levelof I get it, but afterwards,
after everything's done, if youknew the person or if you hired
them or whatever you know.
I don't know how it works, Idon't know.
I know there's websites for itand you can hire, like porn
stars, come over and do thatcould hire porn stars.
Yeah, wow yeah, there's likethree or four different major
sites, really, yeah, where youcan just hire somebody.
They're regional, so whereveryou are, they've got people.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Wow Okay, they just come on over.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Yeah, I don't know Apparently, though Apparently
they just come over.
They're all hopped up on Viagra.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Old school.
I'm here for the gangbang, truelove.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
True love is when you uh take the direct flight home
at 2 pm and uh find a bunch ofnaked people in your closet
that's interesting.
Yeah, hiring a porn star yeahyou can hire them you can, yeah,
and I think there's alldifferent categories of it too
but it's like a connection, nota hiring.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
You're not paying the person but.
I would hope you can't legallyput it out there that you want
to be paid for it I have no idea, I don't know, I they might,
they might charge a member.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
I.
I don't know, I didn't look atthis.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I don't, I don't know , membership fees to the sites
or something like that is whatyou're saying I got this out of
the articles I was reading abouthot hot wifing right, okay and,
uh, I don't know if there's, Idon't know how it works, but if
there's a membership, which Iwould assume there is, the
website pays them.
Right, okay.
All right, yeah, that'sdifferent yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Okay.
So I don't know, I have no idea.
They've legalized gambling.
Why can't they legalize sexlike this?
Like what the hell?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
These are a little different.
What kind of world are weliving?
Yourself?
For certain things, I don'treally know why people care but
whatever hey OnlyFans is makinga killing Exactly, and that's
not considered prostitution.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
Well, they're not actually having sex with each
other, they're just puttingstuff out there.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
True, True, true.
Yeah, I even so I don't some ofthe laws I don't really get,
Not that I'm by any meanslooking to go to that, so please
just make that very clear Iknow, I just thought this was
fascinating I'm like, oh, I wantto go do that, you know after
you get divorced, you have, uh,not a lot to do, so porn becomes
a vital little tool you mightneed.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Oh yeah, and I noticed hot waving all the time
and I was like, wow, let's go,this is neat and I would watch
it a lot.
I did not know it was a trend,had no idea, and now here we are
talking about on the podcastwhole article that popped up
yeah, which I'm glad you broughtit up, because now I'm in.
I think you may have just saidyou kind of were well I, I would
(18:39):
probably do it if it worked outwith my spouse, right?
Uh, I would probably do it Ifit worked out with my spouse
Right, I would probably do it.
I'd entertain it, because Iknow where I was in my marriage
and I know what I did yeah.
And maybe if I thought aboutthis, but I would probably
entertain it.
Okay, who knows, that's just me, though.
I also think everybody shouldhave sex anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, you've got a weird.
I shouldn't really necessarilyunderstand it.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Just get that question mark out of the way.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah, see, I don't have that question mark for
everybody I meet, so it's notreally a thing I have to think
about.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Maybe not at first, but sometimes it happens.
That's what I'm just saying.
Everybody should just do it andget it out of the way.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
But it could also really complicate things in a
lot of ways as well.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Not if it was accepted.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
There's so many different factors to that I
don't think that you can saythat as a broad statement.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
I tell you when a girl gets it off the table, like
that doesn't, yeah.
I mean this all invites a lotof things into your life that
you may not want Like this allboils down to personal
preference and personaldecisions Like uh then are you
going to tell anybody that youdid it?
Are you going to let it beknown Like people you know,
right?
No, that you did it.
Are you gonna let it be knownlike people, right?
No, I know oh they're swingers.
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Oh, yeah, oh yeah, they swingright.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
First of all, let me say this about swingers oh boy,
here we go I think way morepeople swing than you even think
about oh, I'm sure like I wouldsay our parents uh well, it's
not even a thought in my head,but no, on my side, but um, but
I'm saying like I bet you morepeople swing than you know
Probably.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And some of them are just ones that say, hey, we do
it, then you've got to beinvited into like a secret
society and this.
That the third.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
You have the pineapples outside their house.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You have all weirdo lighting and shag carpeting and
robes and lotions.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Oh God, it's so weird when you think about that that
it makes it like, oh ew, oh boy,it's funny.
How did we become this topictoday?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
because you picked it .
Uh, you picked it, you sent itto me.
You sent it to me and I saidyeah, I said maybe you sent me
the article I say the articleand I said this should be a
topic and here we are, but yousent it to article.
I sent you the article and Isaid this should be a topic, and
here we are.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
But you sent it to me , agreed we wouldn't be doing
this if it wasn't for you.
Yeah, agree.
Okay, I will take the creditfor this.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
This is all your fault.
I'm going to go sign up for oneof them sites and see if I can
be a participant.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Just so they'll call you.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Yeah, I'll be the third guy.
I'll get paid for it.
I got to make ends meet now.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Oh my.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
God, I got it.
What is the other?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
person called.
I wonder, Like there's the hotwife.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
The third wheel.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Who's the guy?
The third wheel or the otherperson?
Third wheel is what?
Speaker 2 (21:14):
they're called.
What do we do afterwards?
We go out to dinner.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Like how does this work?
I don't think you become bestfriends.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Well, that's what you pay a prostitute for anyway,
isn't it To leave afterwards?
Speaker 1 (21:25):
But they're not being paid, is what?
Speaker 2 (21:26):
we discussed?
No, I know.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
But I would think in most cases it probably just goes
away.
I don't think you all hang outfor the night after and have
dinner, do?
Speaker 2 (21:38):
you give them both a hug and kiss.
Oh, great night tonight.
Hope you get around Good times.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
That's some shit.
What is this coming to?
I?
Speaker 1 (21:49):
don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Anyway, we're getting to the end.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Oh boy, all right guys.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Listen, hot wife, if you must.
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Yeah, I honestly want to look more into hot
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If that's a thing, I'lldefinitely do that.
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Speaker 2 (23:59):
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Hey it, it's me Detto.
I'm back here with Casey, hieveryone, and we are going to
get into that whole new trendthat seems to be taking the
country by storm, at least inporn.
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Oh boy, hot wifing is a thingthat's up and coming.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
Hot wifing.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Yeah, tell me about it.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I've seen it.
I did not see it on the pornthing, that's not where it
popped up for me.
But yeah, apparently guys lettheir wives do things with other
guys.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
I don't think that's really it.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Well, I mean, that's the start of it, I guess, right.
Speaker 2 (01:02):
Well, I think it's more than that.
I think it's an intimate thingwith couples.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
I agree, I think you have to obviously have a very
strong agreement relationship,commitment to it.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
Yeah, obviously yeah, but I think it's got the
possibility to work wonders.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
I agree, I could see how that could work.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
I mean it's like it's opening up the ability to be as
free as you can, not feelingtrapped in a line of
communication that has neverreally been open before.
Speaker 1 (01:30):
Right Together, right Together, yes, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Yeah, it's not like you're going around cheating,
but you get a sense of thatfreedom a little bit, right, and
you guys get to talk about it,yeah, which will open up other
things.
Because the trust gets built,yes, thing is, because the trust
gets built, yes, right, Ididn't even realize it was a
trend like it is I didn't eitheruntil you said it to me and I'm
like yeah, I know what it is.
Do you know what?
Speaker 1 (01:51):
how hot wifing is?
Yeah, hot wifing.
You called it house wifing.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
I know not house wifing it's a whole different
thing, whole different thing.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
That's what trad yeah , those are the people I like,
the whole gender.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Oh, I'm gonna cook clean, do all that, yeah we'll
touch on that a little bit later, but uh, what are your thoughts
on this?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
I don't know.
I mean I can see if you're inthe relationship that you've
talked about all of it, you'reopen and you're honest and you
can commit to that and that'swhat you both want.
I mean I can see how it couldbe a good thing.
It's not a terrible thing ifyou're all in agreement,
obviously, which I think youhave to be right well, yeah it's
.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
It's hard to say.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
I guess if you go into it, you at least your first
time you have no idea how it'sgoing to become well, true, I
mean, I guess but even thatyou've talked about it before
you've gone into it and agreedthat maybe it won't go as well
as you think it's going to goexactly, but you'll at least
both know at that point, correct, because this is completely
different than having an openrelationship yeah, because you
do.
Speaker 2 (02:43):
you do this together Exactly.
It's like the other person isjust a live sex toy.
Really, that's what it is.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I know it's funny to think about it that way, but yes
, yeah, the open relationship isprobably even harder.
I would think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
The open relationship was a bad version of this.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yeah, because you're doing it on your own.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
Yeah, it kept secrets and started things You're doing
it on your own?
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Yeah, it kept secrets and started things.
It's like if you don't tellsomebody, they don't know, so
who knows if they're reallytelling you everything, right?
So, yeah, this at least theother person's involved in.
It seems like it's somethingyou're doing together as a
couple as opposed to separately,right?
Speaker 2 (03:17):
So I'm not against it and even if you guys talked
about it and decided not to doit Right, married talked about
it and decided not to do itright, married couple decides
not to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah, that line of communication will still open up
other types of communicationand trust yeah, absolutely so I
think it's a fucking great thingyeah, I mean, it's hard to see
that it could well.
I mean, I guess you could seethat it could be a bad thing,
but obviously these are thingsthat people are both in
agreement to, where the openrelationship.
There is definitely more of arisk of misinterpretation.
Oh, you should have done this,you should have done that.
(03:48):
You were supposed to tell meall those things where this,
you're doing it together.
How do you argue that?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
you can't, because you did it together exactly and
then nobody's so nobody's atfault yeah, right, yeah, but I
guess, like you said, it couldgo bad.
It could be like you didn'tthink it was like you thought it
was going to be, absolutely.
And your partner thought it wasbetter than they thought it was
going to be.
Yeah, and now you can argue forit, because now you're like,
well, I don't want to do it, ohman, but if you can work through
(04:16):
that, there's one more thingthat you can work through.
So who knows?
I just find it funny becauseevery time I ever look at a porn
site, it's always hot wife, hotwife, hot, really yeah, and I
never understood.
I thought it was just a thingin porn yeah, the article popped
up randomly the other day sonof a gun.
Huh, yeah, it's, I don't know.
(04:38):
I personally think it's a greatthing.
I've already said that I thinkand it's it's much better than
cuckolding, which is the newer,more modern form of cuckolding,
because it was more like adominance thing for cuckolds
okay the guy would have to sitin a corner right tied up like
he just came from a bakery oh mygod didn't get to do anything
(05:00):
so bad.
He looked like Hannibal Lecterwith a mask on and stuff.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
It is a little odd.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Yeah, it's just like what the hell.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
What does it go the other way?
Wives watch their husbands.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
I don't see why it can't or shouldn't, but dudes
are ugly.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
Yeah, I mean, but so are some women, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Well, that's true, that's a good point.
Speaker 1 (05:25):
But it popped up like one thing that said you know
hot husbanding?
And it said it's not asfrequent because because it's
hard to find guys that are uglyor that attractive we're all fat
and hairy, which is awful tothink of I also don't think men
and women actually view sex inthe same way.
(05:47):
It's definitely vieweddifferently, I think, on each
perspective, and I don't knowthat that means that you can't
agree on things, but I don'tknow.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
I don't know how to say this.
I don't think women look at menthe way men look at women, Like
we're talking about hot wifing.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
And then we said hot husbands, there aren't any.
I don look at women like we'retalking about hot, wifing right.
And then we said hot husbands,there aren't any.
I don't think you guys are, Idon't think I don't think
females look at males likethey're oh, they're hot.
They don't.
They look at him like he'sfunny, he works he does this,
that's what you're attracted to,right, not so.
Men are superficial.
Basically is what I'm saying Idon't know.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
There's definitely an attraction with looks and
things like that as well.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
Of course there is, or else we wouldn't have the Ben
Afflecks and Brad Pitts of theworld.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
Right, right.
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Yeah, there are.
I get it, but when you go lookat any magazine, there's usually
women all over it.
Beautiful women, true.
How many gorgeous men do yousee anywhere?
I'm like there's no maleswimsuit issue you know what I
mean.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
You're right, there's no male swimsuit.
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Swimsuit issue yeah, there's no, mr america is there?
Speaker 1 (06:48):
there might be.
I feel like there is like a mruniverse or something so they
might not want to go that farthey don't broadcast it.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Now there is beach volleyball for men, but it's not
nearly as popular as women,women's beach, because they're
in bikinis.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
That's my point to this I get it, I hear you.
Yeah, I don't, I don't know.
I think there's stilldefinitely that attraction.
I think you just don't see itas frequently, don't they have,
like the fire calendars, thefireman calendars?
Speaker 2 (07:12):
that's a solid point.
Yes, but that's with aprofession.
I'm not.
I'm not looking at secretarycalendars.
Do you know what I mean?
I'm done good.
Oh, when's the new femaleattorney calendar come out?
Never know it's coming out.
When is it?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
what's the new female attorney calendar come out.
Never know, it's coming out.
Speaker 2 (07:27):
When's the new bank lady, the new librarian calendar
?
Speaker 1 (07:34):
True, okay, I get you ?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
That's what I'm saying.
Women are more attracted to notnecessarily physical looks and
features, but more intelligence,true Security, right Stuff like
that.
Now there are features you'regoing to, but more intelligence,
true Security, right Stuff likethat.
Now there are features you'regoing to be attracted to.
Yeah, but I could be a big, fat, chubby guy, which I am.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Oh God.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
With a sense of humor and generally just a nice
overall, affable appearance, andyou might be attracted to me.
Speaker 1 (08:02):
Possibly.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
But you're not looking at me because I'm like
chiseled from stone.
Speaker 1 (08:05):
Unfortunately, you are not chiseled from stone at
this point.
So yeah, you can pretend that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
No, I'm chiseled from a pear, a pear, I'm pear-shaped
, pear-shaped, oh my God.
Anyway, yeah, it's crazybecause I feel like this should
have happened a very long timeago.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Well, who knows, maybe it did, we just aren't
aware of it.
It wasn't a talked about thing.
Speaker 2 (08:28):
I will go out on a limb and I'll say, if it did and
it was a trend like this and itwas up and coming as fast as it
is divorce would have dropped.
Speaker 1 (08:36):
I don't know.
I mean, do you really thinkthat would save a marriage?
I don't think that saves things, makes things a little spicier,
you know whatever, but I don'tknow that it's going to save
something.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
If you were ever put in that situation, would you do
that?
Speaker 1 (08:51):
No, Possibly, but I don't think that would save or
ruin something.
You already have to be on thatlevel of trust and be okay with
things in agreement in order tobe at that point, and I don't
see how that would save amarriage.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Well, let's face it, marriage is stuck in a rut
sometimes.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
I save a marriage.
Well, let's face it, marriageis stuck in a rut.
Sometimes I hate using thatterm, yeah, but it's not only
sex that's the issue.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
Usually yes.
There's a lot of things goingon and that's why this is
becoming.
Anybody that has beeninterviewed or asked about it or
you know willingly enough toreply to it, has said it's
helped and saved their marriages.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Actually saved, like helped, okay, because everybody
has, changes things up and givesyou something new, and it's
definitely something you coulddo together, which is nice but,
like we were talking aboutearlier, it changes your way you
speak to each other correct,which will start to change
everything else around you.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Yeah, right, yeah, so basically it becomes a
different way of looking atsomething where it was always
supposed to be taboo to havemultiple sexual partners, now
you're doing this together, soit opens up different avenues
and different things and you candiscuss things differently
because now you're both lookingat it more in the same direction
, right, which is like givingsomebody the longer the leash
you give them, the closer theystay.
(10:01):
True.
So people a lot of times peoplein relationships have wants and
needs that they don't say.
Speaker 1 (10:07):
Agree.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
And because of that, that's when you end up getting
stuck in a rut.
You just do the same thing overand over becomes routine.
This is a little spark plug forboth of you to do.
I'm not saying you have to doit.
You could just decide to go outand take art classes together
too.
Right, probably the same thing,right maybe a little bit
different, but yes but all inall, we all know that we're
checking out other people, nomatter what you can say.
You don't do it, but you do, Ido it.
I do it all the time right uh,and then you wonder sometimes
(10:35):
about different stuff, and thenyou're like and then you talk to
people and they're talkingabout things they do and you're
like, why don't we do thosethings and all that stuff?
Because you don't speak to eachother in a manner which is
going to help you get to thosepoints Right.
This is one of those thingsthat breaks down a massive
barrier in relationships.
It allows you to be able totalk to each other more openly,
(10:55):
more honestly, more frankly, andthen you can realize they can
begin to realize that you can dothat with other things also, so
everything begins to improvenow.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
It can also cause issues.
It can also cause issues, soBecause one may not be as open
and they may even go along withit to try and make the other
person happy.
But that's you see that, oh,I'll do it, I'll do it, I'll do
it, and then you get to thatpoint, and are they really going
to do it?
And then it turns into adisaster.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
So You're in a rut, you're in a routine, you're both
like tired of everything,you're not really getting along.
It could be heading for divorceanyway.
Most likely is, given thestatistics that have been put
out there, right, and it andpeople begin to start looking
elsewhere for excitement and funand stuff like that, right.
So you're headed for a divorce,most likely anyway, given the
(11:44):
nature of the statistics.
Only right, you're gonna getdivorced anyway.
What do you got to get divorcedanyway?
What do you get to lose at thatpoint?
What do you have to lose by notdoing this?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
Listen, I don't think bringing it up or talking about
it is a terrible thing foranything.
If it's something somebodyreally wants especially like if
that's something you're lookingto think about and do and it's a
fantasy, you have, great.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
First of all, if you really want it, if you're really
trying to push this, push yourpartner into it, right, you're
going to fail.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
True.
Speaker 2 (12:13):
You're going to fail at it because you obviously
already want it way more thanyou have the wrong intentions of
this Agree, right, yeah.
You have to have delicateconversations with your
significant other about it for alittle bit to feel them out and
just get those lines ofcommunication open and going.
Yeah, it's like building ariver.
It'll start as a trickle andthen turn into a massive
Mississippi and if you do itwrong you'll ruin it all anyway.
(12:34):
That's a lot of times where itcomes from.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
I mean, I don't know the statistics on who's open to
things, who's not.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
Oh, I don't have any of that Exactly, so who?
Speaker 1 (12:44):
knows, I mean your partner may be very.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Against it.
Speaker 1 (12:47):
Totally horrified that you even brought it up.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Right, which means, and if you want it, you have to
start thinking about whether ornot you've made the right person
your partner for life.
Yeah, these are some of thethings that were never able to
be talked about because they'reso taboo.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
Right, no, I know yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
And now I would go out on a limb and say that if
you're in a marriage and it'snot going all that well, if your
option was to cheat, go out andcheat on your spouse, right,
you should do this first if yourpartner's willing no, bring it
up oh, bring it up, not go outand fulfill the act but bring
this up.
You should bring this up firstand then find out.
I, because instead of justgoing out there and doing it,
you've you're going to ruin themarriage anyway.
(13:31):
But if you bring it up, atleast you have the opportunity
to maybe not do that and stillget some satisfaction for
yourself out of this.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
Yeah, I see what you're saying.
I just think that a lot ofpeople are not going to be as
open to it and would be offendedby it and maybe just take it as
a and going and cheating.
And doing something on your ownis again different than doing
what we discussed, this hotwifing thing.
That is totally different thancheating.
I know it is.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
But if you're leaning toward that way in your
relationship, this would be abetter avenue to bring up first.
Then at least if your spousewas not into it, did not want to
do that.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Right.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
Now you can make a decision.
You obviously know that thisisn't going in a direction you
would like it to.
The responsible thing to do isfile for divorce, get out and go
find somebody else.
But you would be able to say toyourself, well, cheating, it's
my only option now, right,because you brought it up.
And then you say, well, youdon't want to do this, I'm going
to go out there and do itmyself.
Speaker 1 (14:26):
No, that's not the same thing, though that's bad
advice.
Speaker 2 (14:29):
No, that was bad advice, it was a joke.
Speaker 1 (14:31):
Like no.
Speaker 2 (14:33):
I don't see the harm in it.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
I don't see the harm if it's something, Especially if
it's something you Listen.
Speaker 2 (14:48):
It's not something every single couple is ever
going to discuss.
I think it's something thatevery single couple should
entertain, at least Really.
Yes, absolutely All right.
In fact, when you go to getmarried in a church, the priest
should ask you about this stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
The priest should ask you huh.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
He knows more than anybody else, it might be
against the priest's beliefs.
Yeah, I mean, I think if it'ssomething you guys want to talk
about and get into, that's fine.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I mean, everybody has their own thing In this day and
age, right, we were talkingabout it and you and I are both
divorced, right?
Yes, if we were married and wehad to go to a picnic and your
ex-husband was there, right?
It's basically the same thingas what would go on here.
This is for recreation.
You do this.
You don't have to look at thisguy weird, but it's just.
It happened.
(15:30):
It was a decision between thethree of us.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
Well, isn't it about the other person?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
watching Listen, I'm confusing the two stories.
I want to make sure I'm clearon this, because I'm not saying
that we would do that with yourex-husband.
I'm saying you already had arelationship with your
ex-husband?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Right.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
Right, and I had to go to picnic with him.
Sit there at the table and eatcheeseburgers.
It wouldn't be weird.
Well, no, right, right.
So that would basically be whathot wifing would be.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
It's a little bit of a downplay on that, I think, but
I mean, this is basically thehusband watching the wife do
this right.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
A lot of times.
Yes, which is a different levelof I get it, but afterwards,
after everything's done, if youknew the person or if you hired
them or whatever you know.
I don't know how it works, Idon't know.
I know there's websites for itand you can hire, like porn
stars, come over and do thatcould hire porn stars.
Yeah, wow yeah, there's likethree or four different major
sites, really, yeah, where youcan just hire somebody.
They're regional, so whereveryou are, they've got people.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Wow Okay, they just come on over.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
Yeah, I don't know Apparently, though Apparently
they just come over.
They're all hopped up on Viagra.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Old school.
I'm here for the gangbang, truelove.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
True love is when you uh take the direct flight home
at 2 pm and uh find a bunch ofnaked people in your closet
that's interesting.
Yeah, hiring a porn star yeahyou can hire them you can, yeah,
and I think there's alldifferent categories of it too
but it's like a connection, nota hiring.
Speaker 1 (17:01):
You're not paying the person but.
I would hope you can't legallyput it out there that you want
to be paid for it I have no idea, I don't know, I they might,
they might charge a member.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
I.
I don't know, I didn't look atthis.
Speaker 1 (17:11):
I don't, I don't know , membership fees to the sites
or something like that is whatyou're saying I got this out of
the articles I was reading abouthot hot wifing right, okay and,
uh, I don't know if there's, Idon't know how it works, but if
there's a membership, which Iwould assume there is, the
website pays them.
Right, okay.
All right, yeah, that'sdifferent yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
Okay.
So I don't know, I have no idea.
They've legalized gambling.
Why can't they legalize sexlike this?
Like what the hell?
Speaker 1 (17:36):
These are a little different.
What kind of world are weliving?
Yourself?
For certain things, I don'treally know why people care but
whatever hey OnlyFans is makinga killing Exactly, and that's
not considered prostitution.
Speaker 2 (17:51):
Well, they're not actually having sex with each
other, they're just puttingstuff out there.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
True, True, true.
Yeah, I even so I don't some ofthe laws I don't really get,
Not that I'm by any meanslooking to go to that, so please
just make that very clear Iknow, I just thought this was
fascinating I'm like, oh, I wantto go do that, you know after
you get divorced, you have, uh,not a lot to do, so porn becomes
a vital little tool you mightneed.
Speaker 2 (18:16):
Oh yeah, and I noticed hot waving all the time
and I was like, wow, let's go,this is neat and I would watch
it a lot.
I did not know it was a trend,had no idea, and now here we are
talking about on the podcastwhole article that popped up
yeah, which I'm glad you broughtit up, because now I'm in.
I think you may have just saidyou kind of were well I, I would
(18:39):
probably do it if it worked outwith my spouse, right?
Uh, I would probably do it Ifit worked out with my spouse
Right, I would probably do it.
I'd entertain it, because Iknow where I was in my marriage
and I know what I did yeah.
And maybe if I thought aboutthis, but I would probably
entertain it.
Okay, who knows, that's just me, though.
I also think everybody shouldhave sex anyway.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Yeah, you've got a weird.
I shouldn't really necessarilyunderstand it.
Speaker 2 (19:02):
Just get that question mark out of the way.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Yeah, see, I don't have that question mark for
everybody I meet, so it's notreally a thing I have to think
about.
Speaker 2 (19:10):
Maybe not at first, but sometimes it happens.
That's what I'm just saying.
Everybody should just do it andget it out of the way.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
But it could also really complicate things in a
lot of ways as well.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Not if it was accepted.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
There's so many different factors to that I
don't think that you can saythat as a broad statement.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
I tell you when a girl gets it off the table, like
that doesn't, yeah.
I mean this all invites a lotof things into your life that
you may not want Like this allboils down to personal
preference and personaldecisions Like uh then are you
going to tell anybody that youdid it?
Are you going to let it beknown Like people you know,
right?
No, that you did it.
Are you gonna let it be knownlike people, right?
No, I know oh they're swingers.
(19:46):
Oh, yeah, oh yeah, they swingright.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
First of all, let me say this about swingers oh boy,
here we go I think way morepeople swing than you even think
about oh, I'm sure like I wouldsay our parents uh well, it's
not even a thought in my head,but no, on my side, but um, but
I'm saying like I bet you morepeople swing than you know
Probably.
Speaker 2 (20:07):
And some of them are just ones that say, hey, we do
it, then you've got to beinvited into like a secret
society and this.
That the third.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
You have the pineapples outside their house.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You have all weirdo lighting and shag carpeting and
robes and lotions.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Oh God, it's so weird when you think about that that
it makes it like, oh ew, oh boy,it's funny.
How did we become this topictoday?
Speaker 2 (20:37):
because you picked it .
Uh, you picked it, you sent itto me.
You sent it to me and I saidyeah, I said maybe you sent me
the article I say the articleand I said this should be a
topic and here we are, but yousent it to article.
I sent you the article and Isaid this should be a topic, and
here we are.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
But you sent it to me , agreed we wouldn't be doing
this if it wasn't for you.
Yeah, agree.
Okay, I will take the creditfor this.
Speaker 2 (20:51):
This is all your fault.
I'm going to go sign up for oneof them sites and see if I can
be a participant.
Speaker 1 (20:58):
Just so they'll call you.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
Yeah, I'll be the third guy.
I'll get paid for it.
I got to make ends meet now.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Oh my.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
God, I got it.
What is the other?
Speaker 1 (21:07):
person called.
I wonder, Like there's the hotwife.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
The third wheel.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Who's the guy?
The third wheel or the otherperson?
Third wheel is what?
Speaker 2 (21:14):
they're called.
What do we do afterwards?
We go out to dinner.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Like how does this work?
I don't think you become bestfriends.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Well, that's what you pay a prostitute for anyway,
isn't it To leave afterwards?
Speaker 1 (21:25):
But they're not being paid, is what?
Speaker 2 (21:26):
we discussed?
No, I know.
Speaker 1 (21:28):
But I would think in most cases it probably just goes
away.
I don't think you all hang outfor the night after and have
dinner, do?
Speaker 2 (21:38):
you give them both a hug and kiss.
Oh, great night tonight.
Hope you get around Good times.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
I have no idea.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
That's some shit.
What is this coming to?
I?
Speaker 1 (21:49):
don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:50):
Anyway, we're getting to the end.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Oh boy, all right guys.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
Listen, hot wife, if you must.
Speaker 1 (21:55):
Hot husbanding too, by the way.
Speaker 2 (21:59):
Yeah, I honestly want to look more into hot
husbanding Because I want to see.
If that's a thing, I'lldefinitely do that.
Good luck, why not?
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