July 15, 2025 • 30 mins
The idealized nuclear family of the 1950s – with its working dad, homemaking mom, and 2.5 children – has become increasingly rare in today's world. But what exactly constitutes a "family" now, and who gets to define it?
We tackle this question head-on, examining how family structures have evolved beyond the "Leave It To Beaver" model into something far more diverse and inclusive. From blended families and same-sex parents to chosen family connections and co-parenting arrangements, we explore how "nuclear family" has transformed into "whatever configuration provides love and support."
Social media adds another fascinating dimension to this conversation. Those perfect vacation photos flooding your feed? Total lies. We discuss the exhausting performance of family perfection online and how it creates unrealistic expectations for everyone. What if we all started posting the messy, chaotic reality instead of the curated highlight reel?
The power dynamics within families have shifted dramatically as well. Children now often possess technological knowledge their parents lack, leading to situations where six-year-olds run family meetings with PowerPoint presentations. We share hilariously real emails from listeners navigating these strange new waters, including one from a parent whose child drafted a co-parenting agreement between them and their spouse!
Throughout our conversation, we return to one central truth: a nuclear family is exactly what you make of it. The configuration matters far less than the connection. Whether related by blood, marriage, choice, or circumstance, what makes a family "nuclear" is the central role these relationships play in our lives.
Subscribe now and join our conversation about modern family life in all its beautiful, complicated glory. And please share your own "real" family photos – messy hair, sunburns, arguments and all!
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hey everybody, welcome to.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Saki Tumi.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Hey everybody, welcome back to Saki Tumi, where
we connect people to people,even if it means that my family
is better than yours.
I'm here with t-bot hey, heyand today we're going to talk
about the nuclear family okay,yeah you know those two old.
That old time show was it?
I don't know it was on tv.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
It was beaver's cleaver or something like that
no, no, no, it was leave it tobeaver.
That's what it was right leaveit to beaver.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
His name was beaver, cleaver though, wasn't?
It sounds like you're just tohurt the midsection of a young
lady?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I can't believe that one.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, how did he let that get away?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Well, that was back a long time ago.
Wouldn't let that happennowadays.
No, definitely not.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
The ideals of that are twisted by opinions of this
day and age.
Right, right, would you haveyour kid named Beaver?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Oh Jesus, no, you might as well just kill him
before he even gets to school.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, I don't know that you really want to go ahead
and do that.
That sounds a little yeah, butjust the name.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I mean, come on, no one in their right mind, no.
No one in their right mindBeaver Cleaver.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
It sounds like a kitchen instrument that you use
to just destroy stuff.
Oh, Sure does.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
He sounds like a serial killer.
He does sound like a serialkiller.
That's what he sounded likeThen there's Eddie.
Haskell.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Oh yeah, he was just a piece of junk, that guy oh man
, oh no.
Anyway.
So in today's day and age, isthe nuclear family still A
existent and B the way it'ssupposed to be?
Speaker 3 (01:40):
I'm going to go with a no on both.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Well, what's your thought?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Well, come on.
What exactly is therepresentation of a nuclear
family?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
What?
Mother, father, daughter, son.
A disgusting piece of ideologythat was lost probably three
decades ago.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
I mean, now we've got stepdads,half-brothers, half-sisters.
I mean there's girlfriend,boyfriend, they're're not even
married and they're stillraising families.
So what exactly is thedefinition of a nuclear family?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
a nuclear family is a is an ideology that people want
to try and portray, and therest of the world is looking at
them like you're an idiot.
Yeah, exactly, but this is notthe way it works anymore but
those, unfortunately, thatthough that's their nuclear
family.
And kudos to them, right, like Iwant to give props to them.
(02:29):
Good for you guys for doing itCorrect, because it's very hard
to do in this day and age andit's just so easy to hate
somebody else, like even thepeople that do have these
so-called nuclear families wherethe parents are still married,
the kids are growing up well andright and all that stuff.
They hate each other.
They freaking hate each other.
Yeah, that's true.
(02:51):
So we're getting in now.
Well, we're actually in it.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I mean, we're in July , so vacation season.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
And now you see all these pictures.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Oh yeah, oh, these people are having a great time.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh, my life's so wonderful.
No smiles.
No, it's not.
You hate the person next to you.
You freaking hate them, so trueit's like even the people with
you know broken homes and youknow divorces and all that stuff
.
They're looking at the peoplenext.
I hate you too.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's just the way today's life is and they post so
much and that's how I know theygot problems.
You see, all these posts andposts and posts.
Oh, my family's great.
It was a great vacation, comeon yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Stop it.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, who are you trying to impress?
Just stop it.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Those are the mental health issues that nobody really
dives into, it's true.
It's like if you have to postso much on Instagram or Facebook
or anything like that, youmight want to seek counseling
Professional help.
Because it's not that coolevery day, no, like today.
I was soaking wet from the rainat work.
I came home.
There's no way I'm takingpictures of that, putting it up
(03:52):
there.
What am I?
Ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
That would be pretty funny.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And at the beach.
Let's say you take your familyto the beach.
Not every second of that day isperfect.
No, you just put up thesestupid pictures and make it look
like that.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yeah, I have a perfect family and a perfect
vacation.
It was so much fun, yay, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You were stuck in beach traffic for four hours on
the way home.
You didn't take any pictures ofthat did you?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
You almost kill each other because the kids are like
I gotta go to the bathroom.
Dad Shut up.
How come there's no more snacks?
I'm hungry.
Susie took the last water.
Shut the fuck up.
Yeah, let's take the perfectpicture after that trip.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, nobody takes those pictures.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
It's freaking hilarious.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
You know what happens to everybody.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
It happens to everyone.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
It's just like oh my God, Stop this weird race you've
created for yourself.
Yep, I dare everyone thatlistens to the show to start
posting pictures that are awful.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Oh, that would be actually fun.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Because, yeah, it would be.
And I'm going to start Becausethat's real.
After we're done with this, I'mgoing to have you go downstairs
and take a picture of me in myI don't know oversized self
right now on my new exercisebike.
Oh, no people, this is so funnyexercise like oh, and I'm gonna
start off, I'm gonna postpictures that are like daily
(05:11):
life yeah they're likeridiculously embarrassing.
Okay, because that is actuallyreal life.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
That's real life, right, and that's your family.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah, exactly so now there's this whole fad that's
going on.
I don't know if it's I.
I call it a fad because I don'tknow how long it'll last.
Trad families where the womanis trying to be the stay-at-home
mom with the apron and the hairdone, makeup all set ready and
then making cookies.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Husband gets home.
Here's your loafers, here's thepaper, here's your pipe.
You know, sit down.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
I know you had a hard day at work.
I'm making dinner, yeah, okay,that's a very small percentage.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah, that's never gonna last.
I've done a lot of things wrongin my life to get to where I am
now, but the one thing I doknow for sure is it takes a
village in this day and age ittakes a village to raise
children, sure does to havefamilies, and no family is five
people anymore, two and a half,you know, two.
Anywhere between two and threepeople, right, two and three
children.
Yep, it's not like that.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
And no family is five people anymore, two and a half.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Anywhere between two and three people, right, two and
three children.
Yep, it's not like that anymore.
No, like I have my son's mother.
That's family.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Right, I have all of you around with me now helping
me raise my son.
Yeah, because of everythingthat happened, right, that's my
life, right, and it's not just anuclear thing anymore, if you
can do it nuclearly, if that'seven an adjective I don't even
know what that is good for you,good for you, right.
(06:34):
It's difficult because mostpeople have been divorced
already oh yeah, a goodpercentage yeah so, even if
you're on your second one, it'sa blended family that's not
nuclear no no right, because youstill have to deal with the
others.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Exactly Now.
You've mixed in all kinds ofother people.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Which brings us back to vacation photos.
Now are you fighting with theother?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Oh, right, do you?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Do you want to be in this picture with them?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, Not even that.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Do set the bar.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Oh yeah, the second person's got, I'll do it.
Oh, I remember those days.
Oh, my kid had way better timeon our vacation than yours.
I remember those days.
You people are so dumb.
Oh yeah, constant competition.
Stop posting shit, period.
Yeah, start posting stuffthat's embarrassing and real,
not this fake crap where you hadthe beach or your kids hit a
home run or some shitcongratulations if you're having
a good time at the beach, yeah.
And or your kid hits a home run.
Good for you, right.
Good for your, your kid, yourson, whatever daughter, uh-huh.
But post the other shit too.
Post them.
(07:31):
How about them?
How about them beating the crapout of each other with pillows
and feathers flying over thehouse?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
post that stuff right , or the beach and the wave
takes them under and they gothair and sandal over their
bodies and they're cryinghysterical or the sunburn
because you put sunscreen onstingrays, get them, or the
jellyfish, the real shit.
Oh yeah, or they have a mentalbreakdown because the wave took
out their sandcastle.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
They're on the beach and they got to poop.
Yes, oh man, oh yeah.
Yeah that's the kind of stuff.
I mean there is no war in JuneCleaver anymore.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No, there isn't, oh God, no.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
And it's gone so far by that the trad people, the
traditional family stuff,they're trying to bring it back.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah, you said that, which I commend, by the way, let
me tell you I'm not knocking itin any way.
No, correct, if that happens,that's great, yes great, yes,
well, it won't happen.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It won't happen because it's not set up like
that anymore.
Definitely not, but the ideal,the idea of it, them trying to
bring it back in in dress, likebecause you see all these people
posting these things by theseold cars, yeah, and they're all
dressed up with the you knowcigarettes in their sleeves and
stuff and the big cuffs with theblack shoes.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I think it's like your greaser.
Yeah, yeah yeah, it's awesomeright, I love seeing it, me too,
I think.
I think it's great Right.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But it's not real.
No, it's not real.
No, it is a nice thing to do.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Right, it's fun Right .
Speaker 2 (08:49):
But it's just like putting on those big what do
they call those?
Those bustiers where they shoveup your boobs and you're
dressed like you're of the oldwest.
That's all you're doing.
It's not real.
No, it's not real, definitelynot.
So I did get some emails, okay,and questions, okay, and I want
(09:14):
to read at least three of themon here.
All right, okay, because theywere all right.
Dear Ditto, is it normal thatin our modern nuclear family, my
nine-year-old daughter is theonly one with a job?
She's a slime influencer onTikTok.
My husband identifies as astay-at-home crypto visionary
and I hide in the pantrypretending to fold sheets just
(09:36):
to avoid them both.
Asking for a friend, oh no, avery tired friend that's from
Burned Out in Boise.
I read that one.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I was like oh holy shit, that really is today, that
is totally today there are kids.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
They're just making these.
Yes, these giant companiesright because of youtube tiktok
and everybody's going this wayyeah and so parents probably are
able to quit their jobs wouldn.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Wouldn't that be great.
Yeah, wouldn't that befantastic.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, but let's Look, you're here with me when we do
this podcast.
Yep, this is not freaking easy.
No, it isn't.
So it's not Put those picturesup, and that's why you're going
to catch me on the exercise bike.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Be prepared people.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
This ain't easy, sitting here through all hours
of the night trying to editeverything oh, I know put it up
like I gave up.
Work got so busy, yeah, that Ihad to give up even promoting
this thing and we've suffered alot of listener loss, right,
well, but we'll get back therebecause I will figure out
something sure, the solutionwill present itself exactly, I
won't be back there, but Ithought that one was funny that
(10:42):
was pretty pretty funny.
I mean, you just came back fromGeorgia.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Correct.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Explain to me your kind of situation.
Explain to everybody, not justme, your kind of situation and
what went on in Georgia.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Oh, why I go to Georgia.
I go to Georgia for my job.
I have a job that is in Georgia, so I need to be there every
month, month and a half, to worka week there.
It's actually fun.
I do have one of my daughtersthere and my other daughter
lives in South Carolina, so Iget to see them.
I get to see my family.
I've got friends there, so itactually is a nice little
getaway, especially when it'sreally cold here in the winter
(11:18):
or rainy or whatever.
It's hot, it's very hot.
But I have to tell you somethingthat I went to a concert when I
was there and it's so funny.
We had gone to a concert andthey set up on the golf course
and and it was electric violinsand I don't know, did it rain?
Yeah, no, we should have.
It would have been better.
(11:39):
Let me tell you, I don't knowwhat idiot set this whole thing
up, but they put the sprinklerscame on.
They didn't come on all at once, they came on in one area.
So there's this guy picturethis running out putting a chair
on it to try to stop it fromgetting everyone soaked who were
sitting also on the green.
Okay, wait so as and then thebig ones that just go over so
(12:03):
you can see them kind of comingat us and we're like no, no,
it's not going to come at us,it's not going to come at us,
yeah, yeah.
So we get up and move.
One shoots over us one chair.
The guy comes over the chair,puts it down.
One other one comes almostbehind the people.
Someone gets this one puts achair over it.
The last one hits the guy withthe violin right in his back,
soaks him, soaks his partner,soaks all the equipment.
(12:25):
Everyone is dying.
They are just soaked, soaked,soaked.
We're like holy shit, is thisabsolutely happening?
Ruined all of his equipment,couldn't even go on a picture or
keep going.
I was dying.
I'm like what idiot absolutelydid this?
Speaker 2 (12:45):
No one got a picture of it.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Oh, there's pictures.
Oh, it's all over Facebook.
Okay, all right, good, I don'tknow, it is so funny.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Because that's the kind of stuff you want to get up
to.
Exactly Because that's the kindof stuff you want to get up to
Exactly.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
But, like I was saying, people come to see this
on their vacations and then thisis what happens.
And then the guys are stilltrying to play, they're still
trying to work through theequipment.
They felt so bad, everything'sstaticky, they can't play
anything.
They were like, oh my God, youneed to stop.
We feel really bad.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
You just need to stop .
It was so, so bad.
That's hilarious that no onethought to shut off the
sprinklers.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
No, that's the point the manager comes out.
I'm like, wasn't someonesupposed to be in charge of
shutting off the sprinklersystem?
After a while I end up doing it.
But I'm like, oh my god, areyou serious right now?
I mean seriously.
But people came on vacation tosee this.
They went on vacation to seethis and it got ruined.
Everyone soaked.
It was so funny, but it wasn't.
(13:38):
It was awful.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I had to drop my violin and just left.
It's like the Happy GilmoreNine on the ninth or whatever it
is.
Yeah, just where are you Sunday?
Best Meet us on the ninth greenNine o'clock sharp.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Oh exactly, Sprinklers go on.
That's pretty much exactly whathappened.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Oh God, and now exactly, it's pretty much
exactly what happened.
Oh god, you see, that's becauseeverybody's, and now you know
there's people that hate theperson that did jump.
Oh yeah, the sprinklers,exactly.
I'm glad those pictures are upthere.
Yeah, it was funny, it wasfunny so I asked you about
georgia, because your girls aredown there correct.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Well, one's in south carolina, one's in georgia.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, yes, but they're down there.
They're down there.
Yes, right, so that's yourfamily situation.
Yeah, right, did you get to seethem?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
I got to see one of them okay yep, all right, yep,
um, but that's hard becausethey're not here.
That's my, this is my idea offamily.
If I want to see them, they'llcome up here.
They were here for two weeksnow recently.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
I go there now to know for everyone listening
they're adults they're adults.
They're not like no they'readults, they're adult children.
Yes, yeah, and they both havejobs and they both have their
lives correct, burgeoning and,yes, they're getting, they're
doing their own thing, they'redoing their own thing.
So it's not like you have likea four and a five year old.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
No, no, oh no no run, no, no, no, no.
But they are doing very welland I'm very proud of them.
Yes, but that's my familybecause and they're not here, so
and that's going to happen.
Anyway, I know they move andI'm very, you know, whatever,
but I mean my mom and dad arestill here, my brother's still
here, but I can see why.
(15:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Kids are the best thing in the world.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
They are.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Except for when they're bitchy, when you want to
kill them, yeah.
They're not like that anymore,though Do you think that nuclear
family is more popular in popculture nowadays or less popular
?
Speaker 3 (15:29):
It depends on what their idea of a nuclear family
is.
Like I said, so I don't know.
I mean, there are so many halfsisters, half brothers, stepdads
, stepmoms.
You know different familiesgoing with divorce now too.
Well, that's my point is thatoption is higher and higher and
all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
So a nuclear family can be anything, shouldn't be
isolated to.
A man meets a woman, they getmarried, they have kids, that's
it.
That's right, right, right.
Two women fall in love and wantto adopt a child, nuclear
family, that's a nuclear family.
Correct, right, right.
So is it more popular becauseof the, finally, the ability for
people to be out of the closetor to be able to be themselves
(16:10):
and say the things they want tosay?
Speaker 3 (16:12):
if that's the direct yes, that's what you're, that's
what they're saying aboutnuclear family, correct?
So many people could hit allthat couldn't be themselves.
Now that the tao yeah, I thinkit is more popular nowadays so
what is the idea of a nuclearfamily?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
and that's why that show, modern family, was so
fantastic.
Oh correct, they coveredeverything.
Yeah, they did, and, and theywere hilarious.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Yes, well, exactly, yeah, they were.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh, philosophies, so funny.
It just was so funny, yeah,that is funny.
They did a great job with thatshow.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
They really did, but yeah, but to them that was their
family, but they had like whatDads, moms, there was a gay
couple.
I mean, there was a lot goingon in that one.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
That could be a nuclear family, right.
But now is there more pressureon same sex marriages in a
nuclear family to put on like aperfect presentation, like do
they feel more scrutinized?
Do you think that they want totry, not want to try harder?
I take that back immediately.
I'm not trying to be offensiveto anybody.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
They feel like they have to try harder because yeah,
and then what actually is anuclear family?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
they feel like they have to try harder.
Oh, they have to try to fitinto the norm, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
And then what actually is a nuclear family?
Yeah, I mean I would say thatthey probably will try to make
it seem like they have to work alittle harder because of what
people think about them.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Is that self-induced, probably, or is it?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
really happening.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
It's probably a combination of both, I would
say's an easy way out it is picka side and go with it.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Dude okay, well, you asked a question I did okay and
I'm telling you a very vanillaanswer I want to give a vanilla
answer oh, that was probably alittle bit of both, because if
they have someone at them allthe time, then they're going to
feel like, oh my gosh, we needto try harder.
And or then there people likeis that really a nuclear?
That's not a nuclear family,because there's two people that
are same sex.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
That's why this is such a weird conversation,
because what is a nuclear family?
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
I don't think you could.
Is it war cleaver Not?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yeah, is that what it is?
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Is that what we're basing this?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
on.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Is that what we just consider?
A nuclear family?
Beaver, cleaver, midsection,smasher oh god, you have to stop
saying that, jesus.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Think about it, I am, that's why I'm saying stop
saying it anyway but it's likein this day and age, now, with
everything that has transpiredover the last 30 years.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
And all the advancements we as a society
have made and where we standright now.
A nuclear family is exactlymodern family.
No a nuclear family is what youmake of it.
That's what I'm saying, right,it's exactly what you make of it
.
What you make of it, whateveryour situation is, is your
nuclear family.
Is your nuclear family and,like I was saying, saying my
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son's mother is family, right,whether I get like I could not
get along with my brother, right, my blood brother, right, right
, I I do, but I could not getalong with him, right, he's
still my family, exactly right,right same.
So, no matter what I have thischild with this woman, she is my
family, simple as that, right,nothing I'm gonna do about it.
I don't have to talk to herevery day, but don't be rude.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Right, like you're family, right.
Well, now that's another thingtoo.
You slept your way into it.
Oh God, I'm just kidding.
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Sorry about that one.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Oh, jesus, sorry about that one, oh God.
But there's also the nuclearfamily, where there's best
friends who have grown up withthe kids who they call aunt,
uncle, whatever that'sconsidered family.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
That's kind of like what I've got right this moment.
Correct, yes, right.
After all these years.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Right After all that.
So there's that end of theirnuclear family.
So it's what you make of it.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
It's what you make of it, correct?
I don't think so.
No, there isn't an image for anuclear family.
A nuclear family is when youconsider everyone family, like
if you get divorced, if you gothrough a divorce and you have
children together, it doesn'tmatter, you're in family.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
You ain't got to live together anymore.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You don't have to do things together anymore but
you're family and that's it, andyou have to be family.
That is nuclear family, right?
So I guess the only way youcould really put a picture or an
image on that is, honestly, thevery last scene not scene, but
the very last image in theopening theme of Modern Family,
(20:37):
when they're all just standingthere.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Right, right, that's a nuclear family, right, that's
my opinion anyway right no yeah,it's like everybody.
Every single person on thisplanet has their, has the
ability to live their life, ofcourse, they do whatever way
they want to exactly no, if, andtheir butts free will yeah and
don't worry about whatever, butdon't put up something that is
stupid.
That you know isn't reallyhappening.
(21:01):
You got no money.
Why are you at disney world?
Speaker 3 (21:05):
we know you're broke jesus christ now you're just
lying, yeah but I think peoplein that situation want to fit in
so badly into the norm thatthey miss the real issue.
But and that's what they dothat for they just want to fit
in of what they think is normaland they don't want anyone
making fun of them saying that'swhat breaks down to mental
(21:26):
health well right, becausethey're trying to keep up this
race.
That doesn't even exist.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Exactly right, the best thing you can do in life is
just to live your life the waythat makes you happy, because
what people will really see isyou being happy right other than
that?
Speaker 3 (21:41):
nobody, that nobody cares, no one cares, nobody
freaking cares.
And if everyone's own personalissues, first of all they hate
you.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Right, everyone hates everyone.
Nobody likes anybody Nope.
So if you're trying to putthese pictures up to prove to
everyone else that you live thisgreat life, you're a liar.
And none of us do it, so we andnone of us do it, so we know
you're lying.
Exactly.
What the hell are you doing?
Cut the shit, I know.
So, all right, let me get to atleast one more.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
Oh, okay, go.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Ready Go.
All right, dear Ditto.
We tried a family meeting lastnight and it ended with my
12-year-old drafting aco-parenting agreement between
me and my husband.
By the way, it's my husband andI.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
Yes, and the door dash driver.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Oh what?
Are we still considered afunctioning nuclear unit if we
outsource all meals and allemotional support to AI and
carbs?
Emotionally unavailable andwell-fed Wow, these people
really like these things.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
It's fucking funny.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I wish I got more of them.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Yeah right, I only get about maybe 12 yeah, yeah,
that's all right, I take thebest three.
Yeah, it's funny but this one.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
We tried a family meeting last night and it ended
with my 12 year old drafting aco-parenting agreement.
They're married, yeah, why?
How does a 12 yearold alreadyknow about this?
Speaker 3 (23:05):
I know that's what's scary.
How does he already know aboutthat Right?
Speaker 2 (23:08):
And if he really is drafting it and this isn't just
like a gag whoa.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
Oh right, Whoa.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Although I got to say my son threatens to call Child
Resources and stuff all the time, all the time, go ahead, hit me
all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Go ahead, hit me, go ahead, hit me, I'll call child
services on you, you know then,you'll never see me again.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Why would you say that, dude?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
you're the one that's gonna lose that, not me, well,
I mean we both will, well, butstill you did it to yourself,
stupid idiot.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Oh my gosh and honestly, I have noticed and
this is true story, I havenoticed that there is more door
dashing in this house now thanthere has ever been.
Yeah, and I am no kidding.
That's why I got that exercisebike.
There's just too much fast foodaround here.
It's too much.
I am way over my limit.
I got to slim down.
(23:58):
I want to look good.
I want to look good for all thelisteners.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
Oh boy, I want to look good for all the listeners.
Oh boy, I want to look like asex kitten.
Oh God, hold on people.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I want to be a beaver cleaver.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I can't believe you just said that.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
It's funny.
It's funny.
It's funny, we are getting tothe end.
So I'm going to read the lastone now.
We'll go over everything wetalked about and we'll get out
of here here and these peoplecan go on with their lives.
So this one says dear sake tome.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
My six-year-old called a family meeting to ban
ipad use at the dinner table.
While presenting a powerpointon his ipad, oh wow kudos to him
.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Should I be concerned about our household power
dynamic or just accept that he'snow the ceo of our nuclear
family?
Speaker 3 (24:41):
I would just accept it it.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
It is and we already touched on that like it is crazy
how kids are becoming.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
They're smarter than us Wicked, smarter than us Kids
are watching kids.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Yes, it started out with kids opening presents,
right, and what they were goingto get.
Yep, like, who's got that timeto wrap all those presents?
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
What kind of team you got going on and how'd you get
started like?
Are you, june cleaver, justrabbit shit in the closet after
you're done folding the?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
fitted sheets right, holy shit.
And everything is about.
I saw this tiktok is literallyreally killing everything.
It's awful it is awful.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
It's awful.
I saw it on tiktok.
Oh, it's got to be real.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Oh, definitely listen to that.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Shit's definitely true right there.
I'll tell you that for free, solisten here.
Demoted to intern dad.
No, you're about on the samepage as everyone else when your
six-year-old starts telling youwhat to do.
You've lost control.
You've lost control.
You have lost control.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah pretty much.
You need to reel that shit inreal quick.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
You know, I was watching this one thing that
popped up the other day and hesaid he was talking about
raising children.
In this day and age and I'vesaid it before I ever heard this
guy speak you have to be meanonce to show them that you're
going to do it.
You never have to do it again,Correct.
If you don't do it and then youtry and bring the hammer down
after years of not doing it, youare screwed, Yep.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
I'm going to laugh all over you.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
So he said his exact words are a little mean, a lot
of love.
Exactly Right A little mean, alot of love.
Most parents are not mean yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
Most parents can't do it.
They can't do it, they justdon't want to deal with it.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Me.
You know you got no problem.
I was hit with stuff, shoes,Spoons.
My mom threw the pool at meonce.
I don't know how she got out ofthe ground, chucked it right at
me, tried to drown me.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah, that's funny, oh my God.
Yeah, parents got to get on topof that.
They can't have these kids runamok.
They lose control, and that isit.
That is it.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I was telling you a little bit earlier about a
person I know that wascomplaining about Little League
Baseball.
Little League Baseball is outof control.
Sports period are out ofcontrol it's great to see dude,
your kid ain't making it he'snot, she's not there's not
really very far for women to go,unless you're basketball true,
(27:02):
yeah true.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
There's no professional.
There's soccer, there'slacrosse too.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
I think there's not really very far for women to go,
unless you're basketball, true,right, yeah, true.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
I mean there's no professional.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
There's soccer.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
There's lacrosse too, I think Women's lacrosse.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Is there, I think college yeah, no not college
Professional, professional,professional basketball, and
there's professional soccer.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Correct, I know those two exist.
That's maybe his fit forwomen's sports as far as
professional though.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Okay, right, yeah, and very few of them make it.
Yeah, it's true, right.
And then your kid, all you wantfrom sports is teamwork,
understanding your role, doingthe best you can, playing hard
and understanding how to lose ifyou can't understand how to
lose and you get a damnparticipation trophy because you
showed up.
Shut up, go sit down, you're apansy.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
That's a hard thing that parents gotta teach their
kids.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
And the craziest thing is where we live.
It's big in sports.
It's big in sports In this town.
There's a few people that havewon the World Series.
That's how big this town isthere's a few people that have
won the World Series.
Yeah Right, that's how big thistown is Correct the way we push
kids now.
They don't even have childhoods.
I want to get the e-bikes too.
It just dawned on me.
Oh, but kids don't even havechildhoods.
(28:15):
Yeah, they're constantlyplaying a sport.
People are paying $500,000 toput these kids on teams.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yep, just let them go ride a bike, just let them have
fun, let them be a kid.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
And let them figure it out.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Right, they will, they will and if they're good,
they'll be found.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Exactly Simple as that.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Right.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
But what do I know?
I'm just a giant idiot.
Well, true, Didn't really haveto you know?
Yeah, oh, I rendered himspeechless no, I have mean
things to say.
My mother told me if I haveanything that's not nice to say,
to not say it at all.
That's right, all right,everybody.
We are at the end.
I got some editing to do, t-botyeah, thanks for being here no,
(28:57):
it's good to have you back home.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
Thank you, did you miss me a little?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
with, with, every bullet.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Yeah, there it is All right, all right everybody.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
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Speaker 1 (29:59):
All right, as always, everybody, you do me.
Hey everybody, welcome to.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Saki Tumi.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Hey everybody, welcome back to Saki Tumi, where
we connect people to people,even if it means that my family
is better than yours.
I'm here with t-bot hey, heyand today we're going to talk
about the nuclear family okay,yeah you know those two old.
That old time show was it?
I don't know it was on tv.
Speaker 3 (00:36):
It was beaver's cleaver or something like that
no, no, no, it was leave it tobeaver.
That's what it was right leaveit to beaver.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
His name was beaver, cleaver though, wasn't?
It sounds like you're just tohurt the midsection of a young
lady?
Speaker 3 (00:45):
I can't believe that one.
Speaker 2 (00:46):
Yeah, how did he let that get away?
Speaker 3 (00:47):
Well, that was back a long time ago.
Wouldn't let that happennowadays.
No, definitely not.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
The ideals of that are twisted by opinions of this
day and age.
Right, right, would you haveyour kid named Beaver?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Oh Jesus, no, you might as well just kill him
before he even gets to school.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, I don't know that you really want to go ahead
and do that.
That sounds a little yeah, butjust the name.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
I mean, come on, no one in their right mind, no.
No one in their right mindBeaver Cleaver.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
It sounds like a kitchen instrument that you use
to just destroy stuff.
Oh, Sure does.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
He sounds like a serial killer.
He does sound like a serialkiller.
That's what he sounded likeThen there's Eddie.
Haskell.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Oh yeah, he was just a piece of junk, that guy oh man
, oh no.
Anyway.
So in today's day and age, isthe nuclear family still A
existent and B the way it'ssupposed to be?
Speaker 3 (01:40):
I'm going to go with a no on both.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Well, what's your thought?
Speaker 3 (01:44):
Well, come on.
What exactly is therepresentation of a nuclear
family?
Speaker 2 (01:51):
What?
Mother, father, daughter, son.
A disgusting piece of ideologythat was lost probably three
decades ago.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying.
I mean, now we've got stepdads,half-brothers, half-sisters.
I mean there's girlfriend,boyfriend, they're're not even
married and they're stillraising families.
So what exactly is thedefinition of a nuclear family?
Speaker 2 (02:09):
a nuclear family is a is an ideology that people want
to try and portray, and therest of the world is looking at
them like you're an idiot.
Yeah, exactly, but this is notthe way it works anymore but
those, unfortunately, thatthough that's their nuclear
family.
And kudos to them, right, like Iwant to give props to them.
(02:29):
Good for you guys for doing itCorrect, because it's very hard
to do in this day and age andit's just so easy to hate
somebody else, like even thepeople that do have these
so-called nuclear families wherethe parents are still married,
the kids are growing up well andright and all that stuff.
They hate each other.
They freaking hate each other.
Yeah, that's true.
(02:51):
So we're getting in now.
Well, we're actually in it.
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
I mean, we're in July , so vacation season.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
And now you see all these pictures.
Speaker 3 (03:00):
Oh yeah, oh, these people are having a great time.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
Oh, my life's so wonderful.
No smiles.
No, it's not.
You hate the person next to you.
You freaking hate them, so trueit's like even the people with
you know broken homes and youknow divorces and all that stuff
.
They're looking at the peoplenext.
I hate you too.
Speaker 3 (03:17):
It's just the way today's life is and they post so
much and that's how I know theygot problems.
You see, all these posts andposts and posts.
Oh, my family's great.
It was a great vacation, comeon yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:28):
Stop it.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, who are you trying to impress?
Just stop it.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
Those are the mental health issues that nobody really
dives into, it's true.
It's like if you have to postso much on Instagram or Facebook
or anything like that, youmight want to seek counseling
Professional help.
Because it's not that coolevery day, no, like today.
I was soaking wet from the rainat work.
I came home.
There's no way I'm takingpictures of that, putting it up
(03:52):
there.
What am I?
Ridiculous.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
That would be pretty funny.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
And at the beach.
Let's say you take your familyto the beach.
Not every second of that day isperfect.
No, you just put up thesestupid pictures and make it look
like that.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
Yeah, I have a perfect family and a perfect
vacation.
It was so much fun, yay, okay.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
You were stuck in beach traffic for four hours on
the way home.
You didn't take any pictures ofthat did you?
Speaker 3 (04:14):
You almost kill each other because the kids are like
I gotta go to the bathroom.
Dad Shut up.
How come there's no more snacks?
I'm hungry.
Susie took the last water.
Shut the fuck up.
Yeah, let's take the perfectpicture after that trip.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Yeah, nobody takes those pictures.
Speaker 3 (04:33):
It's freaking hilarious.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
You know what happens to everybody.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
It happens to everyone.
Speaker 2 (04:38):
It's just like oh my God, Stop this weird race you've
created for yourself.
Yep, I dare everyone thatlistens to the show to start
posting pictures that are awful.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Oh, that would be actually fun.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
Because, yeah, it would be.
And I'm going to start Becausethat's real.
After we're done with this, I'mgoing to have you go downstairs
and take a picture of me in myI don't know oversized self
right now on my new exercisebike.
Oh, no people, this is so funnyexercise like oh, and I'm gonna
start off, I'm gonna postpictures that are like daily
(05:11):
life yeah they're likeridiculously embarrassing.
Okay, because that is actuallyreal life.
Speaker 3 (05:17):
That's real life, right, and that's your family.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Yeah, exactly so now there's this whole fad that's
going on.
I don't know if it's I.
I call it a fad because I don'tknow how long it'll last.
Trad families where the womanis trying to be the stay-at-home
mom with the apron and the hairdone, makeup all set ready and
then making cookies.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
Husband gets home.
Here's your loafers, here's thepaper, here's your pipe.
You know, sit down.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
I know you had a hard day at work.
I'm making dinner, yeah, okay,that's a very small percentage.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Yeah, that's never gonna last.
I've done a lot of things wrongin my life to get to where I am
now, but the one thing I doknow for sure is it takes a
village in this day and age ittakes a village to raise
children, sure does to havefamilies, and no family is five
people anymore, two and a half,you know, two.
Anywhere between two and threepeople, right, two and three
children.
Yep, it's not like that.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
And no family is five people anymore, two and a half.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
Anywhere between two and three people, right, two and
three children.
Yep, it's not like that anymore.
No, like I have my son's mother.
That's family.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
Right.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Right, I have all of you around with me now helping
me raise my son.
Yeah, because of everythingthat happened, right, that's my
life, right, and it's not just anuclear thing anymore, if you
can do it nuclearly, if that'seven an adjective I don't even
know what that is good for you,good for you, right.
(06:34):
It's difficult because mostpeople have been divorced
already oh yeah, a goodpercentage yeah so, even if
you're on your second one, it'sa blended family that's not
nuclear no no right, because youstill have to deal with the
others.
Speaker 3 (06:46):
Exactly Now.
You've mixed in all kinds ofother people.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
Which brings us back to vacation photos.
Now are you fighting with theother?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Oh, right, do you?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
know what I mean.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
Do you want to be in this picture with them?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
No, Not even that.
Speaker 3 (07:10):
Do set the bar.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Oh yeah, the second person's got, I'll do it.
Oh, I remember those days.
Oh, my kid had way better timeon our vacation than yours.
I remember those days.
You people are so dumb.
Oh yeah, constant competition.
Stop posting shit, period.
Yeah, start posting stuffthat's embarrassing and real,
not this fake crap where you hadthe beach or your kids hit a
home run or some shitcongratulations if you're having
a good time at the beach, yeah.
And or your kid hits a home run.
Good for you, right.
Good for your, your kid, yourson, whatever daughter, uh-huh.
But post the other shit too.
Post them.
(07:31):
How about them?
How about them beating the crapout of each other with pillows
and feathers flying over thehouse?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
post that stuff right , or the beach and the wave
takes them under and they gothair and sandal over their
bodies and they're cryinghysterical or the sunburn
because you put sunscreen onstingrays, get them, or the
jellyfish, the real shit.
Oh yeah, or they have a mentalbreakdown because the wave took
out their sandcastle.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
They're on the beach and they got to poop.
Yes, oh man, oh yeah.
Yeah that's the kind of stuff.
I mean there is no war in JuneCleaver anymore.
Speaker 3 (08:04):
No, there isn't, oh God, no.
Speaker 2 (08:06):
And it's gone so far by that the trad people, the
traditional family stuff,they're trying to bring it back.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
Yeah, you said that, which I commend, by the way, let
me tell you I'm not knocking itin any way.
No, correct, if that happens,that's great, yes great, yes,
well, it won't happen.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
It won't happen because it's not set up like
that anymore.
Definitely not, but the ideal,the idea of it, them trying to
bring it back in in dress, likebecause you see all these people
posting these things by theseold cars, yeah, and they're all
dressed up with the you knowcigarettes in their sleeves and
stuff and the big cuffs with theblack shoes.
Speaker 3 (08:38):
I think it's like your greaser.
Yeah, yeah yeah, it's awesomeright, I love seeing it, me too,
I think.
I think it's great Right.
Speaker 2 (08:44):
But it's not real.
No, it's not real.
No, it is a nice thing to do.
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Right, it's fun Right .
Speaker 2 (08:49):
But it's just like putting on those big what do
they call those?
Those bustiers where they shoveup your boobs and you're
dressed like you're of the oldwest.
That's all you're doing.
It's not real.
No, it's not real, definitelynot.
So I did get some emails, okay,and questions, okay, and I want
(09:14):
to read at least three of themon here.
All right, okay, because theywere all right.
Dear Ditto, is it normal thatin our modern nuclear family, my
nine-year-old daughter is theonly one with a job?
She's a slime influencer onTikTok.
My husband identifies as astay-at-home crypto visionary
and I hide in the pantrypretending to fold sheets just
(09:36):
to avoid them both.
Asking for a friend, oh no, avery tired friend that's from
Burned Out in Boise.
I read that one.
Speaker 3 (09:49):
I was like oh holy shit, that really is today, that
is totally today there are kids.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
They're just making these.
Yes, these giant companiesright because of youtube tiktok
and everybody's going this wayyeah and so parents probably are
able to quit their jobs wouldn.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Wouldn't that be great.
Yeah, wouldn't that befantastic.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
Yeah, but let's Look, you're here with me when we do
this podcast.
Yep, this is not freaking easy.
No, it isn't.
So it's not Put those picturesup, and that's why you're going
to catch me on the exercise bike.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Be prepared people.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
This ain't easy, sitting here through all hours
of the night trying to editeverything oh, I know put it up
like I gave up.
Work got so busy, yeah, that Ihad to give up even promoting
this thing and we've suffered alot of listener loss, right,
well, but we'll get back therebecause I will figure out
something sure, the solutionwill present itself exactly, I
won't be back there, but Ithought that one was funny that
(10:42):
was pretty pretty funny.
I mean, you just came back fromGeorgia.
Speaker 3 (10:46):
Correct.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
Explain to me your kind of situation.
Explain to everybody, not justme, your kind of situation and
what went on in Georgia.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
Oh, why I go to Georgia.
I go to Georgia for my job.
I have a job that is in Georgia, so I need to be there every
month, month and a half, to worka week there.
It's actually fun.
I do have one of my daughtersthere and my other daughter
lives in South Carolina, so Iget to see them.
I get to see my family.
I've got friends there, so itactually is a nice little
getaway, especially when it'sreally cold here in the winter
(11:18):
or rainy or whatever.
It's hot, it's very hot.
But I have to tell you somethingthat I went to a concert when I
was there and it's so funny.
We had gone to a concert andthey set up on the golf course
and and it was electric violinsand I don't know, did it rain?
Yeah, no, we should have.
It would have been better.
(11:39):
Let me tell you, I don't knowwhat idiot set this whole thing
up, but they put the sprinklerscame on.
They didn't come on all at once, they came on in one area.
So there's this guy picturethis running out putting a chair
on it to try to stop it fromgetting everyone soaked who were
sitting also on the green.
Okay, wait so as and then thebig ones that just go over so
(12:03):
you can see them kind of comingat us and we're like no, no,
it's not going to come at us,it's not going to come at us,
yeah, yeah.
So we get up and move.
One shoots over us one chair.
The guy comes over the chair,puts it down.
One other one comes almostbehind the people.
Someone gets this one puts achair over it.
The last one hits the guy withthe violin right in his back,
soaks him, soaks his partner,soaks all the equipment.
(12:25):
Everyone is dying.
They are just soaked, soaked,soaked.
We're like holy shit, is thisabsolutely happening?
Ruined all of his equipment,couldn't even go on a picture or
keep going.
I was dying.
I'm like what idiot absolutelydid this?
Speaker 2 (12:45):
No one got a picture of it.
Speaker 3 (12:47):
Oh, there's pictures.
Oh, it's all over Facebook.
Okay, all right, good, I don'tknow, it is so funny.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
Because that's the kind of stuff you want to get up
to.
Exactly Because that's the kindof stuff you want to get up to
Exactly.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
But, like I was saying, people come to see this
on their vacations and then thisis what happens.
And then the guys are stilltrying to play, they're still
trying to work through theequipment.
They felt so bad, everything'sstaticky, they can't play
anything.
They were like, oh my God, youneed to stop.
We feel really bad.
Speaker 2 (13:10):
You just need to stop .
It was so, so bad.
That's hilarious that no onethought to shut off the
sprinklers.
Speaker 3 (13:15):
No, that's the point the manager comes out.
I'm like, wasn't someonesupposed to be in charge of
shutting off the sprinklersystem?
After a while I end up doing it.
But I'm like, oh my god, areyou serious right now?
I mean seriously.
But people came on vacation tosee this.
They went on vacation to seethis and it got ruined.
Everyone soaked.
It was so funny, but it wasn't.
(13:38):
It was awful.
Speaker 2 (13:39):
I had to drop my violin and just left.
It's like the Happy GilmoreNine on the ninth or whatever it
is.
Yeah, just where are you Sunday?
Best Meet us on the ninth greenNine o'clock sharp.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
Oh exactly, Sprinklers go on.
That's pretty much exactly whathappened.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Oh God, and now exactly, it's pretty much
exactly what happened.
Oh god, you see, that's becauseeverybody's, and now you know
there's people that hate theperson that did jump.
Oh yeah, the sprinklers,exactly.
I'm glad those pictures are upthere.
Yeah, it was funny, it wasfunny so I asked you about
georgia, because your girls aredown there correct.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
Well, one's in south carolina, one's in georgia.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
Yes, yes, but they're down there.
They're down there.
Yes, right, so that's yourfamily situation.
Yeah, right, did you get to seethem?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
I got to see one of them okay yep, all right, yep,
um, but that's hard becausethey're not here.
That's my, this is my idea offamily.
If I want to see them, they'llcome up here.
They were here for two weeksnow recently.
Speaker 2 (14:35):
I go there now to know for everyone listening
they're adults they're adults.
They're not like no they'readults, they're adult children.
Yes, yeah, and they both havejobs and they both have their
lives correct, burgeoning and,yes, they're getting, they're
doing their own thing, they'redoing their own thing.
So it's not like you have likea four and a five year old.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
No, no, oh no no run, no, no, no, no.
But they are doing very welland I'm very proud of them.
Yes, but that's my familybecause and they're not here, so
and that's going to happen.
Anyway, I know they move andI'm very, you know, whatever,
but I mean my mom and dad arestill here, my brother's still
here, but I can see why.
(15:13):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
Kids are the best thing in the world.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
They are.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
Except for when they're bitchy, when you want to
kill them, yeah.
They're not like that anymore,though Do you think that nuclear
family is more popular in popculture nowadays or less popular
?
Speaker 3 (15:29):
It depends on what their idea of a nuclear family
is.
Like I said, so I don't know.
I mean, there are so many halfsisters, half brothers, stepdads
, stepmoms.
You know different familiesgoing with divorce now too.
Well, that's my point is thatoption is higher and higher and
all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
So a nuclear family can be anything, shouldn't be
isolated to.
A man meets a woman, they getmarried, they have kids, that's
it.
That's right, right, right.
Two women fall in love and wantto adopt a child, nuclear
family, that's a nuclear family.
Correct, right, right.
So is it more popular becauseof the, finally, the ability for
people to be out of the closetor to be able to be themselves
(16:10):
and say the things they want tosay?
Speaker 3 (16:12):
if that's the direct yes, that's what you're, that's
what they're saying aboutnuclear family, correct?
So many people could hit allthat couldn't be themselves.
Now that the tao yeah, I thinkit is more popular nowadays so
what is the idea of a nuclearfamily?
Speaker 2 (16:26):
and that's why that show, modern family, was so
fantastic.
Oh correct, they coveredeverything.
Yeah, they did, and, and theywere hilarious.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
Yes, well, exactly, yeah, they were.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Oh, philosophies, so funny.
It just was so funny, yeah,that is funny.
They did a great job with thatshow.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
They really did, but yeah, but to them that was their
family, but they had like whatDads, moms, there was a gay
couple.
I mean, there was a lot goingon in that one.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
That could be a nuclear family, right.
But now is there more pressureon same sex marriages in a
nuclear family to put on like aperfect presentation, like do
they feel more scrutinized?
Do you think that they want totry, not want to try harder?
I take that back immediately.
I'm not trying to be offensiveto anybody.
Speaker 3 (17:12):
They feel like they have to try harder because yeah,
and then what actually is anuclear family?
Speaker 2 (17:16):
they feel like they have to try harder.
Oh, they have to try to fitinto the norm, yeah.
Speaker 3 (17:22):
And then what actually is a nuclear family?
Yeah, I mean I would say thatthey probably will try to make
it seem like they have to work alittle harder because of what
people think about them.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Is that self-induced, probably, or is it?
Speaker 3 (17:33):
really happening.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
It's probably a combination of both, I would
say's an easy way out it is picka side and go with it.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Dude okay, well, you asked a question I did okay and
I'm telling you a very vanillaanswer I want to give a vanilla
answer oh, that was probably alittle bit of both, because if
they have someone at them allthe time, then they're going to
feel like, oh my gosh, we needto try harder.
And or then there people likeis that really a nuclear?
That's not a nuclear family,because there's two people that
are same sex.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
That's why this is such a weird conversation,
because what is a nuclear family?
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (18:03):
I don't think you could.
Is it war cleaver Not?
Speaker 2 (18:07):
Yeah, is that what it is?
Speaker 1 (18:08):
Is that what we're basing this?
Speaker 2 (18:09):
on.
Speaker 3 (18:18):
Is that what we just consider?
A nuclear family?
Beaver, cleaver, midsection,smasher oh god, you have to stop
saying that, jesus.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
Think about it, I am, that's why I'm saying stop
saying it anyway but it's likein this day and age, now, with
everything that has transpiredover the last 30 years.
Speaker 3 (18:34):
Right.
Speaker 2 (18:35):
And all the advancements we as a society
have made and where we standright now.
A nuclear family is exactlymodern family.
No a nuclear family is what youmake of it.
That's what I'm saying, right,it's exactly what you make of it
.
What you make of it, whateveryour situation is, is your
nuclear family.
Is your nuclear family and,like I was saying, saying my
(19:00):
son's mother is family, right,whether I get like I could not
get along with my brother, right, my blood brother, right, right
, I I do, but I could not getalong with him, right, he's
still my family, exactly right,right same.
So, no matter what I have thischild with this woman, she is my
family, simple as that, right,nothing I'm gonna do about it.
I don't have to talk to herevery day, but don't be rude.
Speaker 3 (19:17):
Right, like you're family, right.
Well, now that's another thingtoo.
You slept your way into it.
Oh God, I'm just kidding.
Here we go.
Speaker 2 (19:24):
Sorry about that one.
Speaker 3 (19:25):
Oh, jesus, sorry about that one, oh God.
But there's also the nuclearfamily, where there's best
friends who have grown up withthe kids who they call aunt,
uncle, whatever that'sconsidered family.
Speaker 2 (19:41):
That's kind of like what I've got right this moment.
Correct, yes, right.
After all these years.
Speaker 3 (19:46):
Right After all that.
So there's that end of theirnuclear family.
So it's what you make of it.
Speaker 2 (19:51):
It's what you make of it, correct?
I don't think so.
No, there isn't an image for anuclear family.
A nuclear family is when youconsider everyone family, like
if you get divorced, if you gothrough a divorce and you have
children together, it doesn'tmatter, you're in family.
Speaker 1 (20:14):
You ain't got to live together anymore.
Speaker 2 (20:15):
You don't have to do things together anymore but
you're family and that's it, andyou have to be family.
That is nuclear family, right?
So I guess the only way youcould really put a picture or an
image on that is, honestly, thevery last scene not scene, but
the very last image in theopening theme of Modern Family,
(20:37):
when they're all just standingthere.
Speaker 3 (20:38):
Oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Right, right, that's a nuclear family, right, that's
my opinion anyway right no yeah,it's like everybody.
Every single person on thisplanet has their, has the
ability to live their life, ofcourse, they do whatever way
they want to exactly no, if, andtheir butts free will yeah and
don't worry about whatever, butdon't put up something that is
stupid.
That you know isn't reallyhappening.
(21:01):
You got no money.
Why are you at disney world?
Speaker 3 (21:05):
we know you're broke jesus christ now you're just
lying, yeah but I think peoplein that situation want to fit in
so badly into the norm thatthey miss the real issue.
But and that's what they dothat for they just want to fit
in of what they think is normaland they don't want anyone
making fun of them saying that'swhat breaks down to mental
(21:26):
health well right, becausethey're trying to keep up this
race.
That doesn't even exist.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
Exactly right, the best thing you can do in life is
just to live your life the waythat makes you happy, because
what people will really see isyou being happy right other than
that?
Speaker 3 (21:41):
nobody, that nobody cares, no one cares, nobody
freaking cares.
And if everyone's own personalissues, first of all they hate
you.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Right, everyone hates everyone.
Nobody likes anybody Nope.
So if you're trying to putthese pictures up to prove to
everyone else that you live thisgreat life, you're a liar.
And none of us do it, so we andnone of us do it, so we know
you're lying.
Exactly.
What the hell are you doing?
Cut the shit, I know.
So, all right, let me get to atleast one more.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
Oh, okay, go.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
Ready Go.
All right, dear Ditto.
We tried a family meeting lastnight and it ended with my
12-year-old drafting aco-parenting agreement between
me and my husband.
By the way, it's my husband andI.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
Yes, and the door dash driver.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Oh what?
Are we still considered afunctioning nuclear unit if we
outsource all meals and allemotional support to AI and
carbs?
Emotionally unavailable andwell-fed Wow, these people
really like these things.
Speaker 3 (22:47):
It's fucking funny.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
I wish I got more of them.
Speaker 3 (22:48):
Yeah right, I only get about maybe 12 yeah, yeah,
that's all right, I take thebest three.
Yeah, it's funny but this one.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
We tried a family meeting last night and it ended
with my 12 year old drafting aco-parenting agreement.
They're married, yeah, why?
How does a 12 yearold alreadyknow about this?
Speaker 3 (23:05):
I know that's what's scary.
How does he already know aboutthat Right?
Speaker 2 (23:08):
And if he really is drafting it and this isn't just
like a gag whoa.
Speaker 3 (23:12):
Oh right, Whoa.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
Although I got to say my son threatens to call Child
Resources and stuff all the time, all the time, go ahead, hit me
all the time.
Speaker 1 (23:26):
Go ahead, hit me, go ahead, hit me, I'll call child
services on you, you know then,you'll never see me again.
Speaker 2 (23:29):
Why would you say that, dude?
Speaker 3 (23:30):
you're the one that's gonna lose that, not me, well,
I mean we both will, well, butstill you did it to yourself,
stupid idiot.
Speaker 2 (23:37):
Oh my gosh and honestly, I have noticed and
this is true story, I havenoticed that there is more door
dashing in this house now thanthere has ever been.
Yeah, and I am no kidding.
That's why I got that exercisebike.
There's just too much fast foodaround here.
It's too much.
I am way over my limit.
I got to slim down.
(23:58):
I want to look good.
I want to look good for all thelisteners.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
Oh boy, I want to look good for all the listeners.
Oh boy, I want to look like asex kitten.
Oh God, hold on people.
Speaker 1 (24:05):
I want to be a beaver cleaver.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I can't believe you just said that.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
It's funny.
It's funny.
It's funny, we are getting tothe end.
So I'm going to read the lastone now.
We'll go over everything wetalked about and we'll get out
of here here and these peoplecan go on with their lives.
So this one says dear sake tome.
Speaker 3 (24:32):
My six-year-old called a family meeting to ban
ipad use at the dinner table.
While presenting a powerpointon his ipad, oh wow kudos to him
.
Speaker 2 (24:35):
Should I be concerned about our household power
dynamic or just accept that he'snow the ceo of our nuclear
family?
Speaker 3 (24:41):
I would just accept it it.
Speaker 2 (24:43):
It is and we already touched on that like it is crazy
how kids are becoming.
Speaker 3 (24:48):
They're smarter than us Wicked, smarter than us Kids
are watching kids.
Speaker 2 (24:51):
Yes, it started out with kids opening presents,
right, and what they were goingto get.
Yep, like, who's got that timeto wrap all those presents?
Speaker 3 (24:57):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (25:10):
What kind of team you got going on and how'd you get
started like?
Are you, june cleaver, justrabbit shit in the closet after
you're done folding the?
Speaker 3 (25:13):
fitted sheets right, holy shit.
And everything is about.
I saw this tiktok is literallyreally killing everything.
It's awful it is awful.
Speaker 2 (25:16):
It's awful.
I saw it on tiktok.
Oh, it's got to be real.
Speaker 3 (25:18):
Oh, definitely listen to that.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Shit's definitely true right there.
I'll tell you that for free, solisten here.
Demoted to intern dad.
No, you're about on the samepage as everyone else when your
six-year-old starts telling youwhat to do.
You've lost control.
You've lost control.
You have lost control.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah pretty much.
You need to reel that shit inreal quick.
Speaker 2 (25:42):
You know, I was watching this one thing that
popped up the other day and hesaid he was talking about
raising children.
In this day and age and I'vesaid it before I ever heard this
guy speak you have to be meanonce to show them that you're
going to do it.
You never have to do it again,Correct.
If you don't do it and then youtry and bring the hammer down
after years of not doing it, youare screwed, Yep.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
I'm going to laugh all over you.
Speaker 2 (26:05):
So he said his exact words are a little mean, a lot
of love.
Exactly Right A little mean, alot of love.
Most parents are not mean yeah.
Speaker 3 (26:14):
Most parents can't do it.
They can't do it, they justdon't want to deal with it.
Speaker 2 (26:24):
Me.
You know you got no problem.
I was hit with stuff, shoes,Spoons.
My mom threw the pool at meonce.
I don't know how she got out ofthe ground, chucked it right at
me, tried to drown me.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah, that's funny, oh my God.
Yeah, parents got to get on topof that.
They can't have these kids runamok.
They lose control, and that isit.
That is it.
Speaker 2 (26:40):
I was telling you a little bit earlier about a
person I know that wascomplaining about Little League
Baseball.
Little League Baseball is outof control.
Sports period are out ofcontrol it's great to see dude,
your kid ain't making it he'snot, she's not there's not
really very far for women to go,unless you're basketball true,
(27:02):
yeah true.
Speaker 3 (27:02):
There's no professional.
There's soccer, there'slacrosse too.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
I think there's not really very far for women to go,
unless you're basketball, true,right, yeah, true.
Speaker 3 (27:05):
I mean there's no professional.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
There's soccer.
Speaker 3 (27:07):
There's lacrosse too, I think Women's lacrosse.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Is there, I think college yeah, no not college
Professional, professional,professional basketball, and
there's professional soccer.
Speaker 3 (27:17):
Correct, I know those two exist.
That's maybe his fit forwomen's sports as far as
professional though.
Speaker 2 (27:27):
Okay, right, yeah, and very few of them make it.
Yeah, it's true, right.
And then your kid, all you wantfrom sports is teamwork,
understanding your role, doingthe best you can, playing hard
and understanding how to lose ifyou can't understand how to
lose and you get a damnparticipation trophy because you
showed up.
Shut up, go sit down, you're apansy.
Speaker 3 (27:51):
That's a hard thing that parents gotta teach their
kids.
Speaker 2 (27:53):
And the craziest thing is where we live.
It's big in sports.
It's big in sports In this town.
There's a few people that havewon the World Series.
That's how big this town isthere's a few people that have
won the World Series.
Yeah Right, that's how big thistown is Correct the way we push
kids now.
They don't even have childhoods.
I want to get the e-bikes too.
It just dawned on me.
Oh, but kids don't even havechildhoods.
(28:15):
Yeah, they're constantlyplaying a sport.
People are paying $500,000 toput these kids on teams.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Yep, just let them go ride a bike, just let them have
fun, let them be a kid.
Speaker 2 (28:26):
And let them figure it out.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
Right, they will, they will and if they're good,
they'll be found.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
Exactly Simple as that.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
Right.
Speaker 2 (28:32):
But what do I know?
I'm just a giant idiot.
Well, true, Didn't really haveto you know?
Yeah, oh, I rendered himspeechless no, I have mean
things to say.
My mother told me if I haveanything that's not nice to say,
to not say it at all.
That's right, all right,everybody.
We are at the end.
I got some editing to do, t-botyeah, thanks for being here no,
(28:57):
it's good to have you back home.
Speaker 3 (28:58):
Thank you, did you miss me a little?
Speaker 2 (29:00):
with, with, every bullet.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Yeah, there it is All right, all right everybody.
Speaker 2 (29:05):
With that being said, thanks for joining in, thanks
for listening and, as always, begood.
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