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November 14, 2024 76 mins

Does it ever feel like you are trying to fit the proverbial square peg into the round hole of sexuality? Are you “going along” with your partner's wishes and desires even when you aren’t feeling arousal? Has sex always been something that just doesn’t light you up? Do you enjoy solo sex but partnered sex isn't a turn-on? Many people are unaware of the the asexuality spectrum and find relief and Aha! with new information on how this may look in relationships. Erica Leroye sits at the feet of Aubri Lancaster, Certified ASSECT Sexuality Educator and founder of Acesexeducation. Aubri has exceptional expertise teaching laypeople and professionals about ACE awareness in ways that are compassionate and transformational. Together they discuss:

What do we mean by asexuality and how does it differ from low libido?

What would be some common signs/signals that might help a person or a partner get to the “aha! This might be me/you/us!”?

What has changed culturally/societally so that this is now more understood as a truth and not something that has to be “overcome”?

What support is out there for people to learn and discover more?

Beyond “Sex”-Expanding what intimacy and connection can look like and feel like for ACE people and partners

They also share some juicy, on the spot erotica imaginations for people who aren't seeing themselves represented in traditional erotica to imagine into.


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Resources Mentioned by Aubri:

Sharonda j Brown- Refusing Compulsory Sexuality

Emily Nagoski

Cody Daigle-Orians @acedadadvice- I am Ace Advice, Ace-Aro Relationship Guide

AI Takeaways:

Asexuality is a valid sexual orientation that challenges traditional norms.

Communication is key in understanding and navigating asexuality in relationships.

Desire discrepancy can lead to misunderstandings in couples.

Solo sexuality is a legitimate expression of sexual identity.

Embodied language in erotica can enhance sexual experiences.

Non-sexual intimacy is equally important in relationships.

Asexuality does not equate to a lack of desire for connection.

Resources are available for those exploring their asexual identity.

It's important to decenter sex in relationships and focus on other forms of intimacy.

Understanding one's own needs and desires is crucial for healthy relationships.

Chapters00:00 Introduction to Asexuality and Aromanticism

07:07 Understanding Asexuality: Definitions and Misconceptions

12:24 Desire Discrepancy in Relationships

18:44 Exploring Solo Sexuality vs. Partnered Sexuality

24:06 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy

30:55 Redefining Pleasure Beyond Sexual Norm

s36:35 Navigating Asexuality and Communication in Relationships

41:45 Resources for Understanding Asexuality

47:50 Conclusion: Embracing Asexuality and Intimacy


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