October 7, 2025 • 19 mins
The calendar flips to October and the store aisles explode with tinsel—meanwhile, your heart feels heavy at the thought of the holidays. If you’re a single woman or newly navigating an empty nest, those weeks between Thanksgiving and New Year’s can feel like a pressure cooker of memories, expectations, and silence. We decided to tell the truth about it—and share a better way to move through it.
We start by naming the hard stuff: sadness, loneliness, grief, and the ache of feeling like the odd one out at someone else’s table. From there, we get practical. You’ll learn how to map your emotional and physical needs, choose travel that supports them, and time your bookings to avoid sticker shock. We talk road trips that keep costs low and control high, why international travel can be a hidden bargain during U.S. Thanksgiving, and how a cruise or city break can flip the script on a day you’ve come to dread.
We also dig into rituals that turn grief into meaning. Think small, tangible acts—gifting keepsakes that carry a loved one’s story, volunteering in their honor, cooking one dish that keeps their light at the center of your table. We draw a bright line between being alone and feeling lonely, then offer concrete ways to connect: inviting yourself to a friend’s dinner, gathering other solo travelers, or joining meetups at your destination. And for Christmas, we walk through choosing family time that feels safe and nourishing—or building chosen family traditions that fit who you are now.
If you’ve been waiting for permission to design a holiday season that heals, this is your nudge. Press play, take what serves you, and start a tradition you’ll actually look forward to. If this conversation helps, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs it, and leave a review to help more women find their way to joyful, self-made holidays.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:00):
Hello, sister travelers.
Welcome to Solo TravelAdventures.
I'm Cheryl Esh, your host.
Well, I hear a lot that aroundthis time we're in the beginning
of October, that oh my gosh, theholidays are right around the
corner.
And so if you are in the US andcelebrate, we do have a
traditional holiday coming uphere in November in
(00:22):
Thanksgiving, always celebratedthe last Thursday of November.
And then right on its heels isall your, you know, your
Christmas or your Hanukkahcelebrations that follow the
following month.
So it gets a little crazy, andyou know, often people will
travel to be with loved onesduring this time.
(00:43):
So a lot of domestic travelhappening during this season or
between those holidays.
So I want to speak to my singleladies out there right now
because this can be a really umchallenging time of year for
you.
It could also address anybodythat's maybe a first-time empty
(01:07):
nester.
So you might be experiencingsome of the similar feelings as
a single person is feelingduring the holidays.
And there's lots of differentfeelings that come up during the
holidays, depending on, youknow, your past experience, um,
where you are in your season oflife as well.
(01:28):
And I will have to share withyou, I this will be my fifth
holiday kind of season timebeing single.
And I will be honest, it's beenrough.
There's been some really uh badyears, and some, you know, I
tried to make things happen someyears, and I can truly say this
(01:51):
year is one of the first yearsI'm actually looking forward to
the holidays.
And, you know, some of myexperience has been I have been
alone on Thanksgiving, whichreally, really stunk and it
hurt, and there was lots ofemotions happening with me.
(02:12):
But in some cases, it was mychoice to be alone because maybe
I decided to do a dog sit, ahouse sit during that time,
because I've been also fairlynomadic the last uh four years,
and so I actually haven't evenhad a place to host these
holidays myself to kind ofchange that up.
(02:34):
So I've been kind of at the uh,you know, the whim of other
people, or just um having, youknow, maybe an actual quiet
holiday, depending on what I wasfeeling.
And so I've had some, you know,I've had some really depressing
times during the holidays.
I've been alone.
(02:54):
I've had some major sadness andgrief.
And uh, you know, it just madesome feelings, other feelings I
had was I was feeling unworthyand that I didn't belong
anywhere.
So I felt disconnected and lost.
And it just presented itself andduring these times because these
(03:17):
holidays are typically when weare surrounded by family.
Now that's tradition, but itdoesn't have to be.
And if you find yourself in thisplace, I'm speaking again to
either my single women or emptynesters, even if you're married
and you're kind of feeling alittle unsure what the holidays
(03:39):
will bring as an empty nester,this episode would be for you as
well.
And the first thing I want youto do is first of all
acknowledge and identify thosefeelings that you're having.
So I read through, um, I'll readthem again, that I was
experienced, and it varieddepending on the year.
You know, I went from sadnessbecause often the holidays can
(04:05):
also remind us of maybe a lostloved one, a lost family member,
or just a lost relationship.
And for me, it was a loss of afamily unit uh when I got
divorced.
Um, but the holidays also dotend to remind me of some lost
loved ones.
So maybe that's also you.
(04:27):
Maybe that's kind of the feelingyou get every holiday because
you're reminded of this person.
Well, I'm gonna give you some uhtips on what you can do to sort
of um utilize that feelings thatyou're having, that sadness,
those memories into somethingpositive.
Um, other feelings I had, as Imentioned, was I was alone or I
(04:49):
felt lonely.
I felt disconnected or let ingeneral that I didn't belong
anywhere, um, unworthy, lost,and depressed.
Um, so you know, I've had someThanksgivings where I was I was
alone.
Um I I hated that feeling.
(05:11):
I really did.
And um there was a Thanksgivingwhere I joined my friend's
family, and that felt reallyodd, you know, because I'm the
oddball out, it's all of herfamily, and I'm the only single
person, and it just felt weird.
It was a great invite.
I did get some great food, butit just didn't feel uh
(05:36):
comforting, I guess is maybe theword I'm looking for.
So um, you know, as you look atyour feelings, you identify
them, um, just please honorthem.
Know that it's okay to feel thisway.
And what I'd like you to do nextis once you've written them
down, I really want you to writethem down, just like I did and
(05:57):
listed them off to you.
I want you to secondly decidemaybe what you need emotionally,
physically this holiday season.
And you're like, well, what doesthis have to do with travel?
Well, it does because most timesduring the holiday, we will
travel to see family.
And maybe that's somethingyou're also planning to do.
(06:19):
And I bring it up this early.
I know we're just in October,but trust me, all the Christmas
decorations are out in thestores right now.
And you would need to startbooking travel if this is
something you are considering.
Now, if you're thinking aboutgoing somewhere in the US for
Thanksgiving, uh, gettingflights probably is a little
late for that because they haveincreasingly gotten more
(06:43):
expensive.
Now, I am going somewhere duringThanksgiving week.
I'm so excited.
It's like the first year that umI've decided to get out of town
during Thanksgiving because I'mtired of being alone.
And it's just not really myholiday.
Um, it was actually always sortof more my ex-husband's holiday.
(07:03):
He loved to cook, which isgreat.
Um, but it was never really uhthat meaningful to me.
And so since I don't have afamily to gather with, I and I
haven't for this will be thefifth year, I have chosen and I
wanted to do it before, and Ifinally just bit the bullet,
said, that's it, I'm doingsomething for myself, and I
booked a cruise during the weekof Thanksgiving.
(07:26):
Now, I did book those flightsway back the end of August, so
three months out tip, you know,is typically good.
And I know as I've looked atprices that they have
increasingly gone up during thistime.
So a road trip might be goodduring Thanksgiving, uh less
expensive, or they sayinternational travel is actually
rather inexpensive duringThanksgiving here in the U.S.
(07:50):
So if you're from the U.S.
and you want to do someinternational travel, um, it's
supposedly very affordableduring Thanksgiving week.
Um, but you can still bookflights for Christmas, which I
also plan to be somewhere atChristmas with my family,
extended family that is, um,because again, I don't want to
be alone.
So I made that decision, I madethat choice, and that might be
(08:13):
where you are at, and you know,like for example, maybe you know
that you feel alone and oryou're gonna be lonely, but you
don't want to feel that way,then make an initiative to be
with other people.
So deciding what you need, maybeyou do want to be alone, and I
will have to say, just beingalone can't it can lead to
(08:37):
feeling lonely, but being alonedoes not mean you are
automatically lonely.
Okay, sometimes being alone is agood thing, so you need to
decide if that's the feelingsyou're having and you're not
sure that you want to be alone,and maybe you feel like, okay,
I'm really down and depressedthis season.
(08:59):
I think I need to be aroundpeople so I don't get worse.
Then make an appointment to, youknow, find the group, find
somebody to be around during theholidays.
Maybe you have some othergirlfriends that are also going
to be alone, or maybe you feelokay asking a friend if you can
(09:21):
join their family dinner, andthat's okay.
They may, they may not evenrealize.
Um, so you know, put yourselfout there, especially if you are
feeling um depressed or lonelyand you don't want to go to that
place, especially during theholidays.
You're feeling maybe sad about aloved one during this this time
(09:44):
of season.
I find it so cathartic to dosomething in memory of maybe a
lost one.
I'll give you a few examples.
Um I did lose my mother um along time ago, and I do recall,
I believe it was that firstChristmas after she had passed,
(10:05):
one of she loved um birds andbird feeders, and we had for her
funeral, had set up somebeautifully painted bird houses,
and at Christmas time we endedup kind of gifting those to some
special people um in her life,and that was so uh it was just
(10:29):
heartwarming, even from myperspective, as sort of that
giver, and witnessing um thetears and just the love from
other people, the memory thatthey are now able to actually
physically hold on to.
Uh, similarly, when mygrandmother passed again, she
loved birds and she collectedthese um ceramic birds.
(10:52):
And after she passed, I dorecall um everybody in the
family really um was given abird uh as a reminder of my
grandmother.
And I've heard other things, youknow, uh maybe in memory of
somebody uh doing something thatthey enjoyed doing during the
holidays, maybe they were um aserving or giving type, and so
(11:17):
you therefore do the same uh inmemory of them during that time.
So if that's maybe your case,you're facing the holidays and
you've lost a loved one, you'velost a relationship, you've lost
family, that do somethingpositive in memory of them.
So instead of focusing on, youknow, oh my gosh, they're not
(11:41):
here, how could you create anatmosphere that reminds you of
them in a very positive,heartwarming way?
And I highly recommend that.
So if that's you, I rememberthose first few years, that was
super important for us as afamily to acknowledge.
And um I personally did that uhmore for myself.
(12:04):
Um, you know, soon after I gotdivorced, I had during my
marriage, I had collectednutcrackers, speaking of
Christmas.
And I, because I'm a nomad, Ireally haven't had the
opportunity to display them.
And each of those nutcrackers,even though it was bought as a
family, uh reminded me ofcertain people in my extended
(12:26):
family.
So a few Christmases ago, Iactually gifted each of my you
know extended family members, Ihad that many, yes, um, a
nutcracker that sort of remindedme of them.
And I gave my children um a fewand I kept two of my own.
And so that could be somethingtoo you do sort of in memory of
(12:47):
for me, it was in kind of anacknowledgement of the loss of
um my you know from my divorce,the loss of sort of that family
union, but it gave me theopportunity to sort of give
instead of sort of wallowing inthat.
So um again, one identified andidentify your feelings, write
(13:09):
them down.
Number two, decide what you needemotionally or physically based
on that list.
And then three, is I'm I'm kindof discussing how can we counter
those pending feelings aroundthe holidays of being alone.
As I mentioned, just becauseyou're alone doesn't mean you
have you have to be lonely.
Um, doing something, as I said,to combat the sadness, doing uh
(13:32):
something to combat the alone orloneliness by taking that step
and maybe finding a group ofpeople to join.
Maybe there's other singlepeople in your if you live in an
apartment complex or if you aretraveling, there could be, you
know, just joining uh some groupof people during that time.
Maybe they don't even celebrate.
(13:54):
Obviously, only Americanscelebrate uh Thanksgiving.
So if you're traveling duringThanksgiving, um just joining
other groups on that day, uh,probably creating new memories,
obviously, will happen.
And it's just gonna be adifferent memory for you on that
holiday, which I highlyrecommend creating new memories
(14:14):
and positive memories on thoseholidays, addressing each
emotion as I have discussed.
Um so I decided since I did notwant to feel alone again or
disconnected, because that wasthat's kind of been a big thing,
just feeling like the oddballout.
Um, so maybe a travel during theholidays is what you need.
(14:40):
And I highly encourage thatbecause this again is creating
new memories around that holidaytime that maybe at this point in
your life doesn't feelcomfortable, and you are not
wanting to be, you know, haveold memories brought up, and so
(15:01):
you're gonna create new onesthrough travel.
You're gonna have some positivememories, energy, new energy
coming into your life.
This may even set the stage foryour future holidays.
I hate to say that.
You mean you might get so uminspired and addicted really to
that idea of traveling duringthese time frames that maybe
(15:25):
that will become your new norm.
And I highly encourage if youare single, empty nester, and
you are struggling with thesepending holidays, I want to
encourage you.
Travel can be not just a meansto uh to escape, maybe these
traditional family, you know, orwhatever traditional ideas you
(15:49):
have of the holidays that youmight be uh not fond of because
of some past hurts or emotionsthat you're dealing with, then
travel can be that healingvehicle to get you to that
place.
And I am so looking forward tomy trip because I know it's
(16:10):
gonna start to create newmemories.
I think it's gonna be a newthing for me every Thanksgiving.
I think I might keep this as aas my tradition moving forward.
And then for me at Christmastime, because it is important
for me to be with family, and Idon't have really a place to
gather, and my children here,they are local, but they're
(16:36):
likely going to be spending itwith their father and their
grandparents and aunt uncle frommy ex-husband side, which is
great.
I love it, and um, it's justawkward for me.
So I've chosen uh to go see myfamily um in another state and
(16:56):
spend some time with them duringthe holiday season and you know
just reconnect because I I dolove my family.
I know that's not always thecase for everybody, and so maybe
you need to find um your owncreated family.
It doesn't have to be bloodfamily, right?
We often find some of these uhfriends that you know we might
(17:22):
kind of call sisters, eventhough they're not blood
sisters, but you feel soconnected to them, and maybe
this is your opportunity tocreate that, you know, maybe you
do something with them duringthe holidays to create sort of
that closer bond, even and thatyour own family bond there
during the holidays.
(17:43):
Well, sisters, I know, I knowfor a fact I've been there and
still are there that theholidays are a very challenging
time for us single women, andespecially, I feel like
especially the us as older womenor midlife women, we're kind of
in that just weird kind ofphase.
(18:03):
Um, I want to encourage you tocreate your own memories around
the holidays and get out thereand have those adventures and
don't hold back because this isyour opportunity now to do that.
And if you're still needing someguidance on, you know, what you
should do, I am available.
(18:26):
I do one-on-one travel coaching.
You can book a discovery callwith me or even go to my website
to find out more about myprogram.
But I still would love to hearfrom you, and I would love to
even see if you, you know, yougo somewhere different for all
the holidays.
I'll be posting a little bit ofmine in my Facebook group once
(18:49):
I, you know, I'm um on mycruise, by the way.
So I am looking forward to it,and I look forward to hearing
about positive stories of howyou have changed a holiday, a
dreaded holiday, into somethingamazing.
Hello, sister travelers.
Welcome to Solo TravelAdventures.
I'm Cheryl Esh, your host.
Well, I hear a lot that aroundthis time we're in the beginning
of October, that oh my gosh, theholidays are right around the
corner.
And so if you are in the US andcelebrate, we do have a
traditional holiday coming uphere in November in
(00:22):
Thanksgiving, always celebratedthe last Thursday of November.
And then right on its heels isall your, you know, your
Christmas or your Hanukkahcelebrations that follow the
following month.
So it gets a little crazy, andyou know, often people will
travel to be with loved onesduring this time.
(00:43):
So a lot of domestic travelhappening during this season or
between those holidays.
So I want to speak to my singleladies out there right now
because this can be a really umchallenging time of year for
you.
It could also address anybodythat's maybe a first-time empty
(01:07):
nester.
So you might be experiencingsome of the similar feelings as
a single person is feelingduring the holidays.
And there's lots of differentfeelings that come up during the
holidays, depending on, youknow, your past experience, um,
where you are in your season oflife as well.
(01:28):
And I will have to share withyou, I this will be my fifth
holiday kind of season timebeing single.
And I will be honest, it's beenrough.
There's been some really uh badyears, and some, you know, I
tried to make things happen someyears, and I can truly say this
(01:51):
year is one of the first yearsI'm actually looking forward to
the holidays.
And, you know, some of myexperience has been I have been
alone on Thanksgiving, whichreally, really stunk and it
hurt, and there was lots ofemotions happening with me.
(02:12):
But in some cases, it was mychoice to be alone because maybe
I decided to do a dog sit, ahouse sit during that time,
because I've been also fairlynomadic the last uh four years,
and so I actually haven't evenhad a place to host these
holidays myself to kind ofchange that up.
(02:34):
So I've been kind of at the uh,you know, the whim of other
people, or just um having, youknow, maybe an actual quiet
holiday, depending on what I wasfeeling.
And so I've had some, you know,I've had some really depressing
times during the holidays.
I've been alone.
(02:54):
I've had some major sadness andgrief.
And uh, you know, it just madesome feelings, other feelings I
had was I was feeling unworthyand that I didn't belong
anywhere.
So I felt disconnected and lost.
And it just presented itself andduring these times because these
(03:17):
holidays are typically when weare surrounded by family.
Now that's tradition, but itdoesn't have to be.
And if you find yourself in thisplace, I'm speaking again to
either my single women or emptynesters, even if you're married
and you're kind of feeling alittle unsure what the holidays
(03:39):
will bring as an empty nester,this episode would be for you as
well.
And the first thing I want youto do is first of all
acknowledge and identify thosefeelings that you're having.
So I read through, um, I'll readthem again, that I was
experienced, and it varieddepending on the year.
You know, I went from sadnessbecause often the holidays can
(04:05):
also remind us of maybe a lostloved one, a lost family member,
or just a lost relationship.
And for me, it was a loss of afamily unit uh when I got
divorced.
Um, but the holidays also dotend to remind me of some lost
loved ones.
So maybe that's also you.
(04:27):
Maybe that's kind of the feelingyou get every holiday because
you're reminded of this person.
Well, I'm gonna give you some uhtips on what you can do to sort
of um utilize that feelings thatyou're having, that sadness,
those memories into somethingpositive.
Um, other feelings I had, as Imentioned, was I was alone or I
(04:49):
felt lonely.
I felt disconnected or let ingeneral that I didn't belong
anywhere, um, unworthy, lost,and depressed.
Um, so you know, I've had someThanksgivings where I was I was
alone.
Um I I hated that feeling.
(05:11):
I really did.
And um there was a Thanksgivingwhere I joined my friend's
family, and that felt reallyodd, you know, because I'm the
oddball out, it's all of herfamily, and I'm the only single
person, and it just felt weird.
It was a great invite.
I did get some great food, butit just didn't feel uh
(05:36):
comforting, I guess is maybe theword I'm looking for.
So um, you know, as you look atyour feelings, you identify
them, um, just please honorthem.
Know that it's okay to feel thisway.
And what I'd like you to do nextis once you've written them
down, I really want you to writethem down, just like I did and
(05:57):
listed them off to you.
I want you to secondly decidemaybe what you need emotionally,
physically this holiday season.
And you're like, well, what doesthis have to do with travel?
Well, it does because most timesduring the holiday, we will
travel to see family.
And maybe that's somethingyou're also planning to do.
(06:19):
And I bring it up this early.
I know we're just in October,but trust me, all the Christmas
decorations are out in thestores right now.
And you would need to startbooking travel if this is
something you are considering.
Now, if you're thinking aboutgoing somewhere in the US for
Thanksgiving, uh, gettingflights probably is a little
late for that because they haveincreasingly gotten more
(06:43):
expensive.
Now, I am going somewhere duringThanksgiving week.
I'm so excited.
It's like the first year that umI've decided to get out of town
during Thanksgiving because I'mtired of being alone.
And it's just not really myholiday.
Um, it was actually always sortof more my ex-husband's holiday.
(07:03):
He loved to cook, which isgreat.
Um, but it was never really uhthat meaningful to me.
And so since I don't have afamily to gather with, I and I
haven't for this will be thefifth year, I have chosen and I
wanted to do it before, and Ifinally just bit the bullet,
said, that's it, I'm doingsomething for myself, and I
booked a cruise during the weekof Thanksgiving.
(07:26):
Now, I did book those flightsway back the end of August, so
three months out tip, you know,is typically good.
And I know as I've looked atprices that they have
increasingly gone up during thistime.
So a road trip might be goodduring Thanksgiving, uh less
expensive, or they sayinternational travel is actually
rather inexpensive duringThanksgiving here in the U.S.
(07:50):
So if you're from the U.S.
and you want to do someinternational travel, um, it's
supposedly very affordableduring Thanksgiving week.
Um, but you can still bookflights for Christmas, which I
also plan to be somewhere atChristmas with my family,
extended family that is, um,because again, I don't want to
be alone.
So I made that decision, I madethat choice, and that might be
(08:13):
where you are at, and you know,like for example, maybe you know
that you feel alone and oryou're gonna be lonely, but you
don't want to feel that way,then make an initiative to be
with other people.
So deciding what you need, maybeyou do want to be alone, and I
will have to say, just beingalone can't it can lead to
(08:37):
feeling lonely, but being alonedoes not mean you are
automatically lonely.
Okay, sometimes being alone is agood thing, so you need to
decide if that's the feelingsyou're having and you're not
sure that you want to be alone,and maybe you feel like, okay,
I'm really down and depressedthis season.
(08:59):
I think I need to be aroundpeople so I don't get worse.
Then make an appointment to, youknow, find the group, find
somebody to be around during theholidays.
Maybe you have some othergirlfriends that are also going
to be alone, or maybe you feelokay asking a friend if you can
(09:21):
join their family dinner, andthat's okay.
They may, they may not evenrealize.
Um, so you know, put yourselfout there, especially if you are
feeling um depressed or lonelyand you don't want to go to that
place, especially during theholidays.
You're feeling maybe sad about aloved one during this this time
(09:44):
of season.
I find it so cathartic to dosomething in memory of maybe a
lost one.
I'll give you a few examples.
Um I did lose my mother um along time ago, and I do recall,
I believe it was that firstChristmas after she had passed,
(10:05):
one of she loved um birds andbird feeders, and we had for her
funeral, had set up somebeautifully painted bird houses,
and at Christmas time we endedup kind of gifting those to some
special people um in her life,and that was so uh it was just
(10:29):
heartwarming, even from myperspective, as sort of that
giver, and witnessing um thetears and just the love from
other people, the memory thatthey are now able to actually
physically hold on to.
Uh, similarly, when mygrandmother passed again, she
loved birds and she collectedthese um ceramic birds.
(10:52):
And after she passed, I dorecall um everybody in the
family really um was given abird uh as a reminder of my
grandmother.
And I've heard other things, youknow, uh maybe in memory of
somebody uh doing something thatthey enjoyed doing during the
holidays, maybe they were um aserving or giving type, and so
(11:17):
you therefore do the same uh inmemory of them during that time.
So if that's maybe your case,you're facing the holidays and
you've lost a loved one, you'velost a relationship, you've lost
family, that do somethingpositive in memory of them.
So instead of focusing on, youknow, oh my gosh, they're not
(11:41):
here, how could you create anatmosphere that reminds you of
them in a very positive,heartwarming way?
And I highly recommend that.
So if that's you, I rememberthose first few years, that was
super important for us as afamily to acknowledge.
And um I personally did that uhmore for myself.
(12:04):
Um, you know, soon after I gotdivorced, I had during my
marriage, I had collectednutcrackers, speaking of
Christmas.
And I, because I'm a nomad, Ireally haven't had the
opportunity to display them.
And each of those nutcrackers,even though it was bought as a
family, uh reminded me ofcertain people in my extended
(12:26):
family.
So a few Christmases ago, Iactually gifted each of my you
know extended family members, Ihad that many, yes, um, a
nutcracker that sort of remindedme of them.
And I gave my children um a fewand I kept two of my own.
And so that could be somethingtoo you do sort of in memory of
(12:47):
for me, it was in kind of anacknowledgement of the loss of
um my you know from my divorce,the loss of sort of that family
union, but it gave me theopportunity to sort of give
instead of sort of wallowing inthat.
So um again, one identified andidentify your feelings, write
(13:09):
them down.
Number two, decide what you needemotionally or physically based
on that list.
And then three, is I'm I'm kindof discussing how can we counter
those pending feelings aroundthe holidays of being alone.
As I mentioned, just becauseyou're alone doesn't mean you
have you have to be lonely.
Um, doing something, as I said,to combat the sadness, doing uh
(13:32):
something to combat the alone orloneliness by taking that step
and maybe finding a group ofpeople to join.
Maybe there's other singlepeople in your if you live in an
apartment complex or if you aretraveling, there could be, you
know, just joining uh some groupof people during that time.
Maybe they don't even celebrate.
(13:54):
Obviously, only Americanscelebrate uh Thanksgiving.
So if you're traveling duringThanksgiving, um just joining
other groups on that day, uh,probably creating new memories,
obviously, will happen.
And it's just gonna be adifferent memory for you on that
holiday, which I highlyrecommend creating new memories
(14:14):
and positive memories on thoseholidays, addressing each
emotion as I have discussed.
Um so I decided since I did notwant to feel alone again or
disconnected, because that wasthat's kind of been a big thing,
just feeling like the oddballout.
Um, so maybe a travel during theholidays is what you need.
(14:40):
And I highly encourage thatbecause this again is creating
new memories around that holidaytime that maybe at this point in
your life doesn't feelcomfortable, and you are not
wanting to be, you know, haveold memories brought up, and so
(15:01):
you're gonna create new onesthrough travel.
You're gonna have some positivememories, energy, new energy
coming into your life.
This may even set the stage foryour future holidays.
I hate to say that.
You mean you might get so uminspired and addicted really to
that idea of traveling duringthese time frames that maybe
(15:25):
that will become your new norm.
And I highly encourage if youare single, empty nester, and
you are struggling with thesepending holidays, I want to
encourage you.
Travel can be not just a meansto uh to escape, maybe these
traditional family, you know, orwhatever traditional ideas you
(15:49):
have of the holidays that youmight be uh not fond of because
of some past hurts or emotionsthat you're dealing with, then
travel can be that healingvehicle to get you to that
place.
And I am so looking forward tomy trip because I know it's
(16:10):
gonna start to create newmemories.
I think it's gonna be a newthing for me every Thanksgiving.
I think I might keep this as aas my tradition moving forward.
And then for me at Christmastime, because it is important
for me to be with family, and Idon't have really a place to
gather, and my children here,they are local, but they're
(16:36):
likely going to be spending itwith their father and their
grandparents and aunt uncle frommy ex-husband side, which is
great.
I love it, and um, it's justawkward for me.
So I've chosen uh to go see myfamily um in another state and
(16:56):
spend some time with them duringthe holiday season and you know
just reconnect because I I dolove my family.
I know that's not always thecase for everybody, and so maybe
you need to find um your owncreated family.
It doesn't have to be bloodfamily, right?
We often find some of these uhfriends that you know we might
(17:22):
kind of call sisters, eventhough they're not blood
sisters, but you feel soconnected to them, and maybe
this is your opportunity tocreate that, you know, maybe you
do something with them duringthe holidays to create sort of
that closer bond, even and thatyour own family bond there
during the holidays.
(17:43):
Well, sisters, I know, I knowfor a fact I've been there and
still are there that theholidays are a very challenging
time for us single women, andespecially, I feel like
especially the us as older womenor midlife women, we're kind of
in that just weird kind ofphase.
(18:03):
Um, I want to encourage you tocreate your own memories around
the holidays and get out thereand have those adventures and
don't hold back because this isyour opportunity now to do that.
And if you're still needing someguidance on, you know, what you
should do, I am available.
(18:26):
I do one-on-one travel coaching.
You can book a discovery callwith me or even go to my website
to find out more about myprogram.
But I still would love to hearfrom you, and I would love to
even see if you, you know, yougo somewhere different for all
the holidays.
I'll be posting a little bit ofmine in my Facebook group once
(18:49):
I, you know, I'm um on mycruise, by the way.
So I am looking forward to it,and I look forward to hearing
about positive stories of howyou have changed a holiday, a
dreaded holiday, into somethingamazing.
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