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Welcome to Songs that Don't Suckwith your host Mark Bradbourne.
What's up, friend? Welcome to songs that don't
suck. I'm your host, Mark.
And every week, after listening to hundreds and hundreds of
songs that are newly released, Iretreat to Studio B down in the
basement, and I sit here and I tell you about them.
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Why do we do that? Well, I think sharing music with
people is important and I want to keep yours and my playlists
fresh and that's why we're here.If it's the first time you're
listening to the podcast, thanksfor checking it out.
I talked to a few folks over theweekend and hopefully turn them
on to the podcast, but we'll see.
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If you're a long time listener. Welcome back.
Love you guys so much for for supporting the podcast, this
crazy little musical journey journey that I've got this one's
going to start off a little sad,so just hang with me.
It's yeah, it's going to get deep, but I've just I I need to
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talk about something and I figured this might be the best
place to do it. And it does have a musical tie
in. So there is a strange and fully
expected sadness in planning a funeral or in the case of me
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currently is pre planning a funeral.
For the record, I'm I'm not waxing hypothetical here.
This is what I'm in the process of currently doing for both of
my parents. And I'm sure that are there are
other Gen. Xers who listen to this podcast
who are in similar boats or havebeen in similar boats.
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So firstly, you, if you are, you're not alone.
Like this is just the reality oflife, right?
People live longer. And you know, when I think back
to my grandparents, like my parents, never, at least I don't
remember them going through any of this motion.
But anyway, I'm I'm currently working with lawyers to help my
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parents do their estate planningand basically trying to make the
next phase as easy as humanly possible.
And part of that process is sketching out what the end of
life looks like, including services or no services or
burial or cremation. And all these things have to be
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noted. And it was this last bit of
information that I needed beforeI turned in all of the paperwork
to the lawyer to finish it. And I had been dreading this
conversation because regardless of your relationship with your
parents, unless you're completely estranged, the
conversation with a living humanbeing about their death and what
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they want to happen next is hard.
Now with my father-in-law, completely different.
He was being buried at Arlington.
He had known that for a very long time.
All of it was pre planned so there was no conversation to be
had. Not the same with my parents.
In fact my parents completely punted, started having the
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conversation and they were just like Mark you and you and your
brother just plan it whatever you want to do is fine.
Well fuck me, this is not the task that I wanted to plan.
I was honestly not looking forward to it, but I just wanted
to take notes on what they wanted.
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But they they just either apathyaround it or denial that it's
going to happen. Whatever the case, they fully
punted. So I went home and with, you
know, thinking about all the variables and parameters,
thinking about friends and family and logistics and
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geography, I had to make some decisions.
Makes no sense to commit them tothe ground here.
They have no ties in Ohio. So I opted for cremation.
But then what do you do with theAshes?
Part of me was like, well, maybewe take them back to England
because that's where they're from, spreading them with their
parents. Maybe we take them back to
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Florida, where they had lived probably the longest and had
more ties. But then I kind of decided to
divide them up seven ways, like a Horcrux basically, between my
brother and I and the five grandkids.
And basically the instructions were simple.
Do what you want, keep them, spread them, create jewelry, do
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whatever you like. They're yours, and you honor
them the way you want to honor them.
And then it came to the music. So I decided that it didn't make
sense to have full Funeral services because there simply
aren't enough people around. They wouldn't be able to tend
due to geography, age, you know,mobility, all those things.
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So I thought just doing something small with the family
and, you know, friends who want to come support the family, you
know, who are in the area. That'll be fabulous.
We'll do like a little celebration of life where we'll
get the ashes, hoping to have somebody say a few words.
And, you know, in the the process of this half an hour,
we'll listen to some music. But what music?
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My mom is probably best described as a convenient
Catholic. Convenient in the fact that she
only brings it up on very rare occasions, and when she does and
I look surprised, she she's shocked that I don't remember
that she's Catholic. So she didn't want a Catholic
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funeral, Catholic mass or anything.
So I decided that we would do some music from Catholic masses
just for her just in case. So I landed on Ave.
Maria done by Michael Crawford who famously did a Phantom of
the Opera. She's a big fan of Phantom so
that fits really well. Sarah Brightman does a cool
version of In Paradisium, which lyrically talks about angels
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shepherding souls to heaven. She's a big fan of angels,
believes in angels, always wearsangels pins.
So that works. And then Amazing Grace.
Amazing Grace was played at bothof her parents funerals and that
song completely fucked me up at a Hootie and the Blowfish
concert. And this was post 9/11.
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Darius Rucker decided to pull out an A cappella version of
Amazing Grace and I went to my grandfather's funeral and they
played that and that was one of those musical memories that has
just burned into me. A couple months later my
grandmother passed and I was notable to go.
I just didn't have the funds because they were all from
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England, so I never really got to mourn.
Like I didn't have that moment. So Fast forward to Hootie and
the Blowfish in the middle of the concert.
During the encore, Hootie startssinging Hootie, Darius Rucker
starts singing Amazing Grace andlike right in the middle of the
concert floor, I fell to the ground sobbing.
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People around me had no idea what was going on and quite
frankly, I've never forget and forgiven Darius Rucker for doing
that to me. So that's my mom's music.
Dad, slightly different tact. He's more secular to me.
He's more consistent in that. So the secular music that I have
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for him are just some of his favorites, right.
Largo, which is the second movement from Dvorak Symphony of
the New World, one of his absolute all time favorite
pieces. At one point he did say that was
part of what he wanted in his services, and I was like, cool,
I committed that to memory many years ago.
The Parting Glass, which is by Celtic women, represents his
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love of a nip of Scotch every now and then, or a nice foamy
Tetley's Bitter. And then lastly, Monty Python's
always look on the bright side of life.
Because never let it be said that my dad didn't have a good
sense of humor. He taught me everything I know
about humor, introduced me to all of the great British comedy,
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and I think at that point in theday I will probably need to have
that laugh. So in all of this planning, I I
started considering my own mortality and trying to figure
out like, well, what songs wouldI want for my services?
So I actually gave it a little bit of thought because I don't
want to go out on the wrong note.
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Chances are if somebody play some bullshit music, I will
probably wake up from the dead, hit skip or pull the ox or
whatever it is. So here's here's a few songs I'm
going to go on record that are acceptable for my funeral.
You can pick whatever you want. So first one is at my funeral
from the Crash Test Dummies. Fantastic.
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Ryan Adams does a version of Iron Maidens Wasted Years, which
is fantastic. Jason Mraz does a version of
It's So Hard to Say Goodbye to Yesterday.
That's a boys to men song. Don't want the boys to men
version. I want Jason's version.
Kansas Dust in the Wind goes without saying.
Johnny Cash does an unbelievableversion of The Beatles in My
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Life, which I think is fantastic.
That was played at my wedding. I think it's a nice bookend to
play it at the funeral. And then Radioheads How to
Disappear completely. I think it's just kind of a
maybe a little bit of a tongue in cheek joke, but I don't know.
It's interesting to me because Idon't think we talk about this
stuff enough as a generation. I think, you know, partly it
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hurts. Maybe some of us think it's
morbid, but if the music is the way we've always made sense of
life, then maybe it's the best way to make sense of the end
too. OK, onto the new music for this
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week, shall we? OK, the first song this week is
Kansarian from KT Tunstall. So back in the early 2000s, we
could not escape the huge hits of KT Tunstall.
Black Horse in the Cherry Tree. Suddenly, I see, I mean, amazing
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songs, amazing songwriter. So when this one dropped on my
radar this week, I was like, wait, what?
And it's another case of artistswho we listen to incessantly and
then for whatever reason, usually it's the own, you know,
ebb and flow of ourselves through the world, we stop
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listening or, you know, we just move on to other things.
Well, guess what? She still writes amazing songs.
Or I should say, she wrote amazing songs that didn't end up
on that first album 20 years ago.
Apparently this didn't make Eye to the Telescope, which was the
album that had those huge hits on and this would have been
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another huge hit, I think. Who knows?
This one is a banger. Super catchy, little tongue in
cheek towards astrology, but she's a strong believer in
astrology in the sense that Zodiac can pick out some
people's traits. So as much I don't know, it's a
really fun song honestly. It's really fun to listen to.
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So check out a little bit of Kansarian from KT Tester.
But I don't need to worry about.Mercury making up?
Your mind, because you've got inside information.
I'll take it as a sign. The second song this week is Not
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Dynamite from Stella and the Very Mest.
Second appearance from Stella and the Very Mest here on the
podcast and another excellent song.
The opening of this song has these electric Toms and it's
kind of a loop and it reminds meof an old marching cadence that
I played in college on the drumline.
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It mirrors what the pitched bassline would do, but I digress
there. It's a very cool mixture of this
loop and the acoustic drums and it gives the song honestly a
really interesting feel. And there's moments where that
loop drops out and it's just drums and it's very aggressive.
And then there's other parts where they use just that loop
and it, you know, pulls the dynamics way down.
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So it's really, really cool. Love her vocals, always have
loved her vocals. Can't get enough of her vocals.
There's this really cool thing that she does at the end of the
verse, this little like vocal run, and it's different every
time and it's just very tasty and I love it.
This song is coming off there soon to be released album big
familiar, and I'm really excitedto listen to the whole damn
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thing. And as soon as it comes out, I
will listen to it and chances are I'll probably have another
song or two from them because I really, really think these this
this band is talented. So check out Not Dynamite from
Stella and the very mess. When every word feels like a
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secret, just for me, Show me howto die.
I'm always drinking, fighting onthe doors he's opening.
I see him in the room where everybody gets a glimpse of
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what? 3rd song this week is Fake
Version of The Real Thing by Brian Dunn.
Another great find for my fans of rootsy folk rock.
And it's funny because I noticedthis has happened to me a few
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times with the podcast and finding new music.
Usually I'll be able to say oh this reminds me of this or it's
got this feel or I really like this part of it.
I don't know why I like this song.
I just do. There isn't anything where I
fall in love with the the voice.It's not like a cool guitar
part. It's not a great rhythms.
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It's just one of those songs where everything falls into
place and it's all good and it makes me feel good.
And sometimes all you need musicto do is make you feel good.
It's kind of the idea of Christmas, right?
I don't care what the present is.
I just appreciate that you got me a presents right.
So here just check it out and enjoy.
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This is Brian Dunn and fake version of the real thing.
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The 4th song this week is Seize the Sun from Hayden Everett.
So a little confession. I didn't do a review of a
concert that I went to this week, but I went and saw the
paper kites and Hayden Everett opened the show.
And the reason I didn't do a review is I think my mindset
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with everything that I talked about at the beginning of the
the show, my vibes were just off.
But Hayden Everett is the reasonwhy you don't sleep on the
opener. You've got to show up and
listen. The song I'm going to play for
you, Sees the Sun is from his EPthat he released in 2024.
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He closed his set with this. Most of the set is coming from
his new album is what he told us.
He just finished it. So I'm very much anticipating
when that comes out that I will be like diving into it.
I don't know what the productionof that album will be like.
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But on stage it was just him andthe guitar and it was super
powerful and he captivated that room.
And you could hear a pin drop inthe very quiet, vulnerable parts
of songs, which where I love Cleveland, but the sometimes the
music fans here just start getting chatty and it just
didn't happen. So that's a testament to his
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presence on stage. There was one song that he did,
and I don't know the name of it,but it was basically about a
blind man who went on a sightseeing tour that he was a
boat driver for. And you know, he from stage,
he's like, we'll laugh if you want.
And I chuckled a little bit, butit completely changed his way on
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how he perceives the world. And it's just, it's a beautiful,
beautiful song. I actually kind of teared up a
little bit again, probably my headspace.
But there was a line in there about memories being kind of
worth everything more than anything else.
So really, I just want you. I just want to turn you on to
him. Singer-songwriter from Seattle
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Hayden Everett. This is Sees the Sun.
So I don't we both come down to the ground and there's ain't no
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shame in the animation now. Just one step back is much less
to figure out about the time we get back.
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You know what, I recorded Hayden's set, so I'm actually
going to share a little bit of that song I was talking about
about the the blind man who wenton the site singing trip.
So here's a little bit of that one too.
The. Blind man was listening.
To the wind, they whispers through the trees.
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You said it looks so pretty. I can hear the sunlight shimmer
on the golden. Leaves and the.
Birds are telling me that the sun is back around in the roots
below my feet, my pulsing signals underground.
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I can smell the seas and lean and that the Earth's dancing up
to such a lovely sound. And that is it, my friends.
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