April 28, 2025 • 17 mins
The crushing weight of perfectionism affects so many of us, subtly draining our energy while convincing us that we're never quite good enough. Perfectionism doesn't just rob us of joy—it's a direct pathway to burnout, compassion fatigue, and a disconnection from our authentic selves.
Drawing from both clinical expertise and personal experience, Dr. Julie Merriman explores how perfectionism infiltrates our lives, whether through academic pressure, professional expectations, or harsh self-criticism about our appearance and abilities. She shares how her own journey involved moving past the need for straight A's during her PhD program, learning to launch projects before they felt "ready," and discovering that her wrinkles and gray hairs represent treasured life experiences rather than flaws to conceal.
The heart chakra—our center of self-love and compassion—becomes blocked when we obsess over perfection, creating a ripple effect of disconnection throughout our entire being. Through practical exercises like identifying the positive aspects of our perceived flaws, consciously reframing negative self-talk, and practicing physical self-soothing techniques that release oxytocin, listeners gain concrete tools to embrace their "perfectly imperfect" nature. The goal isn't lowering standards but rather finding freedom in authenticity—trying your best while accepting whatever outcome emerges. Wonder what might happen if you stopped comparing yourself to others and started celebrating your unique journey instead? Your perfectly imperfect self isn't waiting to be fixed—it's waiting to be embraced.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey y'all, I'm Dr Julie Merriman and welcome to
SoulJoy.
So this week we're stilltalking about the heart chakra,
but today we're going to bechatting about imperfection
Because, my friend, this is avery necessary component of
holistic, sustainable self-care,also known as wellness.
(00:23):
All right, hey you, how is itgoing?
I hope you've been having agood week.
Man, these weeks are flying by.
I mean flying by, um.
So I appreciate you dropping byand spending a hot minute with
(00:46):
me on this podcast.
I I try to make them short andsweet, but I hope I'm packing
some stuff in here that y'allfind helpful.
So this week and I okay.
So my hubby, my beloved, myamazing husband, got me a
battery operated electric, Iguess chainsaw and blower for
(01:09):
Christmas, and at first Ithought, oh great, but I have
fallen in love with these twothings.
I blow off my porch because wehave three dogs, and I blow off
my porch almost daily.
And then I have been going outon the weekend, y'all.
I'm getting out into thesunshine spending time with
(01:32):
nature and my doggies.
They go down into the pasturewith me, and I've been
chainsawing cedars and clippingthem too.
I have some loppers that I clipthem off too, and I just I find
so much joy in getting out anddoing that in the pasture.
Plus, I love to look back andsee how nice it looks to see
those cedars gone, because theyget up under the oak trees where
(01:55):
the birds sit and it just itmesses up the view of the
pasture.
So, anyway, that's what I didthis weekend.
I had the best time.
The weather has really been funhere in Texas lately.
So, okay, professional helpers,this podcast is dedicated to
preventing and overcoming theoccupational hazards of this
(02:19):
amazing career that we've chosen, and these components, or these
hazards, are specificallyburnout, compassion, fatigue and
vicarious trauma.
But, my friend, if you're not aprofessional helper, this
podcast is for you too.
All of us can become impactedby these constructs, so welcome
(02:43):
aboard.
So the topic today is perfectlyimperfect, and I think there's a
pretty cool country song I saw.
Oh man, when was that?
Maybe 10, 12 years ago.
That song was pretty popularwhere people were using that
song at their weddings and stuff.
You know, perfectly imperfectlove.
I mean, that's who.
(03:04):
We are right, we're imperfect.
There's only one perfect personand he's no longer with us.
He's with a father up and above.
But anyway, perfectly imperfectand yes, I am perfectly
imperfect and, yes, you areperfectly imperfect and I invite
(03:25):
you to embrace all yourimperfections.
This, my friend, ourimperfections, are what make us
unique and well, that's whatmakes us us Think how boring it
would be if we were all the samekind of perfect.
If you will, and you knowperfect and I'll talk about this
(03:46):
again in a moment but perfectcan be your looks, or perfect
can be what you expect out ofyourself.
And I just invite you,especially those of us, such as
myself, who are in our 60s, toremember that we are so much
more than our looks looks whenyou see those airbrushed folks
(04:06):
on Instagram or Facebook ormagazines or whatever.
Just know that we are so muchmore than the package that we
arrive in.
Many of us struggle withpeople-pleasing tendencies and
(04:27):
or are way too hard on ourselvesand y'all.
It's okay to make a B, okay.
I mean, when I was a gradstudent, I really struggled with
that and then, as I moved oninto my PhD and I was working
full-time and raising a familyand doing all these other things
, I learned to embrace my Bs.
I didn't have to have astraight A any longer.
(04:50):
It's okay to be less thanperfect and I'll tell you, even
my students today, straight Astudents don't always that's not
what I'm looking for.
I'm looking for students whocan show me the skills and show
me what they've learned.
And a straight A doesn't alwaysrepresent that.
(05:11):
And I just spend a moment therebecause you know that A
represents that perfect grade.
I'd far rather see a strong Bstudent with really sound
counseling skills than astraight A student who is just
beating themselves up tryingwith anxiety and just
unhappiness trying to maintainthat A.
(05:33):
It's okay to be less thanperfect.
The energy we spend on trying toimpress and be perfect is
exhausting and really a waste oftime.
And I don't know, it's alwaysabout impressing others.
I think at some point and itcould be old schema tied back to
our childhood, where wereceived love and praise if we
(05:58):
did something really good andthen that seeps into our psyche
that we've got to be perfect orwe're not lovable and maybe
we'll get abandoned.
I mean you know that spiralthinking of those old schema
could come in.
Or you only got attention ifyou did something amazing.
(06:19):
So you really seek out that.
You know again, it could betied to lots of things.
I know I used to be really hardon myself.
I never allowed myself to feelgood about an accomplishment,
and you know it.
And I could have accomplishedblank, fill in the blank and I
(06:39):
would be like, okay, yeah, butyou know, I just never could
accept that I'd done somethingthat was worth accolades.
Or maybe, if I receivedcompliments, I'd squirm, not
believing that my imperfect selfwas worthy of the compliment.
And I noticed that with myclients in my counseling room I
(07:01):
can, or just maybe not even mycounseling room.
I'm just out and about, I givesomeone a compliment and I just
feel where they squirm andthey're not really able to
accept it.
Have you all ever experiencedthat yourself?
I think that's part of thatperfectionism sneaking in and
not allowing us to feel how goodthat compliment might feel or
(07:23):
to believe we might be worthy.
When you're functioning in astate of burnout, believe me, it
is easy to slip intoperfectionism.
Maybe really y'all when I saythat maybe it's the chicken and
egg thing Burnout causes thatperfectionistic thing to kick up
(07:46):
.
Or maybe that perfectionisticthing causes the burnout to come
up.
But whatever it might be, it'sa state of mind that is not
healthy.
We're striving for somethingthat is not possible.
Striving for perfectionism canonly lead to unhappiness.
(08:06):
When we can celebrate andembrace our perfectly
imperfectness, that y'all, thatis the sweet spot.
I mean you try but you acceptthe outcome of whatever it may
be.
By that I mean you've got agoal and you try to do your best
, right?
I mean we don't approach stuffhalf-assed.
(08:28):
We want to try our best but wemight miss the mark and you're
able to accept that outcome andstill feel good about yourself
and feel good about what theeffort you put in.
This could be, I don't know,completing a project that maybe
didn't hit the mark.
(08:48):
You were hoping, like I justwrote a huge self-study, uh, for
the counseling department thatI work for, um, I think I've
mentioned this for the k-cripself-study, um, or maybe even
back when I first launched mywebsite, I knew it wasn't going
to be perfect.
I mean we will.
We will get caught up in this.
(09:08):
Oh, I can't do it yet becauseit's not good enough, and then
you never get the darn thingdone.
Sometimes you just need to putit out there and then you can
make, you can make tweaks on itas you go, but get the darn
thing out there.
I would still be writing onthat stupid self.
It's not stupid.
I would still be writing onthat self-study had I not just
said F it.
I'm going to get this done andI'll make whatever corrections I
(09:30):
need to make when I hear backfrom K-Crip, because no matter
what I did, I promised they'regoing to find something.
So I might as well get it outthere and get the process of
accreditation going.
Same thing with my first website.
I tortured myself for months oh, I can't get that out there
that, oh, that'd be embarrassing.
Oh, look at that.
(09:50):
Oh, oh, that's a terriblepicture.
Oh, that sentence isn't correct.
Oh, that didn't make sense.
I mean, I just you can tear itapart.
The best thing to do, y'all putthe darn thing out there and
then go back and look at it, getfeedback.
But at least it's out there,it's done, and then you can
start making the improvementsyou see that need to be made,
(10:13):
instead of getting caught up inperfectionism and getting locked
up and not getting anythingdone.
So this perfectionism can comein a project, as I just
mentioned, or it could comewhere you have to accept that
that new wrinkle on your face issomething you're going to have
(10:35):
to learn to love, because thatface is you and you've earned
every crepe and wrinkle on there, or gray hair.
That's a treasure from God thatwe've made in another year.
We've survived a lot of stuff.
Or, as I said earlier, youaccept the bee and you learn to
love it.
Or you decorate for the partyand stand back and find joy in
(11:00):
the effort.
Maybe it's not exactly what youhad envisioned, but you find
joy in how fun it was putting ittogether.
This is a matter of looking atlife through different eyes,
eyes that are kinder and moreloving.
Learning to accept andappreciate being perfectly
(11:22):
imperfect is the goal.
Y'all, that is the journey.
It's a very empowering place tolive.
Okay, so, before we go to theactivity, I just want to invite
you to subscribe to my emaillist to get the weekly podcast
email that includes this bonusPDF I do for you each week.
(11:45):
All you've got to do is hopover to my website, hop onto my
email list and I will get youhooked up.
My website iswwwjuliemerrimanphdcom.
Okay so, the activity for today.
Okay so, the activity for todayor, surprisingly, I call
(12:11):
perfectly imperfect, acceptingto be imperfect can be an
ongoing process, but here's somesimplified activities to get
you started.
Okay so, again, I have createda PDF of this for you.
If you sign up for my emaillist, I'll get it to you.
But first you want to identifyyour flaws.
(12:32):
Yes, my friends, we all haveplenty of flaws and we usually
beat ourselves up about them.
But I want you to write downthings you often self-criticize
about.
This could be anything frombeing a worrier to being too
sensitive, to not being good atsomething.
Okay.
(12:53):
So first you identify yourflaws and then, second, I want
you to find the positive side ofthat flaw.
So for each flaw, you identifya positive attribute or a way
that this flaw can be a strength.
So let's say you think you're aworrier.
(13:14):
You could flip that.
You could reframe that bysaying that worry can also make
you a good problem solver ormake you prepared for unexpected
challenges.
You see that difference.
There's just a different energythere.
The next thing I want you topractice doing is reframing your
(13:34):
perspective.
Now we're talking about ourheart chakra.
Still, we're still in our heartchakra.
That's your chest.
The color is green.
As you're going through thisactivity, I want you to envision
the energy in your heart chakra, see what makes it heavier,
what makes it more expansive,what makes it jittery.
(13:55):
What makes it calmer?
It might require you to do afull body scan or just a scan
where you're focusing on thatheart chakra, but all of these
activities are meant to help youbalance that heart chakra.
So the next thing I want you todo is reframe your perspective
(14:17):
Once you've identified thepositive side.
This is that new eyes I wastalking about to look at your
life through refreshed eyes.
Once you've identified thepositive side, challenge the
initial negative label Insteadof thinking I'm too anxious.
Try.
I'm a thoughtful person whocares deeply and often thinks
(14:40):
ahead.
I mean, you bring a wholedifferent energy to that heart
chakra.
Next, I want you to practiceself-compassion.
I spent a whole podcast on this.
I forget which one it is.
Oh, it's podcast last week,podcast number eight.
Go back and listen to that ifyou haven't already heard that.
(15:02):
But when you find yourselfcriticizing yourself,
consciously pause and try to seeyour flaw with more
understanding and kindness.
Understanding and kindnessRemind yourself that everyone
makes mistakes and it's okay notto be perfect.
Sometimes I will even pat myface, or maybe you could rub
(15:24):
your hand as I'm saying that tomyself.
It releases oxytocin, which isthat love, the love hormone, and
that's going to help you feelmore grounded and peaceful as
well.
Other things to do is to focuson the flow state instead of
(15:46):
striving for perfection.
Focus on the joy andsatisfaction of being in the
moment while pursuing something.
Challenge your negative self.
Talk next week I think it'snext week or maybe it's in two
weeks the whole podcast is goingto be about negative self-talk.
But when you're challengingyour negative self-talk, I want
you to be mindful of how youtalk to yourself and actively
(16:08):
challenge those negativethoughts.
And again, more self-compassion.
Treat yourself with the samekindness and understanding that
you offer a friend and y'all.
Quit comparing yourself toothers.
That is such a horrendous wasteof time and energy and all
(16:29):
you're going to do is makeyourself feel bad.
As I said at the beginning ofthe podcast, you are uniquely
you.
There is no other you in thisworld.
Quit comparing yourself toothers.
Remember everyone has their ownunique journey and there's no
single definition of perfectever and ever.
(16:51):
And if you find yourself reallystruggling with perfectionism,
I highly encourage you to seekout professional help.
I see my counselor on a regularbasis.
I think all good counselorsshould keep themselves in
(17:13):
counseling.
This is nothing.
There's no shame in this game,but if you find yourself really
struggling, go find a goodcounselor.
Get some quality of lifeworking for you.
It's a good thing.
Okay, that let's see.
That's it for today.
(17:34):
I invite you to subscribe to mypodcast wherever you listen to
podcasts, and leave me a reviewto help me reach more people and
, until next time, take care ofyou.
Hey y'all, I'm Dr Julie Merriman and welcome to
SoulJoy.
So this week we're stilltalking about the heart chakra,
but today we're going to bechatting about imperfection
Because, my friend, this is avery necessary component of
holistic, sustainable self-care,also known as wellness.
(00:23):
All right, hey you, how is itgoing?
I hope you've been having agood week.
Man, these weeks are flying by.
I mean flying by, um.
So I appreciate you dropping byand spending a hot minute with
(00:46):
me on this podcast.
I I try to make them short andsweet, but I hope I'm packing
some stuff in here that y'allfind helpful.
So this week and I okay.
So my hubby, my beloved, myamazing husband, got me a
battery operated electric, Iguess chainsaw and blower for
(01:09):
Christmas, and at first Ithought, oh great, but I have
fallen in love with these twothings.
I blow off my porch because wehave three dogs, and I blow off
my porch almost daily.
And then I have been going outon the weekend, y'all.
I'm getting out into thesunshine spending time with
(01:32):
nature and my doggies.
They go down into the pasturewith me, and I've been
chainsawing cedars and clippingthem too.
I have some loppers that I clipthem off too, and I just I find
so much joy in getting out anddoing that in the pasture.
Plus, I love to look back andsee how nice it looks to see
those cedars gone, because theyget up under the oak trees where
(01:55):
the birds sit and it just itmesses up the view of the
pasture.
So, anyway, that's what I didthis weekend.
I had the best time.
The weather has really been funhere in Texas lately.
So, okay, professional helpers,this podcast is dedicated to
preventing and overcoming theoccupational hazards of this
(02:19):
amazing career that we've chosen, and these components, or these
hazards, are specificallyburnout, compassion, fatigue and
vicarious trauma.
But, my friend, if you're not aprofessional helper, this
podcast is for you too.
All of us can become impactedby these constructs, so welcome
(02:43):
aboard.
So the topic today is perfectlyimperfect, and I think there's a
pretty cool country song I saw.
Oh man, when was that?
Maybe 10, 12 years ago.
That song was pretty popularwhere people were using that
song at their weddings and stuff.
You know, perfectly imperfectlove.
I mean, that's who.
(03:04):
We are right, we're imperfect.
There's only one perfect personand he's no longer with us.
He's with a father up and above.
But anyway, perfectly imperfectand yes, I am perfectly
imperfect and, yes, you areperfectly imperfect and I invite
(03:25):
you to embrace all yourimperfections.
This, my friend, ourimperfections, are what make us
unique and well, that's whatmakes us us Think how boring it
would be if we were all the samekind of perfect.
If you will, and you knowperfect and I'll talk about this
(03:46):
again in a moment but perfectcan be your looks, or perfect
can be what you expect out ofyourself.
And I just invite you,especially those of us, such as
myself, who are in our 60s, toremember that we are so much
more than our looks looks whenyou see those airbrushed folks
(04:06):
on Instagram or Facebook ormagazines or whatever.
Just know that we are so muchmore than the package that we
arrive in.
Many of us struggle withpeople-pleasing tendencies and
(04:27):
or are way too hard on ourselvesand y'all.
It's okay to make a B, okay.
I mean, when I was a gradstudent, I really struggled with
that and then, as I moved oninto my PhD and I was working
full-time and raising a familyand doing all these other things
, I learned to embrace my Bs.
I didn't have to have astraight A any longer.
(04:50):
It's okay to be less thanperfect and I'll tell you, even
my students today, straight Astudents don't always that's not
what I'm looking for.
I'm looking for students whocan show me the skills and show
me what they've learned.
And a straight A doesn't alwaysrepresent that.
(05:11):
And I just spend a moment therebecause you know that A
represents that perfect grade.
I'd far rather see a strong Bstudent with really sound
counseling skills than astraight A student who is just
beating themselves up tryingwith anxiety and just
unhappiness trying to maintainthat A.
(05:33):
It's okay to be less thanperfect.
The energy we spend on trying toimpress and be perfect is
exhausting and really a waste oftime.
And I don't know, it's alwaysabout impressing others.
I think at some point and itcould be old schema tied back to
our childhood, where wereceived love and praise if we
(05:58):
did something really good andthen that seeps into our psyche
that we've got to be perfect orwe're not lovable and maybe
we'll get abandoned.
I mean you know that spiralthinking of those old schema
could come in.
Or you only got attention ifyou did something amazing.
(06:19):
So you really seek out that.
You know again, it could betied to lots of things.
I know I used to be really hardon myself.
I never allowed myself to feelgood about an accomplishment,
and you know it.
And I could have accomplishedblank, fill in the blank and I
(06:39):
would be like, okay, yeah, butyou know, I just never could
accept that I'd done somethingthat was worth accolades.
Or maybe, if I receivedcompliments, I'd squirm, not
believing that my imperfect selfwas worthy of the compliment.
And I noticed that with myclients in my counseling room I
(07:01):
can, or just maybe not even mycounseling room.
I'm just out and about, I givesomeone a compliment and I just
feel where they squirm andthey're not really able to
accept it.
Have you all ever experiencedthat yourself?
I think that's part of thatperfectionism sneaking in and
not allowing us to feel how goodthat compliment might feel or
(07:23):
to believe we might be worthy.
When you're functioning in astate of burnout, believe me, it
is easy to slip intoperfectionism.
Maybe really y'all when I saythat maybe it's the chicken and
egg thing Burnout causes thatperfectionistic thing to kick up
(07:46):
.
Or maybe that perfectionisticthing causes the burnout to come
up.
But whatever it might be, it'sa state of mind that is not
healthy.
We're striving for somethingthat is not possible.
Striving for perfectionism canonly lead to unhappiness.
(08:06):
When we can celebrate andembrace our perfectly
imperfectness, that y'all, thatis the sweet spot.
I mean you try but you acceptthe outcome of whatever it may
be.
By that I mean you've got agoal and you try to do your best
, right?
I mean we don't approach stuffhalf-assed.
(08:28):
We want to try our best but wemight miss the mark and you're
able to accept that outcome andstill feel good about yourself
and feel good about what theeffort you put in.
This could be, I don't know,completing a project that maybe
didn't hit the mark.
(08:48):
You were hoping, like I justwrote a huge self-study, uh, for
the counseling department thatI work for, um, I think I've
mentioned this for the k-cripself-study, um, or maybe even
back when I first launched mywebsite, I knew it wasn't going
to be perfect.
I mean we will.
We will get caught up in this.
(09:08):
Oh, I can't do it yet becauseit's not good enough, and then
you never get the darn thingdone.
Sometimes you just need to putit out there and then you can
make, you can make tweaks on itas you go, but get the darn
thing out there.
I would still be writing onthat stupid self.
It's not stupid.
I would still be writing onthat self-study had I not just
said F it.
I'm going to get this done andI'll make whatever corrections I
(09:30):
need to make when I hear backfrom K-Crip, because no matter
what I did, I promised they'regoing to find something.
So I might as well get it outthere and get the process of
accreditation going.
Same thing with my first website.
I tortured myself for months oh, I can't get that out there
that, oh, that'd be embarrassing.
Oh, look at that.
(09:50):
Oh, oh, that's a terriblepicture.
Oh, that sentence isn't correct.
Oh, that didn't make sense.
I mean, I just you can tear itapart.
The best thing to do, y'all putthe darn thing out there and
then go back and look at it, getfeedback.
But at least it's out there,it's done, and then you can
start making the improvementsyou see that need to be made,
(10:13):
instead of getting caught up inperfectionism and getting locked
up and not getting anythingdone.
So this perfectionism can comein a project, as I just
mentioned, or it could comewhere you have to accept that
that new wrinkle on your face issomething you're going to have
(10:35):
to learn to love, because thatface is you and you've earned
every crepe and wrinkle on there, or gray hair.
That's a treasure from God thatwe've made in another year.
We've survived a lot of stuff.
Or, as I said earlier, youaccept the bee and you learn to
love it.
Or you decorate for the partyand stand back and find joy in
(11:00):
the effort.
Maybe it's not exactly what youhad envisioned, but you find
joy in how fun it was putting ittogether.
This is a matter of looking atlife through different eyes,
eyes that are kinder and moreloving.
Learning to accept andappreciate being perfectly
(11:22):
imperfect is the goal.
Y'all, that is the journey.
It's a very empowering place tolive.
Okay, so, before we go to theactivity, I just want to invite
you to subscribe to my emaillist to get the weekly podcast
email that includes this bonusPDF I do for you each week.
(11:45):
All you've got to do is hopover to my website, hop onto my
email list and I will get youhooked up.
My website iswwwjuliemerrimanphdcom.
Okay so, the activity for today.
Okay so, the activity for todayor, surprisingly, I call
(12:11):
perfectly imperfect, acceptingto be imperfect can be an
ongoing process, but here's somesimplified activities to get
you started.
Okay so, again, I have createda PDF of this for you.
If you sign up for my emaillist, I'll get it to you.
But first you want to identifyyour flaws.
(12:32):
Yes, my friends, we all haveplenty of flaws and we usually
beat ourselves up about them.
But I want you to write downthings you often self-criticize
about.
This could be anything frombeing a worrier to being too
sensitive, to not being good atsomething.
Okay.
(12:53):
So first you identify yourflaws and then, second, I want
you to find the positive side ofthat flaw.
So for each flaw, you identifya positive attribute or a way
that this flaw can be a strength.
So let's say you think you're aworrier.
(13:14):
You could flip that.
You could reframe that bysaying that worry can also make
you a good problem solver ormake you prepared for unexpected
challenges.
You see that difference.
There's just a different energythere.
The next thing I want you topractice doing is reframing your
(13:34):
perspective.
Now we're talking about ourheart chakra.
Still, we're still in our heartchakra.
That's your chest.
The color is green.
As you're going through thisactivity, I want you to envision
the energy in your heart chakra, see what makes it heavier,
what makes it more expansive,what makes it jittery.
(13:55):
What makes it calmer?
It might require you to do afull body scan or just a scan
where you're focusing on thatheart chakra, but all of these
activities are meant to help youbalance that heart chakra.
So the next thing I want you todo is reframe your perspective
(14:17):
Once you've identified thepositive side.
This is that new eyes I wastalking about to look at your
life through refreshed eyes.
Once you've identified thepositive side, challenge the
initial negative label Insteadof thinking I'm too anxious.
Try.
I'm a thoughtful person whocares deeply and often thinks
(14:40):
ahead.
I mean, you bring a wholedifferent energy to that heart
chakra.
Next, I want you to practiceself-compassion.
I spent a whole podcast on this.
I forget which one it is.
Oh, it's podcast last week,podcast number eight.
Go back and listen to that ifyou haven't already heard that.
(15:02):
But when you find yourselfcriticizing yourself,
consciously pause and try to seeyour flaw with more
understanding and kindness.
Understanding and kindnessRemind yourself that everyone
makes mistakes and it's okay notto be perfect.
Sometimes I will even pat myface, or maybe you could rub
(15:24):
your hand as I'm saying that tomyself.
It releases oxytocin, which isthat love, the love hormone, and
that's going to help you feelmore grounded and peaceful as
well.
Other things to do is to focuson the flow state instead of
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striving for perfection.
Focus on the joy andsatisfaction of being in the
moment while pursuing something.
Challenge your negative self.
Talk next week I think it'snext week or maybe it's in two
weeks the whole podcast is goingto be about negative self-talk.
But when you're challengingyour negative self-talk, I want
you to be mindful of how youtalk to yourself and actively
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challenge those negativethoughts.
And again, more self-compassion.
Treat yourself with the samekindness and understanding that
you offer a friend and y'all.
Quit comparing yourself toothers.
That is such a horrendous wasteof time and energy and all
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you're going to do is makeyourself feel bad.
As I said at the beginning ofthe podcast, you are uniquely
you.
There is no other you in thisworld.
Quit comparing yourself toothers.
Remember everyone has their ownunique journey and there's no
single definition of perfectever and ever.
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And if you find yourself reallystruggling with perfectionism,
I highly encourage you to seekout professional help.
I see my counselor on a regularbasis.
I think all good counselorsshould keep themselves in
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counseling.
This is nothing.
There's no shame in this game,but if you find yourself really
struggling, go find a goodcounselor.
Get some quality of lifeworking for you.
It's a good thing.
Okay, that let's see.
That's it for today.
(17:34):
I invite you to subscribe to mypodcast wherever you listen to
podcasts, and leave me a reviewto help me reach more people and
, until next time, take care ofyou.
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