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August 20, 2025 30 mins

This episode we have on Larry Bilotta - Author, marriage coach, and teacher from Milwaukee, Wisconsin with 40 years of experience in the area. Bilotta argues that even when a wife seems to have completely changed or checked out, one dedicated spouse can still save the marriage by understanding the root causes (childhood trauma) and learning specific tools to manage the emotional environment.Key Concepts Discussed:The "Chaos to Purpose Scale" (0-10) based on childhood experiences"Hard-natured women" vs "soft-hearted men" relationship dynamics"Buckers" - successful people who hide childhood trauma until they "crack" (typically around 27 years of marriage)The "care and feeding of a chaos kid" approach to loving difficult spousesThe "Energy Train" concept - how emotions and thoughts affect your partner invisiblyHis "Environment Changer" course that teaches men to become "bulletproof" against negativity while still loving their wivesYouCanSaveThisMarriage.comBook: "This Is Not The Woman I Married" Thanks for joining us for this podcast! If you benefited from this video, please like, subscribe, and send it to a friend who might enjoy it. For more information on counseling, resources, workshops, newsletters, and more, go to samaritanswell.com​. You can also email us questions to cover on the podcast at info@samaritanswell.org.Stay connected:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/samaritanswell/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/samaritanswelldallasLinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/samaritan%E2%80%99s-well/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@samaritanswellcounseling?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pcNever miss an episode of our podcast! Subscribe now and stay updated with our latest teachings. We also value your feedback, so please consider leaving a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. Free Relationship "Talk Time" Guide: https://samaritanswell.thinkific.com/products/digital_downloads/talk-time-guideMusic from Uppbeat:https://uppbeat.io/t/sky-toes/featherlightLicense code: GAUXTZHWAYJROEFLMusic from Uppbeat:https://uppbeat.io/t/northwestern/all-i-needLicense code: LQFV9XYEQIWRJLNT

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