The #1 Mistake We Make in Conflict (And How to Fix It)

You know that moment when you're frustrated — at your spouse, your boss, your mom — and you just need to tell them how mad you are? Same.

But here’s the hard truth: venting isn’t the same as problem-solving. And if we don’t slow down and figure out what we actually want, nothing changes.

This episode is all about that one simple shift that can transform your relationships. I’m sharing a recent (and very real) argument with my husband that forced me to face my own bad habits—and the uncomfortable truth that emotional expression isn’t the same as fixing the problem. You’ll hear:

• Why knowing what you want before a tough conversation changes everything.
• The reason venting often backfires (even when you just need to be heard).
• How to ask for what you actually need — without getting shut down or ignored.
• The biggest mistake most of us make in conflict (and how to stop doing it).

If you’ve ever felt unheard, dismissed, or stuck in the same fights over and over, this episode is for you. Let’s talk about how to get real change—at home, at work, and everywhere in between.

Want to hear the original episode that inspired this reflection, listen here: I Feel Like I'm to Blame for Our Lack of Sex Life

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