Why Your 30s Feel Like Drowning—and Your 40s Feel Like Breathing Again

This isn’t the episode I planned—but it’s the one I needed to record. As I hide from my to-do list and attempt to pack for spring break, I’m taking a few minutes to reflect on turning 43, what this season of life looks like, and how different it feels from the decades that came before it.

Your 20s are for striving. Your 30s? Dismantling. But your 40s? There’s something else entirely that starts to unfold. A cracking open. A returning to yourself. A strength that surprises you. In this episode, I share where I’ve been, where I am, and what I see so many women around me experiencing, too.

I talk about:

• Why early motherhood can feel like getting kicked in the teeth (and why you're not alone if you feel that way)
• The real emotional toll of the “dismantling” decade
• What begins to shift when the fog of early motherhood lifts
• Why the 40s bring clarity, confidence, and yes—more chaos
• How I’m learning to hold hope even as the world feels heavy

Whether you're in your 20s, 30s, 40s—or just trying to catch your breath—this episode is for you.

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