Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma

Have you ever wished your heart could put words to the things you’ve never been able to say out loud?

In this conversation with bestselling author Navreet Pabla, we explore her book If My Heart Could Talk—a stunning collection of poems that speaks to the places in us that long for healing, honesty, and coming home. From mother and father wounds to inner child repair, we talk about how poetry can open doors in relationships that ordi...

Are you trying to heal your attachment style all on your own? In this episode, I’m breaking down why community is the missing piece so many women overlook when it comes to growing, healing, and building healthier relationships. I’ll share the three biggest reasons community matters, plus give you a peek into how our Speak Honest Membership helps women feel safe, supported, and seen every single week.

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Think secure attachment means you're calm, confident, and unbothered all the time? Think again. In this powerful coaching call, I sit down with Steph (one of our Relationship Reboot members) to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the healing journey: what secure attachment actually feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always comfortable. In fact, sometimes it means saying no when you want to say yes, letting go of th...

Ever wondered why love feels so hard even though you’re smart, successful, and doing all the “right” things?

In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Coach Cass to unpack the hidden patterns that keep women stuck in cycles of heartbreak, situationships, and almost-relationships. We talk chemistry vs. compatibility, why “casual equals casualties,” and how to create space for the love you actually deserve. If you’ve been settli...

Have you ever felt like grief should have an expiration date?
In this heartfelt conversation with grief educator and TEDx coach Teri Kingston, we explore the messy, tender, and very human journey of loss. From anticipatory grief to sudden loss, Teri opens up about her own story and shares practical insights on how to support yourself and others without falling into the trap of “shoulding.” Together, we talk about what to say (...

Have you ever wondered if your chronic pain could actually be your body trying to tell you something?

In this episode, I sit down with licensed therapist Nyle Biondi to explore the powerful connection between trauma, attachment wounds, and chronic pain. We talk about how the nervous system stores stress, why pain isn’t always “just physical,” and what emotional release has to do with finding real relief. Along the way, I share my ow...

Do you ever feel like no matter how much you talk, he just doesn’t hear you?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I coach Christine through a struggle so many of us know too well: needing to feel heard in a relationship but ending up frustrated, blowing up, and then hating ourselves for it. Together, we unpack where those reactions really come from, why boundaries feel so hard to set in the moment, and how to start communicating i...

Why do boundaries always seem to come after the meltdown?
In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to set boundaries before you're running on empty. We’ll explore the difference between reactive and proactive boundary-setting, how to recognize the early signs that you’re stretched too thin, and how to speak up without over-explaining or shutting people out. If you've ever felt like you're either s...

Ever feel like no matter how calm you stay, certain people still push every button you have?
In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant co-authors of Beyond Difficult, Dr. Jessie Stern and Rachel Samson. Together, we unpack why some people feel so hard to deal with and what’s actually going on under the surface of their behavior. From the science of attachment and temperament to the misunderstood truth about highly sensitive...

Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it?
You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions, trauma responses, and what it...

Can you really be a great mom without losing yourself in the process?
In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with parenting expert and somatic coach Vivian Meraki to talk about what it really means to parent through divorce. We unpack the pressure to be the “perfect mom,” the guilt that often follows us after a breakup, and how somatic awareness can help us show up for our kids and ourselves. Whether you’re navigating co-pa...

Is it love... or are you just afraid to start over?
In this episode of Speak Honest, I'm answering the big, messy questions so many women ask themselves late at night. Am I settling? Is he really the one? What does secure love even feel like? I’m breaking it all down in a way that’s honest, compassionate, and actually helpful. Whether you're dating someone new or deep into a long-term relationship, this episode will ...

Ever feel like you're finally healing... and then suddenly, you shut down or pull away from someone who’s actually good for you?
 In this vulnerable and eye-opening coaching call, I sit down with my client Sheryl to unpack what happens when avoidant attachment patterns sneak back in — especially in relationships that feel secure, healthy, or maybe even soulmate-level. We explore the push-pull of disorganized attachment, th...

Ever feel like your attraction to someone might be more pain than passion?
In this Q&A episode, I’m answering listener-submitted questions that get to the heart of what so many of us struggle with in relationships. We’re diving into the difference between anxious attachment and intuition (spoiler alert: your intuition doesn’t panic-text six times in a row), unpacking what activating and deactivating strategies really look l...

Ever felt like you should be over your ex by now, but you can’t stop thinking about them? Wondered why you keep checking their stories, or worse, found yourself spiraling into a breakup rabbit hole of “what ifs” and “maybes”? In this honest and raw conversation, I sit down with breakup recovery coach Lucy Price to pull back the curtain on what really happens when we’re stuck in the heartbreak loop. We talk about the sneaky ways gri...

What if exploring your identity wasn’t just allowed, it was celebrated?
In this episode, I’m opening up about my own pride story, not as a coach, but as a mom. I share what it’s been like raising my trans son, from his first coming out moment at nine years old to the joy of watching him grow into who he is today. You’ll hear how learning about pronouns rewired my brain, why phases aren’t something to be feared, and how creatin...

Ever felt like you can’t tell if you’re ready to leave or just desperate for something to change?
In this raw and revealing conversation, I sit down with Dr. Becky Whetstone, also known as the “Marriage Crisis Manager,” to talk about what really happens when a relationship hits the point of "I think I want out." Whether you're in the middle of a marriage meltdown or quietly questioning everything, this episode i...

Can a panic attack at the dentist actually teach you how far you've come in your healing journey?
In this raw and deeply honest episode, I share the unexpected emotional storm that hit me during a routine dental appointment and why it left me feeling more empowered, not less. From childhood dental trauma to adult self-advocacy, this story isn't just about cavities... it's about how healing can show up messy, lou...

Ever feel like you’re always the one being blamed? Whether it’s your partner, a friend, or even your family, you keep ending up in situations where you’re walking on eggshells, questioning your every move, and wondering, “Am I the problem?”

In this raw and emotional coaching call with my client Lisa, we dig into the sneaky patterns that keep women stuck in blame cycles. You’ll hear how childhood wounds shape the way we show up in ad...