We parents have been led to believe that for our teens and tweens to learn to behave appropriately, we must instill a little fear in them.
At the very least, we have to "show them we mean business" when they fail to meet our expectations or do something wrong.
But discipline, it turns out, is not about retribution or fear or punishment (especially when it comes to parenting teenagers).
If we want our teens and tweens to listen to us, cooperate, and ask for our advice and opinions, we have to get discipline right.
Listen in to today's episode as I answer 3 big questions about teen discipline:
- What are we actually trying to accomplish when we "discipline" our teens?
- Why does punishment backfire? and
- How can we discipline effectively without damaging the relationship with our teens?
And be sure to check out today's Substack post (5-6-25) where I give you some specific guidelines on issuing logical consequences for your teen or tween that will keep them out of the realm of "punishments".
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