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Have you ever thought, “I don’t have any stories to tell,” or wondered where people get those everyday stories that connect so powerfully with their audience? In this episode of Speaking with Confidence, I dive headfirst into that question and show you exactly how to spot and share the remarkable stories already hiding in your daily life.

I’m Tim Newman, your host, and as a recovering college professor turned communication coach, I know first-hand how easy it is to believe your life doesn’t serve up “epic” stories worth sharing. But the truth I’ve learned through both experience and science is that your best stories are simpler, closer, and more relatable than you ever imagined. Today, we’re flipping the script on storytelling by focusing on the small, ordinary moments that hold hidden magic when you know how to uncover and frame them.

This episode is just me no guest because I wanted to dig deep into my favorite topic: the practical art of everyday storytelling. I share personal experiences (including my own mishaps and embarrassments), research findings, and creative exercises you can use right away.

Here’s what we tackle together:

• Why chasing after “epic” stories is a waste of energy, and how your camera roll, junk drawer, and overheard conversations are loaded with potential story material.
• The science behind why small, vulnerable stories are more memorable and create stronger audience connection than polished, fact-based presentations.
• My three-step rule for quickly turning small disasters (like burning your grilled cheese or missing the bus) into engaging stories anyone can relate to.
• How to turn random objects (think broken watches or lone hairpins) into compelling story seeds using a practical three-step exercise.
• Techniques for mining everyday dialogue like coffee shop chatter for real, emotional narrative arcs, and how to practice capturing those authentic moments.
• Why sharing imperfect, unpolished stories is so powerful (spoiler: it helps your listeners remember and see themselves in your story).
• A practical challenge for you: pick five ordinary things over the next week and use the three-step micro story method to discover just how many stories your “ordinary” life truly holds.

If you’ve ever felt stuck when someone told you to “just tell a story,” by the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools and most importantly, the mindset to pull stories from even the most unremarkable corners of your day. Remember, your daily life is full of story prompts just waiting to be told, and those stories are your greatest assets as a communicator and connector.

Don’t forget to grab your free ebook, “The Top 21 Challenges for Public Speakers and How to Overcome Them,” at speakingwithconfidencepodcast.com, and check out my Formula for Public Speaking course. Thanks for joining me, your voice truly has the power to change the world. See you next time!

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Episode Transcript

Tim Newman (00:08):
Welcome back to Speaking with Confidence, a
podcast that helps you build thesoft skills that lead to real
results Communication,storytelling, public speaking
and showing up with confidencein every conversation that
counts.
I'm Tim Newman, a recoveringcollege professor turned
communication coach, and I'mthrilled to guide you on your
journey to becoming a powerfulcommunicator.
I talk a lot about the power ofstories and how they help you

(00:30):
not only connect with youraudience, but how they help your
message actually stick.
People ask me all the timewhere do you get your stories
from?
And they say I don't have anystories to tell.
Most of the stories I tell arefrom my personal experiences
living life.
I generally tell funny andembarrassing stories about
myself and my family orsituations that we've been in.

(00:51):
Everybody has stories, so quitchasing after epic stories.
The best ones are alreadysitting in your back pocket.
Literally.
Your phone's camera roll isfilled with everyday moments
waiting to be told.
That blurry shot from lastTuesday Story, that random
screenshot of a strange techStory, even the crumpled receipt

(01:15):
you almost tossed Big story.
And it doesn't stop there.
You have many disasters,overheard lines, junk drawer
objects, embarrassing memoriesand even other people's mistakes
.
All hold potential once youknow how to look at them.
Studies in narrative learningshow stories, especially
vulnerable human ones, raiseinterest and real-world action

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more than disjointed facts.
We remember small, exposedmoments because they spark
empathy.
Stories that make listenersrecall their own versions.
By the end of this video,you'll never again say I don't
have anything to talk about.
And since some of the mostpowerful examples hide inside
the little challenges we brushoff, let's begin there.

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The time you miss the bus isn'tjust a hassle.
It's the start of a story worthtelling.
The time you miss the bus isn'tjust a hassle.
It's the start of a story worthtelling.
Everyday mishaps carry hiddendrama when you frame them with
detail and honesty.
Think about it People are farmore likely to remember your
burnt grilled cheese than yourflawless work presentation.

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Why?
Because small disasters feelreal.
They echo the everydayexperiences your listeners have
themselves, and that makes astory instantly relatable.
Research on group dynamicsbacks this up.
Studies from Kellogg have shownthat when people swap
embarrassing or awkward stories,the group becomes more engaged
and even more creative inbrainstorming.
The reason is simple Admittingsmall failures signals openness

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and invites others to recalltheir own versions.
What looks like a trivialfailure turns out to be a
connector.
Sharing that you spilled coffeeon your shirt just before a big
meeting doesn't only cause alaugh, it creates solidarity,
because nearly everyone hasfumbled in the same way.
You can turn these tiny momentsinto stories fast with what I
call the three-step drill.

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First, name the exact moment itwent wrong, like the smoke
alarm screamed at 7.12 am.
Specifics matter.
Cognitive research shows ourbrains lock onto precise,
time-stamped details.
Second, tell the honestreaction I consider eating it
anyway.
A candid response invitesshared vulnerability.

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And third, show the aftermathor learning.
I gave up and ordered pancakesand finally set timers.
This structure takes ten tofifteen seconds to deliver and
transforms a mishap into anarrative with clarity, emotion
and resolution.
Notice how the most memorablestories start with something

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utterly believable you won'tbelieve what happened today and
then they reveal somethingeveryone can picture themselves
doing Missed buses, dead laptopbatteries, milk that spoiled
overnight.
The story connects not becauseit's extraordinary but because
it's ordinary, with detail andhonesty layered in, and that's

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what makes people nod, laugh andeven share their own in return.
So if a simple missed bus or aburnt sandwich can spark a story
and build a connection, imaginewhat else in your daily
environment might be quietlyholding stories you haven't
uncovered yet.
Think about your junk drawer.
It isn't just clutter, it's aquiet archive of potential
stories waiting to be uncovered.

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Those mismatched objects, thestray key or button hold more
weight than they seem.
Creative practitioners andeducators regularly use junk
drawer items as storytellingseeds, and studies and
practitioner write-ups showpeople spontaneously invent
backstories for ordinary objects, and there's a reason it comes

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so naturally of write-ups showpeople spontaneously invent
backstories for ordinary objectsand there's a reason it comes
so naturally.
When you anchor a story to aphysical object in a vivid
emotional moment, the brain ismore likely to hold on to the
details.
That's because a hippocampusdoesn't just store pieces of
memory, it stitches themtogether into cohesive
narratives that feel complete,even when the starting points
are random.

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So how do you actually do thisin a way that sparks a story
quickly?
Try the seed method.
It has three simple steps.
First, give the object an ownertrait and decide who might have
used it before it landed inyour drawer.
Second, assign it a purposewhat role did it serve in that
person's life?

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And finally, introduce a smallconflict Something went wrong or
changed its course.
Let's put it into practice.
Grab, say, a broken watch.
Step one the owner.
Trait might be that the personwho wore it was always punctual
Step 2.
Its purpose was to keep thetrains on time Step 3.

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The conflict is that the watchfroze during a stressful day,
leaving the owner helpless.
In less than a minute you'vetaken an inert object and built
the seed of a narrative aroundit.
Object and built the seed of anarrative around it.
Territory's creativepractitioners and classroom
teachers use exercises like thisas warm-ups to flex imaginative

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muscles, because they helpprime the brain for creative
problem solving.
About how museums work a singlehairpin becomes powerful once
it's framed within its culturalcontext.
Suddenly tell a story aboutbeauty, standards or traditions.
The same goes for the oddscrewdriver in your kitchen
drawer.
Without context, it's junk.
But give it a suspected historyand its narrative fuel.

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What matters isn't the, it'sthe incompleteness.
A full matching set leavesnothing unresolved, but one fork
out of place begs for anexplanation.
And when you tell a storyaround it, your audience
automatically starts connectingthe dots themselves.
If unremarkable objects cantrigger such narratives, imagine

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what happens when the rawmaterial isn't silent at all,
but comes from something alreadyspeaking all around you.
Next time you're in a coffeeshop, let yourself pause for 15
seconds and just listen thathalf-heard exchange can hold
more authentic dialogue thanmany carefully written scripts.
We often assume greatconversations need perfect lines

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, but the truth is unpolishedspeech carries its own power.
Professional storytellers mindreal talk, because interruptions
, incomplete thoughts and suddenturns give dialogue immediacy.
Experts like Kevin Hart andnarrative research show raw,
unfiltered moments and carryemotional weight in a way
polished phrasing often doesn't.

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Here's a quick example.
Imagine overhearing two peopleat a counter.
You said Tuesday, no, you heardTuesday.
But the tickets say Now, in 12seconds, you already have
conflict, clear roles and irony.
The audience knows more thaneither speaker.

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That's the skeleton of a storyhidden in everyday chatter, and
this isn't just random luck.
It's the way people naturallyshape conversations around
tension and misunderstanding,without even trying To put this
into practice.
Here's a three-step exercise youcan use anytime.
First, listen for 15 secondsand write down exactly what you

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hear.
Second, circle the line thatshows conflict or tension.
And third, map a micro-arc whatstarts the scene where the
misunderstanding lands andwhat's hinted at in the end and
this turns casual eavesdroppinginto structured story practice.
Writers like Nora Ephronfamously carried notebooks full

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of subway chatter, and DavidSimon drew directly from
Baltimore Street Talk for theshow the Wire.
They weren't inventing rhythms,they were capturing how people
already speak.
If you prefer to see how itworks, here's a demo.
Take the snippet.
We can't keep doing this.
But the kids Exactly.

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In less than 10 seconds you canshow how three lines suggest an
entire arc, conflict emotionalweight and unresolved tension.
By practicing this way, you'renot just collecting dialogue,
you're training yourself to hearauthentic rhythms that scripted
lines often miss.
Cognitive research on memorysupports why this works.

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When people hear fragmentedstories, their brains naturally
fill in gaps.
That act of filling in makesthe listener part of the process
, which is why overheardmaterial feels so engaging.
It mirrors the way memorystitches events into a bigger
narrative.
If conversations floating by inpublic spaces can spark
complete stories, then the truthis you don't have to chase big

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drama for material.
The small, ordinary streams oflife already carry more story
potential than most of usactually realize.
Great stories come fromshifting how you look at daily
life.
Missing the bus, spotting abroken watch in your drawer or
overhearing a checkout disputethose aren't random moments,

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they're untapped story prompts.
Studies on narrative learningshow that framing experiences as
stories rather than isolatedfacts increases awareness and
motivation.
That means practicing smallnarratives isn't just fun.
It tangibly sharpens how youconnect with others.
So here's your challenge Overthe next week pick five ordinary

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things and apply the three-stepmicro-story method.
Remember we're looking forprogress, not perfection.
That's all for today.
Be sure to visitspeakwithconfidencepodcastcom.
Get your free e-book the Top 21Challenges for Public Speakers
and how to Overcome them.
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Always remember your voice isthe power to change the world.
We'll talk to you next time,take care.