Ep. 66 – "Martha Stewart is an ADHD Nightmare": Shame Ants, Stitch Fix, and Emotional Overload

If you've ever avoided opening a package because it feels like a personal failure waiting to happen, this one's for you. In this episode of Spicy Brain, Michelle and Megan talk about how ADHD shame doesn’t always come in big moments. Rather shame builds quietly through unopened Stitch Fix bags, social pressure, and the exhausting effort to seem like you have it all together.They open up about the ways masking drains emotional energy, and how chasing a perfectly curated life that would make Martha Stewart proud can actually disconnect you from what feels good and true. Megan shares a moment where naming her own boundaries helped shift the shame spiral into something softer. This episode is about what it means to come home to yourself, even when that home is messy, loud, or unfinished.Our favorite line from the episode is: Martha Stewart is an ADHD nightmare00:00 – ADHD shame and the mental load of “shoulds”04:10 – Stitch Fix, unopened packages, and avoidance spirals08:35 – How masking robs us of real rest12:20 – Naming your boundaries vs chasing Pinterest perfection16:40 – The slow rebuild of emotional energy20:10 – What self-acceptance actually looks like (hint: it’s not a mood board)24:30 – One tiny reframe that helped us stop spiralingFollow the show, send it to your friend who still has a “someday bin” in the corner, and leave a review so more spicy brains can drop the shame and come home to themselves.ADHD shame, ADHD masking, emotional burnout, ADHD home overwhelm, Stitch Fix avoidance, neurodivergent emotional health, ADHD energy management