July 25, 2022 • 39 mins
Charelle Thomas a love and intimacy coach joins us to talk about how she helps people create the love life they've always wanted.
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Hi, everyone. I'm Angela, Amy. And hi, I'm Lila.
Today we have a very specialguest. I'm so excited. We have
Sherelle here Sherelle Thomas,and she is a love intimacy
coach. So we're going to have areally fun conversation with
Cheryl. And I'm just so excitedto have you here, Cheryl. So
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welcome.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you for having me. I'mexcited to see where this
conversation goes.
All right, we are to Sherelle.
Sure, well, why don't we startwith you explaining exactly what
you do?
Yes. So my name is TerrellThomas, I am a love and intimacy
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coach. I work with powerfulsuccess driven couples do
individual sessions with men andwomen or couples, like I
mentioned before, but basicallywhat it is that I do is I help
individuals and couples createthe love life that they've
always desired to have. But yetso many achieve. And I teach
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them how to do this by helpingthem build a deeper connection
with their partner as well as byteaching mind blowing sexual
techniques that will leave boththem and their partner satisfied
yet yearning for more.
Oh, this sounds juicy. Withinthis, do you would we say that
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you help people step throughtheir fear of vulnerability?
Yes, and I love it, because ofthe gift that I have is kinda
like, I get to take people inthrough the back door. Like they
hear sex, they see sex, youknow, when they come to me like,
oh, you know, with the issue oflike, my partner doesn't want to
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have sex as much as I do, orthings have gotten boring and
mundane. And yet, what peopledon't realize is like, usually,
if there's an issue in your sexlife, it stems from something
outside of the bedroom. So withthat being said, they come to me
asking about help with sex andintimacy, and so on and so
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forth. But I get to tap intolike my psychic abilities, I get
to tap into the spiritual side,to get to the root of like,
okay, what is going on? So, theycome in with an open mind
thinking, like, Oh, she's justgonna help me reach this goal.
But again, like, I get to go inthrough the back door, and tap
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into what's not being said. Sosometimes people will come to me
with the intention of not beingopen and vulnerable. But then I
get to be like, hey, there'ssomething like boys.
Yeah. Like, what's really goingon? Like, what is this rooted
in? Yeah,and that when I pinpoint that,
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that's where all the guards comedown, like, Oh, shucks, she know
about that. So let me just bevulnerable, let me just be open,
I don't have to serve, you know,or say things at face value, I
can give it all because shealready know it. So that's kinda
like how it is. Yeah, soyou pretty much get, you know,
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it's probably starts some littlemore surface level with
technical things. And then itstarts to go a little deeper
into it. So I know Cheryl, on apersonal level, and Cheryl is
very, very intuitive, and canreally sense through that, you
know, I say Clairsentience thatknowing kind of knowing what's
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like really going on or whothere's, there's something more
thematic here. So we need toreally get to the root of that.
Do you find that women are morevulnerable in these sessions or
men? Or does it does it notmatter? Does does gender
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identity not matter?
I think sometimes sometimes I'mtrying to think and reflect back
like women, it's a differentenergy that they lead from is
more so like, Okay, I'm going togive you this and you helped me
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with this. But with me I have topeel back the layers with women
with men that come into it withthe energy of okay, I need your
help, you know, and I'm justgonna give it all to you. So it
is more vulnerability like withmen, but it takes them a longer
time to get to me. Like forwomen, they can see me they can
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hear about me they can reach outfor help, like after following
me or you know watching my workfor A short period of time. And
then with men, they need longertime. But once they come is like
I'm gonna spill out everythingand women, they'll come to me
sooner. And I have to peel backthe layers in order to for them
to get to that state ofvulnerability.
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Do you find that women make moreconnections with themselves? Is
that it or demand? No. Okay,women, which I hate to say it,
but it's more so pointing theblame? Or I'm in this
predicament because of whatsomebody is not doing. Yeah,
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I find that with my clients toworking with female and men.
Yeah, keep going. Yeah.
Does anyone start? Does everyonestart at sex? Do they come to
you? Because they say there's aproblem in the bedroom? Pretty
much. ButI think that's because of that.
Kind of think about like, what'sthe goal. So say you got to
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build a beautiful flag thatevery time you put this flag out
in front of your restaurant,you're attracting, like hundreds
of people, but you love thisother flag. And when you put the
other flag in front of yourrestaurant, half the people
come. So with me, I promote andI market 6x x x x so people can
come but once they get in thedoor that's when it's a
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different kind of like, I wantto say like bait and switch
because we do talk about six wedo get to the bottom of it. But
it's people have this, thisfundamental interest in sex and
it gets them through the door.
When I talk about the otherstuff. I was on a podcast
recently. And he was like heasked about ways that he can,
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you know, have more sex with hiswife. And I started naming him
he was like, nobody wants tohear that. That's boring stuff.
Because they want to hear theskill set lick here, stick here.
But it's like, yeah, exactly.
Exactly. It's more to it thanthat.
I want to know what you toldhim. Do you remember? Yeah, I
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was telling him that foreplaystarts as soon as he wake up in
the morning, he know he want toget intimate with his wife. Like
he needs to feel that emotionaltank before he actually before
they get to the bedroom. Youknow, you wake up in the morning
and give her a kiss on theforehead, like build that
connection. Talk to herthroughout the day, touch on a
smaller part back, find outwhat's our love language, do
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different things that will fillthat tank to the point where
she's ready. You know, theydon't, man have a hard time
understanding the concept thatwe need those little things in
those little things open us upto this sexual Goddess that they
want us to be. Otherwise it'sharder to tap into it. Like
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we're thinking about work. We'rethinking about school, we're
thinking about kids, we'rethinking about all of these
things, but with men is tunnelvision. Once they think about
sex, they focus on sticks. Butour brains are not set up that
way. So I was giving himdifferent things that he can do
outside of the bedroom. And asyou can see, he wasn't
interested.
I'm with a big foreplay, man.
I'm gonna share that. Mine gotthe memo? Definitely since the
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day I met him that he'sinterested in that. And I think
that helps for sure. For us. Ido agree with that. Yeah. And so
yeah, I don't know where we gofrom here. Marielle we need
scenariosplaying out the difference,
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right, your emotional tank isfull. You got the foreplay, you
get that. But imagine not havingthat not having that connection.
And you are built in a businessyou're taking all your clients
you're taking care of say youhave like three or four kids.
Like let's just use the averagescenario, you work a corporate
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job nine to five, so you're busyfrom like six in the morning, up
until like six at night, thenyou come home you got to deal
with with meals and all of thatgood stuff. There's no emotional
fulfillment, there's noconnection with your partner,
and you open the bedroom doorand he's laying there in the bed
naked with the pain. Like,that's hard. Like, how would you
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feelmay not be the norm. I'm just
gonna write so I be like, like,Yeah, let's, I'm in I'm in Sure
I'll, I'm in.
But that you say that becauseyour tank is full. Imagine and
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depleted. Would that be in theforefront of your mind?
No, probably most likely not.
And I'm sure you help couplestalk about it. Like it's crazy
how like you could sleep withsomeone for like a long time.
Yet they're they're not talkingabout their feelings to do with
sex. And then a third person abeautiful whole lecture hall
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comes along. And then it justhelps mediate it a little bit
easier. And I think it's justwhen a different energy is in
the conversation, it just kindof helps get to that root of
that problem. And it helpsdeepen the connection a little
bit more. Or I'm sure a couplesay, I didn't really know you
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felt that way. Yeah, I didn'tknow I liked that. Or you need
that. Right. Yep.
I had a recent experience with acouple and it kinda like shook
me. And I'm, like, really gotlike, did you really have to
show me this because, you know,it was a couple and the way that
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I set up, I work withindividuals, and then we come
together, because I want tocreate this safe and vulnerable
space. Sometimes when thecouples come together, they feel
like they have to hold back, youknow, and they can't really be
true, because they don't want tohurt feelings, which is
understandable. But I felt likethat's the way that it should
be. So let's navigate, becausejust because you have these
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thoughts and feelings doesn'tmake them accurate. And it
doesn't make it true. But if youshare it with me, I we can help
get to the bottom of it. Sorecently working with this
couple, the man and the woman,they came because she was in
this scenario that I just namedwork and building her business,
taking care of the kids, so onand so forth. So sex was the
first thing that come off thetable, you know, like I'm tired,
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you know, I really don't want toI want to be close to my
partner, but I got so much otherstuff going on that I just
can't. So they hired me, I washaving a conversation with him
and his to his it's just like, Ijust want to know what I need to
do in order to build thatconnection again with my wife.
So I'm like, okay, like, give methe answer. Because I don't
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speak from statistics. I don'tspeak from processes, like I
received divine guidance. When Igive an interesting, the
husband, he wanted to find itfor me. So I'm like, Okay, give
me his guidance, you know,telling them, okay, this is one,
you know, this is what you needto do this is to this is what
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you need to do I get to thethird one. And I'm like, You
gotta be kidding me. Like, I donot want to say that at all.
Because this is one of thosethings where the message that I
received was spicy, right?
Something was going on behindthe scenes, he didn't disclose
this to me. So now I have tocall them out and say, like,
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Hey, I see there somebody elsein the picture, I
hate this. And I've had to doit, too. It was like,
come on, you gotta be real. So Itold him, I said, I said, let's
let's reconvene this somethingspicy came up for you, I need to
go work out, you know, and thenI'll come back and share with
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you, but other steps that youneed to take. But the reason why
I share that like, even thoughit was hard, and it was just
like really like, I do not wantto tell this man, I see that he
has somebody else in thepicture. But I did. Because I
know, the weight of theirmarriage, you know, is dependent
on it. So I told him like, youknow, I, you have to be real,
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you have to be real withyourself. And you have to get to
the bottom of this. But I seethere's either somebody else in
the picture or somebody that youwant to be in the picture. And
you have to be real withyourself. It's not telling me
exactly like what was done orwhat you're doing behind the
scenes. But you have to be realwith yourself, if you really
want to resolve things withinyour marriage. And it's okay,
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we're human. If you are designerand somebody else that's
understandable, you're missingout in your relationship. You've
been in this relationship for 15years. And now all of a sudden,
it's something that you're usedto getting, you're not getting
any more so the brain is goingto present it to you like this
is an option. This is youranswer. That doesn't necessarily
mean you have to take thatroute. But you do have to
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understand why it does looktasteful, to go that route. And
that's what we've workedthrough. But that was one of
those things where it was likehard to hear and I had to
communicate it with him. Andthen coming back around and
bringing the wife into thepicture and having the hard
conversation but you have to askhim this is the same thing I
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told him like either you youhave to look at what you're
gaining on the other side of thehard conversation if you contain
you, which a lot of people doput in it brushing it up under
the rug acting as if it doesn'texist, then what actually
happens instead of it being dustunder the rug, it creates this
mop that just stops everything.
So yeah, that was my long windedstory.
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Around if you're using is it ofpsychic gifts that you have a
connection gift that you have.
How did you decide that this wasthe way that you wanted to use
Use it. It waslove goddess. Love God.
I just curious how you landed onthat, if you were, you know, or
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what your experience wasfiguring out that you were
psychic, how that led you to alove and intimacy? Coach?
That's a great question. I feltlike I was actually in the
loving intimacy coach, before Ireally. And I would end directly
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like tap into it. But Amy, Amyhelps me, she helped me really
get to the bottom of learninghow but it was one of those
things where, say, I worked at arestaurant, you know, and they
hired me as a cook. And I'mdoing this cook. But then I
realized I got this specialingredient that if I put it on
my food that it just make ittaste high command. This spices,
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all of my food. And that's kindof what it was. It wasn't like,
Okay, I have a psychic ability,let me use it. Let me tap into
it this way. I was already inthe love and intimacy coaching.
And then working, workingworking.
And yeah, sowe actually met in Seattle,
Washington at a networking in anetworking group. And I was
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very, very drawn to Sherelle.
And I thought what she does isso interesting, and so brave.
And then, you know, talking withyou, I'm like, Oh, she's like,
so like you as a person, you'reso authentic and so real, which
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you and I have had theseintimate conversations about
where that stems from withinboth of us. We both come from
very humble beginnings. And wehave connected on that. And what
I what resonates for me withSherelle is that you call people
out on their bullshit. And youknow, I do too. And we're both
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very nice about it. And you justexplain that through that last
story. Like when the SpiritGuides start talking about when
Spirit starts talking about,there's someone else in the
relationship? I mean, we knowthat someone else in the
relationship, right. And so Ilove that about you. But so just
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to give my little take on like,Lila, his question is that as
all of us whether we're adentist, whether we are a
lawyer, whether we are a carsalesman, or a repair man, or
woman, we are connecting topeople, and the more you master
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your own human job, you form adeeper, energetic connection
with your soul. And as you makethat connection with your soul,
that is when your intuitive andpsychic gifts start to blossom,
kind of like lotus flower whenthe lotus flower is closed. And
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you just do it a little more anda little more and make more
connections and, and thatbeautiful lotus flower blooms.
And that's what happened withSherelle. Right? Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. It was keep going. Yeah,I was just gonna say I didn't
even realize I felt like, I'vebeen doing this for about like,
five years. But sometimes, Ididn't realize like, how
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powerful and like how strong itwas up until like, recently, I
booked like a whole bunch oflike, private sessions with
clients. And when I would takethem to this process, I started
filling it in my body. Like theycouldn't even verbalize and
pinpoint what is stem, you know,from like, I would ask a
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question, like, Where was thefirst time that you experienced
this feeling before? They'll belike, I don't know. And then
I'll be like, okay, like, how doyou want me to help? And I would
start filling it in my body. Iknow like, I had a client who
just to be you know, not nottrying to be too well vulgar,
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but I could feel like darknessaround the sacral chakra and
like her and like pain and justlike dark and like rough and
like all of this and and then Ijust started to feel it like
within my body of like, what itstem from so so at first I saw
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that piece and then I can seelike somebody taking it you
know, like like being rough withit and abusing it and so on and
so forth. And even though shecouldn't answer what is stem
from like it was shown to me andthen we got to dissect it that
that way, and that's where thehealing actually came from. But
I share that to say like, itwasn't until recently, probably
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like a couple of months agowhere I was able to connect the
dots like, this is what I'vebeen doing, you know, and this
is how I'm really able to helppeople. I had one client, where
I actually had to get off thephone with her and tell her
okay, like, you just take itlike go to your guides go to
God, like see what it is thatcame up for you. But she had
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this, this crippling feeling oflike, not being open with her
partner, not being able tocommunicate like just being
closed off. Like she wanted it.
She wanted the relationship, butthere was something that kept
causing her to fall back andlike to close off and the vision
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I came away with, so I likebeing in school, and her
standing in the hallway, feelingcrying and looking around and
like nobody's there. Buteverybody's pointing the blame,
like the energy is like allpointing the blame on her and
come to find out like we walkedaway from the conversation on
soda. We'll reconvene next week.
But she had actually had afriend that punched her in her
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back because of a rumor that heheard and it was somebody that
she had a crush on. And she hadan asthma attack in front of
everybody. Like, that's how hardit was. And she had kind of
like, forgot about it. But allof that I'm like, dang, like
this powerful, like, thank youGod, like I wouldn't have never
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thought that I had the abilityto see those type of things. So
by utilizingyour mastering your superpower,
I love it. And it's justexpanding like the more humans
you work with. And you justgrow, you lean more into it, and
trusted and it's, you know, I'veseen you in action, and it's
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like, really on the money. Andit's so beautiful. I'm so happy
you are using your God givengifts in this lifetime. Thanks.
Yeah. When you're with a couplethat identifies as female and
male. Do you ever talk about thelove languages? Oh, yeah. All
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the time. I love the lovelanguages. Let's talk about
them. So yeah, let tell me whichone if I leave one out. I know
there's five. So there's wordsof affirmation. There's physical
touch. There's quality time.
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There's acts of service andthere's gift giving. Yeah, I've
never heard of acts of service.
Oh, that's my husband's numberone. Strip beds right before I
left. While he was working hisnine to five and he's training
Romania know why he strippedthose beds.
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Wait, is that his love languageor yours? Hell
no. That is not mine. Mine. Mineis words of affirmation. I mean,
I'm a professional talker. I'mlosing my voice right now. So
that's mine. I will tell him howhandsome he is. And I do all the
fields all the words. Mosthumans have one that's very
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strong. Is this correct? Sure.
All. And then a second onethat's usually up there. Yeah,
and most partners don't have thesame to
know, which is very interesting.
Lila, are you searching my love?
No, no, I'm slightly confused.
Because I guess I misinterpretedhow love languages are used. So
I would think like, your lovelanguage is what Andy would be
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doing to connect with you. Solike, so you're so the acts of
service, although he's doingthem, that's what speaks to you.
Is that wrong? And I backwards?
No, you have it like that's whatit is. But as humans, we tend to
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lead with what we want. Soalthough her love language is
words of affirmation, he wantsthe acts of service. So that's
how we're conditioned to givelove because that's the best way
that we want to receive love isnot to say everybody go out and
do it. But that's just to saylike, that's how things
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typically are in a relationship.
And that's why I start withlearning your partner's love
language because you want tolearn what's important to them
to give that to them. So we givethem love how you desire
on the money. So we call Andysend a rally. He does
everything. And so I'm like, youknow call on my honey bunny and
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you're the best and all thewords, but really like when I
jump in and I'm Make dinner andI scrub toilets. Because he does
so much of that. He that'sthat's me, giving him some of
his love language, meeting himat his love language. And what
he struggles with is like I wantyou know, of course want to hear
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that I'm beautiful. And so hestruggles with the words, but he
would run to the grocery storefor me and do any of that. So
just as Angel Amy, I've, I'vemade a commitment to my marriage
that every time my husband isstripping a bed or cleaning a
toilet, that's him saying Youare beautiful. And it doesn't
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mean he doesn't try. But for methat that's enough for me. And
I, oh, thank you. I choose tolook at it that way. So I say to
him when I tell you how handsomeyou are, you know, my second
love language is personal touch,which most men love that. He
knows that that's me. cookingdinner and doing all those
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things that most women do. Butmy little Cinderella does a lot
of it. So I thought I would justtouch upon the love languages
because it will help people.
Yeah, and one thing I want toadd that I always encourage my
clients to do is to download thelove nudge app is L O V E, N u,
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d, g. And it's something forboth you and your partner to
download. But what it actuallydoes is it communicate like you
you fill out the quiz and thelove language quiz. And it'll
tell you what your top two are.
And then what this app actuallydoes is like say, say Amy, like,
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you need that words ofaffirmation, like, say you
didn't condition yourself to seehim making his bed as though so
instead of you, yearning forthat app can actually
communicate with your partnerand say like, Hey, her love tank
is good. Oh, you need to fill itup. And it'll alert them right
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on their phone. And it'll tellthem specifically what to do.
Compliment Amy on what she'srunning home with.
I just had to say the one thingyou know how people are always
like, you know, oh, well, if youtell me you want to hear it, it
won't be as sincere. And ifyou're waiting to hear it,
you're like, I don't care if Ihad to tell you. Right, yeah.
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Yeah. So I love that. Yeah.
And it's just great. And youdon't know if the alert is
coming from your partner, orfrom the suggested app, you
know, but it's, it's just thisconscious thing of helping you
understand how to give love in away that your partner can
receive it and appreciate it.
Like they even have like call tosave the night or give them a
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kiss or buy him a gift, like allof those different things. And
it takes the weight off. Likewhy not?
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I love that.
And I believe in like flippinglike, gender roles and
expectations. And like what Imean by that is like, I'm, as a
woman, I'm not afraid to bealpha. In my relationship with
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my man, where I just took himout on a date. I took my
Cinderella out on a date. And heloved it. And I'm like, this is
all about you. And I know in aheartbeat he would do that for
me. But I he he was just likeloving that. That was over this
weekend. Do you ever flip thescript? On Peter? No. shirt? Oh.
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Yeah, just be like, you know,this is special for you. Yeah.
And I think it also not onlydoes it help with the connection
with our partner, but it alsoswitches things up. It's a
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benefit for ourselves. Like ithelps create that new neural
pathway to spice things up.
Because if we're doing the samething over and over and over
again, for our partner, itbecomes mundane, but if we
switch it up with the script,like I'm gonna pull out all the
stops for you. Not only does itbenefit them, but it also helps
with with your brain as well.
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Yeah.
I you know, I teach a lot aboutunpredictable equals unsafe. But
the flip side is unpredictableequals adventurous. And I love
when my man is unpredictable.
Like I love it. Do a lot ofwomen tell you that?
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No, actually conversationadventurous, like, just being
intimate and random spots are sosad. Yeah, like sometimes I'm
like, Oh, this is so random. Butand then I just lean into it.
And I'll say, Oh, this ishappening right now. All right,
so I, you know, I'm gonna reallyput myself out there and tell
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you all that I learned somethingnew. And this is what I learned
that's new, is that we know thatvibrators can spice up the
bedroom. And we also know thatvibrators can spice up your
relationship and your intimacy.
And they they, whoever they are,invented a vibrator for women
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after they go through menopause,because I didn't realize that
like that our what's the word,the way we're structured shifts
and changes, like after you gothrough menopause. So there is a
specific vibrator. I think theway it's shaped because our
bodies are not shaped the same.
You know, pre menopause and thenpost menopause. And I thought
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that was fascinating. I actuallylistened to a podcast and I
learned that. And then I alsolearned that like 90 year olds
have sex like whereby Ben? Sure.
I thought it was gonna go away.
And I'm like, so excited. I toldmy husband, like, we can like go
the distance, it might justchange and evolve of what we do.
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But it's very intimate. Loving,with my wigs on. Yeah, I mean,
these are just little thingsI've learned.
You know, two things to speak onthat one. In regards to the age,
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one of the things that I'venoticed is that like, after a
certain age range, the tableturns like, in the beginning,
the man is more like sex heavyand want to have it but then in
the woman is more like reserved,but then eventually, like it
flips in the woman wanting more,and the man is more reserved,
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like with age. But another thingin regards to like the vibrators
and stuff like that, I feel likeI'm scarred because I went to a
six story yesterday for reachsearch, and 1000s of vibrators
and deal the holes andeverything like everywhere. And
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then like I've been to sixstores before but not with the
mindset of like, okay, I'm doingextensive research. What is this
made out of like, what does thisdo? How powerful is it? How
strong what does this suck? Whatdoes this like all those
different things? Some of thethings that I saw,
and she does everybody oh mygod, he bought a five out of
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five.
I was like, what do people dowith this? And I was asking the
guy like, What is this for you?
Clean it. It was verydisturbing. It was and I just
had toknow. Okay, so listen, in the
state of Massachusetts, sorry,in the state of New Hampshire.
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So I do live on. I live inMassachusetts. Sure. I'll as you
know, but I'm on the NewHampshire border. In the state
of New Hampshire. They sellvibrators in the drugstores like
CVS and Walgreens. How do theydo that? Because Sure, sure,
they sell them there.
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But is there like a law thatkeeps them from doing it in
other states?
I don't know. I haven'tresearched it yet. This is the
first time I've told anybody tojust stumble into the CVS and
saw them actually my friend. Sheposted on Facebook about it. She
says I she I live in she livesin the state of New Hampshire
and she said I just walkedthrough Walgreens and there are
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vibrators. And has anybody elsehad this experience? Walgreens,
I don't really have an opinionor just I mean condoms are there
and you know and other you know,I'm okay about it. I'm very open
minded. Yeah, right. Totally.
Whatever convenient.
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That's not coming from Amazon,right? Yeah. So are there like a
couple of topics that peoplegenerally come to you about?
Okay, yes, yes, but I want torespond to a me No, it was you
who asked like are there lawsagainst it? I know in Texas like
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a female cannot own more thansix sex toy what?
Well that's Texas listenerswhat's the seventh day you rest
yeah and for the record Cheryldoes not live in Texas but I
love to you know this I do notwrite bizarre
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Yeah, so that's that but it'sit's weird things and yeah,
there is a lot like comment ormake during in the stores and
stuff like that. We have themhere in Walmart and CVS and
Walgreens and stuff like thatand I'm Illinois. So it's common
to see now but they started offlike with the vibrating pod
mills and then it went to thefat grains. And then it went to
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this and that. And now I'm like,Oh my gosh, they don't have a
whole section like on it. Yeah.
So that's the topics that theycome to me for learning
fellatio. Like, that's, that'scommon for women to come in
regards to that. Another one,which I don't know if you guys
have heard of it or not, butgripping. That's another one
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that I get a lot of clients inregards to, but the biggest
thing is like, my partner don'twant to have sex as much as I
do. Like, okay, something likethat, like some type of
disconnect. But they startthere, but then go into a hole
goes into a healing session withTerrell. Yeah. So so with the
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first two, is it like technique?
Oh, that's exactly.
But again, like, like I had aprivate fellatio session with
the client. And she came tolearn how to do you know, given
amazing bow job. Before we getto that we had to do the healing
stuff first. And it was one ofthose things that came up like
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she was holding back within herrelationship because of fears
that she had experienced, youknow, outside of the bedroom as
long as all four so that was oneof those things, too.
Yeah. And I think it's so like,you do such beautiful work.
Thank you. And I think you couldget very misunderstood. Yeah,
sex is like is like, we're alldoing it. And if you're not, you
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should be like you're missingout.
Exactly. Like an adult's naturalcure to everything depression,
like you know, exercise like allof the you can use sex. There's
so many different benefits, highblood pressure,
all of that good stuffmanifestation.
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Oh my gosh, orgasmicmedicalization. Anything. Yeah,
I believe in that. And I dobecause it's a release. And
like, you're, you're releasingenergy from your body. So
listen, everybody, you poop. Andit's a release. We're gonna talk
about that. And you know, whenyou have an orgasm, it's, it's a
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release. And that's its energy.
And that's, you were built to doit.
Yeah, yeah. And the euphoricrelease in a white release Euro.
euphoric, like good work. Yeah.
This was great. So how do peoplefind you Sherelle
they can find me on Instagram.
At Sherelle. Ie Thomas. That'smy handle is CHARELLETHO M A S.
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You can also find me a Sherellethomas.com, which is my website.
And then YouTube. I am alsoSherelle Thomas as well.
Great. Thank you so much,Terrell.
Thank you guys for having me. Itwas such a pleasure and your
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Be well.
Hi, everyone. I'm Angela, Amy. And hi, I'm Lila.
Today we have a very specialguest. I'm so excited. We have
Sherelle here Sherelle Thomas,and she is a love intimacy
coach. So we're going to have areally fun conversation with
Cheryl. And I'm just so excitedto have you here, Cheryl. So
(00:23):
welcome.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
Thank you for having me. I'mexcited to see where this
conversation goes.
All right, we are to Sherelle.
Sure, well, why don't we startwith you explaining exactly what
you do?
Yes. So my name is TerrellThomas, I am a love and intimacy
(00:45):
coach. I work with powerfulsuccess driven couples do
individual sessions with men andwomen or couples, like I
mentioned before, but basicallywhat it is that I do is I help
individuals and couples createthe love life that they've
always desired to have. But yetso many achieve. And I teach
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them how to do this by helpingthem build a deeper connection
with their partner as well as byteaching mind blowing sexual
techniques that will leave boththem and their partner satisfied
yet yearning for more.
Oh, this sounds juicy. Withinthis, do you would we say that
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you help people step throughtheir fear of vulnerability?
Yes, and I love it, because ofthe gift that I have is kinda
like, I get to take people inthrough the back door. Like they
hear sex, they see sex, youknow, when they come to me like,
oh, you know, with the issue oflike, my partner doesn't want to
(01:55):
have sex as much as I do, orthings have gotten boring and
mundane. And yet, what peopledon't realize is like, usually,
if there's an issue in your sexlife, it stems from something
outside of the bedroom. So withthat being said, they come to me
asking about help with sex andintimacy, and so on and so
(02:18):
forth. But I get to tap intolike my psychic abilities, I get
to tap into the spiritual side,to get to the root of like,
okay, what is going on? So, theycome in with an open mind
thinking, like, Oh, she's justgonna help me reach this goal.
But again, like, I get to go inthrough the back door, and tap
(02:39):
into what's not being said. Sosometimes people will come to me
with the intention of not beingopen and vulnerable. But then I
get to be like, hey, there'ssomething like boys.
Yeah. Like, what's really goingon? Like, what is this rooted
in? Yeah,and that when I pinpoint that,
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that's where all the guards comedown, like, Oh, shucks, she know
about that. So let me just bevulnerable, let me just be open,
I don't have to serve, you know,or say things at face value, I
can give it all because shealready know it. So that's kinda
like how it is. Yeah, soyou pretty much get, you know,
(03:21):
it's probably starts some littlemore surface level with
technical things. And then itstarts to go a little deeper
into it. So I know Cheryl, on apersonal level, and Cheryl is
very, very intuitive, and canreally sense through that, you
know, I say Clairsentience thatknowing kind of knowing what's
(03:46):
like really going on or whothere's, there's something more
thematic here. So we need toreally get to the root of that.
Do you find that women are morevulnerable in these sessions or
men? Or does it does it notmatter? Does does gender
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identity not matter?
I think sometimes sometimes I'mtrying to think and reflect back
like women, it's a differentenergy that they lead from is
more so like, Okay, I'm going togive you this and you helped me
(04:30):
with this. But with me I have topeel back the layers with women
with men that come into it withthe energy of okay, I need your
help, you know, and I'm justgonna give it all to you. So it
is more vulnerability like withmen, but it takes them a longer
time to get to me. Like forwomen, they can see me they can
(04:53):
hear about me they can reach outfor help, like after following
me or you know watching my workfor A short period of time. And
then with men, they need longertime. But once they come is like
I'm gonna spill out everythingand women, they'll come to me
sooner. And I have to peel backthe layers in order to for them
to get to that state ofvulnerability.
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Do you find that women make moreconnections with themselves? Is
that it or demand? No. Okay,women, which I hate to say it,
but it's more so pointing theblame? Or I'm in this
predicament because of whatsomebody is not doing. Yeah,
(05:37):
I find that with my clients toworking with female and men.
Yeah, keep going. Yeah.
Does anyone start? Does everyonestart at sex? Do they come to
you? Because they say there's aproblem in the bedroom? Pretty
much. ButI think that's because of that.
Kind of think about like, what'sthe goal. So say you got to
(05:57):
build a beautiful flag thatevery time you put this flag out
in front of your restaurant,you're attracting, like hundreds
of people, but you love thisother flag. And when you put the
other flag in front of yourrestaurant, half the people
come. So with me, I promote andI market 6x x x x so people can
come but once they get in thedoor that's when it's a
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different kind of like, I wantto say like bait and switch
because we do talk about six wedo get to the bottom of it. But
it's people have this, thisfundamental interest in sex and
it gets them through the door.
When I talk about the otherstuff. I was on a podcast
recently. And he was like heasked about ways that he can,
(06:43):
you know, have more sex with hiswife. And I started naming him
he was like, nobody wants tohear that. That's boring stuff.
Because they want to hear theskill set lick here, stick here.
But it's like, yeah, exactly.
Exactly. It's more to it thanthat.
I want to know what you toldhim. Do you remember? Yeah, I
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was telling him that foreplaystarts as soon as he wake up in
the morning, he know he want toget intimate with his wife. Like
he needs to feel that emotionaltank before he actually before
they get to the bedroom. Youknow, you wake up in the morning
and give her a kiss on theforehead, like build that
connection. Talk to herthroughout the day, touch on a
smaller part back, find outwhat's our love language, do
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different things that will fillthat tank to the point where
she's ready. You know, theydon't, man have a hard time
understanding the concept thatwe need those little things in
those little things open us upto this sexual Goddess that they
want us to be. Otherwise it'sharder to tap into it. Like
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we're thinking about work. We'rethinking about school, we're
thinking about kids, we'rethinking about all of these
things, but with men is tunnelvision. Once they think about
sex, they focus on sticks. Butour brains are not set up that
way. So I was giving himdifferent things that he can do
outside of the bedroom. And asyou can see, he wasn't
interested.
I'm with a big foreplay, man.
I'm gonna share that. Mine gotthe memo? Definitely since the
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day I met him that he'sinterested in that. And I think
that helps for sure. For us. Ido agree with that. Yeah. And so
yeah, I don't know where we gofrom here. Marielle we need
scenariosplaying out the difference,
(08:33):
right, your emotional tank isfull. You got the foreplay, you
get that. But imagine not havingthat not having that connection.
And you are built in a businessyou're taking all your clients
you're taking care of say youhave like three or four kids.
Like let's just use the averagescenario, you work a corporate
(08:55):
job nine to five, so you're busyfrom like six in the morning, up
until like six at night, thenyou come home you got to deal
with with meals and all of thatgood stuff. There's no emotional
fulfillment, there's noconnection with your partner,
and you open the bedroom doorand he's laying there in the bed
naked with the pain. Like,that's hard. Like, how would you
(09:16):
feelmay not be the norm. I'm just
gonna write so I be like, like,Yeah, let's, I'm in I'm in Sure
I'll, I'm in.
But that you say that becauseyour tank is full. Imagine and
(09:36):
depleted. Would that be in theforefront of your mind?
No, probably most likely not.
And I'm sure you help couplestalk about it. Like it's crazy
how like you could sleep withsomeone for like a long time.
Yet they're they're not talkingabout their feelings to do with
sex. And then a third person abeautiful whole lecture hall
(09:59):
comes along. And then it justhelps mediate it a little bit
easier. And I think it's justwhen a different energy is in
the conversation, it just kindof helps get to that root of
that problem. And it helpsdeepen the connection a little
bit more. Or I'm sure a couplesay, I didn't really know you
(10:21):
felt that way. Yeah, I didn'tknow I liked that. Or you need
that. Right. Yep.
I had a recent experience with acouple and it kinda like shook
me. And I'm, like, really gotlike, did you really have to
show me this because, you know,it was a couple and the way that
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I set up, I work withindividuals, and then we come
together, because I want tocreate this safe and vulnerable
space. Sometimes when thecouples come together, they feel
like they have to hold back, youknow, and they can't really be
true, because they don't want tohurt feelings, which is
understandable. But I felt likethat's the way that it should
be. So let's navigate, becausejust because you have these
(11:04):
thoughts and feelings doesn'tmake them accurate. And it
doesn't make it true. But if youshare it with me, I we can help
get to the bottom of it. Sorecently working with this
couple, the man and the woman,they came because she was in
this scenario that I just namedwork and building her business,
taking care of the kids, so onand so forth. So sex was the
first thing that come off thetable, you know, like I'm tired,
(11:26):
you know, I really don't want toI want to be close to my
partner, but I got so much otherstuff going on that I just
can't. So they hired me, I washaving a conversation with him
and his to his it's just like, Ijust want to know what I need to
do in order to build thatconnection again with my wife.
So I'm like, okay, like, give methe answer. Because I don't
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speak from statistics. I don'tspeak from processes, like I
received divine guidance. When Igive an interesting, the
husband, he wanted to find itfor me. So I'm like, Okay, give
me his guidance, you know,telling them, okay, this is one,
you know, this is what you needto do this is to this is what
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you need to do I get to thethird one. And I'm like, You
gotta be kidding me. Like, I donot want to say that at all.
Because this is one of thosethings where the message that I
received was spicy, right?
Something was going on behindthe scenes, he didn't disclose
this to me. So now I have tocall them out and say, like,
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Hey, I see there somebody elsein the picture, I
hate this. And I've had to doit, too. It was like,
come on, you gotta be real. So Itold him, I said, I said, let's
let's reconvene this somethingspicy came up for you, I need to
go work out, you know, and thenI'll come back and share with
(12:51):
you, but other steps that youneed to take. But the reason why
I share that like, even thoughit was hard, and it was just
like really like, I do not wantto tell this man, I see that he
has somebody else in thepicture. But I did. Because I
know, the weight of theirmarriage, you know, is dependent
on it. So I told him like, youknow, I, you have to be real,
(13:13):
you have to be real withyourself. And you have to get to
the bottom of this. But I seethere's either somebody else in
the picture or somebody that youwant to be in the picture. And
you have to be real withyourself. It's not telling me
exactly like what was done orwhat you're doing behind the
scenes. But you have to be realwith yourself, if you really
want to resolve things withinyour marriage. And it's okay,
(13:37):
we're human. If you are designerand somebody else that's
understandable, you're missingout in your relationship. You've
been in this relationship for 15years. And now all of a sudden,
it's something that you're usedto getting, you're not getting
any more so the brain is goingto present it to you like this
is an option. This is youranswer. That doesn't necessarily
mean you have to take thatroute. But you do have to
(14:00):
understand why it does looktasteful, to go that route. And
that's what we've workedthrough. But that was one of
those things where it was likehard to hear and I had to
communicate it with him. Andthen coming back around and
bringing the wife into thepicture and having the hard
conversation but you have to askhim this is the same thing I
(14:22):
told him like either you youhave to look at what you're
gaining on the other side of thehard conversation if you contain
you, which a lot of people doput in it brushing it up under
the rug acting as if it doesn'texist, then what actually
happens instead of it being dustunder the rug, it creates this
mop that just stops everything.
So yeah, that was my long windedstory.
(14:49):
Around if you're using is it ofpsychic gifts that you have a
connection gift that you have.
How did you decide that this wasthe way that you wanted to use
Use it. It waslove goddess. Love God.
I just curious how you landed onthat, if you were, you know, or
(15:13):
what your experience wasfiguring out that you were
psychic, how that led you to alove and intimacy? Coach?
That's a great question. I feltlike I was actually in the
loving intimacy coach, before Ireally. And I would end directly
(15:34):
like tap into it. But Amy, Amyhelps me, she helped me really
get to the bottom of learninghow but it was one of those
things where, say, I worked at arestaurant, you know, and they
hired me as a cook. And I'mdoing this cook. But then I
realized I got this specialingredient that if I put it on
my food that it just make ittaste high command. This spices,
(15:58):
all of my food. And that's kindof what it was. It wasn't like,
Okay, I have a psychic ability,let me use it. Let me tap into
it this way. I was already inthe love and intimacy coaching.
And then working, workingworking.
And yeah, sowe actually met in Seattle,
Washington at a networking in anetworking group. And I was
(16:20):
very, very drawn to Sherelle.
And I thought what she does isso interesting, and so brave.
And then, you know, talking withyou, I'm like, Oh, she's like,
so like you as a person, you'reso authentic and so real, which
(16:41):
you and I have had theseintimate conversations about
where that stems from withinboth of us. We both come from
very humble beginnings. And wehave connected on that. And what
I what resonates for me withSherelle is that you call people
out on their bullshit. And youknow, I do too. And we're both
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very nice about it. And you justexplain that through that last
story. Like when the SpiritGuides start talking about when
Spirit starts talking about,there's someone else in the
relationship? I mean, we knowthat someone else in the
relationship, right. And so Ilove that about you. But so just
(17:25):
to give my little take on like,Lila, his question is that as
all of us whether we're adentist, whether we are a
lawyer, whether we are a carsalesman, or a repair man, or
woman, we are connecting topeople, and the more you master
(17:48):
your own human job, you form adeeper, energetic connection
with your soul. And as you makethat connection with your soul,
that is when your intuitive andpsychic gifts start to blossom,
kind of like lotus flower whenthe lotus flower is closed. And
(18:11):
you just do it a little more anda little more and make more
connections and, and thatbeautiful lotus flower blooms.
And that's what happened withSherelle. Right? Yeah, yeah.
Yeah. It was keep going. Yeah,I was just gonna say I didn't
even realize I felt like, I'vebeen doing this for about like,
five years. But sometimes, Ididn't realize like, how
(18:35):
powerful and like how strong itwas up until like, recently, I
booked like a whole bunch oflike, private sessions with
clients. And when I would takethem to this process, I started
filling it in my body. Like theycouldn't even verbalize and
pinpoint what is stem, you know,from like, I would ask a
(18:57):
question, like, Where was thefirst time that you experienced
this feeling before? They'll belike, I don't know. And then
I'll be like, okay, like, how doyou want me to help? And I would
start filling it in my body. Iknow like, I had a client who
just to be you know, not nottrying to be too well vulgar,
(19:20):
but I could feel like darknessaround the sacral chakra and
like her and like pain and justlike dark and like rough and
like all of this and and then Ijust started to feel it like
within my body of like, what itstem from so so at first I saw
(19:43):
that piece and then I can seelike somebody taking it you
know, like like being rough withit and abusing it and so on and
so forth. And even though shecouldn't answer what is stem
from like it was shown to me andthen we got to dissect it that
that way, and that's where thehealing actually came from. But
I share that to say like, itwasn't until recently, probably
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like a couple of months agowhere I was able to connect the
dots like, this is what I'vebeen doing, you know, and this
is how I'm really able to helppeople. I had one client, where
I actually had to get off thephone with her and tell her
okay, like, you just take itlike go to your guides go to
God, like see what it is thatcame up for you. But she had
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this, this crippling feeling oflike, not being open with her
partner, not being able tocommunicate like just being
closed off. Like she wanted it.
She wanted the relationship, butthere was something that kept
causing her to fall back andlike to close off and the vision
(20:50):
I came away with, so I likebeing in school, and her
standing in the hallway, feelingcrying and looking around and
like nobody's there. Buteverybody's pointing the blame,
like the energy is like allpointing the blame on her and
come to find out like we walkedaway from the conversation on
soda. We'll reconvene next week.
But she had actually had afriend that punched her in her
(21:11):
back because of a rumor that heheard and it was somebody that
she had a crush on. And she hadan asthma attack in front of
everybody. Like, that's how hardit was. And she had kind of
like, forgot about it. But allof that I'm like, dang, like
this powerful, like, thank youGod, like I wouldn't have never
(21:32):
thought that I had the abilityto see those type of things. So
by utilizingyour mastering your superpower,
I love it. And it's justexpanding like the more humans
you work with. And you justgrow, you lean more into it, and
trusted and it's, you know, I'veseen you in action, and it's
(21:57):
like, really on the money. Andit's so beautiful. I'm so happy
you are using your God givengifts in this lifetime. Thanks.
Yeah. When you're with a couplethat identifies as female and
male. Do you ever talk about thelove languages? Oh, yeah. All
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the time. I love the lovelanguages. Let's talk about
them. So yeah, let tell me whichone if I leave one out. I know
there's five. So there's wordsof affirmation. There's physical
touch. There's quality time.
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There's acts of service andthere's gift giving. Yeah, I've
never heard of acts of service.
Oh, that's my husband's numberone. Strip beds right before I
left. While he was working hisnine to five and he's training
Romania know why he strippedthose beds.
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Wait, is that his love languageor yours? Hell
no. That is not mine. Mine. Mineis words of affirmation. I mean,
I'm a professional talker. I'mlosing my voice right now. So
that's mine. I will tell him howhandsome he is. And I do all the
fields all the words. Mosthumans have one that's very
(23:21):
strong. Is this correct? Sure.
All. And then a second onethat's usually up there. Yeah,
and most partners don't have thesame to
know, which is very interesting.
Lila, are you searching my love?
No, no, I'm slightly confused.
Because I guess I misinterpretedhow love languages are used. So
I would think like, your lovelanguage is what Andy would be
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doing to connect with you. Solike, so you're so the acts of
service, although he's doingthem, that's what speaks to you.
Is that wrong? And I backwards?
No, you have it like that's whatit is. But as humans, we tend to
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lead with what we want. Soalthough her love language is
words of affirmation, he wantsthe acts of service. So that's
how we're conditioned to givelove because that's the best way
that we want to receive love isnot to say everybody go out and
do it. But that's just to saylike, that's how things
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typically are in a relationship.
And that's why I start withlearning your partner's love
language because you want tolearn what's important to them
to give that to them. So we givethem love how you desire
on the money. So we call Andysend a rally. He does
everything. And so I'm like, youknow call on my honey bunny and
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you're the best and all thewords, but really like when I
jump in and I'm Make dinner andI scrub toilets. Because he does
so much of that. He that'sthat's me, giving him some of
his love language, meeting himat his love language. And what
he struggles with is like I wantyou know, of course want to hear
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that I'm beautiful. And so hestruggles with the words, but he
would run to the grocery storefor me and do any of that. So
just as Angel Amy, I've, I'vemade a commitment to my marriage
that every time my husband isstripping a bed or cleaning a
toilet, that's him saying Youare beautiful. And it doesn't
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mean he doesn't try. But for methat that's enough for me. And
I, oh, thank you. I choose tolook at it that way. So I say to
him when I tell you how handsomeyou are, you know, my second
love language is personal touch,which most men love that. He
knows that that's me. cookingdinner and doing all those
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things that most women do. Butmy little Cinderella does a lot
of it. So I thought I would justtouch upon the love languages
because it will help people.
Yeah, and one thing I want toadd that I always encourage my
clients to do is to download thelove nudge app is L O V E, N u,
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d, g. And it's something forboth you and your partner to
download. But what it actuallydoes is it communicate like you
you fill out the quiz and thelove language quiz. And it'll
tell you what your top two are.
And then what this app actuallydoes is like say, say Amy, like,
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you need that words ofaffirmation, like, say you
didn't condition yourself to seehim making his bed as though so
instead of you, yearning forthat app can actually
communicate with your partnerand say like, Hey, her love tank
is good. Oh, you need to fill itup. And it'll alert them right
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on their phone. And it'll tellthem specifically what to do.
Compliment Amy on what she'srunning home with.
I just had to say the one thingyou know how people are always
like, you know, oh, well, if youtell me you want to hear it, it
won't be as sincere. And ifyou're waiting to hear it,
you're like, I don't care if Ihad to tell you. Right, yeah.
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Yeah. So I love that. Yeah.
And it's just great. And youdon't know if the alert is
coming from your partner, orfrom the suggested app, you
know, but it's, it's just thisconscious thing of helping you
understand how to give love in away that your partner can
receive it and appreciate it.
Like they even have like call tosave the night or give them a
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kiss or buy him a gift, like allof those different things. And
it takes the weight off. Likewhy not?
Yeah, yeah. Yeah, I love that.
And I believe in like flippinglike, gender roles and
expectations. And like what Imean by that is like, I'm, as a
woman, I'm not afraid to bealpha. In my relationship with
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my man, where I just took himout on a date. I took my
Cinderella out on a date. And heloved it. And I'm like, this is
all about you. And I know in aheartbeat he would do that for
me. But I he he was just likeloving that. That was over this
weekend. Do you ever flip thescript? On Peter? No. shirt? Oh.
(28:34):
Yeah, just be like, you know,this is special for you. Yeah.
And I think it also not onlydoes it help with the connection
with our partner, but it alsoswitches things up. It's a
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benefit for ourselves. Like ithelps create that new neural
pathway to spice things up.
Because if we're doing the samething over and over and over
again, for our partner, itbecomes mundane, but if we
switch it up with the script,like I'm gonna pull out all the
stops for you. Not only does itbenefit them, but it also helps
with with your brain as well.
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Yeah.
I you know, I teach a lot aboutunpredictable equals unsafe. But
the flip side is unpredictableequals adventurous. And I love
when my man is unpredictable.
Like I love it. Do a lot ofwomen tell you that?
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No, actually conversationadventurous, like, just being
intimate and random spots are sosad. Yeah, like sometimes I'm
like, Oh, this is so random. Butand then I just lean into it.
And I'll say, Oh, this ishappening right now. All right,
so I, you know, I'm gonna reallyput myself out there and tell
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you all that I learned somethingnew. And this is what I learned
that's new, is that we know thatvibrators can spice up the
bedroom. And we also know thatvibrators can spice up your
relationship and your intimacy.
And they they, whoever they are,invented a vibrator for women
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after they go through menopause,because I didn't realize that
like that our what's the word,the way we're structured shifts
and changes, like after you gothrough menopause. So there is a
specific vibrator. I think theway it's shaped because our
bodies are not shaped the same.
You know, pre menopause and thenpost menopause. And I thought
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that was fascinating. I actuallylistened to a podcast and I
learned that. And then I alsolearned that like 90 year olds
have sex like whereby Ben? Sure.
I thought it was gonna go away.
And I'm like, so excited. I toldmy husband, like, we can like go
the distance, it might justchange and evolve of what we do.
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But it's very intimate. Loving,with my wigs on. Yeah, I mean,
these are just little thingsI've learned.
You know, two things to speak onthat one. In regards to the age,
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one of the things that I'venoticed is that like, after a
certain age range, the tableturns like, in the beginning,
the man is more like sex heavyand want to have it but then in
the woman is more like reserved,but then eventually, like it
flips in the woman wanting more,and the man is more reserved,
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like with age. But another thingin regards to like the vibrators
and stuff like that, I feel likeI'm scarred because I went to a
six story yesterday for reachsearch, and 1000s of vibrators
and deal the holes andeverything like everywhere. And
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then like I've been to sixstores before but not with the
mindset of like, okay, I'm doingextensive research. What is this
made out of like, what does thisdo? How powerful is it? How
strong what does this suck? Whatdoes this like all those
different things? Some of thethings that I saw,
and she does everybody oh mygod, he bought a five out of
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five.
I was like, what do people dowith this? And I was asking the
guy like, What is this for you?
Clean it. It was verydisturbing. It was and I just
had toknow. Okay, so listen, in the
state of Massachusetts, sorry,in the state of New Hampshire.
(32:59):
So I do live on. I live inMassachusetts. Sure. I'll as you
know, but I'm on the NewHampshire border. In the state
of New Hampshire. They sellvibrators in the drugstores like
CVS and Walgreens. How do theydo that? Because Sure, sure,
they sell them there.
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But is there like a law thatkeeps them from doing it in
other states?
I don't know. I haven'tresearched it yet. This is the
first time I've told anybody tojust stumble into the CVS and
saw them actually my friend. Sheposted on Facebook about it. She
says I she I live in she livesin the state of New Hampshire
and she said I just walkedthrough Walgreens and there are
(33:44):
vibrators. And has anybody elsehad this experience? Walgreens,
I don't really have an opinionor just I mean condoms are there
and you know and other you know,I'm okay about it. I'm very open
minded. Yeah, right. Totally.
Whatever convenient.
(34:04):
That's not coming from Amazon,right? Yeah. So are there like a
couple of topics that peoplegenerally come to you about?
Okay, yes, yes, but I want torespond to a me No, it was you
who asked like are there lawsagainst it? I know in Texas like
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a female cannot own more thansix sex toy what?
Well that's Texas listenerswhat's the seventh day you rest
yeah and for the record Cheryldoes not live in Texas but I
love to you know this I do notwrite bizarre
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Yeah, so that's that but it'sit's weird things and yeah,
there is a lot like comment ormake during in the stores and
stuff like that. We have themhere in Walmart and CVS and
Walgreens and stuff like thatand I'm Illinois. So it's common
to see now but they started offlike with the vibrating pod
mills and then it went to thefat grains. And then it went to
(35:07):
this and that. And now I'm like,Oh my gosh, they don't have a
whole section like on it. Yeah.
So that's the topics that theycome to me for learning
fellatio. Like, that's, that'scommon for women to come in
regards to that. Another one,which I don't know if you guys
have heard of it or not, butgripping. That's another one
(35:28):
that I get a lot of clients inregards to, but the biggest
thing is like, my partner don'twant to have sex as much as I
do. Like, okay, something likethat, like some type of
disconnect. But they startthere, but then go into a hole
goes into a healing session withTerrell. Yeah. So so with the
(35:54):
first two, is it like technique?
Oh, that's exactly.
But again, like, like I had aprivate fellatio session with
the client. And she came tolearn how to do you know, given
amazing bow job. Before we getto that we had to do the healing
stuff first. And it was one ofthose things that came up like
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she was holding back within herrelationship because of fears
that she had experienced, youknow, outside of the bedroom as
long as all four so that was oneof those things, too.
Yeah. And I think it's so like,you do such beautiful work.
Thank you. And I think you couldget very misunderstood. Yeah,
sex is like is like, we're alldoing it. And if you're not, you
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should be like you're missingout.
Exactly. Like an adult's naturalcure to everything depression,
like you know, exercise like allof the you can use sex. There's
so many different benefits, highblood pressure,
all of that good stuffmanifestation.
(37:02):
Oh my gosh, orgasmicmedicalization. Anything. Yeah,
I believe in that. And I dobecause it's a release. And
like, you're, you're releasingenergy from your body. So
listen, everybody, you poop. Andit's a release. We're gonna talk
about that. And you know, whenyou have an orgasm, it's, it's a
(37:22):
release. And that's its energy.
And that's, you were built to doit.
Yeah, yeah. And the euphoricrelease in a white release Euro.
euphoric, like good work. Yeah.
This was great. So how do peoplefind you Sherelle
they can find me on Instagram.
At Sherelle. Ie Thomas. That'smy handle is CHARELLETHO M A S.
(37:48):
You can also find me a Sherellethomas.com, which is my website.
And then YouTube. I am alsoSherelle Thomas as well.
Great. Thank you so much,Terrell.
Thank you guys for having me. Itwas such a pleasure and your
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listeners for tuning in. I hopeto see you on my side. Yeah,
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