February 21, 2022 • 48 mins
We talk with Mylene about hypnotherapy and neuro-linguistic programming what is actually is how it can help you and why you don't have to be worried about quacking like a duck.
Also we get into whether corporate America will change to become people first and create safe spaces for creativity at work.
Books we discuss this episode:
7 1/2 Lesson About the Brain by Lisa Feldman Barrett
Permission to Feel by Marc Brackett
Mylene can be reached at https://www.holisticlifecommunity.com/mylene-hendrick
Spill the Ginger Tea on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/spillthegingerteapodcast/
Angel Amy Instagram https://www.instagram.com/angelamy1123/
Angel Amy Angel VIP Club https://www.myangelamy.com/aligning-with-the-angels/
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Hi, y'all. I'm Lila and I began my healing journey
looking for relief from physicalpain. And I'm always willing to
try something new to feel betterand improve myself.
Hi, I'm Angel, Amy, and I am apsychic medium, and a life
coach. And we welcome all of youhere today. So I am about three
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and a half weeks post COVID. Soif you hear a little cough come
out of Amy, or if I feel alittle nasally just kind of bear
with me in this episode. Sothank you. And I just want to
let everyone know some excitingnews. I started to do psychic
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readings again. So I had putsomething out on Instagram, that
I would do psychic readings for10 people. And I left my phone
for 18 minutes and I had 30Something people sign up. So I
figured there's a need for this.
Yeah, why not just bring it backduring the piano. And we will
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just see how this goes. I justwill do them until I burn out
again, I suppose. So if you'relooking for a psychic reading,
I'd love to do one for you. Nowswitching gears today we have a
very, very special guest. Andshe happens to be a personal
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friend of mine. So I'm reallyexcited to have her here today.
So we're going to chat a littlebit Lila with Myleene Hendrick.
She's a mentor guide, in atrusted advisor. And we're going
to be discussing hypnosis today.
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Which I have done my lien, and Ican't wait to tell you what I
think about it. Perfect. Yeah, Ireally you Hello,
it is so nice to be here. Andit's so nice to be with both of
you. Thank you.
You're welcome. So why don't webegin by you telling us a little
bit about either yourself or howyou got into hypnosis.
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So as you know, I am a huge fanof understanding what motivates
people. I think that's been thecommon thread I've had
throughout my career indifferent disciplines,
verticals, industries, you nameit, always fascinated about what
are the choices that we make, ashumans call it souls in a human
body? And what are the impactsoutcomes of such choices? So for
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me, I got into hypnosis as Iwhen I left my corporate career,
and then said, Okay, if I keepdoing what I've been doing, I'm
going to keep getting what I'vebeen getting. So I was like,
alright, so okay, I was likeuniverse, Spirit, God, what's
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next? And I came across, really,what got me to hypnosis was
neuro linguistic programming orNLP, which really is about how
your how safe your body feels,the language that you use, which
gives an insight into what'shappening in your mind. And even
behind the behind the scenes.
Oh,yes, because I struggle with the
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safety issue. And so I love thatyou mentioned safety, like I
know myself really, really well.
And growing up in an alcoholichome. It has been thematic for
me, and I tend to likerepetition. So the older I get i
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i have a mindfulness foradventure. In Lila is very
adventurous. By we, you know,hang out, because you know you
like do really cool adventurousthings, especially before the
piano, right. Yeah.
Kind of put the kibosh oneverything right? Which is
awesome,because you're actually working
with your brain, the brainactually loves repetition. So
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it's, I'll get back to youroriginal question. But yeah. So
the brain loves repetition. Andso it's awesome that you're
working with your brain, call itpartnering, call it co creating
called collaborating. Becausethat then helps your brain feel
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like Oh, awesome. My job or thebrains job in protecting and
preserving you. It makes iteasier. That's the number one
prerogative responsibility ofthe brain is to protect and
preserve you. I just readsomething recently that blew my
mind because it really almostchanges how I thought about how
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the brain is comprised. So Thereisn't really a reptilian brain,
there isn't really, it's reallyjust the brain as a function is
saying, Okay, I have this body.
I have these nutrients, glucose,fats, lipids, you name it, how
do I regulate those body toprotect and preserve it. And so
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as you can see, I have thingsthat helped me.
So everyone, we're looking atsome beautiful stones that she
brought with her to help herbody regulate, because then it
helps my mind and my brain thensay, Okay, I'm safe. I don't
need to be I don't need to gointo survival mode. I can
actually just be open and enjoythis experience as I'm having
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it.
That's great. Yeah. So therepetition thing, is that sort
of the theory behind you know,people that repeat a mantra or
repeat an affirmation? Yes. Socool. Yeah.
So yeah, brain loves repetition.
Because I mean, think abouthabits, right. Even as we think
about the concept of the bodyregulating coffee drinkers,
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Oh, yeah. That's my drug ofchoice. So your Nespresso
machine, that thing breaks. Andthat's a crisis we had. We had.
No, no, yeah,we literally had a crisis. It
broke down. Yeah. And I I'mhyperventilating, that's on a
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timer. So I don't even like Iget up in the very first thing.
And I was like, because ithadn't
rained. So so. So think aboutthat as a story, like your brain
was used to knowing that acertain time if you drink
caffeine, so actually, the brainalso is a very predictive organ.
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And so it really knows beforeyou even pick up that cup and
start to drink it that, Okay, atthis point, it's actually
already changing your physiologyto actually ingest and imbibe
that. Oh, wow. So when you whenyour coffee breaks down, and all
of a sudden your brains likeit's time for the caffeine. So
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what what's going on? Right, allof a sudden, you've like messed
up with a predictability of it.
And then it says, Oh, no. isLyle in danger? Do I need to
reallocate?
Everyone else was in danger?
Do I need to reallocateresources? Now what Right,
right, so so it's it's verysimilar to like the habit thing,
right? And so if you can helpyour brain predict and have
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flexibility with options, andthat really is resiliency?
Yeah, I love that. So my leanbefore we go a little deeper
into like, exactly what you do.
And like what a session is,like, I have to tell you, up
until I had a hypnosis session,I thought it was like someone
with the like you see on TV? Canwe talk about how totally,
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that's what the average personthinks?
are afraid after you leave,you're going to like rob a
bank? Yes, like so. So it'sgonna be reprogrammed in a bad
way. Someone's gonna saybananas. And you're, for those
that don't know,what we're talking about is that
for years in movies and TV,we've seen people get hypnotized
by looking at like a clock orlooking at like a swinging
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pendulum into someone would say,Anjali me, because I'm chubby.
Right? So Angel, me, have youtried hypnosis for weight loss?
And I'd say why not? I have notbecause what really, I was a
skeptic. But I'm a believer.
Yeah. And it has nothing to dowith a swing pendulum.
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It's not so so. So it's actuallya great segue. Because again,
think about the predictabilitythat our brain does as its
function. So the brain has seen,like you've mentioned in movies,
you're at a county Country Fair,your shows about like, these
hypnotists. And you've got thesepeople going up there. And
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they're like, oh, maybe likequacking like a duck. So the
brain your brain was like, Oh,so that's what I've noticed
this. So every time you thinkabout hypnosis, it's really
predicting that that's what'sgoing to happen, right? Because
that's your reference point.
Exactly. It's your reference,probably was like Humphrey
Bogart and like, my grandpa,grandparent, right. And I was
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like, Oh, I'm never gonna dothat. Because who wants to be
like, control? Exactly. Just soso?
Let's talk about Okay, so,hypnosis, you wanna do a quick
demo?
Yeah, we can do anything youwant.
Okay, just like, settle down.
Just have your feet on theground. I have no shoes. Have
your hands on your lap. And justclose your eyes. Don't forget to
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breathe. That'll help your brainknow that it's safe. Just bring
Then, and breathe out. Okay,open your eyes I feel calm.
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Yeah, right. Hypnosis is themlike is really no one, no matter
how good of a hypnotherapistthey are can do anything that is
against your moral code thatresides within you. Again, think
about how the brain's number oneprerogative is to protect and
preserve you. Part of it is ifyou feel like internally,
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there's something that's goingagainst what you know is to be
true for you or what you feel isgood. Snap out of it. And
really, hypnosis is a very deepstate of relaxation. The reason
why people feel like, Oh, I'meither falling asleep, or what
if he tell me something isbecause they're in such a deep
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state of relaxation, that theymight not have had that feeling
before or their brains like,Wait? How can I be in this deep
state of relaxation with someonejust talking to me? They might
have a different mental modelabout what relaxation is, right?
Right. So and people are like,well, I fall asleep was like,
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no, no, you're just in a verydeep state. The reason why
people sometimes have a hardtime coming is because their
body's like, oh my god, thisfeels so good. Why would I want
to come out?
So as you know, I teach a lotabout freewill. And that's what
you're speaking about when youhad us close our eyes and go
inside our body. And remember,Lila in a previous episode, I
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asked you about if you can kindof like observe from inside your
body. Like how you're feeling?
Yeah. And that's exactly whatEileen just took us to,
you know, people I used to thinkpeople use hypnosis for like
quitting smoking or like Amysaid,
yes, so still, right. So there'sthere's still there's there's
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definitely different programsthat offer hypnosis, because
what hypnosis actually does isit bypasses your conscious mind,
okay? And then the criticalfaculty that sits sits between
your conscious mind and your,your unconscious mind. And the I
use what's called NLPhypnotherapy which uses very
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specific language that you'reit's actually your language that
I'm embedding within the guidedvisualization or meditation,
which really is what hypnosisis. But it just gets you into a
deeper state. So I'm actuallytalking directly to your
unconscious mind, which isactually the goal getter. It's
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the one that says, Oh, this iswhat you want. Okay. It just has
a very different language.
Right? So conscious is words,unconscious, feelings,
symbolism, imagery. And it'sa bullshit we tell ourselves.
Yeah.
The background, the backgroundnoise, right. So, so yeah, like
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the first session I have, itreally is just Hypno.
Hypnotherapy is really just tolet people know, hey, here's
what hypnosis is. And here'swhat it isn't. You hear every
single word I say, you might notjust be conscious of it. And
that's okay. I'm actually not,I'm not not talking to your
consciousness. I'm talking toyour unconscious mind.
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So listen, everybody. I'veactually I've done like four
sessions. And I was a completeskeptic in someone offered to
work with me, and I loved it.
And this is what I loved aboutit. So first, we worked on we
talked about an issue that Ihave. And so I'm sorry, you went
for a specific reason? I did.
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Okay. Yep. And so she basicallywrote down or my own language
off of that she she had someprobing questions, and I would
answer her back authentically.
Yeah. And then, you know, thatwas that was probably like a
good 20 minutes. And then wemoved to the table and I was
snuggly warm. Yeah. Andbeautiful music. And then I,
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after so many minutes would gointo a deep sleep. And we've
talked on here that I'm a snore.
And I didn't have any fear ofsnoring because I felt
comfortable with her. And yeah,I loved it. I. So here's another
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thing Myleene I would actuallyget drowsy driving there, like
my body was sensing it,because it's predicting it
right. It's predicting Ooh, I'mgoing to hypnotherapy or
hypnosis session. Oh, when I goto hypnosis. I get so relaxed.
Your body is like ooh, alreadygetting ready for it
like shavasana with like, canwe?
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I mean, Some people might callit anchoring, right? Yes. Where
you can anchor the hand anchorbut like you've anchored your
body and your brain haspredicted that when you go to
hypnosis session, you can tothis very relaxed states often
it's like,just breathe super relaxed, and
it was helpful. It was helpful.
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Very helpful. Yeah, I suggestit. Yes. And people
people respond differently.
Right. Some people are awake thewhole time. Or like, feel like
they're conscious. Some peoplelights out. Some people actually
snore.
Yeah, right. Snoring drawings.
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Yeah, totally, totally allowed.
It really is. What how I like tothink about is like, I'm really
just your guide. But you'redoing the work, you're having
that conversation with yourselfin order to get what you want.
Absolutely. And when were inthat relaxed state, the five
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senses doll in The Sixth Sense,heightens Yeah. And then you
start to move through thedementia. Or as as all my angel
incursions, you start like welive in third dimension, this is
earth. And when you daydream,meditate, sleep, you actually
move into or use yourimagination, you move into
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fourth dimension. And then whenyou of course, you pass away,
you go to fourth dimension orhigher outside the physical
body. But while you're asleep,you move through the dimensions
in the realms. And you you meetup with your higher self, which
is all the beauty contains allthe beautiful qualities about
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you, right and beautifulattributes, and you collect
parts of your recipe and bringthem back with you when you
return to an awakened state. Soif my lien such a gentle soul,
or anyone that you feel drawn tothat does hypnosis, while you're
in this relaxed, peaceful,hypnotic state is saying
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positive things to you, you'realigning in that moment with
those parts of you, with yourhigher self in the higher
dimensions, and then you're ableto bring it back
with you. And it's almost likegoing back to your internal
source. Yes, right. Where therearen't any filters or layers or
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whatever that are hiding ormaybe masking what it is that
your heart or your soul, or yourheart and soul wants for you,
which is only aligning you foryour highest and the greatest
good.
Lila, what would be your biggestfear having this done? You're
like the realist? I think itwould be like, you know, it
would be the control thing. Theidea that my lien would implant
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something in my head, like Isaid, like a word or phrase.
Yeah. tissues. Lila, can youtell?
Ya know, I tell everyone thatI've worked with like, I nor
anyone else can not embedanything in your psyche that you
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morally have an issue with? Doyou have an innate guidance
system protector that is alwayswithin you.
And I second that, so that youget it from two of us. I call it
like a barometer, right? Like,you know, like, you know, I'm
very real with my little Bostonaccent, like it's a bullshit
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bra. So if I'm laying there, Itrust my soul. That if someone's
whispering something, my mybullshit meter. Right. And it's
good to hear a couple differentways. Yeah, it's going to open
up and be like, this doesn'talign with me. And rejection,
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like you're you're you are moreas humans were more powerful
than we thought. Yeah.
And so so people will often ask,Well, what about what about the
people they have seen who go upon stage, right? Get all crazy
and crap, like a doctor orwhatever it is, right?
Yeah, what so what's going onwith them? So let me so so
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anyway, back to the other sideand I struggle
with so Also think about thinkabout that setting. You're in a
show, okay. And you know, theyhaven't Hypno hypnosis person is
saying, Hey, who wants to comeup and experienced this? And
you've got people were like,ooh, Pick Me Pick Me Pick pick
me. Already. There's an opennessand a willingness and if you pay
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attention, you'll notice thatthat person that knows this
person is not picking everyone.
He's he or she is only pickingthe ones that he's like, okay,
this person is open to doingwhatever it is whether it's
hamming it up Whatever it is,they're open. Right? Like,
you'll notice like he'll, he orshe will be like, Oh, no, thank
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you so much. I've actuallyalready got enough people. Okay,
because part of it is also beingin tune with the other person
like we calibrate to each other.
Right? So very experiencedhypnotherapy person or hypnosis
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person will know if someone'sreally just trying to like out
to prove you being wrong.
Yeah. Like, like, I know whenyou know when there's like you
could do them. The person'smother's first or last name, the
most ridiculous last name everand they still won't finish
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right? You looked me up on theYeah. Yeah. Which
goes back to like mental models,right. So you know what I like
to tell people like, this is notfor me. What exactly it is for
you. For you to be able to getit is that you want,
right? I am that I love aboutyou my name because it's so
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heart centered. Sofinally, what sort of things do
people come to you for? Like?
So? Most obvious ones are likeanxiety and stress. Okay. I have
done people with weight loss.
But what I have found and why Ihave branched out more than just
hypnotherapy is sometimes peoplecome to me for like, the problem
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isn't really the problem. Okay,so I like to think about okay,
great. So you come from my side.
Okay, so what's going on? What'sunder the under? And then we and
then i? And then we think about?
Okay, so here's actually theprotocol. Right? What I also
like to let people know, like,for example, if if you've come
to me, and maybe this has been apattern that you've had for, oh,
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I'll just call out myself. 45years. Can't expect that one
session.
Right, right. Bam, it's gone.
Like, you've had this for 45years. Give me a few sessions.
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Like, yeah, he'll the layers ofthe onion,
right, like, what's underneath?
Yeah, was under the under.
Alright, so. So that really isjust another way to help, you
know, your brain be like, oh,there's a different way that I
can actually preserve this bodybetter. Yeah. Right. And
sometimes it's a very, sometimesa delicate balance, like, I will
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not know that something mighttrigger someone. And so that is,
again, that like, trustingrelationship where it's like, if
something comes up, let me know.
Because maybe that is actuallythat piece of the puzzle that
lets us understand what'sunderneath, under.
So you get to the root cause ofso. So it's like a lot of
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anxiety and stress. But like,what's what Where did data?
Where's it coming from? Yeah,right.
So is that something you thinkthat people are finding for
themselves in this relaxedstate? Is this like, something
they're bringing back? Yes,cuz it's all fun. But I was
like, because, you know, I'm notspeak from my personal
experience, like, having theseuncomfortable feelings.
uncomfortable, right? Eightlike, gosh, Angel Amy knows
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this. Are the things I masteredwas like, oh, uncomfortable
feeling. Six foot pole, right?
This is before COVID. I waslike, oh, social distancing,
right, sweeping under the rug.
But really, everything that'scoming from our body are just
messengers. There's no part ofus that's trying to harm us.
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It's only trying to send us amessage and give alert as to
what to pay attention to. Soeven something like anger. Okay,
sometimes that underlying anger,what's underneath the anger is
actually sadness. And what's itshighest intention? The highest
intention, sadness might belike, I want you to feel loved.
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So if we can focus on what's itWhat's this emotions highest
intention? Versus Oh, God, itsucks. Yeah, it totally sucks
when you know, your feelings andcarnal feelings. And it's like,
you're like, I really feel likeI'm going to be a piece of class
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that's about to shatter into1000 pieces.
Right? So I might have said thison here before, but most adults
are in tune with three emotions.
Oh, yeah. Have I said this loveanger? And what was the third
one? Maybe disappointment. Butthere are so they're like, I
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don't know. 40 something? I'mgonna Google it while we talk.
Yeah, how many emotions and youknow, most adults don't know.
Like, I'm feeling shameful. Likeshame is a big one right? ate.
And really again, like, we thinkabout shame, okay, if we, if we
were if we were to talk toshame, right? Because a lot of
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these emotions really just wantto be seen. And you say hi.
Because they vanished,right? There's 27 different
categories of emotion. That'scategories. Yeah. So but it
takes an awful lot of practicefor someone to get to the place
where they can really sortthrough. Yeah. And find, you
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know, that. I call it like,emotional granularity, where,
what it actually is,right, and I'm gonna while we
talk, I'm gonna look up a book,like my team, who always just
says, board, right? Is more onboard. Okay, so
what what is what is poor, itshighest intention for her. Oh,
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that, you know, maybe the boardboard as an emotion is saying,
hey, I want you to have more joyin your life. Right? That's its
highest intention. It's reallyjust trying to be like, Okay,
you haven't had enough joy inyour life.
And it's hard for some people tomake that connection up. So
that's when you would go seesomeone like my lane like a
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feeler. Another thing you cantry on your own everybody is,
there's a book Lila and I'vetalked about this one, by Mark
Brackett and it's ma RC bracket,b, r a c k e TT, permission to
feel. And Mark has devoted hislife to he's a doctor, he has
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devoted his life to helpingpeople feel the emotions, and he
teaches you how to go in andlike really do that. So that's a
good follow up for this podcast,too.
Because a lot of this stuffexists in yourself. So my lane
is, again, that sort of tourguide that we're looking for
where she's going to help youfind you.
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Like I am, I'm playing yourmirror. So I might be showing
you things that one you haven'tseen. And that includes your
wisdom, and your power and yourbeauty and your strength. You
know, we're so used to seeingthe things we don't like about
each other. Worse, yeah, right.
It's, it's easier because again,part of its negative emotions,
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that's a very magneticmagnetics. I like negative
emotions are pretty magnetic. Soit's easier to go that way.
So what we don't like in someoneis a reflection of ourselves.
And it sounds harsh, but there'ssomething inside of you, if you
really dig will resonate. Someaning if you don't like
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something in someone, it it's areflection of what's happening
inside of you. But also thepositive is true to like, like
what you love or like aboutsomeone or admire about someone
is also a reflection of the rat.
Yeah. So it's like a magnet.
Yeah, we're drawn to people fora reason.
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Right. And so, you know, again,speaking from personal
experience, I think one of thethings that I have loved to lean
into is this curiosity piece,right? So say I was feeling
bored. I can ask what else couldthis mean? And then when
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judgment starts to join theconversation, I say, hey,
judgment. I'm not trying to acton a theme. I'm just curious,
right? Step aside. Yeah. I waslike, I was like, I was
like, You know what? Don'tworry. I'll call you in when I
need shots. Right.
I love the little handbook. Whenyou need it,
you need it exactly. Right now.
I'm just curious. What else?
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Yeah.
Another thing that I do for meis like, I'll even say like,
what do I need today? Yes. Like,I'm feeling this like, or if
when I don't know what somethingmeans. And I'm trying to like
figure it out. Because I workdeep on myself, just like my
lean does. I'll be like, what?
Like, what do I just need today?
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I don't need to figure it outtoday. But today, I mean, like,
an extra cup of espresso. Day.
And that, you know, and I thinkthat you know, for a lot of
people aren't taking the time topause and think through kind of
some of these, you know, we'revery reactive, we just react and
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so you don't ever you know, ifyou can slow yourself down to
get to the place like my Lanesays and and think like, what,
what am I actually thinkingabout? Why? Why am I thinking I
mean, going back to the brain isjust a predictor, right? When
you're thirsty, and you know,you're thirsty, not just hungry,
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right? And you drink water. Andalso you're like, ah, thirst
quenched? Your body actuallydoesn't process So that you've
drunk that water until 20minutes later
in the brain is a powerfulbrain, the brains like oh, yeah,
you drank water. Okay. Well,drinking water means that you
feel great. You feel great,right? But again, think about
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like the body itself takes 20minutes, right?
So we only use what, like threeor 5% of our brains?
Yeah, there's so many. It's ifthere's so many well, so. So
metabolically, though, we talkabout like the brain. And as a
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budgeter of our resources,metabolically, our brain is the
one that uses the most energy.
Oh, so I love that I believethat, I believe that I use a an
additional part of my brain tobe able to connect to the other
side. Yeah, and if you're using,it's almost like your brain, you
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can think about as like airportsand hubs, right? You've got New
York, LaGuardia got Atlanta as ahub. You've, through your
experiences in the way thatyou've allowed your brain to
predict how to best take care ofyou. Your hubs are operating
really efficiently, efficientlyand elegantly. Why thanks?
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You make me sound.
And all of a sudden, becauseit's operating and your your
brains like oh, sweet systems,systems are good. Systems are
good. I say that I have my owninterpretation of that. You that
I just paid my dues and pastlives, and I've suffered. Like,
I think I've been I've suffered?
I do, I think it's a combo.
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Yeah. Well, I think it goes backto sort of like,
what do you believe? Right? Andwhat resonates? I think it's a
little a bow, right?
Like, I like to think aboutmaking deposits into my well
being bank. Yeah. Especiallywhen I feel good. Because guess
what, there is no other bank outthere that has this kind of an
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interest rate. Right? You makedeposits into your own well
being bank, then when it is thatyou need to make withdrawal.
You're gonna be like, I'm notI'm not gonna run out. Right,
this gas, and there's gas. Andyou know, what? I have accrued
so much interest compoundedeven? Guess what? It's good to
(32:27):
get a lot. Yeah. Yeah. I lovethat. So originally, my lien was
drawn to me, Angel, Amy. BecauseI have a background in corporate
America. People might not knowthat. And so we've had these,
like, really deep conversationsabout how corporate America is
(32:51):
slowly starting to merge intothis self help realm. How when
you're in corporate America, inyou sit in these cubicles, and
you're on top of everybody, andyou work with different
personalities, we have to havedifferent tools in our toolbox
(33:11):
to be successful in corporateAmerica. And also, we're
starting to see more companiesstart to lean into a corporate
climate that is in morealignment with what's some good
language, my lean?
I think so the way that I liketo think about as like, really
(33:34):
companies who practice what theypreach, right? It's not just
values you put on a wall andsay, check, I got values, but
really embody those values oftaking care of its employees.
Right people first becauseagain, without the people guess
what? You don't haveright, don't think it from the
top, though. I lovewell, and I was gonna say, you
(33:57):
know, we, the phrase that alwayscomes to my mind regarding is,
you know, that work lifebalance. Yeah. Everybody wants
to talk about that as thoughyou're, you're not your life has
not happened while you're inwork. Right. But yeah, I think
that that sort of, you know,especially if you had upper
management or, you know, upperleader that, you know, was aware
(34:19):
of things like this, and, youknow, aside from just the
happiness of your employees, I'msure that they're much more
productive if they're notsitting there wishing they were.
Sothink about it as when you have
an environment, right? I mean,again, I think about this, it's
almost like okay, what did youlearn in kindergarten, how to
(34:40):
play well with each other in thesandbox, right? No different but
somehow along the line along theway, we forget that as adults,
it's similar principles. Soyou're in the sandbox, and
you're like, oh, how do we howdo I, how do we play with each
other so that one we're havingfun? Be we trust each Other, and
when we have a safe space, thenguess what? That's where the
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innovation comes. Because nowwe're not worried about
challenge might be too strong orbut we're not worried about
asking questions about an ideathat came up. But it's those
asking those questions in a safespace that all of a sudden it's
like, oh, this connects to thisdot.
(35:25):
But how would you say that? Thatsort of idea meshes with sort of
the inherent competition that isthere, right. So there's only so
many jobs, there's only so manyupper level jobs. So if I let my
lien take all the credit for ouridea, I'm out.
It's really I love that questionof it takes me back to sort of
(35:51):
like, what's your mental model?
It's all it almost takes me backto Okay. Do you believe that
universe is friendly? Right? Andif you do, okay, then what is a
friendly universe mean? Again,going underneath under, what do
you believe? If you believe itis about competition, then
perhaps that will is what yourexperience is going to be? I
(36:14):
like to think about, I love yourshow, because you're
highlighting all these differentoptions and healers. And, for
me, that is a symbol ofabundance, and how much we have
to share, and how we are allunique, we get to sing our own
songs in our own tune, right?
(36:38):
We each like have our ownrecipe, right?
And that's the thing, right?
It's a learning find, you findwhat works for you, you find
what resonates for you. And it'sokay to change your mind.
Because certain things mightresonate for you at certain
stages of your life.
Right. And so going back to thecorporate America thing, that
fault that now is very ringsvery true in corporate America,
(37:03):
in companies that understandthis are going to thrive in
makeups. And companies thatdon't are going to struggle,
because people are not going tostay at their jobs.
Yeah. I mean, I think there'sthis it's, it's almost like,
we're at this intersection pointwhere, you know, the way that I
like to think about it, like, weusually will upgrade our phones
(37:26):
once a year now. Right?
Yeah, me every couple. But yeah,fairly soon. When was the last
time we upgraded, updated? Theway that corporate systems and
structures operate?
I everlike Yeah. Like, I think it's
just so archaic to me. Right?
(37:51):
Right.
So I think it's, it's almostlike, yes, we have all these
articles about the greatresignation, and mental health
and well writing, I think thisis forcing the conversation. And
like you said, the companies whorecognize that they have to
change their way of be in doingso this is so interesting to me,
(38:13):
because I'm just coming back toa conversation that Amy had,
where she talked about the GenZ, and the change the disruption
of the pandemic, and thedisruption of everything. And I
think, you know, I'm an olderperson, you're so old. But
you're ingrained in a differentway. Right. So you, you know,
the idea of like, your, yourworkplace, you know, basically
(38:37):
given a shit about you. Right,kind of a foreign concept.
But I think about how, like someyounger people, and especially
the Gen Z are going to come upand they're just not going to do
it. They're not gonna nod theirroar at it, they're not going to
tolerate exactly on the moneyLila in so now this is why it's
(39:00):
starting to shift in. Also, ifwe go if if everyone goes back
to the podcast on me predictingthe year there I mentioned in
it, that there's a lot ofinfrastructure and processes
that are going to break down.
It's heavy corporate America,its hospitals. It is we'll even
see more in the police that theway these operate these big, you
(39:23):
know, corporations or big groupswould operate just doesn't stick
with stand ending, right?
Well, I mean, it follows thewhole like, it starts from
within, right, it starts with mefirst and then.
(39:45):
Right, you're right and so likethis, the within to me is
feelings in creating a companywhere you're allowed to
communicate and express yourfeelings or express what's
coming going on with you. And Ithink that is the first stage in
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mastering the mental healthcrisis in this country, right?
I think it's, you know, one ofthe concepts I love about a book
I just read, by Lisa FeldmanBarrett, called Seven Habits of
the brain highly recommend isthis concept of, and for me,
this is what oneness is already.
It's almost coming from this. Asbabies as humans, we're really
(40:29):
kind of like the only mammalswho are so dependent on someone
else having to take care of us.
We can think about other animalsbeing born. And gosh, what a
horse just kind of like pops andjust stands up and starts living
as a baby. Right? We are, we areso dependent on who is taking
(40:52):
care of us. Yeah. And so youthink about that ecosystem. And
you think about okay, soawesome. Well, hopefully, we
have really good caretakers whoare doing the best they can in
any given moment. But sometimesthat's not the case. Exactly.
But you had mentioned on yourpodcast episode feels like that
(41:13):
is when the seeds of maybe howour brain starts to predict get
planted. Right. Right. Yeah. Andso, yes, I love that we live in
a country where it is about freespeech and choice and options
and possiblys. But along thatcomes responsibility. Anxiety,
(41:37):
like, the words that we share,speak, say, yes, you can say
whatever you want, but also knowhow that can impact someone
else. Like news nowadays.
Hopefully, we'll get to thepoint where advertisers actually
not paying for fear based news,right? We're actually we're
(42:00):
advertisers actually paying forpositive news, yes. Because if
if we can train and help ourbrains better predict how to
take care of us. We can alsotrain it to be different, we can
do differently and then havedifferently,
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but when you think aboutcompanies are using that very
information to sort ofmanipulate you in an opposite
way. Not necessarily physical.
Yeah. Well, you know, like, Ialways think social media.
Right, right.
I was gonna name one name. Yeah,like, like the algorithm. Yeah.
(42:43):
That is like, no, no, no, no,no. Right. That is gonna tank
something.
And they say that inside ofthat, like that, you they show
you more of, of what you don'tlike, or what's opposite to,
because you tend to because yourent it with that more. Like
negative emotions. Yeah. Abigger pole. Yeah. bigger
(43:04):
magnet. All right, man. Yeah.
But again, I think it's it'spart of this, the way that we
have taught our brains or theway that grew up in terms of
what's magnetic,right, we need to get myelin in
a room with some high level ofsocial media
(43:24):
and teach them how to go insidethemselves and feel the 40
Something emotions. And let'shave a lovely platform where we
can actually just share somephotos of our dog. Yeah,
I mean, going back to littlebaby to hypnosis, hypnosis is
very much just like a trance.
But one can argue that we're allin a trance constant constantly.
(43:45):
Yes. But we forget that we canchoose which trance we want to
be part of.
Yes. And to take it one stepfurther. I always say everything
you've ever wanted, has alreadyhappened. Because this is the
only dimension that has time. Sothird dimension is the dimension
(44:10):
that is time once we get tofourth dimension, there's no
more time. That's why youdaydream through fourth
dimension, or meditate throughfourth dimension. So in the same
respect, as my lien just said,if you tune into what is for
your greater good, or get clearon what exactly you want for
(44:31):
your greater good, it's alreadyhappened for you. So that's like
the first step in manifesting isjust believing that it's out
there. It's happened. You justhave to align with it. And you
do it through your thoughts andyour words, and your actions.
And you live it right, the bestof your ability, right?
(44:53):
I mean, I'm in the book that Ijust mentioned that one of the
things that she says is the bestthing that can ever happen to
her A person is another humanbeing the worst thing that can
happen to a person, because Iknow. Right, right, right. But
But that, but that is thatagain, we can choose who we want
(45:17):
to be. To help humanity.
Exactly. And we need to supportthose people that, you know,
that we like, I'm just gonna saylike with a period, yeah, right.
Yeah. Cuz I mean, again, like weare all part of this is, again
this whole oneness andinterconnectedness like we are
(45:39):
all interconnected that way. Weare right. Yeah. So like the one
we can choose, we can choose whowe want to be with the people
who actually make us betterhuman beings. And also choose
not to be with humans who maybedon't bring out the best in us.
Right, but it's our choice.
(45:59):
I yesterday, I had nine deersurround my house. And I was
like today, I just want to bewith the deer. I don't care if
they have ticks. No. They're,they're the peace symbol, and
they make me feel peaceful.
And guess what? You're helpingyour brain regulate your body.
So every time I see a deer I gointo this peaceful state. It's
(46:21):
crazy. Yeah,you're you're making deposits in
your well beinga lot of it. This was so lovely.
Myleene, thank you tell us wherepeople can find you.
Yes. So I you can find me atHolistic Life Community, which
is located here in Wakefield, soholistic life community.com And
just reach out I've got you cancheck me out on my about page
(46:44):
and just reach out to me viatext or email.
Great. Great.
Thank you so much, Miley. Oh,thank you. And thank you,
everyone, for listening. We hopeyou found this enlightening.
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joining us. And until next time,be well
Hi, y'all. I'm Lila and I began my healing journey
looking for relief from physicalpain. And I'm always willing to
try something new to feel betterand improve myself.
Hi, I'm Angel, Amy, and I am apsychic medium, and a life
coach. And we welcome all of youhere today. So I am about three
(00:26):
and a half weeks post COVID. Soif you hear a little cough come
out of Amy, or if I feel alittle nasally just kind of bear
with me in this episode. Sothank you. And I just want to
let everyone know some excitingnews. I started to do psychic
(00:46):
readings again. So I had putsomething out on Instagram, that
I would do psychic readings for10 people. And I left my phone
for 18 minutes and I had 30Something people sign up. So I
figured there's a need for this.
Yeah, why not just bring it backduring the piano. And we will
(01:08):
just see how this goes. I justwill do them until I burn out
again, I suppose. So if you'relooking for a psychic reading,
I'd love to do one for you. Nowswitching gears today we have a
very, very special guest. Andshe happens to be a personal
(01:29):
friend of mine. So I'm reallyexcited to have her here today.
So we're going to chat a littlebit Lila with Myleene Hendrick.
She's a mentor guide, in atrusted advisor. And we're going
to be discussing hypnosis today.
(01:50):
Which I have done my lien, and Ican't wait to tell you what I
think about it. Perfect. Yeah, Ireally you Hello,
it is so nice to be here. Andit's so nice to be with both of
you. Thank you.
You're welcome. So why don't webegin by you telling us a little
bit about either yourself or howyou got into hypnosis.
(02:13):
So as you know, I am a huge fanof understanding what motivates
people. I think that's been thecommon thread I've had
throughout my career indifferent disciplines,
verticals, industries, you nameit, always fascinated about what
are the choices that we make, ashumans call it souls in a human
body? And what are the impactsoutcomes of such choices? So for
(02:40):
me, I got into hypnosis as Iwhen I left my corporate career,
and then said, Okay, if I keepdoing what I've been doing, I'm
going to keep getting what I'vebeen getting. So I was like,
alright, so okay, I was likeuniverse, Spirit, God, what's
(03:01):
next? And I came across, really,what got me to hypnosis was
neuro linguistic programming orNLP, which really is about how
your how safe your body feels,the language that you use, which
gives an insight into what'shappening in your mind. And even
behind the behind the scenes.
Oh,yes, because I struggle with the
(03:22):
safety issue. And so I love thatyou mentioned safety, like I
know myself really, really well.
And growing up in an alcoholichome. It has been thematic for
me, and I tend to likerepetition. So the older I get i
(03:44):
i have a mindfulness foradventure. In Lila is very
adventurous. By we, you know,hang out, because you know you
like do really cool adventurousthings, especially before the
piano, right. Yeah.
Kind of put the kibosh oneverything right? Which is
awesome,because you're actually working
with your brain, the brainactually loves repetition. So
(04:06):
it's, I'll get back to youroriginal question. But yeah. So
the brain loves repetition. Andso it's awesome that you're
working with your brain, call itpartnering, call it co creating
called collaborating. Becausethat then helps your brain feel
(04:27):
like Oh, awesome. My job or thebrains job in protecting and
preserving you. It makes iteasier. That's the number one
prerogative responsibility ofthe brain is to protect and
preserve you. I just readsomething recently that blew my
mind because it really almostchanges how I thought about how
(04:55):
the brain is comprised. So Thereisn't really a reptilian brain,
there isn't really, it's reallyjust the brain as a function is
saying, Okay, I have this body.
I have these nutrients, glucose,fats, lipids, you name it, how
do I regulate those body toprotect and preserve it. And so
(05:17):
as you can see, I have thingsthat helped me.
So everyone, we're looking atsome beautiful stones that she
brought with her to help herbody regulate, because then it
helps my mind and my brain thensay, Okay, I'm safe. I don't
need to be I don't need to gointo survival mode. I can
actually just be open and enjoythis experience as I'm having
(05:40):
it.
That's great. Yeah. So therepetition thing, is that sort
of the theory behind you know,people that repeat a mantra or
repeat an affirmation? Yes. Socool. Yeah.
So yeah, brain loves repetition.
Because I mean, think abouthabits, right. Even as we think
about the concept of the bodyregulating coffee drinkers,
(06:04):
Oh, yeah. That's my drug ofchoice. So your Nespresso
machine, that thing breaks. Andthat's a crisis we had. We had.
No, no, yeah,we literally had a crisis. It
broke down. Yeah. And I I'mhyperventilating, that's on a
(06:25):
timer. So I don't even like Iget up in the very first thing.
And I was like, because ithadn't
rained. So so. So think aboutthat as a story, like your brain
was used to knowing that acertain time if you drink
caffeine, so actually, the brainalso is a very predictive organ.
(06:46):
And so it really knows beforeyou even pick up that cup and
start to drink it that, Okay, atthis point, it's actually
already changing your physiologyto actually ingest and imbibe
that. Oh, wow. So when you whenyour coffee breaks down, and all
of a sudden your brains likeit's time for the caffeine. So
(07:09):
what what's going on? Right, allof a sudden, you've like messed
up with a predictability of it.
And then it says, Oh, no. isLyle in danger? Do I need to
reallocate?
Everyone else was in danger?
Do I need to reallocateresources? Now what Right,
right, so so it's it's verysimilar to like the habit thing,
right? And so if you can helpyour brain predict and have
(07:35):
flexibility with options, andthat really is resiliency?
Yeah, I love that. So my leanbefore we go a little deeper
into like, exactly what you do.
And like what a session is,like, I have to tell you, up
until I had a hypnosis session,I thought it was like someone
with the like you see on TV? Canwe talk about how totally,
(07:59):
that's what the average personthinks?
are afraid after you leave,you're going to like rob a
bank? Yes, like so. So it'sgonna be reprogrammed in a bad
way. Someone's gonna saybananas. And you're, for those
that don't know,what we're talking about is that
for years in movies and TV,we've seen people get hypnotized
by looking at like a clock orlooking at like a swinging
(08:22):
pendulum into someone would say,Anjali me, because I'm chubby.
Right? So Angel, me, have youtried hypnosis for weight loss?
And I'd say why not? I have notbecause what really, I was a
skeptic. But I'm a believer.
Yeah. And it has nothing to dowith a swing pendulum.
(08:43):
It's not so so. So it's actuallya great segue. Because again,
think about the predictabilitythat our brain does as its
function. So the brain has seen,like you've mentioned in movies,
you're at a county Country Fair,your shows about like, these
hypnotists. And you've got thesepeople going up there. And
(09:05):
they're like, oh, maybe likequacking like a duck. So the
brain your brain was like, Oh,so that's what I've noticed
this. So every time you thinkabout hypnosis, it's really
predicting that that's what'sgoing to happen, right? Because
that's your reference point.
Exactly. It's your reference,probably was like Humphrey
Bogart and like, my grandpa,grandparent, right. And I was
(09:26):
like, Oh, I'm never gonna dothat. Because who wants to be
like, control? Exactly. Just soso?
Let's talk about Okay, so,hypnosis, you wanna do a quick
demo?
Yeah, we can do anything youwant.
Okay, just like, settle down.
Just have your feet on theground. I have no shoes. Have
your hands on your lap. And justclose your eyes. Don't forget to
(09:51):
breathe. That'll help your brainknow that it's safe. Just bring
Then, and breathe out. Okay,open your eyes I feel calm.
(10:12):
Yeah, right. Hypnosis is themlike is really no one, no matter
how good of a hypnotherapistthey are can do anything that is
against your moral code thatresides within you. Again, think
about how the brain's number oneprerogative is to protect and
preserve you. Part of it is ifyou feel like internally,
(10:34):
there's something that's goingagainst what you know is to be
true for you or what you feel isgood. Snap out of it. And
really, hypnosis is a very deepstate of relaxation. The reason
why people feel like, Oh, I'meither falling asleep, or what
if he tell me something isbecause they're in such a deep
(10:55):
state of relaxation, that theymight not have had that feeling
before or their brains like,Wait? How can I be in this deep
state of relaxation with someonejust talking to me? They might
have a different mental modelabout what relaxation is, right?
Right. So and people are like,well, I fall asleep was like,
(11:15):
no, no, you're just in a verydeep state. The reason why
people sometimes have a hardtime coming is because their
body's like, oh my god, thisfeels so good. Why would I want
to come out?
So as you know, I teach a lotabout freewill. And that's what
you're speaking about when youhad us close our eyes and go
inside our body. And remember,Lila in a previous episode, I
(11:39):
asked you about if you can kindof like observe from inside your
body. Like how you're feeling?
Yeah. And that's exactly whatEileen just took us to,
you know, people I used to thinkpeople use hypnosis for like
quitting smoking or like Amysaid,
yes, so still, right. So there'sthere's still there's there's
(12:00):
definitely different programsthat offer hypnosis, because
what hypnosis actually does isit bypasses your conscious mind,
okay? And then the criticalfaculty that sits sits between
your conscious mind and your,your unconscious mind. And the I
use what's called NLPhypnotherapy which uses very
(12:21):
specific language that you'reit's actually your language that
I'm embedding within the guidedvisualization or meditation,
which really is what hypnosisis. But it just gets you into a
deeper state. So I'm actuallytalking directly to your
unconscious mind, which isactually the goal getter. It's
(12:41):
the one that says, Oh, this iswhat you want. Okay. It just has
a very different language.
Right? So conscious is words,unconscious, feelings,
symbolism, imagery. And it'sa bullshit we tell ourselves.
Yeah.
The background, the backgroundnoise, right. So, so yeah, like
(13:04):
the first session I have, itreally is just Hypno.
Hypnotherapy is really just tolet people know, hey, here's
what hypnosis is. And here'swhat it isn't. You hear every
single word I say, you might notjust be conscious of it. And
that's okay. I'm actually not,I'm not not talking to your
consciousness. I'm talking toyour unconscious mind.
(13:24):
So listen, everybody. I'veactually I've done like four
sessions. And I was a completeskeptic in someone offered to
work with me, and I loved it.
And this is what I loved aboutit. So first, we worked on we
talked about an issue that Ihave. And so I'm sorry, you went
for a specific reason? I did.
(13:48):
Okay. Yep. And so she basicallywrote down or my own language
off of that she she had someprobing questions, and I would
answer her back authentically.
Yeah. And then, you know, thatwas that was probably like a
good 20 minutes. And then wemoved to the table and I was
snuggly warm. Yeah. Andbeautiful music. And then I,
(14:13):
after so many minutes would gointo a deep sleep. And we've
talked on here that I'm a snore.
And I didn't have any fear ofsnoring because I felt
comfortable with her. And yeah,I loved it. I. So here's another
(14:35):
thing Myleene I would actuallyget drowsy driving there, like
my body was sensing it,because it's predicting it
right. It's predicting Ooh, I'mgoing to hypnotherapy or
hypnosis session. Oh, when I goto hypnosis. I get so relaxed.
Your body is like ooh, alreadygetting ready for it
like shavasana with like, canwe?
(14:59):
I mean, Some people might callit anchoring, right? Yes. Where
you can anchor the hand anchorbut like you've anchored your
body and your brain haspredicted that when you go to
hypnosis session, you can tothis very relaxed states often
it's like,just breathe super relaxed, and
it was helpful. It was helpful.
(15:20):
Very helpful. Yeah, I suggestit. Yes. And people
people respond differently.
Right. Some people are awake thewhole time. Or like, feel like
they're conscious. Some peoplelights out. Some people actually
snore.
Yeah, right. Snoring drawings.
(15:40):
Yeah, totally, totally allowed.
It really is. What how I like tothink about is like, I'm really
just your guide. But you'redoing the work, you're having
that conversation with yourselfin order to get what you want.
Absolutely. And when were inthat relaxed state, the five
(16:05):
senses doll in The Sixth Sense,heightens Yeah. And then you
start to move through thedementia. Or as as all my angel
incursions, you start like welive in third dimension, this is
earth. And when you daydream,meditate, sleep, you actually
move into or use yourimagination, you move into
(16:26):
fourth dimension. And then whenyou of course, you pass away,
you go to fourth dimension orhigher outside the physical
body. But while you're asleep,you move through the dimensions
in the realms. And you you meetup with your higher self, which
is all the beauty contains allthe beautiful qualities about
(16:46):
you, right and beautifulattributes, and you collect
parts of your recipe and bringthem back with you when you
return to an awakened state. Soif my lien such a gentle soul,
or anyone that you feel drawn tothat does hypnosis, while you're
in this relaxed, peaceful,hypnotic state is saying
(17:11):
positive things to you, you'realigning in that moment with
those parts of you, with yourhigher self in the higher
dimensions, and then you're ableto bring it back
with you. And it's almost likegoing back to your internal
source. Yes, right. Where therearen't any filters or layers or
(17:34):
whatever that are hiding ormaybe masking what it is that
your heart or your soul, or yourheart and soul wants for you,
which is only aligning you foryour highest and the greatest
good.
Lila, what would be your biggestfear having this done? You're
like the realist? I think itwould be like, you know, it
would be the control thing. Theidea that my lien would implant
(17:54):
something in my head, like Isaid, like a word or phrase.
Yeah. tissues. Lila, can youtell?
Ya know, I tell everyone thatI've worked with like, I nor
anyone else can not embedanything in your psyche that you
(18:16):
morally have an issue with? Doyou have an innate guidance
system protector that is alwayswithin you.
And I second that, so that youget it from two of us. I call it
like a barometer, right? Like,you know, like, you know, I'm
very real with my little Bostonaccent, like it's a bullshit
(18:37):
bra. So if I'm laying there, Itrust my soul. That if someone's
whispering something, my mybullshit meter. Right. And it's
good to hear a couple differentways. Yeah, it's going to open
up and be like, this doesn'talign with me. And rejection,
(18:57):
like you're you're you are moreas humans were more powerful
than we thought. Yeah.
And so so people will often ask,Well, what about what about the
people they have seen who go upon stage, right? Get all crazy
and crap, like a doctor orwhatever it is, right?
Yeah, what so what's going onwith them? So let me so so
(19:19):
anyway, back to the other sideand I struggle
with so Also think about thinkabout that setting. You're in a
show, okay. And you know, theyhaven't Hypno hypnosis person is
saying, Hey, who wants to comeup and experienced this? And
you've got people were like,ooh, Pick Me Pick Me Pick pick
me. Already. There's an opennessand a willingness and if you pay
(19:42):
attention, you'll notice thatthat person that knows this
person is not picking everyone.
He's he or she is only pickingthe ones that he's like, okay,
this person is open to doingwhatever it is whether it's
hamming it up Whatever it is,they're open. Right? Like,
you'll notice like he'll, he orshe will be like, Oh, no, thank
(20:04):
you so much. I've actuallyalready got enough people. Okay,
because part of it is also beingin tune with the other person
like we calibrate to each other.
Right? So very experiencedhypnotherapy person or hypnosis
(20:24):
person will know if someone'sreally just trying to like out
to prove you being wrong.
Yeah. Like, like, I know whenyou know when there's like you
could do them. The person'smother's first or last name, the
most ridiculous last name everand they still won't finish
(20:46):
right? You looked me up on theYeah. Yeah. Which
goes back to like mental models,right. So you know what I like
to tell people like, this is notfor me. What exactly it is for
you. For you to be able to getit is that you want,
right? I am that I love aboutyou my name because it's so
(21:09):
heart centered. Sofinally, what sort of things do
people come to you for? Like?
So? Most obvious ones are likeanxiety and stress. Okay. I have
done people with weight loss.
But what I have found and why Ihave branched out more than just
hypnotherapy is sometimes peoplecome to me for like, the problem
(21:30):
isn't really the problem. Okay,so I like to think about okay,
great. So you come from my side.
Okay, so what's going on? What'sunder the under? And then we and
then i? And then we think about?
Okay, so here's actually theprotocol. Right? What I also
like to let people know, like,for example, if if you've come
to me, and maybe this has been apattern that you've had for, oh,
(21:55):
I'll just call out myself. 45years. Can't expect that one
session.
Right, right. Bam, it's gone.
Like, you've had this for 45years. Give me a few sessions.
(22:15):
Like, yeah, he'll the layers ofthe onion,
right, like, what's underneath?
Yeah, was under the under.
Alright, so. So that really isjust another way to help, you
know, your brain be like, oh,there's a different way that I
can actually preserve this bodybetter. Yeah. Right. And
sometimes it's a very, sometimesa delicate balance, like, I will
(22:36):
not know that something mighttrigger someone. And so that is,
again, that like, trustingrelationship where it's like, if
something comes up, let me know.
Because maybe that is actuallythat piece of the puzzle that
lets us understand what'sunderneath, under.
So you get to the root cause ofso. So it's like a lot of
(22:56):
anxiety and stress. But like,what's what Where did data?
Where's it coming from? Yeah,right.
So is that something you thinkthat people are finding for
themselves in this relaxedstate? Is this like, something
they're bringing back? Yes,cuz it's all fun. But I was
like, because, you know, I'm notspeak from my personal
experience, like, having theseuncomfortable feelings.
uncomfortable, right? Eightlike, gosh, Angel Amy knows
(23:19):
this. Are the things I masteredwas like, oh, uncomfortable
feeling. Six foot pole, right?
This is before COVID. I waslike, oh, social distancing,
right, sweeping under the rug.
But really, everything that'scoming from our body are just
messengers. There's no part ofus that's trying to harm us.
(23:42):
It's only trying to send us amessage and give alert as to
what to pay attention to. Soeven something like anger. Okay,
sometimes that underlying anger,what's underneath the anger is
actually sadness. And what's itshighest intention? The highest
intention, sadness might belike, I want you to feel loved.
(24:02):
So if we can focus on what's itWhat's this emotions highest
intention? Versus Oh, God, itsucks. Yeah, it totally sucks
when you know, your feelings andcarnal feelings. And it's like,
you're like, I really feel likeI'm going to be a piece of class
(24:23):
that's about to shatter into1000 pieces.
Right? So I might have said thison here before, but most adults
are in tune with three emotions.
Oh, yeah. Have I said this loveanger? And what was the third
one? Maybe disappointment. Butthere are so they're like, I
(24:44):
don't know. 40 something? I'mgonna Google it while we talk.
Yeah, how many emotions and youknow, most adults don't know.
Like, I'm feeling shameful. Likeshame is a big one right? ate.
And really again, like, we thinkabout shame, okay, if we, if we
were if we were to talk toshame, right? Because a lot of
(25:06):
these emotions really just wantto be seen. And you say hi.
Because they vanished,right? There's 27 different
categories of emotion. That'scategories. Yeah. So but it
takes an awful lot of practicefor someone to get to the place
where they can really sortthrough. Yeah. And find, you
(25:28):
know, that. I call it like,emotional granularity, where,
what it actually is,right, and I'm gonna while we
talk, I'm gonna look up a book,like my team, who always just
says, board, right? Is more onboard. Okay, so
what what is what is poor, itshighest intention for her. Oh,
(25:51):
that, you know, maybe the boardboard as an emotion is saying,
hey, I want you to have more joyin your life. Right? That's its
highest intention. It's reallyjust trying to be like, Okay,
you haven't had enough joy inyour life.
And it's hard for some people tomake that connection up. So
that's when you would go seesomeone like my lane like a
(26:11):
feeler. Another thing you cantry on your own everybody is,
there's a book Lila and I'vetalked about this one, by Mark
Brackett and it's ma RC bracket,b, r a c k e TT, permission to
feel. And Mark has devoted hislife to he's a doctor, he has
(26:36):
devoted his life to helpingpeople feel the emotions, and he
teaches you how to go in andlike really do that. So that's a
good follow up for this podcast,too.
Because a lot of this stuffexists in yourself. So my lane
is, again, that sort of tourguide that we're looking for
where she's going to help youfind you.
(26:58):
Like I am, I'm playing yourmirror. So I might be showing
you things that one you haven'tseen. And that includes your
wisdom, and your power and yourbeauty and your strength. You
know, we're so used to seeingthe things we don't like about
each other. Worse, yeah, right.
It's, it's easier because again,part of its negative emotions,
(27:22):
that's a very magneticmagnetics. I like negative
emotions are pretty magnetic. Soit's easier to go that way.
So what we don't like in someoneis a reflection of ourselves.
And it sounds harsh, but there'ssomething inside of you, if you
really dig will resonate. Someaning if you don't like
(27:44):
something in someone, it it's areflection of what's happening
inside of you. But also thepositive is true to like, like
what you love or like aboutsomeone or admire about someone
is also a reflection of the rat.
Yeah. So it's like a magnet.
Yeah, we're drawn to people fora reason.
(28:05):
Right. And so, you know, again,speaking from personal
experience, I think one of thethings that I have loved to lean
into is this curiosity piece,right? So say I was feeling
bored. I can ask what else couldthis mean? And then when
(28:26):
judgment starts to join theconversation, I say, hey,
judgment. I'm not trying to acton a theme. I'm just curious,
right? Step aside. Yeah. I waslike, I was like, I was
like, You know what? Don'tworry. I'll call you in when I
need shots. Right.
I love the little handbook. Whenyou need it,
you need it exactly. Right now.
I'm just curious. What else?
(28:49):
Yeah.
Another thing that I do for meis like, I'll even say like,
what do I need today? Yes. Like,I'm feeling this like, or if
when I don't know what somethingmeans. And I'm trying to like
figure it out. Because I workdeep on myself, just like my
lean does. I'll be like, what?
Like, what do I just need today?
(29:10):
I don't need to figure it outtoday. But today, I mean, like,
an extra cup of espresso. Day.
And that, you know, and I thinkthat you know, for a lot of
people aren't taking the time topause and think through kind of
some of these, you know, we'revery reactive, we just react and
(29:30):
so you don't ever you know, ifyou can slow yourself down to
get to the place like my Lanesays and and think like, what,
what am I actually thinkingabout? Why? Why am I thinking I
mean, going back to the brain isjust a predictor, right? When
you're thirsty, and you know,you're thirsty, not just hungry,
(29:51):
right? And you drink water. Andalso you're like, ah, thirst
quenched? Your body actuallydoesn't process So that you've
drunk that water until 20minutes later
in the brain is a powerfulbrain, the brains like oh, yeah,
you drank water. Okay. Well,drinking water means that you
feel great. You feel great,right? But again, think about
(30:12):
like the body itself takes 20minutes, right?
So we only use what, like threeor 5% of our brains?
Yeah, there's so many. It's ifthere's so many well, so. So
metabolically, though, we talkabout like the brain. And as a
(30:34):
budgeter of our resources,metabolically, our brain is the
one that uses the most energy.
Oh, so I love that I believethat, I believe that I use a an
additional part of my brain tobe able to connect to the other
side. Yeah, and if you're using,it's almost like your brain, you
(30:55):
can think about as like airportsand hubs, right? You've got New
York, LaGuardia got Atlanta as ahub. You've, through your
experiences in the way thatyou've allowed your brain to
predict how to best take care ofyou. Your hubs are operating
really efficiently, efficientlyand elegantly. Why thanks?
(31:22):
You make me sound.
And all of a sudden, becauseit's operating and your your
brains like oh, sweet systems,systems are good. Systems are
good. I say that I have my owninterpretation of that. You that
I just paid my dues and pastlives, and I've suffered. Like,
I think I've been I've suffered?
I do, I think it's a combo.
(31:43):
Yeah. Well, I think it goes backto sort of like,
what do you believe? Right? Andwhat resonates? I think it's a
little a bow, right?
Like, I like to think aboutmaking deposits into my well
being bank. Yeah. Especiallywhen I feel good. Because guess
what, there is no other bank outthere that has this kind of an
(32:04):
interest rate. Right? You makedeposits into your own well
being bank, then when it is thatyou need to make withdrawal.
You're gonna be like, I'm notI'm not gonna run out. Right,
this gas, and there's gas. Andyou know, what? I have accrued
so much interest compoundedeven? Guess what? It's good to
(32:27):
get a lot. Yeah. Yeah. I lovethat. So originally, my lien was
drawn to me, Angel, Amy. BecauseI have a background in corporate
America. People might not knowthat. And so we've had these,
like, really deep conversationsabout how corporate America is
(32:51):
slowly starting to merge intothis self help realm. How when
you're in corporate America, inyou sit in these cubicles, and
you're on top of everybody, andyou work with different
personalities, we have to havedifferent tools in our toolbox
(33:11):
to be successful in corporateAmerica. And also, we're
starting to see more companiesstart to lean into a corporate
climate that is in morealignment with what's some good
language, my lean?
I think so the way that I liketo think about as like, really
(33:34):
companies who practice what theypreach, right? It's not just
values you put on a wall andsay, check, I got values, but
really embody those values oftaking care of its employees.
Right people first becauseagain, without the people guess
what? You don't haveright, don't think it from the
top, though. I lovewell, and I was gonna say, you
(33:57):
know, we, the phrase that alwayscomes to my mind regarding is,
you know, that work lifebalance. Yeah. Everybody wants
to talk about that as thoughyou're, you're not your life has
not happened while you're inwork. Right. But yeah, I think
that that sort of, you know,especially if you had upper
management or, you know, upperleader that, you know, was aware
(34:19):
of things like this, and, youknow, aside from just the
happiness of your employees, I'msure that they're much more
productive if they're notsitting there wishing they were.
Sothink about it as when you have
an environment, right? I mean,again, I think about this, it's
almost like okay, what did youlearn in kindergarten, how to
(34:40):
play well with each other in thesandbox, right? No different but
somehow along the line along theway, we forget that as adults,
it's similar principles. Soyou're in the sandbox, and
you're like, oh, how do we howdo I, how do we play with each
other so that one we're havingfun? Be we trust each Other, and
when we have a safe space, thenguess what? That's where the
(35:03):
innovation comes. Because nowwe're not worried about
challenge might be too strong orbut we're not worried about
asking questions about an ideathat came up. But it's those
asking those questions in a safespace that all of a sudden it's
like, oh, this connects to thisdot.
(35:25):
But how would you say that? Thatsort of idea meshes with sort of
the inherent competition that isthere, right. So there's only so
many jobs, there's only so manyupper level jobs. So if I let my
lien take all the credit for ouridea, I'm out.
It's really I love that questionof it takes me back to sort of
(35:51):
like, what's your mental model?
It's all it almost takes me backto Okay. Do you believe that
universe is friendly? Right? Andif you do, okay, then what is a
friendly universe mean? Again,going underneath under, what do
you believe? If you believe itis about competition, then
perhaps that will is what yourexperience is going to be? I
(36:14):
like to think about, I love yourshow, because you're
highlighting all these differentoptions and healers. And, for
me, that is a symbol ofabundance, and how much we have
to share, and how we are allunique, we get to sing our own
songs in our own tune, right?
(36:38):
We each like have our ownrecipe, right?
And that's the thing, right?
It's a learning find, you findwhat works for you, you find
what resonates for you. And it'sokay to change your mind.
Because certain things mightresonate for you at certain
stages of your life.
Right. And so going back to thecorporate America thing, that
fault that now is very ringsvery true in corporate America,
(37:03):
in companies that understandthis are going to thrive in
makeups. And companies thatdon't are going to struggle,
because people are not going tostay at their jobs.
Yeah. I mean, I think there'sthis it's, it's almost like,
we're at this intersection pointwhere, you know, the way that I
like to think about it, like, weusually will upgrade our phones
(37:26):
once a year now. Right?
Yeah, me every couple. But yeah,fairly soon. When was the last
time we upgraded, updated? Theway that corporate systems and
structures operate?
I everlike Yeah. Like, I think it's
just so archaic to me. Right?
(37:51):
Right.
So I think it's, it's almostlike, yes, we have all these
articles about the greatresignation, and mental health
and well writing, I think thisis forcing the conversation. And
like you said, the companies whorecognize that they have to
change their way of be in doingso this is so interesting to me,
(38:13):
because I'm just coming back toa conversation that Amy had,
where she talked about the GenZ, and the change the disruption
of the pandemic, and thedisruption of everything. And I
think, you know, I'm an olderperson, you're so old. But
you're ingrained in a differentway. Right. So you, you know,
the idea of like, your, yourworkplace, you know, basically
(38:37):
given a shit about you. Right,kind of a foreign concept.
But I think about how, like someyounger people, and especially
the Gen Z are going to come upand they're just not going to do
it. They're not gonna nod theirroar at it, they're not going to
tolerate exactly on the moneyLila in so now this is why it's
(39:00):
starting to shift in. Also, ifwe go if if everyone goes back
to the podcast on me predictingthe year there I mentioned in
it, that there's a lot ofinfrastructure and processes
that are going to break down.
It's heavy corporate America,its hospitals. It is we'll even
see more in the police that theway these operate these big, you
(39:23):
know, corporations or big groupswould operate just doesn't stick
with stand ending, right?
Well, I mean, it follows thewhole like, it starts from
within, right, it starts with mefirst and then.
(39:45):
Right, you're right and so likethis, the within to me is
feelings in creating a companywhere you're allowed to
communicate and express yourfeelings or express what's
coming going on with you. And Ithink that is the first stage in
(40:06):
mastering the mental healthcrisis in this country, right?
I think it's, you know, one ofthe concepts I love about a book
I just read, by Lisa FeldmanBarrett, called Seven Habits of
the brain highly recommend isthis concept of, and for me,
this is what oneness is already.
It's almost coming from this. Asbabies as humans, we're really
(40:29):
kind of like the only mammalswho are so dependent on someone
else having to take care of us.
We can think about other animalsbeing born. And gosh, what a
horse just kind of like pops andjust stands up and starts living
as a baby. Right? We are, we areso dependent on who is taking
(40:52):
care of us. Yeah. And so youthink about that ecosystem. And
you think about okay, soawesome. Well, hopefully, we
have really good caretakers whoare doing the best they can in
any given moment. But sometimesthat's not the case. Exactly.
But you had mentioned on yourpodcast episode feels like that
(41:13):
is when the seeds of maybe howour brain starts to predict get
planted. Right. Right. Yeah. Andso, yes, I love that we live in
a country where it is about freespeech and choice and options
and possiblys. But along thatcomes responsibility. Anxiety,
(41:37):
like, the words that we share,speak, say, yes, you can say
whatever you want, but also knowhow that can impact someone
else. Like news nowadays.
Hopefully, we'll get to thepoint where advertisers actually
not paying for fear based news,right? We're actually we're
(42:00):
advertisers actually paying forpositive news, yes. Because if
if we can train and help ourbrains better predict how to
take care of us. We can alsotrain it to be different, we can
do differently and then havedifferently,
(42:23):
but when you think aboutcompanies are using that very
information to sort ofmanipulate you in an opposite
way. Not necessarily physical.
Yeah. Well, you know, like, Ialways think social media.
Right, right.
I was gonna name one name. Yeah,like, like the algorithm. Yeah.
(42:43):
That is like, no, no, no, no,no. Right. That is gonna tank
something.
And they say that inside ofthat, like that, you they show
you more of, of what you don'tlike, or what's opposite to,
because you tend to because yourent it with that more. Like
negative emotions. Yeah. Abigger pole. Yeah. bigger
(43:04):
magnet. All right, man. Yeah.
But again, I think it's it'spart of this, the way that we
have taught our brains or theway that grew up in terms of
what's magnetic,right, we need to get myelin in
a room with some high level ofsocial media
(43:24):
and teach them how to go insidethemselves and feel the 40
Something emotions. And let'shave a lovely platform where we
can actually just share somephotos of our dog. Yeah,
I mean, going back to littlebaby to hypnosis, hypnosis is
very much just like a trance.
But one can argue that we're allin a trance constant constantly.
(43:45):
Yes. But we forget that we canchoose which trance we want to
be part of.
Yes. And to take it one stepfurther. I always say everything
you've ever wanted, has alreadyhappened. Because this is the
only dimension that has time. Sothird dimension is the dimension
(44:10):
that is time once we get tofourth dimension, there's no
more time. That's why youdaydream through fourth
dimension, or meditate throughfourth dimension. So in the same
respect, as my lien just said,if you tune into what is for
your greater good, or get clearon what exactly you want for
(44:31):
your greater good, it's alreadyhappened for you. So that's like
the first step in manifesting isjust believing that it's out
there. It's happened. You justhave to align with it. And you
do it through your thoughts andyour words, and your actions.
And you live it right, the bestof your ability, right?
(44:53):
I mean, I'm in the book that Ijust mentioned that one of the
things that she says is the bestthing that can ever happen to
her A person is another humanbeing the worst thing that can
happen to a person, because Iknow. Right, right, right. But
But that, but that is thatagain, we can choose who we want
(45:17):
to be. To help humanity.
Exactly. And we need to supportthose people that, you know,
that we like, I'm just gonna saylike with a period, yeah, right.
Yeah. Cuz I mean, again, like weare all part of this is, again
this whole oneness andinterconnectedness like we are
(45:39):
all interconnected that way. Weare right. Yeah. So like the one
we can choose, we can choose whowe want to be with the people
who actually make us betterhuman beings. And also choose
not to be with humans who maybedon't bring out the best in us.
Right, but it's our choice.
(45:59):
I yesterday, I had nine deersurround my house. And I was
like today, I just want to bewith the deer. I don't care if
they have ticks. No. They're,they're the peace symbol, and
they make me feel peaceful.
And guess what? You're helpingyour brain regulate your body.
So every time I see a deer I gointo this peaceful state. It's
(46:21):
crazy. Yeah,you're you're making deposits in
your well beinga lot of it. This was so lovely.
Myleene, thank you tell us wherepeople can find you.
Yes. So I you can find me atHolistic Life Community, which
is located here in Wakefield, soholistic life community.com And
just reach out I've got you cancheck me out on my about page
(46:44):
and just reach out to me viatext or email.
Great. Great.
Thank you so much, Miley. Oh,thank you. And thank you,
everyone, for listening. We hopeyou found this enlightening.
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