Ask a Medium Anything (Part 5): Spirit Jobs, Life Regrets & What do they know?

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Hey, beautiful soul, welcomeback or welcome in to another
episode of spirit speakeasy.
It's time for another round ofone of our most loved ongoing in
a series. Ask a medium anything.
This is part five of our Ask amedium, anything series. And
over the past couple of years ofthis podcast, these Q and A

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episodes have become a favoriteway to explore the questions
that you are most curious about.
I take ongoing questionsthroughout the year and I
compile them. And thenperiodically, we do these ask a
medium anything episodes where Icompile the most frequently
asked questions. Since this isnumber five in the series, if
you've missed any of the otherfour, make sure you go back and

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check those out, especially if aquestion that's on your mind or
heart isn't answered in thisepisode, it probably was already
answered in a previous episode.
So like I said, this has becomeone of our favorite ways here on
the pod to explore thesequestions that you have about

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the spirit world, spiritcommunication, mediumship, the
unseen world. Really no topicsor questions are off limits for
these ask a medium episodes. Soin today's episode, the
questions are extra layered andheartfelt. We're talking about
things like whether loved oneswho were estranged or who you've
never met can still communicateor come through in a reading and

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offer healing or messages, ifspirit people ever talk to each
other over there, even if theydidn't get along or know each
other in life, what it reallymeans when a spirit person
shares their regret, and whatthey hope that we will do with
that and yes, whether theyactually attend their own major

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life events or Our major lifeevents, like, do they attend
their memorial service? Do theyattend other people's funerals,
our weddings, our housewarmings?
Spoiler alert, they do, and theysometimes commentate or make
commentary on your decor or thefood that you served. So they
really can talk about so manythings in a reading you'll also

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hear stories that might surpriseyou. One of the questions was,
if spirit people have jobs onthe other side. So we'll be
hearing a couple stories like,for example, a young girl in
spirit who sings to babies fromthe other side, or a beloved
brother who attended his owncelebration of life to raise a

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glass in true honoring of hisown personality as always, these
episodes are packed with realstories from my mediumship
readings. Some of the detailsare changed to protect the
anonymity and privacy of myclients, of course, but the
emotions and the true message ofthe communications are honored

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and intact. So if you've everwondered how spirit people show
up, why they come through whenthey do, or what they're doing
when they're not communicating,this one is for you. So let's
dive in and have a good timewith this ask a medium anything
part five this first question Iwant to talk about is, Can

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absent loved ones, like thosewho were estranged or in
difficult relationships, even ifit's someone that you never met
or never knew, like a GreatGrandma, Can those types of
people still come through in asession and offer healing or
messages through mediumship. Sothe answer to this is yes, if

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there is a need, the way I workis based on the need of the
soul, so either the need of myclient or the need of the other
side, the people in the spiritworld are spirit people. So if
there's a need, it's fair gamefor anyone to come through often
if you didn't know them. Forexample, I just had this
recently, a great grandparent.

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If you didn't know them in life,they will often use details that
you do know about them through,like family stories, or they
might let you know who elsethey're with on the other. Other
side to validate details aboutthe family to help you validate
or understand that it's trulythem. They might also share
details about like familychallenges or family traits that

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are known to you, or even likefamily history. I have several
family members on the other sidethat I didn't get to meet while
I was here. And when they havecome through in readings, it's
kind of interesting. Some ofthe, you know, family lore or
family stories that they willshare bits and pieces of that
just couldn't be known to anyoneoutside of the family. So those

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sorts of details can really letyou know. Oh, okay, this is who
this person is. But yes, theycan come through if there's a
need, if there's something theywant to share or something that
you truly need to hear fromthem, they are still connected
to us by the love that we share.
So even if they didn't get tomeet you, they still have an

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interest in you. They still havelove for you. They still want to
support you in your life as partof their family. So yes, they
can. They can still take thatopportunity to communicate if
that is the greatest need of thesession, I guess I should just
throw that in there as littlecaveat, like, for example, if
you have someone else or adifferent need that happens to

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be the greatest need probablythat would be addressed. And so
it doesn't necessarily mean thatthey will come through in any
given session, but can theyabsolutely it's just if there's
a need that's greater than that,then perhaps that would be the
need that would be addressed.
For example, I'm thinking of onething specifically that happened

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recently, where the person thatthey actually really needed to
hear from and know was okay didcome through and communicate,
and it was lovely. And then thatperson acknowledged the great
grandparent that was there, gavesome details, gave some details
about the family. And so in thatway, they were able to
acknowledge that greatgrandparent that my client had

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also been wondering about andfelt like especially connected
to. Okay. Our next question, dospirit people talk to each other
on the other side, like withintheir own family, groups or
communities? The answer is yes,as far as I understand it, even
if they're not technicallyfamily. Sometimes I've had it

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where particularly, if it's likea family group reading and it
might be like in laws, sets ofin laws that didn't they're not
related, they might not haveeven known each other here, but
on the other side, becausethey're spending time with us
through that love that we share,they get to know each other, and
they do, of course, chat. If youlisten to the reincarnation

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Episode One, two, skip a few, iswhat it was called. In that
episode, I shared that Iactually believe that in our
soul groups, or the communitiesthat we come in and out of
lifetimes with, I don't thinkthat we're required to incarnate
in every single lifetime that'savailable to us. So I believe we
actually know people over thereon the other side, besides those

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that we knew in this lifetime. Ibelieve we know lots of other
people over there that we visitwith and spend time with and
kind of reconvene with when wereturn to the spirit world. I
didn't say this at the top ofthe episode, and I should have
it was in another note that Ihave not the one I'm looking at.
I obviously, I hope this isimplied. I don't know

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everything. I'm always learningand growing, and these are the
things I know right now in myjourney and in my work. These
are the things I've learned andbelieve right now. But there's a
possibility that even in a monthor a year or 10 years, or, God
willing, 50 years from now. Youmight hear me say, Oh yeah, we

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used to think that, but now Iknow this. So just know that I
am also not a perfect person,and am also learning and
growing, but I've had, you know,a depth of experience and
certainly, lots of sessions todraw wisdom from, and the spirit
world is always teaching me. Sojust to put that little
disclaimer on let's move to thenext question. So we just talked

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about if they talk to each otheron the other side and visit with
each other, but do spirit peopleever communicate like in a
session and share regrets? Andif so, what? What do they hope
that we take from that? Okay,this is a great question. They
can share about anything thatthey need to share about.
Remember, it's based on theneed. So sometimes that's our

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need, but sometimes that's theirneed. They might need to clear
something up, they have a life,review and learn things and come
to deeper understanding aboutthings, and kind of connect
those dots within their own lifeexperience that maybe they
didn't do while they were stillin the physical So, yeah, they
learn over there as well, andsometimes they have regrets or

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have things that they they needto share. I have an example for
this one. Not. Long ago, I had asession with a lovely client,
and it was her best friend thatcame through. These two best
friends had a falling out over asmall miscommunication, and then
one passed away suddenly, andthe surviving friend was really

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consumed with guilt and sadnessand her own regret. And as I was
opening my awareness to see whoI became aware of from the
Spirit side, I was immediatelyaware of this beautiful soul,
her best friend is who it turnedout to be. And as the friend
blended with me and startedsharing details about herself

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and her story. The friend in thespirit world shared the story of
how they had this long timewonderful friendship for like,
decades long friendship, and howthat they initially met as work
colleagues and kind of wouldcommiserate together in a
workplace that they both workedin when they were much younger

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together, but they stayedfriends. She also helped me
express details about herpersonality, how she was
colorful and outgoing, but alsohad this very strong, like
stubborn, spicy streak, is theway she identified it, and she
also shared details about aspart of her personality, she
sometimes could be unfocused orbutterfly like was, I think, the

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way that she expressed it, youknow, just really, you know,
flitting from from flower toflower, and sometimes being a
little unfocused in herpersonality. She also shared
through the communication somedetails about some of the great
times that they've had togetheras friends over the years, some
of the things that they saw eachother through, and then she

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shared details about thisfalling out, which is actually
how I learned about it.
So she went on through sharingthe emotion and sharing the
communication with me, andhelped me express some details
about this falling out that theyhad had. She expressed that the
falling out itself was oversomething very petty, and again,

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she directed me back to thatstubborn, stubborn, sassy streak
of her personality, and thispetty rift caused,
unfortunately, a break in theirfriendship, where they didn't
speak for a couple of years. Andas part of the communication,
she acknowledged that they hadjust started repairing their
friendship not too long ago. Youknow, within the within the

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year, they had started repairingthat friendship, chatting,
getting caught up, gettingtogether little bits here and
there, and then she acknowledgedthat she hadn't returned the
last couple text messages fromher friend my client, who was
who was sitting with me for thissession, and my client started
crying, and she said, yeah, it'sbeen so heavy on her heart, and

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her her friend on the other sidewas acknowledging she's really
stressed out about this that youknow, that her friend who had
crossed over hadn't returned tothese last couple messages. It
was so heavy on her heart, buther friend in the spirit world
made it clear that this notreturning of the texts was
really more about her, the oneon the other side, being

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distracted by life, and sheacknowledged again that part of
her personality that's like alittle butterfly that's easily
distracted, and she wascommunicating that it had no
deeper meaning than that, thatshe really was engaged in this
friendship. She really did loveher friend. She really was
excited and ready to reconnectwith her, and that really she

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just chalked it up to herbutterfly like, easily
distracted personality as to whyshe hadn't answered those couple
messages, and she came throughwith, you know, all of that
detail and just a really clearmessage that she didn't want
this unanswered text to beplaguing her best friend's mind

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and heart, and that she reallyjust wanted to accept and claim
responsibility for that andthat, say that it was never, you
know it was, it was just part ofher personality, and it wasn't
really intended to be about her,and wanting to take
responsibility also for her partin that brief fallout that they

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had had. So really, this readingreminded my client that, you
know, we're all human, even fromthe other side, we're all still
human and doing our best andlearning and regrets often
reflect a desire for us to youknow, have chosen sooner to
foster that connection withthose we love, to speak our

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truth when we have it, when it'son our heart, to not let things
like pride or pettiness or feardelay us from loving the people
that we love and letting themknow so some people in readings
from the other side. Somespirit, people will directly
take responsibility forsomething very specific, like,

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in this case, that they regret.
Others might make more of ageneral apology, something more
like an apology for, like notbeing there for you enough, for
example. But it really justdepends on the nature of the
reading, like their personalstory. You know, we there are
similarities between readings insome ways, but they're all so
unique and personal andspecific, because based on their

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life, their regrets, whatthey've come to understand from
the other side. So often, ifthey're sharing about regrets,
it's to kind of lift a burdenoff of our heart, or to
acknowledge something that theyneed to acknowledge or to kind
of teach us from the other side.
Hey, don't, don't create regretsfor yourself. Live your life

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now. Love the people you lovenow. So it's always with the
intention of healing,upliftment, if they're sharing
about regrets, but they dosometimes share about regrets.
It's a great question. Okay, ournext question will crossed over.
Loved Ones attend major eventslike their own funerals or our
weddings after their passing. Ilove this question. Yes, loved

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ones can, from the spirit world,still be present at our
milestones, at memorials, atfunerals, offering their
support, their emotionalpresence, even if it's quietly
in the background. I have astory for this one that I was
thinking about this question. Soa woman came in for a reading,

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hoping to hear from her youngerbrother, who had passed away
really unexpectedly, and theirbond was so close. They really
grew up leaning on each otherand had just a special
relationship,some of it due to circumstances,
and some of it due to theirpersonalities, but they were
like thick as thieves, so close,and had tons of inside jokes

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between them, and she had beenreally overwhelmed with planning
his memorial service because shefelt like she didn't know his
wishes. It was, it was sosudden, and she just had a lot
of anxiety about it. And shetold me she really felt very
numb the whole time, and keptwondering if her brother had any
idea what was happening, and ifshe was doing the right thing

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for him and and if she shouldhave done something differently,
she just felt really out ofsorts. And she really was hoping
to hear about if he had seen it,if he knew, if he knew what was
going on. So that was what Ididn't know, but that's how she
came in and her brother camethrough. He was, so to speak,

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loud and clear, even though it'snot really how it works, he
expressed and helped me sharethis funny, warm part of his
personality. He's a bit of asmarty pants, a bit of a
sarcastic, like, kind of a smartass, if I'm honest, but not in a
mean way, in like a funny,charismatic, charming way,
actually. And he was expressingthis part of his personality,

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and then expressing gratitudefor the memorial service and for
the way that he remember he wasremembered. His passing was
actually quite tragic in the waythat it happened. And he started
sharing details about thememorial service, he was helping
me understand that she wasresponsible for choosing lots of

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photos and even asking extendedfriends and people from his his
life for photos and details andthings that she was really
making an effort to to put thisphoto package together. And she
said, Yes, she had really workedhard on that. And then with his
humor, he was also expressingbecause he was telling me, in,

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you know, through thecommunication, through the
emotion, and through quickflashes of pictures, and the way
he was communicating that, like,hey, there was a slide show that
happened of these photos. And itwasn't just of the adult part of
his life when he felt cool andwhen he felt like he looked, you
know, strong and like he wantedto look. He was joking and
expressing that there were somepictures from his childhood, and

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he was helping me describe kindof like a dorky grade school
type school photo where histeeth were like, you know, kids
go through that age where, like,their front two teeth are Bucky
and big and sometimes spaced outin a strange way, because
they're still growing. And thenhe was also joking about a
really embarrassing baby photothat she had included that made

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everyone laugh, and she justburst into tears as he was
expressing this, because itreally she she indicated that.
It really let her know that,yeah, he was there, because
those were very specific photosthat she intentionally chose
that meant something to her. Sheloved that school photo of him

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as the way she was. Saying it,even though he really hated that
photo. But as through the humor,he was also expressing gratitude
for helping people rememberthese other aspects of him,
these different differentmemories with him and of him
through his life. So he reallyshared about these moments at

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his memorial service, hisfuneral, he shared how she had
written a speech, and then shewas so upset that one of his
friends had to stand next to herat the podium and read it on her
behalf that she couldn't readit, and how he really was there,
supporting her, trying to tryingto wrap his love around her in

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those moments, even though shefelt like she couldn't feel it.
And then unexpectedly, heshifted, and I became aware
that, okay, so this was the kindof quote, unquote, formal
gathering, and then there wasanother celebration of life. And
she said, yeah, there, actuallythere was that was really for
his closest friends, and theyactually went later that weekend

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to a local pub that hefrequented. And he was sharing,
you know, all the good times hehad there and how much he loved
that place, and it was kind of abit of a home away from home for
him. And he even shared thatthere was some sort of on one of
the areas of the bar thatseveral of them had, like,
carved their initials in, in aplace where you really couldn't

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see it. And they all cametogether and were telling, like,
the real stories about him, notthe, you know, the ones that
maybe weren't sanctioned for allof the public and the family and
things. And he said, you know,they they had shots for him, and
they went around and toldstories, and he felt so honored,
and he was saying he was there.

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He saw it all. He was part ofit, and he was so appreciative
and loving about the way thathis sister honored him and all
the things she did. And reallywanted her to know that not only
did he appreciate it, and was hethere? But he didn't want her to
worry about that. And she said,yeah, he always was like, Don't

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worry about it. Don't worryabout it. And so she's like,
it's so like him to be saying,Don't worry about it, when it's
such a big deal event ceremony,right? So the client said she
had hoped that he would havecome to that second event, but
she wasn't sure, because that'swhere his true personality was
really talked about his favoritepeople showed up, but she had no

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way of knowing if he wasactually there, so his detailed
validation gave her not onlypeace to know that he was
present, but also a sense ofthat he would still stick
around, and that he would havethis ongoing relationship with
her, that he wasn't gonna be begone from her life completely.
He just would be there in adifferent way. So the story

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really helps show that lovedones in the spirit world, they
don't just attend formal eventsand rituals. We often find them,
you know, at the places theyloved, and spending time with
the people that made them feelmost happy or most connected. So
yes, they do still attend all ofthe things. I feel like I have a
lot of stories about this one.
So if you guys want an episodeof just stories, of readings of

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spirit people, sharing aboutevents that they attended from
the spirit world, I've got themall weddings and christenings
and birthday parties, and theysometimes will share details
about these kinds of things. Soyes, just know that they are
there. They are attending. Theyare celebrating with the family
and really wanting to stillparticipate and support from the

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other side. Okay, our nextquestion, do spirit people
recognize or reference thingsthat have changed since their
passing, like moves, marriagesor new babies? Okay, this is
kind of a continuation of thatlast question. So yes, they
attend the big events, but alsoyes, in fact, they will often
share details about, forexample, a grandchild that's

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come along since they've beencrossed over, or a grandchild
that was maybe little when theydeparted. They'll share details.
Sometimes they'll even sharedetails to validate that they're
spending time with thatgrandchild. Now they might share
like, for example, what thatkiddo loves to do, or what their
favorite I've had them share,what the favorite, like Disney

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movie is, they might if they'rea little bit bigger, they might
share you know, that they're astar athlete, or that they just
had a graduation that theyattended that they're so proud
of. So they will share aboutpeople that have come into our
lives or been born into theworld since they're crossing or
people that they care about inthe world. And I actually have a
fun story about a move, becausethat's another thing that comes

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up frequently, is people beingworried, like, Does my person
know that I don't live at thathouse anymore, that we moved to
this state or to this country orto this part of town, to this
new place? So during a session.
In a while back, I became awarewhen I was communicating with

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the spirit person it was, thisis my client's parent, I started
to become aware of and ask them,Did you guys just move recently
within the last like, couplemonths here, like, like, pretty
recently, and I just startedbeing drawn to details about
about a move and about a newplace. And so the client was

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like, Yes, oh my gosh, we we didjust move into a new home, like
a few weeks ago, just just lastmonth. And what the loved one
from the other side wascommunicating was that she,
first of all, she came throughwith such a sweet, humorous,
loving energy and their lovedone in spirit, I believe it was

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the mom. It might have been thestepmom of my clients. It was a
couple that had married and justmoved in together or moved
house.
So the loved one in spirit gaveme this loving nudge of like,
you know, after showing me, oh,the move and the new house, it
was in their own sense of humor,of like, can you please tell

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them to stop worrying if I canfind them or not? Like, I know
they moved. I know where theyare. I know about this house.
And they started laughingbecause they said they they that
the wife, in particular, one ofthe wives had been really
stressed out about if the momknew where they were. So the mom
from the spirit world, wasshowing me glimpses of this new

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home. She was showing me that,you know, that there was no
carpet in there, that it wasreally smooth flooring, and she
was helping me understand thissweet little kitchen that had
just a lovely window that couldlook out over their back garden,
and that there was this littlesunlit corner of that kitchen
where the sun really streamedin, and that the, you know, the

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grown kiddo who owned this houseliked to sit there and read
sometimes, and it's such abeautiful, like sunlit little
corner of that kitchen. The momand spirit even commented on the
boxes that they still had kindof lining one of their hallways.
Because I was like, you have abunch of boxes still kind of

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going down one Hall. And theywere like, yes, we're like,
we're working on it, and the momin the spirit world was kind of
joking and humorouslycommunicating the emotions,
like, Oh, you're not foolinganyone. Those boxes aren't
unpacked yet, and you don'teven, you don't even know what's
in there. Like, so it made itjust so touching, and there was

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so much warmth behind thecommunication from the mom and
she was also sharing that thisspace just feels lighter,
somehow feels brighter, feelslike more airy, and just somehow
the vibe at this place is like,much more relaxing, much more
peaceful. And they werevalidating, of course, saying,
like, yes, that's That'scorrect. That is how this place

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is, and where the other placethat they just moved from felt a
little bit more, maybe like theA little louder, a little less
peaceful. The mom from thespirit world was communicating,
yeah, if you're quiet,especially in the mornings
there, you can hear all thesebirds outside, particularly in
that kitchen, because of thatback garden. And my client was
just so touched because she wassaying, oh my gosh, I can't

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believe, like, my mom's with methere, because that that is
exactly how it is. I sometimeswhen I have time on the weekend,
I will sit in that corner and Iwill hear the birds and be, you
know, just reading or doingwhatever she's doing. So she
also was able to validate thatshe had been really wondering,
and it had been heavy on herheart, if her mom would still be

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able to reach her, send hersigns know where she was because
she'd moved. So not only didthis communication, these
messages, bring tears andrelief, it was a really powerful
reminder that love transcendslocation and that spirit people
are aware of and evencelebrating our new chapters

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alongside us. So hopefully thathelps with that answer our next
question, do spirit people havejobs or roles on the other side?
What are they doing when they'renot communicating with us or
sending us signs? Okay, this isa great question, so I can't
necessarily prove this to you,but several spirit people over
the years have made me aware ofdifferent things, like I had one

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recently that was a person whowas kind of on the younger side
of their life, and was a was aworld traveler, a bit of a
digital nomad, if you will. Andthis person had so many places
on their list that they stillwanted to see. So as part of
their reading, not only werethey validating, you know, the
travels they had done and thatthey they really enjoyed travel,
and it was such a special partof them feeling free and feeling

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like they're getting toexperience lots of life. So they
shared that the places that werestill on their list. List, and
they had me name a couple ofthose places that they still had
on their travel list that theywere actually visiting now from
the spirit world, that they weregetting to take tours and go
into kind of behind the scenes,places that they might have not
been able to see in physicalform. So sometimes they're

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taking tours and traveling andand experiencing things in that
way. And I kind of thought of acouple, as far as, like, the job
thing, some of them will expressthat they have a job or
something that they're they'reworking on. On the other side,
some will not, again, a lot ofthis is based on need. So it
might not come up in everysingle communication, because

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it's really about themexpressing what they need to
express or what we need ashealing for our own souls. Even
if we might not, we might thinkwe want to hear about something,
but if we really need to hearabout something else, that's the
direction it will go. I wasthinking about Two Spirit people
in particular, and they bothjust happen to be young people,

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but I think we all could have ajob over there if we want to. So
they don't always share thistype of information, but
occasionally I've had thesesorts of details come through.
So I was first thinking aboutthis young person that had a
really tragic overdose as partof their passing, and that
person had expressed to me thatthey help young people who have

(31:21):
similar struggle as they did inthe world, similar passing and
that their parent had actuallykind of taken on this charge as
part of their own healing. Andof course, the parent who was my
client was able to validate allof this, and their kiddo from
the other side, who was a grownkiddo, just a younger person,
was expressing that the parenthad really, really been working

(31:46):
with some organizations to like,spread the word, to share the
story of what happened in theirfamily, to create awareness, to
lend their child's story toanyone who needed it, to Help
them understand, to help themgrow to really be a champion of
supporting people who strugglewith addiction and substance use

(32:08):
and people who experienceoverdose from the family, etc.
So this young person on theother side was validating all of
this, and then they were sharingit in a way of like, you know, I
help my parent from the otherside, and we're a team. We're a
team in this work that we'redoing to help save other people
and help support other people.
And when a family is reallystruggling, and that person does

(32:31):
ultimately cross over, eventhough my parents helping on
this side, I help on the otherside, and I help to support
those other young people thatare crossing over in similar
ways and from similar strugglesthat I had, and I helped support
them in their healing and kindof show them the ropes, so to
speak, which I thought was verysweet, and their parent did

(32:52):
indicate that this young personwas really a mentor and wanted
to help others, and that thiswas truly also a part of their
personality, naturally, and thatthey really inside they hadn't
shared it with anyone, but thisparent did feel like they were
teammates in this work, anddidn't feel like they were doing
it all on their own. So I lovedthat their kiddo on the other

(33:15):
side gave that validation forthem, that something that they
had held privately in theirheart as just like an idea, and
hadn't even shared it withanyone the other like spirit job
story that came to my mind wasof a young lady. She is still a
teen at the time of her passing,and she was sharing, you know,
the details of her passing, andshe had a really tough illness

(33:39):
and was kind of a really shy,gentle person by nature, anyway.
And as part of her sharing abouther story, she was also sharing
that she goes and sings to thelittle babies in the NICU, you
know, the babies who have to goin the special area of the
hospital right after they'reborn, neonatal intensive care.

(33:59):
And she was sharing, yeah, I goin those, those NICUs, the
intensive care for babies, and Ising to all the babies who are
in there. And my client gaspedand said, Oh my gosh. She loved
to sing, but she was sopainfully shy that she would
sing to her baby dolls. Shewould line up her dolls when she

(34:20):
was little, and even in her likeyoung teens, she would line up
her dolls and she would sing tothem because she was too scared
and shy, even like she wouldn'teven sing in front of her own
family. So this was sovalidating to this person, in a
way that I could have never evenimagined, because it was so much
of of what they loved when theywere here, this young lady who

(34:42):
had crossed over, and so much ofhow she did her singing when she
was here, that the my client waslike, I'm not at all surprised
that that's what she's doing.
That just is so quintessentiallyher, and was also validating
that, like, she's an incrediblelittle singer and had the voice
of an angel, is the way myclient. Said it, but just that
she was so shy that shecouldn't, you know, they would

(35:05):
hear her through the doorsinging, or through the shower,
or, you know, when she wassinging for her baby dolls. So
those are just a coupleexamples. But I do believe that
as souls, that we do want tohelp and support and help
others. So I feel like most ofthe jobs, quote, unquote, I
don't think it's like a job,like we think of a job here. I

(35:26):
think our souls want to help andwant to support and want to give
love and want to like, marinatepeople in all of these
beautiful, tender emotions. So Ithink that they get to do that.
Okay, hopefully that helps withthat question of the jobs. Our
next questions kind of gotogether, so I just sandwich
them together. Do? I'll readthem together, and then we'll

(35:50):
unpack it a little bit. Dospirit people ever preview or
assist before they come through,like preparing a message
together? Okay? And the otherpart, or it was like a separate
question, but like I said,sometimes I'll put them together
if they're them together ifthey're very similar. This one
is, how and why do spirit peoplechoose to speak through mediums?
Okay, so how and why do theychoose to speak through mediums?

(36:11):
And do they like, assist orpreview or prepare for
communicating through mediums?
So sometimes, as far as like,how and why do they choose to
communicate sometimes? Well,it's always because of a need,
right? A need that they have toshare something, or a need that
you have, or my client mighthave. So that's kind of the why

(36:31):
of it is based on the need ofthe soul. How are they choosing
to communicate through a medium.
I think this means like, how arethey choosing the timing? Or how
are they choosing to do it?
Some, I believe, are waiting forthe right time. I feel like when
we are still in the firstinitial stages of our grieving

(36:53):
process, sometimes we might notbe ready. We might not be ready
to hear the details. It might betoo painful we might not be able
to you know, there's all typesof grieving, and grief manifest
in all kinds of ways, and I'vemet some people with certain
versions of grief where even ifI told them a story about their
loved one, they wouldn't be ableto have the mental bandwidth to

(37:16):
like, think back and feel ifThat story happened, or remember
that story because their griefis just too heavy and they're in
too much pain. So sometimes itcan be right timing, and that
could have to do with grief, orit could have to do with just
like right timing of their lifeto receive the message, being
ready for it, being willing tosee a medium. I do believe that

(37:37):
they choose the medium in someway like I think it's the spirit
people that are choosing themedium, maybe even more so than
my clients who are in thephysical world. Different
mediums work for differentpeople. There's I think it's why
it's so important, that there'sso many types of mediums, that
we all work differently. We all,of course, are human and have

(37:59):
our own human life experience.
And oftentimes I feel likemediums and spirit people, like
the Spirit people matches with acertain medium, because they
know, okay, this person's goingto be able to help me express
this part of my story, or thisperson understands, will
understand this aspect about me.
Because when they'recommunicating with mediums, I

(38:20):
have a little joke that Isometimes say to my clients
where I say, like, I wish thatthey would stand next to me and
talk in my ear and wear a nametag. But it's not the way it
works. Really. I sense them andfeel them, and they blend the
energy of their soul with theenergy of my soul. So our souls
are blending, and it's a soul tosoul communication. It's not a

(38:40):
human body and physical fivesenses communication. It's a
soul to soul communication. Sothey're helping to help me
understand the emotions thatthey want to express, the the
validations or stories ormemories that they want to
express. Often, it's largelythrough the emotions. I

(39:02):
sometimes receive quick flashesof mental pictures or sometimes
quick thought words or evensongs, but I have found that
oftentimes a spirit person seemsto choose a medium that has
either something in common withthem or some unique
understanding of some aspect ofthem or their personality, or

(39:24):
perhaps it's the right they knowit's the right medium for their
loved ones. Maybe they prefer amedium that is of a certain
belief system or from a certainplace, or has certain cultural
background or understanding. Sothere's lots of reasons or why's
to why a spirit person chooses aspecific medium, or why they

(39:47):
choose to work through a medium,and oftentimes it's just
availability, like they'll takethe opportunity. It's why we
always joke. It's why.
Oftentimes, if there's like, agroup reading, a bigger group
reading, it's, it's, I mean, notall the time, but it's like,
often it's the people that gotjust, like, brought along as a

(40:08):
guest, or like, didn't even knowwhat they were necessarily
signing up for, because theirspirit person will take that
opportunity because they're infront of a medium. They don't
necessarily even that. Itdoesn't matter what medium it
is. It's like, Oh, we got themhere. Let's take this
opportunity to say hi and letthem know that we're okay and
alleviate this grief that's ontheir heart, or whatever it
might be. So that's part of theanswer.

(40:32):
The other part of the answer is,yes, I do believe that spirit
people preview or assist, asit's asked, to this question
before they communicate througha medium. How does that look? So
I believe it can look like whenI'm in one on one sessions or
small group readings, which islike two to four people. I

(40:52):
believe that there are thespirit people who are actually
communicating that day, like theloved ones of my clients in that
in that appointment, and then Ibelieve there are also other
loved ones supporting thecommunication, helping to build
the energy and hold the energyand as part of that outer layer,
if you will, of loved ones, Ibelieve that there are people

(41:12):
who are also there, who aremaybe not a part of this
communication, and likely noteven a part of This family or
this soul group. But who arelike, Oh yeah, I want to learn
how to do this. So I'm going tokind of like, you know, how you
could, like, audit a collegeclass where it's like, you're
not actually the one in theclass, but you're just auditing
it, learning, doing the work,kind of in the background. So

(41:34):
it's like that, where they'rejust learning, learning how to
communicate, learning, you know,watching another spirit person
blend their energy watching howthey kind of move me to say the
things that they want me to say,or move the communication in the
directions and how they workwith me. So I do believe that
they attend one on one sessions.
I believe sometimes they'reattending demonstrations like

(41:56):
group, bigger group, mediumshipreadings. I'm sure that you guys
have seen some of the like,famous mediums that come around
and do, like arena tours or likeclub tours. I think they're
attending those and even smallergroup readings. I might do group
readings anywhere from like twopeople to like 100 people. So
sometimes it's, it's smallgroups of colleagues, or

(42:19):
someone's having a birthdayparty and they want to do a
group reading. So I think thatthey come to those even if
they're not going to be activelycommunicating, but they want to
kind of take it in, learn thelearn the ropes, see the behind
the scenes and how it works.
This is maybe a strange example.
I think you guys all know mymind is kooky, but the mental
picture I have is when you meanyway, when I used to be on the

(42:42):
school yard and we would do jumprope, or I could, never could do
the double dutch, like the twojump rope, but I always wanted
to. But when you're doing jumprope, and you have to, like,
they're spinning the rope, andyou have to jump in to kind of
start doing the jump rope, youkind of watch from the outside.
You watch the rhythm of therope. You watch the people
swinging the rope and howthey're doing it, and what the

(43:03):
pattern is, and you start kindof feeling, okay. This is the
rhythm of this. This is how thisworks. And then when you're
ready, you might jump in and andjump rope, or communicate so,
sort of like that. And that's avery rough around the edges, uh,
sort of explanation of that thespirit world is always helping
me understand that the way ourhuman minds kind of understand
or file things is incrediblysimplified compared to the

(43:27):
complexity of all of the innerworkings of all of these types
of things, but in a veryelementary sort of way. That's
the example I have of how itworks. But I do think they're
coming to sessions or going togroup readings. I also, and lots
of mediums I know, do ameditative practice where we
kind of sit with our own souland with the souls on the other

(43:50):
side. We're not necessarilycommunicating in those
meditations. It's more of apractice sitting in the power is
what it's called, or sitting inthe presence, and I'm sitting
with the spirit world as aworld. So during that time, they
can kind of come into my space,work with my guides in the
background, and start learninghow to communicate with me. So I
think there are variousopportunities that they take to

(44:12):
learn to work with the mediumsand learn to blend their energy
and learn how to get to Okay,another little thing I should
probably mention in here, eventhough it's going to take a
second as part of the mediumshipcommunication, when I receive
those mental pictures, like Iwas talking about how those
work, is sort of like if I wastelling you a story about my day

(44:34):
and I was saying, Oh, I I wentto get a soda at the convenience
store. You could imagine in yourmind's eye me going and opening
a ice chest and grabbing a soda,right? So it's sort of like
that. It's a mental picture, butit's almost always things that I
have already experienced, likemy memories, my life, things

(44:54):
that I know, houses, I'mfamiliar. Earlier, with even if
I totally forgot about thatplace or saw it in a movie when
I was seven, they can useanything that's sort of in my
memory bank, so they need toknow, okay, what are her
memories that are close to mine?
So I can trigger that memory ortouch into this area in my

(45:17):
medium, so that I can get her toexpress this story that I want
to express about an adventure.
We took a trip. We took forexample. So they really are
doing a lot of work, not just inthe session, but preparation for
the session. I believe that theydo have to learn how to
communicate through a medium,and I believe that they take
time and spend time learning howto work with individual mediums

(45:41):
and how to communicate, toreally take that opportunity,
take that fleeting moment ofthat mystical experience.
Because Spirit communicationsare a mystical experience. I
know we kind of maybe dismissthat part of it, especially in
like a pop culture sort of way,but it is a mystical experience,
communicating with an unseenperson from another realm, like

(46:05):
it's a lot happening. It's notjust, oh well, can you tell me
how tall they are? Oh well, canyou tell me what's their middle
name? It's not that. It's ablending of souls to really
express an emotionalcommunication their story,
what's on their what's on theiragenda to express and the way

(46:25):
they want to share it, andthey're working very hard
between all the research anddevelopment they have to do to
learn how to communicate. Andthen I'll speak for myself, the
patience that they have with meas a medium to get me blended
with them and to help me expresswhat they need to express in the
communication. So yes, they doprepare preview and work behind

(46:48):
the scenes before communicatingthemselves. I believe, even if
it's remember time is differentover there. So even if their
passing is very recent, theystill have ways of of doing
that. And then I believe thatthe mediums have a spirit guide
that also assists in thebackground with the
communication that might kind ofcoach a little bit from from

(47:09):
behind the scenes and saying,like, Okay, you got to work with
my medium like this, or that isjust the way my mind wants to
explain it. But I do know, forme, that is how it works. So
hopefully that is helpful as ananswer to this. This is sort of
a part, an additional part, thatkind of goes right along with
these questions. So I want tosqueak it in here. What makes

(47:30):
one spirit person come throughin a reading and not another?
Okay, this really, again, isabout the need of the soul,
either the need of the spiritperson, or the need of the soul
who's on this side, right? Soyou might have you might want to
hear from everyone you've everknown, or everyone who's over
there, but oftentimes it will bethose that need to communicate.

(47:54):
Sometimes it's the person weneed to hear from. Sometimes
it's others that will join intothe communication to help build
the energy, to help the mediumin some capacity. But if they're
communicating, there's usually atie in to the actual need of the
session as part of it.
And sometimes the need is likesometimes it's obvious and

(48:18):
sometimes it's not so. Sometimesthe need might even reveal
itself later, where, you know,maybe the first person that's
communicating in the session islike a great aunt that we didn't
really think was going tocommunicate that we were at
peace with. And then maybe, aswe're sharing about our session
later, someone else thatactually needed to know that
that person was okay. It doesn'tmean the whole session is going

(48:40):
to be about that person, butthere's usually some sort of
need that's being addressed,even in a low key, behind the
scenes way. So usually theSpirit people that do
communicate, it's about theneed, either the need of my
client, or the need of them,something they need to express.
And again, it really expandsinto this idea of readiness. Are

(49:03):
you ready for the communication?
Is this something you'reavailable and ready to hear
about? Are they ready? Is it, isit time for them? Is the divine
timing of it? All you know,right? Is the purpose there? Is
the need there, right? Not justa random curiosity, not just a
Oh, yeah, I'm not really, Idon't really I don't really feel
like I have any need, but I'mjust kind of curious who's
around. Those aren't going to bethe same as when there's an

(49:25):
actual need, or when the spiritperson is the one kind of
nudging someone in to see amedium. And, you know, sometimes
there can be a client that mightcome in that isn't fully ready,
and so their session might onlygo to a certain point, and
that's the point it can go tobased on the energy of that day,
based on their emotionalavailability, based on what they

(49:47):
can receive, what they're readyto hear about. And that's why
sometimes someone might have onesession and then process for a
long time before they haveanother session, and then in
that next. Discussion, it mightbe totally different and and
they might be ready for morehealing, for more communication.
So it really just depends on theneed of the spirit person, and

(50:09):
the need and readiness, or,like, energetic or emotional
availability of the client. Thatis what I find. Really seems to
make one person communicate andnot another, and the rest is, I
would say the medium, becausesometimes I'm aware of people in
the room, Spirit people who arenot blending with me to

(50:30):
communicate. Sometimes I mighthave worked with several spirit
people, and there's stillsomeone that they were hoping to
hear from that I just hadn'tbeen aware of because I was busy
communicating with these people.
So it doesn't mean that they'renot there, even if the medium is
not aware of them, but there isa possibility that the medium
could just not be aware of someof the people who are there in

(50:51):
the in the room. From the spiritside, this last and final
question as we're wrapping upthis episode is, Can spirit
people tell us the day that wewill die or warn us about when
our time is coming near? Okay?
The quick answer is no. Ibelieve that no one will ever

(51:11):
tell you the timing of yourpassing. It's a huge red flag if
someone is giving those types ofdetails. And to be quite honest,
often, if a medium has someunderstanding of those details,
they they won't give them,because it's just not our role.
But spirit people generally willnot tell you when you're going
to pass away. I don't believethat they have a huge advanced

(51:34):
warning. I think they mightknow. You know, I think we've
all had people, or had friendsthat had people that we knew
that they were unwell, thattheir time was nearing, that
they didn't have long. Perhapsdoctors even said, Well, it
could be any time within thisnext couple weeks. So at that
point, I think the spirit personmight have more of an idea of of

(51:58):
of when ish, but I think onlyour Divine Creator knows the
exact moment that we will beborn and the exact moment that
we will go back. I don't I don'tbelieve our spirit people,
persons over there areomniscient, like all knowing. I
don't believe that they have allknowledge of of all future

(52:18):
potentials of everything thatcould ever possibly happen, and
I don't believe that they giveus the day and time of our
passing. Also it can alter freewill. So there is a lot of
rules. Is not the right word,but there are some limitations
around this idea of free will,meaning we are required to have

(52:40):
free will choices here, and ifthey are coming in, even if they
did know, for example, and aretelling us, oh, you're gonna
pass away on such and such adate in 2077
let's just say you might changeyour free will. You might make
different choices. You mightaddress things in a timing

(53:02):
that's not in alignment with thethings you truly need to unfold
and express because of aprediction like that, messages
are really focused on healing.
Communications are focused onlove, not fear and not fear
based things like this. So I amvery wary, and I would suggest
you to be very aware of anyonewho is telling you that they can
tell you the exact date that youwill pass away, or the exact

(53:25):
timing in which someone elsewill pass away. I would just be
very wary of information likethat. I don't know that anything
is impossible, so I won't, Iwon't take it that far, but I've
never had it happen, and none ofthe mediums that I know are
giving exact passing dates andtimes to people, and I just
don't believe that that's partof the need that the spirit

(53:47):
world is communicating thatfeels more like a human desire,
right? Meaning that might besomething we want to know, but
is that something that our soulneeds to know, or that our soul
needs us to know? I don't thinkso. And the other piece of it
is, I think our soul does know,meaning, I feel like,

(54:07):
particularly for like, we weretalking about people who are
already in their final stages,their final days, and, you know,
it's becoming obvious,medically, that they don't have
a lot of time, I think theirsoul does know where that exit
point will be. Maybe souls onthe other side are aware of it,
but I don't think they'resharing that type of
information. I just don't thinkthat's an important part of our

(54:30):
journey. I really feel likethey're more encouraging us to
live right, to live the liveswe're intended to live, to share
our emotions, to step out of ourcomfort zone, to be vulnerable,
to engage in those hardconversations and love people
even when it's challenging, andnot give up. So from my

(54:52):
perspective, I really feel likethe majority of the
communications even when reallychallenging. Challenging things
are touched on, even when theyshare about hard regrets, hard
passing, challenging emotions,challenging personalities.
Actually, I'm going to do awhole separate episode about our
personalities when we're on theother side, so just get a little

(55:15):
a little teaser. Get excitedabout that. But I really feel
like they are there more toencourage us, and that's even
though reading sometimes areaddressing difficult things, the
undercurrent and the intentionand the result is really support
and love and kindness andhealing amongst other things. So

(55:37):
hopefully you have enjoyed thisask a medium anything episode.
If you have questions thatweren't addressed in this
episode five of our Ask a mediumseries, check out those other
four episodes in the spiritspeakeasy podcast lineup or
submit your questions. So if youdon't see it in this episode and

(55:58):
it wasn't in any of the otherfour episodes, submit your
question to me. You can eithersubmit it to admin at joyful
medium.com or joy at joyfulmedium.com and we will see it
either way. And I'm alwayscompiling this list. Oftentimes
there are several questions thatare quite similar or that are
essentially asking the samething, so I will mush them all

(56:19):
down into one question. Soplease don't be afraid to ask
anything related to the spiritworld or loved ones who've
crossed over or grieving ormediumship or anything of the
sort. Because I think this issuch a fun place for us to get
to dive into these things andexplore these things, and to ask
the questions that sometimes wekind of hold within our heart

(56:41):
and really wonder about that wemight, you know, kind of stew
on, like wondering where theyare, what they're doing, or, you
know, why someone might comethrough or might not come
through. So hopefully, this islike, lifted your emotional load
a little bit and lightened yourheart, and if your heart wasn't
happy to begin with, hopefullyit's just reminded you how

(57:03):
present your own loved ones are,how present your spirit people
are. And I always say this, butyou have access to your own
loved ones. They spend time withyou. If you come for a reading
with me or another medium, justknow that your loved ones come
with you. If we don't have somespecial backstage access to
them, you have access to themjust as much as we do. It's just

(57:26):
the communication is in adifferent way from a medium
versus the spending time withthem on our own. But you have
full access to them. They spendtime with you. They know where
you are, even if you've beenmoved. They attend significant
events, and the truth is, theyattend even unsignificant
events, like just a weekendbarbecue. So just know that your

(57:46):
loved ones are with you. Theyare growing and having
experiences. On the other side,they can communicate really
profound things through readingsand even through just spending
time with you or sitting withyou. So hopefully, this has kind
of expanded your mind about thespirit world, moved your

(58:08):
curiosity. Maybe you're eventhinking about your own loved
ones and what jobs they mighthave on the other side, you can
send the thought to them fromyour heart and just see what
volleys back, see what pops intoyour mind as what types of jobs
they might be doing on the otherside, if that's something you've
been curious about, thanks forbeing here with me today. As
always. I appreciate you somuch, and I hope you know that

(58:30):
I'm thinking of you and I createthese episodes with you in mind.
So if there's something elseyou're wanting to hear about,
please don't be afraid to let meknow. I hope you're enjoying
your summer. If you're listeningto this at the time it is
released, please know I amsending you big hugs, wishing
you lots of love. Bye for now,from inside spirit speakeasy,
you.

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