February 17, 2025 • 51 mins
Ever wonder what REALLY happens when we cross over? What does the spirit world wish we knew while we’re still here? In this revealing episode of Spirit Speakeasy, I share profound insights from my experiences connecting with the other side—messages that have brought comfort, clarity, and even surprising revelations.
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✔️ The MOST important message spirit wants us to know about living life
✔️ The WRONG question you might be asking right now
✔️ What spirit people say about the exact moment of passing
✔️ Why your love, prayers, and thoughts still reach those who have crossed over
✔️ The truth about the life review—it’s not what you think!
✔️ How our departed loved ones continue to guide and communicate with us
✔️ Practical advice from the spirit world to enrich your life today
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Hey, beautiful souls, welcomeback, or welcome in for another
episode of spirit speakeasy. AsI'm recording this, it is a
chilly, gray, rainy day here inSan Diego, and I've really been
thinking about this topic forquite a while. I know that we've
talked about mediumshipreadings. And we do the ask a
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medium anything episodes, and ifyou've experienced a reading
yourself, you know more aboutit. But this topic is a little
bit different. In today'sepisode. I really want to share
with you some things that I havelearned from my connection with
the spirit world, from Spiritpeople themselves and from
mediumship, I just want toreveal some truths to you about
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the afterlife and some advicethat spirit people have for us
that's been really meaningfuland profound in my life over
these years. And you know, insome ways, the side of
mediumship that maybe we don'ttalk about as much, because, of
course, people want to hear fromtheir own loved ones, and those
messages and guidance. Andpeople love to hear about
mediumship in general, but wedon't always talk about some of
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the additional lessons orunderstandings or revelations
that mediums can have eitherthrough our work with individual
spirit people, through our worksitting with our guides,
whatever it might be. So that'swhat we're going to talk about
today. Some of these sections, Iguess, have titles, and some of
them don't, but I hope that youwill really find this inspiring
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informational. I hope thatyou'll take some of the advice
on board for yourself and maybelearn a little bit more about
what our spirit people on theother side want to say to some
of the most commonly askedquestions, the first topic that
I want to address is thisquestion that we so often
struggle with as humans, thisidea of, is this right for me,
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like, is this the right job? AmI on the right path? Am I making
the right choice? Am I inalignment with what I'm supposed
to do? Is this the right thingfor me, is this my true purpose?
What's my true purpose? All ofthose questions encapsulated As
humans, we can get so caught upin this idea of, is this the
right choice, choice A or B, andthe truth is following the true
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calling of our soul in any givenmoment is a long term project.
It's not just down to one choicewe make or one path that we take
versus don't. There is value incontinuing to explore this
question, of course, as we growand change over the years, but
not in a fear based orattempting to avoid all
discomfort intention. And theanswer you're looking for is
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just not so black and white.
It's not so all or nothing, andreally a lot of the time, we are
trying to avoid any discomfortthat we can kind of pre mitigate
by saying, like, well, is thismy true soul path, for example?
But again, it's just not thatsimple. If something is for you,
it will continue to call to you.
You know, even if it's over yourentire life, if it's over years,
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if life takes you, for example,in a different direction for a
little while, that call might bekind of far in the background,
riding in the back seat rightfor a while, but it'll always
rise up in you again. It'llalways cycle back around to
speak to you again, or to inviteyou again. If something's meant
for you, it will continue tobeckon you, nudge you, tickle
you in your curiosity, right? Solet me be clear, there are
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definitely things that we canengage in that are not healthy
or not ideal for us, but we dohave the ability to use our
struggles to help us get clearon what we want, what we need,
or even who we are. So evendifficult scenarios,
experiences, difficult thingsthat come up in our lives can
work towards our highest andgreatest good. And we talk about
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this for one more second, andthat actually brings me right to
my next topic that I want totalk about. So when you're
thinking about or wrestlingabout this idea of, Am I on the
right path, or is this right forme, it's really more about those
small, intentional choices thatwe're making for ourselves day
to day. It's not about what theworld thinks we should do. It's
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about that inner nudge, thatcuriosity. And the other thing I
just want you to consider thatthe spirit world highlights to
me all the time is sometimes ourjob in the world, and
particularly in Westerncountries, I noticed this is not
the same in every every culture.
For example, we tend to be sowork focused, and people feel
like, oh, I want to be working.
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You know, my primary job as thepurpose of my soul. Some people,
that's just not the way itworks. Some people, their job is
just the job that they do, thatthey're good at, but their
soul's purpose or theirspiritual pursuit is in a
different area of their life. Itmight be a hobby. It might be,
you know, something they do gainincome from, but it might be
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just something on the side, orsomething that they do in a less
primary way. So don't think thatjust because you have. Job?
Yeah, there's, there's lots ofways we can bring our, you know,
woo side, or our spiritual side,into any job, I believe. But
just suppose you have a job aslike an accountant, and you're
really wanting to to read cardsand work with spirit, for
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example, those two things aren'tmutually exclusive. You can have
your day job and still do thisother, this other thing that
feels so delicious and expansiveto you, and who knows where that
path will lead, but it doesn'tmean you have to quit your day
job. So just wanted to addthat on to my notes here. Okay,
so Lego is saying, of course,there's things that like are
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just we know are not good forus, but when we are pursuing a
path that's not healthy for us,maybe we're, you know, engaging
in unhealthy behavior. Let'sjust say it doesn't mean that we
can't make a different choice.
We can't get clear get healthyfor ourselves, and we do as
humans. One of the specialqualities about us is that we
have this ability to kind ofovercome adversity and to use
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our struggles to help us notonly get clear on what we want,
but sometimes even move in atotally different direction. So
even difficult things that weexperience, that we might feel
like are off our path, or wemight feel like, why the heck is
this happening to me? I'm tryingto do this other thing right.
All of those things can be usedto the benefit of our soul, to
our growth, to our expansion,and for positive and greatest
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good as an end result. And thisleads me right into what I want
to say next. Another questionthat is so common that people
ask of their loved ones on theother side that the loved ones
do address, is this idea of,does everything happen for a
reason? Our human nature is towant to make sense of everything
in anything, and particularlythe very worst things that
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happen in our lives. I mean,most of the time, it's the worst
things that we're trying to makesense of, not the best things.
We're not trying to say, Whatdid I do? Right, that I suddenly
won this $50 lottery. We're notreally scrutinizing the good
things, right, the littlebonuses that come our way, but
the things that we might judgeas bad, the hard things, the
difficult times. Does everythinghappen for a reason? And over
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and over again, the spirit worldhas helped me understand
everything does not happen for areason. It's really again, our
human nature that wants to makesense of tragedy. But the truth
is this world is chaotic, andsome things just happen. Yes,
there's divine order in a lot ofthings, but then there's also
this chaotic world that we'rethrown into with other people's
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Free Will choices. And sometimesthose free will choices are
unhealthy, and we can just kindof get caught in just really
unfortunate timing, for example,or caught in someone else's bad
choices. It doesn't mean thatfor a reason that is happening
to us, like as a punishment, or,as you know, some karmic thing
on our soul. It's it's reallynot like that. Most of the time
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when tragedy happens, it isbecause this is a chaotic world,
and while there might be somelike, quote, unquote,
contributing factors, some ofthe time, that help us
understand some aspects of whythis might have happened, or how
the soul has grown from it. Forexample, many times there's no
answer at all that would satisfyour human nagging desire. Of you
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know, but why did this have tohappen? This has been
communicated to me, particularlythrough really challenging
passings. And I'm thinking ofone young person in particular
who passed tragically in avehicular accident. They were
riding a motorcycle, and theother person who was never
brought to justice. There's somesignificant evidence that
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perhaps that person was underthe influence of a substance.
And my client, who was theperson on the motorcycle, he
actually was explaining to me,because his family was in such
pain over his unexpectedpassing, he wanted them to know,
in this reading, that, you know,he hadn't made any mistakes in
driving, that he was a very gooddriver, that he was being very
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safe, and all of those thingswere true about him, as everyone
had known, and they really justwanted to know, but what's the
reason for this happening tohim? Why did this have to happen
to him? And there truly is noanswer that's going to satisfy
that. So some of the things theydo often bring around this is
this idea that life isincredibly fragile. It's why we
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have this idea of like every dayis a gift. Every day that we're
here is a blessing. Make themost of it that those types of
which often sound cliche now,but they're really not, life is
incredibly fragile, sometimesjust the Wrong place, wrong
time. Type of accident can takesomeone where, in another
instance it might not takesomeone else. Doesn't mean that
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there is some cosmic reason forit, and please don't think of it
as punishment. They've told meover and over again, that's just
not the way it works. That's tooblack and white, and there's
just so much more going on atall times. Yes, we can use
tragedy to become stronger forit, make it purposeful. Our in
our lives and in the world. Butit doesn't mean we're going to
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always be able to boil it downto a reason why someone becomes
unwell, why someone crossesover, why one life is
experienced in one way andsomeone else has a more
challenging appearing life. Theyjust continue to tell me over
and over and over, doesn't worklike that. It's you're
oversimplifying it. Everythingdoesn't happen for a reason.
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It's a nice greeting cardsentiment, but some things in
this world are chaotic and justhappen. What's important to know
is that they're okay on theother side, even if their
passing was tragic, even if itmakes no sense, even if it
cannot be explained, seems likeunsolved, quote unquote, seems
unfair or seems even too soon,defies all logical explanation.
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Just know that they are stillokay on the other side, that
they have processed theirpassing and understand, I won't
even say they understand the whyof why it happened, but they
understand the details aroundit, and their soul is not harmed
even by the most challenging ofpassings. But they do invite us
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to soften that question a littlebit, or try to release looking
so hard for such a pinpointedanswer, and that it's okay to
accept that this world ischaotic, life is fragile, and
while we can use terrible thingsto grow us, to strengthen us, to
sometimes inspire us in a wholenew direction, is that the
reason that this terrible, forexample, loss of a child happens
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so someone can go on and write abook and be successful. Of
course not. That's ridiculous.
Sometimes things just happen. SoI know I'm really hammering on
this one, but I just really wantyou to know it's not like
everything happens for a reason,and you need to be really pining
and painfully seeking what thatreason is in your own life or
for your own person. They reallyencourage us to not lean so hard
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on that question and lean moreinto the presence of them, the
understanding that they arestill with us, just in a
different way, because peoplecan just really miss a lot of
life, searching for these reallytough answers that just we're
probably never going tocompletely understand while
we're on this side. Anyway, thenext thing I want to talk about
is this idea of free will. Theymeaning the guides, spirit
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world, Spirit people, they cannudge us, they can put things
across our path, but we stillhave this free will choice to
accept or ignore things,oftentimes. And this shows up in
different readings in differentways, based on what my client in
the session has been thinkingabout and what their spirit
person, or people on the otherside want to address. For
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example, sometimes I will have aclient that is has the thought
or the sentiment they don'tnormally tell me I really don't
like my clients to tell meanything at all. I just like to
work and see, see what comes up,and their their loved ones. I'm
thinking of one recent person,and their loved one was saying,
you know, my person here needsto know that they have their own
free will. I'm not gonna justact as, you know, an in between
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for everything, and bring themfriends and bring them a job and
bring them a partner and bringthem happiness. They have to put
their free will effort intothis, right? So just know that,
yes, our spirit guides careabout us. They're there to
support us. They're there toencourage us, to nudge us to
sometimes place opportunitiesacross our path, but they're not
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going to take control of you,usurp your free will and make
you go to a meeting that you'renot going to go to. You know
what I mean? Who knows whatcould come of that meeting?
Maybe your love of your life isworking at that restaurant, for
example, or also having ameeting at that restaurant, we
don't know. So they can kind ofline things up or orchestrate
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things in that way, but theycan't take control of your free
will and make you do somethingthat you don't want to do. Now,
there are very rare instances.
I'm sure we've heard of lots ofstories about, you know, I'm
thinking of one in particularthat was a story of a car
accident, and this person feltthe presence of their dad and
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then saw an angel, and kind ofwoke up on the side of the road,
outside of the car, and theydidn't even know how they got
out of the car. So there arethese miraculous stories of
someone being saved from tragedyor swept out from a bad
situation, but by and large, wehave free will. It's one of the
special blessings, double edgedsword, blessings, of coming into
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incarnation as a physical humanbeing. We have to make choices.
We get to choose, you know,what's behind door number one,
or what's behind door numbertwo, for example. And these
choices unfold the path ahead ofus, right? And again, like we
were talking about in that firstpart of the first part of the
topic, when we're talking aboutbeing on our truest path, right?
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It's the choices day to day, theunfolding, the Free Will
opportunities go to that talkthat you heard about that's
talking about spiritual things,or decide to, you know, take a
nap instead. There are little.
Opportunitiesplaced across our path so much
more than we realize. So when,if you've ever had the thought,
I don't want to say when,because I know this is not true
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for everybody, but if you'veever had the thought, I'm
thinking of someone else, aclient that I love dearly, who
is constantly wanting her lovedones to put her next partner
across her path and saying likeyou guys, bring me someone.
Bring me someone. Where is myperson? Where is my person? But
then doesn't want to engage inlike dating activities, doesn't
want to be social, doesn't putthemselves out there. So over
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and over, the Spirit people andthe guides are reminding me,
reminding us that we are freewill participants in all of the
choices that we make, even whenit feels like we don't have a
choice in a situation, we dohave some micro choices. We can
choose how we think about it. Wecan choose how much we think
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about it. We can choose thereare micro choices in there, even
for things that seem outside ofour free will. But loved ones
are not going to come over thetop of your free will and force
you together with a person,because that's what they want.
It's just not how it works. Sostop, stop asking them to know
you can ask. I mean, we can askfor anything we want, but just
know that if you're asking forsomething, if you're making a
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request, you then would be bestadvised to pay attention for the
signs, the nudges the it remindsme of that old story about the
the person drowning in the waterwho is a person of faith, and
the boat comes by and says, Oh,let us, let us rescue you. Get
in the boat. And they say, oh,no, God's gonna save me. And
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then, you know, the next diverscome in and they say, we're here
to save you, you know, let's geton this raft and we're gonna
save you. And then go, oh no,God's gonna save me. And then
the helicopter comes in, andsame thing, come on, get up in
this ladder. We're gonna saveyou. Oh, God's gonna save me.
And then when the person gets toheaven, they said, Why didn't
you save me? And and God, ortheir loved ones, or whatever
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you believe, says, you know, wesent you the boat, we sent you
the raft, and we sent you thehelicopter, and what did you
want? Like, what did you thinkwe were going to do to save you?
So my guidance, I guess, here,is just be available for those
little nudges, thosesynchronicities, when you've
been thinking about something orwondering in your mind, or
thinking, Oh, I'm so curiousabout my own spirituality or my
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own gifts. And then you comeacross a seminar with someone
that you like their book, forexample, and you think like, oh,
but that's not for me. Why? Whynot for you, right? So following
those signs and synchronicitiesand little nudges, even if
you've just been thinking aboutsomething and then you're at a
coffee shop, and the personahead of you in line, you hear
them having a conversation aboutthat thing. Maybe there's no
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opportunity being offered inthat moment, but it's letting
you know, okay, spirit's hearingthis too. My loved ones are
hearing this true too. Guidesare hearing this too.
Cooperative components arecoming my way. This is in the
energy around me. This really isgoing out in my thoughts, in my
intentions, in my actions. Sojust be aware that your our free
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will is multi layered, and itmany more comes in many more
ways than we often think. Iguess is how I want to say it.
Okay, the next thing that is oneof my favorite things that they
share with me. It's soincredibly beautiful. Let me
paint a little bit of a picturefor you. This just happened
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recently, and again, everysession is different. So this
doesn't necessarily come acrossin every session, because often
the information is based on theneed of my client's soul, or the
need of My Spirit client's soul,and what needs to be
communicated. But I'm thinkingof someone recently who their
dad was passing away. He hadbeen in hospice, and they were
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all trying to get there. Hiscondition kind of accelerated at
the end, and there wasn't verymuch time. And he also wasn't
the most open to things of asensitive nature, right? He was
very masculine presenting. Hewas kind of that old fashioned
guy's guy. Didn't really like totalk about emotions. Loved his
family and let them know that.
You know, he was a wonderful dadand grandpa and and person in
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the family, so very beloved, butwouldn't be the first one
talking about like angels or anyof that stuff as as a as a
person. So when he wascommunicating from the other
side, he helped me understandthat his family, who I was
working with, just all had thismishmash of different feelings
about his final moments. Therewas five or six of them in the
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group I was working with. Onedidn't get to make it there. One
was out of the country. One hadbeen there the whole time and
had just like gone home for ashower. The other two were there
on the phone and trying to helpeveryone else get there. And he
wanted them to know that eventhough he wasn't conscious,
because one of them that hadbeen there made it back, just
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kind of like at the last moment,or one of their adult kids made
it back at the last moment, andhe was no longer conscious, but
he was in the process oftransitioning, and it was so
beautiful because the way hecommunicated it. And this is
just one example. Of many wherethis happens. He said, You know,
my my great granddaughter, gotthere just in the final moments,
and I felt her energy come intothe room like this beautiful,
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fresh breeze that she is in allof our lives. She's a she was a
miracle baby, and we all reallylove her. And the family
validated that, yeah, there werecomplications in getting this
young lady here, but she made itin the nick of time. And he just
said, even though he wasn'tconscious, his soul recognized
her energy in the room. His soulfelt the loved ones around him
and was receiving all of thatlove, all of those sometimes
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words out loud that they werespeaking to him, sometimes just
emotions that they were kind ofsharing from their heart or just
feeling in those moments. And healso was aware of those people
that were trying to get to himfrom the other places, and said,
Oh yeah, I was feeling theirlove. I was feeling their
thoughts. I received all oftheir kind words and all of the
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love they wanted to come in andgive me. I even received all of
the prayers of my wife's churchmembers because she had been
asking them secretly and quietlyto pray for me, because she knew
I wouldn't like everyone toknow, you know, my business. So
she did this kind of quietly,and she was so astounded that he
received all of those prayers.
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And we don't often talk aboutit, all of that as energy. But
it really is, and they've shownme over and over and over again,
that they receive it as energy.
They receive it as love, andtheir souls receiving it in that
moment, and then when they crossover, I believe they actually
get to feel and see andexperience all of that love,
almost like if you were toreceive, this is oversimplifying
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it, for sure. But if you were toreceive like the most beautiful,
heartfelt love and kindnessletter in the mail, for example,
where just you received all oftheir sentiment, all of their
emotion, all of the wonderfulthings that they were trying to
share, it's almost like that,where as they transition, they
just receive this almost likechorus of energetic love and
support and compassion andprayer, and those ascend
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healing, whatever version of itis, they receive it all as this
wonderfully uplifting, positivelove for them. And it doesn't
matter. As it turns out, overthe years, they've shown me, it
doesn't matter if you said itout loud or if you just thought
it, it doesn't matter. Not thatit doesn't matter, because it
matters, but it makes nodifference. I should say, if you
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were physically in the room,praying, offering healing,
saying kind words, or if youwere 1000 miles away and
couldn't get there and werethinking it or sending it by
phone, or just, you know,holding onto it in your heart
and and wishing them well, andthey explain that they receive
it still that way, on the otherside. So once they cross over,
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and they're over there, whetherit's for a day or 100 years,
anytime we're thinking aboutthem, telling stories about
them, talking about them, youknow you ever have like someone
you love on the other side, andyou just keep a little picture,
and every time you see thatpicture, you're like, love ya,
thinking of you. Love you,whatever it is, I know some
people keep voicemails in theirphone, so anytime you're
thinking of them, even if it's abrief moment, they receive all
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of that as as positive love andenergy and just wonderful
deliciousness for them. So evenwhen you're you know, sending
thoughts and prayers, whetherthe person's on this side or the
other side, their soul stillreceives all of that, and
they're always excited to sharethat really. It really means so
much. And I think often we're soconfused about that separation,
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right, that illusion ofseparation that we're always
talking about. We're soprogrammed to think there is
separation between us and thespirit world when there's really
not it's an unseen world withinour world. But we don't know.
Like are they? Do they know Isay prayers for them every day?
Do they know that I look attheir picture? Do they know that
I say I love you and good nightevery single night? They
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definitely know, and theyreceive all of it. So if it
feels good to you, keep doingit. You don't have to do it out
loud. You don't have to do itpublicly. You can, but you can
also just do it privately. Theysometimes even will. There was
one recently, and this personoften drove by a military
cemetery, and they had a personwho was a military member that
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had passed away, that was in atotally different cemetery in a
different part of the country.
And every time they passed thisnearby military cemetery, they
would think of that person, andthey would just kind of, not
even necessarily in a formulatedthought or words, but just think
of that person and kind of lovethem, or let the feeling of love
rise up in them. And that personin that session even articulated
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that, oh yeah, they drive bythis military cemetery all the
time, and they always think ofMe, and they always send me
love, and I receive that love,and I accept that love, and we
still love each other very much.
So don't think that thatsentiment, that energy, that
love, that healing, that prayer,is wasted. It's not they receive
all of it, and it's one of thethings I wish that I could show
you guys differently, is the wayI perceive it in my mind's eye
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and the way I feel it in theenergy it. It's just like the
most beautiful, warm,comforting, energetic hug, even
if it's from someone that youhad misunderstandings with when
they were here. Because, oh,that's actually my next point is
the life review, because theyhave this life review that
really does help them understandthings differently. So
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to wrap up that last point, keepsending love to their photo.
Keep sending love to the thoughtof them, to them however they
pop into your mind. Send themlove. Send them prayers. They
are okay, they are still withyou, and they do receive all of
that, even if you don't like theword love on there. Maybe it's
good thoughts, maybe it'scelebration, whatever it is,
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maybe it's just hey, you meansomething to me, but just keep
doing it. If it feels good toyou, they receive all of it, and
they often express how much theylike it. So I want to talk also
about how the life review works.
I might have talked about thisbefore, just because I think
it's so important and it was soprofound to me in my own
learning, very early on in thiswork, I was taught by the other
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side a different idea about whatthe life review means and how it
shows up for them. I've hearddifferent versions through
different mentors over theyears, and it's been fascinating
to me how it aligns with the wayI received the understanding of
it just as a little extravalidation for me in my work,
many of us in our youth aretaught that there's a heaven,
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and there's a man at thesegates, the pearly gates, and he
has a book. It might sometimeshe's called Saint Peter,
sometimes he's called otherthings, but there's a book about
all the terrible and maybe notterrible, things you've ever
done in your life. And you willbe judged, and you will be it's
like this heavenly bouncer whoknows Santa, who knows if you've
been naughty or nice, and isgoing to decide if you're in the
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club or out of the club? They'veshown me over and over again.
This is not how it works, not atall. Not even close that. It's,
it's we're not met withjudgment, we're met with love,
we're met with kindness. We'remet with understanding, with
compassion, and we're assistedin our transition by our loved
ones, by angels, by guides, bythat loving source energy, by
whatever name you like to callit. So it's it's not a scary
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journey to go there, and it'spretty instantaneous. We're
either in the body or out of thebody. We're either physical or
non physical, and there's not inbetween, but the life review
itself. Instead of being, youknow, the man at the gate who's
going to tell you all the thingsyou ever did, instead, it's more
experiential. Is the way thatthey've shown it to me, where
they essentially, again, I'mgoing to complain about the
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words, because the words are notquite right, but they almost go
back through their life, kind oflike a review, which is why,
probably why they're using thatword. But they go back through
and almost stand in the place ofanyone that they ever created an
emotion and positive ornegative. So just imagine going
back, you know, from the fromthe time you're coming into this
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world, through every encounter,every emotion that you ever
created in any other humanbeing, and getting to feel it
firsthand, getting to understandhow they felt both positive and
challenging. So if you've been aMother Teresa, of all of us,
then probably your life reviewis wonderful and fantastic, and
you get to feel how much loveand compassion and safety you
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imparted on other people. If youhave been a terrible person, you
got to feel all that too. So itis why the Do Unto Others rule
is still the golden rule. Theystill encourage us to live our
lives in a way of integrity anddo no harm and don't
intentionally hurt others,because we're going to have to
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feel that ourselves. And it isso profound to me, and really
helped me understand this ideaabout, if we've had a challenge
with someone that's on the otherside, right, it's not that
they're going to get punished inthe human way that we think
about it on this side, but theywill be accountable in that they
will have to feel every emotion,every sentiment, everything that
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they created, that They causedin
US or in someone, so they're notoff the hook in that way. It's
just different. And so manytimes I've asked, I've even sat
in group meditation with groupsof mediums and asked some of
these questions, and a lot oftimes the answer that comes back
is kind of but it's different.
So I think our humanunderstanding of these things is
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just so limited. But whensomeone has that version of a
life review, then they truly dounderstand, for example, how
they could have been differentas a parent, how what they said
or did or didn't do deeplyaffected their kiddo, for
example, for the rest of theirlife, or in this one area of
their life in particular. Youknow, maybe I keep it's so hard
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because I keep thinking ofspecific readings, and I try to
be, I try to be really privatewith my sessions, unless
someone's given me permission totell their story, and in other
cases, I do try to change someof the details so no one's
identifiable in the story, and Istick really true to that. So if
a story I tell resonates withyou, please just know that it's.
Because we have these resonantemotions with one another or
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similar situations sometimesthat arise in our lives. But I'm
thinking of this one. It wasagain a group. It was the mom
that was on the other side, andshe was a teacher in this world
and a wonderful, celebrated,amazing school teacher. She did
like, I think she did like thedrama program at the school too,
and kids loved her. She was,like, the favorite teacher of
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the whole town for, like, yearsand years and years, kind of a
small town, and she wascommunicating from the other
side, and she said, Yeah, but Ididn't realize all these other
children and students got thisversion of me and my kids at
home got a disengaged, tired,you know, lower bandwidth,
version of me, and didn't getthe praise, and didn't get the
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compliments. Instead, I wascritiquing the things they wrote
and trying to make them bettershort story writers, instead of
acknowledging them and reallyseeing them. And I now
understand so deeply, and therewere several of this woman's
children. She had some biologicand had adopted some, and she
she was coming through andspeaking to them individually,
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and saying, you know, to the oneon my left, I know you really
needed more time and attentionfrom me and more praise. The
next one, I know you reallyneeded me to show up and listen
to you and not always try to fixyour problems the next one, I
know you needed me to not alwaystell you what to do. I know you
experienced me as very bossy anddemanding and and I'm so sorry.
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So it's really beautiful to seehow it applies this idea of the
life review and theunderstanding there's no perfect
people. So all of us are gonna,you know, we've all, I'm sure,
hurt someone's feelings at somepoint, or did something not so
nice at some point. But howbeautiful is it that we can, you
know, whether it's in a readingor in a dream or however, we can
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take responsibility for some ofthat, and we can know that if
there is someone on the otherside that we've had a challenge
with or maybe we didn't get toknow them, and we feel like we
should have gotten to know them.
For example, they do really knowhow they made us feel back then,
how it affected us through ourlives, what we needed or didn't
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need from them, and what theycan do now, which is usually,
usually an apology or just anacknowledgement of the
understanding of it. So that ishow they've explained to me that
the life review actually works.
It's more of an experience thantalking to for example, it's
it's not just not in the waythat we understand it. And
again, it goes back to thisprogramming that we have, these
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things that we're taught andtold through culture and usually
in some effort to control us orour behavior or our thoughts or
ideas, right? So they often comewith details about the life
review or about what theyunderstand now as a result of
that life review, but it doesn'tinvolve punishment in the way
that we think about it here. Sohopefully that helps open your
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mind even just one inch widerabout your own loved ones. The
other thing I want to reallyhighlight that they often share
in different ways, but usuallywith evidential details, with
like specific details about howthey're doing this. They do
truly know what is going on withus in our lives. They do spend
time with us. Many of our lovedones on the other side, put
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little hellos across our path.
Not necessarily all of them do,but many of them are putting
little hellos, putting littlewinks from them, acknowledging
you, or even just spending timesupporting you, even if you're
not aware of it, but they doreally know what's going on. So
if you've ever kind of felt likeagain, I'm thinking of an
example of this, this reallyloving dad who was on the other
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side, and he had been a dad andhe had been a grandpa, and right
not long after his passing, oneof his grandkids that he was
very close to got married, andthen shortly after that, they
had a baby, and the familyreally, he really just loved
babies. He was that kind of agrandpa who wanted to hold the
babies and was at the hospitalfor every single new baby. And I
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think the grandma even, like,made a special thing for every
baby. So they were, like, thatset of grandparents who really
loved any little life cominginto the family. And they were
just so sad and wondering, like,does he know? And and he did. He
was the one that told me theyhad a baby, not them. So he was
saying, you know, he was at thewedding. He gave some details
about the wedding and what itwas like, and something they did
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as a special, unique nod torespect him. And then he talked
about the baby, and actually shewas a little girl, but now they
had also a little boy. And thelittle girl, they did something
with a family name as part ofher name, if I'm remembering
correctly. So he broughtspecific information to
validate, yeah, I know, yeah. Iknow about her. Yeah. I spend
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time with her and the new littleone, and yeah, this is how I
play with them. And this is the,this is the book that they like
to read. And they always readthis book. It was like a book
about an apple or something.
Because I was like, does shetell a story about an apple all
the time? Or there's a book shewants to. Read about an apple.
And they were like, Oh my gosh,yes, that was her favorite book
for like, two years and and Iwas like, well, Grandpa is
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saying he really enjoyed readingthat book with her, and would
sit with her when she wasreading it. And it's those
little details that have reallyhelped me learn. Oh, they do
know what's happening. They dospend time with us and around
us. They do often highlightthat. They give us private time.
So it's not like they'recreepers and peepers, right?
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They don't want to be around inthe times you wouldn't want them
around, but they're only ever aheartbeat away. So the moment
you think, Oh, mom, she's rightthere with you, the moment you
think, Becky, they're rightthere with you. So the moment
that you think of them, that yousend love to them, that you they
pop into your mind. They'reright there, right then. So it's
not like a far away place thatthey have to travel from to come
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visit you. They're aroundfrequently, and many of them are
saying hello. So if you'reseeing something in the world,
whether it's a name or a sign orwhatever it is, and you
immediately think of yourperson. It's okay to accept that
that's a hello from them. Andwhen you acknowledge it and say,
I know that's a joke from you,that's such a you thing to do,
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just be aware of it andacknowledge it, and then it will
give them, it's not quitepermission, but then they'll
keep doing it, you'll see moreand
more and more and more and more,the more you agree to it. So the
last thing I want to touch inon, and I think this is maybe
the most important message fromspirit that I continue to
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receive, and this is his idea ofand depending on their
personality, some of them arevery direct with this message.
Others of them are softer andmore suggestive about it. But
essentially it's stop waiting tostart living the life you love.
Stop waiting to, quote, unquote,get there. Most of us, at some
time in our life had have someversion of this, and a lot of us
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have some version of this goingon all the time, right? It's
kind of the idea of like, Oh,when I get that job, when I have
my perfect partner, when I getmarried, then I'll be happy,
then I'll really start living mylife when I have this baby, when
I you know whatever it is foryou, we have to live right where
we are, whatever that means foryou. Make the Most Loving
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choices for you, for yourself,find ways to experience joy, to
soak in all the beauty and awe,to realize the love around you
that's already there. Becauseeven if you're wanting to have a
relationship, right to call in aromantic partner into your life,
you probably have love aroundyou right now, and if you don't,
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that's where to startcultivating friendships,
volunteer relationships. Youknow, there was this project
when I was in school that me andanother class leader created
where we would go and visitfolks that were in a Senior Care
Center, and we just sat withthem and listened to their
stories, and they were soappreciative just to talk.
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That's love. So start noticingand appreciating the love around
you right now. No matter whatelse is going on, I've
experienced this message in somany profound ways from so many
different souls on the otherside, but maybe some of the most
profound are those people thatwhen they were here in a
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physical body, either for themajority of their life, or even
segments of their life, hadextreme illness or challenge or
pain or cognition limitations,and the way that they bring this
message is like, what are youwaiting for? Like, even if
things are looking bleak, find away to laugh, find a moment of
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joy, find a piece of art toappreciate. Look out at the
beautiful sky and just stare atit. And I know maybe this sounds
a little out there, but itreally is this idea of like,
enjoy the connection of therelationships that you do have,
take that art class, go see theocean like whatever it is for
you find ways working withwhatever your circumstances are
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right now, but don't put offliving or enjoying life or
experiencing things or creatingrelationships because you're
waiting for that perfectscenario, that perfect job, that
ideal timing, right is a big onefor a lot of us. Sometimes it's
Oh, when I have enough moneysaved, then I'll finally allow
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myself to, I don't know, buy afancy sweater. And there are, of
course, you know, financiallimitations that are real. But
it doesn't mean we can't findways to be living, loving,
appreciating what we have,soaking it all in, because again
and again and again in thiswork, one of the beautifully
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tough pieces is this continualrealization of how fragile life
really can be, and that time isnot guaranteed to any of us. Of
course, we make plans and wethink towards the future, and
that's wonderful. But time's notguaranteed for any of us, so if
we're waiting for some imaginaryretirement period to enjoy
anything at all, it's not thewisest way is, is what I've come
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to learn from the other side.
It's this encouragement to someof the people that I've met on
the other side that have hadsome of the most simple lives
with the least of means, let'sjust say, have been some of the
most beautiful, expansive,appreciative, incredible souls.
I've gotten to meet people youknow, from all over the world,
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from all different time periodsin our lives, and some people
from even the most traumatic,tragic periods of time in our
world. And even those peoplewill articulate how, you know,
maybe they had one friend duringa war time that they were going
through, or they had one, youknow, little thing that they
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played with, or even if it wassomething they kind of made
themselves so stop waiting tillyou get there to start living
life and loving life, becausethis is our one wild and
amazing, beautiful, messy life.
And if we're waiting until weare I don't know better, bigger,
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smarter, richer, to do the thingwe're waiting in vain, really is
what it is. And kind of, one ofthe ways I say it, I had someone
in my life for a very long timethat just refused to take any
photos, and I was like, This isthe weirdest thing. Like, you're
you're a person. We're peoplelike, we want to remember you in
our lives to get in the damnpicture. And this person just
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was so resistant to photos. Andfor me, sometimes I tell myself,
like, today's the youngestyou're ever going to be again.
So if it's like, oh, I don'twant to look bad in this
picture, for example, like, whythis is the youngest you're ever
going to be, this is, this isthe only time this exact moment
is going to take place. So liveit, right? So I am really
working on this one in my life.
I would love to hear ideas ofhow you're working on even just
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living a little bit more withinyour life. It doesn't mean you
have to make the big, drasticchange, although it could, if
you're, you know, thinking, Oh,I really want to try living in,
I don't know, Canada for a year,or going to visit Alaska or
Australia, whatever it is. Ifyou're thinking about wanting to
do something like certainly doit, but think about all the
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micro ways in life that youcould just be living a little
bit more. Are you taking infresh air? Are you looking at
nature? Are you appreciatingartwork and beauty and
deliciousness in all of itsforms all around us, and
especially those relationshipsand interactions that we have
with other people, I want toexpand that just a little bit,
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not not just souls of people,but like our animals as well,
because animals are often suchimportant intimate friends and
family members in our lives. SoI'm I'm not leaving out the the
animals and the furry friends,but those relationships that we
can have are so profound and sojust expressive of our humanness
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over here. So really, you know,don't wait for that perfect
partner to have a group offriends that you love, that you
can go to the things with,right? I just keep thinking of
this one, two examples. One is awoman who was on the other side.
Her husband had passed manyyears before her, and she was
just a little bit of a scaredperson. She just didn't love
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being away from home for toolong. There was nothing clinical
happening with her. Her mentalhealth was fine. She just was
not the most adventurous person.
But would always talk about howshe really wanted to go on a
road trip. She really wanted tosee a casino. She really wanted,
like, she there was these thingsthat she really wanted to do.
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And from the other side, shehad, you know, her kids, and
then she had grandkids, and sheactually had some lovely
relationships with some of thesegrandkids, and they would offer
to take her, like, hey grand.
Like, let us take you to thecasino. You know what I mean,
and she was so resistant and soscared. And there were a few
times she did some biggeroutings with them and things,
but she was communicating fromthe other side and essentially
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sharing, like, I don't know whyI didn't do all the things. I
don't know why I resisted somuch. I don't know what I was so
scared of. And it was thesentiment of like, I wish I had
just said yes to so much more.
And then I'm thinking of adifferent story, which I think
this family will be okay with mesharing. It's a lovely story
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about this gentleman, his wifepassed before him. It was pretty
shocking, because in thisfamily, he would have been the
the less healthy of these, thesegrandparents, parents and she,
the wife. Passes much youngerand and very unexpectedly, and
he goes on to live another Well,I think it was over 30 years
without her, and when they hadbeen together, she was the one
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who was very adventurous. Shewas the social calendar. She was
the one creating the family gettogethers and planning the
holidays and taking care. Tripswith other, you know, friends of
theirs, little outings andthings. And she really was the
social marriage, and as she was,you know, in the hospital at the
end of her life, she had toldher husband, like, you're gonna
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have to do this on your own,like, I don't want you sitting
home and wasting away. Becausehe kind of would always say,
okay, like, I guess I'll go orcan I just stay home? Or he
could be a little grumpysometimes. And after her
passing,I don't even know how many years
after it was, but he startedtraveling the world. He saw so
many countries, and it was partof what he was sharing with me
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in this reading, you know, withhis grandkiddo in my office, and
was saying what wonderful,special memories those were for
him. He, you know, got to go toEurope with his family. They
lived there together for awhile. He got to see all, most,
all of the countries in Europe.
He got to go to Asia. He got togo to South America, like there
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were all these places that hegot to visit and tour. And he
was showing, you know, thethings that he was interested in
there, but he was articulatingthrough this communication,
through the emotions and throughflashes of pictures, how this
really changed his life, how hehad two paths he could have
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chosen. He could have juststayed home and let the world
pass him by and isolate himself.
But instead, he chose to go outof his comfort zone and to do
all of this wonderful travelwith his family. It's cute
because he told me he neverremarried. He did have lady
friends, is the way he said it,and he apparently was quite a
charming, wonderful gentleman.
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He chose to live this life,whatever he was going to have of
it after his beloved wifecrossed over and made just the
most amazing memories with notonly his own children, but their
children, these groups ofgrandkids that he had, and his
life was so much richer for it.
So I just really love thatstory, because it's just, in
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essence, what's available to allof us at any time we are going
down the path we're on. Butthere's, like Led Zeppelin says,
right, there's there's stilltime to change the road you're
on. So please, from the bottomof my heart, know that I am
offering all of these thingsthat I've learned with love and
with intention to just stir yourthoughts a little bit about how
could you be maybe living alittle fuller in your life? Or
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is there something you wanted totry or do, or taste the weird
food or go to the place you'venot been or see the artist at
the museum? Whatever it is, whatis it that's been on your heart
or stirring within you thatyou've wanted to try, that
you've been putting off, or thatyou've been too scared, or that
you've been saying, Oh, I'll getto that when right? So I hope
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that you have enjoyed learning alittle bit about what I learned
about as part of my work. And ifyou like this, I'm happy to do
other topics like this, becausethere really is so so much that
I learned from the spirit world,just as a medium. Some of it's
about the communication itself,but a lot of it are these
deeper, more profound lessons,for lack of a better word or
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knowings or bits of wisdom thatreally have colored and changed
the way that I live, the choicesI make, the way that I love and
how I choose to be justdifferently intentional and
again, no perfect people. I'm awork in progress too. So if
you're feeling like, Oh man,I've really been making some
excuses in my life, and it'sokay to it's okay to make
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another choice at any time. So Ihope that this has been helpful
to you. Let me know if you arenot already signed up for my
free community healings. I'mstill having one every single
month, and I don't know aboutyou, but I feel like we need
both community and healing now,maybe more than ever. So if you
feel so called, I would love ifyou would join me the links in
the show notes and on all of mybios everywhere. But if you go
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to the events section of mywebsite, joyful medium.com you
will always also see all theupcoming events, including the
free community healings andanything else I've got going on
there. So I hope you will joinme one of the sessions. Big hug.
This is bye for now. Lots oflove from inside spirit
speakeasy. Do.
Hey, beautiful souls, welcomeback, or welcome in for another
episode of spirit speakeasy. AsI'm recording this, it is a
chilly, gray, rainy day here inSan Diego, and I've really been
thinking about this topic forquite a while. I know that we've
talked about mediumshipreadings. And we do the ask a
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medium anything episodes, and ifyou've experienced a reading
yourself, you know more aboutit. But this topic is a little
bit different. In today'sepisode. I really want to share
with you some things that I havelearned from my connection with
the spirit world, from Spiritpeople themselves and from
mediumship, I just want toreveal some truths to you about
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the afterlife and some advicethat spirit people have for us
that's been really meaningfuland profound in my life over
these years. And you know, insome ways, the side of
mediumship that maybe we don'ttalk about as much, because, of
course, people want to hear fromtheir own loved ones, and those
messages and guidance. Andpeople love to hear about
mediumship in general, but wedon't always talk about some of
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the additional lessons orunderstandings or revelations
that mediums can have eitherthrough our work with individual
spirit people, through our worksitting with our guides,
whatever it might be. So that'swhat we're going to talk about
today. Some of these sections, Iguess, have titles, and some of
them don't, but I hope that youwill really find this inspiring
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informational. I hope thatyou'll take some of the advice
on board for yourself and maybelearn a little bit more about
what our spirit people on theother side want to say to some
of the most commonly askedquestions, the first topic that
I want to address is thisquestion that we so often
struggle with as humans, thisidea of, is this right for me,
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like, is this the right job? AmI on the right path? Am I making
the right choice? Am I inalignment with what I'm supposed
to do? Is this the right thingfor me, is this my true purpose?
What's my true purpose? All ofthose questions encapsulated As
humans, we can get so caught upin this idea of, is this the
right choice, choice A or B, andthe truth is following the true
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calling of our soul in any givenmoment is a long term project.
It's not just down to one choicewe make or one path that we take
versus don't. There is value incontinuing to explore this
question, of course, as we growand change over the years, but
not in a fear based orattempting to avoid all
discomfort intention. And theanswer you're looking for is
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just not so black and white.
It's not so all or nothing, andreally a lot of the time, we are
trying to avoid any discomfortthat we can kind of pre mitigate
by saying, like, well, is thismy true soul path, for example?
But again, it's just not thatsimple. If something is for you,
it will continue to call to you.
You know, even if it's over yourentire life, if it's over years,
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if life takes you, for example,in a different direction for a
little while, that call might bekind of far in the background,
riding in the back seat rightfor a while, but it'll always
rise up in you again. It'llalways cycle back around to
speak to you again, or to inviteyou again. If something's meant
for you, it will continue tobeckon you, nudge you, tickle
you in your curiosity, right? Solet me be clear, there are
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definitely things that we canengage in that are not healthy
or not ideal for us, but we dohave the ability to use our
struggles to help us get clearon what we want, what we need,
or even who we are. So evendifficult scenarios,
experiences, difficult thingsthat come up in our lives can
work towards our highest andgreatest good. And we talk about
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this for one more second, andthat actually brings me right to
my next topic that I want totalk about. So when you're
thinking about or wrestlingabout this idea of, Am I on the
right path, or is this right forme, it's really more about those
small, intentional choices thatwe're making for ourselves day
to day. It's not about what theworld thinks we should do. It's
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about that inner nudge, thatcuriosity. And the other thing I
just want you to consider thatthe spirit world highlights to
me all the time is sometimes ourjob in the world, and
particularly in Westerncountries, I noticed this is not
the same in every every culture.
For example, we tend to be sowork focused, and people feel
like, oh, I want to be working.
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You know, my primary job as thepurpose of my soul. Some people,
that's just not the way itworks. Some people, their job is
just the job that they do, thatthey're good at, but their
soul's purpose or theirspiritual pursuit is in a
different area of their life. Itmight be a hobby. It might be,
you know, something they do gainincome from, but it might be
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just something on the side, orsomething that they do in a less
primary way. So don't think thatjust because you have. Job?
Yeah, there's, there's lots ofways we can bring our, you know,
woo side, or our spiritual side,into any job, I believe. But
just suppose you have a job aslike an accountant, and you're
really wanting to to read cardsand work with spirit, for
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example, those two things aren'tmutually exclusive. You can have
your day job and still do thisother, this other thing that
feels so delicious and expansiveto you, and who knows where that
path will lead, but it doesn'tmean you have to quit your day
job. So just wanted to addthat on to my notes here. Okay,
so Lego is saying, of course,there's things that like are
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just we know are not good forus, but when we are pursuing a
path that's not healthy for us,maybe we're, you know, engaging
in unhealthy behavior. Let'sjust say it doesn't mean that we
can't make a different choice.
We can't get clear get healthyfor ourselves, and we do as
humans. One of the specialqualities about us is that we
have this ability to kind ofovercome adversity and to use
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our struggles to help us notonly get clear on what we want,
but sometimes even move in atotally different direction. So
even difficult things that weexperience, that we might feel
like are off our path, or wemight feel like, why the heck is
this happening to me? I'm tryingto do this other thing right.
All of those things can be usedto the benefit of our soul, to
our growth, to our expansion,and for positive and greatest
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good as an end result. And thisleads me right into what I want
to say next. Another questionthat is so common that people
ask of their loved ones on theother side that the loved ones
do address, is this idea of,does everything happen for a
reason? Our human nature is towant to make sense of everything
in anything, and particularlythe very worst things that
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happen in our lives. I mean,most of the time, it's the worst
things that we're trying to makesense of, not the best things.
We're not trying to say, Whatdid I do? Right, that I suddenly
won this $50 lottery. We're notreally scrutinizing the good
things, right, the littlebonuses that come our way, but
the things that we might judgeas bad, the hard things, the
difficult times. Does everythinghappen for a reason? And over
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and over again, the spirit worldhas helped me understand
everything does not happen for areason. It's really again, our
human nature that wants to makesense of tragedy. But the truth
is this world is chaotic, andsome things just happen. Yes,
there's divine order in a lot ofthings, but then there's also
this chaotic world that we'rethrown into with other people's
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Free Will choices. And sometimesthose free will choices are
unhealthy, and we can just kindof get caught in just really
unfortunate timing, for example,or caught in someone else's bad
choices. It doesn't mean thatfor a reason that is happening
to us, like as a punishment, or,as you know, some karmic thing
on our soul. It's it's reallynot like that. Most of the time
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when tragedy happens, it isbecause this is a chaotic world,
and while there might be somelike, quote, unquote,
contributing factors, some ofthe time, that help us
understand some aspects of whythis might have happened, or how
the soul has grown from it. Forexample, many times there's no
answer at all that would satisfyour human nagging desire. Of you
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know, but why did this have tohappen? This has been
communicated to me, particularlythrough really challenging
passings. And I'm thinking ofone young person in particular
who passed tragically in avehicular accident. They were
riding a motorcycle, and theother person who was never
brought to justice. There's somesignificant evidence that
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perhaps that person was underthe influence of a substance.
And my client, who was theperson on the motorcycle, he
actually was explaining to me,because his family was in such
pain over his unexpectedpassing, he wanted them to know,
in this reading, that, you know,he hadn't made any mistakes in
driving, that he was a very gooddriver, that he was being very
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safe, and all of those thingswere true about him, as everyone
had known, and they really justwanted to know, but what's the
reason for this happening tohim? Why did this have to happen
to him? And there truly is noanswer that's going to satisfy
that. So some of the things theydo often bring around this is
this idea that life isincredibly fragile. It's why we
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have this idea of like every dayis a gift. Every day that we're
here is a blessing. Make themost of it that those types of
which often sound cliche now,but they're really not, life is
incredibly fragile, sometimesjust the Wrong place, wrong
time. Type of accident can takesomeone where, in another
instance it might not takesomeone else. Doesn't mean that
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there is some cosmic reason forit, and please don't think of it
as punishment. They've told meover and over again, that's just
not the way it works. That's tooblack and white, and there's
just so much more going on atall times. Yes, we can use
tragedy to become stronger forit, make it purposeful. Our in
our lives and in the world. Butit doesn't mean we're going to
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always be able to boil it downto a reason why someone becomes
unwell, why someone crossesover, why one life is
experienced in one way andsomeone else has a more
challenging appearing life. Theyjust continue to tell me over
and over and over, doesn't worklike that. It's you're
oversimplifying it. Everythingdoesn't happen for a reason.
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It's a nice greeting cardsentiment, but some things in
this world are chaotic and justhappen. What's important to know
is that they're okay on theother side, even if their
passing was tragic, even if itmakes no sense, even if it
cannot be explained, seems likeunsolved, quote unquote, seems
unfair or seems even too soon,defies all logical explanation.
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Just know that they are stillokay on the other side, that
they have processed theirpassing and understand, I won't
even say they understand the whyof why it happened, but they
understand the details aroundit, and their soul is not harmed
even by the most challenging ofpassings. But they do invite us
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to soften that question a littlebit, or try to release looking
so hard for such a pinpointedanswer, and that it's okay to
accept that this world ischaotic, life is fragile, and
while we can use terrible thingsto grow us, to strengthen us, to
sometimes inspire us in a wholenew direction, is that the
reason that this terrible, forexample, loss of a child happens
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so someone can go on and write abook and be successful. Of
course not. That's ridiculous.
Sometimes things just happen. SoI know I'm really hammering on
this one, but I just really wantyou to know it's not like
everything happens for a reason,and you need to be really pining
and painfully seeking what thatreason is in your own life or
for your own person. They reallyencourage us to not lean so hard
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on that question and lean moreinto the presence of them, the
understanding that they arestill with us, just in a
different way, because peoplecan just really miss a lot of
life, searching for these reallytough answers that just we're
probably never going tocompletely understand while
we're on this side. Anyway, thenext thing I want to talk about
is this idea of free will. Theymeaning the guides, spirit
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world, Spirit people, they cannudge us, they can put things
across our path, but we stillhave this free will choice to
accept or ignore things,oftentimes. And this shows up in
different readings in differentways, based on what my client in
the session has been thinkingabout and what their spirit
person, or people on the otherside want to address. For
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example, sometimes I will have aclient that is has the thought
or the sentiment they don'tnormally tell me I really don't
like my clients to tell meanything at all. I just like to
work and see, see what comes up,and their their loved ones. I'm
thinking of one recent person,and their loved one was saying,
you know, my person here needsto know that they have their own
free will. I'm not gonna justact as, you know, an in between
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for everything, and bring themfriends and bring them a job and
bring them a partner and bringthem happiness. They have to put
their free will effort intothis, right? So just know that,
yes, our spirit guides careabout us. They're there to
support us. They're there toencourage us, to nudge us to
sometimes place opportunitiesacross our path, but they're not
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going to take control of you,usurp your free will and make
you go to a meeting that you'renot going to go to. You know
what I mean? Who knows whatcould come of that meeting?
Maybe your love of your life isworking at that restaurant, for
example, or also having ameeting at that restaurant, we
don't know. So they can kind ofline things up or orchestrate
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things in that way, but theycan't take control of your free
will and make you do somethingthat you don't want to do. Now,
there are very rare instances.
I'm sure we've heard of lots ofstories about, you know, I'm
thinking of one in particularthat was a story of a car
accident, and this person feltthe presence of their dad and
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then saw an angel, and kind ofwoke up on the side of the road,
outside of the car, and theydidn't even know how they got
out of the car. So there arethese miraculous stories of
someone being saved from tragedyor swept out from a bad
situation, but by and large, wehave free will. It's one of the
special blessings, double edgedsword, blessings, of coming into
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incarnation as a physical humanbeing. We have to make choices.
We get to choose, you know,what's behind door number one,
or what's behind door numbertwo, for example. And these
choices unfold the path ahead ofus, right? And again, like we
were talking about in that firstpart of the first part of the
topic, when we're talking aboutbeing on our truest path, right?
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It's the choices day to day, theunfolding, the Free Will
opportunities go to that talkthat you heard about that's
talking about spiritual things,or decide to, you know, take a
nap instead. There are little.
Opportunitiesplaced across our path so much
more than we realize. So when,if you've ever had the thought,
I don't want to say when,because I know this is not true
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for everybody, but if you'veever had the thought, I'm
thinking of someone else, aclient that I love dearly, who
is constantly wanting her lovedones to put her next partner
across her path and saying likeyou guys, bring me someone.
Bring me someone. Where is myperson? Where is my person? But
then doesn't want to engage inlike dating activities, doesn't
want to be social, doesn't putthemselves out there. So over
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and over, the Spirit people andthe guides are reminding me,
reminding us that we are freewill participants in all of the
choices that we make, even whenit feels like we don't have a
choice in a situation, we dohave some micro choices. We can
choose how we think about it. Wecan choose how much we think
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about it. We can choose thereare micro choices in there, even
for things that seem outside ofour free will. But loved ones
are not going to come over thetop of your free will and force
you together with a person,because that's what they want.
It's just not how it works. Sostop, stop asking them to know
you can ask. I mean, we can askfor anything we want, but just
know that if you're asking forsomething, if you're making a
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request, you then would be bestadvised to pay attention for the
signs, the nudges the it remindsme of that old story about the
the person drowning in the waterwho is a person of faith, and
the boat comes by and says, Oh,let us, let us rescue you. Get
in the boat. And they say, oh,no, God's gonna save me. And
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then, you know, the next diverscome in and they say, we're here
to save you, you know, let's geton this raft and we're gonna
save you. And then go, oh no,God's gonna save me. And then
the helicopter comes in, andsame thing, come on, get up in
this ladder. We're gonna saveyou. Oh, God's gonna save me.
And then when the person gets toheaven, they said, Why didn't
you save me? And and God, ortheir loved ones, or whatever
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you believe, says, you know, wesent you the boat, we sent you
the raft, and we sent you thehelicopter, and what did you
want? Like, what did you thinkwe were going to do to save you?
So my guidance, I guess, here,is just be available for those
little nudges, thosesynchronicities, when you've
been thinking about something orwondering in your mind, or
thinking, Oh, I'm so curiousabout my own spirituality or my
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own gifts. And then you comeacross a seminar with someone
that you like their book, forexample, and you think like, oh,
but that's not for me. Why? Whynot for you, right? So following
those signs and synchronicitiesand little nudges, even if
you've just been thinking aboutsomething and then you're at a
coffee shop, and the personahead of you in line, you hear
them having a conversation aboutthat thing. Maybe there's no
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opportunity being offered inthat moment, but it's letting
you know, okay, spirit's hearingthis too. My loved ones are
hearing this true too. Guidesare hearing this too.
Cooperative components arecoming my way. This is in the
energy around me. This really isgoing out in my thoughts, in my
intentions, in my actions. Sojust be aware that your our free
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will is multi layered, and itmany more comes in many more
ways than we often think. Iguess is how I want to say it.
Okay, the next thing that is oneof my favorite things that they
share with me. It's soincredibly beautiful. Let me
paint a little bit of a picturefor you. This just happened
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recently, and again, everysession is different. So this
doesn't necessarily come acrossin every session, because often
the information is based on theneed of my client's soul, or the
need of My Spirit client's soul,and what needs to be
communicated. But I'm thinkingof someone recently who their
dad was passing away. He hadbeen in hospice, and they were
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all trying to get there. Hiscondition kind of accelerated at
the end, and there wasn't verymuch time. And he also wasn't
the most open to things of asensitive nature, right? He was
very masculine presenting. Hewas kind of that old fashioned
guy's guy. Didn't really like totalk about emotions. Loved his
family and let them know that.
You know, he was a wonderful dadand grandpa and and person in
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the family, so very beloved, butwouldn't be the first one
talking about like angels or anyof that stuff as as a as a
person. So when he wascommunicating from the other
side, he helped me understandthat his family, who I was
working with, just all had thismishmash of different feelings
about his final moments. Therewas five or six of them in the
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group I was working with. Onedidn't get to make it there. One
was out of the country. One hadbeen there the whole time and
had just like gone home for ashower. The other two were there
on the phone and trying to helpeveryone else get there. And he
wanted them to know that eventhough he wasn't conscious,
because one of them that hadbeen there made it back, just
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kind of like at the last moment,or one of their adult kids made
it back at the last moment, andhe was no longer conscious, but
he was in the process oftransitioning, and it was so
beautiful because the way hecommunicated it. And this is
just one example. Of many wherethis happens. He said, You know,
my my great granddaughter, gotthere just in the final moments,
and I felt her energy come intothe room like this beautiful,
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fresh breeze that she is in allof our lives. She's a she was a
miracle baby, and we all reallylove her. And the family
validated that, yeah, there werecomplications in getting this
young lady here, but she made itin the nick of time. And he just
said, even though he wasn'tconscious, his soul recognized
her energy in the room. His soulfelt the loved ones around him
and was receiving all of thatlove, all of those sometimes
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words out loud that they werespeaking to him, sometimes just
emotions that they were kind ofsharing from their heart or just
feeling in those moments. And healso was aware of those people
that were trying to get to himfrom the other places, and said,
Oh yeah, I was feeling theirlove. I was feeling their
thoughts. I received all oftheir kind words and all of the
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love they wanted to come in andgive me. I even received all of
the prayers of my wife's churchmembers because she had been
asking them secretly and quietlyto pray for me, because she knew
I wouldn't like everyone toknow, you know, my business. So
she did this kind of quietly,and she was so astounded that he
received all of those prayers.
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And we don't often talk aboutit, all of that as energy. But
it really is, and they've shownme over and over and over again,
that they receive it as energy.
They receive it as love, andtheir souls receiving it in that
moment, and then when they crossover, I believe they actually
get to feel and see andexperience all of that love,
almost like if you were toreceive, this is oversimplifying
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it, for sure. But if you were toreceive like the most beautiful,
heartfelt love and kindnessletter in the mail, for example,
where just you received all oftheir sentiment, all of their
emotion, all of the wonderfulthings that they were trying to
share, it's almost like that,where as they transition, they
just receive this almost likechorus of energetic love and
support and compassion andprayer, and those ascend
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healing, whatever version of itis, they receive it all as this
wonderfully uplifting, positivelove for them. And it doesn't
matter. As it turns out, overthe years, they've shown me, it
doesn't matter if you said itout loud or if you just thought
it, it doesn't matter. Not thatit doesn't matter, because it
matters, but it makes nodifference. I should say, if you
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were physically in the room,praying, offering healing,
saying kind words, or if youwere 1000 miles away and
couldn't get there and werethinking it or sending it by
phone, or just, you know,holding onto it in your heart
and and wishing them well, andthey explain that they receive
it still that way, on the otherside. So once they cross over,
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and they're over there, whetherit's for a day or 100 years,
anytime we're thinking aboutthem, telling stories about
them, talking about them, youknow you ever have like someone
you love on the other side, andyou just keep a little picture,
and every time you see thatpicture, you're like, love ya,
thinking of you. Love you,whatever it is, I know some
people keep voicemails in theirphone, so anytime you're
thinking of them, even if it's abrief moment, they receive all
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of that as as positive love andenergy and just wonderful
deliciousness for them. So evenwhen you're you know, sending
thoughts and prayers, whetherthe person's on this side or the
other side, their soul stillreceives all of that, and
they're always excited to sharethat really. It really means so
much. And I think often we're soconfused about that separation,
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right, that illusion ofseparation that we're always
talking about. We're soprogrammed to think there is
separation between us and thespirit world when there's really
not it's an unseen world withinour world. But we don't know.
Like are they? Do they know Isay prayers for them every day?
Do they know that I look attheir picture? Do they know that
I say I love you and good nightevery single night? They
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definitely know, and theyreceive all of it. So if it
feels good to you, keep doingit. You don't have to do it out
loud. You don't have to do itpublicly. You can, but you can
also just do it privately. Theysometimes even will. There was
one recently, and this personoften drove by a military
cemetery, and they had a personwho was a military member that
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had passed away, that was in atotally different cemetery in a
different part of the country.
And every time they passed thisnearby military cemetery, they
would think of that person, andthey would just kind of, not
even necessarily in a formulatedthought or words, but just think
of that person and kind of lovethem, or let the feeling of love
rise up in them. And that personin that session even articulated
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that, oh yeah, they drive bythis military cemetery all the
time, and they always think ofMe, and they always send me
love, and I receive that love,and I accept that love, and we
still love each other very much.
So don't think that thatsentiment, that energy, that
love, that healing, that prayer,is wasted. It's not they receive
all of it, and it's one of thethings I wish that I could show
you guys differently, is the wayI perceive it in my mind's eye
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and the way I feel it in theenergy it. It's just like the
most beautiful, warm,comforting, energetic hug, even
if it's from someone that youhad misunderstandings with when
they were here. Because, oh,that's actually my next point is
the life review, because theyhave this life review that
really does help them understandthings differently. So
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to wrap up that last point, keepsending love to their photo.
Keep sending love to the thoughtof them, to them however they
pop into your mind. Send themlove. Send them prayers. They
are okay, they are still withyou, and they do receive all of
that, even if you don't like theword love on there. Maybe it's
good thoughts, maybe it'scelebration, whatever it is,
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maybe it's just hey, you meansomething to me, but just keep
doing it. If it feels good toyou, they receive all of it, and
they often express how much theylike it. So I want to talk also
about how the life review works.
I might have talked about thisbefore, just because I think
it's so important and it was soprofound to me in my own
learning, very early on in thiswork, I was taught by the other
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side a different idea about whatthe life review means and how it
shows up for them. I've hearddifferent versions through
different mentors over theyears, and it's been fascinating
to me how it aligns with the wayI received the understanding of
it just as a little extravalidation for me in my work,
many of us in our youth aretaught that there's a heaven,
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and there's a man at thesegates, the pearly gates, and he
has a book. It might sometimeshe's called Saint Peter,
sometimes he's called otherthings, but there's a book about
all the terrible and maybe notterrible, things you've ever
done in your life. And you willbe judged, and you will be it's
like this heavenly bouncer whoknows Santa, who knows if you've
been naughty or nice, and isgoing to decide if you're in the
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club or out of the club? They'veshown me over and over again.
This is not how it works, not atall. Not even close that. It's,
it's we're not met withjudgment, we're met with love,
we're met with kindness. We'remet with understanding, with
compassion, and we're assistedin our transition by our loved
ones, by angels, by guides, bythat loving source energy, by
whatever name you like to callit. So it's it's not a scary
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journey to go there, and it'spretty instantaneous. We're
either in the body or out of thebody. We're either physical or
non physical, and there's not inbetween, but the life review
itself. Instead of being, youknow, the man at the gate who's
going to tell you all the thingsyou ever did, instead, it's more
experiential. Is the way thatthey've shown it to me, where
they essentially, again, I'mgoing to complain about the
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words, because the words are notquite right, but they almost go
back through their life, kind oflike a review, which is why,
probably why they're using thatword. But they go back through
and almost stand in the place ofanyone that they ever created an
emotion and positive ornegative. So just imagine going
back, you know, from the fromthe time you're coming into this
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world, through every encounter,every emotion that you ever
created in any other humanbeing, and getting to feel it
firsthand, getting to understandhow they felt both positive and
challenging. So if you've been aMother Teresa, of all of us,
then probably your life reviewis wonderful and fantastic, and
you get to feel how much loveand compassion and safety you
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imparted on other people. If youhave been a terrible person, you
got to feel all that too. So itis why the Do Unto Others rule
is still the golden rule. Theystill encourage us to live our
lives in a way of integrity anddo no harm and don't
intentionally hurt others,because we're going to have to
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feel that ourselves. And it isso profound to me, and really
helped me understand this ideaabout, if we've had a challenge
with someone that's on the otherside, right, it's not that
they're going to get punished inthe human way that we think
about it on this side, but theywill be accountable in that they
will have to feel every emotion,every sentiment, everything that
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they created, that They causedin
US or in someone, so they're notoff the hook in that way. It's
just different. And so manytimes I've asked, I've even sat
in group meditation with groupsof mediums and asked some of
these questions, and a lot oftimes the answer that comes back
is kind of but it's different.
So I think our humanunderstanding of these things is
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just so limited. But whensomeone has that version of a
life review, then they truly dounderstand, for example, how
they could have been differentas a parent, how what they said
or did or didn't do deeplyaffected their kiddo, for
example, for the rest of theirlife, or in this one area of
their life in particular. Youknow, maybe I keep it's so hard
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because I keep thinking ofspecific readings, and I try to
be, I try to be really privatewith my sessions, unless
someone's given me permission totell their story, and in other
cases, I do try to change someof the details so no one's
identifiable in the story, and Istick really true to that. So if
a story I tell resonates withyou, please just know that it's.
Because we have these resonantemotions with one another or
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similar situations sometimesthat arise in our lives. But I'm
thinking of this one. It wasagain a group. It was the mom
that was on the other side, andshe was a teacher in this world
and a wonderful, celebrated,amazing school teacher. She did
like, I think she did like thedrama program at the school too,
and kids loved her. She was,like, the favorite teacher of
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the whole town for, like, yearsand years and years, kind of a
small town, and she wascommunicating from the other
side, and she said, Yeah, but Ididn't realize all these other
children and students got thisversion of me and my kids at
home got a disengaged, tired,you know, lower bandwidth,
version of me, and didn't getthe praise, and didn't get the
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compliments. Instead, I wascritiquing the things they wrote
and trying to make them bettershort story writers, instead of
acknowledging them and reallyseeing them. And I now
understand so deeply, and therewere several of this woman's
children. She had some biologicand had adopted some, and she
she was coming through andspeaking to them individually,
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and saying, you know, to the oneon my left, I know you really
needed more time and attentionfrom me and more praise. The
next one, I know you reallyneeded me to show up and listen
to you and not always try to fixyour problems the next one, I
know you needed me to not alwaystell you what to do. I know you
experienced me as very bossy anddemanding and and I'm so sorry.
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So it's really beautiful to seehow it applies this idea of the
life review and theunderstanding there's no perfect
people. So all of us are gonna,you know, we've all, I'm sure,
hurt someone's feelings at somepoint, or did something not so
nice at some point. But howbeautiful is it that we can, you
know, whether it's in a readingor in a dream or however, we can
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take responsibility for some ofthat, and we can know that if
there is someone on the otherside that we've had a challenge
with or maybe we didn't get toknow them, and we feel like we
should have gotten to know them.
For example, they do really knowhow they made us feel back then,
how it affected us through ourlives, what we needed or didn't
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need from them, and what theycan do now, which is usually,
usually an apology or just anacknowledgement of the
understanding of it. So that ishow they've explained to me that
the life review actually works.
It's more of an experience thantalking to for example, it's
it's not just not in the waythat we understand it. And
again, it goes back to thisprogramming that we have, these
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things that we're taught andtold through culture and usually
in some effort to control us orour behavior or our thoughts or
ideas, right? So they often comewith details about the life
review or about what theyunderstand now as a result of
that life review, but it doesn'tinvolve punishment in the way
that we think about it here. Sohopefully that helps open your
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mind even just one inch widerabout your own loved ones. The
other thing I want to reallyhighlight that they often share
in different ways, but usuallywith evidential details, with
like specific details about howthey're doing this. They do
truly know what is going on withus in our lives. They do spend
time with us. Many of our lovedones on the other side, put
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little hellos across our path.
Not necessarily all of them do,but many of them are putting
little hellos, putting littlewinks from them, acknowledging
you, or even just spending timesupporting you, even if you're
not aware of it, but they doreally know what's going on. So
if you've ever kind of felt likeagain, I'm thinking of an
example of this, this reallyloving dad who was on the other
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side, and he had been a dad andhe had been a grandpa, and right
not long after his passing, oneof his grandkids that he was
very close to got married, andthen shortly after that, they
had a baby, and the familyreally, he really just loved
babies. He was that kind of agrandpa who wanted to hold the
babies and was at the hospitalfor every single new baby. And I
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think the grandma even, like,made a special thing for every
baby. So they were, like, thatset of grandparents who really
loved any little life cominginto the family. And they were
just so sad and wondering, like,does he know? And and he did. He
was the one that told me theyhad a baby, not them. So he was
saying, you know, he was at thewedding. He gave some details
about the wedding and what itwas like, and something they did
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as a special, unique nod torespect him. And then he talked
about the baby, and actually shewas a little girl, but now they
had also a little boy. And thelittle girl, they did something
with a family name as part ofher name, if I'm remembering
correctly. So he broughtspecific information to
validate, yeah, I know, yeah. Iknow about her. Yeah. I spend
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time with her and the new littleone, and yeah, this is how I
play with them. And this is the,this is the book that they like
to read. And they always readthis book. It was like a book
about an apple or something.
Because I was like, does shetell a story about an apple all
the time? Or there's a book shewants to. Read about an apple.
And they were like, Oh my gosh,yes, that was her favorite book
for like, two years and and Iwas like, well, Grandpa is
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saying he really enjoyed readingthat book with her, and would
sit with her when she wasreading it. And it's those
little details that have reallyhelped me learn. Oh, they do
know what's happening. They dospend time with us and around
us. They do often highlightthat. They give us private time.
So it's not like they'recreepers and peepers, right?
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They don't want to be around inthe times you wouldn't want them
around, but they're only ever aheartbeat away. So the moment
you think, Oh, mom, she's rightthere with you, the moment you
think, Becky, they're rightthere with you. So the moment
that you think of them, that yousend love to them, that you they
pop into your mind. They'reright there, right then. So it's
not like a far away place thatthey have to travel from to come
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visit you. They're aroundfrequently, and many of them are
saying hello. So if you'reseeing something in the world,
whether it's a name or a sign orwhatever it is, and you
immediately think of yourperson. It's okay to accept that
that's a hello from them. Andwhen you acknowledge it and say,
I know that's a joke from you,that's such a you thing to do,
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just be aware of it andacknowledge it, and then it will
give them, it's not quitepermission, but then they'll
keep doing it, you'll see moreand
more and more and more and more,the more you agree to it. So the
last thing I want to touch inon, and I think this is maybe
the most important message fromspirit that I continue to
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receive, and this is his idea ofand depending on their
personality, some of them arevery direct with this message.
Others of them are softer andmore suggestive about it. But
essentially it's stop waiting tostart living the life you love.
Stop waiting to, quote, unquote,get there. Most of us, at some
time in our life had have someversion of this, and a lot of us
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have some version of this goingon all the time, right? It's
kind of the idea of like, Oh,when I get that job, when I have
my perfect partner, when I getmarried, then I'll be happy,
then I'll really start living mylife when I have this baby, when
I you know whatever it is foryou, we have to live right where
we are, whatever that means foryou. Make the Most Loving
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choices for you, for yourself,find ways to experience joy, to
soak in all the beauty and awe,to realize the love around you
that's already there. Becauseeven if you're wanting to have a
relationship, right to call in aromantic partner into your life,
you probably have love aroundyou right now, and if you don't,
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that's where to startcultivating friendships,
volunteer relationships. Youknow, there was this project
when I was in school that me andanother class leader created
where we would go and visitfolks that were in a Senior Care
Center, and we just sat withthem and listened to their
stories, and they were soappreciative just to talk.
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That's love. So start noticingand appreciating the love around
you right now. No matter whatelse is going on, I've
experienced this message in somany profound ways from so many
different souls on the otherside, but maybe some of the most
profound are those people thatwhen they were here in a
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physical body, either for themajority of their life, or even
segments of their life, hadextreme illness or challenge or
pain or cognition limitations,and the way that they bring this
message is like, what are youwaiting for? Like, even if
things are looking bleak, find away to laugh, find a moment of
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joy, find a piece of art toappreciate. Look out at the
beautiful sky and just stare atit. And I know maybe this sounds
a little out there, but itreally is this idea of like,
enjoy the connection of therelationships that you do have,
take that art class, go see theocean like whatever it is for
you find ways working withwhatever your circumstances are
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right now, but don't put offliving or enjoying life or
experiencing things or creatingrelationships because you're
waiting for that perfectscenario, that perfect job, that
ideal timing, right is a big onefor a lot of us. Sometimes it's
Oh, when I have enough moneysaved, then I'll finally allow
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myself to, I don't know, buy afancy sweater. And there are, of
course, you know, financiallimitations that are real. But
it doesn't mean we can't findways to be living, loving,
appreciating what we have,soaking it all in, because again
and again and again in thiswork, one of the beautifully
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tough pieces is this continualrealization of how fragile life
really can be, and that time isnot guaranteed to any of us. Of
course, we make plans and wethink towards the future, and
that's wonderful. But time's notguaranteed for any of us, so if
we're waiting for some imaginaryretirement period to enjoy
anything at all, it's not thewisest way is, is what I've come
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to learn from the other side.
It's this encouragement to someof the people that I've met on
the other side that have hadsome of the most simple lives
with the least of means, let'sjust say, have been some of the
most beautiful, expansive,appreciative, incredible souls.
I've gotten to meet people youknow, from all over the world,
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from all different time periodsin our lives, and some people
from even the most traumatic,tragic periods of time in our
world. And even those peoplewill articulate how, you know,
maybe they had one friend duringa war time that they were going
through, or they had one, youknow, little thing that they
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played with, or even if it wassomething they kind of made
themselves so stop waiting tillyou get there to start living
life and loving life, becausethis is our one wild and
amazing, beautiful, messy life.
And if we're waiting until weare I don't know better, bigger,
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smarter, richer, to do the thingwe're waiting in vain, really is
what it is. And kind of, one ofthe ways I say it, I had someone
in my life for a very long timethat just refused to take any
photos, and I was like, This isthe weirdest thing. Like, you're
you're a person. We're peoplelike, we want to remember you in
our lives to get in the damnpicture. And this person just
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was so resistant to photos. Andfor me, sometimes I tell myself,
like, today's the youngestyou're ever going to be again.
So if it's like, oh, I don'twant to look bad in this
picture, for example, like, whythis is the youngest you're ever
going to be, this is, this isthe only time this exact moment
is going to take place. So liveit, right? So I am really
working on this one in my life.
I would love to hear ideas ofhow you're working on even just
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living a little bit more withinyour life. It doesn't mean you
have to make the big, drasticchange, although it could, if
you're, you know, thinking, Oh,I really want to try living in,
I don't know, Canada for a year,or going to visit Alaska or
Australia, whatever it is. Ifyou're thinking about wanting to
do something like certainly doit, but think about all the
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micro ways in life that youcould just be living a little
bit more. Are you taking infresh air? Are you looking at
nature? Are you appreciatingartwork and beauty and
deliciousness in all of itsforms all around us, and
especially those relationshipsand interactions that we have
with other people, I want toexpand that just a little bit,
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not not just souls of people,but like our animals as well,
because animals are often suchimportant intimate friends and
family members in our lives. SoI'm I'm not leaving out the the
animals and the furry friends,but those relationships that we
can have are so profound and sojust expressive of our humanness
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over here. So really, you know,don't wait for that perfect
partner to have a group offriends that you love, that you
can go to the things with,right? I just keep thinking of
this one, two examples. One is awoman who was on the other side.
Her husband had passed manyyears before her, and she was
just a little bit of a scaredperson. She just didn't love
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being away from home for toolong. There was nothing clinical
happening with her. Her mentalhealth was fine. She just was
not the most adventurous person.
But would always talk about howshe really wanted to go on a
road trip. She really wanted tosee a casino. She really wanted,
like, she there was these thingsthat she really wanted to do.
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And from the other side, shehad, you know, her kids, and
then she had grandkids, and sheactually had some lovely
relationships with some of thesegrandkids, and they would offer
to take her, like, hey grand.
Like, let us take you to thecasino. You know what I mean,
and she was so resistant and soscared. And there were a few
times she did some biggeroutings with them and things,
but she was communicating fromthe other side and essentially
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sharing, like, I don't know whyI didn't do all the things. I
don't know why I resisted somuch. I don't know what I was so
scared of. And it was thesentiment of like, I wish I had
just said yes to so much more.
And then I'm thinking of adifferent story, which I think
this family will be okay with mesharing. It's a lovely story
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about this gentleman, his wifepassed before him. It was pretty
shocking, because in thisfamily, he would have been the
the less healthy of these, thesegrandparents, parents and she,
the wife. Passes much youngerand and very unexpectedly, and
he goes on to live another Well,I think it was over 30 years
without her, and when they hadbeen together, she was the one
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who was very adventurous. Shewas the social calendar. She was
the one creating the family gettogethers and planning the
holidays and taking care. Tripswith other, you know, friends of
theirs, little outings andthings. And she really was the
social marriage, and as she was,you know, in the hospital at the
end of her life, she had toldher husband, like, you're gonna
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have to do this on your own,like, I don't want you sitting
home and wasting away. Becausehe kind of would always say,
okay, like, I guess I'll go orcan I just stay home? Or he
could be a little grumpysometimes. And after her
passing,I don't even know how many years
after it was, but he startedtraveling the world. He saw so
many countries, and it was partof what he was sharing with me
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in this reading, you know, withhis grandkiddo in my office, and
was saying what wonderful,special memories those were for
him. He, you know, got to go toEurope with his family. They
lived there together for awhile. He got to see all, most,
all of the countries in Europe.
He got to go to Asia. He got togo to South America, like there
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were all these places that hegot to visit and tour. And he
was showing, you know, thethings that he was interested in
there, but he was articulatingthrough this communication,
through the emotions and throughflashes of pictures, how this
really changed his life, how hehad two paths he could have
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chosen. He could have juststayed home and let the world
pass him by and isolate himself.
But instead, he chose to go outof his comfort zone and to do
all of this wonderful travelwith his family. It's cute
because he told me he neverremarried. He did have lady
friends, is the way he said it,and he apparently was quite a
charming, wonderful gentleman.
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He chose to live this life,whatever he was going to have of
it after his beloved wifecrossed over and made just the
most amazing memories with notonly his own children, but their
children, these groups ofgrandkids that he had, and his
life was so much richer for it.
So I just really love thatstory, because it's just, in
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essence, what's available to allof us at any time we are going
down the path we're on. Butthere's, like Led Zeppelin says,
right, there's there's stilltime to change the road you're
on. So please, from the bottomof my heart, know that I am
offering all of these thingsthat I've learned with love and
with intention to just stir yourthoughts a little bit about how
could you be maybe living alittle fuller in your life? Or
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is there something you wanted totry or do, or taste the weird
food or go to the place you'venot been or see the artist at
the museum? Whatever it is, whatis it that's been on your heart
or stirring within you thatyou've wanted to try, that
you've been putting off, or thatyou've been too scared, or that
you've been saying, Oh, I'll getto that when right? So I hope
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that you have enjoyed learning alittle bit about what I learned
about as part of my work. And ifyou like this, I'm happy to do
other topics like this, becausethere really is so so much that
I learned from the spirit world,just as a medium. Some of it's
about the communication itself,but a lot of it are these
deeper, more profound lessons,for lack of a better word or
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knowings or bits of wisdom thatreally have colored and changed
the way that I live, the choicesI make, the way that I love and
how I choose to be justdifferently intentional and
again, no perfect people. I'm awork in progress too. So if
you're feeling like, Oh man,I've really been making some
excuses in my life, and it'sokay to it's okay to make
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another choice at any time. So Ihope that this has been helpful
to you. Let me know if you arenot already signed up for my
free community healings. I'mstill having one every single
month, and I don't know aboutyou, but I feel like we need
both community and healing now,maybe more than ever. So if you
feel so called, I would love ifyou would join me the links in
the show notes and on all of mybios everywhere. But if you go
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to the events section of mywebsite, joyful medium.com you
will always also see all theupcoming events, including the
free community healings andanything else I've got going on
there. So I hope you will joinme one of the sessions. Big hug.
This is bye for now. Lots oflove from inside spirit
speakeasy. Do.
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