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Healing The Father Wound
Senior Pastor Pastor Keith Stewart 
June 15, 2025

The National Center for Fathering asked troubled teenage daughters, “Where do you go for comfort?” The number one response was music. Number two was girlfriends. Three was television. And Dad? He came in 34th place. The relationship we have with our father can be one of the most formative of all our relationships for good or bad. But when our Dad is absent from the home, addicted, emotionally distant, or even abusive, it leaves a wound that can affect us for the rest of our lives. This Sunday’s message is all about how to heal what we are powerless to change. It’s a message that prevents the past from continuing to impose itself on the present – a message that can set you free.


DISCUSSION QUESTIONS 

1. What special memories do you have about your childhood? How did you get along with each of your parents? What were they like? What did you like and dislike about your parents? What were your hurts and disappointments as a child? Did you like yourself as a child? Why or why not?
 
2. Take some time to look over the chart on the developmental needs of children as it relates to mothers and fathers. It’s important to remember that these are generalizations and there are always exceptions to any rule. But in light of this chart, where did you have strong modeling and where were there weaknesses? What did your parents do well? What did they do poorly? Can you see any evidence in your present life and relationships where this has played out for good or bad?
 
3. Father absence has a dramatic and profound effect on our spiritual life. Have you ever struggled with experiencing God as He reveals Himself to be in His word? Where and how have you struggled? Have you experienced any healing around parental wounds that helped you better connect with God?
 
4. Do you ever practice positive, Biblical affirmations in your life (which is a form of meditation)? Take some time either during your small group gathering or later at home, to look up as many Scriptures as you can find that describe our new standing in Christ. Write them down and make it your practice this week to read through the entire list at least 5 times a day.
 
5. Pastor Keith said there are four messages every child needs; I love you, I believe in you, I’m proud of you and I am sorry. Did you hear these messages growing up? What effect did that have on you? Do you regularly communicate these messages to your own children (even as adult children)?