The Real Reason You’re Still Playing Small (and How to Stop)

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1 BIG IDEA
Playing small doesn’t protect your leadership—it dilutes it. In a world that rewards caution and conformity, it takes courage to lead with authenticity. This episode unpacks why we shrink, how it costs us—and what it looks like to show up whole, steady, and courageous.

3 WAYS TO APPLY THIS

• Recognize where fear is holding you back—visibility, relationships, or even your pricing.
• Reflect on the source of that fear. Is it an Assumption, Belief, or Conditioning (your ABCs)?
• Respond with one bold action that honors your Core Values, even if it feels “too big.”

3 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF

• Where have I been shrinking back out of fear of being “too much”?
• Which of my ABCs are feeding that fear? (See Episode 235 for more on your ABCs.)
• Who benefits if I stop playing small—and who misses out if I don’t?

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