October 26, 2023 • 70 mins
Imagine navigating the complex terrain of your professional life with clarity, confidence, and a deep sense of purpose. Picture yourself being able to set boundaries, avoiding burnout, and remaining resilient in the face of obstacles. Join me as I engage in a thought-provoking conversation with seasoned professionals, Kaylie Banda and Savannah Woodward. They share their rich experiences, insights on career paths, growth mindset, and the art of setting boundaries to avoid burnout. You'll hear their personal stories of dealing with imposter syndrome and breaking down barriers in advancement. Expect to gain a fresh perspective on aligning your career with your passions, exploring underrated industries, and the hustle in entrepreneurship.
In part two of our conversation, we immerse ourselves in the importance of self-care and self-awareness in our professional lives. Kaylie and Savannah reveal their routines and techniques to recognize personal limits and communicate them effectively. As young professionals, we're often faced with big challenges. Learn how good leadership can make a significant difference in your workplace and how faith can influence personal and professional life.
Finally, we delve into the transformative power of being part of a supportive community like the Young Professionals. Our guests share their tips on self-reflection, setting goals, and dealing with challenging situations. Discover how creating a personal mission statement can guide your decisions and contribute to your legacy. Connect with Kaylie, Savannah and the Young Professionals community to explore the untapped potentials in your professional journey.
Standing In Your Truth Podcast with Yanni Thomas
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Speaker 2 (00:02):
Hello everyone, welcome to season two of
standing your truth podcast.
I'm your host, yanni.
On this podcast, you will hearmyself, family and friends
having open ended discussions onanything from faith, finances,
relationships and how to staymotivated during life trying
times.
Make sure you follow me on all.
My social media link is in thebio.
(00:24):
Sit back and get ready to enjoy.
Hello, hello everyone, welcometo another episode of standing
your truth podcast.
Once again, I am your host,Yanni.
Today I have again a dual setof co-hosts.
(00:46):
I'm going to allow them tointroduce themselves.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Hello everyone.
My name is Kaylee Banda and Iwear many hats, and I don't know
which hats Yanni would like meto say, but my name is Kaylee
Banda, whatever one you want.
I'm a commercial lender atSouthwest Bank.
I'm a chairwoman for theUnprofessionals of Odessa.
(01:14):
I sit on the board for thePurring Basin Rehab Center and
the Alarm Center.
I'm glad to be here.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Hey everyone, I'm Savannah Woodward.
I serve as the director ofspecial events for the Shepherd
Leadership Institute at theUniversity of Texas, Permian
Basin.
I also serve as the membershipliaison on the board of
directors for theUnprofessionals of Odessa.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I just feel like I messed up.
I said dual, I have three, sowe actually have a, I guess the
youngest co-host that's been on.
Do you have anything you wantto say to the mic?
No, he's playing with firetrucks.
So we also have Savannah Sonnerjoining us as well, so he may
(02:03):
jump on and say a few thingswhenever he gets ready.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Shepherd, shepherd, yeah keyboard whenever he gets
ready, so I have them on here.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
The topic for today is just being a professional
nowadays and what that lookslike for us.
I think we're kind of all atdifferent stages.
Obviously, you have Savannah,who's just no being a mom, so
we'll go over that.
But before that gets started,we're just going to do our house
(02:32):
questions to kind of get warmedup and have a couple of ice
burgers Don't look so sad, cole.
What's wrong?
The first one is what motivatesyou?
What is your why?
Speaker 4 (02:44):
For life I can, yeah.
Well, a big why for me isobviously my family.
So having a kid, it reallychanges the game.
You have someone who's lookingat to you and so you have to
provide and you want to set thatgood example.
And so spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically, all
(03:08):
of the all of the things, butalso like just for myself.
I know for those who aren'treally familiar with my
background, I was not superfortunate growing up in my
childhood and so trying to dobetter for my family and really
for myself and my education isreally important to me, the
(03:31):
engagement and all of thosethings.
So that's my why.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Okay, samantha, the main cove man.
He's taking back all hisclothes on the table.
Here you go, sorry, no, okay,my bad, all right, what's your
why?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
My why, I feel like my why is a very broad why, but
I think that we were all givengifts right by our creator and I
truthfully believe that I wasput here to just be a positive
source of energy, to be a light.
Okay, so that's, that's my why.
(04:09):
That's why I do the things thatI do.
That's.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I felt that kind of lines up with mine a lot of the
time, I feel like I was meant tojust encourage but keep going.
So I don't know, yeah.
However, wherever I land isalways kind of the area I end up
in, so I understand that.
So how do you guys protect yourmental health or what is your
self care routine?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
That's kind of an ongoing journey.
Yeah, discovery.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
It's day by day for me, like the more I've matured
and the more that I've grown,I've had to really evaluate and
be self aware and like selfassist and kind of play off that
.
So like what I needed last yearis not the same as what I
needed this year, that's true,just being able to see that and
kind of navigate it.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Yeah, I like how you touched on self awareness.
That is so key because I have areally bad habit of
overthinking things and so whenI get in this like area in my
brain room, just like beingreally hard on myself, it's very
easy for me to stay in thosehabits.
(05:20):
So just being self aware, ithas really helped me.
And then doing simple thingslike going outside and just
enjoying God's creation, likefeeling the breeze, feeling the
warmth of the sun, finding joyin those little things helps me
protect my mental health.
(05:41):
I mean when I can go outside andjust like see two beautiful
birds living their life not acare in the world.
Like that helps me because Iknow that there's something on
this earth that's bigger thanjust me, and whatever it is that
I'm like battling in my headyeah, so Is it dropping?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
I agree with the whole like getting in your own
head, though, because I feellike, as a young professional,
I'm struggling with a lot ofimposter syndrome, as I'm trying
to like, excel and make nextmoves, so navigating that too is
rough, but just taking a breathand kind of realizing like this
(06:22):
is not all there is for me,like this is not all there is in
the world, and the scope isbigger than the tunnel vision
we're getting to yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
That's hard and that's the lesson I'm still
learning.
It's on the ground For sure.
Well, what advice would yougive your younger self?
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It's not always going to be like this.
I would like I don't reallyknow how to put it best, but it
all.
You know how.
Everyone says it took six daysfor everything to be created.
Like he can change your life inone.
(07:07):
Yeah, I just.
That's so range, true.
The older that we get, the morethings happen.
I'm like just because today isnot a bad day or today is a bad
day does not mean that tomorrowis gonna be a bad day.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
I would tell my younger self that it is not
about you.
I may be in my battle andimposter syndrome.
I've always had this like thisneed to just like feel like this
type of person.
You know, like I'm at thislevel, I want people to see me
(07:44):
as this type of person withthese types of characteristics.
And as I've progressedthroughout my journey and like
growing my career, getting moreinvolved in the community, I've
realized that people don'tappreciate you because you're
wearing a beautiful pair ofshoes and you know you have a
(08:06):
super cute outfit or whatever.
Like people appreciate you forthose things.
People appreciate you for justshowing up and like helping out
and putting in the work.
So, that's what I wish I wouldhave known earlier.
Like, it's not about you, it'sabout trying it, but she's got
cute outfits a lot of times, ohyeah, they call those cute heels
.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Oh yeah, I'm like she definitely does.
I'm gonna play so many cuteheels For sure.
I'm like okay, Hi, I don't knowhow to work this goal.
Give X some.
Oh wait, maybe I do, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
No no, no, no, no, no , no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I'm just trying to see that I'm not making it in
this video for the first time,but we do have a new overdrive.
Who already knows me?
Those are both eight, 10million dollars, dollars,
scalper 950, one pointher 11100equals 1170.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
So now the question is yeah, if you still know him
he already know you.
You know home.
I was not fulfilled by work, Ididn't care to be fulfilled.
I was not involved inorganizations.
I wanted to come home and just,you know, veg out and not do
anything because I, theresources weren't there or
(09:25):
weren't advocated for.
So it didn't seem as thoughthere was a lot to do.
And then moving to Odessa was agame changer because it was
like oh, we, like nonprofits,are seeking people out, they're
more vocal about their needs and, yes, you don't have to meet
any qualifications as long asyou have a want to come and work
(09:49):
with us.
And the job opportunities andthe community of people really
made me see the value in myselfbecause everyone was so
welcoming and so positive andsupportive, and so I felt more
fulfilled in my career because Ihad a better support system
(10:09):
along the way too.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
How long have you?
Speaker 4 (10:11):
been in Texas.
We moved here.
Well, we lived in Texas all ofmy life, but we moved to Odessa
in March of 22.
So a little over a year now itwas me trying to calculate.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I'm like okay okay, okay, I would say for me, one
moment that that shaped my lifewas probably the first time I
decided to be involved with theyoung professionals of Odessa.
My friend yes, my friend fromwork at the time, his name was
Andy.
Some of you might have heardthis story, but he invited me to
(10:50):
go to a service committeemeeting for young professionals
of Odessa, and so I had gone totheir annual banquet, you know,
the December before, justbecause the bank I worked for
had bought a table.
That was kind of all I knewabout it at the time, and so he
invited me to this meeting.
I was like sure, why not?
I drove on to him and I'd giveit a go.
(11:12):
So I walked in and you knowthey're talking about their
annual school resupply project.
This was the first year theywere ever going to do it.
The just was to purchase schoolsupplies and donate them in the
middle of the year, once theschool supplies began to run out
and there were no funds toreplenish them.
And so they started talkingabout the school that they've
(11:35):
chosen, you know, has thehighest level of economically
disadvantaged students, and, loand behold, it's the elementary
school that my mom is principalof.
Yes, and so I knew in thatmoment like this is a God thing
that I'm here in this moment,right now, and from then I just
(11:55):
it really opened my eyes to thetype of people that are in this
community like just very genuine, kindhearted, generous people.
And if I hadn't gone to thatfirst meeting, like I don't know
what my journey would have beenlike in the young professionals
.
But now, seven years later,like I'm exiting chairwoman, so
(12:16):
it's just kind of a it's a Godthing really that oh yeah,
that's how it happened.
Speaker 4 (12:21):
Nothing's by accident .
Speaker 2 (12:22):
No.
And then Katie's like I don'twant to say 12, because I'm sure
not 12.
But I think when I finallyrealized that she's what I was
like, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'm at 29.
She's a baby.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Well, I guess in my head, like when I hear you speak
and see how you carry yourself,oh yeah, I definitely.
But just not saying like thatyou look, oh, you definitely
don't.
But just by seeing how youspeak and how you carry yourself
, I was like oh she has to belike someone in her 30s or
something Like.
She has to be on her way out,like she has to be part of that
group that's leaving in my headI'm like she has to be and
(13:02):
they're like.
No, you know I was like.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Oh, I don't know how to go on it.
Okay, Thank you.
I said excuse me.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
You're not able.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
All right, that's pretty cool.
Well, obviously, let's get intothe topic.
So I guess my first question is, I guess maybe how would you
define a young professional?
Or if someone was listening toeverything, what comes to the
young professional, what wouldyou tell them?
Who was the young professional?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Well by our organization standards one
definition is someone aged 21 to40.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
So I mean, I don't like you know, I really don't
like putting it in a box so much.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Not.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
I don't know, some people feel young right, even
though in terms of age they maynot be numerically young right.
But also, like I think peopleassume the concept more or
associate young professionalswith like white collar industry
jobs.
And it doesn't have to be thatlike that, doesn't have to be
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the stigma you can be a youngprofessional and excel in any
industry or career.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Yeah, I think one of the things that I'm always asked
is I don't have a degree.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
I said girl.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I mean you just come out, yeah, or I'm not in
business for myself, yeah, andI'm like, well, that's cool, I
mean if you want to, but you canstill come on, whatever you can
play.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
One thing that I associate young professionals
with is like the word hustle.
Yes, Like you're just trying tohustle in life, whether that's
your.
You work for somebody, you workfor yourself.
Whatever it is you're doinglike you're just hustling,
trying to make it, trying to winenough hours in the day to call
the day away.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Yeah, I do think sometimes, especially with us
having that cut off of 40,sometimes like should it be 45?
Because I feel like if anyoneelse is like me, I'm putting my
note 32, I'll be 33 in December.
I think that's right, yeah, andI think life is just making
sense.
So I think for the organization, I thought about that, but
(15:19):
anyway, that's one of the topic.
But what are some challengesthat you guys face as young
professionals at this currentage state year?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Well, savannah mentioned one earlier.
It's imposter syndrome.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
So what is that?
Can you define that for thosewho may not understand what that
?
Speaker 3 (15:42):
is yeah sure.
I think imposter syndrome isjust the feeling that either A
you're not good enough or B youdon't deserve to be in the
position you're in the situation, the room that you're in, and I
think I feel like a lot ofyoung professionals struggle
with that, maybe because we'rejust growing.
(16:04):
That's like the stage or growth, growth growth.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
I think what plays into that a lot, though, is one
of the struggles I face,alongside the imposter syndrome
and what kind of feeds it ishaving mature co-workers around
me or older co-workers around methat I wouldn't say don't get
(16:28):
along with me, but maybe theydon't know me well enough to
know what I am capable of, andso they just assume, because I
am as young as I am, that Idon't have the life experience
or the skill set to necessarilydo the job.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Well, I know we had someone recently asked me and I
was like but she's managingpeople that are older than her.
They don't respect her becauseshe's younger.
She has the position, the titleand I'm assuming the knowledge,
but because they're older thanher, they're like me, how this?
(17:04):
And they don't like listen towhat she's saying.
She's like what do I do in thatsituation?
I'm like well, that's tough,you don't have to lay the law
down, you may piss people off,but they're gonna have to rev it
in the day.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
You have that position.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
for a reason, they don't have it.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
I think definitely part of building your skill set
as a young professional islearning.
One of the hardest things tolearn is how to have those
difficult conversations, how tonavigate them.
But I think, knowing to havethem at least, like trying to go
through the motions of learningthem and navigating them, earn
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yourself things and people seeit for what it is, that you are
trying to be a professional anda professional way.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Only for some people.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Right.
I mean not everything's goingto be perfect.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Oh, you said oh my, I'm looking for you for your
answer and I'm like oh, you'rekidding.
Yeah, like I already answered,girl, my bad.
What would you say for a youngprofessional who maybe, let's
say, wants to add to theireducation?
Add to their education?
Speaker 3 (18:32):
I would say it's never too late.
You know, the path where youyou graduate high school, you go
to college and you graduate andthen you enter the workforce is
not the path for everybody,especially around here.
I mean, at&t has a lot ofnon-traditional students and I
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think that's amazing becausethat's people wanting to better
their lives.
You can do that at any age.
I'll also say on the flip sideof that, you know, if you are
not married and you don't havekids, like now's the time to do
it, so where it's going to bethe most easiest.
When I went back for mymaster's, I didn't necessarily
(19:19):
want to go back, but I was likebefore life advances too much,
I'm going to do it.
And so it was still toughbecause I was still on two
boards, trying to build mycareer and do it every day, and
I had to come home and dohomework.
Like it was still tough.
But like throw a child or ahusband on top of that.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
And I can't eat.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I imagine so.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
I think the number one barrier that we see in
higher education specifically isfinancial resources is the
biggest barrier, and what I haveto say to that is specifically
for Odessa.
There are so many resources fortraditional, non-traditional,
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like all walks of life, alllifestyles and circumstances to
be able to receive an educationon your terms.
So, whatever if you have foodinsecurities, like, the schools
are really trying hard to breakdown every barrier that they can
and they've got programs whereyou, if it's your first time
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going for a degree, they want tobe able to help grow the
workforce and become a moreeducated community, and so you
can get your associates or evena bachelor's for muti-pibi for
free.
And so I think more peopleshould try to tap into those
resources, even if it's like aslow and steady kind of race.
(20:53):
You can't really take a fullload like take advantage of what
you can.
But yeah, I think that's mybiggest piece of advice.
I think there are a lot ofother schools outside of Odessa,
midland area and West Texas ingeneral that are also on the
same track of trying to breakdown all of those barriers.
So just see what's out there.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
See what you can do it fits your lifestyle and the
time is going to pass anyways.
Next year, one year from now,it's going to get here, whether
you decide to do one or twoclasses or not, so why not like
take?
Advantage of it every day thatyou have 100%, so yeah, I think
I'm like a.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I think I've been a student at too many different
schools.
At this point Still not at thegrade I'm trying.
I'll give it a go.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Hey, at least you're trying yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
My problem is I'm the person I guess.
Honestly, I think I've probablygrown out of my blood blood
syndrome.
I think that was my problem.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
So every job I would get.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I would be in school for that job.
So, like at one point, I wantedto be a teacher.
I think that was actually theoriginal reason why I went to
school.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
You'd be a great teacher.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Then I'd be like, yeah, I'm probably supposed to
fight somebody's kids Never mindI could do it, I would probably
have to be like pre-K.
Yeah, I can't get a grown onebecause they talk too much.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
I feel like you're really tuning into what your
spiritual gift is to and findingthat out to be your passion.
I think that's really importantwhen you are trying to narrow
down what you want to do and howyou want to move forward.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
Yeah, because a lot of young professionals will go
to college and then graduatewith something and then enter
that workforce and then findlike, oh, this is actually not
what I'm passionate about inlife.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Yeah, I'm trying to tell you.
I was at a class so I didteaching and then I did HR or
like human.
I don't know what the grade was, but it was something that was
centered around because at thattime I was working for a company
and I was their businessmanager, hr person.
I thought, okay, let me get afigure in this.
Then I moved to Texas and thenI started at DPS and with DPS,
(23:10):
oh, I took something.
Before that I was like you tookme, because it's a semester.
What did I take?
Oh, I think it was like generalsavings or something, but it
was sports management.
Oh, actually it was the one Ishould have stuck with.
It was marketing.
And I should have stuck withthat one.
But I stopped doing it becauseI went to work at DPS and
marketing at DPS Liketechnically I could move up.
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But at that time I had a smallmind and I didn't think of the
fact that I could move to Austinand get a marketing job with
the state.
Like I didn't think that.
I thought in Odessa, what am Idoing with a marketing degree?
You said the driver's licenseoffice.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Right.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
So I was like no, let me get something to go with the
driver's license office.
So then I started going toschool for emergency management
and Homeland Security which wascompletely interesting.
I did like a lot of semestersin that, maybe like because I
was almost done, because I wasin my junior year, but I didn't
do it anymore.
But I was like, hmm, homelandSecurity really ain't my thing,
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like politics if you know me, Irun the opposite way yeah, like
so emergency management Idefinitely could have done.
I still can.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
Yeah, I really like Kaylee and I have had this
conversation before becauseKaylee loves working at the bank
, she loves who she works forand really enjoys her work.
But that's not necessarily herpassion, right, and I think
that's okay.
I think that's okay.
I know a lot of people are like, hey, find out what you're good
(24:37):
at and then move in thatdirection.
But even if you find somethingthat is good to support your
lifestyle and that you'recomfortable with doing and it
allows you to be able to do yourpassion, I think that's a good
option too, I think I'm justrealizing, I think, part of the
(24:58):
growth and holding the mirror upto myself is now I can actually
tell you what I like to do.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
I think before I was definitely allowing my family
and stuff to be like he needs tobe doing this.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
A lot of my family they're all like educate.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
A lot of them have degrees and master degrees.
So it was like just me.
And I'm like, oh hey, to get adegree.
I don't know what's going to bein it, Let me just get one or
whatever.
Whatever job, I'm going to getthat.
And I realize that this is justnot it.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
I'm not going to waste my money, my time cheating
for the reason.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Yes, I did.
I'm going to be honest.
I'm just stressed and I'm like,no, now I'm like okay, now I
know that I actually do enjoymarketing.
That's something I do reallyenjoy, I think, probably when I
go back to school.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I'm not going to say, if I'll go with the wind, I'm
going to choose my wordscorrectly, I would find doing
like public relations.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah or like non-profit public relations.
Just won't go anytime.
One of those ones are somethingthat can lead me to that.
That is a culture.
That is what I can kind of seemyself doing, but it takes a
process.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
It does.
And I like how you kept, likeyou said, growth a few times,
because it doesn't matter ifyou're 30 and you haven't gone
to school.
It all matters is that you're30 and you have a growth mindset
or yeah, 35, 40, whatever.
Like, as long as you have agrowth mindset, you're going to
be successful, whether that'sgoing to school right out of
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high school whether that's notgoing to school, or you know?
Yeah, whatever, it is thegrowth mindset.
You want to talk to me.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You want to talk to me, cole.
I'm glad that you think I knowhow to work with my dad, but I
don't.
I'm going to take it to yourmom.
I don't know how to find it.
I'm going to take it to yourmom.
Can we give it to mom and do it?
Because I'm going to do it.
I think one thing that servesas a disadvantage for a lot of
people is, I feel like a lot oftimes we all talk about college
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in a sense of like the four yeardegree and the traditional,
like degrees you can get.
I feel like a lot of times wedon't talk about the fact that
you may just want to go throughnails and you may want to open
up a nail business or you mayjust want to become a mechanic
and open up your mechanic shop.
I feel like a lot of timesyou're a lineman or an elder I
feel like those options a lot oftimes aren't given in the sense
(27:16):
and especially I feel likesometimes I'm not respected as
like a professional.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I don't look the same my husband.
Actually he's a fourthgeneration fireman and he knew
from the time he was Cole's agelike two he wanted to be a
fireman.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
He's like.
He's like Cole has all thosefire trucks.
Yes, in the world.
Speaker 4 (27:36):
But he talks all the time about how he would run into
different people, even in likehis immediate family, that would
tell him, okay, you can do that, that's noble, but you're never
going to make any money doingthat.
Like all of the struggles, sameas any kind of manual labor job
, like as soon as your body isnot able to do it, like, what
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are you going to do?
And his perspective has alwaysbeen like I want to grow in it
and excel and get thecertifications and things.
So that way, even if I can't dothe manual labor portion of it
like, I still have some kind ofavenue to fall back on.
But he's also proven that wrongin that he is very successful
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financially as a fireman.
He's just made the necessarysacrifices to do that, to make
it happen.
So I think any field of work,especially the technical
industries and degrees andthings, are fabulous jobs and I
think they're overlooked andvery underrated for what they
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are valued for.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Yeah, because not everyone's willing to do them
Right.
Speaker 4 (28:48):
I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
My fiance is alignment.
I don't want to be alignment,but he's very good at it.
He's done very well in it.
Speaker 4 (28:56):
They make some serious money.
Thank you for my wife Trissy.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Excuse me, my life is out.
He's not aligned in a songcourse.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
I think it's just crazy, though, because even now,
like, I feel like with the kidsat the church, a lot of times
you hear them talking about whatthey want to do, and I just
wish a lot of times people wouldjust be more open minded even
to just being an entrepreneur,and I think it's giving more
respect to that, because youknow, how you said earlier,
being a young professional isthe hustle.
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I mean, the number one job thatrequires some hustle is an
entrepreneur.
Oh yeah, because if you don'tdo it, you don't eat.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Yeah there's a girl I follow on Instagram.
Her name's Lauren Goforth.
She grew up in this teeny, tinylittle town in East Texas, near
me.
And we didn't know each otherin high school, but I knew her
through other people as we weregrowing up, and I see her now.
She opened her own salon inDallas.
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She just went to cosmetologyschool and decided, like I'm
going to do this, this is what Iwant to do, but I want to be
successful at it.
Like I don't want to stay hereand limit myself, and so now
she's going to like this LasVegas hair show that she's
nominated for awards for everyyear and it's just such an
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inspirational journey to haveseen her go through and like her
success now and where she is.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
I think that just made me think of something that
kind of I feel like as a youngprofessional.
You for one, have to have selfconfidence, especially today, be
able to walk into, like someboard meetings, or to be able to
lead a team that's older thanyou.
Like you have to own, like you,I want to do that work.
You have to be that girl.
I'm going to sit on the outsideand then also I think it's
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important to have a tribe aroundyou as you're in that growing
state, like, have a mentor.
I think, honestly, it'simportant to have a mentor and a
mentee.
I feel like if someone isinvesting in you, if you have
the time to invest in someoneelse, I believe you should Right
.
Obviously you know what you'recapable of, time wise, and if
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you're even capable to mentor,but if you are, I think it's
important.
A lot of times I feel likethose times when I'm able to sit
down with someone who's youngerthan me and they're asking me
questions or seeking advice fromme or something I learned.
As they're asking me orlistening to them, tell me, hey,
you know what's going on inyour life right now, what's
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going on, and listening to themand having those open into
conversations, I feel like I'velearned from those.
So I just think having someconfidence and not like in a way
of like vein or yeah, but justknowing, like on my computer
right now, it I got it fromAaron it says don't shrink and
don't puff up, oh yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
Yeah, that's where I'm at right now, like wait what
?
Say it again, don't shrink.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Don't shrink or don't puff up.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
I find a lot of times when you walk into something
new.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
either you're going to shrink, meaning you're not
going to say anything.
Yeah, like you don't know, Areyou going to puff up and you're
going to like overdo it.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Just be authentic, yeah basically yeah, yeah.
Yeah, I feel like a lot oftimes, you know, like when
people ask you like, oh, how areyou?
And it's just veryconversational.
I'm not very good at being likeI'm good, how are you?
No, I'm like well, you know,it's been a real crazy day.
A little sweaty right now.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
You know, I'm just like too authentic sometimes.
So I think there's a balanceyou have to find.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
But I do like that, like don't puff, don't shrink,
just just be you.
You know, I feel like I'm notkind of like you.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
But even with trying, like being in this space where
you're having to like beprofessional it's sometimes I
struggle because I'm the onethat's probably laughing loud in
the back, I'm the one that'sgoing to ask the question that
no one else is probably going toask.
That's just me.
But I'm now realizing that Ican still be that person.
You just kind of have to likecurve it in a way yeah, it's
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important, I'm not going to sayI'm not wrong about the wrong
time.
I'm also owning it.
That that's just me.
And I'm still learning, but notin a way like owning it towards
, like I won't change, but it iswhat it is at that point.
But I guess how?
The idea of like having thatself confidence and being a
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professional how important doyou guys think that is?
And having the village aroundyou?
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Well, I think you have professional struggle with
self confidence because, likeimposter syndrome, is the the
antagonist to that selfconfidence.
But I do think that wheneveryou present yourself at the
level of self confidence, likepeople realize that.
So it's very important to havethat in situations as a
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professional where you're tryingto like present well.
You know, and whatever you haveto do to give yourself that
confidence, do it Like this year.
I had to give the speech atOdessa under 40.
Plug OU 40.
If you have never been to ourgala.
This is a whole quote from myfield.
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Yes, young professionals ofOdessa under 40 gala, anyway.
So I had to give a speech right, because chairwoman gives a
speech and so last year I wasalso chairwoman.
I had to give a speech, andlast year I had the most
nightmare situation happen.
I had written my speech wordfor word on my iPad because
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that's the word for me, word forword for now and when I got up
there my iPad was gone and so itwas just this whole flustered
moment.
Anyway, somebody had moved myiPad under the thing, so I had
to fumble and find my iPad, andby that time I was just so
nervous when I gave my speech.
And so this year, knowing that Iwanted to be more confident.
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Up there I wrote my speech, Ipracticed it for days, I
recorded it, I listened to it, Isaid it to myself in the mirror
, like that's what I needed.
That's what I needed to bringup my self confidence.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
So it's important to also know like what it is.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
You need to have the confidence and then do it, make
it happen.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
Right, and for those who weren't there, kaylee's
speech was really good this year.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
She did have a lot of self confidence.
I heard you guys were working.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
Now you know the back side of what I was saying.
Speaker 4 (35:46):
Yes, yes, follow up.
I think on the self confidenceit's important to have, but you
grow into it, so you do.
The more you practice it, beingconfident or presenting
yourself that way, the easier itcomes, the more natural it is,
and it's important to have yourtribe there to supporting it.
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That to me is like the numberone, like finding your people,
and we've had severalconversations, kaylee, about
that, specifically when we'vetalked to people who are
interested in YoungProfessionals of Odessa about us
being a tribe.
And it's easier when you'rewith people who also have that
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growth mindset and want to dobetter and have goals.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Yeah, because then you know, going back to that
specific example, savannahRomero, everybody, I mean y'all
don't know who Romero is.
I forget I'm talking to, likemy friends here.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Yeah, we all run in the same circle.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Anyways, my tribe came up afterwards and was like
oh, you did so good, you did soamazing and like where would I
be if I didn't have y'allsupport?
You know what I mean.
Like it just means the world tohave people see you and
compliment you and think highlyof you, not from like a vain
perspective, it just feels goodin your soul, yeah you know to
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have that positive energy.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
Plus, I feel like being a part of Young
Professionals, you get differentopportunities that you wouldn't
usually get if you were.
I guess a Young Professionaloutside the good world.
Speaker 4 (37:23):
You may get it.
It just may not come as easy.
I think it's what you put intoit.
You get out for sure, Becausewe have all types of members.
We have members that are notvery active, and so they
probably don't receive a lot ofbenefit from it, but we have,
you know, those who are veryactive and are consistently
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showing up and do receive morebenefit from their membership.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
I think I've had more self growth in the last four or
five months.
I've learned my leadershipstyle.
I've learned that I need tostop taking on so much.
I've learned that I'm theperson you call when you need to
be closed.
I can probably help you started.
But I can definitely help you.
Like, if you tell me hey, thisis my plan, can you hold me
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accountable?
Yes, I'm your girl for that.
I learned a lot about myselffrom being a part of a group,
which I think is amazing.
In a sense.
I can help you grow, but I'mactually helping myself grow.
At the same time, I'm realizingthat I can curve my words a
little bit to be able to say thesame message, but say it nicely
(38:35):
, because I really do mean itnicely.
But a lot of times it comes upvery blunt.
Speaker 4 (38:40):
I think it's important to bring up to a
conversation.
You and I had Yanni the otherday when we were walking about
how we were discussing somethingabout not everyone in YPO right
now is on the same level intheir professional journey or
self-development or leadershipstyle journey.
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That is okay, because the pointof the organization and the
point of us as a tribe really isto be able to help each other
get where we are uniquelysupposed to be.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
On that, journey, I think, also realizing that just
because I like the community andI would like to maybe one day
serve the community, that's notthe same for everyone else, like
they just may want to grow andgrow as a leader, but that may
be it.
So it's the fact that, like Iguess, just respecting
boundaries, the time comes backtoo.
Speaker 3 (39:35):
Yeah, yeah, that's another thing that I wish I
would have told myself when Iwas younger that I knew when I
was younger is the concept ofboundaries because, in my effort
to like be in the room you knowbe the one that people would go
to and whatever, because it wasall about me, whatever.
Anyways, in that I forgot howto say no.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
I still struggle with that Girl stop.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
Don't ask me anything right now, because I'll say yes
, that's why I'm here.
Also a joke I'm here because Igenuinely want to be.
I'm good.
She said no.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I really know why she said yes, I know.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
Seriously, like when I was younger.
I just didn't know how to sayno, because I didn't know what
the concept of boundaries was.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
Like.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
I didn't realize that by saying yes to volunteering
at this thing, I was saying noto spending time with my loved
ones or whatever it is.
There's a balance that you haveto find.
It is, I feel, like my duty togive back to those around me,
but those around me alsoincludes my family, my fiance,
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my friend, things like that.
So boundaries?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I think I looked up because some of the guys I'm
dating a lot of times are doingstuff.
We're doing it together.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
So that makes it easier because my previous ex no
.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
We had completely different mindsets and that was,
I think, one of the reasons itled to divorce, because I have a
heart to serve, the heart forthe community.
So he didn't at all and I canprobably say try to dim the
light there.
That was there.
So this around I was like, ohno, like if you don't rock with
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it or you're going to respect it.
So this time I think I have amixture of both.
That makes it good.
But you do have a point there,because a lot of my family is
like, hey, I don't see you andI'm like, well, if they do see
me, they're probably catching meout at any minute.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
Because I am saying yes to quite a few things and
it's good you know that we wantto say yes to stuff.
That means we care.
Speaker 4 (41:48):
Yeah, that means yes, but the problem is burnout's
real.
Well, that too.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
We can talk to them now, but I'm going to say it and
if someone order here and wantsto talk about it, we can have a
conversation.
But I feel like a lot of timesthe older generation, I feel
like is giving the youngergeneration all the dirty jobs.
Like we're having to almost goback and clean up some like some
systems and some programs, andthen I'd be like okay, I'm going
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to do the ones.
I'm in, right, so that's thecase.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Like they're giving us a lot.
It's a lot of work.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
And but it's all of the work that they don't want to
do.
So it's not actually teachingyou anything.
You're not teaching about theboard you're on.
They're just giving you all thework, the manual labor part of
it, which can create the burnoutand can mess up the, I guess
the love for serving.
Because, you're putting the badenvironment, but burnout is
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real.
Speaker 4 (42:44):
Have you all experienced burnout?
Oh yeah, we just looked at eachother and we're like, yeah, I'm
on the same side, I'm about to.
Yeah, I mean I'm not sure.
I guess I didn't realize whatburnout was when I had my first
like go of it or firstexperience with it, and so now
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I'm able to recognize it and Iknow quit fasting and a hurry
when I'm running into it andthat is something that I'm
really trying to work onpersonally is not filling up my
plate, being able to say no andrecognizing farther out in
advance what I am actuallycapable of taking on.
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So, I mean, I'm not perfect atit by any means, it is really
hard to do, but I did it.
Speaker 2 (43:39):
Burnouts tough.
Speaker 4 (43:43):
And especially if you're getting burnout doing
something that you love to do,just feel so bad yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
I mean it burnout like takes the energy out of you
.
It takes you to negative.
Like you know, I'll say it, inmy previous job I would I didn't
realize how much Emotional,like mental energy I was using
just to show up every day, likeit took so much out of me that
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it impacted my ability to do myjob because I was just like,
okay, I'm here, made it, yeah,another day, but like it's, it's
real, it takes it out of you towhere you just can't even
function properly.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
No, I thought that's what's my old job, and I stayed
there six months.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
Well, I was that little drop six years no.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
I did six months and I was like, yeah, and that also
brings up something else.
I feel like a lot of times as aprofessional we stay on stuff
too long and we deal with likethe we have to have a sense of
loyalty almost.
Not mean, it's true, but I wantto be like forget them.
(44:59):
They don't care about you halfthe time anyway, because if
something happens to you,they're gonna place you.
Always try to come Sometimes.
You just know.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
I like the stigma that young professionals Don't
have that sense of loyalty,though I think it is that we
don't want to put up with thethe negative and the the
disrespect sometimes, or I'mgonna say it's loyal, but we're
not the lowest.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
Let a ployer load to ourselves.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
Yes, in our values and our morals.
Speaker 2 (45:30):
That's where we're loyal to that, and they did like
.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
I said you can be loyal to that job.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Something happened to you or you can't show the word
and your job be on handy beforeyou go out the door.
Good, yeah, yes, so don't sayyourself for the job, I am a big
leadership is from the top down.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
Yeah, and so, specifically for me as a working
mom, it is a game changer.
Working under your ship thatare also working moms yes, they
get it, and that's somethingthat, in this season, matches my
lifestyle and is somethingthat's really important to me.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:07):
Because, I may try to understand it, but I just won't
twist a degree because I don'thave, you know, a little one at
home to understand with how thatadds to it, but something I
want to share with you guys.
Speaker 1 (46:20):
So today, Just into the sermon.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
I did so, so it was the help with the headiness.
Yes, so I kind of thisconversation right now.
I feel like it's the pointsthat he made at the end.
(46:44):
I think they're very fitting.
So the whole point of it washow, what I gathered.
Anyway, we all like thesecolumns on our lives and we're
out doing all this amazingthings, but there's times where
we're doing good but it justbecomes heavy and it becomes a
lot and it's like what do you dowith that?
So, either, just some pointersthat Patrick Cliff gave hope
(47:06):
alive this morning.
So it was commit to rest,invest your relationship with
God.
I Get some people, so have yourtribe, so me, and you have
someone that you can say hey,I'm tired, or like that person
can look at you and say like,hey, what's going on?
Yeah and they could help carrythat load for you.
(47:26):
And so it's not, you're stillkeeping.
The last one is keep your eyeson the price.
So you're still able to keepyour eyes on the prize.
But then you have your tribethat come along excited you and
we carry the load, so where youcan still get it, the job done.
And I just I was like when hewas talking this morning I was
like dude, it's so crazy becausethis time so I just be like Not
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ready, and then there's eitherphone calls that I happen, or
you know someone to check in, orAaron, be like yeah, aaron is
so good at that, so.
Speaker 3 (48:03):
I'll just call him and be like hey, you know, blah,
blah, blah, have beenconversation.
He's like what's the matter?
And I'm like, well, yes, howdid you know?
Speaker 4 (48:11):
Yes, he's so good at that.
That's the type of person Iwant my child, though, yeah yeah
people who know meauthentically and can recognize
and support and encourage me.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
When wrong, you like bro.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
I was hoping that she was mine gonna know this, yeah,
and then you know this is, buthe is good at that.
Speaker 2 (48:31):
He'll call it out and he'll sit there listening and
give you a.
I Having someone like him, Ihope that if you guys don't I
said it before I'm like If youdon't have an area, I find you
one, but he's.
But he's a good like.
He'll listen to your problem.
He's gonna help you find asolution for the problem.
Speaker 4 (48:53):
So where it's not just.
I hate my job and you're havinglike a vent session.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
Like you're listening .
Speaker 4 (49:03):
And then they say okay, here's the action.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
What are we gonna do about it?
What are we gonna?
Speaker 2 (49:07):
move.
What are you gonna do?
Um.
I think it's important yeahit's just vending, especially
when it's not a healthyenvironment.
Really, I mean, you may feelbetter for those two seconds,
but you don't go back to thesame situation again if you
haven't figured out how to, IGuess, change it and make it
better.
So is there anything that I'mforgetting about?
Young professional, anythingyou want to?
Speaker 1 (49:27):
add.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
Or maybe, if you any advice you would give a young
professionalist like losing hope.
Speaker 4 (49:36):
Well, I would be very hard-pressed as the membership
liaison if I was not pluggingsigning up for my PM.
I think just really doing someself reflection, setting goals
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for yourself and finding peoplewho are a part of your tribe and
evaluating what a tribe is.
So it's not just people thatare going out with you and
partying every night and want toHear you then and then not be
fruitful from it.
It's people who are gonna tellyou and have those hard
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Conversations with you becausethey want you to be a better
person.
Speaker 3 (50:24):
Yeah, I would say to a young professional losing hope
like Sometimes it's hard to seea way out of our situations
like one, especially when we'rereal deep in it.
And so one thing that I havestarted telling myself and Y'all
are gonna think this is sosilly, but earlier I was telling
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Um, yanni and Savannahlisteners, I'm talking to you um
, I was telling them that I'm aDisney fanatic.
And so One thing that I tellmyself I picked up from one of
my favorite movies ever frozenfrozen to, actually, and we
watched it today out.
And so Princess Anna findsherself in this Dark, dark cave,
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in this dark, dark moment inher life where she thinks her
sister has just died and thesong that she sings is Do the
next right thing, oh yes.
And so she's in this place ofgrief and sadness and she tells
herself, like just do the nextright thing, which in that
moment, is just get out of thecave.
Right, she's an actual cave,and so that's what I have told
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myself.
In situations where I'm reallydown, I'm like just do the next
right thing.
You know, if I'm at work andI'm just really not feeling it,
just do the next right thing,just, you know, check your
checklist and see what it is youcan get done like, even if you
don't feel like it or If youhate your job or you know.
Whatever the situation is, dothe next right thing and get
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your resume prepped and then seehow you feel after that.
You know, one step at a time issometimes how we just have to
take it.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (52:09):
I'm gonna have to write that down somewhere.
I think, minds is Don't beafraid to start over yes, and
start over as many times as youneed to.
I think as you get older, youlearn more, more about yourself.
We realize you're a man likethat and that's okay, but at the
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same time, have the courage andthe faith that you need to step
out and try something new.
Oh yeah, it relies that if thatdon't work, you can just keep
going, drive something out Imean, obviously, eventually over
the land on something stablebut just don't be afraid to
start over, and no one's perfectyeah so therefore you're not
perfect, therefore I'm notperfect.
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So don't go in the mindset or gointo situation thinking you
have to be perfect and then soI'm reading.
Well, I'll be honest.
Speaker 1 (53:00):
I'm listening to Tom the cabinets.
Speaker 2 (53:02):
I'm not reading that I'm reading the Michelle Obama
book.
But and one of the things thathe talked about that I cannot
get out of my head is, a lot oftimes when we are setting habits
, we base it off of like a goal,but we don't look at the
strategy to get to the goal.
So if we're just focused on youknow, I want to lose 20 pounds,
only 20 pounds, I'm only 20pounds but you're not looking at
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the strategy to get to the 20like.
Speaker 1 (53:26):
What does your diet look?
Speaker 2 (53:27):
like what is your gym routine?
Look like how much water areyou drinking, how much rest are
you getting?
Like if you're not setting thatup correctly, you're not going
to be able to get to that goal.
Yeah so I would just say, youknow, as a benefit, look at your
goal, we're looking at thatgoal, look at that strategy to
get to that goal and make surethat you're not Putting more
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than you put that you canactually handle.
Let's be realistic here, likeif you can't go to school right
now or maybe you can go and takeone class.
Take the one class and pass it.
Yeah, don't put four on yourplate if you can't do four.
Right, so that's what we have.
If you would like to become amember of Young Professionals, I
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will Probably just link it onthe Facebook page, probably the
easiest way to do that.
Yeah, that's the best way.
For let's go.
Maybe still, our events we havecoming up for young
professionals If anybody may belistening to this and they're
like hey, I want to come hangout with y'all.
I think y'all selling y'allsome bomb chicks, which we are
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Our next event is we have yoganight coming up in September on
I believe is the 28th.
Speaker 4 (54:44):
Yes and that will be at stomping grounds from six to
eight yes, and then we will havebowling with YPO in October,
also, yeah.
And then we'll have our kickoffparty in January, which is open
to all the community.
Of course, we want everyone tocome to all of our events, but
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if you really want to find outmore about us and Get to meet
everyone, then the kickoff mixeris a really good event to come
to you.
Speaker 3 (55:14):
There's also a book club.
Speaker 2 (55:17):
Yes, that's October 7th.
At Jason's Valley, I think weonly have one on the desk, so I
can just say Jason's Daily right.
Yes, okay, 1130 to 1.
We are reading criticalconversations because, once
again at YPO, we're about growthhere.
So if you can't have aconversation, what you're doing?
So we're trying to set you guysup, including myself, for
(55:40):
success with being able tocommunicate.
So, yeah, that's not.
Yeah, I think that's it.
Oh, my last question, beforeone of you guys prays, is what
do you stand for?
And that could be as simple aslike one thing, or you can list
a bunch.
Speaker 4 (56:03):
I stand for doing what is Right, and that is very
hard to do a lot of times, but Ihave a clear conscience if I
know that I'm at least doingwhat's right.
Speaker 3 (56:19):
I Am gonna answer your question by reading you my
personal mission statement.
Speaker 2 (56:27):
You have a personal mission statement.
Speaker 3 (56:29):
Yes, I do.
I do have a personal missionstatement.
Speaker 2 (56:33):
I'm fighting like I thought I'm gonna make one
myself.
Speaker 3 (56:37):
Yeah well, so I'll just tell you why I crafted one.
To begin with, I went to aWomen in banking seminar this
past March and one of thespeakers it was basically like a
personal branding session andshe was just talking about like
Finding, finding the why andwhatever it is that you do right
and that doesn't just apply tobanking, obviously.
(56:57):
So she kind of leaded us,leaded I can't speak English,
I'm sorry.
She led us through thispersonal mission statement
crafting and so it was so funnybecause a lot of people were
like, well, I don't really knowwhat to say.
The Just of it was I strive forthis by doing this you know and
(57:19):
like for me in that moment.
It was so easy for me to come upwith and I just credit that not
to myself but just to, like youknow, being connected to God
and having a relationship withhim.
Like all the things I do everyday, I try to tie back to him.
So, anyways, long story short.
This is my personal missionstatement.
(57:40):
I Strive to be a light to thosearound me by serving.
In leading, I strive to inspireothers to also have a positive
impact on those around them.
Speaker 2 (57:52):
It's like long.
I love that.
I feel like we need to have awhen it's time we do that vision
board.
You need to have like a howpeople make their mission
statement.
Speaker 3 (58:02):
Yeah, because it really I Mean it.
Whatever it is that you do inlife, the why you're doing it is
the most important reason.
I mean the thing like if youdon't know why you're doing it,
you're never gonna findhappiness or peace or joy in
anything that you're doing.
That's what.
(58:22):
I stand for.
Speaker 4 (58:25):
I think that's everyone's homework is to create
a personal mission statementnow, I'm sure, okay, I have one
question.
Speaker 2 (58:31):
I realize that's the most important question that I
can believe we forgot.
Oh God is now.
How is your faith play part inyou being a young professional?
Speaker 4 (58:41):
Yeah, I think it helps in my confidence something
to fall back on and I I Kaleyand I had a very great
conversation where Kaylee wastelling me about a Speaker she
listened to, and Kaylee go aheadand speak a little bit about
(59:03):
that, because I think that'simportant and this is one of my
pillars.
Speaker 3 (59:07):
Yeah, so her name is Julie Schneers, and she talks
about Identifying pillars andusing them to Make your
decisions based off of, and thereason that you do all this is
this is how you leave a legacy.
(59:28):
You know, what type of legacydo you want to leave behind?
What do you want to beremembered for?
And so the first step inanswering that what do you want
to be remembered for?
Is identifying three to fourpillars, and the pillars are
things that are important to youand that you value.
You know it can be family, god,truth, equality.
(59:52):
You know anything, it'sdifferent for anybody, right?
But you use those pillars tohelp you.
So when somebody comes to youand says, hey, do you want to be
on the board of XYZ, okay I'm.
Before I say yes or no, I'mgoing to evaluate, based on my
pillars, if this is going tocontribute to those things.
Speaker 4 (01:00:13):
So I think that I really made an impact on me when
Kaylee and I had thatdiscussion and so now, moving
through my leadership journeyand professional journey, all of
my decisions I have Made basedon that, but my faith is also
Leaved into each one of thosepillars, and so does this
(01:00:35):
support my faith and does itultimately support the legacy
that I want to leave behind?
Speaker 3 (01:00:40):
Yeah, and I think For me how faith impacts.
You know my journey as a youngprofessional.
God calls us to be the light ofthe world in the Bible, and so
to me that's a big statement,right, the light of the world.
(01:01:01):
The world is a big place.
Well, break it down.
That means being the light ofyour community, mm-hmm.
The light of your family, youknow, the light of whatever
circle it is, you run in thelight of the job that you're.
Whatever it is, you're calledto be the light of the world and
so, as a professional, I'vejust clung to that and sometimes
(01:01:26):
I cling to it better thanothers, right, because we're not
perfect.
But I'm called to be a light tothis community, and so In my
professional job, I do that byhelping businesses grow and
prosper.
And in my volunteer circle, Imean Delivering a meal to an
(01:01:47):
elderly person.
That's being a light.
You know delivering.
You know boxes, putting boxesin the, in the cars as they come
through for the food bankthat's being a light.
And it's not a hard task, youknow like it's such a simple
thing, but it's amazing how muchjoy it brings you Inside, like
(01:02:11):
anytime send over at Mills onwheels is like hey, we really,
really need somebody.
Can you please pick up a route,if I can do it?
Speaker 2 (01:02:19):
I mean, it makes my day, you know it's just so that
was me that Thursday or Fridaywhen I was like I'm having the
best day and it's Friday, it'snot yeah, but you know, yeah,
Like I'm like I don't thinkpeople realize how I think they
get stuck on the word likevolunteering, but they don't
(01:02:41):
realize how, as much as you aredoing something for someone else
, you know, they don't realizehow much your I don't know I get
more out of volunteering.
Then sometimes I feel like thepeople who are volunteering get
from me.
Yeah, like the idea of doinglike Mills on wheels and going
to those homes and seeing liketheir face when they get the
(01:03:03):
meals, or Seeing something, aliving situation.
Speaker 1 (01:03:06):
It's a very humbling experience.
Speaker 2 (01:03:08):
Yeah, it makes it to where.
Yes, when she does call, youpick up that phone and you're
like, yep, let me go ahead.
And then even like bouncingwith the youth when we have that
event in Midland and it was thekids from a Midland team court.
Mm-hmm where, at the end of it,they were just telling Aaron and
I thank you, we're like dude,what do we like?
We didn't do nothing and theywere like, well, just thank you
(01:03:28):
for like listening to us, yeah,and making us feel like
important.
Yeah, people feel like you areimportant.
They are, they have feelings,they have voices.
It needs to be heard.
But I just, I don't know, everytime I volunteer, it's always a
a good Reset for me.
Mm-hmm and it kind of just ithelps me keep going.
(01:03:48):
Yeah, they're like to where,like right now I have closer in
my car for crisis center andtheir text to me.
Speaker 1 (01:03:54):
You pick up.
Speaker 2 (01:03:55):
Reason my phone went off earlier was I'm on Friday
looking for Bibles for kids forthe Youth detention center and
she finally has the Bibles.
She's calling me to pick up theBible so we can take them over
there and then can you justthanks to me.
And she has closed for theHarmony home.
So it's like he said.
I do agree with you.
(01:04:15):
I'm realizing that your missionstatement can very much so be
mine, because that's been there.
We're very similar, I think.
Volunteer, if I saw people whohaven't done it.
(01:04:36):
Find whatever you're passionateabout.
Your passion may not be mypassion.
Are you passionate aboutanimals?
I, personally, I think politely, don't care about it, don't
hate me, don't stop listening.
I just animals is not my thing,but it's whatever you're
(01:05:00):
passionate about.
Get plugged in and I promiseyou, just give it six months and
it'll make a difference in yourlife.
Yes, I stand by.
Wherever I can, I can help thatthey have the sober walk over
the weekend and I would open oneof my projects.
I didn't personally lose anyoneto fit in all but you, hearing
(01:05:22):
everyone else's stories and howI'm really can affect and how
it's really Effective in youthand getting to them.
I'm like, shoot, let me gostand alongside of you.
So that do Really carefully use.
So I think that was another wayfor me, or into them without
directly pouring into them, andI'm having fun People and you
hear people's stories.
Speaker 1 (01:05:42):
I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
I'm so into hearing everyone's stories, but I am
yeah well, because it's likeit's just interesting to hear
people's perspective on thingsand you see why they like the
things.
They do make sense when youhear where they came from, and
it's very interesting to seethat.
Speaker 2 (01:06:01):
You know, and I feel like a lot of time.
That's why they're so like,much like.
I don't like you.
It's how does that we just stopand have a conversation to get
to know the person?
Yes, you know, all makes sensebut a lot of times, either Both
parties don't want to talk orit's not a safe place to be able
to talk, which is once againwhy I created this podcast.
(01:06:23):
I'm like, hey, I want to havecome with my friends our real
topics and I want to make it towhere it's a comfortable space
for them.
You know when I started alwayssay hey, is there anything that
you guys do not want me to share?
Good in the day, I'm asking youto come on here and, you know,
spit your guts, and I want tomake sure you guys feel
comfortable.
I don't want to make it towhere it's like, you know, I
(01:06:45):
don't ask the question or youtell me not to say something.
Here I am saying like you willnever come back, and then I also
don't want to be a part of thereason why someone stumbles.
I never want that.
Speaker 1 (01:06:57):
So I just try to pay something to say to where
Therapy this is to me.
Speaker 2 (01:07:03):
I wanted to be for you guys.
Speaker 3 (01:07:10):
There's some looks going on in the room.
Thank you for having us.
Speaker 2 (01:07:25):
No problem.
No problem, we're gonna startup the white P O Podcast.
Call you having anything youwant to tell people.
He said hi.
Speaker 1 (01:07:33):
Okay, no, we're just gonna be forever now you heard
him, though.
Speaker 2 (01:07:35):
He's here.
You want.
Daddy, are you ready to leave?
He's packing up, y'all he said,alright, I don't know who I
should throw out paper scissors.
But who's praying?
Speaker 3 (01:08:06):
Here we go.
Dear heavenly father, we gotHold on listeners.
Maybe Cole wants to pray.
Speaker 2 (01:08:16):
Do you want to?
Speaker 1 (01:08:17):
pray no.
Speaker 3 (01:08:23):
All right.
We count to you, heavenlyfather, grateful for this space,
grateful for the conversationsthat we have had today, grateful
that we can rely on one anotheras friends, as a tribe, as
People who are in a growthmindset, who are going to help
(01:08:44):
us grow, and all that we do.
We thank you for this communityand for the chance that you
give us every day to wake up andto have a positive impact on it
.
I want to say a prayer for allthe young professionals who are?
listening and, even if they'renot in professionals, anyone
under the sound of our voices,that you will guide them and
(01:09:04):
leave them in the decisions thatthey make.
And Maybe, if they're not in aplace right now where they they
feel like they can reach out toyou, or maybe they feel like
they can't hear your voice, Iwould ask that you help them
grow closer to you because, atthe end of the day, you want us
to have an abundant life full ofblessings, and we thank you for
(01:09:26):
that.
So, once again, please be withall of us.
Thank you for this conversationand for these wonderful ladies
here at the table today.
We love you and we ask all thisand proud this.
Speaker 2 (01:09:39):
Your prayer was like yeah, yeah.
See that because you're such asafe space that I can see that.
(01:10:00):
Yes, all right.
So those who are listening,just remember that you were
loved.
You were unique.
God does not make mistakes Inthe world.
Need you?
I don't know what the one youbefore you only know that
question you and the Lord, butthe Lord needs you.
So Peace out, have a greatWeekend.
(01:10:21):
Second, when I drop, is it aFriday?
Oh yeah weekend and and Go beawesome.
I.
Hello everyone, welcome to season two of
standing your truth podcast.
I'm your host, yanni.
On this podcast, you will hearmyself, family and friends
having open ended discussions onanything from faith, finances,
relationships and how to staymotivated during life trying
times.
Make sure you follow me on all.
My social media link is in thebio.
(00:24):
Sit back and get ready to enjoy.
Hello, hello everyone, welcometo another episode of standing
your truth podcast.
Once again, I am your host,Yanni.
Today I have again a dual setof co-hosts.
(00:46):
I'm going to allow them tointroduce themselves.
Speaker 3 (00:52):
Hello everyone.
My name is Kaylee Banda and Iwear many hats, and I don't know
which hats Yanni would like meto say, but my name is Kaylee
Banda, whatever one you want.
I'm a commercial lender atSouthwest Bank.
I'm a chairwoman for theUnprofessionals of Odessa.
(01:14):
I sit on the board for thePurring Basin Rehab Center and
the Alarm Center.
I'm glad to be here.
Speaker 4 (01:24):
Hey everyone, I'm Savannah Woodward.
I serve as the director ofspecial events for the Shepherd
Leadership Institute at theUniversity of Texas, Permian
Basin.
I also serve as the membershipliaison on the board of
directors for theUnprofessionals of Odessa.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
I just feel like I messed up.
I said dual, I have three, sowe actually have a, I guess the
youngest co-host that's been on.
Do you have anything you wantto say to the mic?
No, he's playing with firetrucks.
So we also have Savannah Sonnerjoining us as well, so he may
(02:03):
jump on and say a few thingswhenever he gets ready.
Speaker 1 (02:06):
Shepherd, shepherd, yeah keyboard whenever he gets
ready, so I have them on here.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
The topic for today is just being a professional
nowadays and what that lookslike for us.
I think we're kind of all atdifferent stages.
Obviously, you have Savannah,who's just no being a mom, so
we'll go over that.
But before that gets started,we're just going to do our house
(02:32):
questions to kind of get warmedup and have a couple of ice
burgers Don't look so sad, cole.
What's wrong?
The first one is what motivatesyou?
What is your why?
Speaker 4 (02:44):
For life I can, yeah.
Well, a big why for me isobviously my family.
So having a kid, it reallychanges the game.
You have someone who's lookingat to you and so you have to
provide and you want to set thatgood example.
And so spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically, all
(03:08):
of the all of the things, butalso like just for myself.
I know for those who aren'treally familiar with my
background, I was not superfortunate growing up in my
childhood and so trying to dobetter for my family and really
for myself and my education isreally important to me, the
(03:31):
engagement and all of thosethings.
So that's my why.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Okay, samantha, the main cove man.
He's taking back all hisclothes on the table.
Here you go, sorry, no, okay,my bad, all right, what's your
why?
Speaker 3 (03:47):
My why, I feel like my why is a very broad why, but
I think that we were all givengifts right by our creator and I
truthfully believe that I wasput here to just be a positive
source of energy, to be a light.
Okay, so that's, that's my why.
(04:09):
That's why I do the things thatI do.
That's.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
I felt that kind of lines up with mine a lot of the
time, I feel like I was meant tojust encourage but keep going.
So I don't know, yeah.
However, wherever I land isalways kind of the area I end up
in, so I understand that.
So how do you guys protect yourmental health or what is your
self care routine?
Speaker 4 (04:32):
That's kind of an ongoing journey.
Yeah, discovery.
Speaker 1 (04:36):
Yes.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
It's day by day for me, like the more I've matured
and the more that I've grown,I've had to really evaluate and
be self aware and like selfassist and kind of play off that
.
So like what I needed last yearis not the same as what I
needed this year, that's true,just being able to see that and
kind of navigate it.
Speaker 3 (04:59):
Yeah, I like how you touched on self awareness.
That is so key because I have areally bad habit of
overthinking things and so whenI get in this like area in my
brain room, just like beingreally hard on myself, it's very
easy for me to stay in thosehabits.
(05:20):
So just being self aware, ithas really helped me.
And then doing simple thingslike going outside and just
enjoying God's creation, likefeeling the breeze, feeling the
warmth of the sun, finding joyin those little things helps me
protect my mental health.
(05:41):
I mean when I can go outside andjust like see two beautiful
birds living their life not acare in the world.
Like that helps me because Iknow that there's something on
this earth that's bigger thanjust me, and whatever it is that
I'm like battling in my headyeah, so Is it dropping?
Speaker 4 (06:00):
I agree with the whole like getting in your own
head, though, because I feellike, as a young professional,
I'm struggling with a lot ofimposter syndrome, as I'm trying
to like, excel and make nextmoves, so navigating that too is
rough, but just taking a breathand kind of realizing like this
(06:22):
is not all there is for me,like this is not all there is in
the world, and the scope isbigger than the tunnel vision
we're getting to yeah.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
That's hard and that's the lesson I'm still
learning.
It's on the ground For sure.
Well, what advice would yougive your younger self?
Speaker 4 (06:46):
It's not always going to be like this.
I would like I don't reallyknow how to put it best, but it
all.
You know how.
Everyone says it took six daysfor everything to be created.
Like he can change your life inone.
(07:07):
Yeah, I just.
That's so range, true.
The older that we get, the morethings happen.
I'm like just because today isnot a bad day or today is a bad
day does not mean that tomorrowis gonna be a bad day.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
I would tell my younger self that it is not
about you.
I may be in my battle andimposter syndrome.
I've always had this like thisneed to just like feel like this
type of person.
You know, like I'm at thislevel, I want people to see me
(07:44):
as this type of person withthese types of characteristics.
And as I've progressedthroughout my journey and like
growing my career, getting moreinvolved in the community, I've
realized that people don'tappreciate you because you're
wearing a beautiful pair ofshoes and you know you have a
(08:06):
super cute outfit or whatever.
Like people appreciate you forthose things.
People appreciate you for justshowing up and like helping out
and putting in the work.
So, that's what I wish I wouldhave known earlier.
Like, it's not about you, it'sabout trying it, but she's got
cute outfits a lot of times, ohyeah, they call those cute heels
.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
Oh yeah, I'm like she definitely does.
I'm gonna play so many cuteheels For sure.
I'm like okay, Hi, I don't knowhow to work this goal.
Give X some.
Oh wait, maybe I do, I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:37):
No no, no, no, no, no , no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no no no, no, no, no, no, no,
no, no, no, no, no.
Speaker 2 (08:45):
I'm just trying to see that I'm not making it in
this video for the first time,but we do have a new overdrive.
Who already knows me?
Those are both eight, 10million dollars, dollars,
scalper 950, one pointher 11100equals 1170.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
So now the question is yeah, if you still know him
he already know you.
You know home.
I was not fulfilled by work, Ididn't care to be fulfilled.
I was not involved inorganizations.
I wanted to come home and just,you know, veg out and not do
anything because I, theresources weren't there or
(09:25):
weren't advocated for.
So it didn't seem as thoughthere was a lot to do.
And then moving to Odessa was agame changer because it was
like oh, we, like nonprofits,are seeking people out, they're
more vocal about their needs and, yes, you don't have to meet
any qualifications as long asyou have a want to come and work
(09:49):
with us.
And the job opportunities andthe community of people really
made me see the value in myselfbecause everyone was so
welcoming and so positive andsupportive, and so I felt more
fulfilled in my career because Ihad a better support system
(10:09):
along the way too.
Speaker 2 (10:10):
How long have you?
Speaker 4 (10:11):
been in Texas.
We moved here.
Well, we lived in Texas all ofmy life, but we moved to Odessa
in March of 22.
So a little over a year now itwas me trying to calculate.
Speaker 3 (10:28):
I'm like okay okay, okay, I would say for me, one
moment that that shaped my lifewas probably the first time I
decided to be involved with theyoung professionals of Odessa.
My friend yes, my friend fromwork at the time, his name was
Andy.
Some of you might have heardthis story, but he invited me to
(10:50):
go to a service committeemeeting for young professionals
of Odessa, and so I had gone totheir annual banquet, you know,
the December before, justbecause the bank I worked for
had bought a table.
That was kind of all I knewabout it at the time, and so he
invited me to this meeting.
I was like sure, why not?
I drove on to him and I'd giveit a go.
(11:12):
So I walked in and you knowthey're talking about their
annual school resupply project.
This was the first year theywere ever going to do it.
The just was to purchase schoolsupplies and donate them in the
middle of the year, once theschool supplies began to run out
and there were no funds toreplenish them.
And so they started talkingabout the school that they've
(11:35):
chosen, you know, has thehighest level of economically
disadvantaged students, and, loand behold, it's the elementary
school that my mom is principalof.
Yes, and so I knew in thatmoment like this is a God thing
that I'm here in this moment,right now, and from then I just
(11:55):
it really opened my eyes to thetype of people that are in this
community like just very genuine, kindhearted, generous people.
And if I hadn't gone to thatfirst meeting, like I don't know
what my journey would have beenlike in the young professionals
.
But now, seven years later,like I'm exiting chairwoman, so
(12:16):
it's just kind of a it's a Godthing really that oh yeah,
that's how it happened.
Speaker 4 (12:21):
Nothing's by accident .
Speaker 2 (12:22):
No.
And then Katie's like I don'twant to say 12, because I'm sure
not 12.
But I think when I finallyrealized that she's what I was
like, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
I'm at 29.
She's a baby.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
Well, I guess in my head, like when I hear you speak
and see how you carry yourself,oh yeah, I definitely.
But just not saying like thatyou look, oh, you definitely
don't.
But just by seeing how youspeak and how you carry yourself
, I was like oh she has to belike someone in her 30s or
something Like.
She has to be on her way out,like she has to be part of that
group that's leaving in my headI'm like she has to be and
(13:02):
they're like.
No, you know I was like.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
Oh, I don't know how to go on it.
Okay, Thank you.
I said excuse me.
Speaker 4 (13:12):
You're not able.
Speaker 2 (13:13):
All right, that's pretty cool.
Well, obviously, let's get intothe topic.
So I guess my first question is, I guess maybe how would you
define a young professional?
Or if someone was listening toeverything, what comes to the
young professional, what wouldyou tell them?
Who was the young professional?
Speaker 3 (13:31):
Well by our organization standards one
definition is someone aged 21 to40.
Speaker 4 (13:39):
So I mean, I don't like you know, I really don't
like putting it in a box so much.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
Not.
Speaker 4 (13:51):
I don't know, some people feel young right, even
though in terms of age they maynot be numerically young right.
But also, like I think peopleassume the concept more or
associate young professionalswith like white collar industry
jobs.
And it doesn't have to be thatlike that, doesn't have to be
(14:15):
the stigma you can be a youngprofessional and excel in any
industry or career.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
Yeah, I think one of the things that I'm always asked
is I don't have a degree.
Speaker 1 (14:24):
I said girl.
Speaker 2 (14:25):
I mean you just come out, yeah, or I'm not in
business for myself, yeah, andI'm like, well, that's cool, I
mean if you want to, but you canstill come on, whatever you can
play.
Speaker 3 (14:37):
One thing that I associate young professionals
with is like the word hustle.
Yes, Like you're just trying tohustle in life, whether that's
your.
You work for somebody, you workfor yourself.
Whatever it is you're doinglike you're just hustling,
trying to make it, trying to winenough hours in the day to call
the day away.
Speaker 4 (14:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
Yeah, I do think sometimes, especially with us
having that cut off of 40,sometimes like should it be 45?
Because I feel like if anyoneelse is like me, I'm putting my
note 32, I'll be 33 in December.
I think that's right, yeah, andI think life is just making
sense.
So I think for the organization, I thought about that, but
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anyway, that's one of the topic.
But what are some challengesthat you guys face as young
professionals at this currentage state year?
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Well, savannah mentioned one earlier.
It's imposter syndrome.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
So what is that?
Can you define that for thosewho may not understand what that
?
Speaker 3 (15:42):
is yeah sure.
I think imposter syndrome isjust the feeling that either A
you're not good enough or B youdon't deserve to be in the
position you're in the situation, the room that you're in, and I
think I feel like a lot ofyoung professionals struggle
with that, maybe because we'rejust growing.
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That's like the stage or growth, growth growth.
Speaker 4 (16:08):
I think what plays into that a lot, though, is one
of the struggles I face,alongside the imposter syndrome
and what kind of feeds it ishaving mature co-workers around
me or older co-workers around methat I wouldn't say don't get
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along with me, but maybe theydon't know me well enough to
know what I am capable of, andso they just assume, because I
am as young as I am, that Idon't have the life experience
or the skill set to necessarilydo the job.
Speaker 2 (16:43):
Well, I know we had someone recently asked me and I
was like but she's managingpeople that are older than her.
They don't respect her becauseshe's younger.
She has the position, the titleand I'm assuming the knowledge,
but because they're older thanher, they're like me, how this?
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And they don't like listen towhat she's saying.
She's like what do I do in thatsituation?
I'm like well, that's tough,you don't have to lay the law
down, you may piss people off,but they're gonna have to rev it
in the day.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
You have that position.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
for a reason, they don't have it.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
I think definitely part of building your skill set
as a young professional islearning.
One of the hardest things tolearn is how to have those
difficult conversations, how tonavigate them.
But I think, knowing to havethem at least, like trying to go
through the motions of learningthem and navigating them, earn
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yourself things and people seeit for what it is, that you are
trying to be a professional anda professional way.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Only for some people.
Speaker 4 (17:54):
Right.
I mean not everything's goingto be perfect.
Speaker 2 (18:00):
Oh, you said oh my, I'm looking for you for your
answer and I'm like oh, you'rekidding.
Yeah, like I already answered,girl, my bad.
What would you say for a youngprofessional who maybe, let's
say, wants to add to theireducation?
Add to their education?
Speaker 3 (18:32):
I would say it's never too late.
You know, the path where youyou graduate high school, you go
to college and you graduate andthen you enter the workforce is
not the path for everybody,especially around here.
I mean, at&t has a lot ofnon-traditional students and I
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think that's amazing becausethat's people wanting to better
their lives.
You can do that at any age.
I'll also say on the flip sideof that, you know, if you are
not married and you don't havekids, like now's the time to do
it, so where it's going to bethe most easiest.
When I went back for mymaster's, I didn't necessarily
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want to go back, but I was likebefore life advances too much,
I'm going to do it.
And so it was still toughbecause I was still on two
boards, trying to build mycareer and do it every day, and
I had to come home and dohomework.
Like it was still tough.
But like throw a child or ahusband on top of that.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
And I can't eat.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I imagine so.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
I think the number one barrier that we see in
higher education specifically isfinancial resources is the
biggest barrier, and what I haveto say to that is specifically
for Odessa.
There are so many resources fortraditional, non-traditional,
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like all walks of life, alllifestyles and circumstances to
be able to receive an educationon your terms.
So, whatever if you have foodinsecurities, like, the schools
are really trying hard to breakdown every barrier that they can
and they've got programs whereyou, if it's your first time
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going for a degree, they want tobe able to help grow the
workforce and become a moreeducated community, and so you
can get your associates or evena bachelor's for muti-pibi for
free.
And so I think more peopleshould try to tap into those
resources, even if it's like aslow and steady kind of race.
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You can't really take a fullload like take advantage of what
you can.
But yeah, I think that's mybiggest piece of advice.
I think there are a lot ofother schools outside of Odessa,
midland area and West Texas ingeneral that are also on the
same track of trying to breakdown all of those barriers.
So just see what's out there.
Speaker 3 (21:16):
See what you can do it fits your lifestyle and the
time is going to pass anyways.
Next year, one year from now,it's going to get here, whether
you decide to do one or twoclasses or not, so why not like
take?
Advantage of it every day thatyou have 100%, so yeah, I think
I'm like a.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
I think I've been a student at too many different
schools.
At this point Still not at thegrade I'm trying.
I'll give it a go.
Speaker 4 (21:43):
Hey, at least you're trying yeah.
Speaker 2 (21:47):
My problem is I'm the person I guess.
Honestly, I think I've probablygrown out of my blood blood
syndrome.
I think that was my problem.
Speaker 1 (21:54):
So every job I would get.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
I would be in school for that job.
So, like at one point, I wantedto be a teacher.
I think that was actually theoriginal reason why I went to
school.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
You'd be a great teacher.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
Then I'd be like, yeah, I'm probably supposed to
fight somebody's kids Never mindI could do it, I would probably
have to be like pre-K.
Yeah, I can't get a grown onebecause they talk too much.
Speaker 4 (22:18):
I feel like you're really tuning into what your
spiritual gift is to and findingthat out to be your passion.
I think that's really importantwhen you are trying to narrow
down what you want to do and howyou want to move forward.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
Yeah, because a lot of young professionals will go
to college and then graduatewith something and then enter
that workforce and then findlike, oh, this is actually not
what I'm passionate about inlife.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
Yeah, I'm trying to tell you.
I was at a class so I didteaching and then I did HR or
like human.
I don't know what the grade was, but it was something that was
centered around because at thattime I was working for a company
and I was their businessmanager, hr person.
I thought, okay, let me get afigure in this.
Then I moved to Texas and thenI started at DPS and with DPS,
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oh, I took something.
Before that I was like you tookme, because it's a semester.
What did I take?
Oh, I think it was like generalsavings or something, but it
was sports management.
Oh, actually it was the one Ishould have stuck with.
It was marketing.
And I should have stuck withthat one.
But I stopped doing it becauseI went to work at DPS and
marketing at DPS Liketechnically I could move up.
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But at that time I had a smallmind and I didn't think of the
fact that I could move to Austinand get a marketing job with
the state.
Like I didn't think that.
I thought in Odessa, what am Idoing with a marketing degree?
You said the driver's licenseoffice.
Speaker 1 (23:46):
Right.
Speaker 2 (23:47):
So I was like no, let me get something to go with the
driver's license office.
So then I started going toschool for emergency management
and Homeland Security which wascompletely interesting.
I did like a lot of semestersin that, maybe like because I
was almost done, because I wasin my junior year, but I didn't
do it anymore.
But I was like, hmm, homelandSecurity really ain't my thing,
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like politics if you know me, Irun the opposite way yeah, like
so emergency management Idefinitely could have done.
I still can.
Speaker 4 (24:17):
Yeah, I really like Kaylee and I have had this
conversation before becauseKaylee loves working at the bank
, she loves who she works forand really enjoys her work.
But that's not necessarily herpassion, right, and I think
that's okay.
I think that's okay.
I know a lot of people are like, hey, find out what you're good
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at and then move in thatdirection.
But even if you find somethingthat is good to support your
lifestyle and that you'recomfortable with doing and it
allows you to be able to do yourpassion, I think that's a good
option too, I think I'm justrealizing, I think, part of the
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growth and holding the mirror upto myself is now I can actually
tell you what I like to do.
Speaker 2 (25:01):
I think before I was definitely allowing my family
and stuff to be like he needs tobe doing this.
Speaker 1 (25:06):
A lot of my family they're all like educate.
Speaker 2 (25:09):
A lot of them have degrees and master degrees.
So it was like just me.
And I'm like, oh hey, to get adegree.
I don't know what's going to bein it, Let me just get one or
whatever.
Whatever job, I'm going to getthat.
And I realize that this is justnot it.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
I'm not going to waste my money, my time cheating
for the reason.
Speaker 2 (25:24):
Yes, I did.
I'm going to be honest.
I'm just stressed and I'm like,no, now I'm like okay, now I
know that I actually do enjoymarketing.
That's something I do reallyenjoy, I think, probably when I
go back to school.
Speaker 1 (25:39):
I'm not going to say, if I'll go with the wind, I'm
going to choose my wordscorrectly, I would find doing
like public relations.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Yeah or like non-profit public relations.
Just won't go anytime.
One of those ones are somethingthat can lead me to that.
That is a culture.
That is what I can kind of seemyself doing, but it takes a
process.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
It does.
And I like how you kept, likeyou said, growth a few times,
because it doesn't matter ifyou're 30 and you haven't gone
to school.
It all matters is that you're30 and you have a growth mindset
or yeah, 35, 40, whatever.
Like, as long as you have agrowth mindset, you're going to
be successful, whether that'sgoing to school right out of
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high school whether that's notgoing to school, or you know?
Yeah, whatever, it is thegrowth mindset.
You want to talk to me.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
You want to talk to me, cole.
I'm glad that you think I knowhow to work with my dad, but I
don't.
I'm going to take it to yourmom.
I don't know how to find it.
I'm going to take it to yourmom.
Can we give it to mom and do it?
Because I'm going to do it.
I think one thing that servesas a disadvantage for a lot of
people is, I feel like a lot oftimes we all talk about college
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in a sense of like the four yeardegree and the traditional,
like degrees you can get.
I feel like a lot of times wedon't talk about the fact that
you may just want to go throughnails and you may want to open
up a nail business or you mayjust want to become a mechanic
and open up your mechanic shop.
I feel like a lot of timesyou're a lineman or an elder I
feel like those options a lot oftimes aren't given in the sense
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and especially I feel likesometimes I'm not respected as
like a professional.
Speaker 4 (27:20):
I don't look the same my husband.
Actually he's a fourthgeneration fireman and he knew
from the time he was Cole's agelike two he wanted to be a
fireman.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
He's like.
He's like Cole has all thosefire trucks.
Yes, in the world.
Speaker 4 (27:36):
But he talks all the time about how he would run into
different people, even in likehis immediate family, that would
tell him, okay, you can do that, that's noble, but you're never
going to make any money doingthat.
Like all of the struggles, sameas any kind of manual labor job
, like as soon as your body isnot able to do it, like, what
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are you going to do?
And his perspective has alwaysbeen like I want to grow in it
and excel and get thecertifications and things.
So that way, even if I can't dothe manual labor portion of it
like, I still have some kind ofavenue to fall back on.
But he's also proven that wrongin that he is very successful
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financially as a fireman.
He's just made the necessarysacrifices to do that, to make
it happen.
So I think any field of work,especially the technical
industries and degrees andthings, are fabulous jobs and I
think they're overlooked andvery underrated for what they
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are valued for.
Speaker 3 (28:44):
Yeah, because not everyone's willing to do them
Right.
Speaker 4 (28:48):
I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
My fiance is alignment.
I don't want to be alignment,but he's very good at it.
He's done very well in it.
Speaker 4 (28:56):
They make some serious money.
Thank you for my wife Trissy.
Speaker 1 (28:59):
Excuse me, my life is out.
He's not aligned in a songcourse.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
I think it's just crazy, though, because even now,
like, I feel like with the kidsat the church, a lot of times
you hear them talking about whatthey want to do, and I just
wish a lot of times people wouldjust be more open minded even
to just being an entrepreneur,and I think it's giving more
respect to that, because youknow, how you said earlier,
being a young professional isthe hustle.
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I mean, the number one job thatrequires some hustle is an
entrepreneur.
Oh yeah, because if you don'tdo it, you don't eat.
Speaker 4 (29:45):
Yeah there's a girl I follow on Instagram.
Her name's Lauren Goforth.
She grew up in this teeny, tinylittle town in East Texas, near
me.
And we didn't know each otherin high school, but I knew her
through other people as we weregrowing up, and I see her now.
She opened her own salon inDallas.
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She just went to cosmetologyschool and decided, like I'm
going to do this, this is what Iwant to do, but I want to be
successful at it.
Like I don't want to stay hereand limit myself, and so now
she's going to like this LasVegas hair show that she's
nominated for awards for everyyear and it's just such an
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inspirational journey to haveseen her go through and like her
success now and where she is.
Speaker 1 (30:34):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (30:34):
I think that just made me think of something that
kind of I feel like as a youngprofessional.
You for one, have to have selfconfidence, especially today, be
able to walk into, like someboard meetings, or to be able to
lead a team that's older thanyou.
Like you have to own, like you,I want to do that work.
You have to be that girl.
I'm going to sit on the outsideand then also I think it's
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important to have a tribe aroundyou as you're in that growing
state, like, have a mentor.
I think, honestly, it'simportant to have a mentor and a
mentee.
I feel like if someone isinvesting in you, if you have
the time to invest in someoneelse, I believe you should Right
.
Obviously you know what you'recapable of, time wise, and if
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you're even capable to mentor,but if you are, I think it's
important.
A lot of times I feel likethose times when I'm able to sit
down with someone who's youngerthan me and they're asking me
questions or seeking advice fromme or something I learned.
As they're asking me orlistening to them, tell me, hey,
you know what's going on inyour life right now, what's
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going on, and listening to themand having those open into
conversations, I feel like I'velearned from those.
So I just think having someconfidence and not like in a way
of like vein or yeah, but justknowing, like on my computer
right now, it I got it fromAaron it says don't shrink and
don't puff up, oh yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:06):
Yeah, that's where I'm at right now, like wait what
?
Say it again, don't shrink.
Speaker 2 (32:12):
Don't shrink or don't puff up.
Speaker 1 (32:14):
I find a lot of times when you walk into something
new.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
either you're going to shrink, meaning you're not
going to say anything.
Yeah, like you don't know, Areyou going to puff up and you're
going to like overdo it.
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Just be authentic, yeah basically yeah, yeah.
Yeah, I feel like a lot oftimes, you know, like when
people ask you like, oh, how areyou?
And it's just veryconversational.
I'm not very good at being likeI'm good, how are you?
No, I'm like well, you know,it's been a real crazy day.
A little sweaty right now.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
You know, I'm just like too authentic sometimes.
So I think there's a balanceyou have to find.
Speaker 3 (32:48):
But I do like that, like don't puff, don't shrink,
just just be you.
You know, I feel like I'm notkind of like you.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
But even with trying, like being in this space where
you're having to like beprofessional it's sometimes I
struggle because I'm the onethat's probably laughing loud in
the back, I'm the one that'sgoing to ask the question that
no one else is probably going toask.
That's just me.
But I'm now realizing that Ican still be that person.
You just kind of have to likecurve it in a way yeah, it's
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important, I'm not going to sayI'm not wrong about the wrong
time.
I'm also owning it.
That that's just me.
And I'm still learning, but notin a way like owning it towards
, like I won't change, but it iswhat it is at that point.
But I guess how?
The idea of like having thatself confidence and being a
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professional how important doyou guys think that is?
And having the village aroundyou?
Speaker 3 (33:47):
Well, I think you have professional struggle with
self confidence because, likeimposter syndrome, is the the
antagonist to that selfconfidence.
But I do think that wheneveryou present yourself at the
level of self confidence, likepeople realize that.
So it's very important to havethat in situations as a
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professional where you're tryingto like present well.
You know, and whatever you haveto do to give yourself that
confidence, do it Like this year.
I had to give the speech atOdessa under 40.
Plug OU 40.
If you have never been to ourgala.
This is a whole quote from myfield.
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Yes, young professionals ofOdessa under 40 gala, anyway.
So I had to give a speech right, because chairwoman gives a
speech and so last year I wasalso chairwoman.
I had to give a speech, andlast year I had the most
nightmare situation happen.
I had written my speech wordfor word on my iPad because
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that's the word for me, word forword for now and when I got up
there my iPad was gone and so itwas just this whole flustered
moment.
Anyway, somebody had moved myiPad under the thing, so I had
to fumble and find my iPad, andby that time I was just so
nervous when I gave my speech.
And so this year, knowing that Iwanted to be more confident.
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Up there I wrote my speech, Ipracticed it for days, I
recorded it, I listened to it, Isaid it to myself in the mirror
, like that's what I needed.
That's what I needed to bringup my self confidence.
Speaker 1 (35:28):
So it's important to also know like what it is.
Speaker 3 (35:31):
You need to have the confidence and then do it, make
it happen.
Speaker 4 (35:35):
Right, and for those who weren't there, kaylee's
speech was really good this year.
Thank you.
Speaker 1 (35:40):
She did have a lot of self confidence.
I heard you guys were working.
Speaker 2 (35:44):
Now you know the back side of what I was saying.
Speaker 4 (35:46):
Yes, yes, follow up.
I think on the self confidenceit's important to have, but you
grow into it, so you do.
The more you practice it, beingconfident or presenting
yourself that way, the easier itcomes, the more natural it is,
and it's important to have yourtribe there to supporting it.
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That to me is like the numberone, like finding your people,
and we've had severalconversations, kaylee, about
that, specifically when we'vetalked to people who are
interested in YoungProfessionals of Odessa about us
being a tribe.
And it's easier when you'rewith people who also have that
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growth mindset and want to dobetter and have goals.
Speaker 3 (36:35):
Yeah, because then you know, going back to that
specific example, savannahRomero, everybody, I mean y'all
don't know who Romero is.
I forget I'm talking to, likemy friends here.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
Yeah, we all run in the same circle.
Speaker 3 (36:50):
Anyways, my tribe came up afterwards and was like
oh, you did so good, you did soamazing and like where would I
be if I didn't have y'allsupport?
You know what I mean.
Like it just means the world tohave people see you and
compliment you and think highlyof you, not from like a vain
perspective, it just feels goodin your soul, yeah you know to
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have that positive energy.
Speaker 2 (37:14):
Plus, I feel like being a part of Young
Professionals, you get differentopportunities that you wouldn't
usually get if you were.
I guess a Young Professionaloutside the good world.
Speaker 4 (37:23):
You may get it.
It just may not come as easy.
I think it's what you put intoit.
You get out for sure, Becausewe have all types of members.
We have members that are notvery active, and so they
probably don't receive a lot ofbenefit from it, but we have,
you know, those who are veryactive and are consistently
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showing up and do receive morebenefit from their membership.
Speaker 2 (37:49):
I think I've had more self growth in the last four or
five months.
I've learned my leadershipstyle.
I've learned that I need tostop taking on so much.
I've learned that I'm theperson you call when you need to
be closed.
I can probably help you started.
But I can definitely help you.
Like, if you tell me hey, thisis my plan, can you hold me
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accountable?
Yes, I'm your girl for that.
I learned a lot about myselffrom being a part of a group,
which I think is amazing.
In a sense.
I can help you grow, but I'mactually helping myself grow.
At the same time, I'm realizingthat I can curve my words a
little bit to be able to say thesame message, but say it nicely
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, because I really do mean itnicely.
But a lot of times it comes upvery blunt.
Speaker 4 (38:40):
I think it's important to bring up to a
conversation.
You and I had Yanni the otherday when we were walking about
how we were discussing somethingabout not everyone in YPO right
now is on the same level intheir professional journey or
self-development or leadershipstyle journey.
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That is okay, because the pointof the organization and the
point of us as a tribe really isto be able to help each other
get where we are uniquelysupposed to be.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
On that, journey, I think, also realizing that just
because I like the community andI would like to maybe one day
serve the community, that's notthe same for everyone else, like
they just may want to grow andgrow as a leader, but that may
be it.
So it's the fact that, like Iguess, just respecting
boundaries, the time comes backtoo.
Speaker 3 (39:35):
Yeah, yeah, that's another thing that I wish I
would have told myself when Iwas younger that I knew when I
was younger is the concept ofboundaries because, in my effort
to like be in the room you knowbe the one that people would go
to and whatever, because it wasall about me, whatever.
Anyways, in that I forgot howto say no.
Speaker 2 (40:02):
I still struggle with that Girl stop.
Speaker 3 (40:05):
Don't ask me anything right now, because I'll say yes
, that's why I'm here.
Also a joke I'm here because Igenuinely want to be.
I'm good.
She said no.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I really know why she said yes, I know.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
Seriously, like when I was younger.
I just didn't know how to sayno, because I didn't know what
the concept of boundaries was.
Speaker 1 (40:30):
Like.
Speaker 3 (40:30):
I didn't realize that by saying yes to volunteering
at this thing, I was saying noto spending time with my loved
ones or whatever it is.
There's a balance that you haveto find.
It is, I feel, like my duty togive back to those around me,
but those around me alsoincludes my family, my fiance,
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my friend, things like that.
So boundaries?
Speaker 2 (40:57):
I think I looked up because some of the guys I'm
dating a lot of times are doingstuff.
We're doing it together.
Speaker 1 (41:02):
So that makes it easier because my previous ex no
.
Speaker 2 (41:05):
We had completely different mindsets and that was,
I think, one of the reasons itled to divorce, because I have a
heart to serve, the heart forthe community.
So he didn't at all and I canprobably say try to dim the
light there.
That was there.
So this around I was like, ohno, like if you don't rock with
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it or you're going to respect it.
So this time I think I have amixture of both.
That makes it good.
But you do have a point there,because a lot of my family is
like, hey, I don't see you andI'm like, well, if they do see
me, they're probably catching meout at any minute.
Speaker 1 (41:38):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (41:39):
Because I am saying yes to quite a few things and
it's good you know that we wantto say yes to stuff.
That means we care.
Speaker 4 (41:48):
Yeah, that means yes, but the problem is burnout's
real.
Well, that too.
Speaker 2 (41:53):
We can talk to them now, but I'm going to say it and
if someone order here and wantsto talk about it, we can have a
conversation.
But I feel like a lot of timesthe older generation, I feel
like is giving the youngergeneration all the dirty jobs.
Like we're having to almost goback and clean up some like some
systems and some programs, andthen I'd be like okay, I'm going
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to do the ones.
I'm in, right, so that's thecase.
Speaker 1 (42:19):
Like they're giving us a lot.
It's a lot of work.
Speaker 2 (42:21):
And but it's all of the work that they don't want to
do.
So it's not actually teachingyou anything.
You're not teaching about theboard you're on.
They're just giving you all thework, the manual labor part of
it, which can create the burnoutand can mess up the, I guess
the love for serving.
Because, you're putting the badenvironment, but burnout is
(42:42):
real.
Speaker 4 (42:44):
Have you all experienced burnout?
Oh yeah, we just looked at eachother and we're like, yeah, I'm
on the same side, I'm about to.
Yeah, I mean I'm not sure.
I guess I didn't realize whatburnout was when I had my first
like go of it or firstexperience with it, and so now
(43:09):
I'm able to recognize it and Iknow quit fasting and a hurry
when I'm running into it andthat is something that I'm
really trying to work onpersonally is not filling up my
plate, being able to say no andrecognizing farther out in
advance what I am actuallycapable of taking on.
(43:31):
So, I mean, I'm not perfect atit by any means, it is really
hard to do, but I did it.
Speaker 2 (43:39):
Burnouts tough.
Speaker 4 (43:43):
And especially if you're getting burnout doing
something that you love to do,just feel so bad yeah.
Speaker 3 (43:52):
I mean it burnout like takes the energy out of you
.
It takes you to negative.
Like you know, I'll say it, inmy previous job I would I didn't
realize how much Emotional,like mental energy I was using
just to show up every day, likeit took so much out of me that
(44:16):
it impacted my ability to do myjob because I was just like,
okay, I'm here, made it, yeah,another day, but like it's, it's
real, it takes it out of you towhere you just can't even
function properly.
Speaker 2 (44:31):
No, I thought that's what's my old job, and I stayed
there six months.
Speaker 3 (44:34):
Well, I was that little drop six years no.
Speaker 2 (44:37):
I did six months and I was like, yeah, and that also
brings up something else.
I feel like a lot of times as aprofessional we stay on stuff
too long and we deal with likethe we have to have a sense of
loyalty almost.
Not mean, it's true, but I wantto be like forget them.
(44:59):
They don't care about you halfthe time anyway, because if
something happens to you,they're gonna place you.
Always try to come Sometimes.
You just know.
Speaker 4 (45:08):
I like the stigma that young professionals Don't
have that sense of loyalty,though I think it is that we
don't want to put up with thethe negative and the the
disrespect sometimes, or I'mgonna say it's loyal, but we're
not the lowest.
Speaker 2 (45:26):
Let a ployer load to ourselves.
Speaker 1 (45:28):
Yes, in our values and our morals.
Speaker 2 (45:30):
That's where we're loyal to that, and they did like
.
Speaker 1 (45:32):
I said you can be loyal to that job.
Speaker 2 (45:34):
Something happened to you or you can't show the word
and your job be on handy beforeyou go out the door.
Good, yeah, yes, so don't sayyourself for the job, I am a big
leadership is from the top down.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
Yeah, and so, specifically for me as a working
mom, it is a game changer.
Working under your ship thatare also working moms yes, they
get it, and that's somethingthat, in this season, matches my
lifestyle and is somethingthat's really important to me.
Speaker 1 (46:05):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (46:07):
Because, I may try to understand it, but I just won't
twist a degree because I don'thave, you know, a little one at
home to understand with how thatadds to it, but something I
want to share with you guys.
Speaker 1 (46:20):
So today, Just into the sermon.
Speaker 2 (46:24):
I did so, so it was the help with the headiness.
Yes, so I kind of thisconversation right now.
I feel like it's the pointsthat he made at the end.
(46:44):
I think they're very fitting.
So the whole point of it washow, what I gathered.
Anyway, we all like thesecolumns on our lives and we're
out doing all this amazingthings, but there's times where
we're doing good but it justbecomes heavy and it becomes a
lot and it's like what do you dowith that?
So, either, just some pointersthat Patrick Cliff gave hope
(47:06):
alive this morning.
So it was commit to rest,invest your relationship with
God.
I Get some people, so have yourtribe, so me, and you have
someone that you can say hey,I'm tired, or like that person
can look at you and say like,hey, what's going on?
Yeah and they could help carrythat load for you.
(47:26):
And so it's not, you're stillkeeping.
The last one is keep your eyeson the price.
So you're still able to keepyour eyes on the prize.
But then you have your tribethat come along excited you and
we carry the load, so where youcan still get it, the job done.
And I just I was like when hewas talking this morning I was
like dude, it's so crazy becausethis time so I just be like Not
(47:51):
ready, and then there's eitherphone calls that I happen, or
you know someone to check in, orAaron, be like yeah, aaron is
so good at that, so.
Speaker 3 (48:03):
I'll just call him and be like hey, you know, blah,
blah, blah, have beenconversation.
He's like what's the matter?
And I'm like, well, yes, howdid you know?
Speaker 4 (48:11):
Yes, he's so good at that.
That's the type of person Iwant my child, though, yeah yeah
people who know meauthentically and can recognize
and support and encourage me.
Speaker 2 (48:24):
When wrong, you like bro.
Speaker 1 (48:26):
I was hoping that she was mine gonna know this, yeah,
and then you know this is, buthe is good at that.
Speaker 2 (48:31):
He'll call it out and he'll sit there listening and
give you a.
I Having someone like him, Ihope that if you guys don't I
said it before I'm like If youdon't have an area, I find you
one, but he's.
But he's a good like.
He'll listen to your problem.
He's gonna help you find asolution for the problem.
Speaker 4 (48:53):
So where it's not just.
I hate my job and you're havinglike a vent session.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
Like you're listening .
Speaker 4 (49:03):
And then they say okay, here's the action.
Speaker 1 (49:05):
What are we gonna do about it?
What are we gonna?
Speaker 2 (49:07):
move.
What are you gonna do?
Um.
I think it's important yeahit's just vending, especially
when it's not a healthyenvironment.
Really, I mean, you may feelbetter for those two seconds,
but you don't go back to thesame situation again if you
haven't figured out how to, IGuess, change it and make it
better.
So is there anything that I'mforgetting about?
Young professional, anythingyou want to?
Speaker 1 (49:27):
add.
Speaker 2 (49:29):
Or maybe, if you any advice you would give a young
professionalist like losing hope.
Speaker 4 (49:36):
Well, I would be very hard-pressed as the membership
liaison if I was not pluggingsigning up for my PM.
I think just really doing someself reflection, setting goals
(49:58):
for yourself and finding peoplewho are a part of your tribe and
evaluating what a tribe is.
So it's not just people thatare going out with you and
partying every night and want toHear you then and then not be
fruitful from it.
It's people who are gonna tellyou and have those hard
(50:22):
Conversations with you becausethey want you to be a better
person.
Speaker 3 (50:24):
Yeah, I would say to a young professional losing hope
like Sometimes it's hard to seea way out of our situations
like one, especially when we'rereal deep in it.
And so one thing that I havestarted telling myself and Y'all
are gonna think this is sosilly, but earlier I was telling
(50:48):
Um, yanni and Savannahlisteners, I'm talking to you um
, I was telling them that I'm aDisney fanatic.
And so One thing that I tellmyself I picked up from one of
my favorite movies ever frozenfrozen to, actually, and we
watched it today out.
And so Princess Anna findsherself in this Dark, dark cave,
(51:14):
in this dark, dark moment inher life where she thinks her
sister has just died and thesong that she sings is Do the
next right thing, oh yes.
And so she's in this place ofgrief and sadness and she tells
herself, like just do the nextright thing, which in that
moment, is just get out of thecave.
Right, she's an actual cave,and so that's what I have told
(51:36):
myself.
In situations where I'm reallydown, I'm like just do the next
right thing.
You know, if I'm at work andI'm just really not feeling it,
just do the next right thing,just, you know, check your
checklist and see what it is youcan get done like, even if you
don't feel like it or If youhate your job or you know.
Whatever the situation is, dothe next right thing and get
(51:57):
your resume prepped and then seehow you feel after that.
You know, one step at a time issometimes how we just have to
take it.
Speaker 1 (52:06):
Mm-hmm.
Speaker 2 (52:09):
I'm gonna have to write that down somewhere.
I think, minds is Don't beafraid to start over yes, and
start over as many times as youneed to.
I think as you get older, youlearn more, more about yourself.
We realize you're a man likethat and that's okay, but at the
(52:29):
same time, have the courage andthe faith that you need to step
out and try something new.
Oh yeah, it relies that if thatdon't work, you can just keep
going, drive something out Imean, obviously, eventually over
the land on something stablebut just don't be afraid to
start over, and no one's perfectyeah so therefore you're not
perfect, therefore I'm notperfect.
(52:51):
So don't go in the mindset or gointo situation thinking you
have to be perfect and then soI'm reading.
Well, I'll be honest.
Speaker 1 (53:00):
I'm listening to Tom the cabinets.
Speaker 2 (53:02):
I'm not reading that I'm reading the Michelle Obama
book.
But and one of the things thathe talked about that I cannot
get out of my head is, a lot oftimes when we are setting habits
, we base it off of like a goal,but we don't look at the
strategy to get to the goal.
So if we're just focused on youknow, I want to lose 20 pounds,
only 20 pounds, I'm only 20pounds but you're not looking at
(53:24):
the strategy to get to the 20like.
Speaker 1 (53:26):
What does your diet look?
Speaker 2 (53:27):
like what is your gym routine?
Look like how much water areyou drinking, how much rest are
you getting?
Like if you're not setting thatup correctly, you're not going
to be able to get to that goal.
Yeah so I would just say, youknow, as a benefit, look at your
goal, we're looking at thatgoal, look at that strategy to
get to that goal and make surethat you're not Putting more
(53:48):
than you put that you canactually handle.
Let's be realistic here, likeif you can't go to school right
now or maybe you can go and takeone class.
Take the one class and pass it.
Yeah, don't put four on yourplate if you can't do four.
Right, so that's what we have.
If you would like to become amember of Young Professionals, I
(54:09):
will Probably just link it onthe Facebook page, probably the
easiest way to do that.
Yeah, that's the best way.
For let's go.
Maybe still, our events we havecoming up for young
professionals If anybody may belistening to this and they're
like hey, I want to come hangout with y'all.
I think y'all selling y'allsome bomb chicks, which we are
(54:36):
Our next event is we have yoganight coming up in September on
I believe is the 28th.
Speaker 4 (54:44):
Yes and that will be at stomping grounds from six to
eight yes, and then we will havebowling with YPO in October,
also, yeah.
And then we'll have our kickoffparty in January, which is open
to all the community.
Of course, we want everyone tocome to all of our events, but
(55:04):
if you really want to find outmore about us and Get to meet
everyone, then the kickoff mixeris a really good event to come
to you.
Speaker 3 (55:14):
There's also a book club.
Speaker 2 (55:17):
Yes, that's October 7th.
At Jason's Valley, I think weonly have one on the desk, so I
can just say Jason's Daily right.
Yes, okay, 1130 to 1.
We are reading criticalconversations because, once
again at YPO, we're about growthhere.
So if you can't have aconversation, what you're doing?
So we're trying to set you guysup, including myself, for
(55:40):
success with being able tocommunicate.
So, yeah, that's not.
Yeah, I think that's it.
Oh, my last question, beforeone of you guys prays, is what
do you stand for?
And that could be as simple aslike one thing, or you can list
a bunch.
Speaker 4 (56:03):
I stand for doing what is Right, and that is very
hard to do a lot of times, but Ihave a clear conscience if I
know that I'm at least doingwhat's right.
Speaker 3 (56:19):
I Am gonna answer your question by reading you my
personal mission statement.
Speaker 2 (56:27):
You have a personal mission statement.
Speaker 3 (56:29):
Yes, I do.
I do have a personal missionstatement.
Speaker 2 (56:33):
I'm fighting like I thought I'm gonna make one
myself.
Speaker 3 (56:37):
Yeah well, so I'll just tell you why I crafted one.
To begin with, I went to aWomen in banking seminar this
past March and one of thespeakers it was basically like a
personal branding session andshe was just talking about like
Finding, finding the why andwhatever it is that you do right
and that doesn't just apply tobanking, obviously.
(56:57):
So she kind of leaded us,leaded I can't speak English,
I'm sorry.
She led us through thispersonal mission statement
crafting and so it was so funnybecause a lot of people were
like, well, I don't really knowwhat to say.
The Just of it was I strive forthis by doing this you know and
(57:19):
like for me in that moment.
It was so easy for me to come upwith and I just credit that not
to myself but just to, like youknow, being connected to God
and having a relationship withhim.
Like all the things I do everyday, I try to tie back to him.
So, anyways, long story short.
This is my personal missionstatement.
(57:40):
I Strive to be a light to thosearound me by serving.
In leading, I strive to inspireothers to also have a positive
impact on those around them.
Speaker 2 (57:52):
It's like long.
I love that.
I feel like we need to have awhen it's time we do that vision
board.
You need to have like a howpeople make their mission
statement.
Speaker 3 (58:02):
Yeah, because it really I Mean it.
Whatever it is that you do inlife, the why you're doing it is
the most important reason.
I mean the thing like if youdon't know why you're doing it,
you're never gonna findhappiness or peace or joy in
anything that you're doing.
That's what.
(58:22):
I stand for.
Speaker 4 (58:25):
I think that's everyone's homework is to create
a personal mission statementnow, I'm sure, okay, I have one
question.
Speaker 2 (58:31):
I realize that's the most important question that I
can believe we forgot.
Oh God is now.
How is your faith play part inyou being a young professional?
Speaker 4 (58:41):
Yeah, I think it helps in my confidence something
to fall back on and I I Kaleyand I had a very great
conversation where Kaylee wastelling me about a Speaker she
listened to, and Kaylee go aheadand speak a little bit about
(59:03):
that, because I think that'simportant and this is one of my
pillars.
Speaker 3 (59:07):
Yeah, so her name is Julie Schneers, and she talks
about Identifying pillars andusing them to Make your
decisions based off of, and thereason that you do all this is
this is how you leave a legacy.
(59:28):
You know, what type of legacydo you want to leave behind?
What do you want to beremembered for?
And so the first step inanswering that what do you want
to be remembered for?
Is identifying three to fourpillars, and the pillars are
things that are important to youand that you value.
You know it can be family, god,truth, equality.
(59:52):
You know anything, it'sdifferent for anybody, right?
But you use those pillars tohelp you.
So when somebody comes to youand says, hey, do you want to be
on the board of XYZ, okay I'm.
Before I say yes or no, I'mgoing to evaluate, based on my
pillars, if this is going tocontribute to those things.
Speaker 4 (01:00:13):
So I think that I really made an impact on me when
Kaylee and I had thatdiscussion and so now, moving
through my leadership journeyand professional journey, all of
my decisions I have Made basedon that, but my faith is also
Leaved into each one of thosepillars, and so does this
(01:00:35):
support my faith and does itultimately support the legacy
that I want to leave behind?
Speaker 3 (01:00:40):
Yeah, and I think For me how faith impacts.
You know my journey as a youngprofessional.
God calls us to be the light ofthe world in the Bible, and so
to me that's a big statement,right, the light of the world.
(01:01:01):
The world is a big place.
Well, break it down.
That means being the light ofyour community, mm-hmm.
The light of your family, youknow, the light of whatever
circle it is, you run in thelight of the job that you're.
Whatever it is, you're calledto be the light of the world and
so, as a professional, I'vejust clung to that and sometimes
(01:01:26):
I cling to it better thanothers, right, because we're not
perfect.
But I'm called to be a light tothis community, and so In my
professional job, I do that byhelping businesses grow and
prosper.
And in my volunteer circle, Imean Delivering a meal to an
(01:01:47):
elderly person.
That's being a light.
You know delivering.
You know boxes, putting boxesin the, in the cars as they come
through for the food bankthat's being a light.
And it's not a hard task, youknow like it's such a simple
thing, but it's amazing how muchjoy it brings you Inside, like
(01:02:11):
anytime send over at Mills onwheels is like hey, we really,
really need somebody.
Can you please pick up a route,if I can do it?
Speaker 2 (01:02:19):
I mean, it makes my day, you know it's just so that
was me that Thursday or Fridaywhen I was like I'm having the
best day and it's Friday, it'snot yeah, but you know, yeah,
Like I'm like I don't thinkpeople realize how I think they
get stuck on the word likevolunteering, but they don't
(01:02:41):
realize how, as much as you aredoing something for someone else
, you know, they don't realizehow much your I don't know I get
more out of volunteering.
Then sometimes I feel like thepeople who are volunteering get
from me.
Yeah, like the idea of doinglike Mills on wheels and going
to those homes and seeing liketheir face when they get the
(01:03:03):
meals, or Seeing something, aliving situation.
Speaker 1 (01:03:06):
It's a very humbling experience.
Speaker 2 (01:03:08):
Yeah, it makes it to where.
Yes, when she does call, youpick up that phone and you're
like, yep, let me go ahead.
And then even like bouncingwith the youth when we have that
event in Midland and it was thekids from a Midland team court.
Mm-hmm where, at the end of it,they were just telling Aaron and
I thank you, we're like dude,what do we like?
We didn't do nothing and theywere like, well, just thank you
(01:03:28):
for like listening to us, yeah,and making us feel like
important.
Yeah, people feel like you areimportant.
They are, they have feelings,they have voices.
It needs to be heard.
But I just, I don't know, everytime I volunteer, it's always a
a good Reset for me.
Mm-hmm and it kind of just ithelps me keep going.
(01:03:48):
Yeah, they're like to where,like right now I have closer in
my car for crisis center andtheir text to me.
Speaker 1 (01:03:54):
You pick up.
Speaker 2 (01:03:55):
Reason my phone went off earlier was I'm on Friday
looking for Bibles for kids forthe Youth detention center and
she finally has the Bibles.
She's calling me to pick up theBible so we can take them over
there and then can you justthanks to me.
And she has closed for theHarmony home.
So it's like he said.
I do agree with you.
(01:04:15):
I'm realizing that your missionstatement can very much so be
mine, because that's been there.
We're very similar, I think.
Volunteer, if I saw people whohaven't done it.
(01:04:36):
Find whatever you're passionateabout.
Your passion may not be mypassion.
Are you passionate aboutanimals?
I, personally, I think politely, don't care about it, don't
hate me, don't stop listening.
I just animals is not my thing,but it's whatever you're
(01:05:00):
passionate about.
Get plugged in and I promiseyou, just give it six months and
it'll make a difference in yourlife.
Yes, I stand by.
Wherever I can, I can help thatthey have the sober walk over
the weekend and I would open oneof my projects.
I didn't personally lose anyoneto fit in all but you, hearing
(01:05:22):
everyone else's stories and howI'm really can affect and how
it's really Effective in youthand getting to them.
I'm like, shoot, let me gostand alongside of you.
So that do Really carefully use.
So I think that was another wayfor me, or into them without
directly pouring into them, andI'm having fun People and you
hear people's stories.
Speaker 1 (01:05:42):
I don't know why.
Speaker 3 (01:05:43):
I'm so into hearing everyone's stories, but I am
yeah well, because it's likeit's just interesting to hear
people's perspective on thingsand you see why they like the
things.
They do make sense when youhear where they came from, and
it's very interesting to seethat.
Speaker 2 (01:06:01):
You know, and I feel like a lot of time.
That's why they're so like,much like.
I don't like you.
It's how does that we just stopand have a conversation to get
to know the person?
Yes, you know, all makes sensebut a lot of times, either Both
parties don't want to talk orit's not a safe place to be able
to talk, which is once againwhy I created this podcast.
(01:06:23):
I'm like, hey, I want to havecome with my friends our real
topics and I want to make it towhere it's a comfortable space
for them.
You know when I started alwayssay hey, is there anything that
you guys do not want me to share?
Good in the day, I'm asking youto come on here and, you know,
spit your guts, and I want tomake sure you guys feel
comfortable.
I don't want to make it towhere it's like, you know, I
(01:06:45):
don't ask the question or youtell me not to say something.
Here I am saying like you willnever come back, and then I also
don't want to be a part of thereason why someone stumbles.
I never want that.
Speaker 1 (01:06:57):
So I just try to pay something to say to where
Therapy this is to me.
Speaker 2 (01:07:03):
I wanted to be for you guys.
Speaker 3 (01:07:10):
There's some looks going on in the room.
Thank you for having us.
Speaker 2 (01:07:25):
No problem.
No problem, we're gonna startup the white P O Podcast.
Call you having anything youwant to tell people.
He said hi.
Speaker 1 (01:07:33):
Okay, no, we're just gonna be forever now you heard
him, though.
Speaker 2 (01:07:35):
He's here.
You want.
Daddy, are you ready to leave?
He's packing up, y'all he said,alright, I don't know who I
should throw out paper scissors.
But who's praying?
Speaker 3 (01:08:06):
Here we go.
Dear heavenly father, we gotHold on listeners.
Maybe Cole wants to pray.
Speaker 2 (01:08:16):
Do you want to?
Speaker 1 (01:08:17):
pray no.
Speaker 3 (01:08:23):
All right.
We count to you, heavenlyfather, grateful for this space,
grateful for the conversationsthat we have had today, grateful
that we can rely on one anotheras friends, as a tribe, as
People who are in a growthmindset, who are going to help
(01:08:44):
us grow, and all that we do.
We thank you for this communityand for the chance that you
give us every day to wake up andto have a positive impact on it
.
I want to say a prayer for allthe young professionals who are?
listening and, even if they'renot in professionals, anyone
under the sound of our voices,that you will guide them and
(01:09:04):
leave them in the decisions thatthey make.
And Maybe, if they're not in aplace right now where they they
feel like they can reach out toyou, or maybe they feel like
they can't hear your voice, Iwould ask that you help them
grow closer to you because, atthe end of the day, you want us
to have an abundant life full ofblessings, and we thank you for
(01:09:26):
that.
So, once again, please be withall of us.
Thank you for this conversationand for these wonderful ladies
here at the table today.
We love you and we ask all thisand proud this.
Speaker 2 (01:09:39):
Your prayer was like yeah, yeah.
See that because you're such asafe space that I can see that.
(01:10:00):
Yes, all right.
So those who are listening,just remember that you were
loved.
You were unique.
God does not make mistakes Inthe world.
Need you?
I don't know what the one youbefore you only know that
question you and the Lord, butthe Lord needs you.
So Peace out, have a greatWeekend.
(01:10:21):
Second, when I drop, is it aFriday?
Oh yeah weekend and and Go beawesome.
I.
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