March 27, 2025 • 51 mins
When faced with life's challenges, knowing which battles to fight can transform everything. In this deeply personal conversation, Esmeralda—a single mother of two teenagers and owner of HMS Fitness—shares how learning to pick her battles became her guiding life philosophy.
"You don't have to fight with everything you don't agree with," she explains, revealing how this mindset preserved her energy and sanity while navigating single parenthood, building a business, and healing from past relationship trauma. Her journey from a difficult marriage to creating a thriving life offers powerful insights for anyone feeling overwhelmed by constant conflict.
The conversation explores how our choices—from health decisions to relationship boundaries—create ripple effects throughout our lives. Esmeralda candidly discusses the importance of self-care, revealing that consistent exercise became her non-negotiable mental health practice. "If I don't work out consistently, I won't be able to sleep," she shares, challenging listeners to identify their own essential self-care practices.
Perhaps most powerful is the discussion about friendship and support systems. Esmeralda shares moving stories of friends who appeared exactly when needed during her darkest moments, demonstrating how the right people can help you weather any storm. "Your friends are either going to challenge you to grow, to do better and support you, or they're going to bring you down," she observes.
The episode concludes with a message of hope that resonates deeply: "Everybody is stronger than what they know." When life's battles seem overwhelming, remember that within you lies greater resilience than you realize. As Esmeralda reminds us, even depression spells out "I press on"—a powerful reminder that we can choose to move forward, no matter what battles we face.
Standing In Your Truth Podcast with Yanni Thomas
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everyone, welcome to Standing In your
Truth podcast with your host,yanni.
On this podcast you'll hearYanni, family and friends having
open-ended discussions onanything from faith, finances,
relationships and how to staymotivated during life's trying
times.
Make sure to follow on allsocial media platforms.
(00:23):
The social media link is in thebio.
Sit back and get ready to enjoy.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of
Standing your Truth Podcast.
I am your host, yanni Thomas.
How have you guys been?
How's it going?
Hope all is well, I am.
This is going to be the secondepisode of my new series where
we're just doing life models.
So I'm having my friends andfamily come on and just tell us
(00:52):
what their life model is.
It could be an old life model,something they've been living by
for forever, or something theyjust found.
So I have my first guest togive her life model, so I'm
going to let her introduceherself.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Hey guys, my name is Esmeralda.
I am a mother of two kids twoteenagers right now and I run
HMS Fitness, an all-woman's gym.
I think that's my summary, Iguess.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Is that the?
Speaker 3 (01:27):
summary of your.
That's the summary.
I have HMS Fitness and I'm amom.
Hey, nothing wrong with mom.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
All right, so we're going to start off with our
basic questions that we askeveryone.
So what motivates you?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
My kids.
That's the easy answer yeah,that was.
I'm like that was crazy Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What advice would you give your younger self?
Speaker 3 (01:49):
That one is that one's kind of like tough.
What advice would you give youryounger self?
Yeah, I feel Not everything.
I guess like back then I'm like, I feel like everything, like
something happened.
It's like, oh my God, it's theend of the world.
Oh, you know like this canhappen because it's the end of
(02:12):
the world, but it's not likethere's so much more.
Like back then, you know you'reonly 17.
Like now I look at youngerpeople you know 17, 20.
And I'm like man you're stillbaby.
You know, like you have so muchlife ahead of you and so many
more choices to make, so manymore mistakes to make, so much
more to grow, and I feel like Iguess that's what I would tell
(02:34):
my younger self.
Like you still have room togrow.
This isn't it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's not the end of the world.
Yeah, when you're younger, Ifeel like also, your mind is
only focused on and knows somany things.
So when you get older, yourmind expands.
Obviously you're like oh wait,that wasn't the end of the world
.
Yeah, I can relate to that onefor sure.
Yeah, yeah.
What is your mindset when youare told no or a door shuts?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
There has to be another way.
There has to be another way asfar as, like, no, um, this can't
be done.
Or you know, um, if a doorshuts, another one will open.
Okay, so it may be like if whatyou wanted at that time isn't
coming through, or, um, you havea life project or something
(03:19):
going on and it doesn't happen,something else will that makes
sense to me.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
All right, this is the last question for right now.
Then we'll get into our topic.
Um, how do you protect yourmental health and what is your
self-care routine?
So, I guess, you can start withwhat's your self-care routine
first the gym.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Yes, yeah, two times.
I have to.
Yeah, two a day.
And don't get me wrong, there'sdays where there could be a day
where I'm like man, my body'sbeat.
I have to take a day off.
But if I do not work outconsistently, I won't be able to
sleep.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Really.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Yeah, it's my mental health for sure.
That's literally.
I cannot.
I don't think I've gone morethan a week.
You know, even if I go onvacation, whatever, I have to
work out so are you like onvacation in the?
I'll go for a run.
Oh you go, I can go for a run,yeah I can run uh-huh definitely
that's my mental health goateefor sure.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Maybe a walk for about 30 minutes.
That's about what you'regetting on me on vacation,
getting from me on vacation,that's crazy.
Uh-huh, definitely that's mymental health go-to for sure.
Maybe a walk for about 30minutes.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
That's about what you're getting on me from
vacation.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Getting from me on vacation, that's crazy.
So how far can you run?
Have you tracked how many miles?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
you run or you just go.
No, I just go, like say, if I'mout of town three miles you
know, but I'm not like running,or if it's a hike, whatever,
I'll jog, take pictures here andthere.
Oh, okay, okay, catch my breath.
Look at the scenery whatever,but it's something.
But it's something.
Yeah, I'm moving, I have tomove, I'm moving that is
hilarious, Uh-huh.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Okay, so the burning question is I'm doing a little
drum roll.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
What is your life motto Right now?
Learn how to pick your battles.
Yeah, learn how to pick yourbattles is one.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
So define picking your like.
What is the meaning of like?
Learn how to pick your battles.
What does that mean?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
You don't have to fight with everything that you
don't agree with.
Okay, so you don't have tofight with everything you don't
agree with, as far as like,because if you did fight with
everything, first of all, noteveryone thinks the same.
We all have our own opinions,whether they're right or wrong,
but if you were to sit there andfight with everyone, you would
(05:40):
be fighting all the time andwasting all that energy that you
could be using on other things.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
yeah, yeah, so I think that's a really good one
it kind of goes with um, Iremember people always say the
same uh, or my mind is blank, oh, we can agree to disagree yes
kind of fall someone.
Yeah, like picking your battles, I'm gonna agree to disagree
with you and move on.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Yeah, with respect, right, which I think is missing
sometimes, and you know whatwhen you like agree to disagree
and you have a conversation, youcan learn a lot from that other
person like hey what's yourpoint of view and why do you
feel?
Why do you feel this way overthis subject?
But you could learn a lot fromthe other person, even though
you don't agree with them.
It's something, something new,right, it could be a different
(06:25):
point of view.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I think that's why it's also important to have a
diverse group of friends to helpyou to be able to, Because if
you have a diverse group offriends, you're going to learn
from them and some of the thingsyou do you're not going to
agree with.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
You're going to be like wait what?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I don't get it or help me understand it, but, um,
I think as long as there'srespect there, I may not agree
with what you're doing, yeah,but I'm going to respect you and
you know that's what you wantto do.
Don't let you do it right, andyou know, keep pushing from
there.
So I like that.
(07:05):
But so how has picking yourbattles like changed your life?
How has that really made adifference for you?
Speaker 3 (07:13):
um, I feel like you can either ruminate on stuff
that you don't agree with or youdon't like or that upsets you.
Like something that's upsettingfor you, right?
You can either sit there andthrow your pity party, like why
is this going this way, thisisn't the way that I want it to
go, and you have no control overit, or you upsetting for you,
right?
You can either sit there andthrow your pity party, like why
is this going this way?
This isn't the way that I wantit to go, and you have no
control over it, or you can justsay you know what.
If it's happening whatever, letit be, I'm still going to
continue on doing what I do.
(07:35):
Go to work, do the best that youcan, because that's another
thing.
Like you don't know who'slooking at you right for like
guidance, or you could besomebody's lie, whatever.
You also don't know what otherpeople are going through and
they're having their own issuesand you could be there to help
them, but you don't becauseyou're over here throwing your
(07:58):
pity party.
You know what I mean.
So I feel like that whole likepick your battles.
It's like pick, pick thebattles that you can control too
.
Like if it's out of yourcontrol.
Why sit there and either fightit, be upset about it, if you
can't control it?
Yeah, so you putting feelingsand energy into it is kind of
pointless, right, mm-hmm.
(08:18):
So I think that's the mainconcept of it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, concept of it.
Yeah, I have to remind myselfsometimes when we're out and
about and customer service isnot up to par, or like you're
going through the dryer throughand they don't want to give you
the sauce, like their checkrelies on the sauce.
Yeah, and I'm like dude, justgive me the sauce and I have to
remember, like for one, youdon't know what it took for
those individuals to come towork yes, I'm also like do you
(08:43):
really need this sauce?
yeah, probably not, so let'sjust move on.
Yeah, so, yeah, I think, Idefinitely think there's some
importance of picking yourbattles, but the question I have
also is how do you know whichbattles to pick?
Like for you?
Is it like, is it based on likevalues, values or morals, or
just how you're feeling that day?
Like how do you know?
(09:03):
I?
Speaker 3 (09:04):
think how it's gonna affect me.
Okay, right, like if it's abattle that it's gonna affect me
, like I don't know it could bea battle, like if it's a line,
whether if you're gonna loseyour job, yeah that's a battle
you're gonna pick, because mylike my job's on the line you
know.
I feel like the important onesthat are really gonna have a
dramatic effect on your life,then yeah.
But if it's just a like yeahsauce from.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
McDonald's.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
You know what, Keep your sauce.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm not this battle's not worth it.
But I mean it also, I think,comes back down to your mental
health, yeah, and like I mean,if I'm having one of those, you
know, those days where pmsing Imay need that you caught me on
the wrong day yeah, yeah, yeah,today's not the day and you know
(09:55):
what I've said that before.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Like I know, like, for example, at the gym, we talk
a lot of a lot of crap to eachother, right, and there's days
where I'm like maybe I'm justbeing a big baby.
I'm like you know what, today'snot the day, yeah, but it's.
I have to check myself too andI'm like you know.
You know, on a normal day wouldyou be acting like that?
I wouldn't so it's kind of oneof those days, too.
(10:18):
You have to check yourself too,like why are you being a big
baby this day?
Why are you, you know, out ofthe normal and you're like, oh,
self-reflection moment yeahmaybe yeah yeah, it's all the
extra things that females gothrough.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
yeah, I think, yeah, joy, I think also it kind of
goes with um, every action has aconsequence, right.
So it's like if you're pickingyour battles and the battle you
choose, you have to realize okay, I'm choosing to fight this
battle.
Am I prepared for what's goingto come with me fighting that
battle?
Yes, which I mean?
(10:55):
Obviously, if you think aboutit that much, maybe you're good,
but sometimes people aren't.
Like you know, you make a badchoice.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
You know you're picking that battle.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You're making a bad choice and you make a bad choice
.
You know you're picking themout.
You're making this bad choiceand you're gonna have to deal
with it.
Yeah, and I think also thatcould be.
I think also that saying isusually negative but on the flip
side it could be very positive.
Yeah, like I'm choosing rightnow to put all of my spare
attention which I, I say spare,but it ain't that much, but
(11:24):
anyway all my attention intoschooling.
Yeah, me going to school,making sure.
At this point I am tellingmyself I don't want anything
lower than a, b, and thatrequires extra attention.
Uh-huh, that is my action, myconsequence.
Better be me on the Dean's List, yeah, or honor, or whatever
it's called.
Yeah, and with a degree, andhopefully then that will lead to
(11:47):
a different job, not leaving myjob right now, but I'm just
saying, um, I think that's.
I hate that that saying is tiedto negative yeah it doesn't have
to be yeah, so I don't knowwhat are your feelings on?
Speaker 3 (12:00):
every action has a consequence um, I mean yeah, I
use it a lot with my kids um, ifyou're going to behave this
certain way, or if you're goingto get in trouble at school, or
if you're going to do x, y and z, you know, like, if you're big,
and if you feel like you're bigand tough to make that choice,
even though you know it's thewrong one, then you better be
big and tough to face theconsequences of whatever is to
(12:23):
come and not necessarily justfor me, because sometimes I can
be a big pushover with my kids,especially with my.
I'm the only parent in the houseand that itself is overwhelming
.
You know, sometimes I wish Ihad, like somebody else, or like
, you know, their dad.
You know, telling them like,hey, chill out, or you know, and
I could just be the nice PTAmom.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
And you know, and I could just be the nice PTA mom
and you know, like that would bemy perfect world, where I could
just be like are you trying tobuy snacks and everything?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
else, yes, I would still be that mom and be like
you know what, like you know,they get in trouble and I'm like
, okay, come on, I'll come foryou, you know, but it sucks
having to be those both roles.
I hate it.
I hate it, but I also know, um,like it's hard.
But I also know, like in theback of my head, I have to step
in, even though it's hard for meto do, and just put my foot
down, even though that's alsosuper hard for me to do, you
(13:14):
know, but and then it goes back.
Every action has a consequence.
All right, esmeralda, are yougoing to fall into being a
pushover because you don't wantto be sad and upset?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
but then, because you don't want to be sad and upset,
you're like screwing up yourkid's life because you don't put
order in their life you know,like you're kind of that's,
that's a tough one especially itis I feel like not saying that
girls don't need order order,but I feel like like guidance
yeah, but boys need, I feel like, a little bit more, yeah, um,
(13:45):
because I feel like a lost youngman can really um, cause havoc,
and for his family and thenworld around him, yeah, with him
being lost.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
So I kudos to you for , uh, fighting the battle and
knowing when to put your footdown or when to be like, okay,
this is not that big of a deal,I can only have being.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I don't remember.
I think at one point she wasboth parents, so my stepdad was
in jail and there was plenty oftimes where I would look for my
mom and my mom would either lockherself in the bathroom and
tell us us to give her fiveminutes, that was me that's me
she would make sure we haddinner and she would do our
homework, and then she would begone for 30 minutes and you're
(14:32):
like where'd?
she go, she's in her bedroomcrying no, no, no, she was out
like driving I don't know whatshe's doing in the car.
I asked her that one time andshe's like I needed some time
and and I said well, girl, whenyou was gone.
We was fighting, I didn't know.
What you didn't know is we wasboxing, yeah, but I mean okay.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah, no, like I think that has as far as like
raising them, and I think rightnow they're in a time of their
life it's where they're tryingto individualize and be more
independent and, like, do thingson their own.
And now I can sit back and belike, okay, I was really talking
the other day to another momand she's like well, I feel like
(15:12):
if I don't do this, I feel likea bad parent right.
She has no time for herself.
She's like she doesn't.
She hasn't made it to the gymbecause she has to do all this
with her kids.
And I'm like you need to giveyourself that time, because I
feel like I used to be that way.
But then if you because if youdon't, then you'll kind of like
(15:38):
she was, like then I'm anegative way.
So now I'm kind of like youknow, I have this going on and
you're gonna miss out on that,because I'm have this going on
and that's okay.
Yeah, right.
So I feel like, uh, I guessthis could go out to more of the
moms out there like don't feelguilty when you put some of your
stuff ahead of their stuff likeat the end of the day uh, it's
fine, it's okay, it's I know Ipersonally don't like this
(16:01):
saying bad mom, I mean
Speaker 2 (16:04):
or bad dad, by the way, right um, and I think
obviously there are some parentsthat are just not good parents
but, I think when we use thatterm due to the fact of the
parent doing something forthemselves, such as the gym,
such as mom or dad night out, orYou're a person too.
Yeah, yeah.
Because I just I feel like,just like you made the statement
(16:27):
, and like, at the end of theday, if you're not taking time
to take care of your mentalhealth, your physical health,
heck, your health is just ingeneral.
Take care of you in general.
Your kid is going to suffer.
They're going to realize mom anddad or mom or dad whoever is
not happy yeah, and they'regoing to see you not taking care
(16:49):
of yourself.
So they're going to think it'sokay to always go above and
beyond and give their all tosomeone else and forget that
they are a person too yes, well,one, they won't appreciate what
you do for them.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yeah, you know if you do what, if you go overboard,
then they're not going to knowthe difference as to like they
won't know the difference, theywon't appreciate it.
And then, two, I have seensomething where like even the
kid can get like think, is sheupset because she has to do this
for me?
And then they start feelingguilty because you can make them
(17:21):
feel that way, because you'relike miserable or whatever you
know.
So yeah, I feel like as aparent, you do have to take time
for yourself.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Yeah, for sure yeah, I just I'm not a parent,
obviously yeah but literallyjust about all of my friends are
parents.
Yeah, and they all say, likeyou know, I don't want to be a
bad and I'm like I don'tunderstand why that can't happen
.
Yeah, I mean it's like CPS isnot being called.
You're probably not a badparent.
(17:50):
I'm just saying Not that that'sa good standard to go by, but
I'm like take a second tobreathe yo yeah.
Because I mean, if you're nottaking care of yourself and you
drop dead and pass or you havethis huge mental break, what
about that kid then?
Where is that kid going to go?
Yeah, If you die, is that likenobody?
(18:13):
I think a lot of people don'tthink of that extreme, which I'm
going to understand, but I feellike, if you're gonna go down
that way, well, let me hit youwith the facts of like, yeah,
your health matters, yeah, so ifyou sit up here and catch, one
of these diseases or something.
Who's watching your kid?
Yo, right, because you're.
A lot of people always say,like you know, well, I don't
have anyone to watch them or Idon't have a support group, cool
.
So even more reason for you totake some time yeah because you
(18:36):
don't have it.
So, therefore, if somethinghappens to you.
Uh, yeah, where do they go?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
like going down the street like come on now.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Yeah, yes, definitely yeah, I don't know what we're
gonna put down a rabbit hole,yeah, but I feel like that
rabbit hole is needed for someparents listening to this that
hasn't taken a second to breatheyeah breathe, yeah.
And while you're breathing,remind your kid they need to
breathe too yeah, and I'm notsaying it's easy for sure.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
It's like, probably not any like an easy choice to
make, but I feel like you needto make that choice and choices
are just not easy to make andjust make it, and you once you
make it, you'll be like oh, thatwasn't that bad yeah, yeah, or
maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Is it possible to find something for you and your
little one to do together torelax, is that?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
a thing you can, but you still need time for yourself
.
You do because I know I haveboth of my kids like.
I have a chill kid and theother one is just like, not like
, but dang, that kid can take alot of my energy and I feel like
, I think it's his character.
I feel like we all havedifferent characters and, like
you know, when they're growingup, like dang, that one's gonna
(19:45):
give me that, how one's gonnagive me trouble, or that one's
in you, as a parent, just haveto guide them.
You can only do so much to youguide them.
You tell them in um, as aparent, that's really all you
can do right like, at the end ofthe day, they're gonna grow up,
they're their own person.
Yeah, like I feel like we haveto realize this they're that our
(20:06):
kids are their own person.
They're gonna grow up and beadults and there's nothing you
can do about it I mean, meanthat's the truth?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, like I said, I have advice for parents, but I
always am.
I'm very I always say it toomuch because I ain't no parent,
so I ain't gave birth to nobody,I ain't adopted nobody yet
anyway.
So yeah.
I just I have, like I said, Ihave a lot of friends that are
parents and then I am also theoldest in my family.
(20:39):
so I feel like, to some degree,some of my younger siblings like
I didn't birth them, but I likecombed their hair, got them
dressed, did their homework,fettle yeah I mean yeah to some
degree for about three yearsyeah, that's still a long time
you know so I like, I'm like Isee some things and I'm like, oh
, she's suffering and it sucks,yeah, and I would say also, if
(21:02):
you're not a parent but maybeyou're just like a wife or a
husband.
You need to find some time foryourself as well.
Yeah, that's important just nowthat I can speak up but yeah
I'm like now you're speaking mylanguage, but, um, okay, is
there anything else that we youwant to touch on this from the,
(21:22):
excuse me, from the life motto?
Uh, picking your battles, orevery action has a consequence?
Speaker 3 (21:30):
um picking your battles anything else?
I can't think like noteverything's gonna go your way
oh, that's, a no you know that'sa good one too that's a whole
life, yeah and it's like, evenif it doesn't go your way again,
if it's out of your control,like what are you gonna do about
it?
yeah, you know, find another way.
Yeah, find um, even if you havelike I don't know how to
(21:53):
explain it, um, even if you havelike I don't know how to
explain it, my thing okay, mything for the longest time was
like how I said, my dream waslike be a PT mom and I get to
stay at home mom and get toraise my kids, all that cool
stuff, right, see me in thehouse making cookies, whatever I
cannot.
I can't even bake to save mylife.
(22:15):
I can cook everything too, butI cannot bake Really, I really
for real, and so that to me waslike man, why couldn't I be that
?
Speaker 1 (22:24):
And.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
I could sit here and dwell and be sad, upset over it,
and sometimes like I could getin those emotions, but I'm not.
So then I am like being I'mraising my kids, I'm being a
single parent, and like I feellike God has put me on this path
and I have to roll with it,because sometimes we're put on a
path that we may not agree withit, like, oh, this isn't what I
(22:46):
want, but maybe there's areason why I'm on this path and
it's it's been good to me so far.
You know like so far it's been,it's worked, um, and I just
roll with it, like you caneither sit there and fight and
be like this isn't what I want,or roll with it, like and see
what, what comes out of it, andI feel like so far it's been
good.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah, that goes with.
Everything happens for a reason.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yes, for sure.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
And then first when the what they say the sticker
shock, or when the band-aidfirst comes off.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Yeah, it hurts.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, and sometimes I had my friend Monita.
She told me this about twoyears ago you have to get over
yourself.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (23:28):
Like, yes, you can cry because this happened to you
, but get over it, right, thishappened to you and I'm
realizing it's probably the casefor a lot of us.
Our lives are not our lives.
There's people like you said,people looking at us.
Right, god has put us on thisearth to encourage, uplift and
spread his love and joy andmercy across.
Yeah, so it's like I have toget over myself sometimes.
(23:50):
Yeah yep, I got divorced, thathappened.
Yeah, that hurt when it firsthappened and all the foolishness
that took place.
It hurt, but then now I'm hereto say like, there's life after
divorce yeah, it's not the endof the world.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
No, you're back.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, it's not the end of the world?
Yes, but you just have to likeyou.
I mean you said earlier likeget over yourself.
Yeah, get over yourself.
It hurts, don't get me wrong.
Okay, and it's not easy to do.
There's some days where I'll belike man.
What in the world is happening?
Yeah, and there's some dayswhere I'm like, why not me lord
right, like, okay, you, you,this is my story.
(24:27):
All right now, let's let'sfigure out.
How how is this story?
How am I going to grow fromthis story?
yeah how am I going to be ableto encourage my neighbor?
Because I always say thiswhether you realize it or not,
if you sit down and talk to yourneighbor, you realize that you
guys have more things in commonthan not.
So it's like, how am I going tobe able to, um, encourage my
neighbor?
And I realize the more I getout and I'm not scared to
(24:50):
encourage or scared to speak isthe more people that are like,
oh, I can't relate to that andI'm like, okay, look.
So this is why you know this ispart of my journey is because I
need to help sally 20 years fromnow yeah I mean it's not always
immediate, you figure, when thepieces come together, it's
definitely god's timing notsaying that it's timing is 20
(25:12):
years, but sometimes I befeeling like it, um, and you're
like oh, okay, now this makessense yeah, no I get it, or even
sometimes just to see how.
Um, because I feel likesometimes when things happen, we
think that he's not present andhe's not there.
And when you're going throughit like it's like, it's like man
(25:33):
, I'm why, lord me, and you'rejust figuring it out and
navigating it, and it comes downto one thing for myself, the
last three years have been likewhoa.
I realized how God has beenthere every single step of the
way, the level of protection,the people he's put in my life,
whether it be permanently ortemporary.
(25:54):
Because that's a thing tooEveryone is permanently supposed
to be in your life.
Life, um, whether it bepermanently or temporary.
Yeah, because that's a thingtoo.
Yeah, everyone is permanentlysupposed to be in your life, um,
so it's, you just realize andyou're like oh, he's never left
me.
Yeah, he.
You know he's put this personin my life to make sure I was
okay during this time period.
He's put this person in my lifebecause he know I needed
someone that I could talk to 247 about everything.
(26:14):
Yeah, you know, I had to getdivorced to meet the guy I was
now, so it's like it's dude.
Yes, all of the time it works,but I think also to know that I
needed to grow.
Yeah, I was.
It's always easy to be like man.
You know, this happened blahblah.
Yeah, that did happen, but whatpart did you take in it?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, and how can you learn from?
Speaker 2 (26:36):
that, yeah, and I literally had to get rebaptized
and went to therapy.
Yeah, and I'm so glad I saidthis before on here, so glad I
did that before I met Aaron,otherwise I would not have been
prepared for him.
Yeah, because he was thecomplete opposite and I was
confused.
Sometimes we still confuse us,man, because what Did I do this?
I had no idea.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Like I told you a lot of times, like the first, I
think we were just friends.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
I don't think we were even actually dating.
I was sick at my apartment andhe bought me.
He was leaving to go out oftown and before he left to go
out of town he bought memedicine, flowers, ice cream and
some fuzz soup.
That's cute and I was like.
I'm like people like that'scute and I was like all right
(27:19):
people do this, because Iactually did that.
I was sick, figure it out onyour own, golly.
So it's like what, or even thelike this evening, um, we worked
out together and that wassomething he would so previous
the homeboy before thought itwas cute to always tell me that
I was like too big and my skinhad um x-ray marks on it, uh-huh
.
So he'd be like go to the gymworkout.
(27:39):
And I'm like, okay, well, canyou come to the gym with me and
work out, because if y'all knowme.
You know that I am not like girl.
I got two less feet, like I'mlike well, can you come with me,
like help me out?
You know he was like no, I walkat work, I'm not walking with
you and I'm Well.
The other reason I'm goinganyway, because I think I'm fine
.
So lack of self-confidence.
(27:59):
I had to find that too, butanyway.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
so now, Dude, and you know what I feel like the
people that you have around youare a big deal right, because
you can have, like you know,someone like that that's like,
no, you go walk on your own, no,whatever.
Or you can have someone by yourside that that's cheering for
you and that's like, hey, no, wecan do this, like, let's go to
the gym together.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Let's do this together.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Um, I feel like that's a big deal.
That's it.
Yeah, it's a huge deal, it isEven, it could even like.
(28:43):
Yes, that's to me, I feel likethat's a big deal.
Um, even like you see, likeyour friend thriving or whatever
, and you're like you know, I'mproud of you, or whatever, um,
you can rub off of that, you ruboff of the, you feed off of
each other, you rub off of, likethe energy.
Um, yeah, that that's a bigdeal to me, that that I can
stand on that.
Like, whoever you hang out with, like your friends, your small
circle, um, your circle offriends, like will help you
(29:05):
either like succeed or like um,how would you say that?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
like you're either higher or bring you down, yeah,
they can really bring you downit's one of those things where
you're going to, your friendsare either going to challenge
you to grow yeah, to do betterand listen to you and support
you, or they're going to do thestraight opposite.
They're going to bring you down, they're going to use you,
they're going to abuse you andprobably when you get to your
(29:38):
bottom, you're when you're atthat moment where you need help,
because it's life or death foryou.
If that's not a good friend,they're not going to be around.
Yeah, yeah, for sure, and I'vedealt with friends like that.
But I felt like the funny thingis, um, um, maybe like 2021, um
, I met this lady and she waslike your friends, you need to
(29:58):
clean up your friends.
And I was like, okay, and she'slike say the prayer Lord, sweep
off, or clean off my back porch, or something like that.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
And all of a sudden, these random people started like
falling off, disappeared, and Iwas like, oh, I guess not a lot
of friends are falling off, butI have friends now that I know
for sure.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
If I say, hey, I need something.
They'll show up.
If they're not showing up,they'll communicate and tell me
like hey, you know I want to,but this is what I have going on
yeah so, and I am, I try to bethe friend that I want.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
So therefore, that means if my friends are showing
up for me, I make sure I show upfor them so it's like I'm, I'm,
yeah, our relationships aretwo-sided yes, so yeah, and I
feel like too, um, I don't knowlike, I feel like if you can
have good friends, like actualgood friends, like you're lucky,
right, I don't feel like a lotof people have, um, loyal
(30:53):
friends too.
Like you can have your friendsbut you don't know like their
intentions or you know ifthey're being honest.
And I feel like a lot of peoplehave loyal friends too, like
you can have your friends butyou don't know like their
intentions or you know ifthey're being honest.
And I feel like if you findthose friends like, hold on to
those because those are the goodones to have.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Yeah, yeah, but also with holding on to them, I mean
if they're good friends.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
yeah, Like you'll.
You'll know, I feel like you'llknow but I think also make sure
you have friends you can dolife with yeah because if
they're only there when it looksgood for you yeah, then they're
not good friends becausethey're gonna be there to pick
you up and, like you're goingthrough a challenging time,
(31:30):
they're gonna be, there for youif they're good friends, and if
they're not, they're gonnadisappear, because you know
those aren't good friends.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
I don't know for you if they're good friends and if
they're not, they're gonnadisappear because you know those
aren't good friends.
When it was going great, theywere there.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
But then when I was like I mean even like, like, if
you were going through yourdivorce, like, did you have
friends that were like hey,we're here for you, we?
Know you're going through atough time.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
I've had friends that were there and I've had friends
that I completely stoppedtalking to them that time yeah
it's just one lady like the ideaof talking about this family
brings me to tears becauseliterally when I had no one,
when I was going to church andlike, and I was like, oh my god,
I won't go to church becauseit's going to be so awkward, so
weird, because I was going to achurch of christ and they were
(32:15):
like anti-divorce or whatever ohman, they put me went together
with this cuckoo bird.
Um, sorry lord, I'm not addingthat up anyway.
Um, there was like they werelike looking at me, and then
this lady, like to this day.
She was like, hey, just comesit with us.
And when I talked to herdaughter I was like, hey, how's
(32:35):
your mom doing?
Speaker 1 (32:37):
yeah, and I.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
The funny thing is I met her shout out to didi um,
who's probably won't listen tothis podcast, but I don't know
why erin decided to bump hishead anyway.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
But um, whenever I talk to her, I always ask her
how her mom's doing and I, oh, Imet her.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
So I was trying to say I met her, uh, didi, when
she was in youth.
I used to have a youth groupwhen I was in Louisiana and I
met Didi when she was like inmiddle school I think, and we
just, you know, clicked similarpersonalities very, very bold.
(33:17):
If you don't like us, we don'tcare, we're still us type of
individuals.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
Weird On a weird type .
Weird is fun.
Yeah, weird is fun, weird isfun.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Nobody actually.
It has to be fun.
And in the background, hey,he's cooking and it actually
smells good.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Dude, it really does.
It does smell good.
Yeah, he's cooking and itactually smells good it does
smell good.
Yeah, he opened that door andI'm like dang, that smells good,
I'm inviting myself over fordinner.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
I could not, but she helped me and to this day I feel
like I owe her the world.
So I think for the mom, see,she did something for you, like
you don't know what other peopleare going through, so she
offered you that Something sosmall that could have been
overlooked.
I think for See, she didsomething for you like.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
You don't know what other people are going through
right.
So she offered you thatsomething so small that could
have been like overlooked andyou're like dude that helped.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Yeah, so, like, obviously, like I said, I check
in with the mom every once in awhile, but I make sure every so
many months I call and check onDidi how are you?
Just because I mean, honestly,she means the world to me.
She helped you.
Yeah, and also Didi side note,didi when I moved out of the
house with my ex to my ownapartment, her and some of her
(34:24):
cousins and her sister actuallycame to my apartment.
They were all like teenagers,by the way, I think some of them
were still in high school.
They came to my house.
We bagged up all of my stuffand took it to my apartment.
See, and I'm like that's cool, Iam forever indebted to you yeah
because at that point whetheractually I don't think anyone
really realized until somethingmy mouth.
But I was at the point where Iwas going down the suicidal
(34:46):
train like I was not in a goodplace.
If I didn't get out, it wouldnot have been good.
Why did that put you there?
It was between the verbal abuse, the mental abuse, um, and I
think he had the mindset of likedon't tell anyone what happens
in his house, it's in his house.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
So it was just how long were you in that marriage?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
well, this is a good question, so I think estimate, I
think right, I think I was inthe house for about three years,
I think.
I was technically married onpaper for probably about five.
Dude, that's a long time.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
What I'm saying is because you saying that reminded
me of something that I had thatI was listening to, and it was
like, the more you're in thatsituation, for example, right,
and you're submissive towhatever he's telling you, so
you're just agreeing withwhatever he says, but the more
you allow that, the more he'sgoing to do it so like your
(35:41):
self-esteem is like way downhere and his is like way up here
.
So there's no balance and sohe's like pretty much you're his
doormat like running you around, it's like man, because that's
a thing too.
And then, um, because I feltlike I went through it to an
extent right, and now I lookback on it and I'm like dang, my
self-esteem was like on thefloor under my foot.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
How are we?
How are you new?
I'm married.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
How old was, I was young.
How old, uh 19?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
so I was 21, but he was 30 so you were still young?
Speaker 3 (36:16):
yeah, you were young.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
In that age gap he knew what he was and then he was
and then I was, obviously whenI am american, but it was, it
was, that was a lot.
And like my family now would belike I try to talk to you but
she didn't want to talk to me,and then the very turn, figure
out you know, like why you weregetting married.
Yeah, and at that point I was soin like.
(36:38):
I just thought that the church,the church was like um, leading
me in the right direction, andI trusted the individuals that
were like, trying to put ustogether.
It wasn't good.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
By the first.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
I literally could have got a divorce probably
within, like, honestly, sixmonths Really for real, but six
months really for a bit.
Honestly, by the first year, bythe first year I realized that
he was like on skype isn't gonnawork with other females in
jamaica, golly, but I was also22 and everyone that I would
confide in was like, oh, it'sokay, or oh, you know, oh
(37:10):
because you're still gonna tryto make it work.
You're trying to make this workI didn't want to make it work.
Yeah, I should have my stop.
What I was doing was peoplepleasing and everyone over here
was telling me no, have youtried this?
But anyway, that is the reasonwhy I had to get in therapy.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
I'm telling you if I wouldn't get in therapy, you
wouldn't have been ready for him, for Aaron what do you need and
you know what.
I could see Aaron being a goodhype person because even at the
gym.
He's like come on, let's go.
Like he hypes you up, yeah, andI could see him being a good
hype person to her, like, ifyou're, hey, I have what,
(37:48):
whatever plan you have, he'slike, yeah, go for it, you know
I can see him being that personfor you definitely is
Speaker 2 (37:52):
he reminds me all the time that don't you have
homework things to do?
Speaker 1 (37:55):
and I'm like shut up, I do actually I did not want to
do it right now.
Since you bought it up, I will,or even to me.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
We left the concert we went to last night and I was
like still wanting my burger andfries and I was like, hey, if
you stop by bubba's, they havelike ten dollar fries or nine
dollars or fries or something.
He's like I'm not turningaround.
He's like you don't need aburger.
He's like you remember yourgoal.
Like I told him, it's not.
It's not something he's puttingon me, but my goal is for me to
be looking cute in a mustardyellow bikini yes, this summer,
(38:27):
he reminded you.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Yes, yellow bikini.
He's like, yeah, are you tryingto get?
Speaker 2 (38:32):
snatched for something.
So we ended up going to marketstreet and got like um, a
meatloaf, and then like a greenchili yeah, because he even
gives you ideas, right?
Speaker 3 (38:42):
he's like yeah, yeah sometimes, but so we ate that
which I was fine with.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
But then this morning we got burgers and fries and
both of us were like, oh my god,I feel sick that's why we
skipped breakfast, so it waslike technically breakfast and
lunch calories but we were sickafterwards that's cool, but yeah
, no, it is great to be.
(39:07):
I think before they weretalking about like with my first
marriage, like being equallyyoked and what that meant.
Speaker 3 (39:13):
I think this is actually an example of being
equally yoked that's cool,that's neat and yeah, so I feel
like too, um, I was young, butso hector harvey's dad was also
young, like I feel like we wereboth young, you know, and so
whatever mistakes were, like wewere young you know like
(39:33):
especially young together, yeah,and like their dad was like I
feel men mature, take so muchlonger to mature.
Dude, he wasn't even 30.
He was like 20, you know, like,and so I feel like a lot of
that had to do with him beingyoung and like I could sit here
and be like man if you.
I wish I knew how he would benow.
It could make a difference.
(39:54):
It could not.
Who knows, I'll never, know Icould sit there and ruminate on
it, or I could just be like youknow what it is, what it is,
yeah oh, you know um, but I feellike that had a lot to do with
it because we were both.
We were young, bro.
Yeah, I was homeboy, I was 30and he just, and I feel like now
I'm what?
36, 36, so I'm 34 yeah, we'relike.
(40:19):
I feel like we're older andwe're mature so you think about
stuff more.
Yeah, right, I feel like I thinkabout stuff more, which I think
is why I'm hesitant to for alot of things, yeah, which can
also get in the way, maybe.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like sometimes I feel like we
have a especially for myself.
Myself I can speak on, I have atendency to overthink things
Same, and some things are justnot that complicated.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
I overthink everything.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I think with, I think , overthinking I feel like it
most times.
I don't really overthinking, Ijust feel like most times is not
a good thing.
It's not.
You miss opportunities and thenyou play a situation in your
head that are probably not goingto happen.
Nope, and actually that's thewhole podcast.
(41:09):
But you see, aaron ask him aboutthe situation with the dog and
me overthinking that's a wholeanother thing.
I'll have to tell you when weend this.
But that was my first fightthinking I won't, that's a whole
nother, that's a whole notherthing.
Like I'll have to.
I'll have him tell you when weend this.
But yeah, we, that was my firstfight, was me?
overthinking by the gym matterof fact, because usually when
I'm over at the gym, sometimeslike during I don't know what
(41:31):
street that is that way.
But so I've seen like loosedogs right and we were walking
and he wanted to go down thatstreet and I was like no,
because there's loose dogs theresometimes he's like what are we
over there all this time?
Speaker 1 (41:44):
I?
Speaker 2 (41:44):
don't ever see any loose dogs and I was like but
there's loose dogs, you're allnot going over.
No, and I don't know why.
Like I like uh, my friend'sdogs are one thing, stranger's
dogs I freak out like I don'tlike it, especially when you're
on the leash and you're wild.
I think you're going to attackme automatically.
I've not been attacked by a dog, that's what I think.
(42:05):
I don't know why it is what itis.
I could tell you I'm working ona best of lies, so I'm not Just
.
I don't deal with dogs.
Just Skip him away from me.
And we were walking and he saidroof, and I said you mother.
Yeah, and I tell you he went oneway, I went another way.
That was the first fight we had.
Oh, wow 20 minutes in theparking lot talking about why,
(42:29):
and my overthinking and all that.
Yeah, I'm telling you.
if you see him, I care about it,he would laugh and tell you
he's going to laugh andeverything, laugh and tell you
he's gonna laugh and everything.
Um, but yeah, okay, that isfunny.
Well, I have two questions foryou, and you kind of touched on
the first one, but you can justcircle back around to it.
What do you stand for?
oh, what I stand for like myfirm belief yeah, you said
(42:51):
something about oh circle,something about your friends
having a good circle of friends,or something oh, like the
circle of friends rooting foryour friends.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Like rooting for your friends as far as like not uh
raining on their parade.
Yeah right, not raining on theirparade so like, for example,
seeing someone um successful orsomeone succeed, what steps did
they take, like, instead ofraining on their parade?
Well, they did this becausethey, you know in a minute, in a
negative way.
If you want to be successful,like they are, what steps did
(43:22):
they take?
Take the same steps, you know,like, I feel like we all have
opportunities.
How to say you all have 24hours within your day.
You just you either put in thework or you don't.
Um, that's a good one, um,there was another one the
choices.
Like, every choice has aconsequence, whatever choice you
make.
That, whether it be a goodchoice or a bad choice, I barely
(43:45):
posted this other day, likeit's um a health choice, you
make your health choices right.
So, like, if you're unhealthy,like, you made that choice,
you're not gonna feel good rightand then um it goes.
Financial choices like what doyou stand for there?
Like are you, what are you?
Speaker 1 (44:02):
working.
Are you employed?
Speaker 3 (44:03):
are you going to school, like you, you know.
Like you're going to school,you're putting in the work,
you're expecting it.
Like this other outcome um,relationship, same thing.
You get to pick your spouse.
So, whether you picked, youknow, like how you were saying
in your previous divorce thatyou, you know, maybe it was an
age thing, but now, like youhave Aaron, who's like your hype
person and you know it's goingwell.
(44:24):
He's still older than me,though by four years, and then
you have your circle of friends,right, like who's gonna, who's
actually your friend, like thatyou can, I feel like, too, like
a friend that you can go to Witha problem.
Are they going to help yousolve it, or are they going to
criticize you For it or judge it, or like give you Options.
(44:45):
I know I have, like Justin's, agood one that I'm like.
I feel like he's so wise.
Same thing.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Like I over, like it's not this, it's yeah, like
you're a baby, yeah, all right,then my second this is my last
question can you encourage thelisteners that are listening to
this podcast with whatever youhave on your heart?
Speaker 3 (45:13):
um, yeah, I can encourage them with like, um, I
feel like everybody is strongerthan what they know.
So, like, when you're facedwith something, you can overcome
it, even though you think thatit's the end of the world and
you're not going to be able toovercome it.
Dude, you'll overcome it Likeyou don't have.
There's no other way around it.
Like, I mean, you can fall intoother things like depressions,
(45:33):
addictions and all that, or youcan be strong enough to overcome
it, and I feel like everybody'sstronger than what we really
know.
It's all in our head, it's allin your head, it's like a.
I feel like a lot of stuffhappens in our head and that's
the hardest part to control.
Speaker 2 (45:47):
Sir, I posted this the other day because I saw this
on internet and it blew my mind.
Do you know what depressionalso spells out?
No, I press on I press mic drop, which don't get me wrong.
Speaker 3 (46:02):
There's some, there's some situations where you take
a second and you know grieve andfeel, but also remember
depression spells out dude, andI feel like you linger in that
moment, because I know, like I'mnot saying it's not like you
can have your moments and I willdude, I will have my moment.
I will you know whether it belike in you have your moments
and I will dude, I will have mymoment.
I will you know whether it belike in your.
You have to go to your room andcry or whatever, but you don't
(46:22):
sit there and dwell on it.
Right, like you have your momentand then you move on and go on
through your day and then inlife and everything but again,
you can either choose to staydown in your pity party or
choose to move on that's orchoose to move on.
Speaker 2 (46:43):
That's it right there .
Well, thank you for coming onand being my first uh guest for
life mottos.
I do have a question for you.
As I said, I was done with mylast question, but anyway, if
the listeners want to find you,if they're interested in joining
the gym, if they want help withthe meal planning and all that
sweet loving stuff that you do,how do they contact you?
Speaker 3 (47:01):
dang.
No, I was like, now I have moreto add to that, I was like I
have a gym yeah, so then I havehms fitness, which is um like
instagram, facebook.
We're on that.
I do meal planning.
I just thought of that.
I was like I do help peoplewith meal planning through HMS
Fitness or my page, and Iactually just made another page.
I labeled it as eats, becauseyou can actually like food right
(47:25):
, like I feel, like food is fuelright.
Like you can feel good when youeat the right foods and I'm like
you can like be creative withit.
You don't have to like be on adiet and hate your life like
force yourself to eat certainthings you don't want to Like
food is actually good, you knowLike.
So that's one.
And then I have HMS events,because I'll book the gym for
(47:51):
parties on Saturdays or Sundays.
That's another one and that's awhole different page.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
So I guess HMS anything, um, that's another one
, and that's a whole differentpage.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
So I guess, hms anything I will have to on the
bottom of this in thedescription box I'll make sure
all of her pages or thedescription of what it is.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Yeah, it's underneath .
That way, if you're interestedin um whether it be her helping
you get your body in shape bythe gym, or her um assisting you
with meal planning, or youbooking her gym to host your
next- baby shower or party.
She got you.
She's on a one-stop shop.
What do you need?
Speaker 3 (48:28):
I got you and I feel like and you know what, though?
Like now that I think about it,because, uh, barely yesterday,
I'm either like messaging withsomeone that's booking or is
going to book, or my kids arebothering me, or like
something's always going on andI feel like man, half of the
time, my mind's everywhere,right, and my phone's like on
10% a lot of the time becauseI'm always on it, but it's all,
(48:50):
it's for a reason, like it's foryou know, it's either the gym
or the parties or my kids, orlike something's always going on
parties or my kids, or likesomething's always going on, um,
but it's.
I feel like if I didn't havethat busy life, dude, I don't
know what I would do.
I think I'd go crazy.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
You know, I used to say that my life has slowed down
and I'm practically fine withit yeah, maybe I need a.
I find, myself taking more naps.
I'm more intentional because Ihave more time.
I'm not always busy and moving.
Speaker 3 (49:21):
That's true.
That's a whole otherconversation, dude.
That's true.
Yeah, yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (49:26):
Now when I'm talking to you, this sounds really bad,
though, but now it's so true.
Now, when I'm talking to you,I'm actually listening, because
I don't have 12 things playingin my head of what you're right
yeah I have nothing to worryabout you know.
Speaker 3 (49:40):
Okay, so you know what I do now.
Um, I just put my phone on, donot disturb.
Like I'll take care of.
Like, if I need to answermessages, take care of it.
All right, I don't want to bebothered at this time.
Do not disturb silence.
I'm really bad about answeringmy phone.
I do not like like calls, Iwon't answer them.
(50:01):
I'm like if it's important,they'll send me a message.
I can reply to it and I have itlike on my notes, like stuff
about the gym that I need toreply, like um, where I can just
copy and paste, for example,like any information I have for
the gym, to where it makes mylife easier that way, to where
I'm not like having to be on thephone for 30 minutes and
repeating the same thing overand over you know, no, but um,
(50:23):
yeah, I know you're right.
Yeah, I mean what is?
Speaker 2 (50:25):
seasons of life.
I'm at a different season.
Yeah, right now it's literallyum, my relationship with god, my
marriage and school, and thenfamily and friends.
Yeah, and then the community,or for a second, their community
was number one.
Yeah, so just different seasons, different strokes for
different folks.
But anyway, thank you guys forlistening to yet another episode
(50:48):
of Standing your Tooth Podcastwith Yanni.
You can find me on allplatforms.
I will make sure that's listed.
I'm in the description box, butI remind you guys just to um,
encourage your neighbor, be kind.
Like we said it earlier, younever know what the person next
to you is going through.
Just keep that in mind andpeace out.
(51:08):
Oh and, by the way, if no one'stold you today, you are loved,
you are beautiful, you are oneof a kind the world needs,
exactly who God has called youto be, and remember that there's
only one you in this world.
So then, that is yoursuperpower.
Speaker 1 (51:26):
Okay, bye.
Thank you for listening toanother episode of Standing in
your Truth with Yanni.
And if no one told you today,you are loved, you are beautiful
, you are needed and you matter,be sure to follow on Facebook
at Standing In your TruthPodcast with Yanni.
Also on Instagram Talks WithYanni.
Hello everyone, welcome to Standing In your
Truth podcast with your host,yanni.
On this podcast you'll hearYanni, family and friends having
open-ended discussions onanything from faith, finances,
relationships and how to staymotivated during life's trying
times.
Make sure to follow on allsocial media platforms.
(00:23):
The social media link is in thebio.
Sit back and get ready to enjoy.
Speaker 2 (00:30):
Hello everyone, welcome to another episode of
Standing your Truth Podcast.
I am your host, yanni Thomas.
How have you guys been?
How's it going?
Hope all is well, I am.
This is going to be the secondepisode of my new series where
we're just doing life models.
So I'm having my friends andfamily come on and just tell us
(00:52):
what their life model is.
It could be an old life model,something they've been living by
for forever, or something theyjust found.
So I have my first guest togive her life model, so I'm
going to let her introduceherself.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Hey guys, my name is Esmeralda.
I am a mother of two kids twoteenagers right now and I run
HMS Fitness, an all-woman's gym.
I think that's my summary, Iguess.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
Is that the?
Speaker 3 (01:27):
summary of your.
That's the summary.
I have HMS Fitness and I'm amom.
Hey, nothing wrong with mom.
Speaker 2 (01:34):
All right, so we're going to start off with our
basic questions that we askeveryone.
So what motivates you?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
My kids.
That's the easy answer yeah,that was.
I'm like that was crazy Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
What advice would you give your younger self?
Speaker 3 (01:49):
That one is that one's kind of like tough.
What advice would you give youryounger self?
Yeah, I feel Not everything.
I guess like back then I'm like, I feel like everything, like
something happened.
It's like, oh my God, it's theend of the world.
Oh, you know like this canhappen because it's the end of
(02:12):
the world, but it's not likethere's so much more.
Like back then, you know you'reonly 17.
Like now I look at youngerpeople you know 17, 20.
And I'm like man you're stillbaby.
You know, like you have so muchlife ahead of you and so many
more choices to make, so manymore mistakes to make, so much
more to grow, and I feel like Iguess that's what I would tell
(02:34):
my younger self.
Like you still have room togrow.
This isn't it.
Speaker 2 (02:37):
It's not the end of the world.
Yeah, when you're younger, Ifeel like also, your mind is
only focused on and knows somany things.
So when you get older, yourmind expands.
Obviously you're like oh wait,that wasn't the end of the world
.
Yeah, I can relate to that onefor sure.
Yeah, yeah.
What is your mindset when youare told no or a door shuts?
Speaker 3 (02:58):
There has to be another way.
There has to be another way asfar as, like, no, um, this can't
be done.
Or you know, um, if a doorshuts, another one will open.
Okay, so it may be like if whatyou wanted at that time isn't
coming through, or, um, you havea life project or something
(03:19):
going on and it doesn't happen,something else will that makes
sense to me.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
All right, this is the last question for right now.
Then we'll get into our topic.
Um, how do you protect yourmental health and what is your
self-care routine?
So, I guess, you can start withwhat's your self-care routine
first the gym.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Yes, yeah, two times.
I have to.
Yeah, two a day.
And don't get me wrong, there'sdays where there could be a day
where I'm like man, my body'sbeat.
I have to take a day off.
But if I do not work outconsistently, I won't be able to
sleep.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Really.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
Yeah, it's my mental health for sure.
That's literally.
I cannot.
I don't think I've gone morethan a week.
You know, even if I go onvacation, whatever, I have to
work out so are you like onvacation in the?
I'll go for a run.
Oh you go, I can go for a run,yeah I can run uh-huh definitely
that's my mental health goateefor sure.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Maybe a walk for about 30 minutes.
That's about what you'regetting on me on vacation,
getting from me on vacation,that's crazy.
Uh-huh, definitely that's mymental health go-to for sure.
Maybe a walk for about 30minutes.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
That's about what you're getting on me from
vacation.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
Getting from me on vacation, that's crazy.
So how far can you run?
Have you tracked how many miles?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
you run or you just go.
No, I just go, like say, if I'mout of town three miles you
know, but I'm not like running,or if it's a hike, whatever,
I'll jog, take pictures here andthere.
Oh, okay, okay, catch my breath.
Look at the scenery whatever,but it's something.
But it's something.
Yeah, I'm moving, I have tomove, I'm moving that is
hilarious, Uh-huh.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Okay, so the burning question is I'm doing a little
drum roll.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
What is your life motto Right now?
Learn how to pick your battles.
Yeah, learn how to pick yourbattles is one.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
So define picking your like.
What is the meaning of like?
Learn how to pick your battles.
What does that mean?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
You don't have to fight with everything that you
don't agree with.
Okay, so you don't have tofight with everything you don't
agree with, as far as like,because if you did fight with
everything, first of all, noteveryone thinks the same.
We all have our own opinions,whether they're right or wrong,
but if you were to sit there andfight with everyone, you would
(05:40):
be fighting all the time andwasting all that energy that you
could be using on other things.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
yeah, yeah, so I think that's a really good one
it kind of goes with um, Iremember people always say the
same uh, or my mind is blank, oh, we can agree to disagree yes
kind of fall someone.
Yeah, like picking your battles, I'm gonna agree to disagree
with you and move on.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Yeah, with respect, right, which I think is missing
sometimes, and you know whatwhen you like agree to disagree
and you have a conversation, youcan learn a lot from that other
person like hey what's yourpoint of view and why do you
feel?
Why do you feel this way overthis subject?
But you could learn a lot fromthe other person, even though
you don't agree with them.
It's something, something new,right, it could be a different
(06:25):
point of view.
Speaker 2 (06:27):
I think that's why it's also important to have a
diverse group of friends to helpyou to be able to, Because if
you have a diverse group offriends, you're going to learn
from them and some of the thingsyou do you're not going to
agree with.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
You're going to be like wait what?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
I don't get it or help me understand it, but, um,
I think as long as there'srespect there, I may not agree
with what you're doing, yeah,but I'm going to respect you and
you know that's what you wantto do.
Don't let you do it right, andyou know, keep pushing from
there.
So I like that.
(07:05):
But so how has picking yourbattles like changed your life?
How has that really made adifference for you?
Speaker 3 (07:13):
um, I feel like you can either ruminate on stuff
that you don't agree with or youdon't like or that upsets you.
Like something that's upsettingfor you, right?
You can either sit there andthrow your pity party, like why
is this going this way, thisisn't the way that I want it to
go, and you have no control overit, or you upsetting for you,
right?
You can either sit there andthrow your pity party, like why
is this going this way?
This isn't the way that I wantit to go, and you have no
control over it, or you can justsay you know what.
If it's happening whatever, letit be, I'm still going to
continue on doing what I do.
(07:35):
Go to work, do the best that youcan, because that's another
thing.
Like you don't know who'slooking at you right for like
guidance, or you could besomebody's lie, whatever.
You also don't know what otherpeople are going through and
they're having their own issuesand you could be there to help
them, but you don't becauseyou're over here throwing your
(07:58):
pity party.
You know what I mean.
So I feel like that whole likepick your battles.
It's like pick, pick thebattles that you can control too
.
Like if it's out of yourcontrol.
Why sit there and either fightit, be upset about it, if you
can't control it?
Yeah, so you putting feelingsand energy into it is kind of
pointless, right, mm-hmm.
(08:18):
So I think that's the mainconcept of it.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yeah, concept of it.
Yeah, I have to remind myselfsometimes when we're out and
about and customer service isnot up to par, or like you're
going through the dryer throughand they don't want to give you
the sauce, like their checkrelies on the sauce.
Yeah, and I'm like dude, justgive me the sauce and I have to
remember, like for one, youdon't know what it took for
those individuals to come towork yes, I'm also like do you
(08:43):
really need this sauce?
yeah, probably not, so let'sjust move on.
Yeah, so, yeah, I think, Idefinitely think there's some
importance of picking yourbattles, but the question I have
also is how do you know whichbattles to pick?
Like for you?
Is it like, is it based on likevalues, values or morals, or
just how you're feeling that day?
Like how do you know?
(09:03):
I?
Speaker 3 (09:04):
think how it's gonna affect me.
Okay, right, like if it's abattle that it's gonna affect me
, like I don't know it could bea battle, like if it's a line,
whether if you're gonna loseyour job, yeah that's a battle
you're gonna pick, because mylike my job's on the line you
know.
I feel like the important onesthat are really gonna have a
dramatic effect on your life,then yeah.
But if it's just a like yeahsauce from.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
McDonald's.
Speaker 3 (09:29):
You know what, Keep your sauce.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
I'm not this battle's not worth it.
But I mean it also, I think,comes back down to your mental
health, yeah, and like I mean,if I'm having one of those, you
know, those days where pmsing Imay need that you caught me on
the wrong day yeah, yeah, yeah,today's not the day and you know
(09:55):
what I've said that before.
Speaker 3 (09:56):
Like I know, like, for example, at the gym, we talk
a lot of a lot of crap to eachother, right, and there's days
where I'm like maybe I'm justbeing a big baby.
I'm like you know what, today'snot the day, yeah, but it's.
I have to check myself too andI'm like you know.
You know, on a normal day wouldyou be acting like that?
I wouldn't so it's kind of oneof those days, too.
(10:18):
You have to check yourself too,like why are you being a big
baby this day?
Why are you, you know, out ofthe normal and you're like, oh,
self-reflection moment yeahmaybe yeah yeah, it's all the
extra things that females gothrough.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
yeah, I think, yeah, joy, I think also it kind of
goes with um, every action has aconsequence, right.
So it's like if you're pickingyour battles and the battle you
choose, you have to realize okay, I'm choosing to fight this
battle.
Am I prepared for what's goingto come with me fighting that
battle?
Yes, which I mean?
(10:55):
Obviously, if you think aboutit that much, maybe you're good,
but sometimes people aren't.
Like you know, you make a badchoice.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
You know you're picking that battle.
Speaker 2 (11:03):
You're making a bad choice and you make a bad choice
.
You know you're picking themout.
You're making this bad choiceand you're gonna have to deal
with it.
Yeah, and I think also thatcould be.
I think also that saying isusually negative but on the flip
side it could be very positive.
Yeah, like I'm choosing rightnow to put all of my spare
attention which I, I say spare,but it ain't that much, but
(11:24):
anyway all my attention intoschooling.
Yeah, me going to school,making sure.
At this point I am tellingmyself I don't want anything
lower than a, b, and thatrequires extra attention.
Uh-huh, that is my action, myconsequence.
Better be me on the Dean's List, yeah, or honor, or whatever
it's called.
Yeah, and with a degree, andhopefully then that will lead to
(11:47):
a different job, not leaving myjob right now, but I'm just
saying, um, I think that's.
I hate that that saying is tiedto negative yeah it doesn't have
to be yeah, so I don't knowwhat are your feelings on?
Speaker 3 (12:00):
every action has a consequence um, I mean yeah, I
use it a lot with my kids um, ifyou're going to behave this
certain way, or if you're goingto get in trouble at school, or
if you're going to do x, y and z, you know, like, if you're big,
and if you feel like you're bigand tough to make that choice,
even though you know it's thewrong one, then you better be
big and tough to face theconsequences of whatever is to
(12:23):
come and not necessarily justfor me, because sometimes I can
be a big pushover with my kids,especially with my.
I'm the only parent in the houseand that itself is overwhelming
.
You know, sometimes I wish Ihad, like somebody else, or like
, you know, their dad.
You know, telling them like,hey, chill out, or you know, and
I could just be the nice PTAmom.
Speaker 2 (12:45):
And you know, and I could just be the nice PTA mom
and you know, like that would bemy perfect world, where I could
just be like are you trying tobuy snacks and everything?
Speaker 3 (12:51):
else, yes, I would still be that mom and be like
you know what, like you know,they get in trouble and I'm like
, okay, come on, I'll come foryou, you know, but it sucks
having to be those both roles.
I hate it.
I hate it, but I also know, um,like it's hard.
But I also know, like in theback of my head, I have to step
in, even though it's hard for meto do, and just put my foot
down, even though that's alsosuper hard for me to do, you
(13:14):
know, but and then it goes back.
Every action has a consequence.
All right, esmeralda, are yougoing to fall into being a
pushover because you don't wantto be sad and upset?
Speaker 2 (13:24):
but then, because you don't want to be sad and upset,
you're like screwing up yourkid's life because you don't put
order in their life you know,like you're kind of that's,
that's a tough one especially itis I feel like not saying that
girls don't need order order,but I feel like like guidance
yeah, but boys need, I feel like, a little bit more, yeah, um,
(13:45):
because I feel like a lost youngman can really um, cause havoc,
and for his family and thenworld around him, yeah, with him
being lost.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
So I kudos to you for , uh, fighting the battle and
knowing when to put your footdown or when to be like, okay,
this is not that big of a deal,I can only have being.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
I don't remember.
I think at one point she wasboth parents, so my stepdad was
in jail and there was plenty oftimes where I would look for my
mom and my mom would either lockherself in the bathroom and
tell us us to give her fiveminutes, that was me that's me
she would make sure we haddinner and she would do our
homework, and then she would begone for 30 minutes and you're
(14:32):
like where'd?
she go, she's in her bedroomcrying no, no, no, she was out
like driving I don't know whatshe's doing in the car.
I asked her that one time andshe's like I needed some time
and and I said well, girl, whenyou was gone.
We was fighting, I didn't know.
What you didn't know is we wasboxing, yeah, but I mean okay.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Yeah, no, like I think that has as far as like
raising them, and I think rightnow they're in a time of their
life it's where they're tryingto individualize and be more
independent and, like, do thingson their own.
And now I can sit back and belike, okay, I was really talking
the other day to another momand she's like well, I feel like
(15:12):
if I don't do this, I feel likea bad parent right.
She has no time for herself.
She's like she doesn't.
She hasn't made it to the gymbecause she has to do all this
with her kids.
And I'm like you need to giveyourself that time, because I
feel like I used to be that way.
But then if you because if youdon't, then you'll kind of like
(15:38):
she was, like then I'm anegative way.
So now I'm kind of like youknow, I have this going on and
you're gonna miss out on that,because I'm have this going on
and that's okay.
Yeah, right.
So I feel like, uh, I guessthis could go out to more of the
moms out there like don't feelguilty when you put some of your
stuff ahead of their stuff likeat the end of the day uh, it's
fine, it's okay, it's I know Ipersonally don't like this
(16:01):
saying bad mom, I mean
Speaker 2 (16:04):
or bad dad, by the way, right um, and I think
obviously there are some parentsthat are just not good parents
but, I think when we use thatterm due to the fact of the
parent doing something forthemselves, such as the gym,
such as mom or dad night out, orYou're a person too.
Yeah, yeah.
Because I just I feel like,just like you made the statement
(16:27):
, and like, at the end of theday, if you're not taking time
to take care of your mentalhealth, your physical health,
heck, your health is just ingeneral.
Take care of you in general.
Your kid is going to suffer.
They're going to realize mom anddad or mom or dad whoever is
not happy yeah, and they'regoing to see you not taking care
(16:49):
of yourself.
So they're going to think it'sokay to always go above and
beyond and give their all tosomeone else and forget that
they are a person too yes, well,one, they won't appreciate what
you do for them.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yeah, you know if you do what, if you go overboard,
then they're not going to knowthe difference as to like they
won't know the difference, theywon't appreciate it.
And then, two, I have seensomething where like even the
kid can get like think, is sheupset because she has to do this
for me?
And then they start feelingguilty because you can make them
(17:21):
feel that way, because you'relike miserable or whatever you
know.
So yeah, I feel like as aparent, you do have to take time
for yourself.
Speaker 2 (17:29):
Yeah, for sure yeah, I just I'm not a parent,
obviously yeah but literallyjust about all of my friends are
parents.
Yeah, and they all say, likeyou know, I don't want to be a
bad and I'm like I don'tunderstand why that can't happen
.
Yeah, I mean it's like CPS isnot being called.
You're probably not a badparent.
(17:50):
I'm just saying Not that that'sa good standard to go by, but
I'm like take a second tobreathe yo yeah.
Because I mean, if you're nottaking care of yourself and you
drop dead and pass or you havethis huge mental break, what
about that kid then?
Where is that kid going to go?
Yeah, If you die, is that likenobody?
(18:13):
I think a lot of people don'tthink of that extreme, which I'm
going to understand, but I feellike, if you're gonna go down
that way, well, let me hit youwith the facts of like, yeah,
your health matters, yeah, so ifyou sit up here and catch, one
of these diseases or something.
Who's watching your kid?
Yo, right, because you're.
A lot of people always say,like you know, well, I don't
have anyone to watch them or Idon't have a support group, cool
.
So even more reason for you totake some time yeah because you
(18:36):
don't have it.
So, therefore, if somethinghappens to you.
Uh, yeah, where do they go?
Speaker 3 (18:41):
like going down the street like come on now.
Speaker 2 (18:43):
Yeah, yes, definitely yeah, I don't know what we're
gonna put down a rabbit hole,yeah, but I feel like that
rabbit hole is needed for someparents listening to this that
hasn't taken a second to breatheyeah breathe, yeah.
And while you're breathing,remind your kid they need to
breathe too yeah, and I'm notsaying it's easy for sure.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
It's like, probably not any like an easy choice to
make, but I feel like you needto make that choice and choices
are just not easy to make andjust make it, and you once you
make it, you'll be like oh, thatwasn't that bad yeah, yeah, or
maybe I don't know.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Is it possible to find something for you and your
little one to do together torelax, is that?
Speaker 3 (19:24):
a thing you can, but you still need time for yourself
.
You do because I know I haveboth of my kids like.
I have a chill kid and theother one is just like, not like
, but dang, that kid can take alot of my energy and I feel like
, I think it's his character.
I feel like we all havedifferent characters and, like
you know, when they're growingup, like dang, that one's gonna
(19:45):
give me that, how one's gonnagive me trouble, or that one's
in you, as a parent, just haveto guide them.
You can only do so much to youguide them.
You tell them in um, as aparent, that's really all you
can do right like, at the end ofthe day, they're gonna grow up,
they're their own person.
Yeah, like I feel like we haveto realize this they're that our
(20:06):
kids are their own person.
They're gonna grow up and beadults and there's nothing you
can do about it I mean, meanthat's the truth?
Speaker 2 (20:15):
Yeah, like I said, I have advice for parents, but I
always am.
I'm very I always say it toomuch because I ain't no parent,
so I ain't gave birth to nobody,I ain't adopted nobody yet
anyway.
So yeah.
I just I have, like I said, Ihave a lot of friends that are
parents and then I am also theoldest in my family.
(20:39):
so I feel like, to some degree,some of my younger siblings like
I didn't birth them, but I likecombed their hair, got them
dressed, did their homework,fettle yeah I mean yeah to some
degree for about three yearsyeah, that's still a long time
you know so I like, I'm like Isee some things and I'm like, oh
, she's suffering and it sucks,yeah, and I would say also, if
(21:02):
you're not a parent but maybeyou're just like a wife or a
husband.
You need to find some time foryourself as well.
Yeah, that's important just nowthat I can speak up but yeah
I'm like now you're speaking mylanguage, but, um, okay, is
there anything else that we youwant to touch on this from the,
(21:22):
excuse me, from the life motto?
Uh, picking your battles, orevery action has a consequence?
Speaker 3 (21:30):
um picking your battles anything else?
I can't think like noteverything's gonna go your way
oh, that's, a no you know that'sa good one too that's a whole
life, yeah and it's like, evenif it doesn't go your way again,
if it's out of your control,like what are you gonna do about
it?
yeah, you know, find another way.
Yeah, find um, even if you havelike I don't know how to
(21:53):
explain it, um, even if you havelike I don't know how to
explain it, my thing okay, mything for the longest time was
like how I said, my dream waslike be a PT mom and I get to
stay at home mom and get toraise my kids, all that cool
stuff, right, see me in thehouse making cookies, whatever I
cannot.
I can't even bake to save mylife.
(22:15):
I can cook everything too, butI cannot bake Really, I really
for real, and so that to me waslike man, why couldn't I be that
?
Speaker 1 (22:24):
And.
Speaker 3 (22:24):
I could sit here and dwell and be sad, upset over it,
and sometimes like I could getin those emotions, but I'm not.
So then I am like being I'mraising my kids, I'm being a
single parent, and like I feellike God has put me on this path
and I have to roll with it,because sometimes we're put on a
path that we may not agree withit, like, oh, this isn't what I
(22:46):
want, but maybe there's areason why I'm on this path and
it's it's been good to me so far.
You know like so far it's been,it's worked, um, and I just
roll with it, like you caneither sit there and fight and
be like this isn't what I want,or roll with it, like and see
what, what comes out of it, andI feel like so far it's been
good.
Speaker 2 (23:06):
Yeah, that goes with.
Everything happens for a reason.
Speaker 3 (23:09):
Yes, for sure.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
And then first when the what they say the sticker
shock, or when the band-aidfirst comes off.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Yeah, it hurts.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
Yeah, and sometimes I had my friend Monita.
She told me this about twoyears ago you have to get over
yourself.
Speaker 3 (23:27):
What does that mean?
Speaker 2 (23:28):
Like, yes, you can cry because this happened to you
, but get over it, right, thishappened to you and I'm
realizing it's probably the casefor a lot of us.
Our lives are not our lives.
There's people like you said,people looking at us.
Right, god has put us on thisearth to encourage, uplift and
spread his love and joy andmercy across.
Yeah, so it's like I have toget over myself sometimes.
(23:50):
Yeah yep, I got divorced, thathappened.
Yeah, that hurt when it firsthappened and all the foolishness
that took place.
It hurt, but then now I'm hereto say like, there's life after
divorce yeah, it's not the endof the world.
Speaker 3 (24:04):
No, you're back.
Speaker 2 (24:04):
Yeah, it's not the end of the world?
Yes, but you just have to likeyou.
I mean you said earlier likeget over yourself.
Yeah, get over yourself.
It hurts, don't get me wrong.
Okay, and it's not easy to do.
There's some days where I'll belike man.
What in the world is happening?
Yeah, and there's some dayswhere I'm like, why not me lord
right, like, okay, you, you,this is my story.
(24:27):
All right now, let's let'sfigure out.
How how is this story?
How am I going to grow fromthis story?
yeah how am I going to be ableto encourage my neighbor?
Because I always say thiswhether you realize it or not,
if you sit down and talk to yourneighbor, you realize that you
guys have more things in commonthan not.
So it's like, how am I going tobe able to, um, encourage my
neighbor?
And I realize the more I getout and I'm not scared to
(24:50):
encourage or scared to speak isthe more people that are like,
oh, I can't relate to that andI'm like, okay, look.
So this is why you know this ispart of my journey is because I
need to help sally 20 years fromnow yeah I mean it's not always
immediate, you figure, when thepieces come together, it's
definitely god's timing notsaying that it's timing is 20
(25:12):
years, but sometimes I befeeling like it, um, and you're
like oh, okay, now this makessense yeah, no I get it, or even
sometimes just to see how.
Um, because I feel likesometimes when things happen, we
think that he's not present andhe's not there.
And when you're going throughit like it's like, it's like man
(25:33):
, I'm why, lord me, and you'rejust figuring it out and
navigating it, and it comes downto one thing for myself, the
last three years have been likewhoa.
I realized how God has beenthere every single step of the
way, the level of protection,the people he's put in my life,
whether it be permanently ortemporary.
(25:54):
Because that's a thing tooEveryone is permanently supposed
to be in your life.
Life, um, whether it bepermanently or temporary.
Yeah, because that's a thingtoo.
Yeah, everyone is permanentlysupposed to be in your life, um,
so it's, you just realize andyou're like oh, he's never left
me.
Yeah, he.
You know he's put this personin my life to make sure I was
okay during this time period.
He's put this person in my lifebecause he know I needed
someone that I could talk to 247 about everything.
(26:14):
Yeah, you know, I had to getdivorced to meet the guy I was
now, so it's like it's dude.
Yes, all of the time it works,but I think also to know that I
needed to grow.
Yeah, I was.
It's always easy to be like man.
You know, this happened blahblah.
Yeah, that did happen, but whatpart did you take in it?
Speaker 1 (26:34):
Yeah, and how can you learn from?
Speaker 2 (26:36):
that, yeah, and I literally had to get rebaptized
and went to therapy.
Yeah, and I'm so glad I saidthis before on here, so glad I
did that before I met Aaron,otherwise I would not have been
prepared for him.
Yeah, because he was thecomplete opposite and I was
confused.
Sometimes we still confuse us,man, because what Did I do this?
I had no idea.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Like I told you a lot of times, like the first, I
think we were just friends.
Speaker 2 (26:57):
I don't think we were even actually dating.
I was sick at my apartment andhe bought me.
He was leaving to go out oftown and before he left to go
out of town he bought memedicine, flowers, ice cream and
some fuzz soup.
That's cute and I was like.
I'm like people like that'scute and I was like all right
(27:19):
people do this, because Iactually did that.
I was sick, figure it out onyour own, golly.
So it's like what, or even thelike this evening, um, we worked
out together and that wassomething he would so previous
the homeboy before thought itwas cute to always tell me that
I was like too big and my skinhad um x-ray marks on it, uh-huh
.
So he'd be like go to the gymworkout.
(27:39):
And I'm like, okay, well, canyou come to the gym with me and
work out, because if y'all knowme.
You know that I am not like girl.
I got two less feet, like I'mlike well, can you come with me,
like help me out?
You know he was like no, I walkat work, I'm not walking with
you and I'm Well.
The other reason I'm goinganyway, because I think I'm fine
.
So lack of self-confidence.
(27:59):
I had to find that too, butanyway.
Speaker 3 (28:01):
so now, Dude, and you know what I feel like the
people that you have around youare a big deal right, because
you can have, like you know,someone like that that's like,
no, you go walk on your own, no,whatever.
Or you can have someone by yourside that that's cheering for
you and that's like, hey, no, wecan do this, like, let's go to
the gym together.
Speaker 1 (28:20):
Let's do this together.
Speaker 3 (28:22):
Um, I feel like that's a big deal.
That's it.
Yeah, it's a huge deal, it isEven, it could even like.
(28:43):
Yes, that's to me, I feel likethat's a big deal.
Um, even like you see, likeyour friend thriving or whatever
, and you're like you know, I'mproud of you, or whatever, um,
you can rub off of that, you ruboff of the, you feed off of
each other, you rub off of, likethe energy.
Um, yeah, that that's a bigdeal to me, that that I can
stand on that.
Like, whoever you hang out with, like your friends, your small
circle, um, your circle offriends, like will help you
(29:05):
either like succeed or like um,how would you say that?
Speaker 2 (29:11):
like you're either higher or bring you down, yeah,
they can really bring you downit's one of those things where
you're going to, your friendsare either going to challenge
you to grow yeah, to do betterand listen to you and support
you, or they're going to do thestraight opposite.
They're going to bring you down, they're going to use you,
they're going to abuse you andprobably when you get to your
(29:38):
bottom, you're when you're atthat moment where you need help,
because it's life or death foryou.
If that's not a good friend,they're not going to be around.
Yeah, yeah, for sure, and I'vedealt with friends like that.
But I felt like the funny thingis, um, um, maybe like 2021, um
, I met this lady and she waslike your friends, you need to
(29:58):
clean up your friends.
And I was like, okay, and she'slike say the prayer Lord, sweep
off, or clean off my back porch, or something like that.
Speaker 3 (30:05):
And all of a sudden, these random people started like
falling off, disappeared, and Iwas like, oh, I guess not a lot
of friends are falling off, butI have friends now that I know
for sure.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
If I say, hey, I need something.
They'll show up.
If they're not showing up,they'll communicate and tell me
like hey, you know I want to,but this is what I have going on
yeah so, and I am, I try to bethe friend that I want.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
So therefore, that means if my friends are showing
up for me, I make sure I show upfor them so it's like I'm, I'm,
yeah, our relationships aretwo-sided yes, so yeah, and I
feel like too, um, I don't knowlike, I feel like if you can
have good friends, like actualgood friends, like you're lucky,
right, I don't feel like a lotof people have, um, loyal
(30:53):
friends too.
Like you can have your friendsbut you don't know like their
intentions or you know ifthey're being honest.
And I feel like a lot of peoplehave loyal friends too, like
you can have your friends butyou don't know like their
intentions or you know ifthey're being honest.
And I feel like if you findthose friends like, hold on to
those because those are the goodones to have.
Speaker 2 (31:04):
Yeah, yeah, but also with holding on to them, I mean
if they're good friends.
Speaker 3 (31:10):
yeah, Like you'll.
You'll know, I feel like you'llknow but I think also make sure
you have friends you can dolife with yeah because if
they're only there when it looksgood for you yeah, then they're
not good friends becausethey're gonna be there to pick
you up and, like you're goingthrough a challenging time,
(31:30):
they're gonna be, there for youif they're good friends, and if
they're not, they're gonnadisappear, because you know
those aren't good friends.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
I don't know for you if they're good friends and if
they're not, they're gonnadisappear because you know those
aren't good friends.
When it was going great, theywere there.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
But then when I was like I mean even like, like, if
you were going through yourdivorce, like, did you have
friends that were like hey,we're here for you, we?
Know you're going through atough time.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
I've had friends that were there and I've had friends
that I completely stoppedtalking to them that time yeah
it's just one lady like the ideaof talking about this family
brings me to tears becauseliterally when I had no one,
when I was going to church andlike, and I was like, oh my god,
I won't go to church becauseit's going to be so awkward, so
weird, because I was going to achurch of christ and they were
(32:15):
like anti-divorce or whatever ohman, they put me went together
with this cuckoo bird.
Um, sorry lord, I'm not addingthat up anyway.
Um, there was like they werelike looking at me, and then
this lady, like to this day.
She was like, hey, just comesit with us.
And when I talked to herdaughter I was like, hey, how's
(32:35):
your mom doing?
Speaker 1 (32:37):
yeah, and I.
Speaker 2 (32:37):
The funny thing is I met her shout out to didi um,
who's probably won't listen tothis podcast, but I don't know
why erin decided to bump hishead anyway.
Speaker 1 (32:51):
But um, whenever I talk to her, I always ask her
how her mom's doing and I, oh, Imet her.
Speaker 2 (32:56):
So I was trying to say I met her, uh, didi, when
she was in youth.
I used to have a youth groupwhen I was in Louisiana and I
met Didi when she was like inmiddle school I think, and we
just, you know, clicked similarpersonalities very, very bold.
(33:17):
If you don't like us, we don'tcare, we're still us type of
individuals.
Speaker 3 (33:20):
Weird On a weird type .
Weird is fun.
Yeah, weird is fun, weird isfun.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Nobody actually.
It has to be fun.
And in the background, hey,he's cooking and it actually
smells good.
Speaker 3 (33:33):
Dude, it really does.
It does smell good.
Yeah, he's cooking and itactually smells good it does
smell good.
Yeah, he opened that door andI'm like dang, that smells good,
I'm inviting myself over fordinner.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
I could not, but she helped me and to this day I feel
like I owe her the world.
So I think for the mom, see,she did something for you, like
you don't know what other peopleare going through, so she
offered you that Something sosmall that could have been
overlooked.
I think for See, she didsomething for you like.
Speaker 3 (33:54):
You don't know what other people are going through
right.
So she offered you thatsomething so small that could
have been like overlooked andyou're like dude that helped.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
Yeah, so, like, obviously, like I said, I check
in with the mom every once in awhile, but I make sure every so
many months I call and check onDidi how are you?
Just because I mean, honestly,she means the world to me.
She helped you.
Yeah, and also Didi side note,didi when I moved out of the
house with my ex to my ownapartment, her and some of her
(34:24):
cousins and her sister actuallycame to my apartment.
They were all like teenagers,by the way, I think some of them
were still in high school.
They came to my house.
We bagged up all of my stuffand took it to my apartment.
See, and I'm like that's cool, Iam forever indebted to you yeah
because at that point whetheractually I don't think anyone
really realized until somethingmy mouth.
But I was at the point where Iwas going down the suicidal
(34:46):
train like I was not in a goodplace.
If I didn't get out, it wouldnot have been good.
Why did that put you there?
It was between the verbal abuse, the mental abuse, um, and I
think he had the mindset of likedon't tell anyone what happens
in his house, it's in his house.
Speaker 3 (35:02):
So it was just how long were you in that marriage?
Speaker 2 (35:05):
well, this is a good question, so I think estimate, I
think right, I think I was inthe house for about three years,
I think.
I was technically married onpaper for probably about five.
Dude, that's a long time.
Speaker 3 (35:19):
What I'm saying is because you saying that reminded
me of something that I had thatI was listening to, and it was
like, the more you're in thatsituation, for example, right,
and you're submissive towhatever he's telling you, so
you're just agreeing withwhatever he says, but the more
you allow that, the more he'sgoing to do it so like your
(35:41):
self-esteem is like way downhere and his is like way up here
.
So there's no balance and sohe's like pretty much you're his
doormat like running you around, it's like man, because that's
a thing too.
And then, um, because I feltlike I went through it to an
extent right, and now I lookback on it and I'm like dang, my
self-esteem was like on thefloor under my foot.
Speaker 2 (36:04):
How are we?
How are you new?
I'm married.
Speaker 3 (36:07):
How old was, I was young.
How old, uh 19?
Speaker 2 (36:11):
so I was 21, but he was 30 so you were still young?
Speaker 3 (36:16):
yeah, you were young.
Speaker 2 (36:17):
In that age gap he knew what he was and then he was
and then I was, obviously whenI am american, but it was, it
was, that was a lot.
And like my family now would belike I try to talk to you but
she didn't want to talk to me,and then the very turn, figure
out you know, like why you weregetting married.
Yeah, and at that point I was soin like.
(36:38):
I just thought that the church,the church was like um, leading
me in the right direction, andI trusted the individuals that
were like, trying to put ustogether.
It wasn't good.
Speaker 1 (36:49):
By the first.
Speaker 2 (36:50):
I literally could have got a divorce probably
within, like, honestly, sixmonths Really for real, but six
months really for a bit.
Honestly, by the first year, bythe first year I realized that
he was like on skype isn't gonnawork with other females in
jamaica, golly, but I was also22 and everyone that I would
confide in was like, oh, it'sokay, or oh, you know, oh
(37:10):
because you're still gonna tryto make it work.
You're trying to make this workI didn't want to make it work.
Yeah, I should have my stop.
What I was doing was peoplepleasing and everyone over here
was telling me no, have youtried this?
But anyway, that is the reasonwhy I had to get in therapy.
Speaker 3 (37:28):
I'm telling you if I wouldn't get in therapy, you
wouldn't have been ready for him, for Aaron what do you need and
you know what.
I could see Aaron being a goodhype person because even at the
gym.
He's like come on, let's go.
Like he hypes you up, yeah, andI could see him being a good
hype person to her, like, ifyou're, hey, I have what,
(37:48):
whatever plan you have, he'slike, yeah, go for it, you know
I can see him being that personfor you definitely is
Speaker 2 (37:52):
he reminds me all the time that don't you have
homework things to do?
Speaker 1 (37:55):
and I'm like shut up, I do actually I did not want to
do it right now.
Since you bought it up, I will,or even to me.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
We left the concert we went to last night and I was
like still wanting my burger andfries and I was like, hey, if
you stop by bubba's, they havelike ten dollar fries or nine
dollars or fries or something.
He's like I'm not turningaround.
He's like you don't need aburger.
He's like you remember yourgoal.
Like I told him, it's not.
It's not something he's puttingon me, but my goal is for me to
be looking cute in a mustardyellow bikini yes, this summer,
(38:27):
he reminded you.
Speaker 3 (38:29):
Yes, yellow bikini.
He's like, yeah, are you tryingto get?
Speaker 2 (38:32):
snatched for something.
So we ended up going to marketstreet and got like um, a
meatloaf, and then like a greenchili yeah, because he even
gives you ideas, right?
Speaker 3 (38:42):
he's like yeah, yeah sometimes, but so we ate that
which I was fine with.
Speaker 2 (38:47):
But then this morning we got burgers and fries and
both of us were like, oh my god,I feel sick that's why we
skipped breakfast, so it waslike technically breakfast and
lunch calories but we were sickafterwards that's cool, but yeah
, no, it is great to be.
(39:07):
I think before they weretalking about like with my first
marriage, like being equallyyoked and what that meant.
Speaker 3 (39:13):
I think this is actually an example of being
equally yoked that's cool,that's neat and yeah, so I feel
like too, um, I was young, butso hector harvey's dad was also
young, like I feel like we wereboth young, you know, and so
whatever mistakes were, like wewere young you know like
(39:33):
especially young together, yeah,and like their dad was like I
feel men mature, take so muchlonger to mature.
Dude, he wasn't even 30.
He was like 20, you know, like,and so I feel like a lot of
that had to do with him beingyoung and like I could sit here
and be like man if you.
I wish I knew how he would benow.
It could make a difference.
(39:54):
It could not.
Who knows, I'll never, know Icould sit there and ruminate on
it, or I could just be like youknow what it is, what it is,
yeah oh, you know um, but I feellike that had a lot to do with
it because we were both.
We were young, bro.
Yeah, I was homeboy, I was 30and he just, and I feel like now
I'm what?
36, 36, so I'm 34 yeah, we'relike.
(40:19):
I feel like we're older andwe're mature so you think about
stuff more.
Yeah, right, I feel like I thinkabout stuff more, which I think
is why I'm hesitant to for alot of things, yeah, which can
also get in the way, maybe.
Speaker 2 (40:33):
Yeah, yeah, I feel like sometimes I feel like we
have a especially for myself.
Myself I can speak on, I have atendency to overthink things
Same, and some things are justnot that complicated.
Speaker 1 (40:44):
I overthink everything.
Speaker 2 (40:45):
I think with, I think , overthinking I feel like it
most times.
I don't really overthinking, Ijust feel like most times is not
a good thing.
It's not.
You miss opportunities and thenyou play a situation in your
head that are probably not goingto happen.
Nope, and actually that's thewhole podcast.
(41:09):
But you see, aaron ask him aboutthe situation with the dog and
me overthinking that's a wholeanother thing.
I'll have to tell you when weend this.
But that was my first fightthinking I won't, that's a whole
nother, that's a whole notherthing.
Like I'll have to.
I'll have him tell you when weend this.
But yeah, we, that was my firstfight, was me?
overthinking by the gym matterof fact, because usually when
I'm over at the gym, sometimeslike during I don't know what
(41:31):
street that is that way.
But so I've seen like loosedogs right and we were walking
and he wanted to go down thatstreet and I was like no,
because there's loose dogs theresometimes he's like what are we
over there all this time?
Speaker 1 (41:44):
I?
Speaker 2 (41:44):
don't ever see any loose dogs and I was like but
there's loose dogs, you're allnot going over.
No, and I don't know why.
Like I like uh, my friend'sdogs are one thing, stranger's
dogs I freak out like I don'tlike it, especially when you're
on the leash and you're wild.
I think you're going to attackme automatically.
I've not been attacked by a dog, that's what I think.
(42:05):
I don't know why it is what itis.
I could tell you I'm working ona best of lies, so I'm not Just
.
I don't deal with dogs.
Just Skip him away from me.
And we were walking and he saidroof, and I said you mother.
Yeah, and I tell you he went oneway, I went another way.
That was the first fight we had.
Oh, wow 20 minutes in theparking lot talking about why,
(42:29):
and my overthinking and all that.
Yeah, I'm telling you.
if you see him, I care about it,he would laugh and tell you
he's going to laugh andeverything, laugh and tell you
he's gonna laugh and everything.
Um, but yeah, okay, that isfunny.
Well, I have two questions foryou, and you kind of touched on
the first one, but you can justcircle back around to it.
What do you stand for?
oh, what I stand for like myfirm belief yeah, you said
(42:51):
something about oh circle,something about your friends
having a good circle of friends,or something oh, like the
circle of friends rooting foryour friends.
Speaker 3 (42:59):
Like rooting for your friends as far as like not uh
raining on their parade.
Yeah right, not raining on theirparade so like, for example,
seeing someone um successful orsomeone succeed, what steps did
they take, like, instead ofraining on their parade?
Well, they did this becausethey, you know in a minute, in a
negative way.
If you want to be successful,like they are, what steps did
(43:22):
they take?
Take the same steps, you know,like, I feel like we all have
opportunities.
How to say you all have 24hours within your day.
You just you either put in thework or you don't.
Um, that's a good one, um,there was another one the
choices.
Like, every choice has aconsequence, whatever choice you
make.
That, whether it be a goodchoice or a bad choice, I barely
(43:45):
posted this other day, likeit's um a health choice, you
make your health choices right.
So, like, if you're unhealthy,like, you made that choice,
you're not gonna feel good rightand then um it goes.
Financial choices like what doyou stand for there?
Like are you, what are you?
Speaker 1 (44:02):
working.
Are you employed?
Speaker 3 (44:03):
are you going to school, like you, you know.
Like you're going to school,you're putting in the work,
you're expecting it.
Like this other outcome um,relationship, same thing.
You get to pick your spouse.
So, whether you picked, youknow, like how you were saying
in your previous divorce thatyou, you know, maybe it was an
age thing, but now, like youhave Aaron, who's like your hype
person and you know it's goingwell.
(44:24):
He's still older than me,though by four years, and then
you have your circle of friends,right, like who's gonna, who's
actually your friend, like thatyou can, I feel like, too, like
a friend that you can go to Witha problem.
Are they going to help yousolve it, or are they going to
criticize you For it or judge it, or like give you Options.
(44:45):
I know I have, like Justin's, agood one that I'm like.
I feel like he's so wise.
Same thing.
Speaker 2 (45:05):
Like I over, like it's not this, it's yeah, like
you're a baby, yeah, all right,then my second this is my last
question can you encourage thelisteners that are listening to
this podcast with whatever youhave on your heart?
Speaker 3 (45:13):
um, yeah, I can encourage them with like, um, I
feel like everybody is strongerthan what they know.
So, like, when you're facedwith something, you can overcome
it, even though you think thatit's the end of the world and
you're not going to be able toovercome it.
Dude, you'll overcome it Likeyou don't have.
There's no other way around it.
Like, I mean, you can fall intoother things like depressions,
(45:33):
addictions and all that, or youcan be strong enough to overcome
it, and I feel like everybody'sstronger than what we really
know.
It's all in our head, it's allin your head, it's like a.
I feel like a lot of stuffhappens in our head and that's
the hardest part to control.
Speaker 2 (45:47):
Sir, I posted this the other day because I saw this
on internet and it blew my mind.
Do you know what depressionalso spells out?
No, I press on I press mic drop, which don't get me wrong.
Speaker 3 (46:02):
There's some, there's some situations where you take
a second and you know grieve andfeel, but also remember
depression spells out dude, andI feel like you linger in that
moment, because I know, like I'mnot saying it's not like you
can have your moments and I willdude, I will have my moment.
I will you know whether it belike in you have your moments
and I will dude, I will have mymoment.
I will you know whether it belike in your.
You have to go to your room andcry or whatever, but you don't
(46:22):
sit there and dwell on it.
Right, like you have your momentand then you move on and go on
through your day and then inlife and everything but again,
you can either choose to staydown in your pity party or
choose to move on that's orchoose to move on.
Speaker 2 (46:43):
That's it right there .
Well, thank you for coming onand being my first uh guest for
life mottos.
I do have a question for you.
As I said, I was done with mylast question, but anyway, if
the listeners want to find you,if they're interested in joining
the gym, if they want help withthe meal planning and all that
sweet loving stuff that you do,how do they contact you?
Speaker 3 (47:01):
dang.
No, I was like, now I have moreto add to that, I was like I
have a gym yeah, so then I havehms fitness, which is um like
instagram, facebook.
We're on that.
I do meal planning.
I just thought of that.
I was like I do help peoplewith meal planning through HMS
Fitness or my page, and Iactually just made another page.
I labeled it as eats, becauseyou can actually like food right
(47:25):
, like I feel, like food is fuelright.
Like you can feel good when youeat the right foods and I'm like
you can like be creative withit.
You don't have to like be on adiet and hate your life like
force yourself to eat certainthings you don't want to Like
food is actually good, you knowLike.
So that's one.
And then I have HMS events,because I'll book the gym for
(47:51):
parties on Saturdays or Sundays.
That's another one and that's awhole different page.
Speaker 2 (47:57):
So I guess HMS anything, um, that's another one
, and that's a whole differentpage.
Speaker 1 (48:02):
So I guess, hms anything I will have to on the
bottom of this in thedescription box I'll make sure
all of her pages or thedescription of what it is.
Speaker 2 (48:07):
Yeah, it's underneath .
That way, if you're interestedin um whether it be her helping
you get your body in shape bythe gym, or her um assisting you
with meal planning, or youbooking her gym to host your
next- baby shower or party.
She got you.
She's on a one-stop shop.
What do you need?
Speaker 3 (48:28):
I got you and I feel like and you know what, though?
Like now that I think about it,because, uh, barely yesterday,
I'm either like messaging withsomeone that's booking or is
going to book, or my kids arebothering me, or like
something's always going on andI feel like man, half of the
time, my mind's everywhere,right, and my phone's like on
10% a lot of the time becauseI'm always on it, but it's all,
(48:50):
it's for a reason, like it's foryou know, it's either the gym
or the parties or my kids, orlike something's always going on
parties or my kids, or likesomething's always going on, um,
but it's.
I feel like if I didn't havethat busy life, dude, I don't
know what I would do.
I think I'd go crazy.
Speaker 2 (49:07):
You know, I used to say that my life has slowed down
and I'm practically fine withit yeah, maybe I need a.
I find, myself taking more naps.
I'm more intentional because Ihave more time.
I'm not always busy and moving.
Speaker 3 (49:21):
That's true.
That's a whole otherconversation, dude.
That's true.
Yeah, yeah, that's true.
Speaker 2 (49:26):
Now when I'm talking to you, this sounds really bad,
though, but now it's so true.
Now, when I'm talking to you,I'm actually listening, because
I don't have 12 things playingin my head of what you're right
yeah I have nothing to worryabout you know.
Speaker 3 (49:40):
Okay, so you know what I do now.
Um, I just put my phone on, donot disturb.
Like I'll take care of.
Like, if I need to answermessages, take care of it.
All right, I don't want to bebothered at this time.
Do not disturb silence.
I'm really bad about answeringmy phone.
I do not like like calls, Iwon't answer them.
(50:01):
I'm like if it's important,they'll send me a message.
I can reply to it and I have itlike on my notes, like stuff
about the gym that I need toreply, like um, where I can just
copy and paste, for example,like any information I have for
the gym, to where it makes mylife easier that way, to where
I'm not like having to be on thephone for 30 minutes and
repeating the same thing overand over you know, no, but um,
(50:23):
yeah, I know you're right.
Yeah, I mean what is?
Speaker 2 (50:25):
seasons of life.
I'm at a different season.
Yeah, right now it's literallyum, my relationship with god, my
marriage and school, and thenfamily and friends.
Yeah, and then the community,or for a second, their community
was number one.
Yeah, so just different seasons, different strokes for
different folks.
But anyway, thank you guys forlistening to yet another episode
(50:48):
of Standing your Tooth Podcastwith Yanni.
You can find me on allplatforms.
I will make sure that's listed.
I'm in the description box, butI remind you guys just to um,
encourage your neighbor, be kind.
Like we said it earlier, younever know what the person next
to you is going through.
Just keep that in mind andpeace out.
(51:08):
Oh and, by the way, if no one'stold you today, you are loved,
you are beautiful, you are oneof a kind the world needs,
exactly who God has called youto be, and remember that there's
only one you in this world.
So then, that is yoursuperpower.
Speaker 1 (51:26):
Okay, bye.
Thank you for listening toanother episode of Standing in
your Truth with Yanni.
And if no one told you today,you are loved, you are beautiful
, you are needed and you matter,be sure to follow on Facebook
at Standing In your TruthPodcast with Yanni.
Also on Instagram Talks WithYanni.
Popular Podcasts
Cold Case Files: Miami
Joyce Sapp, 76; Bryan Herrera, 16; and Laurance Webb, 32—three Miami residents whose lives were stolen in brutal, unsolved homicides. Cold Case Files: Miami follows award‑winning radio host and City of Miami Police reserve officer Enrique Santos as he partners with the department’s Cold Case Homicide Unit, determined family members, and the advocates who spend their lives fighting for justice for the victims who can no longer fight for themselves.
24/7 News: The Latest
The latest news in 4 minutes updated every hour, every day.
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.