In Part 3 of our Redefining 'Having It All' series, we’re getting honest about a truth many ambitious women are waking up to: the version of success we’ve been taught to chase isn’t always aligned with our deepest values. In this episode, Darine explores how the constant pursuit of external validation—titles, promotions, status, and hustle—can silently drain our energy and disconnect us from what actually makes us feel fulfilled. You’ll learn how to reassess what success means to you, reconnect with your purpose, and design a life that fuels you, not just your résumé.
Key Topics Discussed:
- How traditional success metrics create invisible pressure
- Signs your definition of success no longer serves you
- The role of ambition in identity—and how to evolve it
- How to design your personal, values-aligned definition of success
- Why fulfillment is the new power move
Key Takeaways
- Success without alignment leads to burnout, not joy
- You are allowed to evolve your dreams and goals
- Ambition isn’t about doing more—it’s about doing what matters
- Fulfillment comes from alignment, not achievement alone
Actionable Steps:
- Success Inventory: List your current goals and ask: “Do these still belong to me?”
- Feeling First Exercise: Write down how you want your success to feel, not just look
- Declare Your Own Definition: Complete the sentence: “For me, success means…”
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