July 15, 2025 • 13 mins
We all reach breaking points that force us to reassess our priorities. Last summer, I learned this lesson the hard way when attempting to work from home while simultaneously caring for my three energetic children. By August, what started as a cost-saving measure had spiraled into a near-nervous breakdown that affected every aspect of my life—my job performance, my marriage, and most significantly, my mental health.
Fast forward to this summer, where I made the conscious decision to prioritize my sanity over savings by enrolling my children in camp. This choice—while financially significant—has been transformative for my wellbeing. For those listening who might not have the financial flexibility to make similar choices, my message is simple but crucial: the mistake I made during leaner times wasn't the inability to afford childcare, but rather my reluctance to ask for help or create even small moments of self-care.
The power of these small moments became abundantly clear recently when my husband encouraged me to enjoy our pool alone after the children were settled for the evening. This simple gesture—"just go back in the pool"—felt more meaningful than any grand romantic display because it actively prioritized my needs. Those few minutes of swimming laps not only refreshed my mind but provided unexpected relief for my chronic back pain. It's a powerful reminder that self-care doesn't require expensive solutions; even ten dedicated minutes can be transformative when we fully commit to honoring ourselves.
Whether you're struggling with work-life balance, caregiver fatigue, or simply feeling overwhelmed by daily responsibilities, I encourage you to find small ways to prioritize yourself. When we choose our sanity, everyone around us benefits. If you've found effective strategies for incorporating self-care into busy schedules, I'd love to hear about them! Share your thoughts using the feedback link in this episode's description.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello everyone.
This is StillRosesPodcast.
This podcast was created forWomen, by Women, to elevate
women's voices.
Happy well Tuesday.
By the time you all hear this,I hope everyone is enjoying July
.
I don't know if you all feelthe same way, but I feel like
I'm blinking and the summer isflying.
Last summer didn't feel that way.
(00:20):
For those of you who've beenwith me for a while, you know
the situation I was in lastsummer, but I'm just catch
everyone up.
So last summer I, we, wedecided well, I guess it was
really a me decision to test itout.
But last summer I waspredetermined to just have my
kids home and while I workedfrom home and I thought, if I
(00:40):
coordinated it just so and youknow, had enough half days so
that they would like, you know,kind of hang out while I worked
in the morning and then I wouldbe with them in the afternoons,
like I thought I could just kindof navigate it.
So that would be totally fine.
If you're a mom and you'rehearing me, you're probably
laughing already at the naivety,the naivete that I had at
thinking that I could somehowmanage working from home while
(01:03):
all three of my kids are home.
My kids are incredibly active,constantly wanting to do
something, always kind ofjumping around, playing like
just that's just how they are,which I love it.
I really, really love it.
But last summer it was a massivechallenge for me and it became
so stressful.
By August I was basically I washaving a nervous breakdown.
(01:23):
There's really no other way tosay that.
Besides, like it is what it was, the harsh reality was I was
basically having a nervousbreakdown.
Now there was a combination offactors that contributed to that
.
You can actually hear it insome of my episodes from last
summer.
If you check out a mini-sodefrom last summer, you can hear
me cracking.
My sanity was going right outthe window.
So I got to August and it wasjust a disaster and I called my
(01:47):
cousin, who was the former cohost of the podcast, and was
like remind me next year when Istart being cheap and not
wanting to pay for summer camp,remind me of this moment that
I'm crying basically every day,just having a nervous breakdown
from stress that not to do thisagain and to just put them in
summer camp and just bite thebullet and call it a day.
So this summer that's what Idid.
(02:08):
Now, if you are looking for alittle bit more detail around
what exactly was so complex lastsummer.
Yes, working from home, doesyou know?
It has its ups and downs, butmy, my job, a lot of it entails
meetings with clients virtually,which is great, you know,
because then I, because then Ican juggle quite a bit more
because of that.
But it requires quiet and myclients are looking to me to
(02:29):
present things to them, to talkthem through things, to guide
them, and it's very hard to dothat when you have children
running around.
My kids took full advantage ofthe fact that I was on camera
and I really couldn't scream oryell at them and I had to
basically pretend like theyweren't there.
And my husband would come homefrom work and kitchen would be a
disaster.
There would be snackseverywhere, things everywhere,
and I was on phone calls and Icouldn't even get up to do
(02:50):
anything about it.
So, nevertheless, anyway,that's really what it was is I
had deadlines for work, I hadthings I needed to get done and
it just became a constant,constant battle of like just me
trying to get through the dayand then it was affecting my
marriage.
It of like just me trying toget through the day and then it
was affecting my marriage.
It was affecting me personally,affected me at my job, which I
wasn't happy at already.
So this just snowballed intomaking it all that much worse.
(03:11):
So, again, put that in the past, it was an experience, won't do
it again.
So this summer I committed andwas like camp.
So in our town you pay aregistration fee and then every
day you pay for whatever theexcursion is for the day, so you
can opt out if it's tooexpensive.
Last week I opted out of two ofthe days and, boy, let me tell
you the reminder that it wasthat I need to just budget to
(03:34):
make sure that I can make this areality.
Now that brings me to a pointthat I didn't realize I was
going to make just now.
But I am going to make it foryou.
I have quite frequently recentlyopted for my sanity over saving
.
To be perfectly honest with you, I used to go the other route,
be like, oh, I'll just savemoney, I'll do it myself, I'll
do it myself.
Now that's a luxury that I'mable to afford myself.
(03:55):
After all of this time andthese many, many years of
struggling, I am able to make achoice here, and I always,
always, choose my sanity.
That's like a personal gift tomyself that I'm able to do this
Now on a smaller, less expensivescale.
Yes, I have the great fortuneto be able to do this right now,
and as long as my husbanddoesn't decide he wants to
(04:17):
retire early, I'll have thegreat fortune to do this for a
little while longer.
But for those of you who arelistening to this and saying
like I can't afford that, Ican't afford to just put my
sanity first on me first, likeit's all on me, it's all my
shoulders.
I hear you and I see you, andmy vibrational energy feels you
in my soul because I've beenthere too.
So the mistakes that I madewhen I couldn't afford to put
(04:41):
them in camp, the mistakes thatI made when I didn't choose my
sanity, was not asking for helpand not raising my hand and
saying you know what I actuallycould use?
A sitter and I am going toleave the house.
Never did it.
I just couldn't do it.
I could not bring myself to doit, and so I do really implore
all of you if you are findingyourself where you are burned
(05:01):
out and you are gettingdepressed and your anxiety is
through the roof and you'resnapping at your children,
you're snapping at your husband.
Don't go farther down that path.
It's going to feel very odd andawkward, but if you choose your
sanity, it benefits everybody.
Now I've been actually empoweredthrough this podcast now that
I'm saying it out loud, butempowered through all of you,
(05:22):
and empowered because,personally, I always like to
lead by example and there's alot of times where I say things
on here and then when I stoprecording and I throw the
episode out into the, to theworld for other women to hear,
in my mind I'm like you know,jenny, you just said all this
advice to these women.
You just drew a line in thesand and said this is the
boundary we're setting here, butthen you're not following
through on your end.
(05:42):
How could you do that?
That's being a hypocrite.
I'm not a hypocrite Like I'mgoing to.
I'm going to show up and dowhat I'm saying.
I'm going to be doing so tofurther that point.
Today, literally today.
This is a free thing.
You know I work all day.
I have to run back and forthpicking up the kids from camp
and everything.
I had work, you know, in theevening, so I hop back on.
You know I'm very and mybusiness ethics are there and I
(06:03):
I've said it before love my newjob, love my agency that I'm
with, I love my clients.
Like I, I would really go, I'dgo the distance, I really would.
But again, you know, I have mymoments where I'm stressed out
and I was upset over the weekendbecause, you know, mom stuff
chores this, that that nextthing and I was everyone's out
having fun in the pool and I'mlike damn.
And I said to my husband I'mlike you know I went on a bit of
(06:23):
a rant and I'm like, you know,every summer we have this pool
open and we put all this moneyinto the pool in our backyard
and I get into the pool likeless than 10 times, 100%, less
than 10 times do I get into thepool.
And I was like, and he was like, what are you talking about?
Just get in.
I'm like, yeah, okay, fine.
And I was like yelling at himfrom the grill, which is
actually even funnier.
But I'm yelling at him and I'mgoing, hey, you all are in the
(06:45):
pool and you all are enjoyingyour time, but if I go in there
and enjoy my time, who's eating?
What are you going to eat?
You're all going to get out ofthe pool and you're going to be
responsible to say like, oh, letme make sure everyone has food,
even if it means I'msacrificing time for myself to
relax and have fun.
So I suppose that it made animpact on him, because today I
(07:08):
got in the pool for a fewminutes and I had to get out,
you know, to get dinner goingand whatever usual stuff.
But I did.
I made the choice and I pushedmyself, even though it felt off
to do it to get in the pool justfor 10 minutes, just played
around a little bit, got cooledoff, whatever.
And then, after I didn't change, everyone else went to go take
showers and change and putpajamas on.
We're pretty strict stillduring the summer.
(07:30):
We keep our schedule prettystrict.
And so I was still in my bathingsuit and my husband said to me
he was like just go back in thepool.
And I was like what are youtalking about?
And he goes just go back in thepool.
He's like the kids are settled,everybody eats dinner.
Like go back in the pool.
And I kind of just stared athim for a second and was like
should I go back in the pool?
And he was like you should goback in the pool.
He was like you deserve to beout there relaxing too.
(07:50):
Ladies and gents, if anyone'slistening, I want everyone's be
included here when I tell you weare not romantic people in this
house.
Like I'm just not a romanticperson.
He's not really romantic Liketogether.
We're not a combined romanticcouple.
But in that moment I felt likethat was such a romantic gesture
and some of you are probablylike rolling your eyes, like
that's not romance, like that'sjust he should be.
(08:12):
You know that should be lettingyou do anything.
You do what you want.
Yes, I get it.
I under.
I hear you girls, but my pointis is that he pushed me to make
myself a priority and that to mespeaks volumes over bouquets of
roses and dinners out and, youknow, the sunshine and rainbows
and frigging the big show iswhat I usually call it.
(08:32):
I can do without the big showbecause this is so much more
meaningful to me.
So I tried to sneak out the backdoor.
My son followed me and hesquirted me with a water gun for
a few minutes while I was inthe pool doing laps, and then my
husband came out, kicked himback in the house said nope,
leave mommy alone, she's takingtime to herself, and I just did
laps back and forth.
(08:52):
I was only in for like 10minutes.
I really did not.
I wasn't in there like relaxingand hanging out, but to be able
to take that moment at the endof the day and just do some form
of physical activity was a hugedeal and I have to Google it to
see, like if this is legitimatebecause I'm going to start
doing it every day.
My back pain has beenexcruciating lately.
I have a herniated disc in mylower back and I am always very
(09:15):
mindful of it and I do things totake care of it because I don't
want to end up disabled in anyway.
That pool, the laps in the poolI don't know if it was just the
movement, I don't know what itwas.
I have to Google it again, likeI said, but it was phenomenal.
Like the impact on my back wasphenomenal and actually feels so
much better now.
So this might be a regularthing, which my kids will be so
upset.
But what are you going to do?
So key takeaway if you can doit, it doesn't have to be
(09:39):
something expensive.
It doesn't have to be something, a lot of money.
I'm sure there is somebody outthere who is willing to help you
, and if you are in a diresituation where you really don't
have help and there is not amoment where you're going to be
able to separate yourself fromyour kids or your situation, you
don't have to physicallyseparate yourself from a
(10:00):
situation.
What I would implore you to dois to take 10 minutes to do
something for yourself.
So it might be at the end ofthe day, when the kids are all
in bed and you're alone andinstead of folding laundry or
instead of doing anything I knowyou're probably just beat up
and exhausted and you just wantto crash and veg out on social
media and TV Take a few minutes.
(10:20):
Light a candle if you're notallergic I happen to be allergic
, so we don't have candles inour house, but you know, light a
candle, do something just toput you in a space of when I
look at this object, this is ame moment and I'm just taking a
minute to be with me and myselfand to honor yourself.
Once you start building on that, the effect it's going to have
is going to be tremendous.
(10:41):
I also want to take a minute toum, to acknowledge, uh, kathy
Heller.
You guys have heard me talkabout her a few times on this
podcast, and by a few I meanmany, because I kind of accredit
pretty much everything,everything good that has
happened in my life.
I I kind of have to, I have togive her credit.
Right now she's running herabundant ever after.
I don't know if it's pre-saleor sales, but she has courses
(11:02):
running consistently abundantever after was the one that I
had signed up for.
It is expensive, but the amountyou get back, the return on
that investment, is like ahundred times over what you
would spend.
I was very grateful that theyactually have payment plans.
You can set up a payment plan.
That's what I did.
I didn't have the money upfront no frigging way did I have
(11:22):
the money up front when I paidfor this thing, but I just did a
monthly payment plan and Isucked it up for a whole year
and I paid it and I was all set.
I just encourage you guys.
I've talked a lot about theimpact that working with Kathy
had on my life and I really wantto see all of you succeed.
I'll leave you with that.
I hope you enjoyed the littlemini-sode In the description of
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and she basically gave me someguidance and just said that you
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You know, I want to know that.
I'd like to address that tomake sure that I'm doing better
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and put themselves out there.
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Hello everyone.
This is StillRosesPodcast.
This podcast was created forWomen, by Women, to elevate
women's voices.
Happy well Tuesday.
By the time you all hear this,I hope everyone is enjoying July
.
I don't know if you all feelthe same way, but I feel like
I'm blinking and the summer isflying.
Last summer didn't feel that way.
(00:20):
For those of you who've beenwith me for a while, you know
the situation I was in lastsummer, but I'm just catch
everyone up.
So last summer I, we, wedecided well, I guess it was
really a me decision to test itout.
But last summer I waspredetermined to just have my
kids home and while I workedfrom home and I thought, if I
(00:40):
coordinated it just so and youknow, had enough half days so
that they would like, you know,kind of hang out while I worked
in the morning and then I wouldbe with them in the afternoons,
like I thought I could just kindof navigate it.
So that would be totally fine.
If you're a mom and you'rehearing me, you're probably
laughing already at the naivety,the naivete that I had at
thinking that I could somehowmanage working from home while
(01:03):
all three of my kids are home.
My kids are incredibly active,constantly wanting to do
something, always kind ofjumping around, playing like
just that's just how they are,which I love it.
I really, really love it.
But last summer it was a massivechallenge for me and it became
so stressful.
By August I was basically I washaving a nervous breakdown.
(01:23):
There's really no other way tosay that.
Besides, like it is what it was, the harsh reality was I was
basically having a nervousbreakdown.
Now there was a combination offactors that contributed to that
.
You can actually hear it insome of my episodes from last
summer.
If you check out a mini-sodefrom last summer, you can hear
me cracking.
My sanity was going right outthe window.
So I got to August and it wasjust a disaster and I called my
(01:47):
cousin, who was the former cohost of the podcast, and was
like remind me next year when Istart being cheap and not
wanting to pay for summer camp,remind me of this moment that
I'm crying basically every day,just having a nervous breakdown
from stress that not to do thisagain and to just put them in
summer camp and just bite thebullet and call it a day.
So this summer that's what Idid.
(02:08):
Now, if you are looking for alittle bit more detail around
what exactly was so complex lastsummer.
Yes, working from home, doesyou know?
It has its ups and downs, butmy, my job, a lot of it entails
meetings with clients virtually,which is great, you know,
because then I, because then Ican juggle quite a bit more
because of that.
But it requires quiet and myclients are looking to me to
(02:29):
present things to them, to talkthem through things, to guide
them, and it's very hard to dothat when you have children
running around.
My kids took full advantage ofthe fact that I was on camera
and I really couldn't scream oryell at them and I had to
basically pretend like theyweren't there.
And my husband would come homefrom work and kitchen would be a
disaster.
There would be snackseverywhere, things everywhere,
and I was on phone calls and Icouldn't even get up to do
(02:50):
anything about it.
So, nevertheless, anyway,that's really what it was is I
had deadlines for work, I hadthings I needed to get done and
it just became a constant,constant battle of like just me
trying to get through the dayand then it was affecting my
marriage.
It of like just me trying toget through the day and then it
was affecting my marriage.
It was affecting me personally,affected me at my job, which I
wasn't happy at already.
So this just snowballed intomaking it all that much worse.
(03:11):
So, again, put that in the past, it was an experience, won't do
it again.
So this summer I committed andwas like camp.
So in our town you pay aregistration fee and then every
day you pay for whatever theexcursion is for the day, so you
can opt out if it's tooexpensive.
Last week I opted out of two ofthe days and, boy, let me tell
you the reminder that it wasthat I need to just budget to
(03:34):
make sure that I can make this areality.
Now that brings me to a pointthat I didn't realize I was
going to make just now.
But I am going to make it foryou.
I have quite frequently recentlyopted for my sanity over saving
.
To be perfectly honest with you, I used to go the other route,
be like, oh, I'll just savemoney, I'll do it myself, I'll
do it myself.
Now that's a luxury that I'mable to afford myself.
(03:55):
After all of this time andthese many, many years of
struggling, I am able to make achoice here, and I always,
always, choose my sanity.
That's like a personal gift tomyself that I'm able to do this
Now on a smaller, less expensivescale.
Yes, I have the great fortuneto be able to do this right now,
and as long as my husbanddoesn't decide he wants to
(04:17):
retire early, I'll have thegreat fortune to do this for a
little while longer.
But for those of you who arelistening to this and saying
like I can't afford that, Ican't afford to just put my
sanity first on me first, likeit's all on me, it's all my
shoulders.
I hear you and I see you, andmy vibrational energy feels you
in my soul because I've beenthere too.
So the mistakes that I madewhen I couldn't afford to put
(04:41):
them in camp, the mistakes thatI made when I didn't choose my
sanity, was not asking for helpand not raising my hand and
saying you know what I actuallycould use?
A sitter and I am going toleave the house.
Never did it.
I just couldn't do it.
I could not bring myself to doit, and so I do really implore
all of you if you are findingyourself where you are burned
(05:01):
out and you are gettingdepressed and your anxiety is
through the roof and you'resnapping at your children,
you're snapping at your husband.
Don't go farther down that path.
It's going to feel very odd andawkward, but if you choose your
sanity, it benefits everybody.
Now I've been actually empoweredthrough this podcast now that
I'm saying it out loud, butempowered through all of you,
(05:22):
and empowered because,personally, I always like to
lead by example and there's alot of times where I say things
on here and then when I stoprecording and I throw the
episode out into the, to theworld for other women to hear,
in my mind I'm like you know,jenny, you just said all this
advice to these women.
You just drew a line in thesand and said this is the
boundary we're setting here, butthen you're not following
through on your end.
(05:42):
How could you do that?
That's being a hypocrite.
I'm not a hypocrite Like I'mgoing to.
I'm going to show up and dowhat I'm saying.
I'm going to be doing so tofurther that point.
Today, literally today.
This is a free thing.
You know I work all day.
I have to run back and forthpicking up the kids from camp
and everything.
I had work, you know, in theevening, so I hop back on.
You know I'm very and mybusiness ethics are there and I
(06:03):
I've said it before love my newjob, love my agency that I'm
with, I love my clients.
Like I, I would really go, I'dgo the distance, I really would.
But again, you know, I have mymoments where I'm stressed out
and I was upset over the weekendbecause, you know, mom stuff
chores this, that that nextthing and I was everyone's out
having fun in the pool and I'mlike damn.
And I said to my husband I'mlike you know I went on a bit of
(06:23):
a rant and I'm like, you know,every summer we have this pool
open and we put all this moneyinto the pool in our backyard
and I get into the pool likeless than 10 times, 100%, less
than 10 times do I get into thepool.
And I was like, and he was like, what are you talking about?
Just get in.
I'm like, yeah, okay, fine.
And I was like yelling at himfrom the grill, which is
actually even funnier.
But I'm yelling at him and I'mgoing, hey, you all are in the
(06:45):
pool and you all are enjoyingyour time, but if I go in there
and enjoy my time, who's eating?
What are you going to eat?
You're all going to get out ofthe pool and you're going to be
responsible to say like, oh, letme make sure everyone has food,
even if it means I'msacrificing time for myself to
relax and have fun.
So I suppose that it made animpact on him, because today I
(07:08):
got in the pool for a fewminutes and I had to get out,
you know, to get dinner goingand whatever usual stuff.
But I did.
I made the choice and I pushedmyself, even though it felt off
to do it to get in the pool justfor 10 minutes, just played
around a little bit, got cooledoff, whatever.
And then, after I didn't change, everyone else went to go take
showers and change and putpajamas on.
We're pretty strict stillduring the summer.
(07:30):
We keep our schedule prettystrict.
And so I was still in my bathingsuit and my husband said to me
he was like just go back in thepool.
And I was like what are youtalking about?
And he goes just go back in thepool.
He's like the kids are settled,everybody eats dinner.
Like go back in the pool.
And I kind of just stared athim for a second and was like
should I go back in the pool?
And he was like you should goback in the pool.
He was like you deserve to beout there relaxing too.
(07:50):
Ladies and gents, if anyone'slistening, I want everyone's be
included here when I tell you weare not romantic people in this
house.
Like I'm just not a romanticperson.
He's not really romantic Liketogether.
We're not a combined romanticcouple.
But in that moment I felt likethat was such a romantic gesture
and some of you are probablylike rolling your eyes, like
that's not romance, like that'sjust he should be.
(08:12):
You know that should be lettingyou do anything.
You do what you want.
Yes, I get it.
I under.
I hear you girls, but my pointis is that he pushed me to make
myself a priority and that to mespeaks volumes over bouquets of
roses and dinners out and, youknow, the sunshine and rainbows
and frigging the big show iswhat I usually call it.
(08:32):
I can do without the big showbecause this is so much more
meaningful to me.
So I tried to sneak out the backdoor.
My son followed me and hesquirted me with a water gun for
a few minutes while I was inthe pool doing laps, and then my
husband came out, kicked himback in the house said nope,
leave mommy alone, she's takingtime to herself, and I just did
laps back and forth.
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I was only in for like 10minutes.
I really did not.
I wasn't in there like relaxingand hanging out, but to be able
to take that moment at the endof the day and just do some form
of physical activity was a hugedeal and I have to Google it to
see, like if this is legitimatebecause I'm going to start
doing it every day.
My back pain has beenexcruciating lately.
I have a herniated disc in mylower back and I am always very
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mindful of it and I do things totake care of it because I don't
want to end up disabled in anyway.
That pool, the laps in the poolI don't know if it was just the
movement, I don't know what itwas.
I have to Google it again, likeI said, but it was phenomenal.
Like the impact on my back wasphenomenal and actually feels so
much better now.
So this might be a regularthing, which my kids will be so
upset.
But what are you going to do?
So key takeaway if you can doit, it doesn't have to be
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something expensive.
It doesn't have to be something, a lot of money.
I'm sure there is somebody outthere who is willing to help you
, and if you are in a diresituation where you really don't
have help and there is not amoment where you're going to be
able to separate yourself fromyour kids or your situation, you
don't have to physicallyseparate yourself from a
(10:00):
situation.
What I would implore you to dois to take 10 minutes to do
something for yourself.
So it might be at the end ofthe day, when the kids are all
in bed and you're alone andinstead of folding laundry or
instead of doing anything I knowyou're probably just beat up
and exhausted and you just wantto crash and veg out on social
media and TV Take a few minutes.
(10:20):
Light a candle if you're notallergic I happen to be allergic
, so we don't have candles inour house, but you know, light a
candle, do something just toput you in a space of when I
look at this object, this is ame moment and I'm just taking a
minute to be with me and myselfand to honor yourself.
Once you start building on that, the effect it's going to have
is going to be tremendous.
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I also want to take a minute toum, to acknowledge, uh, kathy
Heller.
You guys have heard me talkabout her a few times on this
podcast, and by a few I meanmany, because I kind of accredit
pretty much everything,everything good that has
happened in my life.
I I kind of have to, I have togive her credit.
Right now she's running herabundant ever after.
I don't know if it's pre-saleor sales, but she has courses
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running consistently abundantever after was the one that I
had signed up for.
It is expensive, but the amountyou get back, the return on
that investment, is like ahundred times over what you
would spend.
I was very grateful that theyactually have payment plans.
You can set up a payment plan.
That's what I did.
I didn't have the money upfront no frigging way did I have
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the money up front when I paidfor this thing, but I just did a
monthly payment plan and Isucked it up for a whole year
and I paid it and I was all set.
I just encourage you guys.
I've talked a lot about theimpact that working with Kathy
had on my life and I really wantto see all of you succeed.
I'll leave you with that.
I hope you enjoyed the littlemini-sode In the description of
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this episode.
Please use use the I think it'stext or something or reach out.
There's a link there.
You can send me feedbackdirectly.
Somebody recently sent mefeedback about an interview that
I did earlier that I airedearlier in the year, and I
actually wanted to take a minuteto call this person out because
I am so grateful for thefeedback that you provided.
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So there is no name attached toit.
The only thing that I'm able tosee is that the only thing I'm
able to see is location.
So, minnesota, I greatlyappreciate you because you came
in with very good, constructivecriticism.
The episode that I had receivedfeedback on was pertaining to,
well, the woman.
She's a widow.
The woman was a widow and shelost her husband to suicide.
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I have no point of reference onthis kind of situation and this
kind of feeling and the um, theperson who messaged you know
she she maybe was a little bitfrustrated with how I tried to
relate some of what the guestwas saying to other situations
and she basically gave me someguidance and just said that you
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know, like, if you're hearingthis kinds of stories, let the
person go.
Like let them talk, don'tinterrupt.
Like just let them tell theirstory, and I had thought that I
had, but you know what if itcame off not like that?
You know, I want to know that.
I'd like to address that tomake sure that I'm doing better
for you guys and that I amletting the guests really speak
and put themselves out there.
So the original episode wasRush McCarney on finding light
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after losing a partner tosuicide.
It aired on April 20th 2025.
I can include a link in thisepisode so you guys can take a
look if you want to, but I doreally greatly appreciate
Minnesota.
Thank you so much for yourfeedback.
Honestly, I really appreciateit.
Minnesota Thank you so much foryour feedback.
Honestly, I really appreciateit.
Minneapolis, minnesota.
So thank you so much again forlistening everybody.
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The messages come right to me,but I can't respond to you, so I
just want to say thank you somuch for your feedback again.
I hope you all enjoyed thisepisode and I will catch you on
the next one.
Take care.
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